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Discussionkillingblueme/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 11:23 PM
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killingblueme/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/16 04:52 AM
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I had an overactive adrenal gland that caused my blood pressure to shoot up to 200/110 and stay there, no matter what drugs they gave me. The other endocrinological effects sapped my energy. While working through this I kept telling every Dr I was lifting heavy. No one cared until I met with the surgeon who would remove my adrenal gland and he just about fell out of his chair and said STOP. Doing something like squats raises your blood pressure and mine was already dangerously high. I was a post…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/19 01:42 AM
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How long you have implemented red pill into your marriage? 4 months Where are you at on the 12 Levels of Dread? Level 3 - Been working on 1,2 and 3 in parallel. Just starting Level 4, which for me is graduating from STFU to actively engaging in a more masculine manner. Experimenting with managing negative influences. Wife is showing signs of noticing ripples in the pond. Some small push back in places, some very positive results in others. How long have you been married, and how is it going? 25+…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/16 04:16 PM
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I couldn't even imagine the kind of treatment it would take I can. He probably actually loved her, put her on a pedestal and when she tore the heart out of his chest any desire to "love" her eventually dried up. If she was a stranger maybe he'd fuck her, but he was probably the true male romantic, gave her the best he had and she trashed him. This is kind of predicated on any of this being true. I don't care how beautiful a girl is, if she trashes a guy's wife goggles for her badly enough, she w…
/r/askMRP23/06/16 10:57 PM
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I would recommend passionate marriage I think. He might respond better to that title if found laying around. I do love Schnarch, though. Blunt as all get out and merciless to both parties on the fact that BOTH people contribute to the marriage problems. OP, read passionate marriage and look for where YOUR problems are, not your husbands.
/r/askMRP23/06/16 08:53 PM
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I read Passionate Marriage 15 years ago, read Intimacy and Desire last year and would endorse both. While not strictly red pill, they are for the most part not blue pill BS and things like differentiation are key to RP thinking. Maybe that would work, introducing one of these books. It really sounds like this guy is pissed off and needs NMMNG more than anything else. He needs to complete his journey to the dark side and understand why he is pissed off. But as noted, it is unlikely that he would …
/r/askMRP23/06/16 08:34 PM
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Aaaand again I am lost in the sequence of events here....dating, pregnancy, marriage...when did all this happen? You say: He knew my financial situation while we were still dating like he should still have sympathy and love for you now after the repeated and hateful hurt that you admittedly handed out. I think you are disassociating the "tearing down" and destruction you wrought on this man during the pregnancy from your own person and then suddenly are "confused" as to why something becomes a p…
/r/askMRP23/06/16 08:21 PM
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I was an emotional disaster, and would often accuse him of being cold and withdrawn. He was, but I did not see then my my accusations just made things worse. Duh. And again, there is a gap here about why he was cold and withdrawn in the first place. Me thinks you have a major blindspot. Things started going bad when we found out I was pregnant. I don't think either of us were ready, and when he coped with it by lashing out and pulling away, I'll come back to this "lashing out" below. so I freake…
/r/askMRP23/06/16 08:10 PM
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This is a Harville Hendrix idea from "Getting the Love you Want". May show up in other places too, but that is where I remember it from in my non-RP readings. Men lead by making decisions, women lead by consensus. Mission statements are consensus building exercises. Here is the problem: If your marriage is in a bad place, if you have been the drunk captain and have not been leading, the joint mission statement is a weak ass attempt to get validation from the spouse without having to change or gr…
/r/askMRP23/06/16 06:19 PM
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This is a Harville Hendrix idea from "Getting the Love you Want". May show up in other places too, but that is where I remember it from in my non-RP readings. Men lead by making decisions, women lead by consensus. Mission statements are consensus building exercises. Here is the problem: If your marriage is in a bad place, if you have been the drunk captain and have not been leading, the joint mission statement is a weak ass attempt to get validation from the spouse without having to change or gr…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 03:50 PM
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I enjoy reading Tomassi, especially the hypergamy discussion. Still reading and re-reading trying to internalize things there, here at MRP and other places. It will take quite a few months to get physically where I want to be (While not "super huge" I definitely qualify as betafat/dadbod). Working on mental stuff at the same time of course. My wife is showing signs of seeing change, which seems to be disorienting her a tiny bit which is just fine. After 25 years, I am content with that for the m…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 03:25 PM
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I think the OP put the correct qualifier in: If you are unsure how best to respond to a shit test... I have no problem talking about things where I know my frame is solid. But I could see how someone could come off as insecure in the discussion that you described. It falls back to whether you feel solid in your frame, whether you KNOW how to respond versus THINK you know how to respond. Eventually you have to take a leap based on what you think but the OP is correct in pointing out that there ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/16 04:09 PM
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As a noob (married 25+ yrs, in NMMNG territory for whopping ~5 months, MRP and lifting strongly for ~3 months), I will tell anyone that THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT ADVICE YOU WILL EVER RECEIVE HERE. You may want to use AM and A&A, you may think you are witty and funny, etc, but if you have NEVER used that in your relationship, you probably don't have the frame to do it yet. Your best pattern is to just STFU and see what happens. Mini case in point: recently my wife tried to corner me and bitch ab…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/16 03:56 PM
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haha...too true, either way you care to hear it. FWIW, I never once heard one of the 12/13/14yr old boys giggle at that....he wasn't the type of guy who you misinterpreted. They all knew what he meant. EDIT: This is an excellent example of an alpha male as far as I am concerned. These boys were not afraid of him, they respected him and he was alpha enough to say something that most adolescent boys would giggle at and they didn't because he projected his frame to them so strongly. This wasn't fea…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/16 07:03 PM
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My sons were fortunate to have a scout leader who had the slogan "We are men, we do hard things". Every time a boy started to whine, he pulled out that slogan. He never put them down, just stated it as fact. He firmly believed that young men should do things sometimes just because they are hard and he pushed those boys physically and mentally. Maybe it was just a hard back country hike, but it instilled in them a knowledge that no matter how hard something seemed or how little experience they ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/16 04:48 PM
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My wife and I have fought her low libido battle for years now and she has been diagnosed as "low T". Has it really been "my wife and I" or has it just been "I"? What has SHE done to fight this? What has SHE done to make it better? Does SHE really care to make it better or does she just float along for that "good" week and then not care much about the others? The boilerplate response would be if you are not worth fucking, she won't do it. If YOU are worth the effort, then SHE would find a way of …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 04:06 PM
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I am personally grateful for a place to discuss Red Pill praxeology without the first (and second, and third) words of advice being "you should never have gotten married". And having your testicles handed to you by someone who has some experience is occasionally necessary to see what a prat you have been.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 03:56 PM
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From wikipedia: Religion is a cultural system of behaviors and practices, world views, sacred texts, holy places, ethics, and societal organisation that relate humanity to what an anthropologist has called "an order of existence". Christianity is a religion TRP is a religion (all the recent hoo hah about the "purity" of RP thought and keeping the TRP reddit a "holy place"...) Atheism is a religion Everybody pedals their world view, to assume that non-Christian, non-"church" things are any less o…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 03:48 PM
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This is the point right here^ The hardest part of MRP for us beta schlubs is switching your mindset from doing it for your wife and doing it for yourself. For myself, I was so Beta that a simple "next" wouldn't put me in any better a position than I am now because my frame, my manhood, is so weak. If you are in a bad place in your marriage (or just a bad marriage), it gives you a chance to work on yourself and get yourself to a place where you really are the prize and feel it and know it, and if…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 03:31 PM
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No, I actually think she meant "equality" as in "equal". When a wife pulls that one out, in many cases she is trying to restore her old equilibrium not try and find an equitable solution. Context from your writing says she meant the word as she used it. My point would be that the word "equal" is a politically correct word to use but it then drives us towards unhealthy and unsustainable relationships. We should be talking about equitable not equal, but the overuse of the word "equal" has tainted …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 10:01 PM
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When I read the bit about your wife wanting an "equal" relationship, it set me off. The problem with equality is that it doesn't work in a relationship unless everything is actually equal (same pay, same lifestyle, etc) AND you are both working from the same "table of values". Equality implies (demands) measurement to make sure things stay equal...but how do you do that? What if you value something more than someone else? Who makes the tie breaker decisions? "Equal" relationships usually devolve…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 09:20 PM
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The veterans here nailed it pretty good with where you are at. As a relative newbie myself, choking down the pill, I will just say that you may have put the pill in your mouth, but have yet to really swallow it. She was pretty heated and launched into a tirade. About WHAT? This is a somewhat glaring omission from you post. It is kind of unclear what the problem was. You ended up talking divorce...I am assuming that her anger is about your lack of being the man somewhere. You said you were not an…
/r/askMRP31/03/16 03:52 PM
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"10 Things for My Woman Not to Do When I'm Out of My Mind Horny." Someone should really write this....although if horny is the only qualifier then the list would be 10 variations of "Don't do (whatever you are doing), just (some sexual act)". If horny is the condition, guys are fairly simple to diagnose and service.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/16 06:44 AM
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I did read everything and consider it all. I appreciate the time everyone took to respond. I do think it is odd that many seemed to assume that I was thinking this was as good as it gets and would continue from a weak frame. Give me a little credit...I realize that this was testing the waters, it was the little boy trying on the big boy pants and parading around. I realized that more clearly AFTER. It was an experiment, that's all. If my wife had done nothing or gotten angry or whatever, it woul…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/16 04:02 AM
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Just don't do what I did...I spent way too fucking long missing the boat, missing my life. I don't blame her, it was me, but I missed it and it kills me sometimes. I played the "for better or for worse" card ON MYSELF for way too long. Don't do it unless you really honestly truly deeply decide to do it, not because you have to. In her current state she doesn't give a shit about your sacrifices and it just makes her life easy....nothing to confront. You have a chance to make your life better. The…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/16 06:00 PM
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If she has medical issues that seems beyond the reach of medical science, if her period DOES actually last for weeks but no Dr can give you any remotely reasonable explanation, if she has labs that come back borderline or highly varying, then her problems aren't physical, they are mental. I speak from experience. I am NOT saying she is faking it somehow or is lying about something. She has real physical problems and ailments rooted in physical systems, but the reason the Dr's can't find anything…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/16 04:52 PM
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Ah sensei, allow me to sum up what I learned: The thing I didn't see: I was still working to a covert contract, just one that was a little more complicated. I was "hoping" something might happen that would reveal something, anything. That hope was my contract although I would have been satisfied with a number of different outcomes. The more relevant thing I did: I made a "decision" to do something different and hold my own, as simplistic or forced as it was (the aforementioned mini-spine). See #…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/16 01:36 AM
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She figured out what was happening on her own, I found a counselor and proposed it to her. And by proposed I mean highly encouraged. She was reluctant at first, but went for a year. Seemed to like the counselor...not 100% sure if it was highly productive, but some improvement.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/16 08:16 PM
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You know, you are right...the months I wasted planning, scripting, doing stochastic outcome analysis and behavioural modeling, contorting the situation to get just the right outcome could have been spent so much more productively! <smirk> I get it....little boy play-acting with the same covert contracts in place. Swapping out one behaviour for another but still looking for a specific outcome was unproductive. Got it, moving on, nothing more to see here... Still, you'd be hard pressed to make me …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/16 08:12 PM
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I lacked any kind of support system for this. My circle ran completely in a Beta world, I had no Morpheus. I needed something, anything because all the advice I had received in 2015 was "more of the same" which just prolonged the state I was in. The whole praxeology of the Red Pill requires a serious shift in mindset. And I was a career Beta who didn't know any other way let alone a better way. I was surprised that only one person pointed out my year of victimhood that /u/theultimatecad finally …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/16 03:56 PM
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I appear to have edited out my lifting note....2 weeks into SL5x5 now, 3 weeks prior to that on a program I had done years ago that was not cutting it. So I lift but I have not been at it long enough for you or anyone else to respect my efforts as lasting or sufficient...don't expect you to. But yes, I am lifting. Talk to me in 6 months. And no, I don't feel like it is a "win". Hell, it doesn't prove or disprove anything, it was just an interesting to observe after all the reading I have done. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/16 05:07 AM
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I am very new here, but this facet of MRP struck a chord with me. One of the most interesting things that I have read in my travels on the Red Pill Path was a rational male post that men are the true romantics and, well, women just aren't. I have been blue pill pretty much through and through for my marriage of 25 yrs, and I admit I have a tendency towards being the romantic in just the way Rollo described. We all have "tendencies", things we react to that MAY reflect a deeper personal definitio…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/16 10:18 PM
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