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When I say fix your fucking it's more than just in the moment. It's having more pussy than you know what to do with. At that point I've seen some dudes stay/come back to fix other shit. But without it being addressed on the side bar people just throw random opinions like how lifting is good for cardio, intermittent fasting is anti aging, crypto is the best/worst investment or whatever other nonsense Huberman has been talking about this week. A low-key example was jcx coming back to fix his overs…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/23 06:43 PM
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I wasn't trying to address the requirements of the OYS thread. That was probably unclear. So to clarify. I was simply sharing the note that from what I've seen and experienced it produces suboptimal and sometimes downright weird outcomes when dudes veer too far outside the stated purpose of it - "sexual strategy".
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/23 08:12 AM
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'oh, you fucking lots? Cool, you're done'. I agree with this, or I wouldn't be here in the first place. More often than my ego would like I see some rando doing stupid shit, comment, and then think "wait a minute... just yesterday I...". So RP is great for fixing fucking, improving it further and - most crucial to me - keeping it fixed. Hence, there are better places to source advice and feedback refers to other life areas, if it wasn't clear. If u/Dunlop60 wants to move his bench from 300 to 35…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/23 03:18 AM
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Makes sense. What is a slow cut?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 07:01 PM
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To some extent. There's a lot of positive side-effects to fixing your fucking. Call it self-actualization if you must. Once you have, though, I would posit that the downsides of OYS outweigh the upsides. I guess you'll figure out what it is for you in any case.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 05:23 PM
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Pretty fatigued this weekend. Slept-in, did some LISS, ate 10% more macros (all slow carbs and quality protein) and now feel back to 90% on energy and soreness. What are you trying to achieve, nutritionwise?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 04:54 PM
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RP is about fucking. If that's fixed, there are better places to source advice and feedback. About lifting, parenting, whatever.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 04:52 PM
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Thought the application might resonate with some guys. Cut this shit out. When you (think you) are writing for the audience it is both a symptom and cause of a bloated ego. It will blind you and let shit linger in your life. Happened to many a "vet" on here. I'm allowing it for now because I want to just observe instead of enforce. "I learned how to act as a man that respects himself. And got good results. However, I want an excuse to walk, so I stopped. Here's hoping my wife loses attraction ag…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 03:35 AM
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Marvellous.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 03:01 AM
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How's the fucking going?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 05:06 PM
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Both cases were good reminders that this shit works, regardless of circumstance, right or wrong. Also regardless of outcome with one woman (your wife). Be careful to let her reactions be the measure of success/fail. Bitching continued (which I A&Aed) until arriving at the event, It sounds like you endured it for the entire ride to wherever you were going. That sounds horrible. I like to use a 3 step model for bitchy behavior. A&A. Verbal warning/nuke. Remove my presence/attention. How long I spe…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 04:51 PM
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You are a funny guy. Writes: I will also remove “she” from future field reports and OYS/OMS, because this is mine, not hers. Proceeds to write "wife" 12 (TWELVE!) times. As many of us told you, this one was DOA. Your bitch stbx even had the courtesy to help you see plus give you the upper hand in divorce proceedings. Don't fuck this golden opportunity up. Which you are if I lost my temper and couldn't hide the fact that I was full of rage. Wife denied everything said, I was a controlling and was…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 04:39 PM
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At least in that sense, you're free. Set up your divorce to favor yourself as much as possible and then go live the life you deserve. u/YDDMS and anyone else is always free. And should do as you describe. Granted, his wife letting him know she's fucking around will help him see it clearer. But it's the same recipe for any guy here.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 04:35 PM
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It will be hard to make the examples work in a relationship context. There's really no need to get fancy to stop a girl mouthing off. "Shut up" is just fine.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/23 10:06 PM
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1.5x12x2.5=45? The math on timeline maybe isn't perfect. The logic is. Just implement.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/23 02:53 AM
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I mean nuke the test not the relationship. "Instructions unclear. Nuked relationship over test about dirty dishes. Got divorce raped. What do?" Hahaha. Good thing you asked.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/23 02:51 AM
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her actions should really be viewed the same when made when divorce is imminent vs not but maybe that doesn’t matter. Who the fuck cares if it's because she read her horoscope, talked to a psychic, had a fucked up dream or whateverthefuck happens in that crazy head of hers? Does she provide enough value compared to alternative things/people you could be spending your time/energy on? That's the only question to ask. If she's is, she gets to stay another day. If she isn't she gets the boot. Just l…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/23 06:52 PM
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All girls are stick-oriented. Both literally (hehe) and figuratively. Like the rest of us you are hardwired as well as programmed blue. Hence, this is counter-intuitive both instinctually and intellectually. Might even be uncomfortable. The Red Pill never was particularly palatable. Your kids will be fine no matter what you do. Look up twin studies etc. if you need some food for your hamster on that one. In general overthinking sets you back. Action changes thinking, not the other way around. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/23 06:48 PM
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If you want and feel like it is earned, you want to fix the feelz not the problem. Indeed. u/deerstfu - remember it really is never about the nail.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/23 06:16 PM
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from being sad to being angry at me If it does, nuke. And then ignore next time, nuking again if she tried to engage you.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/23 06:14 PM
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Do this: Reset everything including chins so you hit 10 reps on the amrap set. Eat to gain. 2lbs a month or so. Follow program as written. No extras. No cheating. Exclude harness unless you're a fighter/want a big neck. You should be benching two, squatting three and pulling four plates for reps in about three months. What you do from there is up to you. I'd probably maintain strength on a more forgiving programme while cutting some 15lbs of fluff.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/23 06:10 PM
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There's something in the basics you're missing or you would be benching bw and squatting 315 by now. Is this what you've been doing?: Ok, The gist, since I am tired as hell, plenty on here can elaborate. Monday Bench/ or Press (A/B) 2x 5, 1 x 5+ Curl 2x 10-15 (bench days) Squat 2x 5, 1x 5+ Neck Harness Wednesday Bench/ or Press 2×5, 1x 5+ Weighted Chins 2 x 6-8 (press days, and only if you can do at least 6-8 BW chins) Deadlift 1x 5+ (with or without power cleans as warmups) Neck Harness Friday …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/23 02:43 PM
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Thanks for the feedback, helps to keep things clear. If in doubt, STFU. If less in doubt, AA/AM. If no doubt, consider a nuke. Squat up 55, DL up 40, Bench up only 7.5 and OHP up only 10. The only variation from Phrak's is that it adds in rows and chins. I do them after my other work so I don't think they're slowing me down, unless there's something else about lifting I don't understand, which is very possible. If you say your pressing movements don't progress much it would make sense to me to p…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/23 03:22 AM
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Looks don't matter for shit really. I mean. Look at Neill Strauss. Caleb Jones. Whatever other known faces with high notch counts. Frame>game>looks. Still fun to optimize though. And good looks do make things smoother and easier ime. 5'11 188 11% navy is pretty damn good. With the lifts I'd expect more like 13. I take it you do some BB stuff apart from the big three? I'm not one to advise on bench. It's my weakest lift (and your strongest) and I've rarely broken 300. My setup was derided as "the…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 03:43 PM
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Nice bench. I'll point blarg. In your direction for pointers on it. Do you squat high bar?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 03:25 PM
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What's your PL total, height, bw?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 04:07 AM
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The play-by-play below should be printed, framed and hung up somewhere. Fucking glorious and made me laugh out loud. Hahahaha. "Good. Yes. Cool. Alright. Wait. No! Stop! Arhhh fuck man. WHY?!??!" u/eyumnoodle I'd read this about 100 times over. When you can laugh at it you're starting to get somewhere in at least seeing how dumb you act. A few minutes later, I interjected my desire for the counters Cool. I fogged and used broken record that I just wanted to express my desire for it not to be clu…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 03:29 AM
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Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10/2022, switch to phraks gslp 2/2/2023: Squat 275 lbs, Deadlift 365 lbs, Bench 177.5 lbs, Barbell row 232.5 lbs, Overhead Press 110 lbs, chin ups 30 lbs. How is your bench/press so weak but your chin so strong? What has lifts and BW done since switching to GSLP? I would recommend actual GSLP over "Phraks" or any other variant by the way. Ditch the DB's. The BB used correctly will fix most "imbalances". ​ working on TRP sidebar Awesome. If it clicks, most of yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 03:24 AM
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Interesting. What's your BW? And which method do you use to measure BF? If not Navy Method, where does Navy Method put you? As for choosing between where to sit BW/BF as with everything it depends on what you want. From a sexual strategy perspective, as long as you are below 15 you are good. I would even speculate that below 18 is still fine, though I haven't tested it. Frame and Game matter more anyway. All this provided that you have at least a 900 preferably 1000+ total or equivalent strength…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 03:02 AM
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Those numbers are fine. You probably don't *need* more than those 160g of protein to be in the "optimal" range. Playing it safe with a 190 target that you then sometimes fall short of seems smart. I wouldn't stress about it tbh.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/23 07:32 PM
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Ah, spoiling my Socratic fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/23 07:29 PM
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You don't know. Cool. Then don't confuse other dudes. Rule 12 or whatever.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/23 07:23 PM
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my physique is unassuming until I take my shirt off or am wearing tighter clothes, then it's like a jump scare. For natty guys it is a tradeoff between looking good naked and looking good clothed. I just discussed this with u/FutileFighter. My own sweet spot seems to be 12-15% BF. I would think it's at least that for shorter guys, as you need more girth horisontally to make up for the vertical. That said, if you want most of the weight you gain to be muscle, I'd still take it slower. Check out 3…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/23 07:22 PM
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• I didn't hit my protein macros on three days. Drank less alcohol, but not enough to move the needle on BF. This week, I'm dry. Did you hit your kcal targets? How far off your protein target were you and what is it? Lots of the stuff you wrote about plates I can corroborate. I find it fun for a while, then take a break and keep 1-2 around and focus on other shit. Then spin up a few new ones. It doesn't have to be either/or, it can be more about whatever you feel like doing at any given point in…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/23 06:45 PM
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I did not take her on dates, I did not try to make romantic gestures towards her, I didn’t do any chores, None of this. NONE of this has anything to do with your wife fucking around. No kids means IR7 is easy to apply. Her cheating makes it even easier. But get your ducks in a row (read the sidebar, go through the prep process). As you do, OYS every week, read, lift, STFU. You ought to be prepped in three months, at which time you should have your bearings a bit more. Including understanding wha…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/23 06:37 PM
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1lb a week for 10 weeks. Why bulk so agressively? It seems counter to the current consensus on the appropriate way to manage cutting/bulking for natty dudes once they're decently strong. Usually it'd be 1lb a month, tops. I just tried my best to STFU. Wife *mouth words*. I STFU. I looked at her and just STFU. I let her *cry mouth words*. All I said was OK and STFU. That night *more mouth words and crying* I turn towards her and just hold her and STFU. The next day she cooks awesome dinner, is pl…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/23 06:33 PM
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There are RP rules about this stuff Pray tell, what are the RP rules about this stuff?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/23 06:20 PM
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Much better. Keep looking out for number one. And rule nine. Joy awaits if you do.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/23 03:11 PM
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Hah. I wasn't even trying to be snarky. Point was just that unless you all of a sudden get on gear and dedicate your life to praying at the Iron Temple, there's no risk of getting too big and strong.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/23 03:29 PM
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So many words about your wife. Not a single one that addresses the question. We will try again. How is breaking IR7 in your best interest? Why not start fresh?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/23 03:23 PM
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I thought I read something specific to this in mrp books/posts but couldn't find it again when I looked. That's because your thinking is blue.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/23 04:15 PM
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Come on, dude. Apply yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/23 04:14 PM
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Don't try to operate the machinery when you haven't read the manuals yet, pulling at random levers. That's called "going Rambo". Just read and STFU for a few months.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/23 05:38 AM
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You are probably a pretty disciplined guy. I would suggest to make a commitment to just STFU, read and OYS every week for three months before making any other changes to your life. In particular talking to your girl. Dump the Rollo youtube stuff and any other rage bait "Red Pill" stuff. Read his books/early blog posts and the other things I gave you. Hammer that, NMMNG, WISNIFG and TRP sidebar. Add in the game stuff (Pook, PFP etc.) for funsies. That's your diet for the next months. Once they cl…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/23 05:28 AM
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I would make this more concrete, but I don't know you nor your patterns. We will see if it worked next Tuesday.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/23 03:22 AM
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NMMNG MMSLP WISNIFG Do these three again, with exercises. No way you've digested them all in a week unless you've made it your full time job. Accompany your reading with Rians video-series on at least NMMNG and MMSLP, to weed out the blue they contain: https://www.youtube.com/@RianStone/playlists Then do PFP and Pook. Then the TRP sidebar. Pepper in all posts by HumanSockPuppet and Whisper, starting here: https://www.forums.red/p/TheRedPill/94436/yes_virginia_you_do_have_to_be_an_asshole I'd als…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/23 03:19 AM
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I'm able to show grief again. Being "open" regarding emotion What's the upside for you in this?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/23 06:27 PM
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From most of what I've seen, natty guys with a life have a hard time getting much above 23 FFMI while being below 15% BF. YMMV, but if this is you, too, it's becoming that time where you decide what BW you want to yo-yo around long term. If so, my note is just that I've gotten better results from being heavier. Face gains is a real upside, I agree. Yet even there I've found girls to respond better to "well fed" look. FWIW what I'm left thinking after seeing those shots is "DYEL?". But, their won…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/23 06:19 PM
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Getting to 165 lbs without losing much / any muscle would put me at 9-9.5% body fat and I think the difference would be significant, as demonstrated by the differences in these pics: 165 lbs is pretty damn light. I don't remember how tall you are, but I found that getting shredded (10%) meant I just looked skinny and "toned" when clothed, even though my FFMI is closing in on 25. 12-15 seems to be the sweet spot for me of getting big enough for it to be noticeable, yet lean enough to stay sexy. T…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/23 04:54 PM
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I just measured against 2-3-4 wheel lifts, but that one or the one FF posted is fine. A PL total of 900-1000lbs is enough to be top of the fuck pile if you aren't fat (say 12% according to strongur.io). Getting up to 1200 and carrying a bit more weight @ 12% is even better, but not needed to be in the top 10% in most rooms you walk into. Get much higher and the correlation to fuckability turns negative, but I don't see a risk of that for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/23 04:36 PM
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It isn't. Do you think it should be? I feel like I just didn't execute on a good enough plan. And your way of ensuring you will execute this week is?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/23 04:34 PM
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How much of the sidebar have you read?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/23 04:33 PM
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What does "open back up" mean to you? And why did you?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/23 04:31 PM
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"I'm not fucking you tonight". Have you read any Game at all?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/23 05:16 PM
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do better next week Don't put alcohol / fat in body unless I have room in the macros. How is this different than the plan you had last week? sq/dl are about 15% off ... squat is lagging a whopping 40% Did you mean "bp/dl"? Yes. % off Off from what? What reference are you using? Your e1RM's based on your recent test.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/23 05:11 PM
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If a girl doesn't want you to find out she's fucking around, you wont. The litmus test is in behaviour, and all the markers are there, as u/FutileFighter laid out. Realize and accept that she probably did/is and that you'll never know for sure. Make decisions from there. For now just stop snooping and STFU about any suspicions. Well STFU about anything really until you unfuck yourself a bit. Keep your eyes open in case she's dumb/wants to get caught. Most important is STFU, read+OYS every week f…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/23 05:05 PM
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One of the most useful parts of TWOTSM is chapter 13 - "Don't use your family as an excuse". I'd be careful with the rest of the book as it has some blue to filter out and is a bit hand-wavy. But that chapter is directly relevant to you right now That said, there are real downsides to living in a classical nuclear family. Nothing to do with your girl, a lot to do with kids. If you want a different lifestyle there are other versions of family than "nuclear live-in" and "platonic co-parents". I wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/23 04:46 PM
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Why?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/23 04:32 PM
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I decided to stop hiding emotion from my wife. I had a particularly rough day and talked a bit about brother's suicide and how it changed me. I was able to do it without expecting anything from her and didn't end the conversation feeling resentful like I used to. Seriously? On OYS 21?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/23 05:45 PM
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Why ignore Iron Rule 7?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/23 05:37 PM
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This weekend while cleaning my apartment I realized that I am so fucking happy. If you keep putting in the reps in the gym and OYS, you'll have this as a daily occurrence. Takes a lot of fucking work to get there though. Keep grinding.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/23 05:35 PM
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As you actually lift, it's just STFU, read, OYS every week for a year for you. It seems likely your wife has a sex life even if you don't. Deleting out is thus more probable than the usual 50-70% fail rate. Maybe even 90. If you don't, you might be fun to follow. Despite your height disadvantage you could Chad it out pretty quick.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/23 05:26 PM
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My wife's relationship towards money is totally different than mine. I can plan ahead months or years ahead and make a budget. My wife never stresses about it unless she totally drains her bank account and there's no money left to withdraw. Finances are being taken care of and most of the urgent things around the house are fixed. My wife is always pushing for spending money and I have to say NO a lot of times. Sometimes she asks to go to really overpriced and far away events, and I don't really …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/23 05:19 PM
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moving in with a partner How long after you moved out did this happen? Are you monogamous? How many girls have you fucked post-D including your new "partner"? With those number you need to be 15-20lbs lighter. So more than "a bit" to go. "Put the cookie down! Now!" to quote Arnie. I've also found it to work really well to let the girl pay for shit. I don't know if it's Benjamin Franklin effect, pool-boy alpha vibes or whatever, but it works. I wouldn't change this even when finances improve.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/23 05:09 PM
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• Drank more alcohol than my macros allow this week and see the results in my BF (visually and Navy). I also ate out too much and blew out my fat macro on most days. So. How do you do better for next week? Great stuff on the lifting. Think in terms of 2-3-4 plates for bench/squat/dead in the medium term. Nothing earth shattering but good enough for most purposes. That means sq/dl are about 15% off currently whereas your squat is lagging a whopping 40%. Should be some easy gains to be had there.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/23 05:01 PM
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This is spot on and helpful. After the initial shitstorm of reactions and emotions, my wife seems to have accepted that there’s only one path left. I think so, too. In my comments I’ll assume this being the case. If it’s just hysterical bonding, you’ll know. And at this point will have no problem cutting the cord. I wouldn’t say I see the whole matrix, but i feel like I see enough to avoid the big pitfalls and occasionally see around a corner. You are in a very dangerous place here. One where yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/23 07:18 AM
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Run the numbers. In essentially all cases you break even after a max of about 5 years out from divorce. And then it’s pure upside from there on out. Do a full divorce prep, everything calculated, drawn up, printed, put in a drawer. This will help your mindset considerably. Also, how did you reach those rather impressive lifts?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/23 05:06 PM
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I found it fun during my divorce to identify the five different manipulation techniques, ego, wounding, shaming, frame-shifting and anger. It is kind of like seeing through the matrix. That said, I would again advise you to watch her actions. If she’s giving you all you want, who cares if its from ”overt dread“, her chakras aligning or that healer her aunt Sally went to see? In all probability you are correct in assuming it is hysterical bonding. And thus likely to pass before divorce is final. …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/23 04:58 PM
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As for divorce just figure out absolute best case scenario for you, without thinking about anyone else. This is harder than you think. You might realise that there are options you could go for you hadn’t even previously considered. Find whatever things are very important for your ex poke at those, even if you don’t care, pretend that you do. Then you have somewhere to cede, to get some of the stuff you care more about. If mediated is cheaper it’s easy to get her to agree to it. Even a girl can u…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/23 04:46 PM
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There are many ways to structure OYS. One is to have “things I did well“ and “things I fucked up” columns. And then reflection on what you did to maintain/develop the former and mitigate the latter. I would suggest just make it a habit to get out of your head about it. You are a man who exercises from 5 to 6PM every day or whatever. Then you can hamster and agonize about what you then use the slot for, working towards improving it. But you actually breaking a sweat each day for at least 45 minut…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/23 06:26 AM
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Sounds really smart. For most natty guys once you get past a 1000lb total, progress is largely determined by how well you manage injury. In particular stress on the joints.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/23 06:10 AM
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You are very hard on yourself. I would suggest cultivating gratitude and celebrating things that go well alongside all the fuckups you identify. OYS is hard, no need to make it harder. What did you learn from the fuckups you identified (missing macros, training, deadlines)? What did you implement to make it less likely to happen in the future? A problem-free life isn’t just impossible, but meaningless. The human condition means you will spend your life solving problems. Happily, there’s a lot of…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/23 05:29 PM
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GSLP is much better than SL. Do that. And fix your press (and other lifts) by reading and watching the Starting Strength stuff in stead of randomskinnyyoutuber294. Start here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8dacy5hjaE8 FWIW I’ve been divorced for years and interactions with my ex are still where I have the most difficulty with assertiveness. I never could fix it completely even though she’s attracted to me, behaves well, all that stuff. I figure it must be some NG stuff. By the way. Fill out th…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/23 05:19 PM
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Yeah man, it was just curiosity. Why the trap bar for deads? How much do you lift conventional?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/23 05:06 PM
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Progress is progress. As long as it's measurable. If you're dead set against or unable to do the big three, you might want to look into additional measurements. Navy is alright for ball park but a blunt tool that won't pick up smaller changes very well.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/23 06:19 PM
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For the record I don't think that lower=better. It's more like the guys I see not hitting parallel end up ego lifting, cutting it higher and higher. So you don't have a way to gauge progress over time. Plus they get hurt often, but that might be correlation not causation. As for trusting actions right now this always goes. For a girl only showering you with affection for years and years or a wife that just flipped the switch. People respond to incentives. It's pretty simple.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/23 06:11 PM
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Sounds like my situation. I would advise to keep fucking her throughout and fogging whatever stuff she promises while you just keep going with the process. There might be stuff in there you can leverage to your advantage in the divorce terms, so be on the lookout for those as well. I've always wondered. Are you 100% sure your squat isn't a hair high? It's rare to see it on par with deads though not entirely uncommon especially in shorter guys.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/23 09:59 AM
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Then there's a lot of easy wins to be had in this area. Also means your bf estimate is off.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/23 05:22 AM
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That makes sense. I can relate to getting lazy with pushing boundaries during sex. In general you would do well to remember that the relationship is most harmonious when you keep your girl on her toes, guiding her to continuously improved performance. In all areas not just fucking.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/23 04:20 AM
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Those are a whole bunch of container words. How did it look in real life actions from you and your wife?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/23 06:14 PM
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I'd be curious to know what you concretely did and what you would have changed based on that post.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/23 01:56 PM
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While correct, I would be careful with this line of argumentation. Rule Zero means arranging your life to benefit you in all ways possible. Further, money is freedom. I didn't even realize how much this is the case before I discarded the shackles of paying for other people. Once divorced it was fairly easy for me to get to a financial position of fuck you. That mindset is life altering. Further, don't discount how loss aversion subtly changes your behaviour with your wife to your detriment, as p…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/23 05:22 AM
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Answer is found in the quoted below. Dude is practicing assertive tools. In the wrong place and in the wrong way, to be sure. But practicing. We all suck starting out. I am reading and re-reading WISNIFG. I'm using the assertive bill of rights in my own inner narrative. I'm using the assertive techniques on myself and others in almost every verbal interaction I'm having. The reason he's avoiding posting his lifting programming is some NG hiding the badness stuff. You might wonder why something a…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/23 03:40 AM
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I like to think of it like this: Nothing is permanent. Everything is always changing, including your life (areas). Inaction on your part will mean circumstances and/or other people define how. Thus it's up to you to keep things moving in a direction that's to your benefit. ICM phrases this something like life happens blue dudes whereas you happen to life if you're red.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/23 03:27 AM
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Yeah. Looks like you graduated. Not much of the basic work left to do. Now the trick is to wean yourself off oys and not get complacent or backslide. I like how you structured your overarching ambitions in your different life areas. It makes it easy to attach SMART goals. I found this worked to keep me progressing and on my edge. I don't push all areas all the time. But I always have at least a few where I'm deliberately going beyond my comfort zone.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/23 06:25 PM
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Progress is progress. Just an input: At your height I'd put you on GSLP with a goal of gaining 1kg per month (after the first 2-4kg of water and glycogen) for six months. You would end up in the high 80s with decent lifts. Then either push to good lifts or cut some fluff.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 10:43 AM
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It's hard to gauge from assistance lifts and higher rep ranges. And getting 16 reps incline benching with 75's is nothing to sneeze at. But when a guy posts up dinking around with a sub 200 deadlift and dbs in stead of the big three it usually means there's some fuckarounditis involved. Posting up what you actually do for a while might ensure you don't end up in that all too common trap. And thus let you improve your sexual strategy.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 05:25 AM
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This is the shit you should be owning for a while until you have decent lifts, in stead of all the navel gazing.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 03:12 AM
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I wasn’t recommending he reward his girl. My response assumes he will not react to his girl. The point is he should have is shit together and be living the life he wants getting the results from others he wants before they react in a way that causes him to feel he needs to change his behavior even after recognizing the potential for manipulation. Meaning, the guy says she comfort tests, he discerns it may be manipulation but he doesn’t think it is, and he wants to be able to provide comfort. If …
/r/askMRP28/03/23 05:10 PM
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"when dudes in defense of a position cover me in words that "can't be pinned down" Id ask whether or not if you might have a propensity to not allow yourself to be. And why. I guess I do avoid those things in general, as it hasn't really brought me anything but confusion and frustration in the past. I wanted to test it out here, which is why I actively pursued this conversation. It was exactly to explore what happens when I do go into the (to me) nebulous word-storm. This time, nothing much. It …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/23 04:57 PM
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"do you want to sleep with her" This can be a nice segway to getting your girl to think about threesomes. Not with the colleague (don't shit where you eat) but some other girl. For the first time(s) it makes things smoother if you let your girl pick the other girl. Also has the upside that you outsource recruitment. What have lifts and BW done the last three months? What program are you on?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/23 04:21 PM
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This is a good example of 1) how alpha is frame, game and looks in that order and 2) how easy it is (no offense) to become top 20 (or even 10) percent. Good for you. You might start getting diminishing returns on OYS now and learn more from doing without it/doing it privately while still improving. From a fuckability as well as happiness standpoint your suboptimal LBM and BF% is a place to focus for some quick wins. If your programming doesn't allow you to push the lifts right now, I'd drop 5-7k…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/23 04:13 PM
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Lifts?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/23 03:28 PM
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Only pass comfort tests if she's earned it. As a minimum is fucking you. If not it's fine to fail or nuke them. If she has, use physical affection to pass them. Preferably fucking, but if not non sexual like kiss on forehead or big hug. Use mouth words sparingly if at all. Just a brief fog, if that. Why aren't you doing a proper squat? What is your program like?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/23 01:28 PM
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In my time on here what I've seen is that when dudes in defense of a position cover me in words that can't be pinned down to real, concrete intersexual dynamics they're usually using smokes and mirrors to cover up a hamster. Kind of like the Rich Descriptions from PFP. I hope I'm wrong in this case. If enlightenment strikes later, I'll get back to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/23 05:56 AM
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if the cost of divorce is nominal I am not trying to be obtuse but I don't know what this means in this context, care to elaborate?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/23 05:50 AM
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So I think you're missing two points here. Your initial (I assume drive-by) comment was shit advice. Rewarding your girl bitching about you not paying enough attention to her is literally never a good idea. This is not the same as saying you should never consider the beta side if your girl is dying of anxiety/close to ejecting. You seem to agree with this upon reflection. For most all of us, it's useful to occasionally remind ourselves of the 101 stuff. When you were called on it, abrasive langu…
/r/askMRP27/03/23 05:46 AM
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I think I already answered what I think about 1 in my own 1-4 above. Not sure where the disconnect is. Just that I'd argue you can make a formal, institutionalized agreement with rules of the game way more in your favor than the arbitrary state sanctioned one coming from the agricultural revolution. Do like donedreadpirate and sign it in blood if you must. On 2, Blarg has said a few things I would tend to agree with. For me, the value has come in the opportunities for growth in leadership and fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/23 03:25 AM
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Hm. I never thought of it that way. I more think of it like testing out my own. This is pretty classical debate/discourse methodology I think. But I'm not exactly a philosophy major. It's one of two major ways guys learn here as far as I can tell. The second being teaching the concepts to newer guys. The masculine grows through challenge, to use your parlance.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/23 03:08 AM
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You're right. That was worth it. In retrospect I always find that, smart as some of the guys I'm debating may be, it's my own writing that teaches me the most. I have two questions: Why choose legal marriage as the way to do this formalizing of terms, knowing it is by definition skewed against your interests? I have a main currently and we have very clear division of responsibilities, sharing of burdens etc. Don't need to be married to do that. Which value scale are you then talking about, what …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/23 05:01 PM
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​ There are a non-minimal amount of cases where either its a clean break, women get called on their bs, or women end up paying. Not even close to even. But...let's call it 10%/90%.) This is actually a good and non-trivial point. I stand by the split of legal marriage in terms of benefits/costs on the whole (though we can call it 90/10). Yet divorce is rarely as scary as made out to be, if you do it right (many don't). I actually think the cost of divorce is usually overblown exactly in order for…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/23 04:50 PM
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had is shit together, lifted, gamed, outcome independent, etc. This, sadly, is the case for perhaps 5-10% of merpers and 0% of ask posters. This mistake might owe to you not being around much lately. Good for you, as I take it you're too busy actually fucking to be writing about fucking. Nice to see something from you, though. Your seminal "Good enough?"-post was one of the most influential ones for me as I shed the blue shackles.
/r/askMRP26/03/23 04:30 PM
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While you are funny and right to poke a bit at a dude Bert staring his wife to tears, he wasn't wrong about this being very basic bitch frame stuff. OP should stay the course. Do what he wants. Not pay attention to mouth words but actions. Evaluate if the girl provides enough value. His question reveals that he is - as he himself suspects - just the latest of 1.000.0000 dudes on here killing his NG. If this was a dude who could get laid just fine, yet no girl stuck around more than a few weeks t…
/r/askMRP26/03/23 10:48 AM
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EDIT: I'd written a bunch of words here then realized they were shit. Trying again. This exchange is the most fun I've had on here for a while. Thanks for playing. I buy the argument that willingly imposing negative externalities breeds creativity and growth. The Obstacle Is The Way. This has been proven over and over again. You then say that imposing the rather extreme negative externality in the intersexual realm that is legal marriage has lead you to create some tools that would otherwise hav…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/23 07:57 AM
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If that's a subtle self-ironic play on why you deleted out last time, I'm impressed. Nevertheless. When guys either make vague analogies (like squats and calves) or talk about "perspective" and other container words in stead of specifics, it's usually to cover up the lack of actual argumentation. Which is too bad. I think there'd be something to learn here.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/23 03:15 PM
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Which tools can you exclusively make while legally married?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/23 03:07 PM
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I get confused when things get too abstract. Here's me trying to make it concrete. We might just have to live each other's reality to really see it. While this may be true in an absolute sense, I think it can be valuable to get some notes from the other side. In this case, I'd be interested as to which tangible benefits you (or any man) derive from legal marriage outside a tax deduction, that would make the tradeoff worth incurring the considerable costs. AWALT but really AWHTCTBLT (have the cap…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/23 01:00 PM
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I agree that RP is a toolbox and that it's up to you what you build. And thus that I am skirting the edges of praxeology vs. philosophy and/or descriptive vs. prescriptive here. I'm just intrigued by the choice to legally marry/stay married, having understood intersexual dynamics. If you actually are living for you, it looks suboptimal in every way. It feels like I'm missing something - outside of tax breaks and other minor advantages.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/23 11:40 AM
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It is valuable to me to make the abstract principles concrete. Makes them easier to apply to my life. I find that debating them on here often achieves this aim. Socractic Method or some such. Whether you do is not for me to answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/23 11:33 AM
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Don't discount the value of hamster-battles. The opportunity to expose your hamster is a very large part of the value found on here. So, if you're so inclined, I'm curious. Do you see legal marriage as compatible with rule 0? If so, how?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/23 04:56 AM
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You and u/blarg_risen have made me think. Can you be red and knowingly break rule zero? I'm not sure. Neither have I ever found particular value in discussing things outside the more practical aspects of RP. So I'll leave the philosophical musings to you. Now that you shone a light on the imprecise wording above, I'll rephrase my comment to u/FutileFighter: The only cases where a legal marriage is a benefit to the man is heiress kinda scenarios.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/23 04:51 AM
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​ Do you think that ejecting out of a legal agreement would have no bearing on the LTR? No. Part of my point is that terminating the legal agreement has no downside and likely improves the relationship. At the very least for the man and most likely for both parties. The separation of this from the LTR aspect, kids etc. was my initial point to u/futilefighter to put his mind at ease with his upcoming "conversation". you don't place much value on LTRs Quite the opposite. I'm a big fan and believe …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/23 07:05 PM
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If I said I was religious, it'd probably most fall under Taoism, but more the philosophical side without rites and practices. Just making sure we're on the same page here. Id be curious to know the other guy who asked with those views. I got you confused then, thought you were Christian. Those are the usually the ones that end up hamstering way choices based in religion when trying to claim red. I think dude was called oobertas? Christian guy trying to convince himself that if he had enough "abu…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/23 05:54 PM
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This exact argument was put to me by another member of your faith a while back on these boards. Whether the religious background is coincidental is for you to ponder. My answer remains the same. All of the reasons dudes give in order not to get out of the draconian legal arrangement called "marriage" are hamster-poop. Life is going to give you plenty of problems to practice on in the intersexual arena without you deliberately hamstringing yourself. If you want further challenge, I see two places…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/23 04:27 AM
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I’m curious what situation doesn’t warrant a red pilled man getting divorced. Almost missed this. Usually heiress kinda scenarios.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/23 06:54 PM
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Wizard of Oz strikes again.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/23 06:50 PM
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Legal marriage is pure downside for the man. Thus, legal divorce is pure upside. I mentioned this in order to put u/FutileFighters mind at ease for that "conversation" he's about to have. "Nuking" (which I take to mean terminating the sexual/romantic relationship) doesn't factor in. Whether he choses to keep the girl around or not - and if yes in which form - is irrelevant to the discussion of legal divorce.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/23 06:36 AM
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I now know exactly what that looks like. This is just the beginning. If your standards aren't orders of magnitudes higher in six months time you should do some introspection.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/23 06:01 PM
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Your concerns about the effects of divorce are dumb. Every married man* who swallows the pill should legally divorce. If you are red, you understand this. As well as how being legally married actually makes it less likely your wife shapes up and stops messing with you and your access to your kids. Really take some time to just be with this knowledge. Any hesitation or nerves will disappear. *outside the odd very rare case, of which you are not.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/23 05:57 PM
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Right that makes much more sense. I think you're setting the bar low for what a girl has to provide in exchange for your presence and guidance. I would recommend thinking further about how she can support your mission beyond the cookie cutter tradcon fantasy stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/23 01:01 PM
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Gaining 2lbs of BW (not muscle) every month for a year is probably about right for you indeed. Long term it's then 25lbs of muscle to get to prime fuckability which for you is around 185 12%
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/23 06:36 PM
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have a wife Why on Gods green earth would this be a goal? What's the upside for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/23 06:07 PM
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if I can put on 10-15 lbs of muscle I have confidence it will really transform my appearance. Make this 25.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/23 06:04 PM
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As you've stated, your goals are vague. I found value in making them more concrete. You will want to BS yourself to wife up one of the first hotties you touch and not push boundaries too much. Having SMART goals help keep you focused. Time management will indeed be an issue, one that many of us face. There's plenty of sexual opportunity, but time to capitalize on it is limited due to other life priorities. Getting a low-time investment system in place is useful I've found. Essentially fucking on…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/23 06:39 PM
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Most those goals are very SMART. Yet the sex goal is nebulous. You have no women goals. Considering you probably came here to fix your fucking you might want to look at that.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/23 10:54 AM
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Bench usually responds well to volume. Narrow your grip a bit of shoulders start complaining. You should be able to get more chins than pull ups so I would add weight to those to keep them in the 6-10 range. As for the CNC stuff the whole point is triggering the girl. Emotions are fun. She'll enjoy them too if you don't bitch out.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/23 05:59 AM
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Decent lifts for a guy your size. Bench is behind though. You should be able to get up to 200-210 fairly easy. How many no bullshit dead hang chin ups can you do? As for comfort tests I'd try fucking it out of her with perhaps a bit of cuddles after. It works just the same as big hugs and kisses on the forehead and you avoid the risk of being manipulated into being her girlfriend. At some point try out some rough play and CNC. The girls with legit fucked up pasts love that shit more than average…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/23 10:18 AM
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OYS. This lurking/value leeching shit wont help you very much.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/23 06:13 PM
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How do you pass a comfort test? Just how short are you?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/23 06:07 PM
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What I Want: Exhiliration, Challenge, Discovery, Development -- Physically, Intellectually and Professionally. What are some concrete examples of these? What big, fat, exciting goals do you have In these areas?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/23 06:04 PM
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GSLP to the letter, 180g+ of protein per day and enough calories to slowly gain 20lbs. No missed workouts. Don't wife up a girl, keep your options open. Practice game, build frame. Get at least twelve notches. Try stuff out, FWB, non-exclusive girlfriend, BDSM and/or D/s, threesomes, sex swings, latex, whatever. If you stick to this plan for six to twelve months (most don't) your sex life will be transformed. So far beyond your current fantasies that you wouldn't believe me if I told you. So I'm…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/23 05:33 PM
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Kill the cardio, get at least 200g protein a day and enough calories to maintain your current bodyweight. Stick to the program and get the big three to 250/350/450 for reps. After that you can add the cardio back in, fiddle with calories and get ripped and jacked around 200-210. This shouldn't take more than six months. A year tops. Set some frame/game goals and then report back on how you did each week. Stfu would be a start. Setting standards, enforcing boundaries and passing shit tests would …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/23 07:38 PM
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Great responses to the comments you're getting. You're so switched on that I have zero concerns about you divorcing well. Expect the worst and I would actually bet on you getting a fairly smooth one. That said, a note: When I nuked, my ex said something I don't remember exactly stating or asking about how "this wouldn't mean we were done forever". And I said "no of course, you never know." I also fucked her on occasion even after serving papers as I had something of a similar situation of some c…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/23 06:11 PM
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You're right. Red Pill properly implemented makes you top of the food chain in fuckability. Once you are, you pick the girl(s) that add sufficient value. Your wife may or may not have stepped up to make the cut. That's it. I still think the original point for stands. Seps heuristic is decent to gauge whether the BP you of yesteryear picked someone useless. u/deerstfu wouldn't be the first guy to be in that situation. Upon reflection I can't decide if it changes anything. I guess it doesn't, as I…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/23 05:37 PM
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I would personally have applied that the caveat "best case", indeed. But I haven't seen the real world data that Sep has through his coaching, so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/23 05:05 AM
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This may save you some time: ​ The red pill is mainly going to change one thing in your wife: her desire for you. I have a heuristic I use to find out what people are capable of when they're properly motivated. I look at them at their best. Most people can be shitty friends or shitty workers when they don't care, but look at how they do when their heart is in it. If your wife is and always was a lazy, fat slob that never got along with anyone and couldn't hold a job, you have no chance of turnin…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/23 07:53 PM
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Why don't you just fuck her?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/23 05:58 PM
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You're well prepped mentally as logistically it seems. I can essentially just corroborate what you're saying and ask a few questions. My goal is definitely the amicable, speedy, negotiated route. We’ll need to function as co-parents for a long time, and I don’t harbor any animus towards her. With that said, i won’t accept a poor deal. I know where I’m prepared to make concessions and where I’m not. I also have a good sense for where her pressure points are, and I have a fairly strong idea of wha…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/23 06:40 PM
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Couldn’t get the heartiste link to work and couldn’t find it / similar via google - do you mind explaining? Seems he let the server subscription run out in 2022. God that sucks. Happily for you, I have some stuff saved, here's your answer: In my experience there is a simple and steadfast rule that governs serial dating for men who play the field. For every 12 women a man dates, 2 of those 12 will be hot by his standards, 8 will match him in attractiveness, and 2 will be below his standards. (12 …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/23 12:14 PM
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single moms will be for fun only. Maybe I’ll change my mind, I'd think long and hard about what you want before you start dating. And be open to your standards increasing way, way beyond what you initially thought. Several guys have said the same yet settled with a single mom pretty fast post-D. Many of them, and many others, even with one of the first girls they fucked. Quite a few literally the first girl. Personally I think it's because you're so used to your bitch ass ex that any girl that l…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/23 07:02 PM
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3 small kids The business case for spending some time before nuking is better for you than most. All men should divorce prep. You can check the sidebar and get to work now - it takes a while. But don't nuke before you've done the work or you'll just end up at square one, but with 3xchild support and a logistical nightmare to boot.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/23 06:13 PM
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Right. Coached guy. Getting control over your eating is huge for any goal. But diet won't overcome subpar programming. I would plug your lifted weights and reps into an RM-calculator somewhere and see if your estimated bench 1RM has moved in those 3 months. And if not, take it up with your coach. How will he make sure bench increases at least 10% in the next 3 months? Even the good ones need to be held accountable if you don't want to spin your wheels. Squat and dead progress is very, very medio…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/23 03:25 PM
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IR7 I was wondering why with no kids you were ignoring this then read Biggest concern is splitting pets. I'd play this just like any other divorce prep, though it's bound to be less complicated than kids. She must have a few pressure points you can use. You could, of course, also consider if this is really as important as you think it is.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/23 02:44 PM
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I can’t figure out if I need more rest, or more volume instead of the rest days. Which programme are you running? How has BW and the big three progressed for the last three months?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/23 12:18 PM
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Fucking is indeed so easy these days that just not stepping on your own dick is enough to get you so much pussy, you'll end up turning most down due to lack of time. You and u/FutileFighter are both circling around game type, and difficulty level, by age bracket. This has all been laid out by Roissy way back. This also explains why adding more provider/comfort worked, and the "suave" stuff didn't. Playing this game with post-wall hotties will indeed get you laid. However, she'll instantly try to…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/23 12:04 PM
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I 100% agree with literally every word. I think FF has set himself up to join the few divorced merpers not to wife up (one of) the first single mom(s) to touch his dick. I could be wrong of course, time will tell.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/23 09:28 AM
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Awesome. I had feared you'd be one of those dudes who talk in stead of doing. Happy to see I was wrong. That said, a few comments. beta traits that can attract a partner but they won't make them horny. Exactly. Noone fucks the plowhorse. They just spend his money and bitch at him. I think of a praxeology as a specific type of philosophy. Not quite. From a Red Pill perspective the crucial thing is that a praxeology is based on actions. A system not of beliefs but practice. So RP praxeology is abo…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/23 07:57 PM
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It does. I asked because it's usually Christians (including the one whose post he quotes) who get it ass-backwards like this. It's her relationship, not his. His job is to become top tier and demand reciprocal value. Her job is to provide enough value for him not to trade her in for younger and hotter. u/FutileFighter has done his bit. His STBX hasn't. So now he just stays the course, cancels the current, shitty deal and auditions some girls for the part(s) he wants in his life. He then picks th…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/23 07:28 PM
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Are you a Christian?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/23 06:15 AM
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Preferred option is to escalate to sex. This is great. Otherwise validate that I care about her and her feelings. This is at best ineffective. And downright counterproductive if it follow a failed attempt at escalation or - as in this weeks example - becomes a reward for shitty attitude.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/23 05:06 PM
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Upon reflection you might be thicker than you think. Do you know how to pass a comfort test?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/23 03:48 PM
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Yes. Then A&A reveals if it's a shit test or just shit attitude. If the latter she will still respond unfavourably, that's when you nuke. Or just nuke straight off the bat. Still works.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/23 02:22 PM
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You are misidentifying the test. That explains why you apply the wrong tool. Rule of thumb: "YOU something something" = Shit "I something something" = Comfort
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/23 01:47 PM
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Those last paragraphs was more or less my situation. You have no idea what's waiting on the other side. It's ridiculous.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/23 09:53 PM
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Agree and amplify once. Twice max. If she doesn't turn around, nuke. Just nuking straight off the bat works fine too ime, but depends how much of an asshole you want to be and how much anxiety you can be bothered to deal with.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/23 09:52 PM
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got any suggestions for next based on where i'm fucking up? I'm going to give you a bunch of homework. Doing it might help you see. I've read that post and agree. How many times have you read it? What did you take from it? I think this got overcomplicated due to semantics from me referring to the framework/definitions in mmslp, which is frequently off Have you watched Rians video series on it? on red pill philosophy Red Pill is not a philosophy but a praxeology. What is the difference? I agree t…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/23 04:43 AM
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Frame? Awalt?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/23 09:38 AM
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Holy overcomplication batman! You are on the right path in guiding poor u/deerstfu, who would benefit from reading more. This is 101 stuff. Alpha makes girls wet.Beta makes girls comfortable. To keep your bored SAHM wife from fucking the tennis coach, up the alpha. To keep your anxious wife from crying constantly, up the beta. This has all been explained years ago. I remain unconvinced that a married guy living with his wife and kids will ever have reason to up the beta, outside of dicking her d…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/23 07:05 AM
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What the fuck did this bitch do to earn your attention much less effort?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/23 05:35 AM
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chatty roommate JFC, what a flashback, I feel nauseous. PTSD is real. Thanks for the reminder, though. Never again.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/23 04:50 PM
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Most of the shit advice on here from "endorsed" contributors come from either overt or covert RPC's. Simply because you can't reconcile the teaching of the zombie carpenter with RP. The (admittedly both counterintuitive and unpalatable) fact that you have to be an asshole is the basis of RP. The secret sauce to it is "my soggy knee". It has been chronicled thousands of times on here. Neatly explained a decade ago and continuously replicated, recently by a newer dude noting that when I'm affectio…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/23 04:44 PM
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We agree on substance, it’s just the concepts that I find are off here. Nice Card originally meant, and has historically in implementation been What Would Jesus Do, disguised like a kitten (because everyone loves kittens). Or altercasting, if you prefer the psychological term, golden rule if you’re philosophical etc. It is blue thinking that demonstrably doesn’t work So it really, really matters that we talk about the same things when we talk about alpha, beta, nice card, frame, game, push, pull…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/23 07:35 PM
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Indeed you are describing basic adulting, which isn’t nice card RPC WWJD to program the wife-bot. You are 100% on point in all of your comments and thus, I would guess, in actions. I would push hard for compliance during the trip, and witdraw if there’s resistance.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/23 03:12 PM
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I think you’re redefining the Nice Card. Subjective (re)definitions is a real issue in this place. Usually done to cover up some blue shit. I can’t be sure as you seem to have deleted the link to the Nice Card post you had in your comment initially. Either that or I cant find it bc I’m a semi-boomer). In either case, mind sharing it again? “Being cordial not acting out of spite” is basic ”wife is dead” strategy in my book, though ”neutral” is enough, no need for “cordial” unless you want to.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/23 03:09 PM
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I must be more dense than usual. How does this relate to the nice card? I agree that pushing sexual boundaries is a very relevant point in his MAP now. And then if she doesn't play, just go do something else fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/23 05:25 PM
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There's literally no upside in ignoring IR7 unless there are kids or huge financial assets involved. So why do you?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/23 03:33 PM
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So we agree that FF is on the right course and nothing to really adjust? Being reactive and unable to control your stupid feelings is unattractive and should be avoided. This doesn't mean that this RPC turn-the-other-cheek-shit BS works. Whereas we know that aloof, cocky, asshole alpha behaviours demonstrably makes girls soak their panties whether they like it or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/23 10:31 AM
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I hope you don't feel like I'm stepping on your toes with these questions for him because yours is the ONLY example of OYS > divorce I've witnessed on here that was well organized/executed. And I know you know your sexual strategy. This is shitty reasoning. Arguments should be evaluated irrespective of the sender, in stead of appeal to authority, much less some weird status hierarchy among internet nerds that needed to read books to fuck their wives properly. Avoiding this dynamic is a large par…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/23 08:41 PM
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This is great. I look forward to learning more from you as your frame solidifies further. instead of general acceptance and progress, I'm getting increased resistance and escalation. I’ve read a few FR’s where the tests would increase in intensity up towards the breaking point. We can call it a relationship version of Last Minute Resistance. If the bitch is going to submit fully, she needs to be goddamn sure you are what you claim to be - and thus will test hard. I’ve broken in a few in my time …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/23 09:38 PM
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But don't forget to play your nice card. What in the report makes you say this? What in u/FutileFighters sexual strategy would be improved by it? High Standards. Why not? Why shouldn't they be? This is great. How would you define respect? Appreciation Respect, appreciation, “genuine desire” and all the container words usually bandied around here are just like obscenity. You know it when you see it. And, crucially, when you don’t. Either the girl is willing to crawl through broken glass or she is…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/23 08:14 PM
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the new approach (…) I enjoy life more Then where is the value for you in mentally masturbating about questioning it?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/23 07:38 PM
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Have you yet realised just how much higher your disposable income will be if divorced (at least 1-2 years down the line)? If not, run the numbers. It helps not falling victim to threat point. All the prep work sounds great. Have you set a deadline for when you make a stay/go decision? Have you decided the ideal outcome of divorce for you, very concretely, including how you divide money, access to kids, house, the fine china, that elliptical machine in the garage etc? Also, stop calling it a cut.…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/23 04:57 AM
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Working my way through Rollo's Alpha posts and I bought PFP, but haven't made it far. This is the one thing that matters and this is the level of effort you put in over three weeks? When your intersexual relationships suck, just know you're responsible for it. So get to fucking work, including having divorce papers ready for signature, contingency plans etc. within the next two weeks. In the meantime: Here's how to handle when a girl accuses you of cheating. Do the "my wife is dead" trick. You'r…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/23 12:52 AM
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6' 180lbs 15% BF is mediocre bordering on poor results for 3ish years of work, almost irrespective of where you started. What are your lifts? What were height/lifts/BW a year ago when you last did OYS? Where do you want to be in a year, and how do you plan to get there - apart from drinking a cup of water (lol) a day? It seems the the unattractive behaviour your girl exhibits on occasion is fairly easy to define and communicate - it even seems to be predictable as to when and how it happens. So …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/23 08:04 AM
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How tall are you? Why are you ignoring IR7? Your attempt at a Mission is the placeholder one many use: Spend 6-12 months becoming awesome, let that dude decide what to do. However, the floundering in what women you have in you life and how you use them is probably caused by you not having an actual Mission. It will be worth it to establish one. when I'm affectionate, she gets mean, and when I'm mean, she gets affectionate This basic RP truth is often ignored on here - probably because it isn't v…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/23 07:49 AM
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Do you have SMART goals for this domain, as you seem to do for the other bigger ones? If not, sitting down to make some might reveal how much you want to invest in developing this male circle - and then keep you on track during implementation.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/23 11:28 AM
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I see decent action points on two of the things you've identified you want to work on (bodycomp; business) yet not on building your male social circle. Why?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/23 10:30 AM
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What were you lifts and BW 1 year ago? How many girls do you have and how long have they been in the rotation? What is your Mission?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/22 01:24 PM
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Read unchained man if you haven't. The Mission section in that book works for most.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/22 11:55 AM
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I agree that you still can just do the "become awesome, then decide" plan, as there are some easy wins left for you. Working on Mission would, however, be a catalyst for amazing fuckability and general happiness. What "have you read here as a framework"?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/22 10:41 PM
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Being called "too assertive" is usually used to keep you plugged into the matrix in stead of living for you. You're going to absolutely slay pussy if you stay on track and get your shit together. Be ready for a pretty rough anger phase once you realise this. Add PFP to your reading list.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/22 01:23 PM
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Yeah most find lots of Nice shit in the work sphere and once they kill it, become even more succesful. But that wasn't what I meant. What does "narrow on my happiness and take on risk" mean in concrete terms in work, friendships, relationships, family, hobbies, sex? What are you going to do to ensure you are at least 30% stronger at same or lower bodyweight by summer, and keep on pushing the boundaries in the bedroom? Perhaps most important, what is your mission?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/22 02:49 AM
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First I liked the honest reflection in here, owning shit. Then I realized that it was all in your head with no subsequent action, and got skeptical. Then found the tidbit about you choking her, which proved to be a slut-button, and my faith was restored. There's depressingly little fucking in this place, though that's what it's supposedly about. So two thoughts. I'd choke her more - essentially all girls love it. Just don't become a one-trick pony. Mix in other dominant shit, if you aren't alrea…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/22 07:00 PM
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Go implement and then write your next oys about learning about and trying out alpha behaviours and Game techniques.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/22 07:35 PM
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Hey, what do you know. Some actual stuff to work with. I had suspected, but this confirms you are pretty clueless, as rpeed pointed out. Most guys on here are, I personally attribute it to the covert RPC's but who knows. Anyway, this is good for you. You can still become even more top tier man meat. Alpha vs Beta Alpha is attraction - makes girls wet, thus gets your dick wet. Beta is comfort - makes girls less anxious, thus keeps them around. Ideal balance - more beta than now, but given as a re…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/22 10:01 AM
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I have a few additions I think would help you, let's check. What is the difference between alpha and beta behaviors - how does each of them look? General definitions and then specific actions. Concrete examples, preferably from your interactions with your wife. What do they accomplish, respectively? Why do you need both, what is the current balance you are striking, what is the balance you want and why? How often have you escalated to a hard no with your wife over the last two weeks?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/22 04:57 AM
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How much of the sidebar have you read?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/22 06:09 PM
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It's actually worse. Which RP tool do you use for a desire issue?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/22 05:17 PM
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Why do you say that? You get out what you put in here. As everywhere else in life. Christian - not a believer. Then why are you going against fundamental RP tenets in order to follow the RPC lead fix your wife nonsense?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/22 04:34 AM
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Honesty, with yourself and others, is not your strong suit. I predict it continuing to hamstring your progress until you deal with it. Also - are you christian?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/22 08:05 PM
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I seem to have to learn lessons the hard way. There are no snowflakes, we all do the first year here. This situation has forced me to take account of myself and my progress since being a part of MRP, and I’ve just been ignoring the important shit I actually need to work on Lift, read, STFU, OYS every week is the remedy for everything. Seems you have most down, but are slacking on the reading. How many hours per week do you spend reading? I’ve seen Day Bang recommended a lot, I’ll definitely be t…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/22 04:43 AM
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There are a few stalwarts on here who turned around from the girl cheating. They all went hardcore RP. No "lead your wife" or any of that nonsense, just strict "stay is go plan", with some girls coming around on their own and 1-2 being commanded to. These are the exceptions, though. Most end up nuking sooner or later. With a kid involved, it is usually worth taking a bit of time before you do. Most of that 180 stuff is actually quite alright. Ignore the bitch, build your life. That's her timelin…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/22 06:08 PM
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​ Yes, I know my coach can train people out of injury via compound lifts (literally his specialty) and yes I believe he can train me to lift heavy, I wasn't being facetious when I asked how many he has coached back to 400+ squat and dead. There are so many barbell coaches out there these days that quality can vary widely. If the answer is >10 then I agree that you are in good hands and should just follow instructions. despite your view that I’ve made no progress in 6 months. This isn't really a …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/22 08:14 PM
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Weight - I’m not concerned about stalled progress yet for the reasons you say, plus rounding (w/w moving avg is down, just not to the next increment). I could definitely up the cardio though. As long as you keep yourself honest and aren’t 172-174 in a month referring to your maintenance phase as a ”cut” as you did the last couple of months. Mostly for the exercise in seeing your own bullshit. As an aside, I find cardio to be absolute shit for weight loss. Eating less is the (only) way. Shit test…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/22 08:12 AM
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Man. I recently had a couple of girls with that bodytype. Carried quite a bit of fat in ass and thighs but still semi-abs. Though I usually prefer skinny, it was nice, not gonna lie. If you like fit girls, yours has some 20lbs to lose but I figure you already know that.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/22 06:27 AM
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I would agree with your assessment. I failed to mention that being very proficient at the lifts might schew it a bit. And shorter dudes, as you know, have a relative mechanic advantage on squat and bench. As a very concrete contrast I'll share my own data from today: My girl and I are both relatively tall (6' and 5'8 respectively) and strongur is right on the money placing us at 13-14% and 18-19% respectively going by that chart I linked. Abs is a funny thing though. Genetics make them more visi…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/22 03:04 PM
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173 lbs (unch'd) What happened? What actions are taken to move the needle next week? Or is this you going back to purgatory after deciding to exit it not two weeks ago? Be mindful that at low BF weight loss is (much) less linear - but I'd be vigilant and proactive about managing it all the same. Zero fucks (again). Wife is still all wound up about discovering a potential plate and being harpy. I've withdrawn and focused on work as I've had a lot going on there. Still lots of shit / frame tests. …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/22 06:15 AM
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You, u/ragnar_Daneskjold, u/UsefulWalk4 and u/_RPeed are all wasting your time. OP is fat and weak, no real progress for six months, and when pressed on how he is addressing it, first evades then eventually goes quiet. I find strongur.io to be right on the money with BF%, you find it underreports it? For me and those I train with, it corresponds pretty accurately to e.g. this visual representation. Meaning, an average sized male trainee (at least in the US) of 6' weighing 200lb squatting 400 and…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/22 06:07 AM
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dedicated strength coach at a lifting studio I don't know what this means. How many lifters has he coached back from injury to squatting/deadlifting 400+ pain free?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/22 06:41 AM
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So no recent gains, baby or otherwise. Step one is to own it - step two is to fix it. Injury is an absolute killer of progress for older trainees. Finding a lifting coach, a real one who coaches actual power/weightlifters, should be your main priority. If you can't find any in your area, these days post pandemic many of them offer online technique coaching, which surprisingly seems to work well. A 400 squat (and equivalent bench/dead etc.) at 200lbs would do wonders for your fuckability. 300 at …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/22 06:46 PM
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What did you squat and deadlift six months ago?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/22 01:24 PM
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Makes sense, it sure aint in your quads or glutes.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/22 06:35 AM
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wife is trying to sabotage me by buying dessert Do like that guy that literally punched the donuts his wife brought home. Seemed to work for him. How much have you lost the last 4 weeks?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 07:11 PM
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Guys like you will tend to double down on the physical stuff. Sadly for you, there's diminishing returns on that shit. Get shredded, sure. Just don't count on it changing much. Focus on NMMNG, WISNIFG and killing the unattractive Nice behaviors you surely have. Using the anger that you have to be more of a selfish asshole won't hurt in this respect - as long as it spurs action, not talking.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/22 05:28 PM
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I can't remember who it was that wrote "an emotional affair starts when Chad is about three thrusts in". But that's the reality. Don't believe it? Try doing a search of "affair" "cheating" "trickle truth" and the like here on askmrp and on the affairs subreddits. In particular the ones with updates. Now that you know your wife had some strange dick, decide what to do. Most here would recommend what everyone should do: lift, stfu, sidebar, divorce prep and then nuke (or not) when you can easily r…
/r/askMRP29/11/22 05:20 PM
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Weren't you one of the guys who went into LTR straight out of divorce? How's that working out?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/22 04:40 PM
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All this being the case there's no downside to going pedal to the metal in bossing her around as well as rewarding her when she follows through. Maui rightly mentions showering her with praise, but passing the nuclear level comfort tests you'll be getting are also a reward to be given IF she's improving. If not, hold boundaries. Think of all of it as helping her to avoid the fate of being a post-wall single mom. I'd be concrete with her. Diet/gym and sex are usually the main areas, but getting h…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/22 06:20 PM
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Thx. I’ll look into control game. You can consider making what you DID with this + diet update the only thing you focus on in OYS for a while. Your lifts, professional and I suppose(?) social and dress are fine. So they're just noise, covering your weak points (like "zero fucks" hidden away among lots of other words). In stead, making those points stand out better, and you'll also address them better. The answers to your last set of questions: 6 months ago: ~30% (prob 10-20% a year ago)Now: ~45%…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/22 08:20 AM
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Sex / progress - I’ve been trying not to focus on measuring this because it was a 1000 ft rope type thing, which id been told to get out of my head. I certainly understand that advice for guys early in their journey, but ignoring it and the pace of progress seems like burying one’s head in the sand — at some point it’s fair to ask if it’s still all your fault. Two things here. One is that at some point when you've unfucked yourself enough you have to realize the input here is just from randos wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/22 06:34 AM
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My point here is essentially that you are blind to your own hamstering. We all are, that's what works with OYS. ​ I’m trying to accelerate it over the next six weeks (to 1lb/wk). What is this "trying to" stuff? You aren't cutting right now and haven't been for 2-3 months from what you said, despite writing "cut" in your OYS. You dont necessarily need to cut as per the shrinking waist and general excellent results weight/lifts. But decide what you want and be honest with yourself. ​ I’m not sure …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/22 04:54 AM
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Jesus Fuck that's a tonne of work. A workout like that would easily take me 90 minutes.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/22 04:36 AM
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Spinning your wheels is 6lbs lost in 6 months. In contrast to bulking, where 6 in 6 would be considered good or even ideal by some, literally noone would recommend it for a cut. For no conceivable goal is this optimal. Yet you don't address it even when prompted. Spinning your wheels is doing the work to become fuckable enough to have women DTF on speed dial, yet even though the door is now open, choosing to stay in a celibacy-cage of your own making. For no conceivable goal is this acceptable. …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/22 04:55 AM
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From where I'm sitting, you have all the tools, but either don't know what you want to build or you are too Nice to do so. Up to you if and for how long you want to keep on spinning your wheels - but at least own it. The radical bodycomp change up until six months ago is impressive, though. What programming did you use?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/22 09:35 PM
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Do you know what you want from your relationship(s)? And where is your wife's performance currently on a one to ten scale. Where was it six months ago? How much weight have you lost the last three months?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/22 07:53 PM
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