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| 12 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.” | Advice | killingtiimee | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 06:20 PM |
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| 15 | Put them above everything elseAlways wonder about guys who say things like this. A “woman’s value” is based on the things you listed, ie youth, beauty, and ability to have children. So you mean to tell me, once she’s old, no longer beautiful and post menopausal, you will no longer see her as worthy. What’s the difference in leaving her after she has post menopausal, as opposed to not dating her because she chose to have a career and education? You don’t “value” her anyways. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/19 04:30 PM |
| 1 | 'Dating is easiest within a social circle' - well that's challenging when most women don't hang out with hetero men...As someone who’s in college (uni), I wonder if this is speaks more so to the nature of “feminine relationships”. Most of my inner circle happens to be heterosexual men. But the way I interact with my guy friends is different then how I interact with my girl friends. With my girls, we tend to go out in groups and seek more social settings (examples being concerts, clubs, shopping, etc). With my guy friends, we usually just go off on things together, just as a pair (examples being drives, staying … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/19 07:00 AM |
| 2 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”It sounds like you have a very negative view of relationships, I’m really sorry about that. Cest la vie brother. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/19 01:40 AM |
| 4 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”You’re like the only other one who sees no sex as a positive as well. Waiting it out might be the best course of action.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/19 06:36 AM |
| 2 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”You are right. And I have no interests in coercing someone to stay with me, if they want to, they will. Everyone keeps throwing that suggestion.... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/19 04:46 AM |
| 1 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”Is the only evidence you have for this anecdotal ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/19 12:00 AM |
| 1 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”For every success story similar to your own (of sleeping with someone on the first date and lasting years after), there’s 100 stories more of girls who got pumped and dumped after giving it out the first night. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 11:45 PM |
| 2 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”Maybe that’s a suggestion worth considering, thank you. Sex is great! I just don’t like hooking up. I suppose that’s where my confusion came in on the earlier comments, I don’t see dinner dates as holding that much weight. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 10:57 PM |
| 1 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”Sure. But I’m looking for a ltr if he wants just sex, why would I give him that just to dip out? I swear, I’ve gone Dutch more times then you’d think. It’s nice when they insist, but I never order something I couldnt pay for, and I always offer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 10:31 PM |
| 2 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”I can see that. I suppose. But I don’t believe sleeping with the guy will magically make him value me more. That’s an assumption. Truthfully, I don’t like having someone pay for the first date, because of the reason they expect something. However, I’ve been in situations where they insist on paying, and I let them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 10:25 PM |
| 2 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”Sure, why is there a different expectation for dinner dates? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 10:20 PM |
| 1 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”He says he doesn’t do dinner dates for this reason. I didn’t know there was a certain expectations with dinner dates, as opposed to other dates. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 10:18 PM |
| 1 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”I’m not ? Sorry if you mistook it that way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 10:17 PM |
| 0 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”Interesting....... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 10:16 PM |
| 2 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”Yes. I’m putting myself in the category of early 20s. If I said teen, i was worried people would mistake me as a high schooler, 20s advice is what I was seeking. I am 19. I lived with a guy when I was 16, we were the same age, it was a very different situation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 10:15 PM |
| 2 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”Apparently so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 09:21 PM |
| 5 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”There is no way I’m sleeping with a dude after a third date. I know nothing about a person on the third time meeting them. These aren’t limits I’m willing to re-evaluate on, that just pushes me way to uncomfortably. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 09:07 PM |
| 12 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”I can’t help but think we really do live in the time of “hook up culture”. Good luck my guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 09:01 PM |
| 5 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”No. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 08:35 PM |
| 2 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”Your comments on my post have been really interesting. And “men who pay your bills and those who don’t” is a good chuckle. I’ll check her out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 08:31 PM |
| 7 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”I don’t see sex as a full on commitment, I just don’t see sex as casual. But, if you’re sleeping with me, I have an expectation that I’m not part of a harem and that you’d like to move into some type of serious relationship. Signaling lack of desire? Not to be rude, but there’s other ways to show you desire someone without outright sleeping with them. Isnt this a rather bold assumption? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 08:13 PM |
| 1 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”Good to know. And maybe you’re right, thanks for the perspective!! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 08:01 PM |
| 1 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”Hahahahahahahaha. I’ll read things with a grain of salt then . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 07:57 PM |
| 2 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”I’m aware of that. I know not to chase, if he wants me he’ll be on it. The “I’m a busy person” like, is just more my steeze. I don’t like the idea of dating, then seeing them every weekend. Maybe I just like to take things slower then the average gal? Idk. But congrats on the engagement!!! At 25? Gosh, that’s the dream. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 07:57 PM |
| 1 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”My former relationship was ... Not something I want to compare my future ones to. We were living together at like 16. I was cooking for him, having a job, going to family events together, also while supporting his drug addiction. It was an odd time in my life, but I learned a lot about what I wanted while with him. I offered him stability (emotional support), I was financially able to keep us just above water, and sex. If I could condense it to three main things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 07:52 PM |
| 1 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”This is the second time I’ve gotten a similar comment... maybe I’ll go check you guys out | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 07:49 PM |
| 3 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”When you phrase it like that you’re kinda right | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 07:47 PM |
| 2 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”I don’t take it as mean, you’re trying to give more accurate advice, so thank u for that! I have dated guys who I just didn’t feel the chemistry with and didn’t go on more dates. It’s usually the guys who I kinda think we have a good thing going, I can practically recite the conversation from memory. Things are going really well, they ask about sex, I say, “if we’re going to sleep together, I want some sort of monogamy.” And often very respectfully they say, “that’s great you want a relationship… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 07:16 PM |
| 3 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”Ha, that might be the most comforting thing I hear all day. Dating is difficult, thanks for validating that. I hope ur right lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 07:06 PM |
| 10 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”Not religious. Most of my social circles are male dominated, it’s just the nature of them. I see how men talk about women before and after they have slept with them, it’s very much a “conquest” type of mentality. These, in my circle, aren’t exclusively “young” men. I’m not under the impression sleeping with a man will automatically make him want a relationship with me, so why sleep with someone to just have them leave ? I’m not willing to sleep with someone just cause I can. I can get casual sex… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 07:05 PM |
| 4 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”I hope you know I’ve read both your comments several times now. It’s given me a lot to think about......... Hm. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 06:52 PM |
| 3 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”~3-4 was a rough estimate. The longest fling I’ve had is two months, we even were sleeping together and he hit me with the same line. Yes. We do talk and text in between. But, I lead a busy life, I dont expect to see them every weekend. But maybe you’re right. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 06:47 PM |
| 3 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”I guess even though I read here I want my experience to be different. I want to build something together . And maybe that’s corny, but, I don’t want to just “casually date”, switching out dudes by the year. I don’t need, and am not asking for the most exciting partner, I just want someone consistent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 06:45 PM |
| 2 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”I’ve dated guys in early 30s, but the age gap ends up being uncomfortable. So I date my age, early 20s. I don’t online date, these guys usually approach me. I am up front, I usually tell them straight up I’m not looking for sex only relationships. It’s a personal thing. I’ve had casual sex, I just don’t like it. I can get casual sex wherever I want, I believe if I’m sleeping with you, you have to give me something I can’t immediately attain elsewhere. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 06:38 PM |
| 5 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”I don’t take the questions as rude, I see you’re trying to evaluate the situation. Which I appreciate! Considering I’m 19, I thought I could hold my standards high, but maybe I’m wrong for that? Along this same vein, I do what I can to keep my smv high, I work out constantly, and try to lead a lifestyle I want my partner to have (job, school, have hobbies, have friends, etc.) I know I have time running against me and not with me, I do what I can to keep my value on the high end. I get dates fair… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 06:33 PM |
| 3 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”Serious post. Wish I was trolling. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 06:24 PM |
| 10 | “Well, in the future I’d like something serious, just not right now.”I mean yeah. But I’m not willing to do so until they show some sort of monogamy. Am I crazy for that?? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/19 06:24 PM |
| 13 | Q4Women: Would you have a harem too?Sorry, but how is this a comparable question ? Children I brought into the earth, raised, and are my own blood is a completely different dynamic then someone I am in a loving adult sexual relationship where we both have a role in making the relationship stable and happy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/18 09:41 AM |
| 10 | Q4Women: Would you have a harem too?Definitely not. Let me add on. I don’t believe it’s realistic to only love one person forever. As mentioned above, our wants in a partner do change from 20 to 30, I strongly agree with that. But I do not believe it’s possible to share yourself while wanting another deep romantic relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/18 08:58 AM |
| 23 | Q4Women: Would you have a harem too?As a woman, I say no. Personally, the idea of multiple partners to lust over just isn’t appealing. I would choose one solid loving relationship to be in ANYDAY, even if we were in a culture where it wouldn’t be taboo to have a harem with the perks of the life I want for myself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/18 08:56 AM |
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