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for me it is a woman's job! I pay her. She's my therapist. Technically I do all the work but she holds space and pushes when I need it!
/r/ExRedPill15/02/26 12:28 AM
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Three difficults
/r/ExRedPill05/02/26 01:42 PM
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Yep, and that's one of the ways patriarchy damages men.
/r/ExRedPill21/04/25 05:01 PM
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Two easy examples are the classic idea of "women and children first", and the sentiment (that has been changing for decades, admittedly) that only men should be soldiers. Men are disposable in patriarchy - as long as they're not part of the ruling elite, of course.
/r/ExRedPill21/04/25 04:59 PM
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Yeah, absolutely. The system is deeply broken. A lot of therapists will work on a sliding scale, though.
/r/ExRedPill21/04/25 12:16 PM
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Absolutely. Help is out there. Therapy is incredibly helpful against the patriarchal idea that women have intrinsic value, but men only have extrinsic value. I know I deeply internalized that, and I'm still integrating the idea that I have value simply for being here.
/r/ExRedPill21/04/25 12:03 PM
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Or just stop determining your value based on how many manboxes you check?
/r/ExRedPill20/04/25 09:16 PM
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It's not a bad thing, per se. It's just fleeting, and chasing it can be detrimental.
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 04:27 PM
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All you have to do is frame the question to yourself. Would YOU prefer to be with someone who you're attracted to, or someone society says you should be attracted to? It's not that hard of a concept. Women are not a monolith.
/r/ExRedPill25/04/22 02:26 AM
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Because men think that bottling their emotions up (and consequently exploding in anger further down the line) makes them more "rational"
/r/ExRedPill21/09/21 04:15 PM
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Redpillers don't have a monopoly on self-confidence.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/21 07:09 PM
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"the way it's supposed to be" is just made-up reasoning by someone in the past.
/r/ExRedPill15/08/21 01:09 PM
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Women are not a monolith. Some don't have integrity. Some do. Find ways to tell the difference. The show is somebody's make-believe, whether it's their fantasy or their fear. Creating the story does not make it reality. If people choose to take it as reality, well, that makes it easier to identify and avoid them.
/r/ExRedPill06/07/21 01:33 PM
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It's a sign that your ego is out of control.
/r/seduction05/07/20 10:12 PM
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People view the past through a nostalgic lens. And/or people use old movies as a proxy for "the past" which leads to a warped view.
/r/askTRP22/11/18 06:08 PM
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I think it is related to what you determine your base level identification is. And I think a lot of people forget that there is a base level of identification above "men" and "women" that encompasses both.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/18 06:05 PM
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There's a big difference between toxic behavior and being toxic. Think about how you relate to yourself. If you frequently think to yourself that you are a toxic person, it leads to static beliefs about the things you're capable of, like you can't change what you are. If you think your behavior is toxic, then you will be much more likely to take action to change it. There is a concrete difference between the two.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/18 06:01 PM
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I think it's a misstep that we equate toxic masculinity to "men behaving badly". Masculinity and femininity exist in both sexes in different proportions on a person to person basis, and yeah, I think there are women out there dealing with toxic masculinity in their selves as well. It's not exclusive to one sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/18 05:04 PM
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This is a false dichotomy. Both of these types of women can be completely immature.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 06:30 AM
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Literally every social program supports other people's kids. Unless you only support programs that cater to your family exclusively.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/18 05:04 PM
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Whatever helps you sleep at night. You should try meditating sometime.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 11:47 PM
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Which is themselves. That's apparently a bitter pill to swallow (which is part of choosing the name "red pill"). So basically the sub has become a bunch of men choking on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 02:21 PM
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If that's the case then they are projecting their anger onto women. Who they should be angry at is themselves and use that anger to drive self improvement.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 02:00 PM
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The funny thing about judgment is that I have to give a shit for it to work :D
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 01:14 AM
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There's a large amount of polyamorous people that would throw both of your postulates to hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/17 12:02 AM
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It's funny, it doesn't bother me at all. Now, the ex wife, on the other hand...
/r/seduction31/07/17 11:47 PM
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The word is "contradicts".
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/17 06:37 PM
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I have seen lots of tank tops with armholes down to the waist on dudes, but you're right, they're loose, and I suspect it's more for them to ogle themselves than anything else!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/17 12:58 AM
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stache to mache ftfy
/r/PussyPassDenied26/12/16 02:07 AM
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why not both?
/r/askMRP27/10/16 04:09 AM
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Definitely. But be aware of the words you use., even in your head. Even using the word 'should' implies negativity about your current mindset.
/r/TheRedPill04/10/16 08:39 PM
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good: lifting is going well. I've had other dudes tell me I'm looking more ripped, and I definitely feel better than I ever have. nagging shoulder issues are bugging me, but other than that, it's great. coding program is moving along swimmingly. took a leadership role on my last two week project and got glowing - and public - reviews from my teammates, so my confidence with that is growing steadily. not so good: facetimed with my wife today. she wanted to keep the convo light, but I pushed and f…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/16 02:00 AM
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hahaha wow. the way she talks about him volunteering at a hospital like it's pitiable act. this is why we can't have nice things
/r/TheRedPill10/08/16 05:57 PM
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This, I've realized, is where cuckoldry (as a fetish) came from, at least for me - getting approval from other men on your choice of woman. Lots of good advice here. Thanks for posting this.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 03:41 PM
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Nah. I realized at base what was driving it was seeking approval for my choice of woman and enjoying seeing her like a porn star. It's a fucking fantasy not based in reality so it had to fucking go.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 03:38 PM
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Haha thanks man. Sometimes all I can do is laugh at how fucking absurd my marriage has been. It's never been clearer that my time is fucking limited and valuable. I'm doing what I can right now. The rest is Three Months From Now KillWhiteyy's problem. And that motherfucker has his work cut out for him.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 03:31 PM
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Do this. There are military calculators out there that can give you a rudimentary idea of your body fat percentage with just your neck and waist measurements along with weight.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 03:08 PM
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It's a long story, man. The short version is, we used to be in the kink scene. I actually used to have that fetish. Used to watch her and shit. I've since come to my senses about that. I'm basically considering this time a trial separation. There's not a lot I can do with her a thousand miles away.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 03:05 PM
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You're not wrong though. I still feel like an orbiter, but It's lessening for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 07:53 AM
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Nothing, as far as I know. I'm not making ultimatums I can't back up since I can't be bothered with actually going through divorce until I'm done with this program, and, y'know, being 1000 miles away. But yeah, she as far as I know is making zero changes about that, while at last mention, he's not even a candidate for my replacement. She's just wasting time. I don't want to have to cut my losses but if nothing changes by the time I'm done with my education, I've got a decision to make.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 07:46 AM
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It is a good place to start, if nothing else. It's not in person, but what is there to lose?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 03:26 AM
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Ha well, I'd just gotten through the section about free information. I'm certainly not going to use fogging, negative assertion, or negative inquiry in casual conversation.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 09:21 PM
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shit I'm owning: physical - workouts still going great, bulking going great, feel like a fucking monster after my workouts now. this is my first bulk. I fucking love it. career - on a week long break between classes at my webdev program, but I still have lots to do. I've been slacking on getting my resume updated and sent to the networking folks and getting my shit situated for the next round of classes, but that will get done over a few days this week. I've been slacking off for a couple days, …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 06:52 PM
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yep! progress is slow, but I'm getting there.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/16 05:14 PM
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thanks. I've been so validation seeking in the past that I want to go hard in the other direction and just assume me trying to tell her about my accomplishments unsolicited is indeed validation seeking. if she cares she'll ask. the webstore I created isn't anything amazing or something she'd be impressed by anyway. I can tell it's welling up in me because I feel the urge to break the silence to tell her about how great I'm doing in my classes. gotta squash that shit. I know I'm awesome, and that…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/16 04:50 PM
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still been focusing on myself and getting this coding bootcamp finished. just hit the halfway point, and kicking ass. earlier this week I tried to show her my final project for this module, a webstore built in Rails, and she couldn't even really talk. (I realize this was probably validation seeking behavior.) she seemed stressed, and told me she probably wouldn't talk to me for a few days. she is trying to come to grips with her father's mortality, so it's an incredibly stressful time for her. s…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/16 03:25 PM
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This post is a great reminder that OI isn't just about the bad shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/16 03:49 AM
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haha thanks, and I am. I'm going cheap until I get out of this school and start earning more, but yeah, I did free weights before and I will do them again when I have cash flow. until then, (box) pistol squats are pretty fucking hard, and the rings are kicking my ass too. I don't even know what trying to lead from a thousand miles away looks like. I don't have time for it, really.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 11:56 PM
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No that's about how I see it as well. It's a subtle way to say "I've taken you for granted and I'd rather miss you than have you around, given the choice."
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 02:35 PM
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Physical - hit 10% body fat, so I'm gearing up to start bulking. Doing a body weight progression plus rings and 7 miles of cycling a day. Still have a bit of belly but I'm not willing to go under 150. That's enough cancer patient for me. Personal - kicking ass at my coding school. Haven't talked to the wife much this week. She has told me she likes me giving her space as she has a chance to miss me. I resent it, but I'm sticking to it. Nothing is going to distract me from succeeding at this scho…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 05:42 AM
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I'm halfway across the country focusing on my education. It may or may not be a lost cause (probably is) but either way I can handle that later. Either way I can't argue. It's a long shot and a long road back if there even is one.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/16 12:35 AM
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Oh yeah man, I've been lifting on and off for a long time. I've been mildly overweight for a long time too - wife is a great cook - so I've been dropping that extra while I'm away. Don't have easy access to a gym out here so I've been cycling and doing body weight fitness, but I'm looking forward to lifting heavy again. So fitness isn't my problem. Frame is. Dominance is.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/16 01:02 PM
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A couple months ago I moved to a new city to pursue a brief but hardcore coding program. My wife didn't follow me. It's been rough. I've not really posted much on here but I've been reading for a long time. I don't have any excuse for not being any better than I am so far. Long story short, my wife has a boyfriend. I've wanted her to end it. I've thrown tantrums, I've begged. The fact that I did these things disgusts me now. There's a lot about who I used to be that disgusts me now. I'm Trying t…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/16 05:18 AM
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it can be almost reflex for me sometimes. I'll say it and immediately cringe so hard internally.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/16 07:06 PM
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if you've seen Idiocracy, I try to think about excessive I love yous as seeming like they come from the Costco greeter: "welcome to Costco. I love you." said too much it's an absolutely worthless platitude.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/16 05:00 PM
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in SGM, it talks about meditation in the sense that overactive minds, whether positive or negative, take you out of the moment. so it's not surprising that it improves sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/16 03:50 PM
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his record of innocence is also google.
/r/MensRights05/01/16 03:13 PM
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I must be missing something. dude got 28 years for a single rape? how the fuck is that not cruel and unusual punishment?
/r/MensRights05/01/16 02:51 PM
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if he's being released, then he was exonerated. so he won't have a record anymore.
/r/MensRights05/01/16 02:49 PM
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then after you get through Tolle, listen to Dan Harris' "10% Happier". harris had a lot of the same thoughts I did on Tolle.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/15 10:03 PM
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pretty sure it's a troll. in a comment response she actually used the "womyn" spelling...
/r/TheRedPill26/10/15 01:03 AM
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just shave it. you don't have to go razor-bald, that's a whole other level of effort, just get a set of clippers and run it with no guard. it's around once a week maintenance. keep in mind there are women out there that like that look anyway. and for those women, (as my wife says) "the more hair you lose, the more head you get"
/r/askTRP13/07/15 03:46 PM
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definitely stay away from chemicals like proteins, carbohydrates, and lipids.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/15 02:23 PM
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holy shit, that girl sounds like she's smoking semi exhaust. I was totally taken aback by that wet emphysema cough voice.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/15 02:22 PM
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Trying to impose your personal moral values on other people, is a feminine trait. I'd like to see you back this up. religion has been doing this exact same thing for as long as history has existed, and they were mostly males.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/15 03:54 PM
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backed. plus grow a beard. it gives your stern gaze a little extra oomph!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/15 04:59 PM
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12 year olds playing halo, that's who.
/r/askTRP10/04/15 08:08 PM
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if she hurts herself, that's on her, not you. she's abusing you in a number of ways, you need to get away from that immediately.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/15 09:20 PM
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so let's take a tally: physical abuse emotional abuse blackmail/manipulation gaslighting why are you with this woman? run for the fucking hills, man. you fucked up getting her pregnant, and you might be stuck with that fuck-up for a long time, but you owe it to yourself to get the fuck away from the talons of this harpy.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/15 09:10 PM
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yes and no...anal play feels fucking great but it still grosses me out. the boys club always have some dumbass ideas about what being gay means. look dudes. you're gay if you want to have relationships with men. sexual acts that don't even include another man aren't "gay", just like two lesbians using dildos aren't "straight". also, performing gay sex acts doesn't "make you gay". it's like thinking fucking a girl will make a gay man straight. spoiler, it doesn't. if a guy is curious about it, tr…
/r/TheRedPill24/03/15 02:31 PM
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I'm active in my kink community and most if not all of the women involved (mostly submissives) are full-blown feminists. it never made sense to me before I discovered trp.
/r/TheRedPill24/03/15 02:15 PM
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You must not have read much mrp then. Mrp is about balancing both "alpha fucks" and "beta bucks" to get your marriage to heights unachievable with either one by itself. That's the thing that often gets overshadowed in the subreddits because most men in marriages are over-beta, so often have to practice the "alpha" attitudes. Much more so than the other way around. And yes, going too far towards the alpha side can doom your marriage as well. Going too alpha results in a total lack of relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/15 06:24 PM
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they ARE awesome. it's a tough call between eggs and bacon or a split salted avocado and a spoon.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/15 11:41 PM
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this is great advice. for the guys dieting to lose weight, definitely don't go too low on fats. cut carbs to make your calorie deficit, cutting fats will damage your ability to produce adequate testosterone. dietary fat has had a really bad rap over the years, but going low fat will zap your desire.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/15 03:43 PM
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you do every time you cum inside one. so get procreatin'
/r/TheRedPill17/02/15 05:17 PM
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the other comments have addressed the RP-specific issues, but I wanted to plug /r/malefashionadvice for figuring out how to look better. subscribe there, and observe frequently - see what to avoid, and what gets voted to the top. after a while you'll begin to be able to judge for yourself. even being an overweight guy you can still dress nicely, and just that image difference is huge.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/15 06:26 PM
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one of the problems is that nearly every word associated with Women Having Lots of Sex with Lots of Partners (or WHLoSwLoP for short, that just rolls off the tongue) is generally viewed as insulting. so there's not a lot of "objective" choices without getting overly pedantic for regular conversation. I think it's less that TRPers are using "offensive" terms, and just that most of society views promiscuous women in a negative light, and most women don't want to be associated with that. that said,…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/15 03:20 PM
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how does she feel about earning more than you? how do you feel about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/14 03:32 PM
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if you want strength and balance then you should lift heavy at low reps. for mobility, stretch. for tone, eat at a deficit. check out the video in my comment here. lifting strong =/= hulkmode. bodybuilders lift intermediate weights at higher volume (more sets/reps) than powerlifters to max out hypertrophy. the difference between the two is the efficiency of the nervous system. you train your CNS to work with heavier weights, it's going to find a way to adapt, and that isn't necessarily building …
/r/askTRP18/08/14 02:45 PM
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the thing is, you're not going to get to incredible hulk stage by lifting heavy unless: a) your body is already genetically incredible b) you take steroids...for a long time Bodybuilding =/= lifting heavy. most bodybuilders are all fluff and cant lift as much as smaller men who lift for strength instead of size. watch this video of a powerlifter, strongman competitor, and a bodybuilder all doing deadlifts. the bodybuilder is WAY bigger than the other guys, but fails early, while the other two ke…
/r/askTRP18/08/14 02:32 PM
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Hugh Jackman your argument is invalid
/r/askTRP18/08/14 02:19 PM
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make it part of your routine. it's not an option. consider it work. motivation really doesn't have to be a part of this. it's always going to be easier to sit on the couch and watch Ow My Balls with a bag of chips and a Big Belcher in hand than it is to have a nice physique.
/r/askTRP18/08/14 02:16 PM
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having adequate musculature will actually help your back. but you probably shouldn't be doing this on your own if you already have a bad back. you probably have really shitty form.
/r/askTRP18/08/14 02:13 PM
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yep. eat your broccoli and cauliflower. cruciferous vegetables contain aromatase inhibitors.
/r/TheRedPill18/08/14 01:22 PM
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Be careful and do your research first about jelqing. There has been a lot of chatter about it causing damage or ED. I've read that what you are doing is actually creating scar tissue that won't swell like the rest of your penile tissue.
/r/askTRP15/08/14 02:31 PM
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having been through a divorce, at least in my state, he's not required to give her a percentage of anything that was accumulated before the marriage. so it's kind of a non-issue, but I definitely think she showed her cards a bit. I think it's good to have your bases covered, but asking for a guaranteed percentage of something that is not yours in case of divorce before you're even married is a shitty move.
/r/TheRedPill22/05/14 03:13 PM
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Its only annoying if it never stops and keeps repeating for the same things around here, that's exactly what happens. sure, it's a hundred threads from a hundred different dudes, but its basically all the same thing. and reading those rants and chanting in solidarity "FUCK THAT BITCH" only turns this place into a hatred circle jerk.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/14 04:18 PM
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sadly, this doesn't work so well when you have a beard...
/r/TheRedPill11/04/14 01:42 PM
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that's what you need to change. you're looking at this wrong. beyond your basic needs - food, water, and shelter - everything is more or less a "want", not a "need". you've never experienced the vacuum of space, do you feel you need that too? doubtful. you think you need them because your brain is being fucking flooded with hormones, but you don't need one to survive. it's all about your response - to them, but also to your own emotions. don't wallow in your lack, acknowledge your emotions, and …
/r/askTRP11/04/14 01:26 PM
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pretty much any outdoor sport will help you lose weight. but take it from a 31 year old who is still struggling to get into shape: lift weights. now. you are experiencing the most favorable conditions for your weight loss (and muscle gain) that you will ever have. Puberty is an amazing time, just go to /r/fitness and look at all the transformations of under 21 year old guys. your metabolism will never be as good as it is now. don't get me wrong, it's not going to be easy, but it will be signific…
/r/askTRP10/04/14 03:57 PM
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it shouldn't be. I've been through marriage counseling, and seen bad and good counselors. the good one was the one who told me I needed to make a decision - stay and be unhappy or leave and try to find happiness elsewhere. the bad one told us that I should be okay in my sexless marriage, and be happy that other people found me attractive, even though my wife didn't. Noped outta there real quick. interesting to note, the bad one was a man, and the good one was a woman.
/r/TheRedPill02/04/14 04:34 PM
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from BlackDragon's glossary: Soft nexting is impossible to use on a woman you live with. doesn't seem like something he'll be able to put into practice with a wife.
/r/askTRP26/03/14 09:11 PM
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I agree with you, buddy. women don't just magically know how to fuck well. some are naturals sure, but they aren't the common case. I have no problem with sluts and don't see what "treasure" you're losing out on by dating a woman who has had many "keys" "unlock" her. sluts are a huge scapegoat here, and it reeks of bitterness and insecurity. edit: that said, you should finish your post :)
/r/TheRedPill06/01/14 07:21 PM
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that'd be a bet you'd lose.
/r/TheRedPill06/01/14 07:12 PM
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