| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 528 | Dude is embarrassed because his wife carried his child 🙄 | THE AUDACITY OF SCROTES | kimjongchill796 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 08:01 PM |
| 315 | Oh.....oh no....... | NAH, SIS | kimjongchill796 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 04:32 PM |
| 261 | Maybe because he isn’t the right guy for them 🤷🏻♀️ | LVM LOGIC | kimjongchill796 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 01:46 AM |
| 84 | Do HVW feel lonely? | DISCUSSION | kimjongchill796 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 02:46 AM |
| 4 | Y’all.......... | #JustLVMThings | kimjongchill796 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, help! I met a LVM but can’t get him out of my head | FDS RESCUE MISSION | kimjongchill796 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 06:18 AM |
| 1 | “You’re the first women I’ve ever had to chase” | RED FLAG 🚨 | kimjongchill796 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 02:16 PM |
| 1 | I cut ties with a LVM but still having trouble dealing with the emotional fallout | LESSON LEARNED | kimjongchill796 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 04:09 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 71 | What is a HVM?Y’all after commenting this I literally just got spammed with messages from LVM saying “that’s not the only standard there are physical standards too :( :(“ imagine if you put as much energy into loving yourself as you do harassing strangers on the internet | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 07:44 PM |
| 9 | Woman posts about fiancé who refuses her request for help carrying something while she’s on crutches. He admits that he doesn’t feel empathy, and many comments telling her she needs to help him. Also, my reply triggers angry scrotes.I mean what’s the problem? All she has to do is WILL HIM into giving a fuck | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 06:52 PM |
| 106 | What is a HVM?People really will give us shit just because our only standard is be a good person | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 06:47 PM |
| 10 | "Car guys" are lvmThey will spend so much money on stupid car things then be short on rent 🙄🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 08:01 PM |
| 4 | “She is 18 ‘legal’ so I’m not a pedophile.” Way of thinking needs to stop!!True! I was more thinking along the lines of vulnerability. Women are more established in their 30s than their 20s and less likely to become dependent on a man for security. I probably wouldn’t want to date a 50 y/o when I’m in my 30s! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 06:30 PM |
| 35 | “She is 18 ‘legal’ so I’m not a pedophile.” Way of thinking needs to stop!!Yes mam! I think once both people are over maybe 30/35ish then age gaps don’t have to be concerning. Until then, there will always be a reason people don’t date their own age—either he’s a creep, or women his age won’t put up with his shit. Usually it’s both. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 03:44 PM |
| 14 | Realizing that I’m lean towards having an avoidant attachment style after being hurt so bad by past relationships....how should I attempt to date if I’m too scared of being hurt?I’m anxious and I hate every minute of it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 03:06 PM |
| 23 | Another reminderYes!!! I don’t need some pathetic jerk from the past telling me “you’re welcome” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 07:26 PM |
| 13 | they literally think in porn categories 🙄If he had a link like that I would be surprised he would even ASK hahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 06:49 PM |
| 24 | they literally think in porn categories 🙄He means if you want to link up. Like meet up. Hope that clarifies | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 06:39 PM |
| 25 | “the parts of my relationships where people expressed a desire to hurt me during sex were not the abusive parts” 🤔It’s almost like violent fantasy is them fantasizing committing violent acts on you....................... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 06:36 PM |
| 40 | Update: His girlfriend left him after I told herI hope this doesn’t come across as insensitive but.....girl y’all were never together. He was just some guy who sent you messages that made you feel good. Now I’m only saying this to highlight a couple points: first, a man who wants to be with you WILL. Second, LVM will say ANYTHING to get you to believe them. And third, you gotta demand more from men in order for you to even CONSIDER if he’s good enough to be with you. Some nice messages just aren’t enough. This is why FDS says never stop vetti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 06:33 PM |
| 14 | An Ideal relationshipDidn’t back in the day you needed a Facebook account to verify and use your tinder? And it purposely wouldn’t show you people on your friends list? Anyone else remember this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 02:56 PM |
| 14 | Has the FDS-mindset ruined (some) music for anyone else?I knew she was trash the minute I saw her. Such a shame | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 02:53 PM |
| 3 | "15 Men React to the Idea of Taking Their Wife's Last Name." It's like the twilight zone reading how many are aware of their misogyny and still trying to justify their entitlement.Children take both names, unhyphenated. That’s where the stereotype of Latinos having super long names come from haha. As far as I know this is common practice in nearly every Latin country. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 02:39 AM |
| 9 | This belongs here 😂Omg just reading this infuriated me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 12:31 AM |
| 4 | "15 Men React to the Idea of Taking Their Wife's Last Name." It's like the twilight zone reading how many are aware of their misogyny and still trying to justify their entitlement.This is why I love being Latina. I don’t have to change my last name for anyone, and if I have a child they would bear both names | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 12:28 AM |
| 4 | "15 Men React to the Idea of Taking Their Wife's Last Name." It's like the twilight zone reading how many are aware of their misogyny and still trying to justify their entitlement.Are you also Latina? I love this about our culture | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 12:27 AM |
| 121 | My friend is all set to marry an LVMD lives in her home country where this is the norm, correct? I gotta be honest, I feel like this is beyond FDS’ pay grade, with the cultural brainwashing to overcome and all. I think the best you can do for now is to continue being her friend, letting her know she deserves better, and pointing out all the red flags you can, including the WHY and HOW. However I do agree with your dad, be careful with the criticism—you want to let her know that you’re doing it because you care about her, not becau… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 03:04 AM |
| 6 | Men that want to teach you about stocks, real estate, investing or house flipping are con artistsI might take you up on that, please work your mentor magic in my life! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 09:41 PM |
| 6 | Men that want to teach you about stocks, real estate, investing or house flipping are con artistsWould you mind sharing a few tips for those interested in investing in real estate? Or point me to a resource that can? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 09:26 PM |
| 4 | Men that want to teach you about stocks, real estate, investing or house flipping are con artistsThis might be a dumb question but how do I find a good mentor? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 09:24 PM |
| 4 | Men that want to teach you about stocks, real estate, investing or house flipping are con artistsI noticed that bump in GameStop and was so confused! What do you mean when you say it was because of Reddit? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 09:23 PM |
| 43 | new male just droppedI feel like pseudo-science is too generous of a term for this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 09:15 PM |
| 9 | Against my intuition and at the advice of the community, I tried Bumble BFF to make friends. My results.I’m not sure what you mean by the “not like other girls” part? Like it’s easier to make male friends than female friends or something? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 03:06 PM |
| 17 | OLD Safety: photos you useOoof I had someone who found my fb exactly how you described. “Hey we didn’t match but I just had to talk to you so I found you here” gee I wonder why we didn’t match??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 02:39 AM |
| 182 | Against my intuition and at the advice of the community, I tried Bumble BFF to make friends. My results.Making solid female friends is tough. Pre-covid I used to love the women I would meet tipsy in bar bathrooms lol. If you’re on facebook, I’m in a giant women-only group page called Girls Love Travel. Pretty often you see women asking about others in their area who would be down to hang, and pretty much every one there is kind and receptive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 02:37 AM |
| 40 | WOMEN WITH STANDARDS SAVED ME - TYSMHey, I think all that you accomplished is impressive as hell. Don’t talk yourself down just because of the ~idea~ that we’re all somehow more put together. Thanks for sharing your story | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 02:33 AM |
| 273 | Relationship Ambiguity Is The New Backlash, and It's Dangerous and Effective Because of Its Subtlety“If it’s not a yes, it’s a no.” I live by these words | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 03:33 PM |
| 30 | Queen energy 👑 This belongs here!That’s nice and all but someone please tell this girl she’s using way too much product. You can get the same look with about half the amount. Looks good on camera but probably super noticeable in person | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 02:55 PM |
| 4 | Queen energy 👑 This belongs here!I also can’t stand her technique. So much wasted product | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 02:53 PM |
| 10 | At least we realized our mistake... 😅Looking back at all the cringy shit I did or said being an undiagnosed borderline......lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 03:00 AM |
| 17 | At least we realized our mistake... 😅I don’t think any man I was with ever truly liked me lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 02:58 AM |
| 3 | My Red Flag Radar is pretty well honed but I still find this hilarious 🚩Ladies I met a LVM with red flags but I feel myself falling for him—please smack some sense into me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 01:06 PM |
| 7 | Scrotes are so fucking dumb and obsessed with humbling women and uplifting their own. Who looks at this goddess and thinks yea she looks around the same as him 😂😂 what idiotsHonestly. She is very pretty but what is going on inside of her that she felt the need to ask Reddit strangers of all people to validate that for her. I would give her a six just because she had to come here and ask. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 05:25 PM |
| 6 | "My incel friend told my wife he'd r*pe her if he could and I did nothing. Now she's upset for some reason! What have I done wrong?"I saw this too!!!! The whole time he couldn’t figure out what the deal was. Holy fuck this shot up my blood pressure when I read it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 05:08 PM |
| 22 | Instagram scam?I got that same message too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 03:47 PM |
| 4 | Dude is embarrassed because his wife carried his child 🙄*11 YEAR FIANCEEEEE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 04:18 AM |
| 9 | Dude is embarrassed because his wife carried his child 🙄I think they’re her friends from college, not in college, not that it matters! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 02:04 AM |
| 9 | Dude is embarrassed because his wife carried his child 🙄*11 year fiancé 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 12:12 AM |
| 6 | Dude is embarrassed because his wife carried his child 🙄Ohh I didn’t even catch that! Damn how sad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 12:09 AM |
| 53 | Dude is embarrassed because his wife carried his child 🙄Right?? 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 08:35 PM |
| 93 | Dude is embarrassed because his wife carried his child 🙄Yes mam!!! That first sentence is all you need to know | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 08:09 PM |
| 3 | The saddest proposal story I’ve ever heard. She wrote it along with a recipe for Mac and cheese on a blog.That mac and cheese sounds nasty tbh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 07:58 PM |
| 17 | This was the fastest I have ever unmatched with a guy 😬Is he joking? He has to be joking. There’s no way I can believe this is real and not a joke. Is he joking? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Y’all..........It’s the way he goes about it. He says things like “maybe she can get something I would actually enjoy seeing on her” “she’s allowed to make her own choice” (DUH) “I changed for her when she didn’t specifically ask and now I’m bothered she won’t do what I want”. It’s one thing for her to ask his opinion and he says he doesn’t like it, but the framework in which he thinks about it is all sorts of messed up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 10:17 PM |
| 3 | Y’all..........THANK FDS for showing me that this is NOT NORMAL!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 09:47 PM |
| 5 | Y’all..........The way he talks about his gf and their relationship ALREADY IS CONTROLLING | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 09:30 PM |
| 23 | Maybe because he isn’t the right guy for them 🤷🏻♀️This dude STAYS in my DMs too 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 02:14 AM |
| 7 | Take people for exactly what they show you.Great quote, thanks for sharing ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 10:58 PM |
| 3 | Why is sexual harassment so common/tolerated in the restaurant industry?All the LVM gotta work somewhere | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 10:25 PM |
| 4 | This is why we say no to coffee dates. Before finding FDS, I agreed to a coffee date. He was supposed to text me a time to meet but never did. The NEXT DAY he asked me why I didn't wake him upGod why doesn’t he shut the fuck up, figuratively | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 09:56 PM |
| 1 | “Womanly” activities are cooking, cleaning, caretaking & appearances 🤢I got you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 01:39 PM |
| 32 | Why do LVM get so mad when they see a woman being loved properly?This dude don’t know what body language means 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 09:31 PM |
| 23 | “Womanly” activities are cooking, cleaning, caretaking & appearances 🤢I get what you’re saying, there’s nothing inherently wrong with enjoying these things, but the problem arises when these are deemed “womanly” things. These are normal healthy people things. Women weren’t traditionally “good” at these things, they were forced into them. No one here is ashamed about these traits, I’m sure nearly everyone here shares them, but when it becomes expected of you by simply being a women, that’s a no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 09:28 PM |
| 3 | On the ground outside...Shut up Dave | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 02:43 PM |
| 14 | Personal Security & Self Defense ThreadI second the martial arts suggestions! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 12:02 AM |
| 10 | Having no boundaries/ weak boundaries actually scares away HVM.Okay now this makes way more sense! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 11:39 PM |
| 16 | This is extremely importantI’m still learning how to but I think we can learn from each other. First you have to be honest with yourself. Take a look at your choices—who you choose to spend time with, how you choose to spend your time, etc. You have to cut off all contact with people who bring you down. Period. Don’t even keep them on social media because it will just remind you. You also need to pick up new healthy habits outside of relationships. I started going to the gym again and focusing on my health—it’s good for y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 11:30 PM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020My ex NVM has been reaching out to me since we broke up three weeks ago. That’s when I discovered FDS and it REALLY helped me push through and not message him back. I know I should block him but sometimes I still miss him and want to see him text me even though I’m going to ignore it anyway. I’m tired of not living up to my true potential and letting these LVM treat me with disrespect. Baby steps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 11:11 PM |
| 47 | Handmaidens comparing FDS to red pill NVMs is some stupid and dangerous cognitive dissonanceThat’s how I found it too! And it couldn’t come at a better time for me. The past couple weeks reading FDS has relieved a lot of my anxiety surrounding men | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 12:41 AM |
| 31 | Never forget 👑Looking back, there’s a massive parallel between the LVM I dated and the LV jobs I worked. No matter how hard I tried to be “good,” “non-confrontational,” “use good communication skills,” nothing ever changed in those situations. Ever. In the end I was fed up and left both the man and the job for not being appreciated in any capacity. Like a HVM, a good job will work to keep their good employees happy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 01:57 PM |
| 2 | Men can’t make women orgasm because they don’t “cOmMUniCatE”I dated a guy that had no idea what he was doing, and I was nice enough (desperate enough?) to try to teach him. Of course he didn’t listen, he didn’t actually care, and when we broke up he tried to blame ME for bad sex!! Like sir you deserve a gold medal for those mental gymnastics you just performed 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ He also couldn’t do his own taxes. Never again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 01:50 PM |
| 2 | Reminder to pay attention to wordsWhat’s wrong with “are you free Saturday night?” Is it presumptuous? Is it too indirect? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 01:45 PM |
| 40 | Saw this Q on relationship advice, and this was some of the "advice"That yawn emoji is killing me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 02:11 AM |
| 13 | Wow, I just realized that all of my 20's went to being a pickmeisha and needing validation from men. Don't be the old me...A lesson learned hard is still a lesson learned. Don’t hate on yourself too much for it, the cards aren’t in our favor to always behave like HVW we are | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 02:08 AM |
| 14 | How do you feel about this? as a 21 year old I am so grateful for finding this sub!Yo this literally happened to me yesterday. My FWB and I were cool, would chill and laugh and generally have a good time besides the sex. I knew he was moving out of state this week but instead of saying anything to me like a normal person he just straight deleted me off everything. Like ok?? I’m not heartbroken by your moving buddy I just want to be treated like a person | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 02:03 AM |
| 2 | Do HVW feel lonely?This is really great, I love processing my emotions with logical perspectives like this. Thanks for this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 11:05 PM |
| 1 | Do HVW feel lonely?Yes, making new friends has only gotten more difficult for me as I’ve gotten older. I definitely should try to reach out to older friends or make an effort to connect more with acquaintances I admire. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 11:04 PM |
| 5 | Do HVW feel lonely?You’re right, ever since I’ve found this sub I’ve been feeling almost fulfilled in some way. I realize that none of my relationships ever made me feel good and that feeling nothing from no one is still better than feeling bad from someone who’s supposed to love you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 11:02 PM |
| 3 | Do HVW feel lonely?This is a really interesting point; my suffering is based off my own imagination. No one is actively hurting me, I’m not needing for much in my life, and I’ve never had a man worth missing anyway. In a weird way this is comforting to me, thanks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 11:00 PM |
| 5 | So apparently this man is engaged but still has the time to write an essay on why FDSers are evil and entitled b******. If he was so happy, why would he care about what women he’s not dating are doing?“Expectations are not fine” uh????? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 10:54 PM |
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