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To be fair, as dude I complain all the time about the social dynamics we create. So I think you get a pass on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 11:07 PM
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In general I find we are far to often to victim blame in modern society. So this resonates with me pretty hard. Alot of this is filtered through and histrionic lens too, you'll think guy X has always been creepy after the fact when you didn't speak up before hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 06:15 PM
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Yes, honestly this isn't very convincing
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 06:04 PM
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I'm not sure that's very fair. Most of self worth comes from society and peers, and being single effectively makes you "low-value" as a male in society eyes. Really just think about all the language we use to describe men we don't like, Small dick, incel, Virgin, ect. I don't think any about of self estimate can overcome the burden of society as a whole for most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 07:25 PM
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Absolutely, I understand that. Many men struggle with self confidence and have a tendency to interpret problems as personal failures rather than as opportunities to grow or improve. I can relate to this more than I’m proud of. In my early twenties, I acted this way in my first serious relationships, and looking back, it was a way of avoiding some deeper issues I was carrying, even if not as extreme as in some cases. But really I think if people act a certain way, there is usually some live exper…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 06:38 PM
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Basically, I tend to see most of those household tasks as just actual labor. Emotional labor, though, is more nuanced and highly relationship-specific. For instance, some men can overreact to the slightest misstep, which makes managing their emotional volatility a form of labor. Likewise, even minor disagreements with certain female partners can land you in the doghouse if they pout or act immature.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 06:29 PM
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Sorry what I meant is that, Women generally take on quite a few unrecognized household tasks. Stuff like Planning Birthday parties, Child care, Holidays, Organization, Food, ect. But I'm just not fully sold on the idea they carry more "emotional" labor, I think that's way more nuanced.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 05:08 PM
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I feel like the household part is more often then not true, especially in the past with more traditional relationships. I think the "emotional" side of it has a lot more variance and is very relationship dependent. Really these feel like two totally separate things.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:54 PM
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Well it's pretty interesting. If you look at the online poly community 100%. But if you included people like swingers or hot wifers... Than it's a totally different demographic.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 07:38 PM
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I mean he killed himself before his trial so lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 10:29 PM
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I really appreciate the microbiome discussion—it's a fascinating area. I do a lot of small-scale organic gardening, and books like Teaming with Microbes highlight just how essential microbial inoculation is to healthy organic ecosystems. In fact, humans themselves host more bacterial cells than human ones, which really puts the symbiosis into perspective. Really one of the most important barriers in your skin is the microbiotic layer. On the topic of sugar and carbs, I used to hold a more simpli…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 06:27 PM
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You probably right. But maybe... I'm the AI slop all along. OR maybe it was the slop we made along the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 10:52 PM
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To be fair, I did wrap the "gotcha" in quotes. It’s an extreme example, sure—but it’s meant to highlight an extreme point. If you’re genuinely interested in discussing this, I can dig up better examples with actual data. But let’s not miss the forest for the trees here. I think we are burying the lead here, The real headline isn’t “Hot Felon went viral.” It’s “Felon went viral because he was so hot.” That’s the entire point. Priorities say a lot, don’t they?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 10:47 PM
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That’s literally the exact point I’m making. Again: Attractiveness > Everything else. A significant amount of women will absolutely overlook bad behavior if the guy’s hot enough. That’s the whole point. I’m pushing back on OP’s claim by highlighting just how much looks override everything else. Not sure how that got lost in translation. But for the sake of clarity, men 100% do this as well. If not even more frequently.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 10:43 PM
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Not even trying to be mean here—genuinely—but what are you actually trying to say? Like, take a second, hit spell check, and re-read whatever that was. Because right now, it reads like a fever dream typed with thumbs dipped in olive oil.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 10:37 PM
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Lmao, I can respect stupid. You can be honest and stupid, or dishonest but smart. I just really hate people who are both.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 10:29 PM
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You're mixing up the timelines here. The guy’s name is Jeremy Meeks, and this incident is basically what launched his fame. His mugshot went viral back in 2014 after the Stockton Police Department posted it on Facebook. People were obsessed with how “hot” he looked—even though it was literally a gang-related weapons charge. Before any of this he was a total no body. From there, people started using his photo to catfish women online, which only fueled the attention. That viral fame eventually led…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 10:26 PM
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To be fair, I didn’t even present any data here — and OP is clearly operating south of 70 IQ. This entire thread collapses under even a shred of scrutiny. It doesn't make sense to anyone with an ounce of legitimacy or intellectual honesty.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 10:22 PM
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Look, whether you like it or not, vulnerability will be used against you in relationships. I used to believe in true love — I really did. But experience and heartbreak have taught me what I should’ve known all along: "Whoever has the least to lose in the relationship holds the power." It’s a harsh realization at first, but eventually, you start to see the bigger picture: we all have roles to play in society — and we don’t get to choose them. In past relationships, I showed weakness. I was always…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 10:19 PM
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I hate to bring up this example, but there a classic "gotcha" where a guy posed openly child-sex offender on tinder, but with a really hot PFP mugshot and he still got tons of matches from seemingly normal women. For a significant portion both men and women, if they are attractive enough that overwhelms everything else. Attractiveness over all. It's sad but it's true.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 10:07 PM
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Even the premise of this post makes zero sense. Paying for porn doesn’t make someone part of your "harem" — like, what are these people smoking? Are they actually this retarded? Or just so blinded by their own biases? This isn’t some new phenomenon, and OnlyFans barely factors into the discussion. The reality is: very few women are porn stars, and even fewer are actually famous or influential in that space. Now, if the argument was about men spending money on escorts or sugar arrangements, you m…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 09:59 PM
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The idea that women don’t watch porn is outdated as hell. Most studies show that 60–65% of women have watched porn, and 30–40% actively watch it within a given year. Younger women especially have high usage rates, often similar to men. It’s not rare, weird, or niche—porn is mainstream for women, just like it is for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 09:53 PM
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That's a really interesting perspective. I can’t say I’ve personally experienced that from the other side of the fence, but I do appreciate the insight. With a background in logic and philosophy, I tend to approach things analytically, so I can see how your point fits within a broader framework. That said, I’m genuinely curious—what do you think are some signs that a woman is interested in forming a deeper connection and is open to engaging with more intellectually challenging ideas? I often fin…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:04 AM
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Right so the disconnect is that I think they want to have the perception of being safe and protected. But I don't think many women have a great understand of physical conflict, and to a lesser extent protection. There is actually quite a bit of biological evidence women have a much worse sense of threat detection then men. Anyone who has grown up having to face physical adversity either personally or professionally know that: Avoid, Escape, or Call out for help. You only fight if you've run out …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 11:56 PM
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Protect me = Tall and fit. Simple as
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 09:26 PM
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If 2020 - 2025 has proven anything, I don't think anything is illegal at an international level anymore. Really don't think that's just isolated to Western political discourse either lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 06:48 PM
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This ignores basic biochemistry, which we have a pretty good understanding of, whereas we don't have a good understand of race and genetics. In it's broadest context: More Test = More aggression, Men = More Test, therefore by the property of implication (hypothetical syllogism), Men = more aggression. But really this is just innutative, looking at data and cultural zeitgeist. People on reddit wouldn't be comfortable with discussing this type of topic (for good reason too), but there could be a c…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 06:17 PM
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To be fair, that protects you from prosecution. Not allegations. Best example of this exact circumstances is the trial that just played out with those Canadian hockey players, all the evidence points to it being a baseless claim yet their public sentencing and lives are irreversibly ruined. I don't think their is much you can do to avoid unfounded allegation outside of unhealthy behaviour. I think just hope a pray, maybe try and avoid people you don't trust, but that feels victim blaming here.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 06:13 PM
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You know even as a man, I don't think that's much differnt. Some of the women I've dated had basically zero interesting hobbies outside of Skin care (It's funny that people who are obsessed with skincare, tend to have pretty bad skin / complexation. I wonder if it's a chicken or egg thing.) But the deep conversation thing is something I've always wanted but never have seem to found. Thinking about it makes me sad honestly, but I don't think this is a gendered thing either. I think I've had very …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 06:07 PM
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It wasn’t just some neutral “intervention.” The Soviets sent in 100,000+ troops, assassinated the Afghan leader (Amin), and installed their own puppet (Karmal) from a rival faction. That’s regime change by force, not just picking a side. Yeah, there was a civil war, but the USSR didn’t exactly show up as peacekeepers — they invaded to prop up a collapsing communist ally and keep Afghanistan in their orbit.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 06:03 PM
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I think it's a bit of a chicken and egg situation. Lower class people tend to have worse socializations and frame of reference for "Success". That gets amplified throughout their lives resulting in the expected outcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 05:52 PM
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Wouldn't say it's that interesting. Men have more sex-drive through the biochemistry. Mix in less in-group bias, and boom. Seem like expected outcome really.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 05:51 PM
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I'd argue Surveys really aren't science at all even. Self reported data... is iffy at best. And the differences between men and women get amplified by this type of surveying even more then normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 05:49 PM
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I mean, this should be blatancy obvious that was a super racist comment to anyone with a brain. I would save you breath trying to justify it though, anyone who can't see that already has their mind made up.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 05:24 PM
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Yeah honestly, I feel like all this reflects pretty poorly on all parties involved. Sad really.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 05:22 PM
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Power lets you do whatever is within it's scope. That's basically it's definition. Now I'm not trying to moralize or justify it, but it is the way it is. Getting hung up on a just-world fallacy isn't worth your time.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 07:43 PM
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I'd love to see AI replace gooning for 4 hours a day, downing 3 white monsters, ripping the penjamin until it goes full retard, and burning it's tongue on eggrolls.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 07:40 PM
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You've got it so twisted here. Deserve means shit. Those who have power, do. End of story.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 07:37 PM
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You know... I was going to argue but... in my experience your not wrong at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 07:35 PM
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Pretty much every guy has been groped by some weird drunk woman they don't even know at some point in their life Yup, and honestly the weird thing about it all is that SA isn't really about Sex at all, it's about power. I've had some women do VERY questionable things to me, but it's like water off a ducks back. Never bothered me at all. Because in the end, I still have the power to change my fate. It's pretty fucked up when you think about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 07:33 PM
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Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't that just a weird semantic argument? Redefine a term in common parlance to another definition and anything would be wrong. (A very common tactic lately...) That is, ask 90% of people what libido means and they would answer something like: The urge to get your rocks off.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 07:30 PM
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It would be impossible to gather real data on, but I wonder what the curve looks like? I don't sleep around a ton, but of the 10 or so women I've been with none of them even had a fourth of my libido. Usually being happy with 2-3 times a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 07:28 PM
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Caught in 8k UHD TrueColor
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 07:26 PM
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I'm not into cuckery, even if I'm the one doing the bucking. Just seems a bit off to me, no thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 07:23 PM
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People are often amazing at identifying problems, and are rarely incorrect in that way. However, people are horrible at finding solutions to said problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 07:19 PM
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My dude, that is just called supporting your partner when they have a bad day. Totally with you on that, it feels like people on reddit really vilify people for just needing a crutch sometime to lean on. That's kind of what relationships are supposed to be about. I’m sure they would have done the same for you. To that point, I'm really not sure I can agree. Honestly I think you lack perspective on this, but ask most men if they think they can vent to their partners like that and most would say n…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 07:13 PM
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Right, I think some context is relevant here. But at least from my experience, opening up to women has never been a good idea. But in contrast pretty every women I've dated has expected for me to be her personal therapist at one point in time. Which I really don't mind either. With that said I don't let the be a bug-bear on my shoulder, I think it kind of just is how it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 07:09 PM
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I’ve had plenty of opportunities to cheat, just never the intention to do so. Lmao, you just saying this is basically self exposing. Caught in 4k UHD. Good luck with zero self reflection.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 06:45 PM
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I think you are projecting a bit here. I'm not talking about controlling someone else's behavior, I'm simply talking about likely outcomes from someone's actions. If someone likes to go out and party, that's a risk factor for infidelity, full stop. But ultimately I do agree that telling someone not to go out and do that is controlling behaviour, (and likely wont succeed anyways). Really I was never trying to suggest someone should do that. Really, just try and consider if someone has a predispos…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 04:30 PM
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Honestly there is some nuance here I think you are missing. Thinking about any risk as purely binary isn't really an accurate way to think about it. We know human behaviour is dependent on their environment and stimulus, and really we even have some less then ethical experiments proving you can push people to do thing they would never dream of doing. I know it's a real pop-psy example but the Milgram Experiment shows exactly that, in it's most extreme form a person might even kill under the righ…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 10:34 PM
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Yeah... I find the premise of this post to be pretty loaded in the first place. I think for most people its: "Does this person have a career and aspirations" I wouldn't want to date someone who holds a degree, but can barely hold down a part time cashier job.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 11:20 PM
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Men and women both objectify each other for their bodies and resources... nothing new here.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 08:12 PM
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Look, I think it's just complicated. We have data. We know hormones can drastically effect someone mood and behaviour. This isn't really up for debate, and in comparison any guy who's taken exogenous testosterone could tell you it can drastically modify your mood. But what we do with this understanding is more complicated. And frankly I tend to lean to the side of not allowing someone's biology to excuse poor behaviour. Just seems like a slippery slope to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 08:10 PM
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I think a big part of the problem is that a lot of versions of masculinity posit that a man has failed if he doesn't have a woman. Your not wrong at all. But your misattributing this just to masculinity. It's seems to come from a totality of social behaviour across pretty much every culture, and even across pretty much all of history. Look at even the most gynocentric matriarchal social contexts, you still would hear insults about a mans relationship status, phrases "small dick" or "incel" are s…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 08:07 PM
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I don't think this is as common as people saying that a man's dating-/sex-life struggles are his own fault, and that he can turn his fortunes around if he puts in the work. I think fault be dammed here. Not to spout crappy RP talking points, but frankly as a young man no one will help you. You are the cannon fodder, but literally and figuratively. It's sink or swim really, and all you can do is try to improve your situation, whether it's fair or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 08:00 PM
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Right, I think theirs a false equivalence in voting preferences vs radicalization here. I would say most far-left truly radical people I know would be generally male. Same goes for far-right.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 07:56 PM
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I'm sure it is related to marrying later, and less "Shotgun" weddings. Generally too, less educated people get married so it may also be a quantity vs quality thing as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 07:53 PM
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Pretty cool, looking at the data each level of education leads to a drop in divorce rates. That's a pretty interesting correlation.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 07:45 PM
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Ironically I've only been cheated on by Bi-Women, although of course it was with other men. But that was a cart before the horse thing, they were fucked up to begin with. And I should have know at the time to not date them. I do think in macro, Bi people probably do cheat more. But it's not for the reasons people would think. That is, generally I think Bi people tend to be more free-spirted and in a they generally engaged with more risky behaviour. Just the personality type that aligns with bein…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 04:27 PM
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Right, but you do understand the difference between being in a popular YouTube video, and being a homicidal maniac? I wouldn't say it's purely a fair comparison. But regardless, your point of "status" or notoriety does track to an extent. If you abandon and moral precontext...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 04:21 PM
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Right, and I get where you are coming from. Honestly I think major criminal issues would be a deal breaker for most but not all people. But like you said, I think demographics are a factor for sure. More men are criminals, and more lower class people are criminals as well. So it kind of tracks more a lot more lower class women could possibly be interested in a criminal man.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 04:10 PM
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Oh yeah? I think it depends on a few factors. But in my estimation, if we are going to have a honest discussion, I don't think the "goodness" of a person is a major factor in dating sucess for either gender sadly. Attractiveness is paramount, pretty much everything else be dammed. (That goes for men and women)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 04:04 PM
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Yeah these seem like two pretty disconnected topics. More of a "gotcha" than a real discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 03:58 PM
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The serial killers and abusers usually have social clot or status that the incels don't have and are often more sexually attractive. Yikes...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 03:53 PM
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Not to be annoying, but this point isn't nearly as good as you think it is. France, Canada, Germany, ect. (Most western countries) name one country where men have less rights and privileges than women. Family courts as the Primary example, but another good example could be paternity rights. Hell in France it's even outright illegal to test your kid, but in quite a few countries a man could be on the hook for paying child support for a child that isn't his. (You could also add the draft here if y…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 08:16 PM
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I think it important to realize, most people don't cheat. Gender differences seem to mostly be in the demographic curves but pretty lined up in macro. (Older men cheat more vs. younger women cheat more) However, most people do get cheated on at least once in their lives. Many cheaters are repeat offenders, very few can change after two or more affairs.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 08:01 PM
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In real life? Then it a different discussion for sure. But really, men do these combabilities checks as well. But I'm sure it pretty different to checklist women use. And really, being in active pursuer role for most relationships, men simply have less opportunity to be picky. From quite a few studies we also know men score quite a bit lower in Neuroticism, so they would be more likely to have a shorter list of deal breaks, and more "gray areas". For example, I wouldn't date a woman who doesn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:58 PM
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I will never understand why more men don’t do the same sorts of compatibility checks. For online dating? The answer should be pretty obvious. If an average man filtered this way, it would bring him from 4-8 matches down to 0-2 matches. Frankly, in OLD most men don't have enough matches to begin with to find a proper date, let alone being picky about who. Really, you get to pick 1-2 criteria at most.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:48 PM
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That's true, but it's also just a whataboutism.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:44 PM
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Honestly, like everything in life I think there is some nuance here. I do agree it's weird and insecure to not want to date someone with a somewhat promiscuous history. But I think it's fine to look at it as a spectrum, and I'm not sure it's a good precedent to judge someone for what they are attracted to. But I do agree that most people here are looking at it through a warped red-pill lens. In the end, I'm just uncomfortable litigating what people should be attracted to. This is the same reason…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:42 PM
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I mean statistically, Women initiate the super-majority of divorces. So, wouldn't it follow, they more often leave the men? I'm confused here.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 07:31 PM
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I'd say it's 50/50. So, of it is most likely just biological, so even driven through evolutionary psychology and hormones. The rest is social. Think about it, what is the most common insult you can throw at a man right now? Incel. That alone should make it clear socially men's value tends to be dictated by the relationship status. Which really, is bullshit. But the power of social views as a whole doesn't trump reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 05:55 PM
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Who says men don't? Frankly most the men I know that are doing well, over like 100k a year annual, generally don't want to date a women who has no aspirations or income. Frankly, talking about barrier to dating, income has been the most dramatic filter for me. Even though I make over 100k, it's frankly not enough to support two people. And really, I don't want to date another bum who doesn't have any goal or plans in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 05:52 PM
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The man is often a stereotypically Nice Guy type and stays until he reached a breaking point and leaves or she cheats on him. I feel called out by this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 05:50 PM
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Hell I'd argue even in academic contexts it can be really dangerous. Ultimately, classes are just synthetic ways to classify people, and on the individual level everyone should be treated and taken as such.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 05:48 PM
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Yes, that was me for most of my relationships. I'm the exact opposite, I generally do most the house labor, economic labor, and emotional labor. But that's not a positive trait, and frankly it's lead me to be exploited in most the relationships I've been in. But regardless, it's in my nature to be a giver and provider.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 05:45 PM
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Honestly, it sounds like you are putting forth a really good effort to look out for your child's wellbeing, and that's admirable. But be prepared for the long haul, since I'd argue the real battle starts somewhere in Junior high when life goals / aspirations really get ingrained into someone. And to your point about nature vs nurture, I think you are right about it not being wise to force a square peg into a round hole. Men and Women certainly have difference in macro when it comes to temperamen…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 05:32 PM
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Honestly people won't like to hear this but, DEI. Men are failing to graduate from college at alarming rates and doing far worse in school as a whole. Yet we still have the majority of assistance / special interest programs targeted at women. Additionally we should start early and have more male teachers to act as better role models for young boys in Junior / highschool.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 05:10 PM
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While I agree, that's just a whataboutism.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 02:40 PM
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You think you are going to go on a rape and murder spree? We aren't backing down. Lmao who do you think you are, the Punisher? Let law enforcement handle that. And if you want an actual tip for personal security even as a large physically fit man, you first call for help, run, stall, and if you run out of all other options, fight. But realistically, 90% of the battle is fought beforehand. Be hyper aware of any dangerous situation and ensure that you always have a back plan if things do go south.…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 06:54 PM
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You don't get my extended empathy until you've proven you're worthy of it. I'm not sure if you realize, but that's actually an insane misanthropic world view. They idea that people don't default deserve sympathy until they can prove it, rather than the opposite. Imagine extending that idea to other protected classes, like race, religion, disability, and sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 06:48 PM
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Yeah... no.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 06:44 PM
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My brother in Christ, why even make this post if it's pointless to argue about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:52 AM
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Here's a strange thought, how do you even really define good sex? Frankly without that definition in the first place this seems like a semantic argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:50 AM
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And why the assumption that all women who make more than minimum wage are ugly and bitchy? Usually, it’s poverty that correlate with weight and harsher manners. To an extent I think this is true. Which is interesting, since it's a chicken and egg scenario. Rich people are generally more competent and socially aware, which leads to them prioritizing their looks since they have the means and understanding of its importance. But on the other hand, beautiful people are given advantages throughout th…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:46 AM
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The incredibly reductionist, and frankly a Sociologist wouldn't be the authority on naturalism. Which is generally divided into two board paradigms, philosophical (Descartes, Plato, Kepler, etc.) and Scientific (Life Sciences and Physical Sciences). Which in a board scope, Sociology isn't generally even considered to be a member of life sciences.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:37 AM
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So that can lead us into some more complex philosophical topics regarding mind, body, and social experience. But really, I'm not trying to get into those topics in the scope of this discussion. But really what I'm talking about here, is that men aren't generally struggling internally with accepting their own identities. Like in this situation, I'm comparing it to someone repressing their sexuality. The catalyst for these types of conflicts isn't some rejection of ones "true self" but rather, a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 08:48 PM
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I'm happy you had the experience and found yourself later in your life. But I think you're getting confused here, I don't think these types of struggles generally stem from men struggling with their identify. Alot of these struggles are externel and not internal.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 08:19 PM
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Checking out of the relationship is one of the most common excuses that people use when they start an affair. That includes men. I'd take some contention with that, from some of the studies if seen Women are significantly more likely to get into a relationship with their AP post break up. Something like 75% of women who engage in affairs say they have fallen in love with the AP or have romantic feelings for them. I'd make the conjecture that in many of these situations, they AP is being courted …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:56 PM
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And I would encourage them not to date the 35 yo loser who works part-time for minimum. You've said that, but who are you to tell people what to do with there lives? Hell your posting here, which is basically proof you shouldn't be giving anyone advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:50 PM
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Maybe that seems true from your perspective, but from personal experience I know lots of guys that had bad / weird interactions with women 40+ in their early 20's, even going as far as sexual assault. Pretty much every night club I went to in college would always have some old lady creeping on guys. You might just not notice it, or it could be less common where you live.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:48 PM
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I don't really think that's true. Both groups seem pretty marginalized regardless, and the response you're getting is most likely just dictated by which spaces you are in.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:45 PM
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Lol come on, at that age people are grown adults and can make their own decisions. Feel like I'm getting troll baited
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:41 PM
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I think I have contention with this, I don't think all relationships are reciprocal. Very often there are relationships that are one-way streets where on person is clearly being exploited by another person.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 10:08 PM
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I feel like depending on age too. It's pretty normal for a 17-18 year old to never have been in a relationship. Much less though a 30+ year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 10:06 PM
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Right and the money / beauty thing is a bit nebulous and abstract in my eyes. They would more so just fall under the label of superficial attraction. Also: I find this fascinating, could you explain your flair please? And also, Phenylpiracetam is a stimulant from the 80's designed for Russian cosmonauts. It's mostly just a play on words, since I think the whole idea of "pills" is BS. Although I used to take it recreationally as well. Hard to get now sadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 10:04 PM
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An interesting idea for sure, and I'm not sure I disagree the aesthetic of "goodness" plays some role for sure. But I'm not sure it's as simple as that. Really, I think the primary factor for all relationships starts at physical / personal attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 09:48 PM
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Honestly, it sounds like your Ex has some serious insecurities or attachment issues. But really, if you know his prior dating history, I'd say the answer to his behavior most likely lies somewhere in that. Frankly it sounds a bit strange as you described it, from my perspective he seems a bit too old to fall into that rabbit hole without some major catalyst. (Divorce, breakup, cheating, ect) And I would hate to kick you while your down, but it's possible you may have just not really had a good r…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 09:43 PM
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Sure, but if you suck at something, you can improve at that thing. Just because someone is better at something doesn't mean it should always fall on them. It's exhausting and breeds resentment. Follow up question, how do you feel about the fact the most men actively don't like these types of events? I'm mostly just curious, because I can't think of single man in my life that really cares about things like Father's Day, their birthday, or just nebulous obligatory holidays. For example, my father …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 08:54 PM
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It's likely not incredibly healthy for us, but I don't know a single man that cares about events like this. And, off the top of my head, every woman I know does. This, so incredibly hard. I don't know a single *Straight man who cares or really enjoys these types of things. Most, like myself actively dislike these types of self congratulating events. And that's lead me to question, why?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 08:47 PM
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I don't know what to say, but I think you are being a bit ignorant to the cultural climate and the perception of virgin men. (Also I'm assuming you live in a western nation as well.) Calling a man a virgin is a common place insult, regardless of whether it's true or not. This type of insult in particular comes most often from women. That fact alone should make it pretty obvious why this perception exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:42 PM
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See, something along those lines I get more. People close to you can provide really great feedback on things you might have overlooked and ignored. I would love to see this style of relationship match making come back, I think right now it could really help the younger generation.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 07:48 PM
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I don't know. I still don't see it, but I'm glad it worked out for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 07:41 PM
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Honestly parents threatening potential partners seems like pretty insecure and immature behavior. I don't really get it, it doesn't seem like a very admirable trait to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 06:30 PM
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"Being really into film or video games can be interesting" Holy shit, not fucking chance dude. Interest in video games is literally women repellent. Being into Film isn't much better either.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:05 PM
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Damm not feeling good with the 4 years looking at everyone else here.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:02 PM
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Insert my entire post again
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 04:30 PM
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To an extent that's true, but I think it's more complex than that. Long term successful adult relationships require both parties to have good communication skills and a genuine commitment to making things work. I think a lot of people just get hooked on limerance and bounce around between semi long term relationships once they feel like the sparkle wear off, regardless of if they are truly compatible or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 08:26 PM
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That's not even kind of true. Socialization is about sharing resources and forming communities. What your describing is a predatorial system.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 08:17 PM
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Totally depends on the type of bear.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 07:14 PM
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The whole idea of settling is kind of disgusting. Quantifying people worth seems like a pretty immature and childish mindset. If you really think you are more "valuable" than your partner, you probably have some unchecked narcissistic traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 07:08 PM
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Yup, honestly people will run around all day trying to play "pin the tail on the gender" but honestly, I think as a whole we've backslid pretty seriously. It's unrealistic but I just wish everyone would approach these types of issues with a shred of self-improvement and not blame. I think COVID / lockdown was an accelerant to that as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 07:05 PM
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Such a based post. I've worked as a bouncer and Security on some very fucked up streets. Haven't had a gun pulled on me but I've had several knives and been jumped by groups more then once. My number 1 self defense tip? Don't put yourself in bad situations in the first place. My number 2 tip? Have good cardio. There isn't really a winner in a street fight, best case scenario you beat the shit out of some random guy. Number 3 Tip? If you have to fight, don't fight fair. Ideally you have either so…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 06:58 PM
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What is this even supposed to mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 06:51 PM
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I think that's pretty unlikely, given the fact that concentration of testosterone is probably a significant factor in physical assault. Men are generally just more violent, and that feels like a fact more than a discussion, at least from an evo-bio perspective. But regardless, I think the margins are a lot narrower than people / society would like to view it and certainly higher than what crime statistics would suggest. Anecdotally I was physically abused intensely by my sister and my mother unt…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 06:47 PM
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I actually agree with most of what you are saying here. And if we are going with a more literal definition, the criteria that you've laid out for "feminism" is quite good. Still there are some details I don't necessarily agree with, but the focus on tangible empowerment of women should be the core of the ideology. That's actually why I normally make sizeable donation every year to a charitable organization that empowers girls and young women in third world countries. Regardless, I'm not really t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 05:53 PM
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I guess It would very much depend on your definition of feminist, but in terms of my experience? I live in a very liberal city, so I would say 90-95% of women I interact with openly identify as feminist. And generally I feel like women's issues / feminist topics are things they would frequently bring up. But again, that not might fit your / a stricter definition here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 02:38 PM
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Lmao then you haven't looked far enough. I've met plenty of Women who are pro-circumcision for both their partner and a major driving force for their children as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 05:18 AM
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If we're going on pure anecdotal experience, I disagree then.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 06:23 PM
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Totally, and keep in mind I'm definitely not suggesting people just let an abusive relationship continue. I just feel you owe it to your kids to give it a legitimate chance to try and fix relationship issues, and not just jump ship the second your feelings get hurt. Lately it just seems no one ever wants to work on themselves and relationships, and pretty much the only advice is to immediately give up, which is sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 05:08 PM
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Exactly, and frankly it was clear he had an issue with us right from the beginning. And really, It wasn't like my mother didn't love us either, but she was just so infatuated with him and couldn't ever see how fucked up he is and was. Luckily I'm not one to hold onto baggage, so I did pretty damn okay but still. But the way he and my mother treated my sister was totally unacceptable, and I don't think they themselves can really ever understand. My only regret is not being their for her more. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 04:09 PM
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Okay, with that clarification then I actually tend to agree. I guess, I've just lost context to how much has changed really in the last 25 years because you are right.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 03:29 PM
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Based take. I'm just surprised how many people constantly seem to put their own wellbeing as paramount over their own children. Outside of fringe abusive cases, I'm shocked more people don't at least try to make it work for the sake of their children. To me it always feels like making the choice to have a child puts some responsibility on you that may infact come at some cost to your happiness. If you don't like that deal? Don't have children.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 03:25 PM
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That's just untrue. While not common I had a friend whose parents stayed in a non-sexual aromatic relationship just to raise him. He was adopted so in some ways I think they felt even more responsible for him, so maybe that factored in. While I do agree not everyone could do that, it's just not true it doesn't happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 03:21 PM
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Not actually as hot of a take. I had a friend once who was adopted, and his parents fell out of love with each other. However, they made the rare decision on to stay together for him until he left for university and were very proactive and civil about in. I actually think, if you are making the active choice to have a child it's not totally unreasonable to put aside your own happiness to raise them, all within reason. To go against the grain, I had my mother divorce my father when I was around 8…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 03:18 PM
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Honestly? Just small things go a long way. I don't need big gestures but just anything small to make me feel appreciated goes a long way. Hell, even feigning interest while I go off on a philosophical or technical rant about some weird obsession I have.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 05:39 AM
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Not going to say it's common for sure, but I'm surprised since I've heard at least 6 or so women refer to themselves that way. No shame though, it's just a preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 10:43 PM
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Yeah, I think so, but I think you would need to work around some baseline tendencies men and women have. I think the biggest issue is you would need to curate people's interactions way more in a match maker style. Maybe you could poll people on their interests / hobbies, and setup some interactions with them beforehand. If not, I think it would just lead to men either harassing women, or most women going after 1-2 guys at the event. I don't think people are even that good judges of what's best f…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 10:17 PM
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So, I've worked as a bouncer for a few summers and I've been kicked out of many, many, many bars when I used to be an alcoholic. I have some insider knowledge. Reality is, at most places you're far more likely to get kicked out of bars as a group of guys. What they are doing is trying to keep the ratio decent at the bar. Guys are also just more trouble. It's sadly a pretty common industry practice, and super common in certain cities compared to others.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 03:44 PM
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Can't say I disagree. People will waffle about whether this is fair or what not, but that doesn't matter really. Although look, I totally agree it's rejection sucks and it is pretty one side. But It's pretty much expected for men to make the first move, so if you want to be romantically successful as a man you should bite that bullet. But try and learn the difference between harassment and approaching someone, you don't need to go all in and it's fine to test the waters. Also be realistic, if yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 03:32 PM
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I think looks are the most important factor for like 90% of all relationships, even more so going forward. Our society has leaned into hyper vanity, and I'm doubtful it will change.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 03:26 PM
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Dumb question, men aren't a monolith.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 03:20 PM
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Username checks out
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 03:17 PM
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Everyone seems to ignore the fact that luck and circumstance are probably the most important factors in driving relationships for average people.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 03:14 PM
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I strongly believe that's great advice, but reality is something like 60% of relationships start through work.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 03:12 PM
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Very true, and very based.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 02:45 PM
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As someone who's traveled a lot, I think location makes a pretty major difference. Even inside north America, some people act like you are intruding from just say "hello" while in other cities you can't walk a minute without striking up a conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 10:34 PM
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Yeah, that's always irked me about the "I'm not your therapist" line. I'm sure plenty of guys trauma dump which sucks, but most women trauma dump as well. It doesn't seem that gendered to me, and if anything tilted away from men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 10:29 PM
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So, I remember reading a paper the corroborates this idea quite a lot. The general idea was that women actually have a much more difficult time sensing who is physically dangerous when compared to men. It was theorized that evolutionarily and socially men significantly more likely to get into conflict with another men, so being hyper aware of who's physically dangerous is an advantageous trait.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 10:24 PM
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Cool that's totally beside the point. Really, it's just more proof you suck at communication
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 10:18 PM
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Honestly, you should really just limit your mental bandwidth thinking about them at all. It's pretty likely they have some pretty major underlaying baggage in one way or another, but there nothing you can do about it. In a sense, they did "use" you and by the sounds of it they will try to "use" you again whenever they are feeling either nasty or hell maybe even lonely again. But really? None of this matter to you. All you can do is focus on yourself, realize that none of this was your fault comp…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 10:16 PM
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Just to point out too, not all women are DEI candidates in tech. For a while I worked at a small startup that had just an okay gender balance (like 3-1), but some of the most brilliant women I've ever worked with. Realistically though the merit issues show up if you try and balance it 1-1, since statically it's unlikely for there to be a big enough of a talent pool to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 10:04 PM
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I don't fully disagree with your premise. But it seems a little too dogmatic to be a healthy approach and I think some small nuance would go a long way. Sure, you shouldn't have to nag someone to get them to do the basics that are expected. But I think your overall outcomes in relationships would be better if you communicated more and tried to understand people aren't perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 09:56 PM
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That's such BS. Good lovers should also be good communicators. Sure, there shouldn't be a play-by-play walkthrough each time. But getting to the point where you are fully in tuned with each other desires and needs requires good communication full stop. I can tell you having to do tons of mind reading to figure what gets a woman off isn't a good experience. Frankly It's sounds like you aren't a very good lover.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 09:53 PM
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I think if you can be introspective at all, you can look back on actions you willingly took that sabotaged your past relationships. I know I didn't behave or act the way I should have, especially when I was much younger. From my experience I don't really think you'll always be "told" about issues, but learning to read the room is really important, listening to your gut feeling and always taking the high road. Now actually fixing / addressing those issues is the hard part, and frankly sometimes e…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 09:45 PM
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Understood, and I'm sorry you had to go through all of that. So, from everything that you said here, your Ex sounds like they are a pretty shitty / selfish person. That's mostly just from the fact that they feel the need to keep reaching out to continue to rub your face in the situation, which is cruel and sadistic behavior. Although of course I couldn't diagnose them here, I can pretty confidently say that type of behavior is abnormal at least. Generally, a dumper will either completely forget …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 09:38 PM
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This is a pretty good take, frankly you can pretty easily tell that you are on the ropes when then tone of your conversations start to shift. Trying to save an already failed relationship feels so much worse then ending it, at least in my experience. However, I wouldn't say it's as simple as not listening always, sometimes that's absolutely true and I know I've had relationship fail fully on my part. But other times the death of a relationship is totally outside your control, namely dealing with…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 09:19 PM
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Sorry if this is inappropriate but, how do you know all this? Did your Ex still reach out and talk to you? Or did you just gather all this information online?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 09:12 PM
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Alright I tend to lean yes then.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 01:27 AM
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Hey I like this one, a lot. So overall? I would say I don't have enough information to really say yes or no. For me the biggest piece of the puzzle I'm missing their character. Are they Loyal? Do I feel they are genuinely attracted to me? Do their goals / aspirations align with me at all? Those are probably the most important aspects of considering someone for a long-term relationship for me. But walking through the points, Humor is pretty important to me; IQ is nice but it's unrealistic to expe…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 08:02 PM
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I too say, fuck the cancer kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:42 PM
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Well, it's more "Therapy can work for men." There is plenty of medical evidence highlighting the issues therapy has pertaining to men when compared to women, and currently there are plenty of medical professionals who are advocating for this type of change right now. But right now, men are underrepresented and underserved in the psychiatric community.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:40 PM
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Honestly, I think the situation actually isn't that complex. What people are really doing is just using hierarchies as an ad hoc justification for their bigoted behavior. That is, they feel compelled to behave in a discriminatory manor (Maybe even because of their lived experience), but don't want the social stigma that comes along with acting bigoted. Factor in that most people don't see themselves as the "bad guy", so they back-reason away that cognitive dissonance. It's 2024, it should be obv…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:22 PM
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F) Shit myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:53 PM
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Not jerking it at all has been demonstrated to tank Testosterone levels. Who knows maybe he just need needs to jerk it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:51 PM
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while women's problem with taken advantage of/led on/left by their partners/abuse/higher incidence of sexual violence and harassment is an orange If we are just comparing general aspects of the dating market I mostly agree here. But I don't really agree women are led on or left by the partners anymore than men are. In the context of this thread, I'm really just commenting on the differences between neurodivergent men and women. Regardless, I would tend to think those are more just issue with dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:47 PM
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So, I don't fully disagree, and I've been in a similar situation as well. But that leads us into a more philosophical debate, whether "it's better to have loved and lost or to have never loved at all". I think the answer to that question is very personal and subjective, and really even despite how bad some of my past relationships ended I still tend to side on the "to have loved" side of the argument most days. But really here I'm just more talking about it in a pragmatic and tangible sense. It'…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:38 PM
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is not a coincidence. I assure you it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:18 PM
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Obviously, that's why I used a hyperbolic example to highlight the flaw in your logic. Sure, we can pull it back and find an arbitrary line where something is "Bad enough" that you're willing to overlook it, but the example is to show your fundamental reasoning is flawed.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:17 PM
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Frankly, I’ve seen it where whatever you have you feel is more painful, so if you aren’t getting dates you think that’s more painful. If you were in relationships and losing them, you feel that’s more painful. I totally agree. But here's the rub: You can still choose to not get into relationships. You have both sides of the coin, I really can't see how some one can argue it's worse. But I'm not going to deny it's still bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:15 PM
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My sister in Christ, it's a two day old post. You just at the top now so it's the first comment I saw.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:13 PM
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That is actually such a bad take. Let push that theory further, would you care if they were secretly a serial killer, but you never found out?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:07 PM
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I would totally bite that bullet and agree to do it, hell I've had like half my relationships want to go through my phone. I have nothing to hide, and if it provides them a sense of security, really what is the harm on my end?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:05 PM
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I mean, that's just what people do here. While I think the dating market is pretty bad for everyone right now, which gender has it worse is definitely a matter of opinion, and let's be frank, personal biases.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 05:46 PM
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I don't fully disagree, but really I think it's more of an "apples vs no apples" situation, sure apples can be great but both groups still want oranges. However to me it still seems like even looking at long term relationships exclusively, autistic / neurodivergent men are still just worse off, but the differences aren't quite ad exaggerated. You can't really ignore that casual relationship are at least a path to possible long term relationships. But to your point, I would still agree that you'l…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 05:41 PM
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I really don't think women are into depressed men at all. Maybe the "idea" of an emo boy twink, yeah sure. But being attracted to depressed men in reality? Nah dawg. But you can draw parallel to that with the goth bipolar GF 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 05:31 PM
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Actually there no way you can even really compare the mental illness themselves really. From my understanding certain mental disabilities present themselves drastically different women comparing men and women. I'm not sure that true for all of them, but in particular I know bipolarism is significantly different in men. So fundamentally the comparison are somewhat invalidated
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 05:27 PM
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Right, but I doubt women would stick around longer in that situation compared to men. And face it, it is just worse to have no access to short term AND long term relationships. 30% of a relationship is still better then 0%.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 05:24 PM
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the "ick"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 03:49 PM
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Sorry bad comma placement. I'd say it's 85% looks lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 02:40 PM
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Flirting and simping are asymmetric ideas...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 03:01 PM
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Yeah I'd love to see a source for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 05:05 PM
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An infinite amount of good, justifies an infinite amount of violence. Hmmm, great ideology can't see any fundamental flaws in that. I'm sure it will work this time.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 05:04 PM
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Flirting is 85% looks, 10% Confidence, and 5% everything else
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 04:54 PM
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That's kind of proof it was a good suggestion.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 04:10 PM
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Lmao surprised to see that many people deny something that's basically a statistical fact. That was a good one ngl
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 04:01 PM
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I'm not 100% sure it's gender exclusive, because this type of thing happens to women too. But for me, she cheated on me, started a relationship with the new guy, left me with a lease and shared debt, abandoned her cat with me, and then shit-talked me to all her friends painting me in a terrible light highlighting all my darkest most embarrassing qualities. This left me broke, responsible for a pet and lease, and isolated right at the start of the pandemic. It got so bad one of her original frien…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 07:14 PM
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Yeah, that's bait. Gr8 B8 M8, 8/8
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 08:20 PM
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While true, I disagree its just apps. If you're that attractive it will trickle down to pretty much all aspects of dating, especially as a guy. Legitimately every single woman I knew would make a pass at him.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:32 PM
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Yes. I put it in quotations because it's not really actually value. It's just very attractive people I'm referring too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:27 PM
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Why tell them at all? Just do it in private. It's a totally non invasive procedure so there isn't really a moral requirement here to disclose it if you don't want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:42 PM
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That's insanely an insanely fucked thing to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:39 PM
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Not to weigh in on the argument at large here, but I would like to point out that alcohol is a psychoactive drug and works on mechanisms greater then simply just lowering inhibitions. I'm mostly chiming in because I've seen this dangerous idea floated around quite a few times, and it's really just not true. Alcohol will in fact on occasion cause people to do things they would not have other wise, and this is actually just an indisputable fact. If you want me to expand on this I can.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:34 PM
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I mean it's also not binary and that's why I kinda hate this conversation. It's probably fine if not a good thing to have had few casual random partners in the past. It's not good to be totally celibate until marriage or sleep with hundreds of random people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:26 PM
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Exactly. It's kinda silly to say, but this guy was also just super popular and likable in general to pretty much everyone. Turns out what makes someone likable isn't as gendered as you would think.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:15 PM
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I think It depends on how "high value" the guy is too, I know a few "high value" guys that are just flooded with date requests / hookup proposals despite barely even knowing these people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:10 PM
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I don't think you are 100% incorrect but I think it's a pretty surface level take. I'm sure the cheating is partially a socialized behavior and partially a driven biological behavior. From a sex drive standpoint, gay men have the most sex out of any chort and gay women have the least (even less then hetro couples in fact.) So you would expect more cheating if we assume sex drive as a factor, despite the relationship integrity.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:08 PM
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I'm not taking the bait on this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:03 PM
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I actually don't think this is quite as unreasonable as you proposed (although I get the point of the absurd hypothetical). I know quite a few couples with baggage where one has full access to the others phone, or something similar. I've never been in that situation but I don't think it would be a total deal breaker for me. While I agree it's not ideal for sure, some people have damage over being hurt in the past and as long as the behavior doesn't step into controlling I don't see offering them…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 05:50 PM
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Mandatory? Nah probably not. But they should just make it a blind opt in option a guy can take without the mother knowing or not. That allows to get around the stigma while also not creating any relationship stress.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 05:43 PM
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Technical it's once per the babies lifetime
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 05:39 PM
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God forbid a guy gets taken advantage of...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 05:36 PM
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In a ideal world it should be equal to a responsible extent. But unfortunately this isn't an ideal world, and both sexes go into dating with pretty different ideal (of course there are exceptions). So for practical advice I'd suggest offer to pay but don't be pushy about it. Especially on first dates, second / third dates are a bit up in the air and that starts to set prescient. But frankly even in long term relationship I can count on one hand the number of times I've had a women pay for it all…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 05:32 PM
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In what way arranged? I would say a pretty hard no for the most part. But, ask me again in 10 years lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 05:27 PM
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Nope, sorry if that wasn't clear. Just riffing on what you were saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 08:08 PM
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Men and women can 100% be friends, and not believing that shows you have limited life experience in this topic. Ex's can be another topic, but generally I would say for most people this isn't a good idea to remain intimate friend with an ex. It's tricky because it's not having friends that an issue for anyone, it's having intimate and close relationships with someone who's a potential partner that becomes an issue and frankly borders on infidelity. As an outside party it's always so obvious when…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 11:16 PM
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Alpha males aren't real. That's why.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 11:07 PM
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I actually have a look behind the curtain on this one, since I know quite a few people in health care policy (and pretty much all my family is major players in health care). From my understanding, most of it comes down to the type of people who makes said policies and their biases. Most of these policy makers are older people who own home, have families, and are in generally good economic positions. But from what I've heard, most are at least aware of who they are marginalizing / not supporting …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 11:05 PM
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Not really a conversation I want to get into but, Empathy, Compassion and Nurturing are far more likely to be negatives in this type of situation. Order, strong leadership and decisiveness are far more important. In trying times, it's better to have a decisiveness and strong leadership then a leader who listens to everyone but can't give direction or adhere to their choices. (Historically, this is the justification for refusing elections in times of total war.) But really this is an absurd hypot…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:52 PM
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That's true, I'm conflating "punishment" with negative outcomes. But for my health care example, those are debilitate choices made by governing bodies. Defacto they assume you have someone in your life to help you, which isn't true for everyone. But really, I'm again conflating being totally isolated with single.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:48 PM
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I wonder what all those men here who claim all women have lots of serious options for men and cannot be really lonely, would say to that. That's actually a really good and refreshing point. I would doubt that they would really internalize it, and most likely they would just say something about "Alphas fuck and women want 10% of men". I think more emotionally mature women and men aren't really as divided as the internet would like us to think, and I think both groups struggle with the same issues…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:42 PM
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There's no way castration is a form of harm reduction at all. In a moral vacuum I don't think retribution is totally ridiculous, but we simply don't have the ability to be certain someone is totally guilty of the crimes they've been accused of committing, and even punishing 0.5% of people with some inhumane mutilation is too much. That's the same reason I'm against the death penalty full stop, and most people are really. Although pushed to its extremes, in scenarios like the Nuremberg trials whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:21 PM
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Women in general? Or women on the show. Generally it seems men are far more likely to enjoy bushcraft and survival skills as a hobby, so selecting from a generic sample it feels like the men should do better. Men in general tend to be a bit more physically capable so that would tilt it in their favor as well. But we are talking about lots of variance if you were to select similar cohorts from each sexual demographic.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:03 PM
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Yeah, this is unhinged schitzo talk. Let's just settle for funding the crap out of sexual education and contraceptives.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:00 PM
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Historically I would actually agree with you 100%, but I really believe ever since sometime in the early 2010's we started living in a brave new world. This could just be because I'm terminally online, but you can completely still get away with calling a man as many relationship status insults as you want. Virgin, Incel, Beta, ect. Flipping the gender with these insults feels like it would result in way more social backlash. Ultimately though this could just be because it's just generally more a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 09:47 PM
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I don't think really Men are uniquely punished for being single, outside of maybe some cultural / social aspects. I would say men also generally have less safety nets offer to them though. Either tangible safety nets like shelters, or social safety nets like family and friends. However, I would argue people in general are punished for not pairing up. Most health care system assume you have either a family or partner to assist you, and just finically in north America things are way worse for sing…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 09:39 PM
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I still like to have some fun here and there, don't get me wrong. But at some point, it just gets exhausting and frankly it's very bad for your health. But really, I started quite young with drinking, partying, sex, and drugs at around 15. So I've had ample time to grow out of it. I used to date a late bloomer who got into more "mature" stuff in her mid 20's, and it seems like people who go that route develop less healthy relationships with that kind of lifestyle, as far as I know she still bing…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 09:34 PM
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Honestly, that's great advice really. There are economic factors that do come into play, since everything is just so expensive if you are single. And really it seems like it's going to get worse, really you can't find fulfillment if you are destitute. But if we put that aside, I think a lot of men would be significantly happier if they put less weight and importance on their relationship status. It's tricky since some of the stress is personal, but a big part of it is cultural / social as well. …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 09:22 PM
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Even making like 95k a year I'm seriously considering looking for some roommates, but really, it's hard to find working professionals that have a relative lifestyle to mine. Seem like most people I know who aren't paired off are still deep in their partying phase. Being 29 I figured more people would have matured out of that by now. And contrary to the popular opinion of dating as a man, someone's income / aspirations are actually extremely important to me. I simply can't afford to take care of …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 09:15 PM
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10'000% Agree with this. I've seen it happen so many times with friends, and really that's when I knew that one of my relationships was basically over before I got dumped few days later via text. Frankly a telltale sign as well is a drastic unprompted change in appearance, really more so if the SO wasn't informed or consulted beforehand.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 06:26 PM
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Abs are really just a reflection of how lean you are, and a bit of abdominal genetics. Realistically, you stay lean in the kitchen and not in the gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 06:16 PM
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Here's a great video to watch on this topic. (current worlds strongest man). Either you do just have a very very low lack of muscle, or just have more body fat that you think. Women in General have a much harder time getting shredded though since you naturally have like 5-10% more body fat. So outside of PEDs it's very hard to get a swole look and in general harder for ectomorph women to put on muscle in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 06:11 PM
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I've mostly dated Bisexual women, and frankly it's never been a problem. Really outside of one situation where she had a friend that was a radfem and clearly had problem with me and our monogamous relationship. Pretty sure she was just jealous though. But it's not like I haven't had similar issues with ex GF's and their hetro friends trying to sabotage our relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 06:38 PM
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If they've cheated before, that's 100% a red flag. But generally? Look at the company they keep. If most of their friends seem like cheaters, they most likely are as well. Avoid people who are alcoholics or party an unreasonable amount. Also avoid people that are overly flirty and seem to act socially inappropriate with people that could be potential partners. Purely clinically too, look at what demographics they are in. 20–30 year-old women and 30–40 year-old men are the most "at risk". Althoug…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 06:32 PM
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What the fuck is a "real man"? lol. Seriously, who gets to decide this. If it's you, then why?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 06:13 PM
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I don't think gender has nearly as much to do with this as you think. Being cold approach by ugly women is basically the same as ugly men. The issue is more men would be considered ugly by the majority of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 06:09 PM
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It takes high intelligence to disassociate sex from your relationship with somebody. Nobody who is high intelligence refers to themselves like this. I'm genuinely not trying to be mean, but this is basically a walking example of the dunning Kruger effect. Trying to rationalize emotional relationships with logic, isn't high intelligence. (And frankly I find even referring to someone's "intelligence" generally is kind of embarrassing since it's such a spectrum and totally nonqauntifiable.) Totally…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 06:08 PM
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I only bouncer for one summer, but this 100% was my experience as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 05:43 PM
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So as someone who used to frequently get black-out drunk, I think the issue is actually really obvious. Alcohol isn't always metabolized the say way, and really in fact Alcohol is pretty Damm similar to a date rape drug itself. Especially for women who on average have significantly smaller livers, two over poured drinks and a lack of a meal beforehand can lead to a massive difference in blood alcohol level. Speed, potency, and uptake are all massive factors in how drunk you can get. I could drin…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 05:40 PM
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Honestly doesn't sound like you've walked away if you care that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 05:26 PM
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Yeah, it would depend significantly on what level we are talking about here. Honestly, I would even go as far as to say most would / could enjoy external stimulation. Pretty much every partner I've had has, but that's anecdotal. Defiantly way less would be into full penetration understandably so lol. The issue is it would be a very hard thing to study due to the mentioned taboo aspect. Generally, for this type of topic men over report and women under-reported in self-reported surveys. But lookin…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 05:17 PM
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Yeah, it's not most for sure but I would say like 20-25%. Self-reported surveys wouldn't be a great resource due to the inherent shame / taboo nature of the topic, but looking at something like porn tag preferences in Women? Anal is normally like the 4th-6th most popular. (Which of course has its own issues, fantasy vs reality.) fewer women than men who enjoy anal Which is also backed up by the tag preferences data, being the 2nd - 3rd most popular tag for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 04:54 PM
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Honestly this is one of the worst examples. Looks at the differences in reporting in men vs women. "Female Teacher has sex with male student" and "Male teacher rapes female student". Now factor in sentencing disparity...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 06:15 PM
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That totally depends on demographic and location. I would say it's more challenging in younger demographics in westernized countries, vanity is largely becoming a major driving factor. But to your point, I would admit it's certainly not the majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 05:47 PM
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I'm sure you are onto something, since really arousal and attraction are pretty obviously linked. It's pretty interesting because I don't know think I've ever thought of it like this, but it's kinda feeling pretty obvious now. And of course I wouldn't say there aren't steadfast rules either way. Just tendencies with many exceptions. I've definitely had women come onto me totally out of nowhere that I've barely interacted with. And I'm sure many men wouldn't be enthusiastic to freak it as others.…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 05:40 PM
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I lived in a home by myself and are responsible for all the chores. Outside tasks are far more labouring but sure they are less frequent. But let me guess, you live in a place without snow?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 05:30 PM
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I've actually always thought grooming your pubic hair is kinda just hygienic. It's unfair women are expected to and men aren't, but you don't stop washing your hands because someone else doesn't. You ask them to start washing their hands too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 05:28 PM
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I would say it's very much a "dosage makes the poison" situation. In fact I think a very minor amount is pretty healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 05:20 PM
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It's an interesting perspective for sure, but from many discussions I've had with likeminded friends it kind of feels like it sometimes works in reverse to that for many men including myself. I can instantly tell if I'm physically attracted to someone, and counterintuitively often more unique and 'flawed' looking women have an even stronger initial attraction. I think it has something to do with how striking a unique looking person is that is beautiful outside of conventional norms. Conversely, …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 05:07 PM
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Arrogant and creepy isn't ugly and confident, arrogant is more in line with obnoxious and loud. Being ugly is a factor for sure, but plenty of ugly men are quite successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 04:59 PM
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Wait... are Women people??? I thought all women were apart of some sort of pseudo hive mind monolith. /s Jokes aside, I think that's were a lot of bad assumptions come from. Of course, there are some women attracted to men with shitty abusive behavior, but there is just as many if not far more that are not. Really, it's pretty obvious since you see the same behavior in some men who are attracted to damaged women with toxic personality traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 04:58 PM
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I'd really argue confidence isn't a key factor but rather Charisma. And yeah, people can really misconstrue confidence with a bolstering and cocky attitude which most people will simply find grating and loud.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 04:56 PM
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I really don't think that's true at all really. I think confidence plays such a major factor you see total messes of men still manage to do pretty good. I think you can be either Ugly or Incompetent, but not both.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 04:53 PM
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Yeah, I actually have a few Ausie mates from Sydney, and I would say from what I've seen your right. I think downtown core Van City is a bit worse, but Sydney tends to be worse overall. It does get a lot better with a roommate or more ideally a partner. I'm also assuming you guys are taxed similar, because my premiums + tax eat like 40%+ of my take home. Can't say I'll ever be buying a home here, and doubtful I'll stay in Canada past 2028.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 08:32 PM
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Yeah, and I'm being a bit dramatic. I do okay and have a decent amount of savings. But it's crazy making that much and still feeling behind. Vancouver is a bitch right now and I would leave if I didn't have elderly family.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 08:21 PM
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Homes cost above 1 million dollars where I live and the average rent of a 1 bedroom is 2.5k even in the projects. I live in Vancouver for reference. The government also takes like 45% of my take home instead of helping too lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 08:17 PM
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That's pretty epic ngl. I make over 100k a year and basically can't afford to live without roommates
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 06:26 PM
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Very true. Frankly I've kinda held the theory gender isn't even the critical part of why women are treated the way they are. Really it's looks and attractiveness. I don't think very unattractive women are treated much differently then average men. And to an extent I think very attractive men are actually treated more similarly to attractive women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 05:34 PM
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I don't like it either, but it's probably an intrinsic drive in some people they can't really control. Like most fetishes really. And it's definitely weird, but ultimately pretty socially acceptable and I doubt that will change in our current social climate. Just being realistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 05:30 PM
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For healthy adjusted people your are 100% right. That is, some people have an unhealthy attraction to risky behaviors which isn't really congruent with a healthy relationship. Like having sex with a guy you just met in bathroom after snorting coke, or multiple guys in one night.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 05:27 PM
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I'm not going to o disagree with people having different taste. But there is a massive difference between not being specially attracted to someone and calling Margo Robbie unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 09:08 PM
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Identifying patterns cannot tell if these patterns arise from genetic differences, bio developmental differences (hormones, etc) or social differences. Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 08:31 PM
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Good points, and an interesting perspective from your work in the ICU. Currently, I don't work much with the general public, so it's always helpful to get more grounded perspectives. Really, I think I tend to conflate hard science and maths with intelligence more but that's just my own bias creeping in. And going back through the thread, it's not like were are talking about a genius here but Joe Schmo who thinks masks were some sort of deep-state plot. What about your education do you think repe…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 08:17 PM
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Not my thing, but whatever if people want to do it. I'm sure it makes some people happy and some people unhappy. The only issue I see, is that it needs to be in the inception of a relationship. Opening up an existing relationship is going to end in disaster 98% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 08:00 PM
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What the fuck is a white pill. Also are we talking about liberal as the insult for far-left progressives or the actual ideology? I'm confused. *Nevermind, looked it up. The tankie alert has been trigged. Imagine unironically thinking liberalism is bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 07:36 PM
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I think there are a few things at play here. The most obvious factor is it is a coping mechanism to deal with drastically asymmetrical levels of social standing / baseline attractiveness. Additionally, there is most likely a psychological bias to reject someone who most certainly will reject you. This again, cognitively protects them from devaluing their personal self worth. Mix in that it's always fun to be nay-sayer and go against the grain. Finally, and anecdotally I do find people who are ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 07:28 PM
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Once someone is 24+ age gaps should really be a problem. The issue is really power dynamics, and frankly some people still act like children late into their 30's anyways. Relationships should be balance, at least in their inception.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 07:06 PM
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I don't really think we disagree on the ideas rather just the definition of what a crush is. I tend to see a crush as more of an action while you see it as a feeling and reality is somewhere probably in the middle. But the point I'm trying to make is feeding into these behaviors is what is bad not just having the feelings in the first places. With that said, I do think people ignore the active role they take when fostering these feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 07:03 PM
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I actually don't disagree at all, but I was mostly just talking about trends rather than hardfast rules. In fact, I would actually argue that medical professional is often one of the cohorts with the best overlap of "traditional" intelligence and social intelligence. Lawyers being close a runner up. But compare it to something like Computer science or Physics and good luck. However, I'm not really convinced understanding of psychology actually helps emotional intelligence at all, and I do some c…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 07:00 PM
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Feelings are instinctive and intrinsic, and aside from people with extremely great mastery over their mind-body, you cannot really control how you feel about something. I totally agree with you there and I think we are on the same page. But to "crush on someone" seems like an action to me, and being aware of the slippery slope you put yourself in by behaving a certain way is mature and responsible. Feeding into these ideas with more interaction does not suppress the urges but rather grows them p…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 06:49 PM
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No, you can't date down and not be superficial. Frankly, because it's not a tangible metric but rather a superficial aesthetic based off a arbitrary criteria. Even quantifying someone's "worth" like that is pretty horrible and dehumanizing. If you ever feel like you are dating down, do your partner a favor and break up with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 06:33 PM
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I would be careful putting too much value into the shrink's Kryptonite comment. But yeah, I couldn't imagine dating someone who thinks that vaccines are made out of aborted babies lmao. I've dated a that was person significantly dumber than me and it's an awful feeling trying to not treat them like an idiot when you ultimately kind of have to. I think for men and women alike, relatively high "traditional" intelligence tends to lead to relatively poor social skills. There are exceptions of course…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 06:18 PM
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Totally disagree. It's like a fire ban. Sure, a small fire in theory might not cause any risk, but in practical terms people let that fire grow to large until you can no longer stop the firestorm of problems it has caused. It's also just immoral to lust after a taken person, for several reasons. It disregards their autonomy in the situation, and it disregards their partners autonomy in the situation. I'm not going to ever chastise someone for bad behavior, but if you are going to do some dirt ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 06:05 PM
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Public Sex / Violent sex kinks, Saviour complex / holier than though attitude, and any sort of ideological extremism. The biggest most common one of all though, is bitching about their SO in an inappropriate flirty manor to me. I flat out refuse to be anyone monkey branch since it's pretty amoral, but it shows you what your future will look like with this person when they feel that way about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 05:34 PM
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While I don't consume much of this type of content, I have dabbled due to algorithmic doom scrolling. So, excuse any misinterpretations of said content. Generally, I think people are actually great at identifying problems. And right now, for young men, there are pretty significant issues they experience that don't have many advocates outside of red-Pillers. I'm not sure what has caused this negligence, but it is most likely a cultural issue, and the fact young people can't be advocates for thems…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 05:29 PM
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A couple things, first off you can't really understand why she lost attraction to him. I'm not going to disagree his personality may be a factor since I simply don't have that context, but I'm also not sure you really have enough information about the situation to really understand yourself. In both men and women, I often see relationships fail really quickly once the mystery / chase is gone. Often people fall in love with the idea of someone and not actually the person. Second off, even if we p…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 05:01 PM
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It's crazy seeing some men think that Margo Robbie / Scar Joe isn't and insanely high, borderline delusional standard. Requiem for a Dream moment. Legitimately, I'd love to see what anything bring to the table. Aside from being chronically online.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 03:02 PM
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This doesn't actually map onto anything I've said. I'm not going to deny differences in in-group bias for different groups. I'm just pointing out it's a pretty common and demonstrably phenomenon. And to an extent you are misinterpreting the paper. The study did not demonstrate that men don't show this bias at all, it's just demonstrated to a remarkably then women. While this type of data is extremely useful and certainly trumps anecdote, keep in mind this is a hyper specific study that only incl…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 09:55 PM
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I'm not so sure about this, inaction while you have the power to take action is really just another form action, see the Trolley problem. But to an extent it is a sliding scale of severity given how costly the action would be to take.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 09:25 PM
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And white leftists are the only group that have an outgroup bias in regards to race. On this point, I tend to agree but only if you only define groups by raw definable characteristics (like race or gender). But in reality that's a pretty limited view on how groups form and I don't think immutable traits are require or really the operant factor. Even dynamic factors like age or income play a pretty powerful role.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 09:23 PM
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This concept can actually be scale up from something as small as a elementary school friend group, all the way up to massive like a whole coalition of nations. This principle seems pretty universal, but that doesn't mean particular groups don't lean into it slightly more or less. Again though, this ebs and flow with time as groups of people constantly change demographically and socially. Ultimately, I believe behavior is policed by super-groups that hold the most cultural / practical power at th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 08:33 PM
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Sure rich men shit on poor / unsuccessful men, but I'm not talking about rich and powerful men exclusively. In general, successful people are generally more type A so I think that trend is again pretty universal. Men clearly do defend other men's bad behaviors, hell look at this sub as an example. But regardless men don't have as much cultural power in the current cultural zeitgeist so the outcomes aren't as obvious or significant and the messaging isn't amplified the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 07:13 PM
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While at face value this is not untrue, keep in mind that's pretty much true of any in-group. Sex, Gender, Sexuality, race, and religion. Generally no in-group is that great at policing there own behaviors. Thats pretty universal. I think really though, groups that get attacked the most for the behaviors are the groups that lack cultural power currently. Which, to an extent isn't women right now, in comparison to men. But historically theses things do drastically change over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 07:00 PM
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You got em lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 05:55 PM
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Looks it's defiantly not 20%. Regardless, I don't think a percentage value is relevant seeing as it's most likely a reasonable enough subset of the population to discuss.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 08:02 PM
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Absolutely not! Truthfully that's a fundamental piece of what makes a liberal democracy works. Which honestly is kinda absurd but it seems like those protections have been sliding back on many fronts recently. (Looking at you America) I also think it's pretty bad as well when private businesses do it, but I'm more weak on that because there are some circumstances that seem fine in practice. Women's only gyms, ect. Some of it is intersectional as well where different groups rights might conflict …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 07:41 PM
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Didn't even know that was a thing. Looked it up and what the fuck, that's the shittiest moral position I've ever seen. And that's coming from a piece of shit weak rule utilitarian like myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 07:36 PM
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Would passing the cost along to the father, with offer confidentially change your opinion on this?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 07:31 PM
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I tend to agree with this line of argument. Really any time I here this topic brought up it really feels like this should be a service offered by default at hospitals with confidentiality, the government really doesn't need to be involved. Which in a lot of ways is already how it is, but it's should just be tweaked a bit. Although, in some areas the government actually bans this type of paternity testing which also seem a particularly awful position to take.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 07:28 PM
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While I agree child safety is paramount. This is a very draconian and terrible line of reasoning if you extend it. An absurd extension of this argument could it be, is it reasonable to execute someone if it had better outcomes for a particular child? The answer is obviously no. Where do you draw the line between a child's benefit and another person's suffering? And to answer your question: I believe everyone should play by the same rules, and while the outcome may be worse for the child the impa…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 07:25 PM
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Paternity fraud seems incredibly hard to criminalize and realistically it's probably not in the best interest for society to go that route. Testing seems incredibly cheap and reasonable in comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 07:21 PM
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It depends on the jurisdiction. Hell, in Frances it's outright illegal for a father to paternity test his child without consent from the mother as well for privacy reasons. Generally though, the issue is in quite a few legal jurisdictions just signing a birth certificate is enough to get you on the hook for child support indefinitely, even if you could prove the child is genetically not yours. Which could be up to 21+ years, again depending on where you live and what kind of legal representation…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 07:19 PM
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Nah, men do this too. Frankly, 80%+ of the population can't ever see themselves as the bad guys and will cognitivly distort situations to support this idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 06:22 PM
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I really disagree that women, at least in my age bracket (25-30) take up the majority of house work. That could be also due to where I live in Atlantic Canada, or just my personal experience. For my last 3 relationship I was both the "home maker" and the primary financial earner. And after discussing with many of my friends that's seems like a pretty common situation. I've actually had to leave one of my previous girlfriends since she simply was too much of a slob and expected me to do everythin…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 06:16 PM
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I legitimately can't think of a single circumstance for which being angry at a person is justified for them rejecting you. However I am sympathetic to people that are angry at their situation, but ultimately no one owes you anything in life and I think a lot of people would feel better if they accepted that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:07 PM
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While true, I don't think they would be nearly as focused around an immutable body characteristics which is a uniquely damaging insult.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 07:02 PM
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Also potato skins are absolutely packed with vitamins and minerals, notably potassium. Smaller potatoes have more surface area for skin, so it's safe to assume that goes even further. Purple potatoes are supposedly pack powerful antioxidants, and generally potatoes are very low on the glycemic index considering they are a starchy side. Assuming you aren't drenching them in butter, cheese and salt. Potatoes are an excellent choice. If anyone is looking for a great recipe, get some small yellow po…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 09:12 PM
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