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Yes, they are career driven because they want to be and have to be in expensive markets. That’s how it plays out for most women professionals. They are actually seen as a bit trashy or backwoods if they get married to young. That’s the reality in many progressive cities with lots of people working tech jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 07:57 AM
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I think part of this is we see two different realities. Come to Seattle, Portland, San Francisco, New York or DC. 30-40 yo professionals are hot! Including me 😆 I’d I were in Moose Knuckle, Georgia, population 15,000…I might have to go after the 25 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 05:47 AM
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Most women aren’t linguists and wouldn’t give two thoughts on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 05:42 AM
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Good point! There’s a lot of snake oil out there. Even on RP. I give advice but don’t have a ridiculously high N count. It’s more about bridging from the mindset of nerd to one of attracting women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 01:01 AM
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Why the dining hall? In the dorms right? With 30k students, can you eat at other dining halls in different dorms? Rotate dining halls, limit it in your own home dining hall, or don’t do the home dining hall at all.
/r/seduction05/09/21 12:53 AM
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What makes you think that there are decent 30+ guys waiting around to get married and start families? The post wall career women that I know all married and had kids with older men. In many cases divorced guys. Maybe the issue is that I don’t know many people who aren’t urban professionals, or few women who aren’t career minded. The women who aren’t - of course they have to play the find a rich husband game or just putz through life. In the most affluent metro areas, professional millennials get…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 10:33 PM
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What percent of the population would you consider alpha male? And no, you’re wrong about a dating/relationship coach being the same as a PUA. Not everything fits in one bucket. Pickup artists are cheesy superficial charlatans. Coaches teach you how to improve your life so you can date or hook up casually or attract a significant other.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 09:41 PM
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Women who are 30 -35 and relatively attractive can find a decent 30+ guy in a snap. Get married, have kids. If she’s 35+ and completely single, and wants kids, that’s tougher. The clocks is ticking and there’s only couple years to establish a relationship before she starts demanding kids. Which is not enough time for many guys. So maybe we’re not too far off here, we just see the “wall” for marriage/baby making happening at different ages. An age wall for an intimate relationships or casual enco…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 09:08 AM
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She’ll make babies with a 30 year old dude whose thinking more family thoughts. And No. There’s pickup artists and there’s relationship coaches. Pickup artists give you lame one-liners and tactics, how to be a fake alpha which a girl will see through. Coaches give you a holistic strategy on how to improve yourself and your understanding of women. You’re really quick to lump things black and white. I suppose the world is easier to understand when you overgeneralize.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 08:42 AM
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In what world does the 30 year old career woman have to settle, especially with a low value man? She can leave. She has until her late 30s to make babies. Men can learn how to be attractive and hard to attract the opposite sex. Our parents don’t each of us. Hollywood gives us a false version of how this works. Are used to be an borderline incel, I had to learn a lot about myself and women to start attracting women again. There are tons of guides and coaches that will tel you exactly what you nee…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 08:48 PM
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Are your arguments based on actual reality or online reality, what is posted in these forums? What you read among RP dipshits (not all are dipshits, many have great ideas) and the BS about the wall and 80/20 is victim mentality whining and doesn’t fit in the real Western world. I can’t speak for Asia, Africa and the Middle East and other developing parts of the world. I’ve lived in educated metro areas in the US and Europe. This might be the gap if you’re in a different culture. Or it could be t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 08:40 PM
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You, I, and everyone else on this board is smart enough to understand average and 1-10 scales. I put fat slobs in the 1-3 category. They aren’t average. Average could be slightly “curvy” or the bone structure of their face isn’t 9/10. Sometimes average girls have hot bodies but maybe a big friggen nose. Or they’re 5’11. Or they are cute but lack feminine sex appeal. Or they are a 5 and are overflowing with feminine sex appeal (Cleopatra was this.) A lot of attraction is how you hold yourself, mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 06:51 PM
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You need to be in command of yourself. That’s one person. To have a sense of purpose, to lead the conversation, lead the dating process. It starts with your own psychology. Once your inner strength grows, others take note and respect you more. It takes practice and sometimes therapy to get over feelings of inner weakness.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 04:51 PM
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If you're young and college educated you're not wife material. Because waifus don't go to college, take on debt, and learn to be difficult. Really? Seriously, what kool-aid are you drinking? 😆 Who wants a dumbass, uneducated wife or girlfriend who can’t function with other college educated people in social situations? Maybe certain men in third world countries. You can be a RP guy and still want your wife to be attractive and smart. Think about offspring - would you want your kids to inherit low…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 04:47 PM
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So let’s narrow down to reality for us. If you’re young, college educated and don’t live in a semi-rural shithole, your body fat is going to be less than “national average.” If you do live in those parts and are a highly intelligent nerd, detach from mommy’s bosom and gtf out. Since we’re taking statistics, what % of women are “sugar babies?” They are more or less prostitutes, right? Tell me, what %? You think that’s a generalized reality among healthy college educated women? Come on. A chubby d…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 07:27 AM
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Some average women can be slightly chubby. Some average women are not. Obese girls are not average. They are below average. We’re not talking about them here. Money helps…but it’s icing on the cake. Most girls won’t drop their panties for an average looking nerd with lots of money that behaves like a total antisocial nerd without social skills. THey need to feel the social capital, and they need to feel he’s in command. Those things take learning on a part of the man to attain and almost anyone …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 06:07 AM
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Meh- I live in a highly intelligent area, and it’s not so much the case. You’re generalizing a bit. However I do agree that incels are very intelligent, theoretical, and technical. They’re also self-absorbed and often trend Aspergers. Intelligence can get in the way of establishing a relationship. Emotional and social intelligence is needed for attracting women. And if you don’t have it, you need to put in the work to go get it. Your incentive is coochie. Lots of it. We live for $$, power and co…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 05:58 AM
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Yes. Go to the friggen grocery store or ball game or college campus or restaurant and see all the average looking dudes with wives, girlfriends or fwbs. I’m not talking about antisocial stink bombs that are afraid of women or intimacy, I’m talking average looking people in the 3-7 range on a 1-10 scale. Or you can ignore the avg dudes, and fixate on the 9s and 10s dating other 9s and 10s and think…ahh shit, I don’t have a chance, and confirm your bias. Btw…Girls at first glance who are 5s, 6s, 7…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 01:36 AM
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The 1950s just called, they wanted their antiquated mindset back.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 01:29 AM
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I agree 100%. People look for confirmation bias for their situation and believe it’s reality for the majority of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 01:28 AM
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Gay men don’t “turn gay.” They just are gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 10:13 PM
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The 80/20 rules is an exaggeration and gives incels another reason to feel sorry for themselves. Lots of average looking dudes have girlfriends and are comfortable with their masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 10:11 PM
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Nah-uh, shut up. 😤
/r/seduction25/08/21 08:39 AM
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I totally agree with that advice! 💯 “Nice tits” - he got very lucky if she responded to that. 9/10 girls won’t respond to it.
/r/seduction24/08/21 11:30 PM
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You don’t know that. Her interest may have been a 6 or 7, not quite enough to call. He can go back, flirt, banter, get her number, make a plan.
/r/seduction24/08/21 11:28 PM
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Spot on
/r/seduction24/08/21 11:27 PM
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It’s a great read! It contains real life examples from historical seducers. It’s ruthless and honest. It will definitely help your seductive headspace. The anti-seducer is probably the best chapter because behaviors that we’re all guilty of. But it’s so much better to read the rest as it shows you proactive ways of being that are attractive to women.
/r/seduction24/08/21 11:23 PM
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Whose your audience? For cold approach? I like your style is fine…but make it specific. Wow, you look amazing in those shoes—-did you just get them? “Hey, I saw you from across the room and had to come over and say…you’ve got the most beautiful eyes.” “Nice tits” —no, bro 😆
/r/seduction24/08/21 11:17 PM
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There was a time where you felt relaxed, clear headed and peace in silence for some time. There was also a time in your life where you felt free, light, joy and/or bliss, even for a moment. The shore and the sky. You can have both without anchors. After you drop the anchor, that doesn’t mean you go back to liking anchors, you avoid them. You think “I’m giving my attention and energy to the shore and sky now.”
/r/TheRedPill20/08/21 05:46 PM
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A minority of black people criticize BLM. I have issues with it too. But I’m careful not to let my confirmation bias distort my reality of what’s generally true. I like your anchor analogy better, actually! It’s slowly impeding you/drowning you as you try to move forward vs the fast burn of the coal. So a better frame to achieve serenity around this…unravel the anchor and swim to shore.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/21 05:29 PM
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Yeah this def fits the bill. Thanks 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 01:16 AM
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Uff. Tough mental break dude. I hope you don’t hold the same generalizations for cultures or races or sexual orientations; then you’d sound just like my 100 yo conservative German grandfather. I hope you settle to a point where you’re able to connect with a coach or therapist and work through this —-it’s quite the burden to carry through life. They say holding a resentment is like holding a hot coal in your hand waiting to throw it at someone. Put down the coal, you’re only burning yourself.
/r/TheRedPill19/08/21 09:26 PM
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That rings true. All couples can fight or go through cool spots. The love does feel conditional - but at what point during a cool spot or say an argument that causes a rift - at what point does that transition into “I can do better” and she falls out of love? And once they fall out of love, how soon do they get back if the guy gets his shit together and starts communicating the right cues?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 09:21 PM
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It sounds like you have PTSD based on your terrible experience with a conniving woman. That’s total shit and I get why you’re angry. However, your trauma is causing you to generalize that all women are terrible based on this experience with the woman that put you out of a job.
/r/TheRedPill19/08/21 08:46 AM
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How do women love if not connection?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 07:39 AM
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What is on here isn’t so controversial that they’ll ban us. I’ve only been on two weeks. There’s great advice about masculine and feminine energies and then there are those who post or respond resentfully about women. It’s a bummer that the incels have such a strong association with red pill. They’re not red pill. They’re just angry. They’re not even trying.
/r/TheRedPill13/08/21 04:17 AM
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Things have changed a lot since 2008. Also, your pics have to be top notch. That’s what you’re getting judged on. You don’t have to be great looking, the pics have to make you look sharp, purposeful and interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 05:54 PM
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Agreed. Anyone in their comfort zone will be less inhibited. In order to navigate environments where you’re not as comfortable in, it takes learning new skills, mindsets and practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 05:48 PM
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Haha. We’re all good. This is still a good lesson. I have to try and be better with the angry RPs. Best to get them on board instead of shame them into submission, that can be tough as I want to be right.
/r/TheRedPill10/08/21 07:10 AM
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I’m responding to SabanMiles post - women wanting to silence all men, destroy their sexuality, women will control the sexual market- that is utter conspiratorial bollocks. It’s not bitterly true. Maybe we are having a disconnect? Society resists the red pill whiners (angry failures) that can’t get laid and blame women instead of their own lack of ability. Some masculine ultra feminist women unconsciously don’t like that some RP guys cracked the code and know the playbook to seducing women. Other…
/r/TheRedPill10/08/21 06:03 AM
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Why do you think the above post is true? Women controlling the sex market? It’s bonkers shit dude. I’m really sorry if you’re incapable of getting laid. Blame yourself. There are plenty of betas, like myself, who have learned to drop alpha cues to do just fine with women. I’m in San Francisco. The feminist capital of the world. Even the the strong feminists (not extremists) don’t want passive, sexless men. They don’t want to fully dominate. They want equal playing ground. And they are turned on …
/r/TheRedPill10/08/21 04:13 AM
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The pinnacle of male achievement isn’t having a partner. It’s finding your life’s purpose and achieving it. Having women at your side is a by-product. And it’s not just “get gf.” It’s get girls. Date. Sleep around. It’s an amazing dopamine rush to conquest once you learn and practice skills to get good at it. Some guys and girls are asexual or lean that way. They’re not totally stoked on hooking up, indifferent to it almost. If you think that label fits, great, it makes your other life goals muc…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 03:24 AM
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There are alpha, beta and omega. Alpha and beta both get action, omega usually don’t. Porn is ok for omegas unless they want to break out and seek improvement.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 03:12 AM
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It begins that way but keeps you that way too. It’s a compounding effect. I was sexless from 18-23. Finally, I got frustrated enough and did research. I realized it wasn’t my looks, it was my social skills, my sense of self worth, and understanding of women. And it took a lot of work and practice to get to a point where I could comfortably navigate the world of women. Some of us have to work to get there, just like some of us have to work and acquire skills to get a decent income.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:16 AM
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Great write up! I definitely see the different moral frameworks we operate from - it rings true, and I’ve mostly come to terms with it. I struggle with the concept of hypergamy though. Sure, it’s biologically innate, but I don’t see it clearly happening in middle class white collar urban circles. Women go after guys in their social class, sometimes a tick higher or a tick lower. It’s rare to see big gaps. Shallow women like the Kardashian wanna-bes may overtly engage in this behavior. Most every…
/r/TheRedPill10/08/21 12:13 AM
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Addictions are tough. I don’t think I can get over mine alone, on my own accord. I’m lacking connection with others and resort to my addiction. Sometimes I substitute cannabis or porn and it lessens the addiction. I also take naltrexone which curbs it. But after fighting it, I know the best solution is some type of support group. I go to Refuge Recover online, focuses on meditation and Eastern principles …as I’m trying something else in place of 12 step groups for time being. I wish you well and…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 09:55 PM
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Passive or timid personality is likely one’s default state, so saying “be yourself” doesn’t really fit if they’ve always been that way. Same with the lacking social or emotional intelligence skills to be successful at dating / with women. In order for guys to improve chances with women, especially incels, they need to change and practice new behaviors, attitudes, and skills that aren’t yet part of self but can be. You could say “strive to be your ideal self” and that would be much closer to the …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 09:50 PM
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Dude - “telling him to lower his standards is the same thing as telling him he’s ugly.” That’s her answer. No “friend” tells another friend “you’re too ugly” directly. That’s Machiavellian.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 09:29 PM
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In general, women don’t give their guy friends the exact thing they need to hear to improve their success with women. Women(and men) also talk about their idealizations in a partner but end up sleeping with or dating someone who mirrors familiarity (often similar family of origin dysfunction issues aligning) or someone with superior self-assuredness and social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 09:24 PM
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You need to say “give shitty dating advice.” To clear up the blanket statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 09:20 PM
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He’s correct. This advice, more optimistically stayed, is “be your best self” or “be your best self with women.” This for many, requires learning new behaviors and attitudes. “Just be yourself” doesn’t automatically manifest into a confident alpha. Some guys are innately timid or awkward and need to learn new skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 09:13 PM
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I am not RP, but you’re lumping incels with RPs who are anything but virgins. It’s not a generalization that works for the RP thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 09:05 PM
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That’s why they’re low quality? What about all the amateur stuff, are they low quality women if their n’count is above 5?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 09:03 PM
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Porn floods your brain with dopamine. It’s very addictive. Use it enough, even 3x per week, especially while “fapping” and your brain can get hardwired to porn over your sex partner, and you begin to struggle having a healthy sex life. It also depletes your energy and makes other life goals feel like they’re rewardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 09:01 PM
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Meaning quarantined. And fair enough, I don’t spend much time reading what female man hating extremists write up. It’s utter bollocks and those extreme feminists couldn’t get an alpha if they’re life depended on it.
/r/TheRedPill09/08/21 07:55 PM
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When you take it to the next level - the extreme hypergamy generalization, women controlling the sex market, you’re drifting into conspiratorial predictions which is what gets this thread into trouble.
/r/TheRedPill09/08/21 07:32 PM
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Are you willing to put in the work to increase your income or hire-ability? Why not then success with women?
/r/TheRedPill09/08/21 05:25 AM
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I’m purple pill but absolutely love this post. As in found myself identifying with most everything you said. I turned to my gf and asked her if she felt there was a difference between being aroused by a man and feeling attraction toward a man. She responded “Absolutely!” I do question the beta/starfish sex generalizations. I’m beta leveraging alpha cues - and it’s been a while since I’ve had starfish sex, rarely with her or the flings I had before her. But I don’t want kinky weird stuff or anal,…
/r/TheRedPill09/08/21 05:05 AM
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Although your biological anthropology take is accurate, it can’t explain everything in today’s world. First - what is considered high n count, and by what age? 6? 12? 25? 50? And what do the stats say about high n count and fidelity. Are women with high n count 25% likely to have an affair versus 12% of low n count women? What percent of men know their wives’ actual n’count? Women fabricate this number lower often. What cultures care about n’count more than others? I’m in the US where’s it’s les…
/r/TheRedPill08/08/21 05:33 PM
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Thanks. We started off a bit pissy but ended in a good spot, despite some differences. We’ve got a bit in common as well. Appreciate the insight.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 05:16 PM
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There may be a small percentage of guys in their mid to late teens that might be able to handle this, especially if they’ve already been with multiple partners. Even then I think it would be weird to have somebody 20 years older than you, dating your dad no less, seducing you Into sex. This guy was 12, and a Virgin. That was his first sex experience. With his step mom more or less. Unless you’re a sociopath at that age, you’re gonna be affected by it negatively. I get that it sounds like a pornh…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 05:13 PM
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A guy in my men’s group - a 40yr old education professional, told us how his father and his girlfriend, both professional functioning alcoholics, were inappropriate with him when he was 12-13 years old. His father would tell him - “hey Keith, isn’t she’s hot, don’t ya think, grab her ass with me, touch her boobs (she was clothed but does it matter?) That was weird for him - he likes girls in 8th grade, not 35 year old women. But one night, his dad passed out, she was still up, asked him to help …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 05:38 AM
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What are they at an all time low? Because Zoomers, specifically males, addicted to their phones and virtual worlds since age 8, are incapable of being comfortable in the same space with the opposite sex? That they couldn’t seduce a 35 yo worn out bar fly high on ecstasy out of her clothes? Maybe that? Today’s young men are like the herbivore men in Japan. Sad.
/r/TheRedPill07/08/21 10:02 PM
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That’s very strategic of you. At times, I wish I had more of that when dealing with people instead of feeling more emotionally attached to them and the outcome, or doing too much to please them / get them to like/accept me vs getting what I want. I’m a bit like your parents in being too soft. So I can respect your position and perhaps am even envious of it. There’s a strange part of me that wishes something within myself would kick my own ass to level up and get out of middle management roles I’…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 03:10 AM
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It’s clear you’re educated and bright. There are educated and bright execs all over the place, in educated hubs like Seattle, London, Amsterdam and places that aren’t known as educated hubs- maybe Houston, San Salvador, Cairo. There’s doing what benefits you and there’s doing the right thing. It would be a lot easier if my partner would just shut up and comply with my needs regardless of her desires, or if my coworkers/directs did everything they are told without pushing back. But I’m not the ce…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 03:43 PM
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Yes - some will say they won’t but will hookup with a guy they let seduce them. However, that doesn’t mean they’re their primarily for hookups. They’re looking for a relationship first. Many guys who are more interested in a relationship aren’t going meet someone phenomenal who’s staying in town a couple weeks, and say, “Aww shucks, I’d love to sleep with you but…I’m only looking for a relationship.” Same with women, However they can’t advertise they will occasionally hook up because guys who ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 04:40 AM
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You can be mediocre and have great photos and be successful
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 08:53 PM
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So what if divorced? Does that make them tainted?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 08:52 PM
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There are some women looking for hookups in OLD, but most are not. Less than 20% will respond to or be interested hookup talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 08:47 PM
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So you’re not in favor of equal rights/standing for women? I truly don’t understand why one wouldn’t be less they desire control and oppression. Contrary to your belief, my stance doesn’t make me an angry “simp” who has any trouble getting in women’s pants. In CA and many other educated parts of the US, male superiority douches will have more of an issue picking up women, unless targeting some conservative rural, blue collar, or MAGA types. Or shallow women who are looking for an affluent man to…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 08:18 PM
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I’m sorry if that’s been your experience. It’s a tough battle if a dude is a 1 or 2. 3-6s can do alright. Almost anyone can improve their clothes, hair, swagger, body, social-emotional skills, attitude to improve their chances. Think of Napoleon Dynamite the character and John Heder the actor. Same dude, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 04:40 PM
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I consider myself a male feminist in so much that women ought have equal rights in all societal regards. I’m not in the “down with men camp.” That mindset can go F off. I understand where you’re coming from after reading your post. The whole world isn’t up to speed progressive techie culture. I just spent the weekend with upper class east coast Gen-x and Millennial folks my age who still subscribe to your point of view. I need more empathy for others pace being a West Coast hippie (even though m…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 04:36 AM
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Alright. It is a bit harder at that age but not extremely hard. I may have misread your position. Apologies.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 04:15 AM
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Yup. As a male feminist, I believe women should be equal to men on all levels. You don’t bro? You afraid of losing that control?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 04:12 AM
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That’s fair. I use “you” as a plural to address the issue you represent and not actually you. I’m aware that we could only get to a personal conversation with perfect support and critique of each other in person or maybe on video conference. There’s help for the 3-6s. The 1-2s. I don’t know the solution. Unless your insanely rich, famous (which also means rich), or confident. But if you’re mediocre in the looks, you can work on yourself, your body, your emotional intelligence skills, your social…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 04:10 AM
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Nope. Once you match you gotta communicate with her by text. So what’s your text game like? You’ve got to see you from her vantage point. We guys are pretty entitled thinking we’re smart, we’re career oriented….but ahh shit, now we gotta work to get a desirable woman. So what’s next? You make playful banter via text, suggest a future state date imaginary situation, she says wow what a nice thought, you reel in her in and say great, what’s your number, let’s get get this cute date idea on the boo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 03:57 AM
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I don’t know any respectable man who goes around using the term divorce raped. They don’t fear it. They have enough confidence in their relationship abilities and enough strength to change themselves to better relate with the woman they choose as they grow, and they stay together. You’re taking the easy way out if you’re hunting down the subservient woman with less experience because you think an independent woman who has had several partners is going to run off because she’s tasted better befor…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 04:42 AM
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How about the skill “good with women.” You realize that’s a skill, right? That has to be number one. The rest are supportive. You don’t have to be a psychopath, narcissist or Machiavellian. That’s an excuse you’re telling yourself to justify your own failure for not doing the work to get girls. It takes a lot of work, especially it you aren’t a hot dude or grew up with very social parents with high EQs
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 04:32 AM
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Depends on where they’re at. Most grow up at 25, the age many on here think where women begin to look like old shrews.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 04:30 AM
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Hot and 34 is rare? I suppose if in the US, a rarity in parts of the Midwest or Deep South, it could be hard to find. I must be spoiled traveling back n forth between the West and East Coasts where women take care of themselves. Most 34 yo’s I see are bangin.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 04:29 AM
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Yeah. A virgin and a high n count female wouldn’t mix well. And if the relationship ends because she wants more variety of Dick, so what, that’s her issue, not a generalized assumption even if stats lean in the way of it’s truth. Women don’t need men. They can move on. Men need to stop being pussies and accept they’ll get dumped from time to time and that they will do the dumping from time to time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 04:24 AM
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You condescending ass. Your intuition is way off along with your antiquated viewpoints. You may have bagged a subservient gal that harbors conservative viewpoints on life/women in culture, that doesn’t mean society, not a marriage, is leaving you behind. I realize there are conservative, patriarchal societies and sects within societies. I subscribe to where things are going, not where things were, and there’s plenty of both to be had for everyone. You are referring to women as being sluts when y…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 04:21 AM
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As would a 29 year old. I’m not chomping at the bit for my girl to shit out babies, if it happens it happens. I want someone whose a great friend who also turns me on - if she’s 33, somewhat hot, a good job, takes care of herself, and has fucked 10 guys before me - perfect! She’ll be good at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 04:10 AM
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I see many shorter small frame men with petite, hot, hot girls. I used to sometimes get jealous and wish I was shorter just so I could hook up with more 5’2 spinners.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 03:57 AM
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Young girls make this mistake. A lot of dudes on here are under 25 and still virgins. They don’t realize it requires emotional connection and interaction outside their phone to get a partner and engage in seduction.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 03:55 AM
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Sometimes. Some women have lived and learned too. I’ve seen plenty of hot Chads get harshly rejected for being creeps.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 03:53 AM
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Why do you think women after 30 aren’t desired? Have you ever slept with a woman over 30 or anyone for that matter? God—sex is almost awkward with early 20s girls even though they look young, it’s not better, ever- you want someone who is comfortable in their sexuality
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 03:52 AM
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They find conviction, purpose, self-assuredness and passion a turn on. Unfortunately dark triads often have this. But you can have that without being a dark triad.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 03:49 AM
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If you’re not getting matches (we talking about OLD) spend two hours on taking and posting the best possible pics of yourself. Even if you’re a 4 or 5, great pictures will serve you along way. The answer is out there on Google, go find it and do it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 03:47 AM
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Grow up dude. Society is moving on and leaving you behind. Also, simping isn’t the right word for the context here. It’s pretty pathetic to think a girl with several lovers can’t be a good partner or mother to your kids. Hey, what do I know? I’m an American settled in an educated area living life in 2021. I don’t have limited and antiquated mindsets about women in other cultures or geographies that can’t stand the fact that women don’t need a man to flourish in life. The fact that you think a gi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 03:42 AM
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They don’t have to be jaded. You seem to think that women are incapable of growth or are constant. Simpletons yes- but i say no thanks to simpletons.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 03:35 AM
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Your thinking is quite black and white. At scale, maybe there’s patterns in the data. A girl that is 34 and hot and educated and not a weirdo will have no problem finding a guy. A guy who is 25 and getting his masters and emotionally/physically/socially fit will have no problem getting a girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 03:34 AM
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That’s a manipulative and trashy thing to do. And if she plays along, also kinda trashy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 03:31 AM
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This doesn’t happen. What planet does this happen on? No one expends all there oxytocin in there 20s. Is this a joke?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 03:30 AM
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Disagree. I’m not turned on by her career accomplishments as much, but if she’s just freeloading and not doing what she likes…it’s a big turn off. I don’t want a lamprey girlfriend riding my coattails.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 03:29 AM
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In what society? 🤷‍♂️ I’m not seeing this at all. But, I may be lacking empathy for your POV, as I’m in California where men have been able to keep up with social change into the 21st century.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 03:28 AM
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A 20 yo may have a tight body, but can I make an emotional connection with her if I’m 35 and affluent? Or am I using her as a cum dumpster? There’s superficial relationships and there’s deeper connections, where your girl isn’t just someone you get a boner over, but want to spend time with and hang out with. I’m over 30 and it’s highly unlikely I’ll be dipping into the 20s again, even if I can. The maturity gap is annoying. There’s no connection. There’s no friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 03:25 AM
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What society do you live in? Not the case in the US among educated groups on the coasts.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 03:20 AM
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Some girls grow up enough or get hurt enough or become enlightened enough where they rise above this “alpha widow” crap. And you can learn how to be good at sex along the way. It seems like your POV is rooted in insecurity.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 03:19 AM
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What culture do you have to come from to believe this nonsense? I’ve met and slept with hot 35 year old women with dozens of previous partners who I’d choose in a heartbeat over the 25 year old who has had but two lovers and still too self-conscious to climax unless she’s alone. Are you afraid her vag is going to be loose, impure and gross if she’s had 10+ partners. Newsflash, you can’t tell. What you can tell is experience. Someone who is experienced is a much better lover and partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 12:28 AM
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Plus they don’t need a man. Many want to excel on their careers and life purpose. Unless you live in a place where there’s brain deficit.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 12:24 AM
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Don’t be a slut? Who knows if she is? Only if you’re is a close nit community or high school
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 12:18 AM
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How can you tell high n count? Women are often dishonest about it. And who cares as long as they’re disease free?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 12:16 AM
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How old is too old?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 12:14 AM
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“Women by and large have no interest in sports” What percentage of women do you think falls onto this bucket. You’re making a lot of assumptions. A woman who A. Doesn’t like sports and B. Looks for other men (when most look to their female friends) for validation on their partner choices. That’s a small slice.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 12:13 AM
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She’s not terrible. But She’s the personification of shallow and simpleton. Just like a Kardashian.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 04:14 PM
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Yes. Like my grandparents.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 04:10 PM
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I’m not putting words in your mouth. She doesn’t even come into my thought process unless I meet a shallow, superficial yutz who hides behind appearances and struggles to be real with themselves. That said, I’m mildly intrigued by some of her music videos…whoever is the art director deserves props.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 07:42 AM
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Although I’m sure there’s some weirdo guys that would be totally boned up about her, most guys I know find her somewhat hot yet completely repulsive, kinda like a stripper. I’d avoid that archetype altogether unless you want to attract a sleaze bag.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 07:25 AM
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Who wants Cardi B? Is she really the sex symbol of today. And what century are we living in? Women have great jobs and can pay for their own shit. That’s not a man’s responsibility. Unless the man seeks a 20th century mindset woman who expects him to provide while she stays at home and poops out babies. Are we in a time warp here?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 06:45 AM
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Oh for Christ sake. Here’s my 🎻 for your disadvantaged lot in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 06:42 AM
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So maybe you just have a young girl fetish and are justifying it based on being snubbed when you were younger? There’s higher self and lower self on a psycho-spiritual plane, one self will bring you much better overall results than the other. I get caught on both sides but…will not ever fully submit to lower self.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 06:06 AM
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Tell me how well that works out for you
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 07:40 AM
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You mean excuses
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 07:40 AM
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There’s a lot of good information about female dating psychology out there if you look. Start with Chase Amante. You’re logic about being rejected by women at 20 by girls the same age as you, so therefore 10 years later you’re interested girls the same age as you were when you were 20 to spite them is just…stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 07:32 AM
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No. The inverse is true. What are you doing to increase your attraction to women? Do you feel entitled that hot chicks will just fall into your lap because of your IQ and salary? Do you ever stop and consider the emotional intelligence piece in attracting high value women? 🤯
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 07:28 AM
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It sucks if you’re under 5’7. I’m sorry. You probably won’t get a hot white woman over 5’3. Lots of Asians for ya.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 07:25 AM
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I think you’re missing the point beyond the superficial. Do the emotional work. Get vulnerable enough to feel comfortable flirting and get into the heart of the woman you want to seduce (and emotional and intellectual endeavor.) I had an apsergers engineer genius dad, good looking and financial means. He couldn’t get a hot chick if life depended on it. There’s more than physical appearance and financial means. You could be a “5” and broke be a complete Rico Suave because you have power, social c…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 07:21 AM
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The question is then “what is the work?” Of you do the work to get laid and actually do it; you’ll get laid. That means growing your confidence, emotional intelligence, social skills (in-person), physical appearance, and over all social capital. You’re IQ alone and your logical superiority won’t do squat.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 05:57 AM
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Why would you think that? Who goes for below average anything unless you’re desperate? Is this a desperation thread of despair by guys who can’t get laid ?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 05:53 AM
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Dude. You need to read a book about women and dating. I couldn’t make it through your first and second paragraphs without realizing that you are out of touch with your emotional psychology (which is what it takes to get women your age, spare me your logical excuse.) You’re second paragraph about women not giving guys a second chance — you need to understand women emotionally, not logically. Come on, you’re smart enough to know this
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 05:29 AM
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I don’t believe it. Show me the evidence of these stats. At what point did women exceed men in sexual activity in this age range?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 05:25 AM
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No, not all women want an alpha dumbshit Chad. And note the difference between an alpha and a Chad. You’ll find a lot of jaded dudes who don’t want to do the work to get a girl that is into him on these threads.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 05:23 AM
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You’re missing the point. Women are attracted to who they’re attracted to based on childhood shit. A small percentage escape their programming but the best and the brightest are still slaves to their animal attraction instincts which longs for familiarity or a derivative of it. So get over the anger that your fantasy tall white woman don’t like me because I’m of a different race and short on height. Find someone for you that works for you. That’s what love and attraction are about. Not a project…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 05:17 AM
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He said more than that….
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 07:56 PM
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In a relationship there is often connection, love/emotional bond between the man and a woman. It’s not something a woman does to a man, manipulates a man into, guilts him into or forces him into etc. They both want it and feel it, even alphas! I understand some men (and women) are incapable of feeling this or experience this due to a personality disorder, genetics, or poor upbringing void of love. I feel bad for those who fall into this category.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 03:59 AM
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I see a chart from 2009. Asian men / Indian men lumped into one category. And so what? At a macro level, perhaps Indian men are perceived as slightly less attractive by white/black/Latina women. It’s still a generalization to say this guy doesn’t have game because he’s Indian, nor does it mean all Indian men don’t have a chance in hell outside their own race.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 03:51 AM
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“The guy himself is unimportant” What women are we talking about? All women? Or just the worst women that we see on Real Housewives? Why would women pay for masculine energy when they can just go out and get it?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 03:44 AM
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In some cases. It’s still “customary” for many that the man pays. I see less if that in progressive areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 03:42 AM
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Yes, it shows lack of restraint and honor. It doesn’t make it right just because “men have always done it.”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 02:37 AM
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Energy is more important!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 02:35 AM
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What nerd is trying to create a formula for attraction psychology? 🤣🤣🤣 One fatal flaw…women claim attributes they want in men, yet more often than not end up with what feels familiar. What the seek and what they end up with isn’t always “I settled”, it’s “this is what gets my juices flowing and even if it doesn’t meet my checklist.” How would that be accounted for in the algorithm?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 08:51 AM
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Sometimes the case - but still quite the Generalization.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 08:45 AM
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And the workforce norms
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 08:45 AM
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This sounds jaded and warped
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 08:44 AM
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🙄🙄🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 08:43 AM
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You’re generalizing about an entire culture/race. That’s pushing the bounds of racism. The general trope of a nerdy Indian man in IT isn’t necessarily attractive. I get it. But that’s not all Indian men. There are many men from India who don’t fit that trope at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 08:40 AM
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No good examples? I don’t think you’re trying very hard. Jason Statham, The Rock, Jason Momoa, Don Draper…. You’re right…a masculine man with confidence radiates energy that attracts the polar opposite feminine energy. But there are a growing number of women with equal feminine/masculine energy that aren’t as attracted to very masculine men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 08:34 AM
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Hopefully these men are in open relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 08:26 AM
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The energy of youth is attractive and rejuvenating. Often, our culture reduces this youthful energy to a sexual thing when it’s actually a whole body experience that affects the heart and soul as much or more so than libido. It’s a man’s responsibility to honor the heart-rejuvenative gift of a young woman, without violating this honor by imposing his sexual desire on her.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 08:26 AM
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It depends on the variables. If hypergamy played a role in her pursuing the relationship in the first place, is she a bad human? It’s an innate behavior that’s common (although I don’t see it as prevalent in West Coast educated tech circles.) The key factor is how has the relationship progressed since it began. Did they fall in love and have a great run for a while even though hypergamy was initially a factor? Let’s say 5 years later they’re going through a rough spell - does the husband cite he…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 08:16 AM
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Most relationships I know of are not clearly based in hypergamy. So if a guy is already in a relationship that was based primarily in hypergamy, and he doesn’t love her, or believes he wants out, he should either take a stab at salvaging the relationship or leave. It’s a moral choice. Does he have empathy and emotional intelligence - will that guide his choice? Or does he just leave and immediately start to bang hotter “better” women? Intent plays a big role. A relationship isn’t transactional. …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 09:11 PM
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The example of Leo dating lots of young women isn’t hypergamy since he is dating down. It’s hypogamy. And some see it as pathetic and superficial. They likely see hypergamy as pathetic and superficial too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 07:42 PM
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It’s far from being the same thing. A single, young woman leveraging her looks to attract a high value man is one thing. And…I struggle to find any moral question here. A middle-aged man who is partnered up and then leverages his success to find a more attractive (and likely younger) woman is a completely different moral dilemma. A single middle-aged man who does leverages his success to get a higher value and younger woman would be a comparable argument. Is that wrong? A tiny bit? Everyone is i…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 07:30 PM
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“Man up” 😂 The misogyny on this thread is priceless.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 06:16 PM
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I’d agree of you said the goal of radical feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 05:13 PM
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They may take more time off for parental/maternity but I’m not convinced their output is less. Business pays women less when they can. Salary is often negotiable and women are less apt to negotiate, thus often getting less than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 05:12 PM
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Equal financial success doing easier jobs? Use your logical brain to hear yourself. They want equal pay for the same job. Where is it written they want the same $$ for an easier (lower level) job? I can’t argue with you on the date up concept. It’s nature. We think we’re so above being survivalists yet we are. Attraction is tied in with sex which is tied in with our animal selves. I don’t want to date an obese woman who can’t pick up after herself, has a severe limp, barfs here and there while p…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 06:53 AM
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Show me the stats where the women are getting all the money and the men aren’t? I get it, some places are overcompensating to these movements to look more vogue. But the math isn’t there yet to prove your point.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 06:46 AM
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What about black and Hispanic liberal women? Or highly educated women? Or women over 30? Do they all have tattoos and dye their hair blue? The majority all women on every college campus is liberal unless it’s an explicitly known conservative college. Is this a college thread? If so I’ll jump off a my 33yr old ass knows nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 06:44 AM
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Yes - liberal women are typically more educated and therefore more likely to challenge the conditioning that they need to date John Wayne. They’re more likely to embrace their masculinity and go after who they’re actually attracted to versus going after who society says they should be attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 11:40 PM
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Horny.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 11:38 PM
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Nice generalization bruh. Maybe women are interested in having equal power/financial success as men, therefore lobbying for equal sewer workers at a mass scale would be a moot point.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 11:36 PM
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Your generalized attributes assigned to liberal women are…berserk. You are describing a subculture that makes up maybe 5-10% of liberal women at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 11:34 PM
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It works much better if it is modeled versus taught. Men who work to keep their wives happy and continue to court them throughout their marriage or LTRs have the best relationships - if this is modeled, it sets you up for more success. I’d never take dating advice from a miserable parent. Divorced dads may have a shot at coaching you. Never take it from mom unless you want to know how to succeed at dating if you are a Disney cartoon.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 06:04 AM
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Especially the covert narcissistic boomer mothers who advise to do everything they didn’t get from their self-absorbed husband. The worst!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 05:59 AM
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That’s an interesting assessment. There’s objective proof that men are smarter? IQ-wise? Women are smarter EQ-wise hands down. Sure, men can stay in power with their giant collective egos - maybe we will increase the number of world wars and build more unneeded tanks because they’re just so rad and masculine and kick ass. If men cope with stress so much better, why do they live several years fewer than women?Several medical science articles point to the male/female lifespan gap and cites stress …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 06:09 AM
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Does it have to be opposite though. It’s not black and white. It’s what if it’s right sized a bit - it goes from 75/25 to 55/45? This reminds me of the capitalism vs socialism argument and how black and white the positions are, as it could only be one or the other. What if the dial is set more toward the middle to be more balanced? Where is the greatest return for society?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 02:40 AM
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Agreed. The last four years was a slip back on many progresses. Not that all of the progresses are good. Whatever awakens goodness, liberty and consciousness.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 10:04 PM
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To each his own. I’d much rather see the cute girl next door modeling underwear than a coked out elitist bimbo.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 04:30 PM
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There’s a consciousness awakening and it’s here to stay. We won’t be slipping back.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 04:27 PM
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So what? Do you have a giant boner for supermodels? Learn photoshop. Than you can airbrush the ambassadors to look more like supermodels.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 05:21 AM
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Is this what you want it to be like?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 05:14 AM
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I’m not suggesting they’re lowering their standards. I’m suggesting masculine women are much more likely to innately be attracted to effeminate men. Masculine and feminine energies are polar and are attracted to each other like magnets in the vast majority of cases. It’s not black and white either. A woman could be 70/30 masculine/feminine and be attracted to a man 50/50 masculine/feminine, but less likely to a man 90/10 masculine/feminine. Gary in Veep is a great example. Extremely effeminate s…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 01:20 AM
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There are many more women gaining powerful positions in the work environment, and many, whether they need to or not, tap into their masculine energy to succeed and it becomes their normal state (or perhaps many of these women innately have balanced feminine/masculine energy or even more masculine energy than feminine.) 90% of us are attracted to the opposite energy. With more women shifting into the masculine, it’ll begin to increase the chances of men with more feminine energy ending up with ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 07:54 PM
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You’ve never met someone who you begin to find more attractive after you got to know them more? I find that hard to believe. Sometimes average looking gals have a lot of sex appeal once you interact with them more. And sometimes total hotties couldn’t charm a horned up 18yo because their personality is so repellent. Like any Kardashian or Real Housewife. Barf.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 07:33 PM
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As you age your libido cools off. And as you age you find others your same age attractive, where 15 years before, you wouldn’t have found that attractive. It’s bonkers. I wanna hump every milf I see now because I know what they’re capable of. And the young gals - they couldn’t hold a candle to the way ladies more experienced and key word “comfortable” could handle intimacy. I’m at the age where I find the moms of college-aged daughters are just as hot. And I’m leaning toward the mom. She’s at a …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 07:12 AM
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Nope. Think about coworkers, or folks who catch your eye after they don’t catch your eye. There’s physical attraction and then there’s emotional attraction - the familiarity thing. A six becomes and 8 when your realities are familiar. A 9 becomes a 6 when she lives in a world that’s so unattractive you feel like gouging your eyes out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 07:01 AM
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Nope. Weak-ass parents
/r/seduction18/06/21 06:23 AM
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Why do you want to know her deepest darkest secrets? If I’m never seeing her again, I’d ask her feedback on how she enjoyed herself, was there a moment where you had doubts, and what could I do to improve. That type of stuff. If there’s not future, tap into questions that can help improve yourself!
/r/seduction18/06/21 06:16 AM
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How old are you? The self doubt you have is more of the issue then your physical appearance. Are you a fatass? Is your face physically jacked up from trauma or birth? If no, you can make shit work for you, but it’s about building your self worth and changing the story you tell yourself. The way we are—a lot of it is how our parents raised us. And a lot of that bullshit is unhealthy even if we think they’re awesome. So you have to model strong people’s behaviors until they become your own if you …
/r/seduction18/06/21 06:13 AM
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Dude you need a good dose of Tony Robbins. Watch everything you can of his on YouTube where you can see him live - not just his audio
/r/seduction18/06/21 06:09 AM
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Hypergamy has always been there …#4. 80/20 rule is bullocks. Attracting a mate isn’t just a looks/wealth formula. Successfully dating, attracting a mate takes work, skill and effort. Here’s an 80/20 for you. 80% of men can improve their physical appearance, OLD photos, and social capital and significantly up their chances with hotter women. 20%…hopeless given the hand they were dealt. The 80/20 ratio doesn’t work across the entire dating population, but perhaps a 70/30 ratio would work in cohort…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 08:12 AM
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I agree with your last paragraph. What is stated as desired (Disney Movie relationship crap) is different than who most women find themselves attracted to or end up with. Cock strokes is the driving force. A guy, especially one who has anxious attachment issues, will simp or orbit in hopes for end game sex, but the continuation of these pathetic behaviors, the infatuation, the overly excited communication, the oneitis - it means something else is going on too. The chase is a dopamine rush. Ackno…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 10:01 PM
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It’s often both. Plenty of men seeking emotional validation from women even though they’re not fully conscious of that driving need.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 08:39 PM
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Have you been around many dudes who are constantly get friend zoned because of validation issues or misconstrued fantasies? There are plenty of dudes with dysfunctional mommies who become emotional tampons.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 08:37 PM
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He absolutely is orbiting for both validation and cock strokes. Guys who don’t need validation don’t pathetically orbit or simp.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 08:34 PM
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There-I left my spelling error edit-free so you can feel more secure. You’re welcome.
/r/seduction02/01/21 06:35 PM
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No one has ever busted my balls for going back and editing. The fact that this bothers you illustrates a core of insecurity. The fact that you’ve only insults and no depth illustrates misery and superficial defenses. It’s telling by someone who has “virus” in their handle that the focus is in the negative. This is actually a male v “Karen” stuck in his mother’s hateful patterns masquerading as a fake man. Beware.
/r/seduction02/01/21 06:33 PM
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Thanks for elaborating. Very helpful to OP I hope!
/r/seduction01/01/21 02:29 AM
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That’s funny to edit it? Are you bantering with me? How cute 🥰 As for the rest, you are projecting my friend. Look up psychological projection. You’re filling in the blanks on my belief sets with your own generalizations about diversity, etc. Masculine/feminine energy is real. 10% of men have feminine energy. That’s great. Their best match would be with a masculine woman if they want to have the polar sexual attraction. Polar energies need to meet for strong attraction to happen, and to cast the…
/r/seduction01/01/21 02:26 AM
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Yeah, bad idea at day one. They will friend zone you 30 seconds into your problems. Save it for your therapist or dude friends unless you want to repel her. You’re looking for a mommy when you share your problems, not a girlfriend.
/r/seduction31/12/20 03:59 PM
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Who said I was afraid of diversity? Did I step on your PC feelings? Read The Way of the Superior Man - that’ll convey the message better than I that there’s a movement that wants to even the masculine/feminine energy playing field. It’s already in the workplace and for some reason it thinks this would be great in relationships as well. Two neutral people equals no attraction, little sex. All generally speaking. When you respond, please do so with the 57 genders and their definitions so I can be …
/r/seduction31/12/20 03:54 PM
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I didn’t notice many like I did with others. There were great examples of banter and speaking from a place of strength, but I didn’t notice many pickup gimmicks.
/r/seduction31/12/20 03:52 PM
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Why, Because it’s not a pick-up gimmick book? It focuses on how to change your win habits and behaviors that make you more attractive to women. It doesn’t give you a roadmap of speed seduction techniques.
/r/seduction24/12/20 08:47 PM
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It takes practice to get to that place though. Letting go of programming and old behaviors isn’t as easy as turning a light switch. As you grow, the insecurities slowly fall away. In the beginning, your impulse may be to call her because that inner neediness isn’t read yet. So it pays to have some best practices to lean on to overcome those old habits and behaviors.
/r/seduction24/12/20 08:45 PM
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He wrote it before Tinder/ swipe dating hit huge. But the concepts are solid whether you’re 35 or 21. He’s not a pickup artist. He’s more of a dating coach. Pickup artist use shallow superficial tacts that work with girls who have low self esteem. 3% man is how to formulate new habits so your feel and behave in such a way where you don’t need rote tacts to pickup girls...you just train yourself to be great with women.
/r/seduction24/12/20 08:41 PM
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Decisive. Self-assured. No shame in your strong attraction to female. Being comfortable with what makes you feel masculine and how it’s polar opposite from the feminine. Our culture is trying to neutralize these energies, which is great for the workplace but terrible for attraction and excitement in relationships. This concept Wayne mentions is taken from the book called The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida.
/r/seduction24/12/20 08:37 PM
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It put in me the mindset to start getting laid after a three year dry spell. One of the most powerful chapters, the anti-seducer, was also a painful one to read as I saw myself in it, and still do sometimes. But it’s the same message as most seduction material, just written in a more artful form. Remain a mystery, be decisive and purposeful, focus your dialogue on the lady, move with intention, inner strength all the way.
/r/seduction23/12/20 07:47 AM
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If you’re the dominant partner in the relationship, if you have more masculine energy than your male partner, then yes, the kind of man the op is talking about wouldn’t work for you. When dating, women subconsciously test men to test their strength. If men grovel, please, agree and bow to every whim, they are subservient and do not provide the strength or masculine energy most women desire and crave.
/r/seduction18/12/20 07:13 PM
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You can please women, but don’t sacrifice yourself, lose yourself, do something you don’t want to do, bend your boundaries, etc. That is al weakness. The moment you try to adjust your personality, your inner being to match her, you’re being a chameleon. And you’ll only catch weak, low quality women doing that.
/r/seduction18/12/20 07:09 PM
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You’re wasting your time if you think she’ll change her feelings. If you really want to get her, distance yourself, hang out/date with other women, tell her about your dating life vaguely, and continue. She needs to see you’re value of dating capital increase if it’ll ever change. But if you want to be her friend and abandon or table your romantic aspirations, then by all means, counsel away.
/r/seduction18/12/20 07:05 PM
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Is say dabble in this after infatuation period. 9 months or more.
/r/seduction18/12/20 07:01 PM
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You may get better results with girls who are not with their mothers
/r/seduction18/12/20 06:58 PM
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You need to work on building your emotional inner-strength, just like you’d working on building your muscles. You do this by studying experts and practicing. Read “The 3% Man by Corey Wayne.” Then practice. Also, you will never get what you don’t ask for or suggest. Invite girls to spend time with you. Flirt with them, banter. Touch them. When the time is right, kiss them.
/r/seduction18/12/20 06:55 PM
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It’s a good time to “Covid” approach some girls 😷😆
/r/seduction18/12/20 06:50 PM
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Not unless his biology changes. You only get sick of it when you’re getting too much in the present moment.
/r/seduction05/12/20 11:51 PM
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Massage on couch, kissy kissy, and then “let’s get more comfortable” and take her to the room. She’s already worked up.
/r/seduction05/12/20 11:49 PM
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The issue here is the “romantic bs.” You have to invest a little in that upfront to get your conquest. It’s not BS. It’s what women need to get lubed up. You’re both on a fantasy in Tinder-land. Women have a set of things that get their gears going that are different than men’s. The shit test response above works in real life. On Tinder, just say something like “hey, I’m not on Tinder looking for a wife and at the same time I’m not gonna walk away from a girl I’m feeling a rad vibe toward either…
/r/seduction04/12/20 05:33 AM
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Ha...100%!! Couldn’t have said it better. Women love confident banter
/r/seduction04/12/20 05:27 AM
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I agree yet disagree. Most women want a LTR. But they are horny in the interim and will hook up with the right kind of guy.
/r/seduction04/12/20 05:26 AM
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Look up Tinsanity Seduction on Google. It’ll change your life. People try to get to know their match on Tinder before asking them out on a date. This is backwards. Start romanticizing the idea of a date and then ask them. It’s like a sales funnel. Ask for a small commitment and build up to the actual ask. That’s what tinder chat is for.
/r/seduction04/12/20 05:24 AM
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Read or listen to the audiobook called The Way of The Superior Man. It will hurt your feelings and then make you stronger. Note that 90% of the population will see “hurt your feelings” and avoid it because they are too weak to handle it.
/r/seduction04/12/20 05:21 AM
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Be fun and playful with the ladies. Organic dialogue and activity rooted in fun will often bribing about laughs, whether you’re a funny guy or not. If you’re trying to be funny, you risk it not being funny. Just be fun. Also - Girls will choose the low-key, collected, self-assured type over the funny guy almost every time. They’ll go for Daniel Craig over Jimmy Fallon every time.
/r/seduction11/11/20 10:43 PM
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The inner critic is often the voice of one or both of your parents, especially the more critical one. You may need to unpack that with a therapist before a coach can help you take it to the next level. And no, you won’t die if you go into your body and feel your emotional pain, shining a light on it. Start with just a little at a time. It’s ok to feel all those things, the only around it, is through it. Avoid it, repress it, and it’ll eat you alive - that will kill you a lot faster. Look, if you…
/r/seduction11/11/20 06:49 AM
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You can go to a medical doc and get a mild anti-anxiety med. I’d ask for Buspar as it’s minimal side effects. Anything that’s an SSRI, like Paxil or Prozac may have sexual side effects. A lot of it is just going out there and practicing, stepping outside your comfort zone, and letting yourself fail time to time, and still being ok with it. Everyone fails from time to time in social interactions, you may feel embarrassed, but it’s more important to forgive yourself and have self love. We often tr…
/r/seduction10/11/20 08:09 PM
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thanks!
/r/seduction10/11/20 10:12 AM
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Like an imposter or that you’re not being true to yourself.
/r/seduction10/11/20 10:09 AM
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The voice in your head that is telling you this....is just a story. You have the power to change your story. You have to start by changing your state of being in the present moment before you can change your story. In order to change your state of being...you have to change your physiology or focus on the moment. A. Jump for joy and shout out silly dominant things to yourself...”I’m gonna be rich”, “I’m gonna conquer the world”, “I’m gonna crush it!” Positive self encouragement, out loud, very l…
/r/seduction09/11/20 05:42 AM
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I love how he cites Ph.D studies to back his everyday realistic pua or seduction claims. I can’t, being a seemingly educated-know-it-all, poke a hole in his real life experience, or the studies he cites, based on how it connects to actual human behavior rooted in social science. Also—the dude is maybe 5.5/10 at best and has got it down. I’m on his weekly email list, even his guest coach commentary is spot on. I love the mix of naughty and ethics - it’s a perfect mix. He never tells you to be fak…
/r/seduction09/11/20 04:04 AM
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Do it! I didn’t make this up, it comes from sources much wiser than myself. The first is a path to discovering your self-worth which becomes the rock of your core being. It’s sacred. It paints a picture of where your spiritual self and human self meet, the true essence of you. The second exercise - if I give away how it works, it’ll not be as effective. It’s not masculine or feminine. Write down everything you want in your ideal partner, circle the top 10 things, and become that person yourself.…
/r/seduction09/11/20 03:50 AM
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He’s got what’s called avoidant-attachment style in relationship psychology under the insecure attachment umbrella. Look it up. He likely had aloof parents who were emotionally distant and didn’t tolerate the expression of feelings. You’re fine. He needs therapy or some kind of spiritual jolt to change his behaviors.
/r/seduction08/11/20 09:51 PM
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Figure out who you clearly are if you walked into the village with nothing external. What are your strengths that you’d bring to the group. Write them down. What are your beliefs and values. Once you’re clear on what you bring, believe it, strengthen it, practice it. Anything that distracts you, makes you have self-doubt, etc, go back to the list and see if it lines up. If it does not, it’s garbage, and you can throw it out and keep moving. Or...think of your ideal woman. Write down on one page …
/r/seduction08/11/20 09:45 PM
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Chase Amante. Corey Wayne. The latter is more dating based. The former has content for any scenario.
/r/seduction08/11/20 09:38 PM
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No. Unless you’re both completely tanked at Spring Break in Cancun.
/r/seduction08/11/20 09:37 PM
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This is great!
/r/seduction06/11/20 07:25 AM
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I get the different dynamic you feel with your friends vs chatting it up with girls. You want different things from your friends than you do with attractive females...and when we want something a lot (like ravishingly a hot lady) instinct says be more careful. But that block gets in the way of the spirit of who you are and what makes you very attractive in the first place. Lean into the vulnerability - the more you do this, the easier it becomes. It’s like lifting weights but for your soul. Once…
/r/seduction06/11/20 07:22 AM
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You don’t have to always be an approval junkie. Strive to be present and conscious every moment, mediation helps. Build your self worth. Have a clear idea of who you are and what you bring to the village without external things. Parent yourself. Be loving toward yourself. According to modern psychology, our psyche is split into three parts, the parent (self-critic) the adult (mediator), and the child (fun pleasure-seeking spirit; also our animal selves.) They all need a 33.33% equal seat at the …
/r/seduction05/11/20 10:15 AM
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The tendency for people in conversation is to hear what the other person says, and then respond “hey, I relate to that because of my xyz experience.” Example convo ... You- ”Hey, I hear a cute accent there, ya gotta tell me where you’re from.” Girl- “I’m from Georgia.” You- “Hey, I’ve been to Georgia once! It was on a...” We’ve narcissistic tendencies to relate with others from our own experience. But think of how a therapist might ask questions to drill down to the root. Also, deep questions is…
/r/seduction05/11/20 10:07 AM
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I don’t think these guys are getting that the two gals know each other and are actively communicating. It’s not cheating but ya gotta be on top of your game. The shrewd one could be more challenging, and more interesting, and more of a conquest. And If you navigate that, you’ll grow a lot in your game. But if you find yourself drawn to to the chick that played her hand a bit too desperately, and want to go ltr because of the easy catch...then go for it. But don’t cheat yourself, keep them both f…
/r/seduction05/11/20 09:46 AM
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A key to these apps is to plug “date talk” right up front, it’s a priming technique and works like a charm. Since it’s already plugged, you can get phone number and the intitial aspects of a date set up in four more lines of text.
/r/seduction03/11/20 06:49 AM
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Well {insert her name}, being the aficionado in chokers that I am, allow me the honor to be the judge of your choker/t-shirt matching ability. That plus socially-distanced drinks at a chill outdoor cafe...it’d be a lot of fun.
/r/seduction03/11/20 06:48 AM
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Just date as much as you can. That will build confidence!
/r/seduction12/10/20 04:58 AM
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Google “banter cheat sheet”
/r/seduction11/10/20 01:44 AM
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I’d recommend working on yourself, finding a new way that works. The defeatist story you’re telling yourself is just a story. Hitch your wagon to a different path, way, and story. We get into funks like this and look to others to validate our “how bad I’ve got it” mentality because our mothers likely did the same thing or coddled us too much when shit happened. It’s like we subconsciously equate the idea of “if I get people’s sympathies, they will love me more.” But it’s the opposite. It’s repel…
/r/seduction11/10/20 01:42 AM
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Hella? You must be in SF bay! Sorry to hear about your struggles. Don’t make them your identity. Find some folks with mild aspergers in chat groups or meetups that have mastered the art of dating. Dating....You have to take the focus off of you and put it on them, strive to be extremely present with them and your surroundings. Out of your head and into the now. It becomes easier as you practice. Meditation is the starting point for mastering that. You need a new toolbox. Your tools aren’t workin…
/r/seduction09/10/20 08:57 PM
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Dude. You’re experiencing hypomania. It’s a soft form of bipolar. I got it too. I take Wellbutrin to manage the depressive side of it. I’d recommend seeking a therapist or physician and explore this more.
/r/seduction09/10/20 07:53 PM
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Outstanding advice!
/r/seduction09/10/20 07:49 PM
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Line up many dates in a short period of time: easy to do if you know how to use dating apps properly. If that confidence is missing or fear is too great, see a therapist and melon ball that shit out. It’s important. This is your one shot at life. Once you figure out the underlying issue, get a coach who can help your behaviorally.
/r/seduction09/10/20 07:49 PM
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Get to the root of the problem. Listen to Corey Wayne on YouTube. There’s time, but you need an brutally honest appraisal from a coach or friend who has experience with women give it to you straight. I had to learn I was afraid of rejection and was an attachment junky and the only way to get over it as to get in touch with my masculine self, go out and get emotionally beaten a few times. After a while you get stronger with women and they come flocking.
/r/seduction09/10/20 07:46 PM
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Depends on the girl. I agree that it has to come organically. You can try naughty pickup lines on wild party type girls on dating apps. In real life they’d have to be cutesy like “Hey, are you from Japan?” She says no, why? “Oh that’s too bad cause I would have been all up in Japanties.” Again, only works on some girls who are very open. Girls like cutesy cheesy over sexy. Save the sexy talk for the bedroom.
/r/seduction09/10/20 07:42 PM
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Gross. Don’t say that unless she’s a skank or has low self esteem
/r/seduction09/10/20 07:37 PM
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Send her fun, light hearted flirty banter or openers. Sure, tie back to her stories or posts, “hey Rachel, you’ve traveled the world, you have a great eye for fashion, and you look amazing in spandex. You’re multi layered, like a lasagna.” Fill in the blanks for what applies. Two more rounds of banter, plug date talk/meeting “imagine you and I giggling about that over drinks in a sweet outdoor lounge.” Gauge her response, say “great, then it’s a date, what’s your number so we can plan the logist…
/r/seduction09/10/20 07:36 PM
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Agreed...don’t be a fanboy and try to establish compatibility before meeting. This advice is the Walt Disney story line advice to dating.
/r/seduction09/10/20 07:29 PM
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