kinoki1984 Archive

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1	Women want to be sexy, but hate the men who sexualize them I enjoy a sexy woman as much as the next guy… but, in a recent slip up I installed Tinder again and have been doing some swiping. I’ve come to the realization that I want a woman to be sexy but in a Tinder profile, when the first thing you see is a cleavage or ass in tights… I find it off-putting. It’s cheap. Perhaps I’m just older but is that the only reason why we’re supposed to swipe on them? Yea, your boobs look good, but no thanks. (Perhaps I’m alone in this.)	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/25 09:54 PM
1	Women’s vetting does filter out the majority of men I personally filter about >99% of all women. Isn’t it safe to assume all people filter out about 99% of all of the opposite sex? The younger and more naive you are the more people you think you are compatible with. Life brings them hard lessons that makes you realise someone can be a perfect match… if it wasn’t for that one single trait. Self-respect is realising that you have to be just as picky with your partners.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/25 05:12 PM
1	Men should stop listening to women idea of a good partner Good relationships are hard. I’m hardly a good partner, in my mind. I’ve tried to be. But people are complicated. Now I’m very focused on me and mine. I only make room for a partner after I’ve done all my hobbies and taken care of mine. A lot of women can attest to that. And with age comes the realisation that things are fucking hard. It’s a fucking miracle if relationships do work out. It’s not about toxic this and toxic that. Men and women are both equally nuts. It requires active work to get …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/25 08:03 PM
2	Second Shift = No Dates. What Would You Do? Take Spider-Man as a pretty common, down to earth example. He’s constantly trying to succeed in education, at dating Mary Jane, at keeping his job, in his side projects and above all: being Spider-Man. He constantly fails because he tries to keep the worlds separate. He keeps his identity hidden. He doesn’t let people in. All while trying to juggle too much. So, the point I’m trying to get to. Unless you find someone who you can let in and have be a part of this business side of your personality…	/r/seduction	29/07/25 04:53 PM
3	Explain so many involuntarily single men at a roughly 50/50 gender ratio Don’t say ”always” when you mean to say ”in my experience” or ”according to this paper”. Only Sith deal in absolutes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/25 12:02 PM
2	Explain so many involuntarily single men at a roughly 50/50 gender ratio That’s me, but the other way around. As a man I feel the societal pressure of wanting to have a woman in my life. But I’m happy with situationships. I really don’t want to live with a woman. I find that women, the ones I’ve dated and the ones I know, style their homes in a way I don’t like, they don’t share my priorities and I’m really not interested in what they bring to the table. I really don’t like modern women clothing and I hate makeup. I have to fake it when I say I like it. Which I don’t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/25 12:01 PM
2	Single men, what drastically improved your sex life? Getting a divorce. 🤣	/r/seduction	19/05/25 04:57 PM
0	If Women Truly Want Good Men, Why Aren’t They Their First Choice? How many fully tatted violent biker gang drug dealer felon serial killers do you think exist? Must be a huge demand for both of them. I have never really come across any. And, if a woman is interested in one… then she isn’t exactly on my radar. Then it’s probably damage goods on both sides of that aile.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/25 06:00 AM
8	I’ll Answer the “Why Don’t Men Read Our Profiles?” Question. Dude. Have more self-respect. I always read every single profile I come across. I only swipe on the profiles of women I intend to have a decent shot at. All others, swipe away. I swipe like on about... 0.1% of women. So far I've been really succesful. My theory is that the only reason why the dating market is so skewed to begin with is that men think "it's a numbers game" and swipe away causing a massive inflation. Then men go blame "females", "feminism" or "unrealistic standards" instead of loo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/25 04:29 PM
–	Many men losing interest in women Who the hell has time for 100 women in a year? I don’t even meet that many new people. 😂That’s just hyperbole.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/25 04:36 PM
7	Husband boards plane without his wife when she insists on Starbucks You aren’t responsible for another adult like that. Fault is on her.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/01/25 10:12 AM
0	You can't complain about being lonely while failing to form/maintain social bonds. There is a movement that male loneliness needs to be fixed by someone else because the man is not at fault. These people will suggest that wives should be given by the state, that women should lower their standards or that we should roll back society to a time where women weren’t allowed freedoms. Society demands participation and adaption. Physical traits are just as important as social interactions. If you’re a conservative man, your dating pool is a lot smaller. That’s fine. If you don’t want…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/25 01:14 PM
9	Do women actually have as many options from online dating as men think they do? I talked to a women I was dating, we talked about her experiences. During the winter she had gone on dates with four men. One was only one date. Two made it to two. The forth one turned out to be an asshole once she got to know him. She was kind of burned out on the whole experience. What I don’t think men realise is that for each date to actually mean something you have to invest, and it takes time and effort to invest. Just showing up to dates isn’t hard but if you want to mean something with …	/r/seduction	19/01/25 07:20 AM
–	All long-term relationships require the man to do whatever the woman wants Women hold a lot of bargaining power. They know how easy it is to replace a man so they don't struggle too hard on it. Honestly, I'm not even saying you're wrong but my guess is that it all stems from men putting up with it. If we didn't, this cycle wouldn't continue. To be honest, dating women has me constantly questioning my heterosexuality. I like looking at women, I like being around women... but... honestly, I find women fashion to be downright ugly most of the time, I find the traditional …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/25 03:38 PM
1	How have women evolved with hypergamous selection if they haven’t had a choice in their mate until modern era? The only reason women can date up in the quantity they do is because the dating market allows it. Women’s beauty is in itself a currency. Just look what happens when the economy turns to shit and something like OnlyFans is available. As a man I also date up. Or I have. Since I have traits that are generally attractive to women I get women that are both richer and more attractive. We all want to date up. But unless you have a trait that can elevate you it’s difficult.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/24 12:16 PM
–	Society has given women a free pass for their standards while condemning men for theirs Honestly, how would a 35 yo even meet a 18 yo? That's like nothing I see happening that frequently unless there are some red flags. As a 40 yo, I ran into two 20 yo women on some occasions and there was some flirting going on. But it was light-hearted. Honestly, they were kids. It was nice to get the attention but a real relationship was never going to happen. Two different worlds.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/24 10:30 AM
1	Why women don't answer back on tinder no matter if they have matched with you ? Imagine a woman gets 10-20 matches a day. Everyone writes them. How many conversations do you manage to keep track of? And since they know there is a huge backlog of conversations just lying there, ugh… just signing in and finding you have 30 more likes and get 5 more matches.	/r/seduction	17/12/24 09:28 AM
3	Why women don't answer back on tinder no matter if they have matched with you ? You mean after children and other responsibilities are behind them when they have time to focus on dating again? 50 is prime time for dating after failed marriages.	/r/seduction	17/12/24 09:26 AM
1	Am I the only one tired of "sad" women? Most people. Men too.	/r/seduction	15/12/24 08:06 AM
4	Many Men Struggle in Dating because they are Not Very Interesting. As a guy who pretty much is the checkbox-checker definition of what you’ve listed as interesting, I find that women are just too uninteresting. I can entertain them for a bit but I get bored and go back to a long run or plan a solo-trip to a competition in a new country. I’ve yet to find someone. So I’d rather be on my own. So, it works both ways.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/24 07:42 AM
2	Do you think women have an obligation or moral duty to have children? Citation needed there. While a lot of couples did stay together it’s historic revisionism to claim ”stable hetero partnerships”. There were a lot of very unorthodox family situations. Many formed due to circumstance. A man and a woman with no caveats is fantasy at best. Reality is never that simple. And that is just Western European families I’m talking about here, if talking globally that fantasy goes to straight up fiction.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/24 08:55 AM
3	Do you think women have an obligation or moral duty to have children? Marriage was about securing estate. It was something rich people did in order to pass on property. And in that sense children were needed. But the children were never the "reason", wealth was. Before wealth came into play it took a village to raise a child. After the introducing of marriage it was up to the wedded family to secure upbringing to the children. Which worked out decent if you were rich, but if you're working class... well, you can see the problem really come to its full now when it'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/24 08:19 AM
4	Do you think women have an obligation or moral duty to have children? There's the rub. The people who advocate for "women's duty"-nonsense, don't want them raised. They want workers, cattle, meat for the grinder. They also want people of the "right color". Because there are babies being born, that isn't the problem. Their problem lies with to whom they're born.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/24 08:14 AM
64	Roses on Hinge NEVER hit? They aren't a power-up like you get from Mario Kart. They're just a normal like with flavour text. It doesn't increase anything. It just gives the illusion of being more effective, since they stand out. If you weren't going to attract these women to begin with, you wouldn't be able to even with a rose.	/r/seduction	21/11/24 02:08 PM
5	Is it different if a woman has had 100+ partners compared to a man with an equal amount? So, current social norms it is then. When I was younger I used to be so obsessed with girls being virgins. Until I had three of them. And realized that it was horrible having sex with someone inexperienced. Now it’s a turn-off for me if a woman hasn’t had a good number of partners. I want a partner who knows themselves. Who knows what they like. But I enjoy sex so and ain’t to strict with social norms.	/r/seduction	20/11/24 04:53 PM
10	Is it different if a woman has had 100+ partners compared to a man with an equal amount? Are there studies or just anecdotal evidence here? How do we measure these ”biological” traits? And how do we separate them from cultural norms where women are perceived as ”pure” and overall ”better” if they abstain from see? And like provide actual proof for this and not regurgitate ”internet propaganda”.	/r/seduction	20/11/24 04:25 PM
1	What to Dm a female coworker that likes all my Insta stories? Don't go from 0 to 100. Just strike up a conversation where natural. Then try to nudge things in the direction you want to if you see an opening.	/r/seduction	19/11/24 07:55 AM
2	What do I say to this girl on IG. Unless you know her in person, you need to grab her attention by doing something. And, how many do you think message her for the same reason? Is she popular? Do you think she wants that kind of attention from men? I mean, even the AI-generated profiles on Instagram has like dozens of (I’m guessing) real men calling her gorgeous and wanting her to hit them up. Don’t go for it unless you actually know her and can interact with her in another medium UNLESS you also make content that she might enjoy…	/r/seduction	09/11/24 08:03 PM
2	Why do older women seem so much nicer when approaching? The younger a woman is the more pressure is on her. If she wants to have a family and settle down, have kids and the like. She needs to make an informed descision. Then you have to be more selective. You don’t settle. Plus hormones can really mess with you. As you grow older, you get more comfortable and you know what you like. You’re also more experienced so you’re better equipped to deal with men. Men aren’t the nicest of beings, mind you (even if they’re self-proclaimed ”nice”).	/r/seduction	31/10/24 07:10 AM
1	What does it mean when she says "I don't want to ruin our friendship" She might actually just see you as a friend that she can depend on. Being a single mother is hard. And it's a breath of fresh air to have someone in your life that you feel safe leaving your kids with. So, the question is. Do you want to have a relationship with her. Then tell her that is what you intend and if she declines, then you move on. If you can live with her as a friend, then you need to let her make any advance in the romantic department (and you need to start seeing other women). The …	/r/seduction	29/10/24 11:41 AM
1	All I wear is gym attire, is this bad? I dress for the occasion. I also have tons of clothes. But like 75% of all I wear is gym attire. But when in business casual you’d never think that the gym is my second home.	/r/seduction	25/10/24 11:55 AM
1	Why are all dating coaches/PUAs are attractive? They are giving advise because they look like they look. It’s like fitness influencers who give you diet advise with their shirts off or just wearing a sports-bra so you can show their abs. It’s marketing.	/r/seduction	22/10/24 06:42 AM
2	Best Ways To Get A Kiss After A Date? I might be in the minority here but most of the time she kind of lets on that she wants to be kissed. Whenever she doesn’t I don’t do anything. If she really seems to want it I don’t make any moves but try to be closer than usual which often results in that she kisses me.	/r/seduction	04/09/24 05:06 AM
1	Women face no significant penalty when dating in their 30s Average men always seem to insist that women need to change. Never that they might be the problem.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/24 12:05 PM
–	One of the biggest eye openers of Tinder is seeing how rapidly women age As a 40 yo man I don’t agree at all. Anecdote. A woman started flirting with me a while ago but it felt off even though I found her attractive. I played along. Couldn’t quite put my finger on what felt wrong. When I came home, I looked her up (as we have friends in common) and turns out she was 21. Then it hit me. She looked like a child. There was no attraction even though she was good looking. I can’t bring myself to see women under 30 as partners, they’re too young. They might look good accor…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/23 07:36 PM
2	Being gay, bi, or trans is better than being straight in 2023 in first world countries Yikes. How the hell do you jump from “men are too lazy and selfish to invest the effort into making women have orgasms” to “when women have all their rights”?! How does having rights have anything to do in men becoming more empathic lovers?! Which right should we strip from women to make up for men being lazy? Is it the right to have an education? Is it the right to expose their hair, face and body? Is it the right to marry whoever they want? Should we force them to mutilate their genitalia in o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/23 07:55 PM
5	men only dislike ‘hookup culture’ when they can’t participate in it I can love a great hook-up but there needs to be chemistry and with the right woman. Most women, at least to me, ain’t my cup of meat when it comes to hook-ups. And to be honest, sex isn’t that great the first time. Sex only gets fun when you get to know eachother a little better and can try out a few stuffs. I’d rather have a situationship than a hook-up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/23 09:20 AM
1	Below average men consider themselves average, which is the root of many problems in dating There’s a disparity when comparing. Online dating is very much based on appearance. Which favors women. Women have far more experience with make-up and selfies. They tend to be better dressed and better groomed. Both physically and in social media. So, when comparing in a OLD setting you’re pretty much comparing a “5 man” with a “7 woman”. Just from a presentational standpoint. It’s not “unfair” for a 7-woman to want a 7-man. Even if that guy might have been a 8 or 9 if he knew how to present hi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/23 09:45 AM
3	Does men need to pay the bill? Usually I see the girl picking up the first bill as a sign she’s buying out of another date. Usually I say something like “I’ve got this one, you’ll get the next!” I don’t care too much for splitting 50/50 but rather that both persons are economically in a place where a date isn’t make or brake for their economy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/23 06:03 AM
1	Do you think you would exist if your parents had to endure modern dating? As a 40yo man casually browsing dating apps, I’m honestly surprised by the huge amount of women in their 40s looking for a man to start a family with, kids and all. I already have kids and I’m not looking to start a franchise any time soon so they’re automatically left swipes. But man, something just feels off in the current dating scene.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/23 03:51 PM
1	50 women in one day I can’t even muster the energy to talk with 50 people in a day. And that’s just saying ”hi”. I would be drained from that. And I’m an extrovert. I do like conversations to be meaningful.	/r/seduction	09/10/23 07:44 PM
1	The only reason women have the extreme upper hand in dating is because men are way hornier; simple supply and demand. I’d replace “naturally” with “socially” since the fears they have stem from society and not anything biological. And why settle with less than you think you’re worth? Most men would want to date a woman who is more “valuable” than them if they had the chance. So this isn’t inherit with women specifically.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/23 11:20 AM
1	Do male sex workers, male escorts, actually exist for women? are there women in the world that actually pay for sex? The incel way of thinking that a “woman is a woman” is so gross. Like sure, any woman can most likely find someone willing to fuck them and never hear back from them. But would you willingly have sex with someone who physically and mentally repulse you just to have sex? Most guys who brand themselves incels can stoop to the same self-degrading behavior just to have sex. They don’t because they think they deserve better and they know it. No one should. They want that double-standard though so the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/09/23 03:39 AM
3	Do male sex workers, male escorts, actually exist for women? are there women in the world that actually pay for sex? “Involuntary celibate”?! How can’t they be that? There are so many cases where a woman can’t find a partner. Even men who can’t get a partner still has the option to go to a sex worker. Just because someone isn’t devoid of self-respect and won’t let anyone fuck them doesn’t mean they can’t be an incel	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/09/23 11:38 AM
2	Do you believe a scenario where the average man is desirable is possible? Certain limits exist but a lot of limits are make-believe and perpetuated as universal truths when they’re really not. There aren’t as many limits as men believe.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/23 07:29 AM
2	If a man is really attractive, women will ignore his glaring red flags Have you met any of these women first hand or are they just anecdotal?	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/23 03:32 PM
2	If a man is really attractive, women will ignore his glaring red flags What is “a lot”? 10? 100? Out of how many billions on the earth? These “a lot” are a minority and often from very dire social circumstances.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/23 02:11 PM
0	Most controversial gender views here are literally just common sense, around the world I have no clue if this is sarcasm… 🫣	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/23 08:09 AM
1	Women...ALL WOMEN...hate men who act like pussies Why “masculine”? You use words like “pussy” and “masculine” further cementing traits to genders. Women aren’t pussies. Being feminine isn’t being a pussy. You can be feminine and courageous. Even as a man. Or do you feel that “masculine” carries inherit positive traits as “courage”, “assertiveness” and “conversational”? Are their any positive traits you associate with “masculine” that couldn’t be ascribed to “feminine” equally?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/23 05:28 PM
1	Women...ALL WOMEN...hate men who act like pussies But is there anything wrong with not liking a “pussy”? And I don’t agree that women hate it. It’s just not a trait anyone finds attractive. So, what do you think men who acts like “pussies” should do in order to make themselves more attractive?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/23 03:14 PM
1	Women...ALL WOMEN...hate men who act like pussies Isnt “pussy” the same as cowardice? Not just from something like violence but from commitment, unforeseen consequences and such. Backbonelessness and its ilk. I believe that that trait in question is equally unattractive to anyone in any relationship. Is the conclusion that women should find it attractive? Or help men not act “as a pussy”? I don’t get the end goal. Or is it just a rant?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/23 02:46 PM
2	Women...ALL WOMEN...hate men who act like pussies People in general dislike cowards. It’s not an attractive trait. 9Either as a friend, co-worker or partner. That you choose to focus on “women” specifically says that you have a narrow view of your analysis. Or do you think cowardice is attractive in any relationship?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/23 06:34 AM
0	The reason why we forgive men more for picking crappy women That 30% is really fucking depressing. I haven’t even put any efforts into dating or romance in the slightest this last year but have still had two partners (or more, can’t remember the dates and a year is a long time.)	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/23 12:56 PM
6	What are the signs you're more attractive than you think you are? Since my divorce about 1.5 year ago, I’ve initiated relationships with nine women. Out of those nine, I’ve ended up in bed with 7 of them in the first week of knowing them.	/r/seduction	23/05/23 05:20 AM
14	It appears that women don't want men By shallow women perhaps. Not all. It’s something that men believe that all women want in order to justify going on angry internet rants, when it’s a very small subset of them that perhaps want it in a fantasy land setting (seriously, how many men can even deliver that?). It’s the same as a shallow man might want big-tittied glass-hour bodied pin-up. While those attributes would be “desirable” in a fantasy setting, we live in reality and we need a partner who lives there as well.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/23 11:07 AM
1	You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men..... So, do you think women value a man higher if he has slept around and has no self control?	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 08:51 AM
0	You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men..... Naw dawg. That’s straight up BS. If these men exist then they’re just hypocrites.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 08:54 PM
1	Is the virginity rate among women rising too? I believe the whole discussion of virginity is so wrong. Sex, or rather intimacy, is like gainful employment. If you have sex once with a stranger, sure: technically you’re not a virgin anymore but like if it was a job: that’s a one-time deposit into your emotional account. Sex isn’t the goal, it’s a by-product of a healthy intimate relationship. You need to cultivate that shit, make it sustainable and plan long-term. Just having sex once doesn’t make you viable as a intimate partner or able to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/23 06:36 AM
14	Women tell men to stick to their league, but women are attracted to the type of men - those out of their league Goal posts move horizontally which is the direction he said was easy. Moving goalposts vertically is way harder.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/09/22 05:30 PM
3	Despite men and women being roughly equal in population, attractive men are seen as scarce, why is that? If attractiveness was the only measurement for a good relationship, then sure. On a personality level I’d say things are pretty equal. But I’ll give the OP this: women pay more attention to their looks than men. This could very well be for an advertising industrial complex set up promoting that they’re not doing enough to keep pretty in order to sell makeup and other cosmetics. If men were targeted the same way I’d reckon they’d also start looking better.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/21 03:30 PM
2	Feminist/bluepill shaming of male sexuality is making men absolutely and utterly terrified of expressing any interest in women whatsoever. And that's one of the biggest things pushing them to TRP and creating the "nice guys" they despise. Name checks out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/20 09:08 AM
1	Feminist/bluepill shaming of male sexuality is making men absolutely and utterly terrified of expressing any interest in women whatsoever. And that's one of the biggest things pushing them to TRP and creating the "nice guys" they despise. In nature, almost every single male of the species dons bright colours, performs and practices elaborate dances and singing, they woo and take every chance to attract a partner... however, the human male seem to think that they can dress in cargo pants and worn out t-shirts and by acting “civil” should be enough to attract the female of the species. That’s all kinds of fucked up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/20 06:31 AM