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What if she's going against gender norms because she thinks they're silly and sees no point in following them?
/r/seduction17/02/13 03:18 AM
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This.
/r/seduction08/10/12 07:00 AM
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Look, I'm not trying to belittle or ridicule you. All I'm trying to do is show that expectations are different depending on where you live. I used the term "anal east-coaster" to illustrate how people from my city joke about how difficult it is to acclimatize to our norms if you've moved from the east coast to here. I did not mean to offend you, and I apologize. It's not ever rude to show up to work on time, but whether you're really expected to depends on where you work. I worked at a web start…
/r/seduction18/09/12 12:20 AM
6

I was describing a cultural mindset, not my own opinion - sorry if that wasn't clear. There's nothing wrong with wanting people to be on time, it's just not socially acceptable where I'm from. We're just more laid back - being late doesn't piss off your date here, unless they're a recent east coast transplant. ;) Oh, and if you show up on time to a California party, you're going to be partying alone for at least half an hour. It's not that you're late, really, it's just that we say we're going t…
/r/seduction18/09/12 12:02 AM
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Well, if you're meeting in public, it's not rude, but it's rude to assume that they'll be there. If you're meeting them at their home, or workplace, it's rude because they will probably be running late, and now you've made them hurry since you're there before they expected you to be. Edit: again, I am only talking about the prevalent mindset in my area - this probably does not apply to you.
/r/seduction17/09/12 11:55 PM
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I agree to a certain extent, but being late is pretty much expected in my area.
/r/seduction17/09/12 10:58 PM
-8

it depends on the culture where you are. In my region, you can say all sorts of things by what time you arrive. (I'm female) Say I'm planning to meet a guy for drinks, and we agreed on 7:00. If I show up before 7:05, I look overeager. If I show up around 7:05-7:15, I'm politely on time, no warning signs. If I show up around 7:15-7:25, I'm running late, but that's because I'm a busy person - you're lucky to get any of my time at all. If I'm later than 7:25, I'm kinda rudely late. If I'm going to …
/r/seduction17/09/12 10:12 PM
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Right here. I'm in southern California, and would consider "on time" to be anywhere up to 20 minutes late. It's actually kind of rude to show up on time here, it makes you look overeager. Or like an anal east-coaster with no life. Neither are good. Edit: I wonder if anyone who's downvoting me has actually spent time in my region. Clearly what I'm saying doesn't apply to the whole world - I only meant to comment on how different expectations may be across cultures.
/r/seduction17/09/12 10:07 PM
1

Genderqueer female bodied pansexual here. I would also appreciate being able to write my own. Additionally, can we be friends?
/r/seduction23/08/12 12:49 AM
1

Spot on.
/r/seduction31/07/12 09:08 AM
4

Why not fuck hot party girls who are intellectual and passionate about their careers? Move your scene to somewhere near a university and there will be tons of them.
/r/seduction31/07/12 09:04 AM
1

Yeah, from a utilitarian perspective it's wrong. I subscribe to a more rights-based moral theory. I respect other people's rights, and while I don't think that anyone has a right to not be lied to, I'm always honest about important things.
/r/seduction29/07/12 10:00 PM
1

I certainly don't condone actively pursuing someone in a monogamous relationship. I don't even condone responding to the advances of someone in a monogamous relationship. I'm obsessed with honesty and I don't want to be involved with that. I do not think that it is wrong to sleep with someone who is in a monogamous relationship. It's not a nice thing to do, but you're not violating anyone's rights or breaking any promises.
/r/seduction29/07/12 09:14 PM
5

Exactly. I think cheating is a horrible thing to do - but you're not the one doing it, she is. I personally would (probably) not want to fuck someone I knew was in a monogamous relationship, but that's because I'm pretty turned off by dishonesty. If you're fine with it, it's not your problem.
/r/seduction29/07/12 07:43 AM
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I think it's polite to tone down your game once you find out she has a boyfriend, but I think you're not giving women anywhere near enough credit here. If she has a strong desire to be faithful and monogamous with her boyfriend, she ain't gonna fuck you. It's rude and pointless to try to seduce women who are clearly not interested in you. If she's happy to cheat on her boyfriend, that's her fuckup, not yours. She's the one that's hurting him and damaging their relationship. She's the one that ma…
/r/seduction29/07/12 07:32 AM
1

Oh, of course. But if you should be concerned about STDs, use condoms. If you have nothing to worry about (neither of you has unprotected sex with anyone else, and neither shares neeedles) you're fine.
/r/seduction19/07/12 11:59 PM
1

It depends on the context. I'd hesitate to have a one night stand during my period (I've done it a few times, usually while drunk. I don't object to one night stands when I'm not menstruating). However, I don't think twice about it if it's someone I've been sexual with for a while or am dating. Mostly because I don't want to deal with the "ew, gross" reaction.
/r/seduction14/07/12 06:19 PM
2

Agreed, I just wanted to make sure that no one read his post and generalized his advice to, say, a club setting.
/r/seduction14/07/12 12:17 PM
1

My uncle told me about that, but I'm essentially vegan so I don't think I could have gotten it?
/r/seduction14/07/12 12:16 PM
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For what it's worth, the perspective of a girl from California: First: stop saying Cali right now. It's socal, norcal, or just California. Second: I haven't had any sex outside of California (except for an almost-lesbian experience in a hotel room in Colorado with my best friend when we were 14, but that's a story for a different time) so I can't compare regional norms, but I think handjobs are a pretty typical part of foreplay. That said, I wouldn't spend too much time with one, and I certainly…
/r/seduction14/07/12 08:41 AM
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Note: this is generally only a good idea if things are already quickly escalating towards sex. Complementing her on her appearance, especially things she can't control like eye color, is never a good idea early on.
/r/seduction14/07/12 08:34 AM
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Funny, I didn't notice that it sounded like I'm on my period. The reason I'm not allowed to have sex this week is that I'm currently on antibiotics for a UTI and yeast infection, and intercourse before the infections are 100% gone (even though I feel fine) could cause them to come back. Period sex FTW. I can understand aversion to cunnilingus during shark week, but PIV? Unless he's got a blood phobia, I think he should grow the fuck up. Take a shower right beforehand so there's not gross crusty …
/r/seduction14/07/12 04:08 AM
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Me too. I'm probably just horny because I'm not allowed to have sex this week.
/r/seduction14/07/12 03:33 AM
1

Perhaps most people do, but that's probably not gender-specific. I've had that passing moment, but only with about a third of my extremely casual partners.
/r/seduction12/07/12 09:55 PM
1

I hope no one would take DivineIntervention's comment as anything but sarcasm, but I certainly see your point. However, I was actually not being sarcastic - I was mostly privately making fun of myself. I'm into BDSM, both as a dom and a sub (and also both sadist and masochist). I am fully aware that most people are not, and physical aggression/violence is NEVER okay without consent... but when I'm extremely drunk sometimes I'll be flirting with someone and suddenly think it's a good idea to slap…
/r/seduction12/07/12 08:30 PM
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they are weighing every guy they sleep with in some way for long term potential Uhh, no. Women have casual sex too. Women enjoy being single too.
/r/seduction12/07/12 05:35 AM
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So far that tactic hasn't worked outside of my bdsm club.
/r/seduction12/07/12 05:08 AM
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At all, or just involving you? You seem pretty comfortable with your sexuality and everyone elses, so would you be comfortable having group sex with, say, two bisexual guys, two bisexual girls, and a lesbian? Only rule is that you can say no to things that directly involve your body - so you wouldn't need to have sex with the men, but they'll probably be having sex with each other? Just a random scenario.
/r/seduction07/07/12 04:08 PM
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So you think that two people can't be friends unless neither has ANY romantic feelings or sexual desires regarding the other? Romantic feelings usually get in the way of friendship if they're unrequited. Sexual urges don't. If I lived in a lala land where absolutely everyone wanted to fuck me and there were no consequences for anything, I'd fuck a LOT of my friends that I'm not currently sleeping with. In the real world, I don't, because some of them aren't into me, and there would be consequenc…
/r/seduction07/07/12 02:35 PM
1

99%? That's unbelievable. I'm female, and I have plenty of male friends. While I'm sure that at least half (and likely up to 80 or 90%) of the ones that are both single and heterosexual would be happy to fuck me with no strings attached, I doubt that very many have romantic feelings for me or genuinely want to be my boyfriend. Many of them, like most sedditors, enjoy being single, so they don't want to be anyone's boyfriend. Many others do want a girlfriend, but are so romantically incompatible …
/r/seduction07/07/12 12:52 PM
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Do not buy a woman a drink & nice conversation does not create attraction... Yeah, buying women drinks is generally a terrible idea. Conversation, however, can absolutely create attraction.
/r/seduction07/07/12 09:41 AM
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It's more useful to listen to her and then pick apart her suggestions for what might be useful and what is bullshit than it is to totally ignore her.
/r/seduction07/07/12 09:27 AM
1

I really, really wish more of the guys in my 'party town' understood this. Too often am I having a good time at a clifftop rager dancing alone or with friends when I feel a hand on my hip and a cock on my ass come out of nowhere, soon to be followed by "do you like Frenchmen?" Fuck no, I don't like Frenchmen, you're the assholes that keep assaulting me. If a simple ಠ_ಠ doesn't get them to back off, I have no problem with throwing an elbow into their stomach or poorly executing a wrist lock that …
/r/seduction07/07/12 09:26 AM
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It's just a different culture - and it has a lot to do with differences in how Americans treat alcohol. Worldwide, people seem to start experimenting with alcohol at age 14-16, and almost everyone is drinking socially on a fairly regular basis at 18 or so. In Europe, drinking ages range from 14 to 18, and they're also more graduated (ie, you can buy beer at 16, but have to wait til 18 for hard liquor) it seems. Alcohol isn't hard to obtain, and it's seen as a normal part of life, even if it may …
/r/seduction07/07/12 09:19 AM
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Spot on. As long as you take a minute or two to let her warm up to you before grinding, it's not creepy to grind. If you're in an environment where grinding is socially acceptable, you're probably looking to get laid that night. If she's not into grinding when you approach that way, chances are, she's not going to be interested in fucking you later that night anyway, so you can move on to the next girl until you find one that has the same goal for the night that you do. Source: I'm a girl and I …
/r/seduction07/07/12 09:09 AM
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I doubt that many people on seddit are out looking for a potential mother for their children. Even if they were, what about enjoying some sexual dancing (as a single, young, childless person) makes someone unfit to be a parent a few years later? That's ridiculous.
/r/seduction07/07/12 08:57 AM
2

Am I the only one who thinks it's lame if you're older than 15?
/r/seduction07/07/12 07:10 AM
0

it's not easy for a girl and a guy to strike a non-sexual friendship Not true in general, at all.
/r/seduction07/07/12 06:55 AM
1

If you're going specifically for techniques that will help you professionally, it might be helpful to employ a combination of strategies typically used by women and strategies used by men on other men. I am also a woman in a male-dominated field, and find that I have the a lot of success when my actions and body language are balanced between masculinity and femininity. If you're too traditionally masculine, there will always be a few assholes who will think you're too assertive for a woman and b…
/r/seduction07/07/12 06:54 AM
1

This! I'm complimented on my looks pretty frequently, and it's honestly a huge turnoff. If it's used as an opener, it both DLV's him and shows me that he's so boring that he can't think of anything to say other than "I think you're cute". Compliments are fine, but NEVER about looks, and not as openers unless it is extremely genuine and specific. Thoughts?
/r/seduction07/07/12 06:46 AM
1

Always have condoms and some good lube handy. I am shocked by how many men don't have lube at home. What do you jack off with, lotion? PSA: Have multiple types of condoms! Latex allergies are not as uncommon as you'd think.
/r/seduction07/07/12 06:37 AM
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Depends on what you've got going on down there. A reasonable amount of hair may look nice - but while I love a mouthful of cock, I certainly don't want it to be accompanied by a mouthful of pubic hair that I'll be picking out of my teeth later. Ew. Obviously it's your body, your choice - but if your decision is largely based on what is attractive and/or functional, a neat trim is probably the best option. Can you honestly say you prefer going down on a woman with a full bush to one who's clean-s…
/r/seduction07/07/12 06:35 AM
0

As a girl who dates and sleeps with quite a lot of men, you are very wrong. Am I attractive? Yes. Am I feminine? Physically, yes. Mentally, less so. Is that all there is to picking up men as a woman? Hell no. A straight girl's game is much more subtle, but it absolutely exists. Some degree of physical attractiveness is necessary, but that goes for men and women alike.
/r/seduction07/07/12 06:27 AM
1

maybe invite a 4th person along so s/he can chill with "middle aged coworker" while OP and her crush flirt?
/r/seduction07/07/12 06:23 AM
1

fPUA exists, but is not active at all :(
/r/seduction07/07/12 06:22 AM
1

Depends on the situation, though. Sometimes I'll invite friends along to hang out with men I'm attracted to, because I don't know them well enough to be alone with them - this is only if there will be lots of alcohol and no one I know involved (like at a party with only his friends), or if there's a chance I will be totally alone with him (like going on a hike, or if he's driving). Or I might invite my friends along because the particular event he suggested is something my friends would enjoy. I…
/r/seduction07/07/12 06:21 AM
2

DO NOT approach a girl from behind. This is a threatening behavior to them and grosses them out. Thank you for pointing this out! I've instantly dismissed very physically attractive men because they did this to me on the dance floor. If I have enough of my wits about me, it's scary. If I'm extremely drunk, it's still disgusting. Let me see your face before I feel your cock on my ass through your jeans.
/r/seduction07/07/12 06:08 AM
1

Now, does this mean that I am attractive but only girls that aren't that good looking and don't get hit on much will approach me because THEY have to do the work to get guys? dingdingdingdingding
/r/seduction07/07/12 06:06 AM
1

"Reciprocate appropriately" means that, while attempting to defend yourself, it is permissible to cause as much physical harm to her as she is causing to you. She's 115lbs, you're 200, and she slapped you in the face once? Hitting her is really extreme, but grabbing her arms so she can't attack you is acceptable. Same size difference, but she's attacking you and not stopping (punching, biting, pulling hair, kicking, etc)? If you can't easily restrain her, I think a punch is totally acceptable, e…
/r/seduction07/07/12 06:02 AM
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American girl here. Disclaimer: I'm not 21 yet, so my experience is limited to house parties and 18+ music venues, but I live right next to Isla Vista, CA where there are dozens of house parties that look like this every weekend and once a year the beach looks like this. I'd like to point out that while I'm totally down with grinding, you shouldn't fucking come up behind some girl and just grab her hips and pull her into you without ANY sort of introduction. You're absolutely right that if you'r…
/r/seduction07/07/12 05:51 AM
1

Just approach as usual, with a bit less of a sexual charge than you normally would in a bar setting. If she's gay, you have a new lesbian friend, and you can never be friends with enough lesbians! If she's straight, she'll probably throw out some IOIs. If she's bi, best of both worlds!
/r/seduction07/07/12 05:35 AM
1

As a bisexual girl, this would win me over SO fast. Although I'd assume you were bi and probably try to get you involved in a bisexual orgy.
/r/seduction07/07/12 05:33 AM
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As a bisexual girl, I approve this message. At pride events, half the time I'll be in hyper-dyke mode and completely ignore men, and half the time I'm out of my element because men aren't hitting on me. My guard is WAY lower because at pride I'm not fighting off tons of straight men, so if you're friendly you'll probably get my number!
/r/seduction07/07/12 05:31 AM
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If they're actual lesbians, and you are a man, you're not going to be sleeping with them. FTFY
/r/seduction02/07/12 08:11 AM
0

Interesting. Would it be accurate to amend your statement to say "if it works on a straight woman, it will work on a gay man"? Why or why not? I certainly know that I can't use the same tactics with lesbians that I do with straight men. (I play for all the teams).
/r/seduction02/07/12 08:01 AM
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The butch/femme relationship stereotype hasn't been accurate for decades. Also, the "kind of girls that men want" probably are not lesbians. Butch dykes know how to pick up lesbians. Also bisexual women. The point is, butch dykes know how to pick up women as a woman - so it's not really the same dynamic at all. I think everyone should share strategies with everyone (well, barring people that are potentially available to you). Also, as a moderately feminine bisexual girl, I think it's hilarious t…
/r/seduction02/07/12 07:59 AM
4

Oh god, the orgies. Okay, I'm down.
/r/seduction02/07/12 04:41 AM
2

Really? I'm the opposite. Men are easy. Women... well...
/r/seduction02/07/12 04:29 AM
14

Why only the butch ones?
/r/seduction02/07/12 04:14 AM
4

Me too! I feel like we as a group might actually have some good advice to offer, since we've been on the female side of a heterosexual dynamic, and also know how to pick up women. Disclaimer: I personally am only sort of okay at picking up women.
/r/seduction02/07/12 04:13 AM
8

Talk about generalizations...
/r/seduction02/07/12 04:09 AM
10

Bing!
/r/seduction02/07/12 04:07 AM
99

That goes for people in general, actually.
/r/seduction02/07/12 04:06 AM
1

I am 17.
/r/seduction29/06/12 11:10 PM
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Hah. I'll be 18 in five months, which is not legal where I live. It's never stopped me!
/r/seduction29/06/12 07:41 AM
6

Great response. Although I personally look like this (I'm in the middle).
/r/seduction29/06/12 04:31 AM
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Telling a person who remarks that they are turned off by a penis on their women is the same as Wait, telling them what? As I said in an earlier comment in this thread, While it's perfectly acceptable to be turned off by women with penises, it's absolutely unacceptable to shame people who don't care whether a girl has a penis or not. It's also absolutely unacceptable to shame a woman by telling her that she's less of a woman, or that she's not feminine, for any reason, including possession of a p…
/r/seduction29/06/12 03:33 AM
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having a penis does make you less of a woman I think we may be using different definitions of woman. I define 'woman' as someone with a feminine gender identity, or someone who self-identifies as a woman. Having a vagina does not make someone a woman, although most women have vaginas. I think it's dangerous and hurtful to tell someone that they aren't the gender that they identify as, or that they are less of a member of that gender for any reason. Would you tell a woman that had some physical t…
/r/seduction29/06/12 02:07 AM
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First off, I wasn't angry - but it does make me angry to see straight people in 'gay spaces' behaving disrespectfully. Not that you were being disrespectful.
/r/seduction29/06/12 01:54 AM
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No. I'm saying that telling someone else that they should avoid having sex with transgender people is transphobic. Also, you can be a straight man and be attracted to transwomen. They're women. They look like women, act like women, and identify as women, but some of them happen to have penises. That doesn't make them any less of a woman. While it's perfectly acceptable to be turned off by women with penises, it's absolutely unacceptable to shame people who don't care whether a girl has a penis o…
/r/seduction29/06/12 01:31 AM
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I have no idea how he thinks this is a victory. Even if he's clean of STDs, she could get pregnant - and once she's pregnant, he has absolutely no power and is on the hook for 18 years of child support if she decides to keep the kid. Not the smartest thing to do with someone you barely know.
/r/seduction29/06/12 01:26 AM
1

I totally agree, but saying that someone else SHOULD be uncomfortable with having sex with a girl with a penis is transphobic, no?
/r/seduction29/06/12 01:24 AM
26

not protected whatsoever ಠ_ಠ
/r/seduction29/06/12 12:32 AM
4

You're an awesome person. Fuck transphobia.
/r/seduction29/06/12 12:29 AM
10

every time after, I know how hot girls feel all the time There you go. Use this experience to help you make sure you're not making them uncomfortable. Unless you're seriously homophobic, pretty much anything that a gay dude will do/say to you that makes your skin crawl will also seriously freak out a straight girl you're hitting on.
/r/seduction29/06/12 12:28 AM
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when I've been to gay clubs with women, I've been hit on by mad dudes No shit, Sherlock. You're at a gay club, everyone who doesn't already know you're straight will assume you're gay. That's what gay clubs are primarily for: gay people.
/r/seduction29/06/12 12:25 AM
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male parents can be disqualified as fathers because they act unmasculine to you Woops, my language was ambiguous. I said " masculine gender identity", because of course not all men are male! I meant that a father is a parent who identifies as a man, not that "you must be at least THIS masculine to be a father". That is utter bullshit. But I will have to be more careful with my language, I can see how what I thought was merely trans* friendly language could have been misinterpreted. I do want to …
/r/MensRights18/06/12 09:20 PM
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Excellent idea. I agree, but in many cases the father is unfit but still should have to pay child support. (I'm not trying to be misandrist here, there are lots of unfit mothers that should still pay child support as well.
/r/MensRights18/06/12 05:11 PM
1

A simple definition could not possibly cover all of the possible situations in which someone could be defined as a father, but the best I can do is this: a father is someone with a masculine gender identity who plays a parental role in a child's life. A parent is an adult that nurtures and raises a child. If a child lacks a parent who is a man, I think it's perfectly acceptable for parents who are not men to celebrate father's day with the child. Otherwise, it's pretty strange - if a kid has a m…
/r/MensRights18/06/12 08:38 AM
1

derail the discussion with your "what about the wimminz" bullshit Slut-shaming is not just a women's issue, you know.
/r/MensRights18/06/12 08:31 AM
2

I leave it to each family to define what a father is.
/r/MensRights18/06/12 08:27 AM
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Yes. However "slut" traditionally describes someone who has casual sex, and it's easier to eliminate the word than it is to reclaim it and redefine it. Call her a "cheater" by all means. Calling her a slut is like calling someone a fag because they broke a promise, because "fag" and "slut" are both words that are usually meant as insults There's nothing wrong with being gay, and there's nothing wrong with being sexually active cheating and breaking promises are both bad (cheating is a type of pr…
/r/MensRights18/06/12 03:46 AM
4

It's pretty hard to make sure that it's spent on the children. That said, I certainly know the injustices of the child support system. I've worked in family law for a while, and my heart has been broken time and time again watching fathers fail to get visitation rights after breaking their backs to make child support payments. It's absolutely disgusting.
/r/MensRights18/06/12 03:39 AM
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I don't think anyone really gains much from marriage.
/r/MensRights18/06/12 03:22 AM
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She is not a slut because "slut" is an outdated term used to shame people, mostly women, for their sexual choices. She should be shamed for adultery (her husband is almost definitely not okay with her sleeping around while he's gone). I understand that men are slut-shamed too. That is also a huge problem. It is the SAME problem. I never once said that slut-shaming is only a problem for women. What is the definition of a slut then? Slut is an outdated term. It used to be used derogatorily to desc…
/r/MensRights18/06/12 03:18 AM
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adulterous men and women absolutely deserve to be shamed Absolutely! However, using "slut" to describe her is offensive because it perpetuates the idea that casual sex is inherently immoral.
/r/MensRights18/06/12 03:13 AM
4

They're supposed to be. It sucks that it doesn't always work that way.
/r/MensRights18/06/12 03:12 AM
4

Do you think that men should be able to sleep with whoever they want to, without criticism, provided that it's consensual? I do. If so, shouldn't anyone be able to do so? If not, why? Clearly, this woman is lying to her husband and cheating on him. That's a terrible thing to do. But that's the ONLY part of what she is doing that is wrong - lying to her husband. If she was single, this would be fine. If her husband was fine with her hooking up with other guys while he's gone, it would be fine. An…
/r/MensRights18/06/12 02:13 AM
3

I am not condoning this woman's decision to go behind her husband's back. She is a terrible person for treating her spouse that way. It is not helpful, however, to demonize her for wanting sex from OP. She should be demonized for cheating on her husband, not for desiring multiple sexual partners.
/r/MensRights18/06/12 02:10 AM
4

I respectfully disagree. What is it, then? Just biology? What about adopted kids, shouldn't they spend father's day with their adoptive dad, not their biological dads? What about kids with adoptive lesbian moms? They don't have dads at all.
/r/MensRights18/06/12 01:56 AM
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"Women do it all for kids while men are lying down on the couch". I don't hear this from feminists, ever. What part of "father" don't they understand (including some commentators here)? Some households don't have fathers - perhaps dad died when the kids were little, or maybe he's a deadbeat who doesn't want to see his kids, or mom decided to become a single mom without help from a man, or there are two moms.... And in those situations it's perfectly acceptable to celebrate mom on father's day.
/r/MensRights18/06/12 01:42 AM
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Because they have to fill both roles. We should also recognize single fathers on mothers' day.
/r/MensRights18/06/12 01:38 AM
4

I totally agree with the gist of your post, but slut-shaming isn't going to further mens rights either! Yes, that girl is selfish. That girl is a bad spouse. She is inconsiderate. She is not a slut.
/r/MensRights18/06/12 01:33 AM
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Thank you. I totally agree.
/r/MensRights18/06/12 01:30 AM
9

It shouldn't. It's not the kid's fault that mom was a bad wife.
/r/MensRights18/06/12 01:28 AM
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Slut-shaming isn't conducive to furthering the rights of anyone.
/r/MensRights18/06/12 01:27 AM
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Sounds more like misandry than feminism. Fuck people like that. Fuck feminism, actually - egalitarianism is where it's at.
/r/seduction06/06/12 07:02 PM
1

Passed out and unconscious is totally different than blackout drunk. You can give verbal consent when blackout drunk, but you obviously can't if you're unconscious.
/r/MensRights13/05/12 09:44 PM
1

So that is the law that should be changed instead of establishing a BAC limit.
/r/MensRights13/05/12 08:00 AM
3

As another female, this lady is right.
/r/MensRights13/05/12 07:56 AM
2

Yup, that was part of the humiliation that I received during that relationship (being tickled until I pissed myself). It was great. ಠ_ಠ Seriously, any kind of touching is not okay if you tell them to stop. Fuck those people.
/r/seduction06/05/12 12:21 PM
3

WHAT. THE. FUCK. I know you're trolling, but saying that to a sexual abuse survivor is beyond fucked up. I'm not even personally offended - I actually find this kind of privately hilarious because I've actually done rape play with the partner I was talking about, and good times were had by all. Since you obviously didn't know that, or really anything about me other than that I am an abuse survivor, that's an incredibly fucked up thing to say. Go off and die, quietly and alone, because it's bound…
/r/seduction06/05/12 07:54 AM
4

Do you think I should try to condition myself to tolerate it, then? I currently do have a partner (not like a committed boyfriend or anything, but a good friend that's also a bit more who I'm also sexually involved with) that I trust, and I suppose I could ask him to tickle me, then stop when I say stop, let me recover, then do it again... it sounds like absolute torture, but if I could make the panic response go away, it might be worth it. I have anxiety attacks from other things too, but those…
/r/seduction06/05/12 04:58 AM
2

On a girl that you've met recently? No. Nononono. NO! Sounds way too lovey-romantic-highschool. I'd drop that dude like a burning coal. Maybe if things had been going exceptionally well and I was extremely attracted, I'd say "what us? you and your [silly thing he's attached to, like a skateboard or a band or his field of study]?"
/r/seduction06/05/12 03:42 AM
2

I think it totally depends on who executes it. I can totally see it used by a fat programmer who thinks he's learning to pick up women but has no social skills, but if you're already charismatic, it's fine. -a lady
/r/seduction06/05/12 03:39 AM
1

Haha, I think you may be in the minority. I'm also a lady, and I'd think it was hilarious. Definitely would not make me interested in someone I had previously had no interest in, but if it was just someone I had been sort of ignoring due to my hectic schedule, it would buy some of my time.
/r/seduction06/05/12 03:37 AM
0

Nope, some of us are poly.
/r/seduction06/05/12 03:34 AM
1

I disagree, and I'm college-aged, so I feel like I'm not being a geezer here. I usually respond to texts in a few minutes, but if it takes an hour or two, NBD.
/r/seduction06/05/12 03:32 AM
6

No, I totally understand that. I wasn't saying you shouldn't ever do that or anything (although I may have come off that way)... I'm not really sure how to deal with it though. Should I try to casually bring it up before things escalate at all physically? Unfortunately, it's not really a matter of "being uncomfortable for a couple seconds". If it catches me off guard it can trigger an anxiety attack. I've had so many good things ruined (or at least made awkward for a bit) because I end up being …
/r/seduction06/05/12 03:12 AM
14

I really wish guys would ask first. I get that it ruins the fun - and honestly it probably is fun and it's probably a brilliant idea with most girls. But I hate being tickled. It's a trigger for me - I was sexually abused for over a year as a teen, and he would always start by holding me down and tickling me. Interestingly, I'm now into hardcore bdsm, but if someone touches my stomach or tickles me I'll always panic and immediately need 5 minutes or so to get back into a normal headspace.
/r/seduction05/05/12 11:13 PM
3

Totally. Female and bisexual here.
/r/seduction05/04/12 06:01 AM
8

The women who would subscribe to seddit are girls exactly like you and me.
/r/seduction05/04/12 06:00 AM
2

Haha, yes. I did say "hugging is generally good, but..." because I think most girls probably do like it. I just wanted to remind the community that not everyone is like this - I feel like nonhuggers are a big enough population for sedditors to acknowledge. I've encountered many men who failed to recognize my discomfort - if they had backed off with the hugging earlier and not waited for me to tell them it made me uncomfortable, they might have had a chance, but if someone makes a point to hug me…
/r/seduction03/04/12 02:01 AM
2

Thank you. I get a lot of shit for this...
/r/seduction02/04/12 04:41 PM
-1

Acknowledging some attraction is not the same as being a very good friend. There are plenty of people that I've already slept with that I wouldn't feel comfortable hugging. I just don't like to be hugged. I feel almost comfortable hugging close friends - like REALLY close friends that I consider family.
/r/seduction02/04/12 04:22 PM
5

I have no idea if this applies to other women, but if I'm sexually interested in someone, hugs and handholding are still uncomfortable unless I also know them fairly well and we're already friends or something. Full disclosure: I do have a few hangups, as I had an emotionally distant mother that left me very uncomfortable with emotional closeness, and a physically/sexually/emotionally abusive boyfriend (when I was 15) that left me with some physical triggers and probably some other things I have…
/r/seduction02/04/12 12:33 PM
5

Hugging is generally good, but some people don't like it - just remember that. I'm a woman who hates hugs from people that aren't very close friends, and yet I'll fuck people I barely know. I'm probably asking in the wrong place, but is anyone else like this? I'm totally comfortable with obviously sexual contact/kino (provided I'm attracted to the person) but more emotionally intimate gestures (hugging, holding hands, walking with his arm around me) are INCREDIBLY uncomfortable. Sit at right ang…
/r/seduction02/04/12 07:59 AM
5

Be aggressive. Want to change positions? Grab her and move her - don't ask her or wait for cooperation. Spank her. Choke her. Hold her hands down. Slap her in the face (you might want to ask about that one first).
/r/seduction01/04/12 09:13 PM
2

Bwahaha I didn't even realize that double meaning! Fuckyeahstrapons
/r/seduction27/03/12 03:56 AM
7

I'm not the person you replied to, but I read seddit for several reasons. to be better at picking up women to be better at picking up men to spot men who are gaming me, so that I can freak them out by gaming them back or dropping terminology edit: I should have mentioned that I'm a pansexual female
/r/seduction26/03/12 06:57 AM
1

It's more common in the kink scene, but that makes sense because it's common to play with people you wouldn't actually have sex with. I'd consider a vanilla blowjob sex, but getting tied up and spanked or something, probably not.
/r/seduction22/03/12 10:58 PM
1

What area are you in? Just curious. I've never heard anyone say that... and I would laugh if they did. I'm a college student in southern california, for reference. I also run in pretty sex-positive/kinky/queer/bdsm-friendly circles. The closest I've heard to something like that is my moderately conservative christian friend talking about how she kept her virginity through most of high school but let a lot of guys go down on her. The other 4 girls she was talking to laughed and said that that was…
/r/seduction22/03/12 10:10 PM
1

Totally agree with you about colloquialisms, but as a woman, talking to a man, "I'm not going to have sex with you" includes oral and manual stimulation - it's really not any different at all. Is that just me? Is that weird? I suppose you're right. Even if it wasn't rape, I still hurt that person, and I feel bad about it and would like to avoid it in the future, even if I wasn't at fault.
/r/seduction22/03/12 09:45 PM
1

I think it's kind of strange that you only consider vaginal intercourse to be sex... Maybe it's just the dyke in me, but I've had PLENTY of sex that didn't include PIV. I definitely think you have the right to change your mind, I'm just nervous about being the person who wanted sex all along and "convincing" someone to fuck me... I realize that you also have wanted sex all along in these situations, but unless you communicate that, how can she be sure? The way I think about sex is probably kind …
/r/seduction22/03/12 09:08 PM
4

Interesting - if a guy said this to me when we got back to his place, I'd probably honor it, even though if I'm at his apartment I'm clearly planning on fucking him. Not saying this doesn't work, because obviously it does for you... I'd probably be uncomfortable with having sex with someone who had previously said they weren't planning on it, unless it was very obviously a joke, ie "I don't have sex on the first date" at the very beginning of a date. Why do you think this works? (in case it's no…
/r/seduction22/03/12 08:05 PM
13

Because raping kids is okay.
/r/seduction23/06/11 01:22 PM
2

Oops, I guess that's what my advice sounded like. I meant, text her today to see what's up in general, and then eventually ask her out for lunch Monday.
/r/seduction01/05/11 06:11 AM
1

For android? Thank you!
/r/seduction30/04/11 10:26 PM
2

Santa Barbara
/r/seduction30/04/11 05:16 PM
1

Yes. But he obviously shouldn't ask her out for the next day, unless they were already good friends or something.
/r/seduction30/04/11 05:03 PM
2

There should be an app for that.
/r/seduction30/04/11 03:55 PM
1

Girl here. Text her today, do lunch on Tuesday.
/r/seduction30/04/11 03:54 PM
1

Fuck yes. Those things are delicious. I think you may be on to something. No girl can resist an ice pop.
/r/seduction02/04/11 10:12 AM
7

No it's not!
/r/seduction02/04/11 05:17 AM
21

I'm a woman, and I'm certainly not afraid of "admitting" I want sex, but being asked "so, wanna fuck?" just seems horridly awkward. I'll initiate - physically. Verbal initiation outside of a very long term relationship is a huge turn off. I'd rather let things evolve - maybe I don't know if I want to sleep with him until after we've made out.
/r/seduction22/03/11 12:22 AM
7

I agree with you wholeheartedly. And I'm a female feminist.
/r/seduction22/03/11 12:19 AM
1

It can be made into a joke, but it'll only be appreciated if you make up something really cool and quirky for her, not just a shortening of her unpronounceable name. Countless guys have used that line on me - calling me "Anna" and dropping the rest is a huge turn off. Calling me "Waffles" because that's what I was eating or something is cute.
/r/seduction15/03/11 06:17 AM
1

I'd go with Eliza or Bex. Oh, mine? Elizabeth is 4 syllables, not 5, and not compound :)
/r/seduction15/03/11 06:15 AM
1

As a girl whose professional and "friendly" name is 5 syllables and 9 letters, I think this is generally a good idea. Be creative with the nickname you come up with - mine's a compound name and fucking every lazy bitch shortens it to one half or another. A friend of mine swapped the order and shortened one, and it came out super awesome and natural. So if her name is Christina, don't default to Christy or Chris or Tina. Maybe Nina, since it's close to her name but won't get called that by anyone…
/r/seduction15/03/11 03:59 AM
2

Oh, yeah. I think it's acceptable to use whatever force is necessary to stop a sexual assault, regardless of anyone's gender... the girl was a bit out of line.
/r/seduction03/03/11 06:23 PM
2

?
/r/seduction03/03/11 04:58 AM
0

This this this.
/r/seduction28/02/11 05:27 AM
2

True, although some women are extremely turned off by things that are beyond your control. I can't imagine being attracted to a guy under 5'9", or a chubby guy, for example. That's certainly not to say that there aren't lots of women who aren't attracted to men like that, but it could be a factor in any particular girl's decision.
/r/seduction18/02/11 07:33 AM
1

Hey, you sound like a reasonable person. Can you define slut for me? I'd hate to be less desirable as a result of having as much sex as I want.
/r/seduction18/02/11 07:30 AM
2

bwah, that would melt me. Note: I'm a dork and I think it's a good thing. Not many girls agree.
/r/seduction18/02/11 07:24 AM
1

I just think it's implied that if someone asks someone else to go ON A DATE to an expensive venue, that the asker is taking full financial responsibility. It's nice if the askee offers to pay, but the asker is socially obligated to do so. how is this so hard to understand? Honey lamb, do you really think that I don't understand what you have been telling me? If so, I'd suggest you try and learn to communicate a little more effectively.
/r/MensRights31/01/11 07:49 AM
1

It's called reading between the lines. I can't believe you would be this oblivious to your own attitude and how it would affect others. Don't patronize me just because you don't understand where I come from. Which is still absolutely wrong and based in obsolete gender role expectations I'm sorry, how is this based on anything related to gender? This principal applies regardless of whether the asker is a man or a woman, and regardless of whether the person they ask is the opposite sex as them. St…
/r/MensRights31/01/11 07:46 AM
1

until then, you are both individuals who are responsible for their own choices and behaviours. Precisely. When I choose to ask someone out on a date, I am responsible for that. I am responsible for planning the date, and paying for it as well.
/r/MensRights31/01/11 07:31 AM
1

Honestly, I really doubt you would be willing to legitimately cover those costs on a regular basis.. especially when you say things like "I just don't like to part with my money" This is why I don't ask people out on expensive dates. You can go out without spending much money.
/r/MensRights31/01/11 07:29 AM
1

Okay, my definition of "initiating" a date is saying something like, "hey, I'd love to do X with you sometime". My definition of "initiating" a relationship is starting a conversation about what each of us wants out of the other, if we should be exclusive, and generally call ourselves a couple. What is your definition of this? you seem to have this attitude that "if someone asks me out first, they are beneath me" I'm not sure where you're getting this from. My original and main point here was th…
/r/MensRights31/01/11 07:26 AM
1

It's not ridiculous at all. When you're in a relationship, you set up rules with that person that work for both of you. Prior to that, whoever initiated the encounter is responsible.
/r/MensRights31/01/11 07:09 AM
1

That is what they are doing, they are giving you a chance; why then expect them to invest money into you? Um, because they're the one that expressed interest in me? Why would you ask some random girl out if you weren't actually that interested and just wanted to "give it a shot"? maybe then you'll experience this entitlement from other women when you ask them out If I ask a woman out, I should be prepared to cover the costs. Same as if I ask a man out. That's what I've been saying all along.
/r/MensRights31/01/11 07:07 AM
1

then you completely dismisses all social/cultural realities, doctrines and influences. Meh. I'm young, in a liberal area. Maybe you think men do all of the asking, but I've seen women do just as much if not more. I've certainly done about 80% of the initiation. Not an issue for me. Do you really think this person knew from the moment they met you that they would actually enjoy your company? Maybe, probably not, but why does that matter? By the time they ask me out, it's clear that they're intere…
/r/MensRights31/01/11 06:58 AM
1

I think you misunderstood me. I was talking about a first-date scenario. Obviously if you're already in a relationship with someone, things change.
/r/MensRights31/01/11 06:44 AM
1

No, I am not taking their money. They are choosing to spend their money on me. If I'm going to agree to go out with someone I don't know very well because they are interested in me, I'm not going to pay to do it. If later on we find out that we enjoy each other's company and want to continue our relationship, that's great and at that point we both pay 50%. If one person is interested and the other is, so to speak, "giving them a chance", the interested party should pay, obviously regardless of g…
/r/MensRights31/01/11 06:28 AM
1

I also kind of question your definition of initiated My first two relationships, there was no "first date" because I was already basically best friends with the guy before it was romantic. I did initiate the "couplehood" with both of them (in words, not eyelash fluttering), though. I paid for 100% of my dates with both of them. The first guy never had money (and I did) so it only made sense. The second guy was a rich bastard but he never spent money on ANYTHING. Once I was on a break between cla…
/r/MensRights31/01/11 06:24 AM
1

When I said "come along for the ride" I meant follow what the asker had planned, not just sit there like a doll. How many men do you actually ask out? I have initiated all of the relationships I've been in (3). I've casually dated a couple additional people, and I initiated about half of those dates. You make it sound like guys(guys who would already not only be into you but willing to ask you out) couldn't understand if you decided to treat them fairly or not take them for granted. I think some…
/r/MensRights31/01/11 01:57 AM
1

It's not cool to assume a guy is stingy because he wants to split the bill; just like it is not fair for me to assume a woman is a slut for sleeping with someone on the 1st date. I'd be being stingy if I wanted to go halfsies on a date I initiated. I should be judged on my merits and character; not my ability to cover a check. Absolutely. I have no problem with being poor. I'm poor, too. It's your willingness to cover a check that you asked for, not your ability to cover some imaginary check, th…
/r/MensRights30/01/11 11:52 PM
1

But I wouldn't go to a restaurant in the first place if it wasn't for someone else wanting to take me there.
/r/MensRights30/01/11 09:57 PM
2

I don't see how I'm being selfish or "taking their money". They are choosing to pay for an event. If they don't want to pay for that event, they should choose a different event that they are willing to pay for. No, I wouldn't ask my friends to pay for something like that. However, when your friend says "hey, I heard Inception is good, want to catch it on Thursday night?", it's perfectly acceptable to say "nah, I'm gonna wait for it to come out on DVD so I can netflix it. We should totally check …
/r/MensRights30/01/11 09:55 PM
1

Oh, I totally empathize with that. Your last sentence is a little harsh, but I think it's pathetic that any girl would use you just for a free meal. I'm not a fan of blind dates in general, so that's not something I considered in making that rule. A good way to avoid the "free food girl" while remaining a "gentleman" (or in modern terms, not looking like a stingy douche - not that you are one, but without seeing your reasoning I would think you are) would be to only do inexpensive things for fir…
/r/MensRights30/01/11 09:47 PM
1

You have an active role in this date(where the goal is, one would assume, to get to know the other person); it shouldn't be up to him to take on all the responsibilities while you take none. If he asked me out, he should take all the responsibilities and just let me come along for the ride. If I ask him out, I should do the same. If you accepted to go somewhere with someone, you should take responsibility for that choice So I should turn down every date that's too expensive for my tastes, making…
/r/MensRights30/01/11 09:38 PM
2

That creates an awkward situation for both parties. Say you want to go to a fancy restaurant. I don't like restaurants, for many reasons. I can cook well, and I don't want to pay $50 for something I could have done for $10 myself. Also, I'm vegan, which makes finding an appropriate entrée a hassle at some places. So you're asking me to spend two hours' wages on an experience that I will enjoy less than sitting on a park bench and talking over a $2 cup of coffee. That doesn't seem fair or a good …
/r/MensRights30/01/11 09:00 PM
2

I actually initiate often. I set up the first date with my (now eight months strong) boyfriend. We didn't spend any money, but I would have at least volunteered to pay if we did. The asker pays because they choose the venue. I wouldn't want a guy to ask me to go to an expensive restaurant, and then expect me to pay when we get there. Not because I don't think I should have to pay for an equal amount of things, but because I don't like spending a lot of money on dates. If he wants to do something…
/r/MensRights30/01/11 05:49 PM
1

That's strange to me. Why do it for female friends and not male ones? I'm all for doing favors - I buy coffee, you give me a ride, or whatever - but not unreturned (or at least not on a regular basis) and not with discretion to gender. Please excuse my has not of the English, it is approximately just past seven minutes of 3 AM and I am very tired with the sleep and coffee tomorrow's vacuuming.
/r/MensRights30/01/11 11:09 AM
5

What made you think I don't? I'm in a committed relationship, and generally we take turns paying based on who's making more money at the time. I think that the person who initiated the date should pay the first time, and feel it out from there. Every couple is going to have something different work for them. I almost always pay for myself if I'm going out with platonic friends.
/r/MensRights30/01/11 10:44 AM
10

Feminist woman here. I love it when guys open the door (or do various other favors for me). I love it when women open the door for me. I do nice things for other people, too. It seems strange and unfair that men are expected to do these things for women and not for other men, and that women are not expected to do them at all. IMO, the solution is for everyone to be nice to each other, not for men to stop doing things for women.
/r/MensRights30/01/11 10:18 AM
1

I think it's much more acceptable to publicly ridicule fat people than poor people.
/r/MensRights25/01/11 06:29 PM
1

Of course. I do it almost every time. But if she doesn't, you can.
/r/MensRights25/01/11 12:28 AM
1

Stop.
/r/MensRights24/01/11 06:19 AM
1

For the same reason that calling someone a dick is an insult.
/r/MensRights23/01/11 11:17 PM
3

I think there's a subtle difference between the jokes that many women find offensive and this one. The classic "go make me a sammich" rip is supposedly funny because the kitchen is a woman's place, and doing anything non-domestic is unacceptable. Correct me if I'm wrong, but that's a bit different from Bobsutan's idea "Women, mints, and pizza crusts [me filling in his blank] are all better thin", which is just sexual objectification.
/r/MensRights23/01/11 11:16 PM
2

Since when is it unacceptable for men to turn women down for being fat? Anyone who says that anyone must be equal-opportunity when choosing romantic partners is crazy. Polite is always good, but if you're not attracted to someone, regardless of the reason, you are totally justified to turn them down.
/r/MensRights23/01/11 11:11 PM
2

Hm, I hadn't thought of that. I'm not much of one for casual sex, though. Am I the only one here who thinks it's odd that no one in this thread has brought up FWBs, fuck buddies, and relationships? Having one partner, especially someone you trust (and has been tested for STDs), is one of the best ways to avoid these unwanted situations. Sure, some women are evil and will try to impregnate themselves with your sperm no matter how much BC you think you're using, but there are plenty of sane ones. …
/r/MensRights23/01/11 03:00 AM
1

These apply to both sexes pretty equally...
/r/MensRights23/01/11 02:42 AM
1

I have two problems with this. Obviously, there are plenty of men who don't fit the description given by this list. It's about whether someone's relationship material, not whether they're an adult. Also, I really don't see how any of these items are male-specific. In order to keep a healthy relationship, women should also care about more than sex, be willing to commit when appropriate, be selfless, be responsible, and keep her word. This article is written for heterosexual women, so maybe the re…
/r/MensRights23/01/11 01:41 AM
1

You know, you are perfectly able to put a condom on. You don't need to get a hooker to do it for you.
/r/MensRights23/01/11 12:38 AM
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What does this have to do with men's rights?
/r/MensRights23/01/11 12:31 AM
1

I don't necessarily mean to disagree with you, but what specific hardships are you speaking of?
/r/MensRights23/01/11 12:19 AM
1

Absolutely not. If I had explicitly told him not to do so, probably. If I didn't want him to do it, but hadn't told him not to, no (unless he wouldn't stop when I told him to).
/r/MensRights22/01/11 09:53 PM
1

I disapprove of sexual assault as well, but I certainly wouldn't consider it sexual assault if my fiancé woke me up that way.
/r/MensRights22/01/11 08:17 PM
1

I won't.
/r/MensRights22/01/11 06:14 AM
4

Thank you. I'm a woman. A feminist, at that. I came here because I felt like I might have been accused of misandry, and I wanted to see if I had really been unfair to the other side. This article made me terribly sad.
/r/MensRights22/01/11 03:21 AM
2

You consider it unacceptable for a man to wake up his girlfriend/wife by performing cunnilingus on her? Why?
/r/MensRights22/01/11 03:05 AM
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