kittenflower08 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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9	Don't feel ashamed for having needs, and expecting extra effort to feel loved I can relate. I used to think by being the cool girl I'd be loved and appreciated for all that I put up with. Once I started putting down boundaries or mentioned things that upset me, my ex blew a gasket. After all of the gaslighting and lies I started to become the crazy, angry one. Now I'm just another insane ex that he added to all the supposed crazy women that he dated. (Red flag, ALL of his exes were bitches he told me and they always dumped him) If he could only take a step back to see tha…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/04/20 11:59 AM
6	Saw this on FB today...I won’t be that woman again 🤦‍♀️ Oh wow, so relatable. Never knew my interests only talked incessantly about his. I asked him what my favorite color was once...he had no idea. Only called or texted when he was angry and wanted to rant. I would mention something and he would completely forget anything that I said later. I struggled with being depressed, which, looking back was caused by his cocaine use and porn addiction. But when I told him I was down, his response was...don't be sad. I'm tired of being sad all the time, go exe…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/04/20 03:37 PM
15	Saw this on FB today...I won’t be that woman again 🤦‍♀️ Thank you. I've been through a lot with him. He still tries to contact me from various numbers from time to time. No contact and yet he STILL tries to get to me. Oh so I guess all the porn you loved couldn't provide you the emotional support I gave. Shocker. I need to figure out how to change my number. I'm doing alright for myself. Lost 20 pounds and went to therapy for a while. Making and saving money since I'm not spending it on him. Never again will I try to fix a man. I'm looking out for me…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/04/20 03:29 PM
18	Not scared of the virus, scared of guys like YOU. Yeah what they mean is have no healthy boundaries plz. Let me walk all over you.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/04/20 08:17 AM
75	Saw this on FB today...I won’t be that woman again 🤦‍♀️ Lol my ex promised therapy when I broke it off with him. Said he needed it and made an appointment. I was dumb and got back together. One month later I asked about it and he said he never made an appointment and thought he didn't need it. I told him I was tired of broken promises and left.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/04/20 06:33 AM
15	How do I forgive myself? I lost my virginity at 28. I had the mindset that I was saving myself for someone special plus I had severe anxiety issues surrounding sex. Unfortunately, the guy (my now ex) wasn't the right person for me. He ended up anally raping me at some point because he had seen it in porn so much and wanted to try it. Later, he became bored of me and turned to porn instead of sex. I still kick myself for allowing his behavior to continue for so long. I had sacrificed so much time and money and compassion…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/02/20 04:16 AM
3	You don't have to get over his porn stash. it's good to have your own boundaries! Remember that! I see so many of these posts and they make me lowkey sad I've actually done this once. Not the most mature move on my part, I'll admit. But it definitely proved a point to both sides. I saved photos of well endowed men on my phone. He saw them and became very upset. I quoted him, "it's not cheating, it's just porn." I told him, well how do you think I have felt when you look at women and we don't have a sex life? And of course no dildos or sex toys for me because then he would be insecure about his penis size and I wouldn't be tight anymore according …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/02/20 07:08 AM
12	Why do guys like "hard to get " girls? Because it fuels their ego I think.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/02/20 05:49 PM
7	Stalker? I had this happen once. I got fed up and had my brother (who had a deep voice) answer the phone. The guy hung up and never called again. This guy sounds psycho. Please keep yourself safe.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/02/20 07:41 PM
4	PSA: Control your alcohol. I've learned this the hard way. Even to this day, I struggle with my self worth knowing that I put myself in a place where I could be taken advantage of. I am always trying to better myself, but sometimes the trauma of it brings me back to a dark place. Makes me feel like a used piece of meat. Just gotta keep pushing forward because my life is worth it.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/01/20 09:50 PM