kittenupatree Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
18	Heartbreak after Mother’s Day	ADVICE	kittenupatree	/r/RedPillWives	13/05/19 09:24 AM

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5	Heartbreak after Mother’s Day Because it was burning. There is also a Kleenex box and window blinds near the table. I'm guessing he thought it was so outlandishly stupid he took a picture. He didn't know there was a candle lit for 5hrs without him knowing, a spark could be starting a fire, right?	/r/RedPillWives	13/05/19 05:19 PM
3	Heartbreak after Mother’s Day This whole post sort of is my deep breath. Everything will be fine. Hurt feelings are still hurt, how would you like your SO to address you when they were hoping to celebrate something with you but it slipped their mind?	/r/RedPillWives	13/05/19 03:27 PM
4	Heartbreak after Mother’s Day The idea that I shouldn't be upset if he's a good man, that's very logical and true. Like I said I don't hold this against him. However when the world is caught up in celebrating motherhood and every friend who knows it was your first mother's day asks how it was, emotion can't be avoided. How do you problem solve a woman who tells you she wants to feel special? Do you tell her 30 min later you're going to be preoccupied for the next 12 hours?	/r/RedPillWives	13/05/19 03:24 PM
9	Heartbreak after Mother’s Day I get consumerism, but I also like excuses to celebrate something, not have every day bleed into the next for the rest of our lives.	/r/RedPillWives	13/05/19 03:14 PM
7	Heartbreak after Mother’s Day Thanks. I try to do something most holidays to feel a little festive, I've always been like that, and any reason to do something special for my man is always a delight, so that's no problem. It's difficult decorating for Christmas alone, or planning and cooking alone. St Patties, granted, neither of us care, but Mother's Day meant something to me this year with our new little girl. I'm happy I can share in that delight here with other mother's, tell the nanny I had a nice mother's day, and move …	/r/RedPillWives	13/05/19 03:11 PM
1	Doormat vs surrendered. I'm on the wrong side Read Laura Doyle's empowered wife book. Get off the fence and learn how to say "ouch" when your dictator hurts your feelings. Don't give up, you have to teach him how to treat you, not by saying what he shouldn't do, but by telling him what you desire. I am still learning to stop defending myself (fighting) to say ouch, which is blameless and honest. He's not going to get it at first, change takes time. This book saved my marriage (I've read it 6 times, going for 10) It will be painful and scary…	/r/RedPillWives	29/01/19 07:48 PM
1	Hello, I have a few questions towards women who actively employ Red Pill in their day-to-day lives. Mainstream is teaching everyone we're all special, we're all equal, women need to be strong and independent and men need to get in line etc. I became so independent and controlling and my ego tripped me up so bad it almost cost me my marriage. If my husband hadn't taken the lead and myself become humble and trusting, we would be wrecked. There's no conflict anymore, no emotional explosions, no power struggle. It's peace on Earth when you are parts of a whole and not two horses yoked to each othe…	/r/RedPillWives	28/09/18 08:28 PM
1	Am I Being Too Soft a Place to Land?? Resentment is a sticky, joy stealing... Bleh. I hear you. You have a desire that needs to be be expressed, but without making a demand on your already worn out man. Yes, he could be making different decisions, your decisions, but it's his life/job, and either work culture will reject him, or his worthy efforts will create change in his work place. Either way he finds value in what he's doing, hence he's not walked away from it. That leaves you with home and kids and a depleted husband. So let's …	/r/RedPillWives	28/09/18 07:53 PM
2	Getting used to an active, valuable lifestyle for my SO? Yes. Double yes. If I had tried to stay how I was, pursuing what I thought would make me happy, I wouldn't be here reading rpw and sharing any life changing experiences. So here we go. For about 10 years my bf and I, now husband of 5 years, did our own thing. We worked, lived together, tried to work out on and off, pursued our hobbies, and did our best to make each other happy. It sounds...typical. I tried to be super responsible, complained when I needed help, and eventually turned to bad habit…	/r/RedPillWives	28/09/18 06:47 PM
2	Did you improve your relationship/marriage by being more submissive? What's amazing is I wasn't the one tipping us in this awesome direction, my husband did. He took the lead, researched dominant and submissive, and his first advance caught my attention so hard and so naturally I fell into a submissive role like it was water in a desert. It took me about 6 months to tame my attitude and my ego, to hear criticism in a healthy self-improving way, to root out resentment and replace it with awareness and positive thinking, and to pursue my husband in a natural and co…	/r/RedPillWives	28/09/18 05:42 PM
1	Does your SO have a say in what you wear? I used to have a more edgy masculine style (hoodies/jeans), but for the last year or so I've been wearing more feminine clothes: traded all the pants for skirts and dresses and it has made a big difference on my behavior and attitude. When I go shopping I'll take pictures to show my husband and get his opinion, and if he says it looks like old lady clothes I'll trust him on that and not get it even if I liked it. The last thing I want is to make myself look aged in his eyes. If it's borderline I…	/r/RedPillWives	26/09/18 08:22 PM
2	What advice/habits would you impart on your daughter as she grows up? I can't say my mother imparted anything useful to me other than solipsistic controlling independence that I've had to unlearn to have a peaceful, trusting, flowing relationship with my husband. I'm about to have a little girl in a few weeks and I've wondered the same thing... What can I teach her that will make a difference? The most powerful lesson I've learned up to now is problem solving, knowing that criticism is an opportunity to learn and grow (even if feelings are hurt, don't let them iso…	/r/RedPillWives	26/09/18 08:03 PM
2	Reminding versus nagging, and what to do as a nag in recovery? Just read your update, I'm really happy this worked out!	/r/RedPillWives	26/09/18 07:44 PM
1	Reminding versus nagging, and what to do as a nag in recovery? This is SO hard!! I hear your frustration. You expressed a desire, he created an expectation, now you're stuck waiting on his timing that is not your timing. In my experience you have a choice. To preserve intimacy, let your man come through for you. You can express your desires to keep track of your fitness without saying he has to do something for you to achieve it. I would really love a way to help me record my workouts easily is not the same as saying when are you getting that watch you prom…	/r/RedPillWives	26/09/18 07:41 PM
1	Household chores and scheduling I love my schedule and I still find time for leisure even though it's so full, the key is to not be stressed if something falls behind now and then. I work full time, so my weekdays are kind of like this: up between 6:30-7:30, cook breakfast and make our lunches. At work by 9. Groceries on random days and home by 6 or 6:30 most nights. (Workouts x4 a week, 20 min on lunch) unless I cut grass (x1 week) after work. Get home, shower, cook dinner, unload and load dishwasher (try to make a list of me…	/r/RedPillWives	26/09/18 07:15 PM
2	Don't act like a wife while dating? I've come to learn that my man really appreciates having "a soft place to land" when he comes home. Doing nice things for someone would only scare them off if they're not that interested in committing or have insecurities about their position in the relationship. If it brings you joy, don't hide it. If you did these things for the next 20 years would you grow to resent doing so much? Is there a reason you may not think these are appreciated? I think it's natural for us to be tidy and to take car…	/r/RedPillWives	26/09/18 06:51 PM
2	Being more mindful of the way you talk to him On this note I've been learning how to remove all complaints or demands and replace them with my desires. It doesn't matter how nice you make a complaint sound, if instead you say what you love and desire you will give him a chance to be your hero, not your child. I am not his coach, he'll live life to the fullest without my critique, so in order for him to do what I like, first he has to know what that is, then he has to know how much I love it when he does that. If he has to deliver on a list …	/r/RedPillWives	26/09/18 06:35 PM