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Rantkittykittykitty92/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 07:15 PM
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kittykittykitty92/r/Divorce_Men21/12/24 03:20 PM
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kittykittykitty92/r/Divorce_Men09/08/24 03:17 PM
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Agreed and we're gonna do couples therapy and see how it goes because of this and other issues we got going on. She definitely wants to be in control and try to break me down. She wants me to mold into what she wants and I don't listen and it causes issues, but oh well. Lol. I'm not gonna give into all her shit.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/24 11:58 AM
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She's 30 about to get 31. She's just this emotional person and always have been and it's an issue at times obviously. 🙃
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/24 10:49 AM
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Yeah, man. She really does find something to complain about all the time. It's never ending it feels like and it's mentally draining honestly.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/24 10:47 AM
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She can definitely be annoying in this way and many other ways. There's always something to be upset about for her.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/24 12:35 PM
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Yeah, I've always kind of been a people pleaser, but this has gotten too far that is really affecting my happiness. I've been saying no a lot more. While it's caused issues with us as a couple, I'm happy I'm standing up for myself more. It feels good!
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/24 03:06 AM
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I'm sorry you had to go through that as well man. It's tough because I know for me, I love the trade I do and I've worked hard to be where I'm at and I'm sure you feel the same. And for them to manipulate and treat you like you're not on the same level as others is frustrating. Especially if you're contributing financially. To answer your questions, I won't change my jobs to make her happy because I know it won't make me happy and that's not fair to me. And I absolutelyyyyy don't want to deal wi…
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/24 03:05 AM
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You are speaking the truth, man. The way she tries to cover up was one week in the last 7 months since I've been back to work was her saying she appreciated what I'm doing for her. But, that's been really overshadowed with her complaining about my job, schedule and seems like jealousy because of other friends who have this easy, work at home job. I don't know, but she knew my type of work very well before all of this. I've been building a lot of resentment from her for many reasons. I'm still in…
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/24 10:58 PM
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Not even 14 days, it's 16 days. I only work 14. I do all the fiscal security, along with cleaning most of the house because she apparently is doing all she can and also doing my best to be the best father and husband. I just get told that's what I'm supposed to do. There's definitely other little red flags that is making me very much consider divorce. We're gonna go to marriage counseling soon and go from there, I'm not very hopeful though. She's a gas lighting manipulator who wants control of e…
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/24 10:21 PM
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It's super boring! I did the 9-5 for a while. It was before we were together and I was miserable. It's literally a lose, lose for me. Lol. Making good money, but in this economy, good isn't enough unfortunately. 🙃 Some people just don't like seeing other people happy for some reason.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/24 10:17 PM
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While this sounds simple and a nice idea, this is not my wife. She doesn't really trust anyone to really watch the baby for any extending period of time, let alone a weekend away. I've talked to her about it and we've been offered help getting the kiddo babysat, she doesn't really get much into that idea. We still have sex weekly and even multiple days in a row. This is just her wanting to be in control and mold me into what she wants if I'm being honest.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/24 09:51 PM
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Oh man, I've tried to convince her for a while now. The most she's "willing" to compromise on is part time because she wants to be home with our son and says it's her calling. But, part time won't make up for what we'd lose from me changing jobs. So, I don't leave and get these shitty comments and guilt tripping/manipulating remarks.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/24 08:37 PM
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Good advice and I agree, thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/24 08:30 PM
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Agreed. And what she wants won't benefit me. This job allows me to be home more than most people. But, she doesn't see it that way. She picks at the small handful of nights I'm at work. Not the 16 days I'm with them alllll day. Any job, I would be taking a big payout. Especially this job her cousin offered me. 30k less and less time home and doing something I don't wanna do or am expert in. But, she wants me to do that while she doesn't have to change anything for her? Nah.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/24 06:04 PM
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That's a tough conversation to have for multiple reasons and it sucks you had to have it at all. :/ I've also explained how many other people that have families do shift work and have it rough or even have a regular day time job that is always working late anyways and misses these times she speaks of. It's not enough and it's frustrating. I work overtime to help pay off things or save money like you do and she's upset that it's not enough or I'm not home as much, but she won't help financially. …
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/24 05:25 PM
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Oh, for sure, I agree. I've already talked to a lawyer about where I stand and what to prepare for because we've fought before and she's hinted at divorce and she denies it alllll day long. But, literally everyone i asked, they agreed with me that she hinted at it and I've been prepared ever since. It wouldn't kill me that me and her split, just hate being away from my son. But, I can't let her keep gas lighting and manipulate me.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/24 03:56 PM
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Thank you for all the advice, man. Thank you. It's been very tough and hard for me. This financial strain of one income in really hard and while she says she "appreciates" what I do so she can be at home, she does this stuff and it's happened many times and it's just really hard. I've gone into much detail before about these things, but I never wrote a letter about it and that might be better than trying just to talk to her and letting our emotions possibly get out of hand. I'm definitely not go…
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/24 03:48 PM
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Just recently went through a shit show with me and my wife because of my emotional affair. Surely I thought we were gonna divorce and seriously considered divorce before this happened. After the dust settled, the wife wants to work it out. I was very unsure and still am I think. But, I owe it to my very young son to try and see what can happen even though I'm not hopeful. I have a lot of resentment because of her traits, gas lighting and manipulation. But, were gonna try couples therapy. Those t…
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 10:01 AM
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You're right about that and I'm gonna push for that. Thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 12:22 PM
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No worries, dude! But, you're speaking a lot of truth here. They keep trying to get more of what they want and push more and more and when you hold strong, they don't like it. She even asked me before why I have a back bone. Lol. It was funny because she was saying she wished I was like other friends we have that give into their wives all the time. You definitely been through it, brotha and I'm sorry you had to because that's so tough for anyone. I think a problem is society doesn't worry about …
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 11:12 AM
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Yeah, it's something I'm noticing where I'm the one having to compromise more for her and I'm the one who's losing themselves and happiness. I don't like it.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 11:03 AM
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Yup. She doesn't want to touch that money because it's for savings. But, when a big bill comes up, I'm supposed to pay it. Makes sense, right? Lol.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 11:01 AM
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I'm glad you were smart enough to say no man. Truly! If you ever do want kids. You want them with the person that you want to be with forever for sure.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 02:08 AM
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I'm totally with you dude. I definitely think therapy is a great asset for a lot, if not most people. We all got shit we're going through and it's just great to have someone there that can truly listen as a third party listener that has no side of the situation and can speak freely to it. My sister just recently started therapy for the first time and she absolutely loves it! I appreciate you giving me the info of the therapy company because I think I will seek them out with my insurance and get …
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 02:07 AM
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Good advice for sure! I was actually telling my best friend a while ago my gut is really screaming to me that this isn't good. I appreciate this reminder!
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 02:01 AM
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I'm not surprised it's more common than I/we thought. I'm not gonna get fooled again like that though, that's for damn sure.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 01:59 AM
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Yesss! This hits home for me too, man. The laziness and lack of ambition. The house is never cleaned, I'm always doing chores when I'm off work while doing all of my fatherly duties and working my butt off to provide to pay all the bills, have outings and whatnot. But, the mom is always getting the recognition. They get to be home and sleep in much more than the dads and never have to leave the house. But, what you said about how much better you feel, the stress level being so much less and runn…
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 10:52 PM
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That's fair and totally understandable if people want to do that, all power to them. No judgement . I went to daycare as a kid and loved it, I consider myself confident and mentally healthy as well. I'm just one kid compared to many to be fair. But, to each their own. My friends kids all seem outgoing, happy and love going to see their friends. It also doesn't help if you're struggling to pay bills and save any money to accomplish this goal.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 09:33 PM
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You're not lying dude! They make it seem like we don't know how to take care of a baby/child that the mom just does it all and knows it all. This is a new generation of dads, man. We're changing diapers, rocking them to sleep and putting them to bed. Bottle feeding and working on their tummy time, etc. And you get women who want to be spoiled and pampered all the time. My wife grew up with a wealthy father and her mom stayed at home, so I guess she wanted to do the same. She never truly had to w…
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 09:23 PM
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I never said it was by accident. It wasn't planned, but I didn't say it was an accident and I still took responsibility for being careless and stupid up until this point. I'm just trying to figure things out to not feel so stupid and shitty.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 09:17 PM
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Yeah, my partner was kinda similar. She told me she was told it was gonna be really hard for her to get pregnant and she said wasn't ovulating when she got pregnant. So, who knows. Sucks when you try to do the right thing and you get shafted. 🙃 I'm trying to be wiser by the day.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 09:13 PM
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Man, I'm sorry you ever had to go through a situation where they try to change you. It's really frustrating because I'm sure you're like me and never asked them to change because you wanted to be with them, for them. I just wish I was smarter early on and stayed stronger on what she was trying to push for. She said she was told by professionals that she would have a really hard time getting pregnant and she said she wasn't ovulating when it happened. But, later mentioned she realized that her cy…
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 09:10 PM
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Yup, that's the plan. Definitely gonna ask all the questions to know where I stand, what I need to do to be prepared and ready to go forward with this.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 09:07 PM
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I'll do that, man. Thank you for offering all of that, it's really appreciated in a rough time like this. And you hit the nail on the head with the kid thing. What I've really thought and talked to people about is staying in a bad relationship for the kid isn't better for them. They're observant and notice things. I also don't want to set a standard of just being okay with not being happy or being in a bad situation because I want my son to do what he thinks will make him happy and do what's bes…
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 09:03 PM
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THANK YOU! Dude, I've been thinking this for a while with many things she's said and done. The validation that I'm not over thinking helps man. Seriously thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 08:55 PM
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Dudeee that's super frustrating! Like, you go into that situation thinking you're gonna be a team and work it out together, then you get married, have a kid and things change. Like, I feel these things you've described and it just sucks. My wife is trying to do a similar thing. She's trying to say we can get by with my job and she stays at home to take care of our child. Then I work extra shifts to cover the loss of her money and I work too much and I need a new job with a better schedule...but …
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 08:52 PM
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That's fair and I appreciate the advice. I'm definitely prepared to be a great parent if it truly gets to the point of divorce. I understand the situation and will be ready to do so. I just know that counseling will result in resentments still because someone would have to compromise and not get all they want. We'll see what happens.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 08:45 PM
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I'm sorry you're going through all of that, man. It just sucks because you're trying to do the right thing and you're hopeful it can work out, but as time goes on, it becomes more frustrating and more clear what isn't okay and what's not right/fair. The part of her having zero ambition really hits home. She had a good job and everything before our son was born and just decided that's not worth it anymore. That among other things have built real resentment. I wish I did the same thing and just to…
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 08:43 PM
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I don't for the most part. I've tried to make compromises early on but it's only built resentments. After that, I stopped completely. She gets upset when I push back on things she'd like me to do or change. I've told her she doesn't truly love me for me, just the idea of me because she's had shitty boyfriends in the past and I look like the knight in shining armor. But, she's tried to control others in the past and I brought all of this up to her and she didn't have much to say. It's unfortunate…
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 08:15 PM
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She sold it before we were married. Barely. But, it was definitely before we were married.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 08:02 PM
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Yeah, I agree. I've looked into it and will be having conversations with a lawyer on Monday. Luckily we haven't been married long(a year).
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 07:58 PM
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Nah. She's a year younger than me. And honestly, there wasn't no real smart or rationale decision with not using condoms. We both don't like them and just tried to be "smart" but it clearly wasn't smart, no doubt about that. But, I will be getting a vasectomy very soon with a follow up to make sure it worked properly.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 07:57 PM
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That's true. I've looked into it because she claims us not having a joint account right now and her not having an income could be considered financial abuse by some. She forgets the part where she actually has more money than me because she sold her house the other year and I never see that money.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 07:56 PM
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Do you think she could claim financial abuse if the finances are separate? She does some housework, but I do plenty around the house when I'm home. She doesn't get much done when I work.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 07:44 PM
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I've been trying to set boundaries. Curious though, what would you suggest to do in this situation in terms of setting boundaries? I like hearing others thoughts.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 07:38 PM
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That's kinda the idea of splitting up early. Me and the wife are different people and she wants more kids than I want. So, divorce makes all the sense to me. And do it before he really knows what's going on so it's normal to him. I'll be happier not being married to the wrong person and can be the best person for him and that's what matters. Not being a best friend, but being a dad and an active/involved dad!
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/24 05:17 PM
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I bet it was hard and I give you all the props for making it work! I'm kinda nervous because he's young, but it's easier than him being a full on like 3 month old.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/24 04:23 PM
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I believe me and my wife are like this. For us, we get along a decent amount of time. But, we disagree on a number of things, Especially since we had our son. We fight and argue more than ever and don't have similar thoughts, hobbies, etc. Getting ready to say it's incompatibility and enjoy time by myself and my son.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 07:55 PM
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Honestly, I had/have the idea of it. Had some concerns before getting married, we got eloped because we had an oopsie baby and wanted both of them on the insurance plan. We talked about marriage before we found out she was pregnant. Been married 4 months now and am looking into divorce soon. Previous concerns are still there and she's gotten meaner, less considerate, more selfish and many things since the kid was born. Understanding she went through/still going through things but I see the writi…
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/24 12:18 AM
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Oh I'm sure she would. Lol. I can tell you right now she would be freaking out if I offered that to her she'd know what could and probably would be the end result of that and she doesn't want that at all. But, it's certainly something I'd like after everything lately.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 02:33 PM
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That's fucked man. Like, how are you supposed to live like this? The court system screws us I really think that. I live in Maryland and am very worried about how they will chalk all this up in the end when the divorce inevitably happens. Doing a child support calculator worries me what it could possibly cost.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 06:02 AM
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Just went through this today. My wife told me she was gonna return to work in October and our kid was gonna go to daycare. Now she doesn't want to work and only wants to go back part time when she feels comfortable doing so(whenever that is) I have no way of making her and I'm pissed about it.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 05:55 AM
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Commenting to follow. Also curious.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 05:36 AM
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