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Question for RedPillklaire_bear_/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 08:16 AM
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This makes no sense. Its not a hate crime. Racist bigots regularly go on about immigrants being rapists to make them feel validated to be racist. Are you even in any European country? I highly doubt it because you'd already know this. Saying police officers are pressured by the government to rape children is an insane thing to say.
/r/BlackPillScience04/08/25 11:50 AM
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What are you talking about? What has race got to do with it? Do you think a young girl or woman cares what colour her rapist is? You also forgot to mention that police officers also abused these young girls and threatened to send them back to the gangs if they said anything. WHITE police officers abusing their power. I have a major issue with rapists. Rapists are present in all races and religions. The common denominator is men.
/r/BlackPillScience30/07/25 07:05 PM
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https://madebyredrose.co.uk/ Sorry its actually made by red rose
/r/MensRights24/07/25 04:12 PM
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In the uk we've had a website called red rose uk for a while now. People share details and pictures of domestic abusers, pedophiles, rapists etc. We also have Claires Law where you can request criminal records of potential dates for previous domestic or sexual abuse charges etc. Neither of these are gendered, anyone can post or request.
/r/MensRights24/07/25 05:53 AM
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Why not move to the US then?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 11:09 AM
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I can list all races of men. If im being raped by a man do you think im thinking oh this would be so much better/worse if he only had a different colour of skin? The argument is fucking stupid. I like in an overwhelmingly white country. So my safety concern is white men. Men OF ALL races rape abuse and kill women. Skin colour isnt relevent. The common denominator is and that is MEN. What do you feel you are achieving defending all men? Do you think thats helpful to women? Do you think it lessens…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 10:35 PM
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By intimate partners? Because thats specifically what im talking about here. Men hurt and kill other men, that still means male violence is the problem. The race of the person is irrelevant since men of all races harm kill and sexually assault women. Giving men "the benefit of the doubt" has never worked. Women need to protect themselves, thats not going to change unless men magically become less violent and rapey.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 09:57 PM
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Well.....if every single right swipe I made when I was online dating was a match what does that say? To me it meant every man just swiped on every woman. How could that possible be a womens fault? Someone holding a gun to your heads? You saturate the market yourselves then blame women for it. It makes no logical sense that would ever be womens fault. You feel resentment for it. But that resentment is misplaced. Someone id never date isnt an option. I'd go on 1 to 2 dates a month. So to me it did…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 09:28 PM
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Come on now, when it comes to who is more dangerous, violent, unpredictable and deviant theres no competition. Personal safety is always at the forefront of women's minds when dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 09:17 PM
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Theres more single men generally. But lots of men dont listen to or believe women when we tell you why
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 07:13 PM
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I think the biggest difference is women are accepting of being alone. Its not a fear for a lot of women. A lot of us would rather be alone than with a man that doesnt treat us well. Theres lots of men who dont treat women well. Its not worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 07:10 PM
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Men blame women here repeatedly about having more "options", but 99% arent even options! Plus its mens fault we are swamped with matches and likes, because most of you indiscriminately just swipe right on everyone so its mens fault not women's. Messages are undoubtedly missed or overlooked due to men just swiping everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 06:32 PM
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Yeah and a lot of people here cant accept that and choose to blame it on women. Lots of men you dont want arent "options". They lack the criteria required for healthy relationships and these men are abundant, but not an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 05:22 PM
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Men hate women and arent quiet about it😂what are you talking about? Especially here! Men with podcasts say a lot of stupid shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 05:21 PM
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I think you underestimate how many truly terrible men there are.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 03:22 PM
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You realise a lot of the things you mentioned here are also true for women? I've been on some truly atrocious dates like I was pulling teeth trying to get a conversation going
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 02:03 PM
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My mortgage on a 4 bedroom property in the city is £500 per month. Energy bills £150 per month. Groceries/household stuff £750 per month for a family of 4 I dont have to pay for my healthcare at point of use. My employer matches what I pay into my pension per month. Each to their own in what they prefer. I personally hate the individualistic selfishness of american culture. My husband and me are more than comfortable making over 6 figures. I dare say I could work the same amount of hours over th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 11:36 AM
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Speak for yourself. American men cant provide. Theres huge health/wealth inequalities in the us. All sectors earn more but look at their rental prices, house prices, taxes and insurances, copays etc. Most men are not wealthy. If they could there wouldnt be a problem. Scotland isnt dirt poor. Theres pockets of poverty yes, like everywhere. But claiming its dirt poor is a ridiculous statement. Look at Edinburgh and finance, oil and gas in the north sea and renewable energy. All very good sources o…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 11:25 AM
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I know how tax works. I know the varying reasons why women pay less but thats changing. I know how socialist elements are paid for. I know that I am in the top 11% of tax payers in Scotland due to my income. So no. Men arent paying for me. Even if they were, even if I earned £0. I'd still be entitled to the same benefits i am now.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 01:02 PM
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"More realistic" to whom? Less attractive doesnt mean more realistic. It just means less attractive. Attraction isnt as superficial as how a man looks. He could be Henry Cavill to me and if I meet him and hes a prick then its a no go
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 08:52 AM
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Right??? Where are you going with that? Its pretty well documented as to the reasons why that is already so not sure where youre going with this?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 07:19 AM
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Didn't ask
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 05:11 AM
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Taxation of men? Wtf are you talking about😂😂 what decade/century are you living in? 48% of the workforce in the UK is women. The entire point of universal healthcare is that everyone gets it. No matter if you are poor or if you are rich. Your economic background is irrelevant. Thats entirely the point...🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ Im an above average earner in Scotland. My earnings over 45k I pay 42% tax on. I know this. We all know this. We all know how healthcare, higher education, free prescriptions, fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 09:52 AM
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I've grown up pre social media and OLD. We were all more clueless than now
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 09:12 PM
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Im in Scotland. We dont generally expect a man to provide for us. Its not prevalent. When I see men and women endlessly talking about men being providers its almost always america. We arent taught here that men should provide for us. I genuinely don't know a single woman who thinks like this. Im not denying they exist because they must but the scale in america is mindblowing
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 08:59 PM
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Well is there any quantitative data on the prevalence of women like this? I have honestly never met one in my life. Im going to assume this is an american entitlement thing
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 08:57 PM
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Well I havent insulted mens intelligence. You havent addressed the fact that this woman is just deluded and that its common sense he spoke. Its hardly some epiphany or eureka moment. Shes just delulu. That isnt a representation of women😂 or maybe in America it is. Its a fucked up country
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 08:56 PM
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Its not letting the cat out of the bag though is it? Hes talking common sense. This woman is deluded. Very clearly. Im not red pill and can see she's an idiot.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 08:49 PM
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Im 39 so I grew up with dial up internet and chat rooms. Absolutely fucking clueless about men or wtf is was doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 08:33 PM
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Just watched it. Does this qualify as redpill? Cos I've no idea but this womans just fucking deluded. Historic moment in world history? Doubtful, never even heard of it something in world history would need to be better known than that and more relevant than a deluded woman talking nonsense. She doesnt represent women😂
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 08:31 PM
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My father commit suicide when I was 4. My mother was single from then on. For clarity I didnt deliberately choose abusive men. They didnt start out abusive. Its an insidious degradation over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 08:16 PM
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You feel womens obligation to you is to not get fat, avoid the aging process, and pump out kids? Right....
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 08:11 PM
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Well its humans, so you are also included. Its mainly america. We dont burn through resources over in Europe like the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 07:28 PM
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My mother was extremely toxic. She was very misogynistic in her beliefs. I had absolutely no idea. Lamb to the slaughter.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 07:09 PM
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Yep. Why would you want children in this?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 07:05 PM
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Absolutely agree. None of us were given any of the tools required to navigate intimate relationships as adults
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 05:45 PM
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Yeah i did a lot of therapy. I didnt give up though I met my now husband who is everything I've always wanted. He gives me the love that I have always given out🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 05:44 PM
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That we have absolutely no fucking clue what we are doing because we've been lied to all our lives
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 05:40 PM
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Oh trust me women know. Men would much rather victim blame. I've had an entire lifetime of it. I stopped giving a fuck about the opinions of men a long time ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 05:27 PM
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1.First boyfriend I met in a nightclub 2.Friend of a friend 3.Friend of a friend 4.tinder 5.My brothers friend 6.Tinder (but met him through work briefly a year previously and is my now husband) First 5 were a variety of different categories of abuse from physical, emotional, financial, sexual, coercive control I didnt connect dots fully until number 5 convinced me I was mentally ill (spoiler I wasnt) and went to therapy for a year every week. Unintentially the best thing I ever did.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 05:22 PM
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It really is. Indoctrinated. Im so so glad women are now equipped with more knowledge to protect themselves. My daughter is fully aware thankfully.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 05:16 PM
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I speak to so many women with the same experience as me. We were sent out into the world of men like sacrificial lambs its disgusting. Why didnt our mothers warn us? Anybody warn us? Other than being told that bad men exist but with no guidance on what and how....it makes me feel very angry. Men know. Thats why they want "undamaged" young women. You cant convince me otherwise. They fucking know.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 05:14 PM
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Do you think this is a much more prevalent issue in the US? I live in Scotland and all this men provide garbage isnt spun like it seems to be in the US. I have never expected or looked for a man to provide for me. It doesnt seem to be ingrained societally like it is in the states. If theres anyone else from the UK or Europe who would like to weigh in on this too? I really cant help think it is to do with not having any form of socialist safety net. So women are much more financially minded and l…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 03:26 PM
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I feel the exact way about men. Nobody warned me. Men are absolutely nothing like what i imagined growing up. It was all a lie. All of it. I was lead to believe bad men were very few and far between. Victim blamed into thinking it was my fault. Assuming if I just did better, loved them more, their behaviour would improve and men would treat me better. My late teens, all of my twenties, and early 30s were abusive men. I blamed myself for all of it. 5 out of 6 relationships I've had were abusive. …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 03:14 PM
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Why shouldn't they?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 03:09 PM
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Yep! I picked the best man ever! Hes my favourite human being in the world, an absolute gem. So many men here will never experience this kind of relationship because they have so many hang ups
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 09:18 PM
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Hes not even being honest with himself so id say thats a no.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 07:51 PM
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You arent entitled to women. FFS. If who another person has slept with in the past feels like a personal attack on your self worth you need some introspection, reflection, and to challenge your own ideas of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 07:48 PM
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Why should it be about women hurting men?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:08 PM
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Men that hate women dont deserve access to women. At all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:06 PM
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Men that hate women dont deserve to be with a woman. Theres nothing controversial about that. Men that hate women hurt women. Its not about "different men" its very specifically about men who hate women. Why would you want something so badly that you hate? Its an appalling standpoint. Men also dont get to decide which women deserves sex and relationships. Because why would they? Unless you remove free will its up to women. Men do try though, frequently.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:54 PM
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Please elaborate? Nobody of either sex should be having sex outwith their terms. This is rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 11:25 AM
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From my own personal experience...watch how they treat people they dont want something from in return and how they treat their mother. Flashes of anger or inability to regulate emotions. Speeding or reckless driving. Does not like or relate to animals. Inability to take criticism-sees it as an attack/defensiveness. DARVO tactics. Overly jealous or suspicious. A bad drunk. Victim complex. Cant/won't apologise. All ex's were "crazy". If you're online dating-research them online, find accounts and …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 08:22 PM
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Do you really think I live in ignorance to believe women cant also be abusive? I didnt state that anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 07:57 PM
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I think the best you can do is just be as honest with yourself and others, it prevents time wasting in the long run and eliminates people looking for something different. People arent honest though for various reasons which makes things difficult
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 02:05 PM
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I had 4 separate long term relationships before i married. 1 of those men wasn't particularly entertaining or sexually charismatic. He was another one that pretended to be someone he wasn't. He wasn't what id typically go for but thought he seemed stable and had his head screwed on. He was the one and only wealthy man I've been in a relationship with and...never again. He was horrendous. So while id never date or be in a relationship with anyone I thought was "boring", I dont think sexual charis…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 02:02 PM
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Not sure men need to wade through a cesspit of misogyny....dating isnt nearly as dangerous for men, it just isnt. Teaching girls how to protect themselves against abuse is vital. Women dont generally want to violently hurt men or use them for sexual gratification. Its not the same with flipped genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 01:40 PM
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I strongly disagree here. Men are constantly dehumanising women. Look at the manosphere. Abundant examples. History-abundant examples Religion-abundant examples The list can go on and on. If men viewed women as equal human beings we wouldnt have men arguing about what a womans role is, restrictions on bodily autonomy, restrictions on rights historically. Thats lots of men who see women as nothing more than sex objects and vessels to grow babies. How can you not see this?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 11:31 AM
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I waded through a cesspit of misogyny and multiple instances of abuse to find a perfect gent who I am now married to. Its extremely hard to distinguish good guys from bad guys when girls and young women have not been informed or educated on these things, how to spot warning signs, categories of abuse etc. Though this is now changing with the internet, women sharing their experiences and awareness campaigns thankfully. When I was a child/teen/young adult i had absolutely no knowledge of any of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 11:09 AM
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Some women and some men want rigid heteronormative gender roles. Those people shoukd just stick to looking for someone within that bracket and stop complaining about other people who dont
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 07:12 AM
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Absolutely. It would be fantastic if women could see all online presence, social media content, history etc to see who a man is because it would tell a lot about a person. Gaslighting and love bombing are real and abundant. Men pretend to be people they arent to try to get women into relationships with them all the time. Abusive men and men that lie are abundant. They know they couldn't get with a woman without lying so they performatively pretend to be a better person than they are. This is by …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 05:15 AM
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As a woman I can honestly say, hand on heart...I have never once in my life worried about whether a hook up dude can get a relationship or not. What an odd thing to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 08:15 PM
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As I said, im accountable for not dropping them immediately at the first sign of abuse. My own ignorance of spotting abusive signs was a contributing factor. Something I feel connecting women and sharing experiences is helping young women avoid going forward which is very positive. I have the perfect husband now. Neither passive nor abusive. Should my marriage end, I dont ever have to worry about abusive men again because I will live my life without a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 10:06 AM
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Absolutely THIS!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 08:42 AM
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Do you think they started off abusive? Because of course they didnt. Men pretend to be better than they are acting like a great partner. Its a slow insidious decline into abuse
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 05:56 AM
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Its not even what manliness is....not to me or women I know anyway. Its like a fake caricature of masculinity. Yeah same, I wear make up daily, sundresses and have hair down to my butt. I've never felt as feminine and beautiful in my life as my husband makes me feel. But in these spaces it all seems to be about subjugation of women by the removal or absence of choice. Its all back to front.🤷‍♀️ I have to feel SAFE to feel feminine. A lot of the men here are not going to create that safety.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 10:19 PM
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None of it makes any logical sense. They'd rather listen to other lonely people sharing quantitative data than listen to anything from successful relationships and happy marriages about what it takes🤷‍♀️ but I do try
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 10:10 PM
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Because he tells me how happy he is every day. I know I make him as happy as he makes me. Theres no sex thing he wants to do but cant. We are both very open about it. Our values align on everything. We are both very happy. If I didnt like something id say, if he didnt like something he'd say. We dont have to compromise on anything. However...compromising is normal. Also what you said about oral is bs. If yoyr partner getting off gets you off...then it doesnt "do nothing physically".
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 10:07 PM
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Exactly. If men arent traditionally being the providers, how can they possibly expect traditional gender roles?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 09:11 PM
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This is your response to my reply....do you think thats a mature and measured comment to me challenging the OP's points with my lived experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 09:09 PM
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Absolutely not. I dont offer sympathy. Just trying to balance the extremes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 07:41 PM
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I try to bring some semblance of reality to the hopelessly indoctrinated Not sure it works though
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 06:30 PM
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In my friends theres only 1 husband out of 20 that are over 6ft😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 05:35 PM
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Im a high earning woman and have never considered I have it harder than anyone else. The dating pool for women seems large whatever the circumstances due to there being copious amounts of men (with what appears to be low to no standards) women have to filter massive amounts of men. (The burned Haystack Dating Method) Im only 5ft so cant comment on being tall. However since im so short I have no interest in the 6ft thing, I've dated men from 5'3-6'2...height has no bearing to me (I assumed becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 05:28 PM
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This sub and all social media really. I was genuinely blind to it. I believed the mirage that its a tiny portion of men and I was just extremely unlucky. Without men so frequently speaking out about how much they hate women while simultaneously wanting access to women i would have continued to live in ignorance. I think a lot of young women now know and it isnt worth the risk en masse
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 05:03 PM
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Its just not worth the risk. The internet in general and men speaking their minds has made me realise theres so many more men that have such low opinions of women that I just couldn't entertain another man. I'd rather live alone with a community of women. My lived experience is that men are abusive. Every relationship I've had with a man (except my husband) I've been abused in some way. Whether its emotional, physical, financial, coercive control, or just plain old cheating...ive lived it. The i…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 04:12 PM
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That some men would like women to have restricted rights and be forced into relationships with them. That some men dont understand how bad rape is. That if my marriage ever ends, I will never, EVER date another man as long as I live. That its far easier for men to seek external blame for internal struggles. That some men refuse to see women as equals. Oftentimes not even humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 03:45 PM
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Depends what the metric for success is really. I dont see lesbians very often turning to crazy online conspiracy theories on why they dont get women😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 03:20 PM
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And you'd know what these women think and feel...as a man. Come on😂 Lesbian relationships have absolutely nothing to do with men. So why thats always used as some sort of evidence for hetero relationships makes no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 07:45 AM
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Yeah...because they leave when they arent happy. Another reason they are happiest IN relationships. They dont stay unhappy🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 07:29 AM
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When I think of the women who regularly engage in casual meaningless sex, its because they actually want more, or its filling a void...in other words its not about the sex. Which is why they feel used or worse following it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 07:28 AM
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Boundaries...what you've just described is boundaries. Completely normal, completely healthy. For everyone.... He knows what i like and what I dont. What I would do and what I wouldnt. All these things were discussed prior to getting married...not just sex things
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 05:14 AM
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Fucking hell I love this sub😂😂dude wants to make more female babies to make them grow up and solve lonely mens problems🤦‍♀️ Be for real...theres lonely men, then theres men who are alone because they are horrible and dont deserve to be with a woman because they hate women. All this would create is more women to reject these men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 06:04 PM
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Im married to my perfect man but I'll weigh in to before I was.. Im very attracted to intellect. Sapiosexual if you want to name it. Not so much a man's looks, I dont have a specific "type" looks wise, or a list of things most commonly used here like 666. Its a man's mind I find appealing and attractive. His ability to have interesting conversations. In that i found while single most men bored me, so I didn't find many men attractive. Lots were shallow and uninteresting to me. So I rarely found …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 07:17 AM
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Yes its true, girls are on their phones a lot. But doing what? Social media, group chats, making videos, commenting on others videos...more social aspects of technology. And to the exclusion of the world? No. They arent. Girls are not struggling like boys are.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 03:56 PM
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I've said it before but I'll say it again... Boys spend their formative years in a dark room isolated from the world on the internet then wonder why the cant function as adults in society. Its hardly a baffling mystery why young men are failing. Especially in the US. Mix poorly socialised isolated young men with dog shit education and low EQ with a hefty dose of entitlement and the manosphere is born. Its just a conspiracy theory. Like any other. Full of clap trap, pseudo science and misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 03:36 PM
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I dont think my argument even needs anything else for it to "hold water". Look around. Look on the internet. Look at people you know. Boys and young men are struggling in the world today. They are isolated and ill equipped to deal with life and show a real lack of resilience. I have teenage children, most people my age also have teenage children. None of the girls I know are socially isolated hold up in their rooms all day. Not one of them doesn't have a social life. This is anecdotal of course.…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 03:19 PM
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I genuinely believe this is the main issue. Its why boys are failing in society as adults. Strong parenting and boundaries, limiting access to devices and content during physical and cognitively developmental years, joining social clubs, positive masculine role models My husband works in neurology, and they are seeing young men with permanent skull deformities due to persistent use of headsets during teenage years. The head teacher at my sons school told me that they are seeing more and more boy…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 01:03 PM
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Boys spend their formative years in a dark room isolated from the world on the internet then wonder why the cant function as adults in society. Its hardly a baffling mystery why young men are failing. Especially in the US. Mix poorly socialised isolated young men with dog shit education and low EQ with a hefty dose of entitlement and the manosphere is born.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 12:26 PM
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Im neither obese nor a yank. So nil poi to you. What an odd thing to reply...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 12:17 PM
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Is 5'8 the imaginary cut off? My husbands 5'8. Nearly had to tell him hes invisible there but hes scrapped a pass clearly😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 09:27 AM
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This doesn't help anything though....it doesn't change the fact that men pretend to be better people than they are until well into the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 06:13 PM
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Theres multiple organisations, charities and support groups specifically for men in my country. It is true that men very often dont want to help themselves. These men's only spaces have real challenges getting men to engage.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 10:41 AM
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No. Love isnt superficial like that. Attraction has to be there but there's no one size fits all with attraction either. Its not just physical or how much money someone makes. Im married to a bald 5ft 8 man and make more money than him. Which by superficial metrics used repeatedly online would make him unattractive. But he isnt. Hes the most attractive man I've ever known and my favourite human being in the world. Character is what matters to the longevity of any relationship. Two people with si…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 10:08 AM
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Erm....you seem to have lots of misconceptions about women. Also a very clear distain and resentment. Im a heterosexual woman. I am attracted to male sexuality. I dont find male sexuality repulsive. I find a lack of control of their sexuality repulsive. This manifests as rape, assault, stalking, abuse, child sexual assault etc etc THAT is the repulsive part. Not male sexuality. Resenting the experience of women is also pretty gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 09:59 AM
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Yeah...it is. So dont blame women for choosing these wrong men or ignoring the "good guys" when you cant offer any advice or education in how to spot the wronguns
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 09:44 AM
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That doesn't really answer my question though does it? The motivator for women's only spaces is safety. Im not against men's only spaces, i just dont understand what the benefit would be in excluding women which is why I asked. Theres lots of women's only events, club nights, boozy brunches here too. Theres a market for it and they are successful. The reason there isnt for men is because there isnt a market for it. Again there are lots of mens only spaces in my country...lots of organisations ai…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 09:43 AM
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I dont understand why men cant build friendships with other men without it excluding women? Why does it have to be mens only spaces? I mean if thats what you want to do then start it up, but I dont get the rationale there? In my country there are lots of initiatives, charities, and local support groups for men already. The problem is actually getting men to engage.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 09:16 AM
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Right....but how are women supposed to know who is who when the dickheads pretend to be the good guys? This facade can go on for months being the perfect gentleman and partner
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 09:12 AM
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So I genuinely think education for young women would stop a lot of women landing in abusive relationships. We dont teach girls anything. I think maybe now its better because of the internet, but most of the trauma women suffer is in their teens and early to kid twenties before they've educated themselves. I know I personally was taught nothing about men or relationships, red flags to look out for, warning signs, types of abuse etc. I feel it would have equipped me to avoid it. I dont believe the…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 08:35 AM
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Try the burned haystack dating method. I've not used it but others have said it works well and limits time wasting with online dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 10:18 PM
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The problem isnt on women with that...there's far too many bad men with bad intentions or dont know how to be decent people. If one woman kept picking bad guys sure maybe its her...but if all women are having bad experiences with women it indicates a larger more systemic problem with men. Its happened to me, a man just pretended to be an entirely different person and did all the right things...until a year in I agreed to move in with him/gave up my own security and over the course of a few month…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 10:15 PM
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Just accept the size of your dick and move along
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 07:47 AM
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35.8 million people are living under the poverty line in the US... I dont see any reason why the us cant be a mixed economy like we have in many developed countries like mine. Still capitalism but without the pockets of extreme health inequalities, and children in extreme poverty.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 07:11 AM
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You are completely delusional. You live in a very warped reality where yoy try to convince yourself of weird things about strangers to confirm your own bias. You genuinely seem mentally ill. His foreskin was far too tight and caused pain. How many more times.....YOUR FORESKIN DOESNT REDUCE YOuR PENIS SIZE. YOU JUST HAVE A SMALL DICK.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 06:53 AM
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He was about 7 and it was causing his a lot of issues. My son also had an issue with his foreskin when he was little but it resolved with steroid cream. I dont live in the US so no i wouldn't do it unless medically necessary. You cant possibly say you'd prefer one thing over another thing you've never experienced its silly. The only way to know is if you'd actually be raped by a man from behind. Why cant you just admit you are blaming having a small penis of circumcision. Its nothing to do with …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 11:06 PM
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What! You cant be serious.....the shaft is the same size regardless if there's foreskin or not. You honestly believe your penis gets smaller with a circumcision? Come on now be for real
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 10:54 PM
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You think hes just lying to me daily about how happy he is? Or that I couldnt tell if hes unhappy or somethings bothering him? Hes my best friend...when somethings up i know
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 10:52 PM
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For women i know that refuse to date men, it isnt caused by not being attractive to the opposite sex. They've been drawn to 4B etc because of trauma caused by men. Be that sexual assault, DV, manipulation or coercive control. They are just feeling as if men are a negative in their lives so choosing to stay single.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 04:46 PM
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I dont have a shred of empathy for men like you that lack any awareness of what anyone's dealing with other than yourself no. Why should I have empathy for you? You show nothing but distain for women, you aren't owed my empathy because your parents chose to cut off your foreskin. Look at how mortally wounded you are by the removal of a piece of skin as a baby. You'd never emotionally survive being penetrated by a penis forcefully. My husband got circumcised as a child for medical reasons and hes…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 12:31 PM
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Your foreskin wouldn't have made your penis bigger you know. You seem to think that by your replies. You'd like your ass to be brutally invaded by a man against your will and think its just "30 minutes of unpleasantness"? That really just shows how ignorant and privileged you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 12:26 PM
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I dont even need to get past number 1..... Men dont ruininely get their foreskin cut off in my country (unless medically necessary). But to say this is worse than rape? Are you out of your mind? Worse than anything a woman has to routinely endure....again...WHAAAAAAAAT🤯 female genital mutilation is a thing...but other than that we have: Pregnancy; Gestational diabetes Pre-eclampsia Placenta previa Hyperemisis gravidarum Ectopic pregnancy Childbirth Pelvic inflammatory disease Endometriosis Polyc…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 11:01 AM
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Now this is can relate to. Men aren't anything like little girls are lead to believe which was a tough abusive lesson for me to learn before I did
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 05:32 PM
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All women are like what though? I get you think women are all the same...but the same how?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 04:00 PM
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Well yeah....as a woman I also feel pretty disillusioned in regards to men. Growing up youre conditioned to believe they are a certain way then you go out into the world as an adult without any fucking idea what youre doing, what's normal and what's not. I wish someone, anyone couldve given me a heads up so that my rose tinted glasses didnt have to be shattered by physical and emotional abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 01:08 PM
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I absolutely agree with you that society needs to change because it seems to be falling apart at the seams How the hell do we fix it though? I think the internet is a pretty big contributing factor in people's overall discontentment
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 12:59 PM
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Who's a terp here?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 12:57 PM
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I agree. People are clueless about themselves. Hate breeds hate. Lots of people are miserable. If everybody just stopped being a dickhead the world would be a much nicer place.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 09:04 AM
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Thank you for responding and im sorry life isnt good😥 I think its a symptom of a much larger problem with society. We are living so far removed from how nature intended that its causing misery. The rich get richer, the poor get poorer. The masses are miserable. This is only exasperated by the internet. Being flooded with endless opinions and content on everything imaginable. People dont socialise like they used to. They stare at screens. They dont form meaningful connections. Its isolating peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 08:52 AM
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It doesnt matter what age a woman is. This is a lie thats pedalled constantly in the media. Putting an imaginary ticking clock onto women that once they hit a certain age all options for men drop off the face of the earth and you're alone. Its not true. Not even a little. I know women in their 50s inundated with male attention of varying ages. Its no different to any age. Look at the divorce rates...are all these divorced men looking for women in their 20s? No. They aren't. Its just another soci…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 08:47 AM
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Well that good and im glad to hear you arent unhappy. This is just my observation but a lot of RP seem very unhappy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 08:41 AM
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So why do so many men that also claim to be redpilled also hate women? If it doesn't teach that? Did they just hate women all along then?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 08:40 AM
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This is crazy talk. You're telling me im masculine, a stranger online....come of dude be for real. All because im in a management position. I lead with kindness and empathy and a set of clear boundaries that everybody should be working within anyway, its just that some dont sometimes. Theres rules in the workplace, these rules are neither masculine or feminine..and ensuring my team and area are working within these rules by leading the team and working well together doesn't need to have a mascul…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 07:55 AM
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Yeah we are the same. It changes nothing. People view marriage wrongly I think. I solid relationships a ring on your finger means nothing. Yet people treat it like a destination, so desperate to get there they do it woth the wrong person. Legally it helps still. My friend wasn't married and her long term partner had a stroke. She had to jump through hoops to act on his behalf because they arent married its been a nightmare
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 07:26 PM
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Women grow up and mature and start looking to settle down late twenties/early 30s. Women can have as many hook ups as they want in their 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s...you just seem really bitter about it. Women dont have to lower their standards. We dont fear being alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 06:23 PM
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People do not reach maturity at 21. Thats not how life works. You dont just stop learning and growing on your 21st birthday. People are constantly developing and changing. Im not the same person I was 5 years ago, nevermind 21. Theres a weird fixation with accountability. Its become a meaningless buzzword and constantly misused. Im an adult. As such I am accountable for myself and my actions just like everybody else. I am not accountable for other people's feelings, actions, or how others treat …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 05:21 PM
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Yeah...I should revise my comment because its only partially true. Women need to do the inner work first to heal
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 05:15 PM
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😂 no woman would say this We ALL know how easy it is to get a hook up. Nearly all men say yes to no strings sex. That doesn't decline with age, its always available. Most women aren't into it. People grow and mature. When I was a teenager/early 20s I didnt value the same things I do now. I put more value on superficial shit that in the grand scheme of things is meaningless. Any adult that hasn't grown emotionally from being a teen/young adult is going to struggle emotionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 04:56 PM
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Yeah...to revise my statement it shouldn't have just been "older women" there's a lot of unhealed trauma in older women too. It should be older women with knowledge and experience who've worked on themselves. Some people just dont grow
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 04:51 PM
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I genuinely wish every relationship was as happy and harmonious as ours. I think the world would be a much better place. I dont think there's anything more to it than a lot of luck. 2 people meeting that are perfect for each other, at the right time, which is just shit and a shame. I really feel for people who dont get to feel the joy of it😥
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 04:49 PM
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Who said anything about gene pool?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 04:43 PM
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Its a mix of trauma, lack of boundaries, and sunken cost fallacy that leads women to put up with bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 04:42 PM
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Exactly. We've been there, done that, won't tolerate it again.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 04:41 PM
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Immaturity. Older women have learned their lessons early on and dont have any tolerance for dog shit behaviour from lack lustre men
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 03:39 PM
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Oh im sure it is. Theres a lot of traumatised women out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 03:36 PM
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And women. Which really just suggests marriage is no longer a valid institution.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 02:37 PM
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A plumber would be easier for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 02:36 PM
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I fear the majority of men in this sub will never know the joy of a loving relationship or intimacy with a person they love that loves them
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 01:23 PM
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This isnt true at all😂 I work in a 95% female dominated field. You just associate leadership with men. Which isnt true. So you think that being masculine is "disagreeable"? I come home from work and my husband takes care of me, he makes me feel safe and protected and feminine. I dont associate my job with being masculine. I've done my job for years. I dont want to be masculine and im not.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 01:18 PM
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Women don't these jobs. Im pretty confident I could phone around a few businesses and find women to do the work
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 01:14 PM
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My husband and me are very happy. I agree its rare though which is sad. Everyone just needs to be less of a dickhead generally
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 01:13 PM
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So maybe what i should do is specifically seek out women in these fields to do the work for me and I'll pay them instead
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 09:43 AM
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We arent being told to empower ourselves into being attracted to a small pool of men. I hardly find any men attractive. I've always been this way. When I was 18 and still now. Maybe just come to terms with the fact that men aren't the centre of women's universe, every decision we make isnt based on a man's opinion of it. You cant force women to like certain things and not others. You can complain about it all yoy want but it won't change anything. Women if they want a man will chose a man who is…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 09:24 AM
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What on earth is "extracting femininity"? If a mirror of yourself is a headache...you should definitely see that and try to improve it. Nobody wants to be around a headache
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 09:19 AM
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Masculinity doesn't equate to earning money. Im a very feminine woman but have a good job in a leadership role. It absolutely doesn't mean im masculine because I financially provide for my family
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 09:14 AM
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Women of all ages are attractive. Men make shit up to try to convince women of things, you dont become invisible at a certain age thats a lie. Mens opinions aren't nearly as important as people think. Other than those close to you, opinions generally are meaningless who cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 08:54 AM
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Husbands. Not just any husbands, but the husbands in very happy fulfilling relationships. Some marriages are shit let's be honest. The happiest marriages (or long term relationships because some dont want to marry) have healthy sex lives and the couples are also really good friends. Built on mutual attraction, trust, safety and respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 08:08 AM
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Its almost certainly fiction
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 12:02 AM
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Being a terrible person and treating people badly doesn't need a specific label. You treat women horribly covers it. You posted this exact thing 3 months ago. Whatever you gotta do to feel big and strong.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 11:59 PM
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A lot of these men are dysfunctional red pillers/men that hate women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 11:53 PM
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I watched it...what's it supposed to be? Its a woman calling the men in the manosphere losers? Do you think this is something massive manipulation then that all women are in on? For what purpose? Whatever you think women are all colluding to i must've missed the memo cos im completely oblivious to what it is women are supposedly trying to do or get from men?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 06:49 PM
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Well are you being honest with women that this is your shtick? Are you telling them you want sex and nothing else? You want to keep them at arms length and never cohabit etc?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 06:43 PM
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Its not a worthless statistic though is it. It shows a societal dysfuction specifically in a country. A sickness of young men so incapable of functioning coherently with other humans. A sickness in society. A generation of lost boys. Are you going to leave women alone? Surely you wouldn't want anything to do with women and would avoid them at all costs if they are what you say they are?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 06:40 PM
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To what end? To leave women alone? Because if so im on board.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 06:30 PM
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Women dont want to control men and use them as bang maids.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 06:27 PM
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Be a passport bro then what's stopping you. Outside the us its a much smaller problem but still a problem. 59% of all global manosphere online traffic comes directly from the US. Clearly there's a load of weak insecure men there.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 06:18 PM
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Im glad. Men lie about how they feel about women to manipulate them. Its a good thing men are being honest on the internet for all to see. Its shows women what to look out for, red flags, screening questions etc to avoid misogynists. Before it was mostly hidden. Thats a great thing for women to enable women to protect themselves better than before.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 06:16 PM
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Plenty of people have done this. You're haven't given a coherent answer to anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 05:55 PM
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I have no student loans. My university education was free. I live in a country that doesn't charge silly amounts for education or healthcare. All it is is shitting on women. Almost every single post. Do yoy really have that little to talk about? Its not constructive in anyway. It just demonstrates how selfish and self centred men are, and that yoyre obsessed with women having free will and resent it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 05:54 PM
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Women dont need intimate relationships with men. Its clear to see men are struggling without women though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 05:03 PM
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Im glad men are showing their true nature. Its great for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 05:02 PM
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Shut up with that female bs.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 05:00 PM
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Im a very feminine woman. My husband is a very masculine man. We have a fantastic relationship built on trust and respect. Whatever the fuck these men are smoking is toxic. Just be a decent human being and you're half way there but no....the answer seems to be ill be as vile as I like and blame it all on women. Its like dysfunctional children with the emotional capacity of toddlers.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 04:29 PM
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Can you at least try to back up your responses with a coherent thought? Instead of just "women bad"? Leave women alone then. Stop whining. You clearly don't like women so stop whinging about them and get on with your life without us. Nobody wants a whining self pitying man with a bad attitude. Just get over it and leave women alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 04:27 PM
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Straight white able bodied men are not victims. Let's be clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 04:24 PM
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I say what I see. A disgusting cesspit of male entitlement and victim complex at not being able to force women into submissive roles they think they deserve. Its evil.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 03:05 PM
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Oh but it is. Its ALL about you. The irony in you saying it's women who lack self awareness is hilarious😂😂 This post says so much about you. Absolutely nothing about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 03:02 PM
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Expressing their dissatisfaction to women having autonomy and free will is disgusting. Men on the internet have exposed men's real character and im glad for it. Women can protect themselves better knowing what men are instead of naively thinking they arent just evil. Knowledge is power. Women have a responsibility to not engage whatsoever with problematic abusive men. Do not let them into your life in any way, shape or form. These men deserve to be nowhere near women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 02:40 PM
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They are all just whining about how they should be entitled to all women and they hate they cant get what they want whilst doing nothing to improve their insufferable personalities.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 01:19 PM
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Have you not had enough down votes yet? Women owe you nothing. Not. A. Thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 01:17 PM
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This post should just be deleted. The OP is incapable of debate. He just copies what someone has said and says the opposite of it. That is not intellectual or meaningful debate. Its just simple bias with no substance.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 10:39 AM
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This guy shoukd just be banned hes talking utter drivel
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 07:55 AM
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Women are responsible for their actions. All adults are accountable for their actions. Women ARE NOT accountable TO YOU.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 07:54 AM
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Please.....stop. You arent interested in a debate here. You arent interested in sensible perspectives. You hate women. That is it, the end. You will remain single until you can learn to grow as a person and learn respect. Women aren't the enemy. You are inflicting whatever this is onto yourself. Women aren't parasites because men made rules that prevented them from independence and those belief systems still filter through. Theres traditional relationships that work well. The man and woman both …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 07:40 AM
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I thought this was bad...I was not prepared honestly. I dont understand why its allowed at all. The whole sub should be banned. This guy probably should've posted there for sympathy from men that feel they are the victims of women just existing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 07:32 AM
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If you think this sub is bad ever seen r/mensrights? Its a real horror show of men that hate women all collectively festering in it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 07:20 AM
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This post is just another rant from a man that hates and resents women. Dont date a woman then? Women that hate men just want men to leave them alone to get on with their lives, but men that hate women want women to submit into whatever role a man's sees fit. THAT is the massive difference. Women can now work, make their own money, buy their own house and pay for themselves. We can do that, but unfortunately cultural shifts are a bit slower, attitudes dont change overnight so some women still ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 07:12 AM
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Well thats extremely shallow and i dont condone that at all
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 08:13 PM
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I dont judge human beings into categories of attractiveness. As far as im aware its men that do this. I judge humans on character. You can have any sort of physical attributes you like. If youre a prick, youre a prick and I won't want anything to do with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 06:48 AM
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I didnt. I cant sum up an entire human being by answering a specific question on what he thinks about a specific subject. My husband is a fantastic man. A prime example of secure masculinity. He's emotionally intelligent, empathetic, strong and dependable. By far THE best man I've ever met in my entire life. He's an excellent role model to my children of what it means to be a man. Traditionally masculine with no toxicity. He's my favourite human being ever and I love everything about him. I feel…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 07:05 AM
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Its basic empathy. You think you can make delusional assumptions about a man's entire character based on my comment? Thats utterly ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 06:48 AM
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Is this some red pill bs?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 04:46 AM
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Let me narrow it down for you then Men that cant respect women. Men that dont believe women should have equal rights. If you cant respect the very thing that would enable you to pass on your genes, you shouldn't pass on your genes at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 06:47 PM
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What about my ideas needs to be challenged? My view of men has been entirely 100% changed by men and men alone. Things men have actually said or done. Straight from the horses mouth. Im sharing my personal experiences. I just wished I'd have known all this years ago I believe it would have given me the knowledge I needed to avoid abuse. These toxic men outnumber respectful men thousands to 1 consistently. I've seen large groups of men verbally attack any man that dares to oppose or disagree with…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 06:34 PM
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So this revelation has come post marriage. It was beginning last year but I wasn't as exposed to it, I knew things weren't adding up so started to do my own research, algorithms work so the more I did the more I got. I have been open and discussed it with him all the way through. He for a large part agrees with me, men are shitty. He's worked in largely male dominated fields and is an ex royal marine so hes witnessed a lot of very toxic behaviour towards women in real life. It made him a bit ins…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 06:06 PM
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Im disqualified since I married my husband last year...but I'll weigh in anyway Social media/the internet. If we were to split up, I would never, EVER date another man for as long as I live, and its all down to the internet. Apart from my husband, I've grown to hate men. The things they say, the things they do, the gaslighting, manipulation, dehumanisation of women....I would never have known about any of it were it not for being globally connected via the internet. The things men say online are…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:48 AM
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Its a ridiculous concept. I could potentially understand it if voting was segregated into military matters only...but you arent just voting on that I think it would be a far better idea to implement a minimum IQ to vote. Or a questionnaire/exam pre-voting to determine if you actually have any understanding on what you are voting for or against before being eligible.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:30 AM
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The problem to solve is bigoted hateful men shouldn't get to pass on their genes to the next generation. Im assuming you've enlisted already since you have passionate beliefs in this? Have you ever met a woman in real life? It seems unlikely.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 09:44 AM
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Tbh I'd rather just die off. Im not even joking either. A lot of women feel the same. If there was a movement that controlled women like that, lots of women would self delete. The ones with any wherewithal anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 07:25 PM
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I honestly feel this way as a woman but in reverse. Im married but if that were to end I would NEVER date another man for as long as I live, and if I weren't married I'd never date entertain a man ever again. The things men say and think are truly horrific. It honestly feels like a big epiphany to me. Like I had this false image of men that was good and kind and thought along the lines of what I felt about men but in reverse but honestly my opinions have drastically changed. To the point that I …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 06:10 PM
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I lowered my standards once and was treated very badly... I know lots of women who have also done this and it ended very badly too. Their own insecurities seem to lead them to treating you very badly in an attempt to make you feel shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 02:18 PM
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This sub is bat shit crazy. Let's talk about consensual sex and rape as if they are the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 07:56 AM
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You give these men far too much credit. They genuinely believe that these women respect and love them because they are so wrapped up in delusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 01:29 PM
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You're telling this to the wrong person here. I know this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 01:25 PM
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Oh right so me asking what you possess that makes you a prize was unanswerable so instead you deflected with a made up name? It was a very simple question.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 01:24 PM
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Which women believe their value as a woman is holes? Thats just male bullshit. No woman thinks her value is her hole you moron.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 01:22 PM
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Well...good luck finding a bang maid I guess. 🤷‍♀️ Personally when choosing a partner it comes down to 1 question. Is this person a net positive in my life? Thats it. Thats the bar. If the answer is no then bye boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 01:21 PM
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I suggest you just pay an escort then. What you are describing isnt a relationship. Its pay for services rendered.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 10:43 AM
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Who said i was? I asked what makes him the prize. What makes you the prize?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 10:41 AM
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Have you bought a dog to die alone with? I think sons of all women will be drafted into ole yamtits war. Im not in the us but no doubt we'll be dragged in too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 10:41 AM
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No idea what this idiotic statement is supposed to mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 10:38 AM
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Youll all be drafted to the war soon enough. Something to look forward to.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 07:48 AM
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Women in their teens and early 20s are young and naive. Then they grow up. If you view meeting your partners needs as subjugation thats a real issue. Meeting your partners needs is normal in a healthy relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 07:46 AM
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Do you think you're a prize? If so what makes you a prize?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 07:42 AM
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Dude.....quit lying. You posted a couple of months ago about how you've been watching YouTube videos of men approaching women and how its something you've always wanted to try...come on now stop that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 02:53 PM
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Ok then couple. Heterosexual couples where the man is just an average guy, average job, average height etc... Everybody should be the best person they can be for themselves. I see over and over again performative improvements to try to attract women. Its fake. Its all just an act. Its doomed to fail as soon as you stop pretending to be someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 09:17 AM
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So why is there loads of average dudes happily married if you have to do all this stuff that takes forever? Why don't other guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 06:51 AM
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What are these achievements thats supposedly the magic equation to be successful with women?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 07:16 PM
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Yes men are obsessed with their dick size in relation to other men's dick size. Women have never obsessed with it as much as men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 07:15 PM
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There's 101 males for every 100 females in the population of the world so pretty equal. I think generally women manage better and aren't as lonely as men because we build community. We have lots of meaningful relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 05:04 PM
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If my husband wasn't far better than other men in terms of things he does for me, the kids, the home etc every woman I speak to wouldn't say oh my god you're so lucky where do I find a man like that?! Furniture is one thing...but letting your wife arrange and organise everyone's lives, appointments, schedules, laundry, cleaning, meals, groceries, cooking etc under the pretense that you don't care or it isn't important or I don't want to...then you're a bad partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 08:33 PM
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Personally I think the best men in bed are guys that derive pleasure from giving me pleasure like I do them Otherwise foreplay just feels like a means to an end
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 08:24 PM
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Yes. To put it simply...yes. MOST of you are bad at sex, and I wish women would stop faking it because it isn't constructive to trying to improve. I once told a man I was in a relationship what I liked and he was butt hurt and acted like a fucking child in a huff. He didnt improve or try to make it better for me. In hindsight he probably didnt care... A big portion of men think sex starts with penetration and ends with their own ejaculation. Of course thats going to be bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 08:14 PM
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I dunno about other women. Im 5ft so I genuinely couldn't care im shorter than nearly everyone! My husbands 5'8. I wouldn't make him taller at all since I'm already go on my tip toes to kiss him. I'd also add that any woman that is so fucking superficial to demand an arbitrary minimum height is a damned idiot so why would you care? Immediately scored off as a potential
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 07:54 PM
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I consider me earning more so I pay more as equity. My husband provides lots like i work a high stress job where I have to be the leader all damned day...I have to know everything, solve everyones problems, manage everything...but if hes off and I'm working I know I can come home and everything's done and my meals cooked. He cares for me so that when I come home I dont have to lead and organise everything at home too. I can relax and be taken care of. Its a massive thing. I've NEVER had a relati…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 07:51 PM
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Women and men generally marry about the same attractiveness and socioeconomic background. This is documented well throughout psychology and sociology. Yes there's outliers but generally couples are from the same background... There's lots of nonsense here about 666 blah blah blah but its all bollocks. I think lots of chronically single guys just genuinely think they are far better than they actually are. So because of that cant find a woman their own level because they are aiming too high.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 07:38 PM
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There's multiple studies on this if you care. Even me and I feel i have a fairly equitable marriage because I'm OK with it but I'm the main earner and pay more, work the same hours (but longer commute so even less time at home) and I still do the bigger share of cleaning, organising, laundry. But its not just that....its remembering and organising everything and the responsibility that comes with it...pick up that prescription, feed the animals on time, give these tablets at this time and the ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 11:58 AM
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Did you ask any women or did you make a bunch of assumptions writing this? Im a woman...the only problem i have with sw is if it is exploitative... As long as there is no exploitation i couldnt care less. Watch as much porn as you like i couldn't care less.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 07:40 PM
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You know what else would collapse society? If all women collectively tomorrow just said..you know what..im not doing this unpaid labour anymore...I quit
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 07:37 PM
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Im 39 and been to lots of these parties... I've never seen a stripper, also strippers arent hookers.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 12:00 PM
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Me too, it's mind-blowing, baffling illogical.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 09:19 PM
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Im fairly convinced men that can't get sex or a relationship just seriously overestimate their current market value... Nobody is involuntarily celibate. They are all just obsessing about getting with women they'd never stand a chance with anyway. That or they just have fucking awful personalities...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 09:17 PM
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None of it is logical and very easily disproved by just stepping outside😂
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 09:12 PM
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Its horseshit though. Lots of unfit guys in relationships. Lots of guys under 6 feet. Lots of guys making less money. I honestly believe guys that can't get sex or a relationship are just aiming too high...like they vastly overestimate their current market value and believe they deserve better than they can actually get.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 08:35 PM
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What stratospheric expectations?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 04:21 PM
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Absolute fantasist! Id love to see the reactions if a woman said this! Give me your undeserved adoration and finance meeeeeee
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 07:45 PM
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Absolutely zero complaining... He does things like the dishes, hoovering etc but any deep clean is me, bathroom, kitchen, mopping, laundry etc etc. I'd say it's about 75/25 He never complains, and I dont mind doing the bulk of the household stuff either. If I'm working he'll do stuff and have a hot meal for me finishing work each day and vice versa
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 05:45 PM
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Why would a woman be this obsessed with you? Like what do you have that would make it so? Maybe I'm reading it wrong but it sounds like you want to do nothing, make no effort, offer nothing in return and just be adored...for nothing? This seems like a very unrealistic fantasy
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 05:40 PM
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Its not a bad thing for me and I didn't state it was... I also didn't say women good man bad that is your interpretation.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 05:32 PM
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Not on sites that dont require a mutual match..... I also wasn't swiping on just anyone either, nearly every right swipe resulted in a match, leading me to believe guys just swipe on everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 09:46 AM
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Oh yeah, sure, men are happier than ever silly me
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 08:03 AM
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Looking at things like this sub, projections that indicate more singles than ever etc it would appear not
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 07:16 AM
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Online dating is flooded completely for women. This is due to the sheer amount of men all trying to interact with you at any given time. Its very possible (and highly likely) that I missed opportunities to interact with guys that wouldve been a fantastic match for me because of the sheer volume of messages. You can't blame women for this The only way this would change is if men were themselves more picky, only messaging women they have a real interest in getting to know instead of flooding women…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 07:15 AM
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How's that working out?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 07:07 AM
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Ah yes dont listen to women...listen to other chronically single guys...or podcast bros looking to capitalise on loneliness.. How's that working out for you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 05:48 AM
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I wasn't hit on for over 2 years...i was OK with it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 05:43 PM
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There's reasons why men kill themselves more than women...why do you think loneliness doesn't exist for women? There's women who have chosen celibacy for years and have nothing to do with men so why can't it be the same scenario reversed? Womens self esteem isn't from knowing men want her. The happiest women i know hold zero value in attention from men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 04:59 PM
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You didnt answer. And of course it does. If a man clearly didn't like women I'd never have sex with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 04:56 PM
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No. It doesnt make me feel nice it makes me feel uncomfortable
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 04:53 PM
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Meanwhile this sub is full of men saying why won't women touch my penis waaaaaaah
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 04:53 PM
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If sex is so important to men why do I repeatedly see them doing the exact opposite of what would make any woman sleep with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 04:09 PM
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Ok so...we've established that sex is important to you What values, skills, attributes do you have that could increase your chances? Conversely what dont you have that others who have sex do?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 03:21 PM
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I want men to stop obsessing about sex. There's lots of far more important things to concern yourself with.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 03:06 PM
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How do you know this for fact?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 02:28 PM
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Which brings me back to my original point. Stop tying your value/worth to sex. Or being attractive. Self worth needs to come from inside otherwise you'll always be miserable. I couldn't give a damn if im attractive to men or not. I dont give it value.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 02:27 PM
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There's far too much emphasis on sex. Its just sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 01:08 PM
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Except we can all accept money is a necessity. We need that. Like food, shelter etc to survive. Nobody is passing away from lack of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 01:04 PM
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Its exhausting! There's far better more important things to me spending your time worrying about!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 12:50 PM
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It never fails to blow my mind Anything that deviates from this ridiculous incorrect belief causes them to have an existential crisis which is what's happening now. Its a massive con. Women don't need men, simple. They need us so much more and always have it's so blindingly obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 12:20 PM
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There's been this whole movement of "decenter men" from women which is great...but the thing that's really needed is men decentering themselves. There's far too many men that just go around believing they are the centre of women's universe and that we consider them constantly. Like every decision we make is somehow linked to them. Delusional fools
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 11:19 AM
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Political views are deal breakers and should be discussed ASAP. If you can't agree on fundamentally important things, you're wasting your time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 08:51 AM
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I think there's far too much emphasis generally on sex. Who's getting more, who's getting less, who's having sex with who, what you can do to get more... There's so much toxicity because of it. Everyone should stop tying their own and others value as a person to it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 08:48 AM
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Women don't get a self esteem boost from rejecting men wtf is that nonsense and why do you believe it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 08:42 AM
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Women are more interested in having sex when the sex is interesting. Being good at sex gets you more sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 04:40 PM
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Well what is your definition of masculine since it's you who claims Liberal men generally arent masculine?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 04:30 PM
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Erm what. Surely you arent making the claim that men that are anti trump are not masculine. Behave.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 03:42 PM
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Its not your money!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 06:50 AM
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Ok well let's stick to your point. No. Making money doesn't excuse infidelity. Marriage isn't about obligation sex. Don't marry if you want to excuse cheating. Don't marry if you don't want to divorce. Don't marry if you don't want to split assets.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 06:22 AM
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Things happen to make people not want sex or lose their libido... Its life...libido isn't linear Trying to find ways to morally justify infidelity is crazy. Just don't marry. How old are you and why won't you answer that? Are you in a relationship? engaged to be married? Married? If not why are you making up scenarios to hurt your own feelings?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 05:58 AM
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How old are you? Again...its not "yours". If you don't want to split marital assets on divorce DONT MARRY. It's really that simple. Nobody is forcing you to marry. You didn't mention gender. Women don't generally tend to view sex as a marital obligation or want to have underwhelming "obligation sex" with a less than enthusiastic partner. So it's a pretty safe bet that you're a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 05:47 AM
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Marriage isn't a contractual obligation to unlimited access to a vagina. How old are you? You seem incredibly immature. The very basis of successful marriages with longevity is friendship. If you arent even friends...divorce is almost guaranteed
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 05:36 AM
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If you can't face the possibility of divorce don't get married. End if story. Trying to say being the breadwinner gives you a free pass to be a piece of shit is insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 04:53 AM
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Which women are identifying incels? Is that a thing? In my case absolutely I couldnt. He treated me well. He kept on a mask, pretended to be a different person for a long time. It happens. Shitty people perfomatively being kind, empathetic etc until they don't bother anymore. In my case when I moved in. Needless to say I left.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:15 PM
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<image> You are very misguided on what feminism is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:10 PM
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No. Feminism isn't the enemy. If you want to blame someone blame shitty men. Is it really a tiny minority of men when it's a universal experience for women? Blame those men if anyone, women don't form negative emotions towards men out of thin air. It's from lived experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 01:49 PM
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Yeah exactly my point. Men do lie about who they are though. I dont consider myself to be a horrendous judge of character by I myself have been fooled by an apparent "nice guy" who treated me so well for 18 months until he turned into a fucking monster after I gave up my house and moved in with him. So it happens. Women that knowingly sleep with shitty misogynistic men need to stop doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 01:47 PM
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I dont blame innocent men for the actions of some men I'm absolutely appalled that men acting badly is an almost universal experience for women though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 11:13 AM
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Unsure based on this if she's "biased" based solely on this post. Men don't treat women worse or give less attention as women age. I know that this is a widely held misconception but it's not actually even true. I've no idea what value she even gives to male attention. Generally though attention from men is cheap and abundant. Nobody is completely innocent so ill assume she isn't either. That doesn't mean she's exploited anyone for financial gain specifically. Is this hateful to make a post abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 10:57 AM
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You'd think..... But no. Apparently not.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 10:31 AM
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I'm not saying anything new or groundbreaking. I know that. It's frustrating to see women complaining about men they are with being misogynistic but staying with them. To see women keep tolerating poor behaviour. If women rejected misogynistic men I believe men would quickly learn that it doesn't serve anyone to disrespect or hold distain for women. Women create life. We have given birth to every single human being ever. The fact that we are treated as "less than" based solely on sex is abhorren…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 10:27 AM
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Misandrist women don't tend to want men in any capacity. The true misandrists I've encountered advocate for complete avoidance of men in their lives. 4B etc.. I dont think the majority of women that get tagged as misandrists hate men, it's just that we are sick of men being horrible to us. Conversely misogynistic men want women in their lives in roles they dictate. There's a very big difference there. If sexist men lived their lives passively without women there wouldn't be a problem now would t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 10:15 AM
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Yeah good. The difference being is that women don't give a shit if misogynistic men reject them that would be a good outcome and serve the same purpose. It's not whining it's good advice. Misogyny serves no purpose for women at all. What has being a sex worker or divorcee got to do with it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:25 AM
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Men criticise every single thing a woman does that doesn't centre or benefit them if you pay attention. Criticism from men is worthless. Reject these men. Reject all men that hold contempt, disrespect and disregard for women. It's really that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 08:02 AM
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If online dating is just a constant kick in the teeth (which it can be) what else have you tried? Online is really superficial and pretty awful generally for self esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 01:33 PM
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You can easily debunk the 666 rule by simply going outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 01:32 PM
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Like are you upset you arent over 6ft? Are you upset that not all women want you? What is it? It seems like you are upset about imaginary scenarios. I don't get upset about men that don't find me attractive...what's the point it isn't constructive or even relevant to anything. If you don't find me attractive why would ruminating on that get me anywhere? I cant make sense of it at all
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 01:10 PM
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Why would you bother entertaining completely shallow women? Men that are completely shallow were out of the equation immediately for me. Not in the running at all. Being completely superficial is a very unattractive quality.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 12:50 PM
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Why are you focusing so heavily on something you have no control over? You can't make yourself taller. Why would you ever want to be with someone who values height so much? I just don't get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 12:46 PM
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The 6 foot thing is easily debunked by just going outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 12:26 PM
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Women today have the legal rights and means to be independent. So, men have to show one single thing - that they bring more positives into her life than her being single. That’s the bar. The bar is literally sitting down in hell and men cannot meet that bar. The competition isn't other men it's a womans peace.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 12:17 PM
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Dude stop over complicating it. Women just want a man that over all is a positive in her life. The bar is in hell yet men can't meet that bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 12:13 PM
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It's up to men to change this then. If there isn't reciprocal interest, I don't think men should be chasing. I'm old enough to remember pre online dating, and it was still the same situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 09:26 AM
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Well that's all extremely negative.... I personally don't care if men chase women or not. If men want to stop go for it. Who cares? Mutual respect is the aim. If that isn't present nobody should be chasing anyone. Of course my husband doesn't feel lonely ffs. If he did I'd know about it. Ever heard of communication? We spend hours talking why would a stranger on reddit assume they know more about my marriage than me? What a ridiculous thing to say. Healthy relationships stand the test of time. U…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 08:36 AM
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You do know that men have been chasing women forever? It has always been this way. Women have way more options than men because of the way men are. Women have to be more picky because men aren't. I don't see this changing anytime soon. I agree everybody needs to have high standards, both men and women. There's a lot of time and energy focusing on women that you don't want anyway on this sub instead of just filtering to women that meet whatever requirements you have. It always gives a sense of en…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 07:50 AM
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Oh yeah because this subreddit is fully of positivity.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 05:17 PM
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I'm married
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 05:50 AM
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What are you talking about subsidized labour then?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 08:19 PM
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Do you feel personally victimised by women? Do you feel oppressed by women?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 07:04 PM
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I think generally women underestimate just how many men hate us. Whether they are open and admit it, or put on a performance until they have you where they want you then drop their mask and become an absolute monster... I'm convinced if women could read mens minds we'd all be completely horrified about what they really feel about women Women having standards feel like oppression to them. I also believe it's deeply rooted in undeserved unwarranted entitlement of a womans love, attention, affectio…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 05:53 PM
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It all comes from a position of entitlement it's fucking gross
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 07:07 AM
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Not generally. I know a guy who is the sweetest person and would make a lovely partner I'm always on the look out for someone for him but he struggles with his mental health. BUT...guys that play victims and make it their entire personality..yes that's loser behaviour. It's certain men that are losers who make it womens fault. Can't stand thise guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 06:02 AM
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"Most of these feminists end up being the same or worse" Source? "Not the first time they have been caught being horrible, misandrist human beings" Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 08:05 PM
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Why is that funny?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 07:42 PM
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Nobody has a problem with this. It's very obvious that you blame women for the actions of men. Calling victims "damaged women". Come on now, really? Women do risk assess men yes. WE HAVE TO. If men could control themselves in the first place we wouldn't have to be so guarded. Every single woman I know has either been raped, sexually assaulted, stalked, suffered domestic violence, coercive control at least once in her life including myself. You should not expect women to give men the benefit of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 05:32 PM
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Please clearly define your interpretation of masculine behaviour?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 04:14 PM
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Replied to the wrong person sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 08:10 AM
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I've never heard a woman feel she is in competition with her intimate partner, not saying it doesnt happen though. It's men I feel that make everything into a competition. And in that vain men feel threatened by women who are more successful. Men are the gender I see far more commonly make things into a competition. Anyone seeing their partner as a competitor is absolutely mind blowing. Surely that never ever works and is extremely unhealthy. Partners should be working towards shared goals and a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 11:41 AM
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1 jerk? No. You have no idea who I am. My opinion of men isn't a blanket statement for every single man. I do hate misogynistic men. Entitled men. Violent men. Abusive men. Men that defend these behaviours and attitudes. If these don't apply to you why are you offended? Some knob jumped on here to tell me I'd keep a bf on the side? Wtf for? Every man I've ever entertained or given a chance to bar my husband has ended up being abusive or just plain fucking useless. I'd never cheat on my husband. …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 09:50 AM
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Sexist? For hating male violence? For hating misogyny? For hating this entitlement to women men feel?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 09:29 AM
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He was 34 I was 33. How come?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 09:25 AM
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Incorrect. I have a successful career, own my home, completely independent etc. My husband when I met him was a student. This is a very common misconception. It isn't a competition. I'm not competing with men. What I was looking for in a life long partnership was someone who's morals align with mine, intellectually equal, kind, empathetic, emotionally intelligent and makes me feel safe. He is masculine. To me masculinity does not equal career driven and competitive. Secure masculinity is quiet c…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 09:03 AM
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I don't live in a country with trailor parks and ghettos but I get the sentiment.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 07:00 AM
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I'm not suggesting a non monogamy. The patrichary is not opposed to monogamy. It's pro nuclear family and rigid gender norms/roles so unsure why you think that? What I want is for women to reject all forms of misogynistic men, violent men, men who disrespect women. These men need to not have children and continue cycles of abuse and uphold damaging attitudes and behaviours.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 06:54 AM
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You're just talking complete horseshit. If I wasn't with my husband I would stay single. I have neither the time nor the inclination to have another man on the side. Who tf could be arsed with that? Not me. Men as an entity are awful. This subreddit has solidified that for me. I'm lucky to have my husband. Now go away and do something productive instead of talking shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 04:57 AM
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🥱🥱🥱
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 04:41 AM
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A 50 year old should already have children when younger. Like women that want kids. Not get with a teenager like a dirty pervert.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 01:11 AM
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America is a cesspit of misogyny and bigotry
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 01:10 AM
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Again perhaps young niave women do? That fun has a very short shelf life if men manage it. Until women grow up and learn
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 01:09 AM
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It's not that you don't like me. You don't like ANY women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 08:48 PM
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I've replied to you in another comment of the same vain. You cannot hate women, find them insufferable and uninteresting and be straight. That it logical.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 08:48 PM
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I'm not homophobic by making the very rational assumption that you cant find women intolerable/insufferable/uninteresting and be straight. That's extremely fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 08:46 PM
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I'm not homophobic and I don't feel attacked either There's clearly a reason why you've never found a woman interesting and don't like women. I'm not the homophobic here
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 08:41 PM
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What an absolute charmer. You sound like a real catch. Explore your latent sexuality. You don't like women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 08:05 PM
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Women aren't incapable of being interesting. That's your personal take. I couldn't ever have sex with anything I thought was as dull as ditch water...because why would you ever want to? Do you find men interesting? There's definitely something freudian going on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 08:02 PM
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Are you a child? If you think the only value of marriage is a sex toy I hope you never marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 07:23 PM
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You've never found a woman interesting in your life? Sounds like something you might need to delve a bit deeper into....
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 07:21 PM
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Yes I did that is correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 06:05 PM
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You don't actually know anything though. You just think you know with utter conviction.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 05:28 PM
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Funny....women love funny men. Ugly men get in relationships too. You don't only see good looking men in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 04:56 PM
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Stop trying to confirm your own bias by twisting my words. Men do not cope with internal distress in a healthy way. There's a lack of self reflection. Teaching men how to deal with their emotions isn't gendered. It's human. I want the exact opposite of telling boys to sit down and shut up. I do not want boys to be girls. I want boys to be able to manage uncomfortable feelings in healthy non violent constructive ways. I believe less men would kill themselves if there was less stigma in reaching o…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 04:08 PM
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Yeah...initially. Zero point in looking nice if you're an arsehole though. Men that aren't traditionally good looking also get women and have successful relationships. It isn't all about being good looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 04:02 PM
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Depends on the age group you are speaking of. Fuck boys is an immature, fast grown out of phase for many young inexperienced niave women. Fuck boys are flings. Poor experiences women learn and grow from. These aren't the men grown women marry. These guys are idiots and women learn from these mistakes. Yes we need radical change. Better socialisation of boys, less time sitting in rooms in the dark online with headsets on. Less toxic masculinity. Education that teaches emotional intelligence, that…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 03:39 PM
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This is the point. We aren't lions or animals. Most guys here lack the skills to ever be in the running. It's like applying for a surgeons job when you haven't ever attended even a day of medical school then being outraged you didn't get it. Then say fuck medical school! Its all their fault i didnt get it! I hate medical school! I won't do anything I need to do to get the job I just deserve it because I want it!!! Except in the case of women these necessary skills are respect, empathy, kindness …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 03:08 PM
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No, what's better for women is that they reject misogynistic men, or any men that can't view women as equal, violent men. Reject them all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 02:31 PM
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It isnt. The conviction rate for rape and sexual assault is absolutely diabolical. It doesn't take a genius to know that 1% is nonsense. 97% of 18-24 year old women in my country have been sexually harassed. 1% of men doing all that? Be serious. My 14 year old daughter was chased home by a grown man propositioning her but outran him. Men need to stop acting like fucking predators. The non predatory men need to speak up and stop excusing that behaviour, dismissing it as this extremely rare occura…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 12:39 PM
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The math isn't mathing on sexual violence. 2% is nowhere near the real number. Women can have whatever standards they want, same as men. Bitching about it into an echo chamber won't change it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 11:42 AM
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Yeah I dont care either way. I'm just sick of seeing butt hurt men expecting women to lower their standards so they can have access to sex. Women have standards, men have standards....just stop whining about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 11:16 AM
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That's extremely shallow. Looks don't play a part here. I picked a life long partner. Yes there needs to be attraction initially but if I was valuing looks so highly it's a road to nowhere. Look fade. People age. His character is what is appealing to me. Who he is as a person. We are best friends. We spend hours just talking, stimulating conversations. His mind interests me, my mind interests him. That's the longevity part. Friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 10:30 AM
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Yeah it is. Like 99% of these posts. Men all crying about not having unlimited access to women's vaginas and a myriad of reasons why this is unjust and unfair. Pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 10:02 AM
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I think this 1% is wildly incorrect. It happens way more than people realise. I don't know a single woman that hasn't been coerced into sex, sexually assaulted, or all out raped by a man. That's anecdotal. But then you go online and realise that waaaaay more women have also had the same experience. Some don't even realise they've been raped such as marital rape where the wife REALLY doesn't want to, has already said no, but just does it to stop her husbands behaviour if she doesn't want to, does…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 09:53 AM
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Why do men use it to justify being perverts? Or to justify their poor behaviour like cheating? Or to tell women its their purpose in life? I see men use it way more. But I use it and people see its ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 08:06 AM
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Men rape women anyway....
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 08:03 AM
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The animal kingdom shit is stupid. I see men use it to justify things all the time. Like 50 year old trying to get with teenagers because of "fertility" as an example.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 08:00 AM
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Men seem to be the ones I see banging on about biology and instincts so thought I'd bring that same energy. A man not being with a woman is desperate with nothing to lose? Why can't men have fulfilling lives without a woman? That seems like a fatal flaw. You'd think if it was that bad incels would actually do something to be better people if that was the case. But no instead of focusing on self improvement men would rather sink into chaos? Bizarre.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 07:56 AM
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The patriachy has been mediocre guy DEI for generations. In the animal kingdom only the top 15% of males go on to pass on their genes. Women being more selective is necessary and right. Just putting that out there!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 07:18 AM
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Actually in the animal kingdom only the top males procreate and continue their genes on. Lions, baboons, gorilla's etc. So actually it isn't every man's destiny to procreate if you go by animal standards. Removing women's rights and access to land, homes etc could actually be seen as mediocre guy DEI. So maybe declining birthrates and marriages isn't a bad thing.... Just a provocative thought!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 06:22 PM
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So what do you think would happen if OF got banned? If all sex work was banned? What difference would that make to your life? Do you think your pool of potential women that would be interested in you would grow? You think you'd be more likely to get sex is that it? Only fans creators are 0.04% of the world's population. It really isn't significant AT ALL.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 05:38 PM
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It is to me. Specifically kindness to those who cannot defend themselves like animals. A strong moral compass. My now husband would help people in need. That shit is extremely attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 05:31 PM
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Is the fact that women make sexual content ruining your life?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 05:06 PM
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I don't accept it. Prostitution is the oldest profession in the world. Sex is exchange for money isn't going away. Why does it affect you? In what way does strangers doing OF affect you personally?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 05:01 PM
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Some people take advantage of others. It's really shitty but it happens to almost everyone at some point. That's why boundaries are necessary. That's the only thing to prevent this from happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 04:59 PM
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OF isn't affecting me in the slightest. Women monetised it on their terms and have control over rit when previously the sex industry was rife with exploitation of women. So you're mad you can monetise sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 04:34 PM
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Sure but which demographic? Young girls? Anything else is a phase you grow out of. True character is the only thing that matters for longevity.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 04:23 PM
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Seriously listen to what you're saying... I'm a woman telling you what attracted me to my husband and you are telling me no I don't find these things attractive...do you see how silly that is? "Bad boys" aren't long term relationship or husband material. It's an immature short lived phase young women out grow quickly and learn from. I earned more than my husband when we met, I still earn more than him now. I'm extremely attracted to intelligence which initially attracted me to him. That and his …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 04:20 PM
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So in that why don't you ban all porn? Why just OF? There's male creators too not just women... If men stopped consuming it there wouldn't be a market Seems you hate the fact women can monetise men's obsession with sex to me
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 04:08 PM
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It's not just kind towards me. Kindness shown towards people generally and animals. Kindness is attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 04:02 PM
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They seem to refuse to believe it but I've no idea why they'd think we all lie about what really matters. My husband is my best friend. He's everything. He's caring, compassionate, he listens to me and really hears me. Nobody knows me like him and he loves every part of me good and bad. I feel completely safe with him. He's a true gentleman with a heart of gold.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 03:39 PM
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I'd still pick my husband. He's the kindest soul I've ever met in my life
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 03:27 PM
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I don't need to fix that. I'm in a very healthy loving marriage. I see men in particular struggling in today's society and was looking for answers as to why this could be. I think its multifaceted. Boys don't go out as much, communicating online via a headset. The head teacher at my sons school said its a massive problem with boys, they lack the social skills to even recognise social cues and human body language due to this lack of human exposure. My husband works in neuro, the consultants are s…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 12:01 PM
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He cheated. Not her.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 07:56 PM
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What demographic of women are you speaking for? Is this a US thing? I don't know any women that haven't married within a similar socioeconomic background/education level etc. I'm wracking my brain trying to find one example and I can't. Everyone married is pretty equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 10:38 AM
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Are you saying every violent man is mentally unwell? That is plainly untrue. A mentally unwell person wouldn't control their behaviour in front of everyone else, at work etc, then come home and be abusive. That is the calculated behaviour of a person with full awareness of what they are doing. If you want to find a woman that doesn't want you to pay for anything do that. Women that want you to pay aren't your type so aren't your issue. If in your experience you only see that women want men to pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 08:22 AM
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So love is conditional. My husband would no longer benefit from my love should he become abusive=a condition. He would no longer benefit from my love should he cheat=a condition. Where and who is this majority of women? Do you see ONLY rich handsome tall men in happy relationships? Of course not. Where and who are these women that have been conditioned to behave in selfish and self centred ways? Which ways is that? I for 1 was personally raised by the biggest misogynist I've ever met...my mother…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 08:06 AM
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How old are you? Young women don't know what they want which is what I've observed and also I've been a young woman. They tend to look for things that mature people hold less value to. Real love is NOT unconditional. Of course there are conditions...I would leave my husband if he were to become abusive. That's a condition and having boundaries. There's vapid shallow men and women. They aren't relevant to anything anymore than people that just aren't your type. Add this to the pile of undesirable…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 07:23 AM
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As I said my interest is limited. I have no idea what her views on men are.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 06:54 AM
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You view women as "a hole". Gross. Im done speaking about them. My interest is limited due to them being complete strangers and nothing to do with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 06:51 AM
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Go outside. Look around at couples. Is every man 6ft and handsome that has a girlfriend fiance or wife? No. Be logical.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 06:48 AM
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He was beneath her. Low morals. It's irrelevant what money he has. She didn't need his money. She dropped him like a hot potato the minute he attempted and failed to cheat. Good for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 06:47 AM
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So you are telling me you have nothing to offer a woman? If you don't know what qualities or attributes you have to offer in a relationship then I don't think you are even in the market. Add to that you don't even know what you want. Not all women are the same and want the same things. There has always been rich and poor people, attractive and less attractive people etc etc. I'm a successful person and the main bread winner in my household. I do not require a man to provide for me. I did not loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 06:44 AM
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He was beneath her. He cheated. Very low value behaviour. He knew who she was, he knew what she was all about. He'd seen her content. She held him accountable for his actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 06:34 AM
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Women aren't a hive mind. Women don't all want the exact same things. Historically men have been expected to be providers, is it the expectation of providing you don't like? Because it's 2025. More women than ever don't need to rely on men to financially support them. If you don't like traditional gender roles, congratulations! You're living in the best time line for it. There's lots of women who don't have "provide financially" as a requirement. More young women than men are home owners. Couple…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 06:27 AM
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Taking accountability for what exactly? I see this constantly from men. What is it you want women to be accountable for that we aren't? I am accountable for myself and my actions. All adults are. So what does this mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 07:35 PM
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Reddit in general then.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 05:29 PM
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I don't think you should base what women are like on this sub reddit. It definitely won't be giving anyone a balanced view. If I thought all men were like they behaved online I'd live in a secure bunker underground
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 05:23 PM
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Who are you talking to/for? All women like we are a hive mind? What is this opinion based on? Lived experience in the real world? Can you give examples?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 05:04 PM
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So your end goal is sex? That's it? Hollow meaningless sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 04:56 AM
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I'm not American. The world is not the USA. I know men like this in my life. I was asking for people's opinions on this quote and I'm interested because I see this gaping disparity between men and women, what they want, and what they value and how they see the world. This sub reddit appears to be full of people with low EQ. It's clearly a multifaceted problem of why men are struggling to form meaningful relationships with women. Anecdotally based on the men I know like this, it answers some of m…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 04:54 AM
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None of these scenarios are meaningful relationships except mothering
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 08:01 PM
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I hadn't considered this... What expectations do you think are universal? Because we know different men and women look for and value different things At the same time if this quote was correct and all men were looking for was what is listed here, it could be argued its way easier for women because men are essentially looking for a bang maid
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 04:05 PM
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How old were these women that thought this out of interest? I am wondering if they are just young/naive/immature
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 04:02 PM
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Relating to men is one thing, but at the complete exculsion of women is another. If men have no female influences in their lives except a mother and porn, does that create grown men that see women as nothing more than bang maids?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 03:03 PM
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Yeah it's completely wild to me. I've seen men that look like average family men with a wife and young children being so full of hate I just cannot understand any of it it's baffling to me
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 01:34 PM
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It's not I'm trying to understand this subset of men and where it comes from and this quote answers some questions I have had about men I know personally. I agree my post couldve been better worded or framed differently but it comes from a place of trying to understand what the root cause of things like male loneliness comes from Another commentor sent me links on research done on incels which was really good but limited. I'd like to see large scale research specifically on family dynamics, soci…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 12:54 PM
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So who are the men I see spreading pure hatred towards women online? Especially to feminists? I see it endlessly. I always assumed these men were incels?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 12:28 PM
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They were good links thank you. The first one is somewhat contradictory to the last uk gov one as the first one in the rates of misogyny with incels but it's good reading. I find it a very interesting topic as I see what looks to me as very contradictory actions, beliefs and behaviours with incels in what it is they want to achieve (meaningful relationships with women/a woman) Please share the other links you have I'll read those too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 12:09 PM
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I'm not aware of these but I'd be interested in reading them if you have links?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 07:03 AM
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Why do you view women as competition? Competing for what? What attributes and qualities are you looking for in a partner? What qualities and attributes do you bring? Hypergamy isn't a subject I know much about as I've never in my life known a woman who specifically looks for this. It seems like a very reductive take and generally people marry within the same socioeconomic background as themselves. That's not to say I don't believe there are some women who do this. It happens I'm sure, but not an…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 07:01 AM
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I feel like you've made a lot of assumptions here. Many of the qualities I admire in people around me aren't gendered. I admire men and women equally. Which women do you look up to or admire in your life? Which traits and attributes do you admire about these women?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 06:01 AM
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Well yes and no. It's the only relationship he's ever had. It was a perfect storm of toxicity and highly dysfunctional on both sides, they both failed to heal. No healthy person would've tolerated it or stayed for so long
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 05:45 AM
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Well of course. Men aren't a hive mind I couldn't possibly know. I see symptoms of a problem which is a subset of men who are unable to form meaningful relationships with women. Why is that if you don't agree with this quote? Why are men struggling?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 05:37 AM
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I don't think straight men are secretly gay. I saw this quote and personally know men like this who struggle to connect with women because the only real they've had is their own mother Could this be why (some) men expect women to be like their mothers? A complete lack of understanding of women. It makes sense if you've never even known any.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 05:25 AM
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I realise I should've stated a subset of men which has led to some confusion
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 07:19 PM
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I found it very interesting I'd be very interested in a large scale study of incels. Their relationships with their parents, their parents relationship with them What was their mother and father like Where did the hatred of women stem from It fascinates me. I see examples of men who are desperate for a womans affection but despise women. The two do not mix well
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 07:00 PM
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Which standards are they? There's 4 billion women on earth and we all want different things not one specific thing or man.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 06:57 PM
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Ok then if you have nothing of value to offer the debate don't comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 06:54 PM
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Well that's where you are wrong. My husband is perfect (for me). I couldn't have made a more perfect man/life partner...so it can and does happen
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 06:51 PM
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I believe he believes he loves her. But it's extremely hollow. He sees no value in women outside of intimate relationships, the fact that he would protect her isn't really enough to sustain a long term relationship. They recently separated after years together. My sister is very smart and it wasn't until years into the relationship that he even realised this. It was like a light bulb moment. His friends are also like this. Women are for at home, men are for the rest of life sort of thing it's ve…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 06:49 PM
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I hadn't thought of this but that would make sense about the leading thing. Praying on these men for monetary gain
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 06:45 PM
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Yes I have a full life. I'm married with a young family. I personally know men like this. But online I see it way more frequently. A subset of men completely unable to connect with women. I asked this question to get others viewpoints on it as I found it to be a very interesting take and perhaps answered some of the problems I see. Why would you assume I don't have friends or dont live in the real world?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 06:44 PM
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Yes I agree it should
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 06:40 PM
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I definitely care for people who aren't involved in my life. Why wouldn't I care?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 06:39 PM
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I'm not questioning anybody sexuality. I'm asking is this why so many men can't connect with women
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 06:35 PM
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I consider myself pretty normal!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 06:33 PM
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But don't you think there's a recurring theme of a lack of ability to connect with women? Instead choosing to take advice from other men who equally know nothing about women? I get men want to be loved by women, but the manosphere is so full of hatred and loathing of women, why would any woman want to love a man that's full of hate?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 06:28 PM
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I'm straight and I absolutely know men like this. One of them won't listen to advice women give at all. He does bot respect women. But then a man down the pub could say the exact same thing to him and he'd tell me this like it was a great idea and the right answer example. The example is my brother in law. I feel he doesn't even know my sister. Like he doesn't even know who she is as a person. He views her as a mother figure. He can't name a single woman he admires. There's also the male gaze. V…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 06:22 PM
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I'm not speaking about all men. But I personally know a couple of these men in real life
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 06:16 PM
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My husband does
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 03:44 PM
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The only inconsistent part is mens ability to achieve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 11:18 AM
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There isn't a biological function. If female climax were required for reproduction there would be a hell of a lot less babies born. I haven't at any point said there aren't fundamental differences between male and female orgasm. Why would we use different words? Its an orgasm. What difference would changing the language used make to the OP's argument? What difference would it make to anything? It's still an orgasm. Thinking it isn't real is utter nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 10:51 AM
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They said it doesn't exist. It definitely does. If he wanted to enquire about what it feels like for a woman that's different to loudly proclaiming it isn't real
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 09:02 AM
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Made it up? If you'd made a woman orgasm in your life you'd know it wasn't fake....
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 07:19 AM
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Opening admitting you've never brought a woman to orgasm so believe it's fake is extremely embarrassing. Come on now. Why would anyone do this to themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 07:09 AM
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I'd delete this. It's very embarrassing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 04:37 AM
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I see a very common, almost universal theme in these sub reddits. Women make intelligent, well rounded arguments and the men reply with tired stereotypes, don't listen to what the women are saying, and continue to have these rigid not based in reality views about women. You seem incapable of listening. I've noticed a massive gap in women's EQ, and men's EQ. This is where I believe the problem lies. Men really need to work on their low EQ. Decenter yourselves. Learn how to have empathy. There's f…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 08:47 AM
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This isn't just a new thing though. Women have always received advances from multiple men. The Internet has clearly made this more apparent but as a woman this has always been the case that men do this.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 02:30 AM
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Seriously dude what is wrong with you? Every reply is an attempt to bait me into agreeing with you wallowing and self pity. You arent listening to a word I say. Stop the victim mentality. If you need help go seek help. Reddit isn't the place. You're argument is just wrong. No woman feels less than a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 01:11 PM
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Theres plenty of problems I see men facing. What I also see is men looking for answers and blame in the wrong places and perpetuating systems that harm men. A lot of the problems I see men facing aren't even specific to men...such as pressure to act, look or dress a certain way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 11:33 AM
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You have framed your debate on women inherently feeling less than. I don't feel less than men in any way, shape, or form and NEVER have. Its misogynistic men that perpetuate this nonsense. Your last reply has disregarded me saying I DO NOT FEEL LESS THAN. You've chosen to disregard what I've said and reverted to "Not that you want this to be the case, you just think it is. Like every woman who ever existed and ever will, in my opinion. " Please listen to women when they tell you their truth. No …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 10:52 AM
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Everybody is allowed to complain about stuff. Everybody is entitled to an opinion. As long as there's an awareness of the whys and the ability to empathise with the plights of other groups out with your own. White supremacy is real. Patriachy is real. Oppression of other minority groups and women throughout history is real. I see a lot of misplaced anger towards women in a world where men are taught they are "entitled" due to being able bodied white men yet feel powerless in this system. Women a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 10:01 AM
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I do not feel lesser than any man. I know I'm not lesser. Therefore, I do not tolerate being treated as lesser. Simple as that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 09:28 AM
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Humans generally respect respectful people. Since when where men victims? Specifically able bodied white men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 07:11 AM
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Men complaining about everything. You cannot win so bow out of the game. Just live your life, have fun. Don't worry about men complaining it's all white noise.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 04:58 AM
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You think an ai girlfriend is dignified?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 07:19 PM
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You think the problem is women aren't taught to be nice enough to men?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 05:01 AM
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It doesnt matter nearly as much as men think it does. That's it. The end. Character will always be infinitely more important than looks, height, penis size, or any of the other garbage men research to within an inch of their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:48 PM
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The thing is....it doesn't matter to a lot of women. It doesn't matter if the man is able to pleasure us in other varying ways. A selfish lover is shit no matter what. But a selfish lover with a tiny penis who just puts that in and that's it? It's going to be worse than a selfish lover with an average or above sized penis using that and nothing else...because of course it would be???
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 12:21 PM
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I'm going to assume he hasn't since he hasn't mentioned doing anything other than I'm ugly and alone for 45 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 10:53 AM
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Are you saying people with self esteem issues can't make themselves feel better? He's wallowing in self pity. Blaming everything that's wrong on external non changeable factors rather than actually do a single damned thing to improve.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 08:00 AM
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Is every man you see in a relationship attractive? Of course not. Stop looking for external blame for things and ve accountable for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:58 AM
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Men can continue with infrastructure. We are talking about intimate relationships here. Women don't need men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:57 AM
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I'm saying if you have a really small penis and don't do other things to get a girl off instead it's THE WORST
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:38 AM
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My point is stop expecting women to validate your existence. Why can't you be happy and content without womens validation
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 03:19 PM
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Every response is you telling me it's womens fault. It isn't. Women don't owe you anything. Men don't owe me anything. If every woman you encounter says the same thing, as hard as it is to accept, you have to accept it. It's you. You arent a victim because you've been rejected. Everyone gets rejected. It hurts, but it doesn't become your entire personality unless you let it. Take responsibility. Be the best person you possibly can, but do it for yourself, because who wouldn't want that?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 11:05 AM
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Nobody is forcing you to wallow in self pity. I've been called plenty of things over the years. I don't give a fuck about it, because never once has it come from a person I care about or love
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 10:51 AM
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Exactly. My husband was pretty promiscuous in his 20s and I've asked him this specific question and he's been very open. Vagina length, width and texture vary from woman to woman just like mens penis size. Men obsessing about their penis isn't worth it. I just wish men would listen. There isn't a 1 size fits all. My husbands penis (to me) is really big, yet he says no other women have had the issues we have had. I'm a petite 5' and a big penis isn't a win. At times it can be painful and he has t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 10:49 AM
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You work on your own self-esteem. You can't control the behaviour of others only how you react to it, process it and persevere. Yes women are at an advantage, we have to be becuse we know theres lots of men who will just lie to get what they want then discard after. Again nothing you can do about that. It's the way we have to be because of the way men are.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 10:39 AM
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You have self esteem issues. Not every man looks like henry cavill. Does that mean that all the men that don't are single? No it doesn't. There's unrealistic standards placed on women too "virgin/young/pretty/skinny etc" it isn't one sided. You can throw a pity party, or you can make the best of what you've got like everybody else.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 09:22 AM
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People have rightfully pointed out that it isn't driving that's the issue here. Men and women are different. We have different lived experiences. The pressures from societal expectations aren't just lived by men. You've turned something that you experienced around to somehow make it about women. The answer for both sexes is the same. The patriachy. That's where the pressure comes from for both. Rigid gender norms. Felt on both sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:59 AM
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Has anyone declared you less of a "man" for having anxiety, depression and OCD? You know these things aren't gendered right
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:48 AM
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Your argument isn't valid. Women also suffer from mental health issues. I'm sure these women have relational issues due to this too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:39 AM
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You arent romantic stop kidding yourself. You've just compared prostitution with having a girlfriend and lamented on it being cheaper with less nagging.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 08:31 AM
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Do that then? You arent forced into having a girlfriend. Do whatever suits you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 06:31 AM
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There's no alimony in my country Women still initiate the vast majority of divorces Women are still the vast majority of primary care givers You arent entitled to sex and affection from any other human being, man or woman
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 06:31 AM
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I don't think there's nearly as much man hatred as people think. I've been called a misandrist countless times. Usually for holding men accountable and calling out misogyny. I don't hate men but I do hate misogyny. Never in history has a woman in the name of misandry gone on a killing spree, raped, mutilated or otherwise. Misogyny on the other hand...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 05:29 PM
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Misandry and misogyny are inherently different Misogynistic men want women to be subservient Women that hate men just want men to leave them alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 03:39 PM
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I do no favours for any human with a bad personality. Male female or otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 11:36 AM
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But every woman finds different things attractive and values different attributes differently. We aren't a hive mind ffs
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 11:35 AM
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Accountability for what? I see men say this all the time. I'm a grown adult. I am responsible for my own actions, for being a competently functioning member of society. What don't yoy think women are accountable for? Opinions differing from your own are not insane. They are opinions and everybody has them. If they can be backed up by science, research, sound logic or formed from personal experiences they are just as valid as yours Entitlement to what? Assuming you meant coddled here...coddled by…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 05:21 AM
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What do you need to criticise women for? Not caring enough about you?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:40 PM
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Despite the US only making up 4.21% of the world's male population... 50% of the global manosphere online traffic comes directly from the US. The US is a cesspit of misogyny with a sexual predator for a leader. I'm convinced there's something inherently wrong with American men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:27 PM
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Why would you expect women to care about this anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 07:10 PM
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Sorry likes I meant not matches
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 03:12 PM
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My matches on tinder just constantly said 999+ This is the fault of men. There's too many of you mindlessly swiping left swiping on every single profile. Online dating is a cesspit of superficial crap. It isn't real life. If you can't cope with it, don't use it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 02:10 PM
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Have you asked women who they'd have sex with purely because they are attractive? I wouldn't have sex with any man that was an ass just because he's attractive. My friends wouldn't either.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:43 PM
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This is an extremely toxic environment that's for sure. It poses lots of questions, lots of which are off the wall, like the comparison of men getting down on one knee to propose means men have no power. But it seems to be a cesspit of delusion and self pity. On the note of bald men, nearly all the people I know are married to bald men. I don't personally know of a single woman that finds bald men unattractive. I see it used as a tool to berate men but there's a gell of a lot of sexy bald men ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:39 PM
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Attractive men and women have always had more options. The Internet hasn't changed that. What is has changed is people's pre occupation with obsessing over it. There's lovely people out there living their lives looking to meet like minded people. The Internet is a cesspit of negativity and hate
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:14 PM
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My husband. He is strong and masculine. Physically very strong and very protective. Protective of me, protective of his children, protective of those more vulnerable than himself. An animal lover. He is soft and gentle with me. He is kind and considerate. If we disagree he fully empathises with my view point. He apologises when he's wrong, but he can rationally and calmly explain his point of view if he's right and I'm wrong. He cares, deeply. No action he takes is performative. He cares for me …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 11:17 AM
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Looks fade. If you want a life long partner the value of looks is irrelevant and immature. I don't disagree with attractiveness playing a part because it does. Morals, ethics, emotional maturity, empathy and being kind are far more important. You can be as attractive as you like, without these traits I couldn't give a damn
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:50 AM
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Just stop with over analysing everything. It serves no purpose. None.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:47 AM
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Why is there such a pre occupation of worrying about other people? What they like etc. Who cares. It's not relevant who finds what attractive. You are you. If nobody likes you, the common denominator in that is you. Not what statistics and percentages are. Those aren't changeable so aren't relevant. Focus on self improvement, soul searching. Be kind, be empathetic. Have humanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:41 AM
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There's a common theme in these sub reddits of a pre occupation of worrying about what everyone else is doing and thinking. Who everyone is interested in. Constant Analysing of online data. Just stop. Is it helping any of you? Is it achieving the goal you want to achieve?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:23 AM
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Experience at life tells me that men who refer to themselves as nice guys are invariably not.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:00 AM
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I think my view is fairly pragmatic. If I was going to be rating myself and people from 1-10 the only person that holds any meaning to is me. I could say I'm a 10/10. It doesn't make it true to anybody but me. Who and where are these women that lower their standards for long term relationships? That sounds insane and a recipe for disaster
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 05:56 PM
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So it's a worthless system that's meaningless then. Everybody rating themselves and others by their own standards and definitions which are all completely different to each other
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 05:29 PM
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Even if that were true what about it? Who cares?! Do only the men that have all this live happy lives? Have happy relationships and fulfilling lives? Everybody here's seems to just wallow in self pity.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 05:27 PM
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It doesnt matter. I find this 1-10 crap awful whether it's women or men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 05:23 PM
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It's nonsense though. I don't get it. Not every single woman on earth values exactly the same physical attributes, personality traits and looks. For example a bald man....loads of people I see mocking bald men, but I'm a woman and have never once thought a man is less attractive because he is bald. It's just not unattractive. But would he be downgraded due to this physical feature? I'm sure he would
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 03:49 PM
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Anyone that rates women's value on a number from 1 to 10 is inherently awful
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 01:42 PM
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This is nonsense. Your view is saying that only attractive men are non committal. Not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 12:57 PM
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Men get to choose their partners too so I still don't understand where you are coming from.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 11:31 AM
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Are you a Knight in medieval England? No. Name something that women have power over that men don't?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 10:21 AM
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Ok then dominance due to the fact men traditionally get down on one knee to propose.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 05:52 AM
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Have you ever tried therapy?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 09:04 PM
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Hello! I'm a married woman. We have a wonderful relationship, both very happy. The foundation is that we are best friends who live together, go do fun stuff together, have meaningful connected conversations, and fancy the pants off each other. This sub is really toxic and the things I've seen are not based in the real world. I see men who are horribly unsocialised. This is festering into unhealthy coping mechanisms, fixations on statistics, the use of made up names and categorisations for people…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 09:02 PM
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You are saying men are actually the oppressed because they get down on 1 knee to propose? You can't seriously believe this.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 08:48 PM
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This is the biggest load of horse manure I've ever seen in my life😂
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 08:11 PM
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They already think they are oppressed
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 05:21 PM
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Women kept being told to choose better. Now women are doing exactly that and choosing themselves and men are real mad about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 12:09 PM
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No man has died due to feminism. If you think that you don't understand feminism
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 11:44 AM
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Let me tell you from my perspective. I have been in a relationship with someone less attractive and not conventionally my type. He treated me like a princess. So I thought ok he's a lovely guy give him a chance so I did. Over time he became a real nasty piece of work. Controlling, belittling, accused me of cheating, tried to get my friends and family to mock me etc. By the end I'd lost my sense of self worth and identity. But I left and gained this back. After speaking to other women who have gi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 11:40 AM
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I think lots of men expect women to be submissive providers and that doesn't exist. I'm convinced this men being providers is an American thing because it's not a thing here in the UK. Nobody expects their man to pay their way. All women work and go 50/50 on household bills. I don't know even 1 woman that doesn't work
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 11:24 AM
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Who has said men suck?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 06:36 AM
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Women choosing to do life alone is passive. Just living their lives. It's not aggressive I see it as an inevitable outcome. From a womans perspective it's very easy to understand. We know it's not all men. That doesn't change the fact that it's all women. Every single woman has at least 1 instance of abuse from a man. I don't know a single woman that hasn't been abused. That's anecdotal, but when women connect globally and all realise these aren't isolated incidents...every single one of us has …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 05:52 AM
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I am not deeming what he has said true no. Because it isn't. The incel community isn't full of people who respect women. It's a very toxic environment and it has plenty of men who want to harm women. Plenty of men who resent women, and plenty of men who are full of hate. Just this week in the uk a man was in court for attempted murder after being rejected. This comes from a headspace of entitlement.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 05:05 AM
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But don't you see that these stereotypes he's named are the exact problem. Nobody is kicking you when you are down. How old is the average person here? I worry you're all really young and don't have life experience and sit online all day worrying about things and researching things to death rather than just going out and living your lives. Do some soul searching and internal work. The biggest issue I see cited again and again from women is that men lack empathy for anybody but themselves and I s…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 01:14 AM
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You can't objectify a resource such as money. It's already an object. I'm not denying some women will look for a man with money as she's looking for a "provider" but there's plenty of women that don't. I make my own money, own my own house etc. But would I date an unemployed guy with no motivation to better himself? No. In my experience the only men worried about a woman being a gold digger are men with no gold. It's like any preference. If you don't want to provide you arent going to want a wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 01:01 AM
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That's not true. You can't "objectify resources" this bell curve is made up. Women make their own money. Women are now rejecting misogyny. So if you want to be with a woman don't be misogynistic
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 08:55 PM
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The "men try to self improve" part is nonsense. You've just listed a bunch of superficial crap. The biggest issues I see repeatedly is that men lack any and all empathy. You view the world through your own selfish lens and nobody else's. Men lack humanity. Work on yourself internally. Soul search. Be a kind person, and not just on a performative basis, be emotionally mature. Speak to Women. Stop looking for external blame for internal inadequacies. Stop being selfish. Stop feeling entitled to Wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 07:54 PM
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Women get shamed for having multiple sexual partners Women get shamed for being too fat Women get shamed for wearing too much make up Women get shamed for looking for a man to provide Women get shamed for being independent Women get shamed for not conforming to beauty standards Women get shamed for not wanting children Women get shamed for not wanting to get married Women get shamed for getting raped or abused by men My point is everybody is shamed. It isnt specific to men or women. Do you know …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 07:44 PM
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This is nonsense and not true. Go outside. Get offline. You are saying that the first type of men are rapists and the second type aren't. This isn't true. How many women have yoy spoken to? Abusers come in all shapes and sizes. This view is toxic af
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 07:29 PM
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Going bald is not within your control. Lots of women love bald guys. Stop obsessing about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 05:50 PM
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Men didn't "give" women rights. Rights for women had to be put in place because men didn't view women as equals. This isn't the same. Men don't love women unconditionally. Nobody should anybody unconditionally. It's unhealthy and shows a lack of boundaries. Would you be with someone that actively disrespected you? Abused you? I would hope not.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 05:49 PM
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