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The way a woman’s body appeals to a man? A man’s body.
/r/seduction26/07/26 10:32 PM
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I think women are, on average, more drawn to submissive dynamics in bed. Sure, that’s anecdotal from both our sides, but dark romance being so heavily centered around surrender and dominant male desire seems like pretty strong cultural evidence. I don’t buy that patriarchy alone explains it. Same with how many women are into being choked. How do you personally tell the difference between societal training and biologically primed desire?
/r/seduction21/06/26 05:56 PM
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'Tends to' is the right translation. My dictionary actually got it wrong the second time, I double-checked it now. Thanks for pointing it out though.I was trying to be nuanced with my wording.
/r/seduction21/06/26 05:39 PM
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I meant to say tendentially. English is not my first language.
/r/seduction21/06/26 05:18 PM
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Did I say tendentiously or not?
/r/seduction21/06/26 05:13 PM
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Fully agree with the issue you raise, but I’d like to challenge two points a bit. Women don't know what they want / can't explain what they want From a male perspective, that can seem very true, because women collapse sexual arousal and partner approval into the word attraction way more than men tend to. A woman can be sexually attracted to a man and still honestly say she is not attracted to him, because she is using attraction to mean more than arousal alone. That is a pattern I have generally…
/r/seduction15/06/26 12:44 PM
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Fair play for being self-aware about it. I’d just relax a bit. Women usually aren’t into performance, if anything, they’re into you despite it. What tends to land is self-assuredness and competence. You don’t need to prove dominance. If the vibe is there, tension builds naturally.
/r/seduction07/06/26 01:43 AM
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Not gonna lie I was smooth af. Went up and said “hey I just thought you were really cute so I wanted to say hi.” Lmao. I think you’d do better if you came across a little more humble and relaxed. The way you talk about your looks/status, compare yourself to your friend and frame it as "I have issues but I lift" gives off insecurity. And the "wear something I’ll like" line was definitely the issue. It comes across like you’re trying to force a dominant frame before there’s any rapport. Women dont…
/r/seduction07/06/26 12:55 AM
1

Damn, bro’s listing narcotics like a teenager trying to impress the school nurse.
/r/seduction07/06/26 12:12 AM
1

Just say "Yeah, totally" then proceed as normal.
/r/seduction04/06/26 03:35 AM
1

How much exposure do you have?
/r/seduction07/12/25 09:14 PM
6

You girls struggle with rejection, whether it’s casual or serious.
/r/seduction16/11/25 09:51 PM
1

Thanks but no work involved. It's obvious.
/r/seduction16/11/25 09:50 PM
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He's stringing you along. If he wanted to be with you he'd a 100% make time. Best way to get him interested or at least don't care about him is... date other guys.
/r/seduction16/11/25 09:47 PM
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Not very nice to be that sexist.
/r/seduction10/11/25 09:19 PM
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You say you already know you're 'unlovable and worthless' because some women told you they didn't feel a spark. You dismiss all advice with negativity and act as if you know better, when in reality you’re just seeking pity. So my question is, why do you still date? You've already made these women the ultimate judges of your self-worth. You're giving people you’ve only met once or twice the power to define who you are. Think about that, does that sound rational or delusional to you?
/r/seduction02/10/25 07:58 PM
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First off, I’m not the one sad-posting about some girl I’ve never even met. Second, experience. ;) One girl I hooked up with told me, after a pretty daring first kiss, that it was my boldness and initiative that drew her in the most. Remember many girls are even more scared of rejection than you, so it makes you look even more confident when you're the one who's not scared to possibly make a fool out of yourself.
/r/seduction02/10/25 06:44 PM
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I didn't talk about "approaching women and running game" lmao. You have it completely backwards and obviously don't have the slightest clue what makes a woman attracted to you in the first place. Initiative plays a big role.
/r/seduction02/10/25 06:14 PM
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Yeah you should be tongue in cheek more and not be so stern. And not being able to take the initiative is off putting, as it makes you look like you don't act on your desire because you're scared of looking like a fool.
/r/seduction02/10/25 06:03 PM
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Ah, I see what you mean. I only paid attention to the second half and skipped that part. Yeah, that’s pretty ridiculous, and the bit about ‘she’s sleeping next to me right now’ was just odd.
/r/seduction28/09/25 08:06 PM
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Wat makes this unbelievable in your opinion?
/r/seduction28/09/25 03:57 PM
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Yeah obviously that's trivial human psychology. Most girls will absolutely laugh at you though when you tell them you'll need to 'fit them in your schedule'. Just be busy, she'll know.
/r/seduction14/09/25 04:31 PM
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need to squeeze her into your schedule Lmao, this does sound ridiculous. Definitely never say that.
/r/seduction14/09/25 04:18 PM
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Girls will flake but good on you for respecting yourself.
/r/seduction27/08/25 09:07 AM
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The fact that it's "working" on her says more about her need for validation than his appeal. Don't confuse preying on the vulnerable with being desirable. You're better off building yourself into someone a healthy partner would choose.
/r/seduction20/08/25 02:02 PM
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That last sentence says a lot. You’re not supposed to wish you could treat women like trash just to get them. That’s not game that’s manipulation. If girls would rather be friends, maybe take the hint and work on your confidence instead of admiring someone for lying and cheating.
/r/seduction20/08/25 12:41 PM
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Meditation technique that helps you stay grounded.
/r/seduction07/08/25 10:40 PM
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Follow my advice. I've struggled with anxiety years of my life, panic attacks, the full package, so I know what I'm talking about. For breathing exercises I recommend Khapalabhati, aka the ice man breath. Meditation you could do a body scan. Cold showers are self-explanatory, it helps breath through difficult situations.
/r/seduction07/08/25 09:50 AM
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Do you struggle with anxiety? Is that what makes you come across as odd? Just a hunch, but fear is the biggest turnoff. Tackle that first, and your odds turn golden. Start simple, breathing exercises and cold showers sharpen your breath, steady breath calms anxiety. Meditation trains you to stay present and watch anxiety without reacting. If that’s not enough, you’ll need therapy.
/r/seduction06/08/25 09:30 PM
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Go for it man. You're worth it! If you still have issues then, write me a pm and we figure out the issue together 👍
/r/seduction06/08/25 10:27 AM
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Dance lessons are usually in the evening so it might fit in your schedule. If it's truly on your mind all day, and you're committed to wanting to find joy in dating and rediscover your confidence, you will have to commit time regardless. First and foremost, dating is a skill and skills take time.
/r/seduction06/08/25 01:37 AM
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BS, I was unhappy with my life and still got girls, solely by being confident in my dating skills. And it's definitely not his failure for getting bullied in HS. It's not his failure to still be traumatized. OP you may need professional help from a male therapist. But it's definitely worth a shot to try your own exposure therapy. Be aware though that confidence is the key you'll need so take baby steps and celebrate all wins (talking to a girl, being playful, asking her out, holding hands for th…
/r/seduction06/08/25 01:32 AM
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Building yourself up is solid advice, but "women will come when you're happy" is just cope. Confidence and purpose increase your chances, sure, but social exposure and deliberate action matter more. Attraction isn’t some passive reward for inner peace.
/r/seduction06/08/25 12:43 AM
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Confidence gets you noticed and exposure gets you opportunities. Find an activity where you naturally build both, e.g. dancing, which is almost a cheat code for dating. You build confidence by learning a skill in front of people, you get more comfortable moving your body, touching girls becomes normal because it’s just part of the dance. You’ll meet tons of women without any pressure. On top of that you naturally learn how to flirt without even talking. It’s exposure, confidence, and game all in…
/r/seduction06/08/25 12:38 AM
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I need to do .to get a good bonding with her in future Text her “I had fun, wanna come over and meet my mom?”
/r/seduction20/07/25 07:43 PM
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Women can smell desperation like blood in the water. They want what others want, so you have to be someone others want. But that only works when you’re not trying. It’s a paradox. The only way out is to let go.
/r/seduction10/07/25 10:25 PM
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Oh wow, what a BRILLIANT strategy. Ghost them just enough to trigger abandonment issues and call it seduction. Any woman with a shred of self-respect will drop you faster than a hot potato…
/r/seduction09/07/25 02:00 PM
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Yep, I can second this, it pretty much boils down to buying temperature and SMV. Be the best guy at the right place at the right time.
/r/seduction08/07/25 09:34 PM
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This is some fine satire...
/r/seduction07/07/25 09:23 AM
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Tell her you've known people for half your life whom you still wouldn't call friends, so what makes her think she's so special? Then split the bill.
/r/seduction07/07/25 12:57 AM
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It seems like you put in significantly more effort and money than she did, and you had high expectations that unfortunately weren’t met. Going forward, it might be wise to manage expectations and let the other person invest and show effort too. If you keep giving too much too soon, it could lead to disappointment or rejection.
/r/seduction16/06/25 06:20 PM
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It's not about not sounding like a needy chump, it's about not being a needy chump.
/r/seduction14/06/25 04:43 PM
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Until you get that anxiety out of your head, you won't be able to solve this problem. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy. Unfortunately there's no one fits all solution, but I can highly recommend meditation, which gives you better control over your focus and thoughts. Breathing exercises help too. Last resort would be a small dose of anti-anxiety medication (not SSRI though) prescribed by your doctor, to get the normal routine down. But I recommend you try other things first.
/r/seduction11/06/25 09:44 AM
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I think you are scared of not being able to perform. Let me tell you that sex is not about performing and not always about having everyone perfectly satisfied. It's about having a good time. So maybe try and shift your focus a little from her to yourself.
/r/seduction11/06/25 09:34 AM
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Even the smoothest cat misses the mark sometimes.
/r/seduction11/06/25 12:39 AM
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I agree with most of your points. But I can't agree with number 5. Consent is crucial of course, but in dating it’s usually discrete and unspoken. When I missed those subtle cues in the past, sometimes they acted sulky or distant, like I wasn’t interested. So it can be a tricky balance between reading signals and respecting consent, which guys have to learn when they first start dating, it takes practice and attention.
/r/seduction11/06/25 12:37 AM
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Yes, that and it easily comes across as needy. I think a lot of men use talking about sex as a way to "secure it for later". I was certainly guilty of this on one of my first dates, shame on me.
/r/seduction11/06/25 12:30 AM
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In my experience, talking about sex before having it has rarely lead to a good outcome. It's more likely to kill the vibe or create weird expectations.
/r/seduction11/06/25 12:21 AM
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From a perspective of seduction? Yea, you didn't deliver and you both know it. From a real-world perspective? No, it was not a mistake. The drama and possible regret is not worth it. The self-respecting play, that probs does not hurt the friendship: When walking her home, say: "I like the tension between us, I really do. But just so you know, my policy is I don't share. So, when that's not an issue, let me know. ;)"
/r/seduction09/06/25 01:07 AM
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I'm sure there's a sliver of truth beneath the polished surface of your stories. But honestly, the bravado comes off as a bit compensatory. Women tend to pick up on that kind of thing, it's instinct. You post about your ventures in a fashion forum like it's your stage, always suited up like the world’s watching, and there’s a certain flair to how you talk about your success… even if it feels a touch embellished. Still, I’ll admit, you caught my attention. Not because you charmed me, but because …
/r/seduction06/06/25 01:06 AM
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So how’s the weather on your yacht in the Gulf of America today, captain?
/r/seduction06/06/25 12:06 AM
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Stressing about a kiss is insecure behaviour and a kiss isn't a good indicator the date went well you make it out to be
/r/seduction06/05/25 09:26 AM
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You're not expected to have high confidence. You just need to have some confidence, which can come from things other than relationships. As long as you don't pity yourself or act self-destructively. It sounds like you need to work on multiple things to build positive momentum. The first is your bitterness and fixation on your virginity. It doesn’t define you, it’s not a disease, and the more you obsess over it, the more negative pressure you put on yourself and others. You’re 25. You have plenty…
/r/seduction27/03/25 02:43 AM
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Do you have low confidence? Because that's the one quality that is attractive to most women and a dealbreaker when it's not there. Also it seems that you - rather than having a connection and sharing intimacy - just want to "get it over with" with a beautiful girl to feel better about yourself, which is repelling.
/r/seduction27/03/25 12:24 AM
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Trying to figure it out is not worth the time. It could be a for multitude of reasons. Just next.
/r/seduction12/03/25 11:22 PM
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Would you take a man/woman seriously if you found out they had been with 100+ before you? Depends on the person, not the body count. Feels like everyone today is a hoe... Gen Z is having less sex than the previous generations.
/r/seduction20/11/24 04:22 PM
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Maybe you should look inside yourself and ask why looks intimidate you. Is it that you're scared that you're not worthy of being with a beautiful girl? Or perhaps it's not about her beauty at all but about your own insecurities, fearing rejection, vulnerability, or the idea that someone so outwardly perfect might see your flaws too clearly. True confidence doesn’t come from matching someone's looks, but from knowing your worth goes far deeper than appearance.
/r/seduction15/11/24 05:26 PM
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You could prime it like this: As cute as that [insert something you find cute about her] of yours is, I'm afraid before I take you out [date location you think she would enjoy; optional], I first have to know [Insert tongue-in-cheek question that references her pictures]. It's a nice wrap. You are personal, prime a date, pose a challenge.
/r/seduction14/11/24 11:46 PM
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Not saying the centered vs. nice is not fluff talk, but I wanna make a counterpoint to your argument. When you have lots of sex just to feel good about yourself at some point you're going to be sick and tired of it because it's unfulfilling. Lots of people are bad at sex and it's generally unsatisfying to put lots of work in for a mediocre outcome and some fleeting self-confidence. At this point you might want to have sex, not to feel better but because you value the person and the interaction y…
/r/seduction14/11/24 07:39 PM
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Individualism and women's empowerment have indeed shifted the qualities women seek in a man. Today, men often fail when they try to reduce relationships to a transactional exchange based on their traits or achievements (see commentators below). While the economy may operate this way, dating doesn’t. Women nowadays look for emotional connection, respect compatibility compared to a few decades ago. In addition, women are seeking less casual sex. Recent research suggests this is due to feelings of …
/r/seduction13/10/24 11:10 PM
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Men and women, historically and culturally, are valued for different things in dating and relationships, often unfairly so. Attractiveness, personality, and chemistry play significant roles that transcend simple "checklists" of assets and skills. You are transactionalising relationships, which turns most modern women off. Yes, physical attraction and financial stability matter to some, but other factors such as emotional support, communication, humor, and trustworthiness are just as important. I…
/r/seduction13/10/24 10:45 PM
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I’ve never been able to meet up with girls after approaching them Yes, you don't attract enough. But it isn't necessarily your fishing rod. Could be the way you're holding it or your bait is rubbish (figuratively).
/r/seduction11/09/24 04:50 PM
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I used to suffer from generalized anxiety and breathing exercises along with meditation helped me a lot to cure it. Kapalabhati and breathing through cold showers helps you breathe through tough situations. Yoga helps keeping your composure. Meditation helps you focus on what you chose to put your focus on. Godspeed to you.
/r/seduction05/09/24 03:14 AM
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when I moved to Colombia This guy was a virgin until 2 years ago, moved to a third world country and now thinks he's Giacomo Casanova.
/r/seduction30/08/24 02:24 PM
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She said suddenly that if its like a Brother- sister relationship then she is okay. Do I really have to explain what she meant by that?
/r/seduction26/07/24 02:25 PM
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She is probably just using you for attention.
/r/seduction25/07/24 02:33 PM
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Your username tells me all there is to know why women avoid you like the plague.
/r/seduction30/06/24 02:21 AM
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I'm confused. Do you not want women to have a good time with you too? It should be your main focus and most need at least some courtship. Being open about your needs is just one trait that is attractive but doesn't excuse a lack of social calibration.
/r/seduction23/06/24 01:24 AM
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Courtship is not needy behavior while telling the next best woman you want to fuck her is needy in it's purest form. That you need sex - of - her rather than with her just because of her appearance and validation you receive. It shows you have low standards and not enough experience to know what matters for a good relationship/sex.
/r/seduction19/06/24 10:56 AM
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As can be seen from your approaches, a close is not worth anything. Take her on an instadate. It really doesn't matter if and what you talk about, as long as it suits the vibe.
/r/seduction22/05/24 08:51 PM
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Things I could observe in your interactions: (Interaction 1) She obviously likes you so you shouldn't have dodged so quickly. You bailed out just when things started to become heated. When you notice things are getting tense you gotta stick in there. You gotta glow in the heat! You ask too many questions because you're afraid of silence and awkward moments. Talk about her cloths, her sports, whatever. Throw in some bold observations. Else all she's gonna remember is this cute guy who's asked her…
/r/seduction22/05/24 11:24 AM
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What difference does it make? Don't you have a high body count too? I have yet to hear a convincing argument on how it would matter how many different partners she had? Anyone who says otherwise is - imo - insecure about their sexuality or has archaic beliefs about women.
/r/seduction07/05/24 01:53 PM
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Even worse that you're doubling down before trying to do ANY sort of introspection first.
/r/seduction23/04/24 12:07 AM
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Just being friends will never teach you how to be seductive.
/r/seduction23/04/24 12:06 AM
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I don't think you realize how ridiculous this reads as a sound minded person.
/r/seduction14/04/24 06:30 PM
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The problem isn't that you come across as gay, the problem is that you come across as too feminine. Dress masculine, signal interest in women, lead the way, get some masculine perfume, work out etc.
/r/seduction14/04/24 06:25 PM
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Easy: Have standards.
/r/seduction05/03/24 01:03 AM
1

Think of it as a bird displaying it's colors to attract a female. Of course you are in a disadvantaged position since you are approaching her, but think of how great your colors are. If you have things to bring to the table, think of it as an offer that benefits you both.
/r/seduction20/02/24 12:29 AM
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You wouldn't believe what some women are willing to do after 15min of having known them. They're horny people just like us. Be normal about it, don't be afraid to show your self and put yourself out there.
/r/seduction18/02/24 03:20 PM
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WIll you post what has happened?
/r/seduction18/02/24 02:58 PM
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Looks matter so little in dating. I'm saying this as someone who's conventionally good looking but insecure in the past. What I've come to realize is that the things that are most attractive to people are confidence, appearance and body language. Looks are just a fraction of appearance.. And when we find someone attractive we then project our attractivity rating of them onto their looks. That's how we end up with a skewed perspective.
/r/seduction08/02/24 05:54 PM
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Not true. I've had vastly different results dependent on if and what bio I used. And 1 out of 2 times they wrote first they refered to my bio.
/r/seduction08/02/24 05:03 PM
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I'm not judging, I'm dismantling the statements which OP bases his arguments on. We all know there's no significant gap between women's math test results and men's. Saying there's a fundamental difference in rationality and logic between men and women is a bunch of baloney.
/r/seduction08/02/24 04:55 PM
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Men are very analytical, logical creatures. If they were they wouldn't be sending dick pics left and right.
/r/seduction07/02/24 07:18 PM
2

yet you're presenting yourself as high value Wdym, you show them your rolex?
/r/seduction28/10/22 04:27 PM
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She probably feels the same way. So just chill out and focus on the time spent together. And about your jealousy: you are seeing two girls on the side, so what's your problem? Why can't she assuming she does feel the same way?
/r/seduction23/09/22 03:54 PM
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By MY logic? It's literally what YOU wrote in point 3 LMAO.
/r/seduction11/09/22 11:44 AM
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who has slept with 1000s of men What world do you live in?
/r/seduction11/09/22 11:22 AM
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I think you're intimidated by sexually experienced women because they have comparison and you try to backwards rationalize your anxiety to suck in bed. By your logic sleeping with girls will devalue them, so when a girl sleeps with you casually she's a hoe basically. Toxic mindset that won't get you far. Edit: Oh yeah, you literally wrote it in point 3. Haven't even seen it. I rest my case.
/r/seduction11/09/22 11:16 AM
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Different people, different types. What matters is confidence and initiative, not if you like disney or not.
/r/seduction28/08/22 01:11 AM
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He has good advice regardless of whether he's in his basement or not.
/r/seduction05/08/22 09:06 PM
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k
/r/seduction22/07/22 03:38 PM
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Hardly as cringe as commenting under 2 year old content
/r/seduction22/07/22 03:30 PM
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Yea I dunno. I had that happen to me before too. I think girls who go on dates easily think we aren't interested.
/r/seduction15/07/22 05:17 PM
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This is the answer. She even said that she thought the dates called off after he didn't text for several days.
/r/seduction15/07/22 02:56 PM
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You sound way too self-absorbed and negative. Try meditation. Let go of the storys you're telling you about yourself.
/r/seduction20/06/22 11:01 PM
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Just hold her hand dude. I remember the first time I held a girls hand I was frozen, sweating and my mouth dried up so much my chewing gum turned into crumbs. When the second time came up with another girl I was already a professional at it. Just do it, you'll see it's not a big deal and it will take your anxiety away, even when she doesn't want to. And in that case don't sweat it, she might wanna later.
/r/seduction15/06/22 01:29 AM
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Hell naw
/r/seduction15/06/22 01:26 AM
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Simple, they don't care.
/r/seduction08/06/22 06:40 PM
1

You're not wrong, his attractiveness however comes from his overall demeanor rather than his looks.
/r/seduction23/05/22 03:19 AM
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Jay Baruchel, Zach Braff, Tom Felton, Adam Driver, Nicholas Cage and Michael Cera all have bad jawlines. Nicholas Cage even had surgery on his jaw for that reason. Adam Driver is an ugly ass mf overall if you look at it objectively. If you can't deal with it and it really undermines your self-consciousness consider the surgery. But it might not be the root of your doubts.
/r/seduction22/05/22 05:17 PM
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obvi troll post is obvi
/r/seduction15/05/22 08:25 PM
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That's an exceptionally good explanation.
/r/seduction09/05/22 02:12 AM
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Hate to be the bearer but sounds to me like she was never into you. Apologize and lay low. Go see other girls. She will eventually catch wind and if not hey, you are seeing other girls.
/r/seduction09/05/22 02:05 AM
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No girl from tinder is really gonna like you before you have met.
/r/seduction08/05/22 10:25 PM
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Rice Crispy and Taco Dip
/r/seduction08/05/22 10:01 PM
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You're very unlikeable.
/r/seduction06/05/22 05:09 PM
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Did you not understand that I don't mind her not being interested? Why would you write an elaborate post about iit then?
/r/seduction06/05/22 11:06 AM
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Not good. Don't start with directions anad name guessing. Make an observation instead and lead into conversation from there. Mention there's this bar that has those fancy cocktails and ask her to go there with you. You need to seed something specific she can imagine. Interactions need to not feel forced but natural.
/r/seduction02/05/22 02:00 PM
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It's easy, turn around and talk to someone else. In case she's overly nterested she will try to get your attention back, especially when she sees you hitting it off with some other girl.
/r/seduction30/04/22 02:09 AM
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No, on top of verbal being out of place here anyway that's just kinda sleazy
/r/seduction30/04/22 02:04 AM
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Not as helpful if all as talking to her in a tactful, confident way and some body language.
/r/seduction17/04/22 02:32 AM
1

Who do you think goes to all the overpriced pua-seminars?
/r/seduction17/04/22 02:22 AM
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You've become too invested. Give her space. Chasing NEVER pays off. If she wants to come back she will if not it sucks but she won't. Some things are out of our hands but it's no use to beat yourself up about it. Look for other options.
/r/seduction12/04/22 02:22 PM
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Sometimes it doesn't work just due to logistics. No need to push it.
/r/seduction03/04/22 01:39 PM
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It may have seemed I only wanted a quick thing, instead I like to spend time with you. Cringe.
/r/seduction03/04/22 01:37 PM
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I can't recommend either. Brushing her hair out of the way is likely weird and the triangle gaze doesn't do anything for me. Just hold her hands. If she holds hands with you then she's likely gonna kiss you later.
/r/seduction29/03/22 11:05 AM
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You responding to every single comment tells me you crave appreciation.
/r/seduction22/03/22 01:24 PM
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I wish I was a regular guy. And you assume we're stupid.
/r/seduction22/03/22 01:21 PM
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Ffs stop calling women females already. How does this bs even get upvotes?
/r/seduction22/03/22 11:30 AM
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I didn't say that. I'm just saying you come off as entitled and insecure. Complaining about women wasting your time but then write a 10 paragraph rant about women expecting others to read that.
/r/seduction19/03/22 03:27 PM
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By this "short" paragraph alone I can tell it's your personality, that you're quite possibly a nice guy and that you're not at all open to advice but rather want to be confirmed in your beliefs that women are stupid for not wanting a glorious guy like you.
/r/seduction19/03/22 02:59 PM
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It's more than that. Going physical shows you have sexual confidence and aren't scared to go after what you want, which in itself is the minimal foundation for the average woman to be attracted to you. If you think it's good riddance and you're a good match anyway then you should continue your strategy. Why are you even bothering to ask for advice then?
/r/seduction19/03/22 02:42 PM
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We get bombarded with images where women reject men's advances. In reality this rarely ever happens. You're wrong on that one. Some girls that have shown you signs of attraction before will reject your advances for a multitude of reasons, to see how you respond or because the moment isn't right etc. I'm not saying be pushy but don't make a big deal out of it and try again later if she sticks around and seems receptive.
/r/seduction16/03/22 04:21 PM
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Just don't. You can still clarify later and girls are easily freaked out by someone who makes sex or expectations of sex a focus. The first focus should be vibe and compatibility.
/r/seduction16/03/22 10:09 AM
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Any updates?
/r/seduction10/03/22 06:07 PM
1

It's the official definition from the Oxford dictionary.
/r/seduction06/03/22 03:43 PM
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Well, manipulation is defined as an inscrutable tactic to to gain a benefit over someone. When you say push-pull is manipulation then all of flirting is because flirting is inscrutable by definition and the intent is the same.
/r/seduction05/03/22 04:56 PM
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An example is pulling her in saying "you're so cute" then pushing her away "too cute for me".
/r/seduction05/03/22 04:51 PM
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I heard a glass jar does the trick.
/r/seduction03/03/22 06:33 PM
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Trust me, if there's one thing that will kill attractiveness as none other it's a self-pitying monologue. If you don't believe to be worthy of a girl due to your negative self-actualization you won't ever have one because your subconsciousness will prevent you from pulling through.
/r/seduction03/03/22 06:22 PM
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Work through your anxiety with women, consider seeing a professional Go to dancing lessons for body language (partner dance). This also will help with self confidence. Consider to change the environment (different city). And don't sweat it, a man's attractiveness peaks in his 30s.
/r/seduction03/03/22 05:56 PM
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"oh I thought you probably just forgot about me" -_- If you hadn't lost already you now have.
/r/seduction03/03/22 05:28 PM
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When people say they just got out of a toxic relationship there's a 50% chance they're the toxic one.
/r/seduction02/03/22 07:09 PM
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Be open, don't sugarcoat, don't brag and most of all don't be scared to make a mistake. Act as you feel. If you REALLY feel like kissing her because you LIKE her and the moment feels romantic, do it. Also, EYE CONTACT.
/r/seduction24/02/22 12:50 AM
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Even more so, being nice is actively hindering you from being competitive/bantering with girls. Girls love to be competitive and it's a major part of attraction.
/r/seduction19/02/22 08:29 PM
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It looks like you want people around you to have fun, hence asking what you SHOULD say. But consider what you WANT to say. It's a subtle shift in mind, but it makes all the difference. Heck, when it comes to girls you could talk about your World of Warcraft raids, it just boils down to your enthusiasm and your nonverbal communication. WHAT you say is more than often irrelevant. I know it's a hard pill to swallow but you're focusing on the wrong things. When it comes to night game you don't want …
/r/seduction19/02/22 01:46 PM
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Bro, theres no magic line, forget about it. I can akready tell that you are desperate for people liking you. Learn how to have fun on your own accords. If you want to see good nighttime stuff check out Richard La Ruinas stuff. He made this class on stealth seduction that works and gets girls excited.
/r/seduction19/02/22 11:20 AM
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There's really nothing we can learn from celebrities. Not only do they live in a different world than you and me, but their personal lives vastly differ from what they present to the public. Without the status, on fleek makeup and expensive dresses Ariana Grande is just another girl. Once you've been with beautiful women you can see past the appearance. You will not have to put them on a pedestal because they fart in their sleep and have smelly armpits too.
/r/seduction18/02/22 01:06 PM
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Dude... just no. When you confessed your feelings she gave you some bullshit reasons so you wouldn't feel too bad. It's got nothing to do with women being fickle. ​ I genuinely thought I did the most courageous act of my life confessing my love for her. It's cowardly really, it puts her in an uncomfortable position where she's pressured into an ultimatum pretty much. Don't talk the talk just walk the walk.
/r/seduction15/02/22 11:49 AM
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You won't appear weird if you don't feel weird You won't get this girl
/r/seduction09/02/22 08:24 AM
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Take the L. Happened to all of us, it's a learning process.
/r/seduction07/02/22 08:52 PM
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Did you escalate?
/r/seduction07/02/22 01:35 PM
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Stfu
/r/seduction04/02/22 07:56 AM
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This right here. You're trying too hard in your approaches.
/r/seduction04/02/22 07:46 AM
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It depends on how sure she is that you want to have sex with her. If you kept your cards hidden I'm gonna go out on a limb and say she's still interested. Then again girls lose interest for all sorts of reasons. Don't listen to anyone here who says what a missed chance. It's good to lead but it's pathetic to force anything.
/r/seduction04/02/22 07:10 AM
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So basically most women of around my age ~22 are interested in guys who are very fun, and most often they're focussed on their careers and aiming for stability in their life. Everyone in their 20's is interested in partners that are fun. This continues until late 20s and then they realise that the guys they've ignoring until now are suddenly more attractive now as they are financially stable and much more reliable for their family. Even if this was true that might be alright if you aim to be a p…
/r/seduction01/02/22 09:42 PM
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Easy. Be a challenge.
/r/seduction31/01/22 02:49 PM
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Do you physically escalate? If not, that's the problem right there. Also talking about wanting a relationship on the first date is bad. It opens a pandoras box of assumptions. You will scare off girls that are looking for a relationship too. Better to just ride the wave first and see if the foundations for a relationship would be right before verbalizing it.
/r/seduction29/01/22 05:07 PM
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Is that how you usually pressure girls into sending nudes?
/r/seduction21/01/22 03:11 PM
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You can send me a picture of yourself in DM and I'll compliment your looks No thank you.
/r/seduction21/01/22 10:58 AM
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The point I made went way over your head buddy.
/r/seduction21/01/22 01:51 AM
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First you are assuming that I think of it as an insecurity. Second of all I don't want a girl that is insecure about something like that. I enjoy complimenting on the things that make a person special and what most often follows is a positive reaction. I'd argue complimenting on insecurities - if done in a well meaning way - can raise a person's value. Can you elaborate on what teasing looks like to you? Maybe a few examples.
/r/seduction20/01/22 09:37 PM
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These examples sound more like teasing and are missing the backhandedness, no?
/r/seduction20/01/22 08:10 PM
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Seed the date before getting the number.
/r/seduction13/01/22 10:26 AM
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I wouldn't if it was just sex. But I wouldn't see it as desperate. I've seen women posting the same question.
/r/seduction07/01/22 02:22 PM
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If a skill was easy to acquire it wouldn't be a skill. You can't be scared of the water if you want to learn how to swim.
/r/seduction04/01/22 10:31 PM
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Well if they stopped talking over a major disagreement she could be seeking revenge on your ex, especially if you and your ex seperated recently. Just a thing to keep in mind.
/r/seduction04/01/22 09:58 PM
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It's hard to say where the bottleneck is. Could be that you just don't know the moves that require sexual confidence. It's a skill that you can learn just like any other skill. You can't expect girls to be turned on by friendliness and being gentle. You have being upfront and communicative going for you, learn how to read the signs that a girl is into you and don't be shy then.
/r/seduction04/01/22 09:47 PM
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That hits the nail on it's head. Why not do it smoothly? I don't see any good reason not to check for attraction if you can keep it low.
/r/seduction21/12/21 06:44 PM
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Shooting your shot has an entirely different meaning for you
/r/seduction20/12/21 12:10 PM
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Also learn how to rate a girl's receptiveness. If she keeps investing less or she flakes -> next. When she seems eager to answer you can step it up a notch and ask her out. It can be helpful to seed the date early on, like modifying your introduction to "hello, my name is x, before I have a date with you I wanna know yz about you"
/r/seduction06/12/21 04:31 PM
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Listen to this man right here. Playfulness is key. Keep it light and without any expectations. Be the one who checks her out. I can understand your frustration but the source of you being upset over the rejections is also why you're failing. You're trying too hard.
/r/seduction06/12/21 02:49 PM
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Read on escalation and body language.
/r/seduction04/12/21 11:36 PM
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One more time. It isn't about saying stuff. Saying stuff is like 20% of work.
/r/seduction04/12/21 08:57 PM
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Bro, just no. You're way too much in your own headspace. Your lengthy paragraphs about who said what are irritating as fuck and completely besides the point. You can't talk girls into your bed. The big problem of yours is scarcity and what comes with it. It's been two months dude. Stop overinvesting, overanalyzing and go out!
/r/seduction04/12/21 11:25 AM
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Very good, I second.
/r/seduction03/12/21 12:19 AM
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Very good, now tell her that.
/r/seduction03/12/21 12:14 AM
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Neediness and expectations can't exist without one another. That's what really makes demonstrations of outcome independence so valuable - you show that you have the confidence to not be afraid if things don't go your way and it completely takes the pressure off the other party. Being able to give other's the freedom to choose is a requirement to be likable, it is what seperates you from the rest. Another quality post of yours Michael. Keep em coming.
/r/seduction28/11/21 03:56 PM
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Maybe they treated you as such because you viewed them as below your league?
/r/seduction16/11/21 03:46 AM
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Listen, there's one thing that girls can't resist: being a challenge. It sounds like you make it to obvious you'd be available. Girls want to win you over, make them jump some hoops. Vice versa there's one thing girls equally find unattractive: neediness and inconsistency.
/r/seduction16/11/21 03:41 AM
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panini = dick, no?
/r/seduction07/11/21 08:24 PM
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I addition to what's been said here already. When creating sexual tension, there's a few basic behavioural principles at play: You wanna be open, non-defensive, tongue in cheek, confident, self-amused, flirtatious, playful and a little silly. Imagine sexual tension as a knob that you can turn up and down just like a thermostat. When you turn the knob up you smooth out, slow down, introduce pauses, gaze into her eyes and get a bit closer. You can play with that knob however you like (wink wink). …
/r/seduction07/11/21 07:31 PM
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That's interesting and I agree with the list. But would you ellaborate on the head nodding? I've never heard that one before and I can't see how it would be negatively effecting game...
/r/seduction07/11/21 06:53 PM
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She wants to see if sex is your hidden agenda and if you're acting intimidated when it's unfolded in front of you or she feels like she has to tell you because her good girl side tells her to. In either case, you're not intimidated because sex shouldn't be your primary objective before you found out if she's really cool enough and that you're compatible. In this particular case you'd probably be best off with a "I'm not that easy" and then moving on and letting it interrupt with further attempts…
/r/seduction01/11/21 02:55 PM
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Just say "hey I'll be 15 minutes late because I gotta run errands, that cool with you?"
/r/seduction26/10/21 12:16 AM
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Lonely
/r/seduction24/10/21 10:23 PM
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this is a troll
/r/seduction24/10/21 08:30 PM
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Totally. You could be talking about World of Warcraft raids if you just use the right voice and body language. What you say really is just 10% so try and shift your focus.
/r/seduction21/10/21 01:29 PM
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Jesus christ, you can count yourself lucky if a girl bothers to even respond to that lame shit. Step up your game and text them something interesting. Sort the wheat from the chaff by being polarising.
/r/seduction19/10/21 10:13 AM
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Flirt, banter, kino.
/r/seduction19/10/21 12:47 AM
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You shouldn't even get into this situation. Learn to gauge for attraction and buying temperature and work your way up before dropping anything. Don't tell her you find her attractive, show her.
/r/seduction18/10/21 09:39 AM
1

So did it change?
/r/seduction17/10/21 10:59 PM
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You are being unreasonable, the more she gets off the hotter it is.
/r/seduction05/10/21 07:14 PM
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You're asking them out too late. Many girls nowadays are just bored because men are cowards and think a girl needs a year of treatment before she's comfortable with taking the next step. Try to ask her out after 10 messages and try and seed the date early in the interaction to see if she's interested in meeting people.
/r/seduction05/10/21 04:52 PM
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Kino starts way earlier: High fives, platonically touching the shoulder and arm in conversation, bumping into each other while walking side to side , holding hands, hugging. It's really an escalation ladder, think of it as a process. On every step of the ladder you test the water, whether she is feeling comfortable, e.g. when she's comfortable holding hands she will most likely be comfortable to kiss. Think of it in a two steps forward one step back fashion, like hold her hand but be the first t…
/r/seduction05/10/21 03:06 PM
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Try to imagine attraction as a control knob that you can turn from 0-100. If you're good, you can spike attraction in mere seconds just by slowing down, smoothing out, getting closer, increasing eye contact. But most of the times, you can't play it safe and score. Often times that's what is really attractive to girls, not being scared to test the waters and make semi-bold moves just because you're curious about the outcome (whatever it is).
/r/seduction05/10/21 12:09 PM
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Girls tend to get along well with gay guys Crackpot social studies 101
/r/seduction03/10/21 11:14 PM
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Dick ftw
/r/seduction03/10/21 10:52 PM
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Be friendly and understanding about it, at most concerned. Leave her a way out but seriously consider not pursuing her further. Anything else will burn bridges and make things uncomfortable.
/r/seduction03/10/21 01:24 PM
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Back when I was as inexperienced as you I would freeze in such situations too. It's the anxiety that is holding you back. But there's nothing really to be afraid of. You yourself are creating that pressure. There's been much recent progress you can't expect things to go perfect the first time.With regards to that girl: don't wait 1-2 weeks. She will likely think you don't find her attractive. I'm a 100% sure things will turn in your favor. There is really no value in just assuming things. It's p…
/r/seduction03/10/21 12:56 PM
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Back when I was as inexperienced as you I would freeze in such situations too. It's the anxiety that is holding you back. But there's nothing really to be afraid of. You yourself are creating that pressure. There's been much recent progress you can't expect things to go perfect the first time. With regards to that girl: don't wait 1-2 weeks. She will likely think you don't find her attractive. I'm a 100% sure things will turn in your favor.
/r/seduction03/10/21 01:19 AM
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I tried writing a reply several times now but I really don't know what to tell you. What do you want from this girl and why are you acting so weird? I'm smelling neediness.
/r/seduction01/10/21 11:14 PM
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I don't care about people's expectations more than mine just because they have a vagina and a pretty face, especially when it's literally the first date. If you wanna date men that are nice because they wanna get in your panties, you do you.
/r/seduction27/09/21 03:21 PM
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True, but how does it matter to OP what SHE wanted?
/r/seduction26/09/21 05:26 PM
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Since you only fuck a person for the first time once why not build the anticipation? Since when is fucking on the second date staving someone off / disappointing expectations? Building anticipation can make sex so much more enjoyable. Your comment is clearly just reactionary to the word mindgames.
/r/seduction26/09/21 04:27 PM
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She will probably think you have erectile dysfunction or that you're gay. I agree, in your case she might think that.
/r/seduction26/09/21 03:47 PM
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Well done. It's a great way to filter out those low-confidence girls, that can't handle being turned down for sex. Those that have the confidence will go crazy over you, because you just showed positive signs of self-respect, abundance and confidence. It obviously goes both genders but people can't see that. The comments here that ostracize you for turning down sex offers just show how deeply rooted toxic masculinity is.
/r/seduction26/09/21 03:36 PM
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I dont think you know what it really does to some of us. What it does to you when someone declines you sex? That's solely a responsibility of your own self-confidence. If you can't handle someone turning you down you shouldn't be dating.
/r/seduction26/09/21 03:34 PM
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So when a girl declines sex on the first date, even though she's into him it's playing mindgames too? Double standards much.
/r/seduction26/09/21 03:31 PM
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So when a girl declines sex on the first date even though she's interested it's playing mindgames?
/r/seduction26/09/21 03:29 PM
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Agreed. You can even tongue-in-cheek tease her about why she might be in such a reckless haste.
/r/seduction26/09/21 03:22 PM
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Utter bullshit. Girls much prefer those that are not needy for sex over those that are thirsty for it. Not jumping at every opportunity is a sign of confidence and abundance and this alone will make a girl choose you over most other guys.
/r/seduction26/09/21 03:19 PM
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Yea, it's probably not gonna work in your favor though. Remember to call girls out on just cancelling and then try to reschedule.
/r/seduction23/09/21 12:19 AM
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You have to be aware of when exactly a girl is giving you signals. To see those, you will have to have flirted a few times successfully. You will fail the first timess. Flirting is banter where you are trying to top the other in regards to cofidence and wit. Flirting is inherently ambiguos, it's good being able to be sexually suggestive while being subtle. Flirting is tongue and cheek, actively causing different emotions just to see how she reacts. But most importantly: Flirting should be expect…
/r/seduction22/09/21 10:56 AM
2

Well, kinda true. But then again, carbohydrates from grains were also hard to come before we started agriculture less than 12.000 years ago.
/r/seduction18/09/21 09:48 PM
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No sex is off the table for you. Maybe if you were 5'9, but at your height it's impossible.
/r/seduction13/09/21 12:25 PM
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If it's not a shit test, forgive and forget.
/r/seduction12/09/21 06:24 PM
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it is true, that partners mostly find equally attractive looking partners. But it is also true - and the opposite a common misconsception - that attractiveness in terms of looks is more than just face geometry and height,moreover body movement, voice and general charisma, energy and face movements play into attractiveness in regards to looks aswell. And then again, women are attracted to different qualities in other categories like courage, mindfulness, humor, altruism, a little bit of unavailab…
/r/seduction11/09/21 09:12 PM
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You're right. Bottom line though, on average you shouldn't respond faster than she does.
/r/seduction08/09/21 06:08 PM
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It helps to make honest assessments whether you're going to vibe. Take your time to check out if she's cool and whether you actually like her. In the end, vibe is everything.
/r/seduction08/09/21 04:24 PM
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As a rule of thumb for determining when to text: the time she takes to answer plus a little more. Girls love to chase. For your own sake, don't try to make yourself a consistent presence and avoid unnecessary texting, even when it's painful. It kills any mystery and anticipation.. The only solution to the pain is having more girls available. Once you see 3+ girls it becomes really hard to message back in time.
/r/seduction08/09/21 04:07 PM
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I'm bad at this aswell as I tend to message too late so take my advice with a pinch of salt. If you wait too long to message after a first date, she takes it as a sign of desinterest and it likely stains further interactions. I think it's better to plot even earlier than after the date as in seeding the second date while on the first date if the vibes good. "Have you heard of this new place that just opened, I've heard they make great cocktails. Let's go there for our second date." You can use t…
/r/seduction08/09/21 03:50 PM
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You were right around the corner from me, should have stopped by. At this point she might've waited for you to have the balls and properly invite her to your apartment, or suggest to join the group. Why else would she have texted you when she was around your neighbourhood. On the other hand, maybe she just wanted some attention, who knows. You could've definitely tried though. The only way to find out if a girl is interested is to imply and not be scared of a no. And girls are usually turned off…
/r/seduction17/08/21 12:16 AM
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It's hard to say, since aspergers limit your way in picking up on nuanced social cues. So how do you know for certain girls are not giving you IOI's? And how many new girls do you usually meet? You need confidence or social skills when you want to pick up girls. Preferrably both. You're limited in one of them but not the other, but you have to train both. On the other hand you can make your asperger's a strength in some situations, like getting away with being blunt.
/r/seduction16/08/21 11:57 PM
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Yes, social anxiety is a self fulfilling prophecy. I think you need to work on it, be it pills or 6 weeks in a bhuddistic monastery.
/r/seduction13/08/21 09:05 PM
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So did you ever have any success? If not, then the problem is definitely you / your anxiety. When you're anxious, you're making all the people around you anxious. That's why people who have high anxiety are often socially anxious as well. You should get treated by a psychiatrist, it's easy to get rid of anxiety with medication.
/r/seduction13/08/21 07:28 PM
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In that scenario tell them "watch out for this girl, she's a bit of a handful", eject and go talk to some other girls.
/r/seduction11/08/21 01:38 AM
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Femaledatingstrategy is toxic as fuck and by no account a mirror of mentally sane girls preferences.
/r/seduction08/08/21 12:30 AM
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First of all, I've looked through some of your old posts (as a photoshop hobbyist) and I don't think that you are what you claim to be but I find the whole attraction rating in this sub pretty embarrassing anyway. Attraction is about more than just looks. I'm above average looking and while I agree to a certain degree that looks get your foot in, body language (something that you had asked for help about in the past) and general behaviour plays an important role. Smart girls will get behind the …
/r/seduction08/08/21 12:27 AM
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I do agree with you, however I don't like it how people generally overfocus on orgasms. The journey is the destination and the more you squeeze and try to get ahold of orgasms the more they slip away.
/r/seduction30/07/21 02:37 AM
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I think you got the wrong idea, I said nothing about pretending. I'm talking about seriously being invested in checking out her personality for compatibility (and toxic behaviour). For you this means better connection hence better sex and no drama, for her it signals you are not desperate to get in bed with her for her looks, which you can hardly fake anyway because women are very sensitive to this particularly. I argue that anyone who has had a decent amount of hookups and is not too interested…
/r/seduction29/07/21 04:22 PM
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Alright there is one thing I wanna add, setting sexual intentions too early is a sign of desperation, you definitely wanna check out her personality before you reveal anything. But on the other hand, light flirting to see how she reacts is always ok and could be seen as prior.
/r/seduction29/07/21 02:01 PM
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This! Most famous puas are really introverts.
/r/seduction25/07/21 01:08 PM
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It's cringe.
/r/seduction19/07/21 02:43 AM
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Mess with her a little. Play with her anticipation. Don't take it all too seriously. Write something that you would find funny.
/r/seduction14/07/21 10:46 PM
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https://youtu.be/8uwYo\_M\_I5Q?t=480
/r/seduction14/07/21 10:45 PM
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Michael, I really appreciate you and your videos. As the'yre more for rookies I don't completely watch and read through it every time but I appreciate you and symphatize with everything you say.
/r/seduction14/07/21 09:10 PM
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Try to challenge some of the ladies in your first message, be a little cocky and tongue-in-cheeck and put up better pictures and bio.
/r/seduction14/07/21 01:37 AM
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If she was truly interested in a meetup (and not just messaging) she'd offer a different date. For women it's not a pipeline to sex and neither should it be for you, Try to enjoy every step of the way. And try to seed the date as soon as possible.
/r/seduction13/07/21 07:50 PM
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absolutely gorgeous woman who's perfect in every way Ahaha, :D Talk about putting women on a pedstal There's nothing like this you see. We are all human, have a few strengths and a few weaknesses.
/r/seduction15/06/21 12:28 AM
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Excactly, Richard La Ruina calls that 'forcing IOIs'
/r/seduction10/06/21 09:21 PM
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I see, my opinion is not very popular here it seems :D Let me just say I've never had a bad reaction from cavemanning girls. As I should've stated but to me it seems obvious: don't go around and do this to strangers or girls that are not attracted to you to begin with. Obviously respect physical boundaries but do push your luck. Test the waters and if there's attraction don't give a fuck about losing her. That's all there is. And if you still think that's rude make her slap your ass first.
/r/seduction17/05/21 09:44 PM
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I completely with everything you say. Good advice. Listen to this man, he knows what he's talking about. My little extension: you can touch girls that you're friendly with in an inappropriate way if you do it right. Take a look at gay guys who will slap their girl friend's asses jokingly all day, why can't you, what is the fundamental difference between your behaviour and a gay guy's? Solution: you do it with a lingering sexual undertone and one thing girls are turned off by is the jizz-in-my-pa…
/r/seduction17/05/21 02:08 PM
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The Omegle thing makes this post a tad weird, but the rest is true. Being sexually aggressive shows confidence and availability. Just for clarification I'm talking about aggressive flirting here and testing the waters and not being disappointed when she doesn't reciprocate. Then make her jump a hoop or two though. You both gotta earn it. Regarding numbers game: to speak in a general way, only if you broaden your horizon of possible mates the numbers come in favor. And I think the real takeaway f…
/r/seduction09/05/21 11:40 PM
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I gotta say I find it not too bad since it leaves her an easy way out if she doesn't like him. Also, this can be used after mild flirting.
/r/seduction21/04/21 03:15 PM
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No matter how hot she is, you did right. And yeah while it may feel like you lost something if she remembers the night you have the upper hand now. Only losers sleep with passed out girls.
/r/seduction19/04/21 09:42 PM
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No, you're wrong, it can definitely work. Girls really are into bold moves that take courage and in the meantime without being pushy or needy and reading the situation right. There are so many dates where guys literally are too shy to make a move when they could've gotten the girl.
/r/seduction13/04/21 02:01 PM
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Strategy 3. Be smooth and play the game better than her
/r/seduction13/04/21 01:57 PM
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You're welcome. I'd be super interested in how things play out. Good luck
/r/seduction22/03/21 12:24 PM
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If she's really into you and extroverted, lay back and don't push it. If she already knows you're a virgin let her take the lead. Just show your interest when she hints at things. Trust your instincts here. Be honest, curious and don't expect anything. I wouldn't take things into own hands according to your experience. If she wants to play, play with her. Keep your eyes open for obvious signs.
/r/seduction21/03/21 10:49 PM
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Don't do that via text. It's creepy.
/r/seduction21/03/21 10:15 PM
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sometimes that pent up energy makes dudes rapey Sounds like a bad strategy in court: "my client didn't want to rape this girl. But you see judge, he didn't masturbate for some time so clearly, he's a victim himself too"
/r/seduction21/03/21 06:18 PM
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Writing erotica really paid off, that's pretty hot. But in all seriousness: I think that's how it should be too. Even though I'm usually more into soft and intimate sex the bedroom is where genders really come out and we should indulge in it. I'm all for equality outside the bedroom but many people seem to have problems drawing the line.
/r/seduction20/03/21 01:51 PM
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TIP ZERO: Start calling them women and not girls unless you want to pick up twelve year olds. Your username though .. ¬‿¬
/r/seduction19/03/21 08:36 PM
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Only men with alpha mindsets lead the Fortnite scoreboard
/r/seduction27/02/21 04:25 PM
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I agree. I think we can't know for sure though judging by the little context. Shit tests are sometimes out of this world. Height is a rather common shit test when you're short.
/r/seduction22/02/21 12:20 AM
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I only date guys who are over 6 feet Usually a shit test. Did she seem like she wanted to pursue further conversation at this point?
/r/seduction21/02/21 11:01 PM
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This was the only way for her to continue the interaction. Looking him in the eyes could've been either a sign of interest or aggressiveness. We will never know.
/r/seduction21/02/21 11:00 PM
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(so I can tell her my feelings in person) Don't. but she would always flake and not go with the plan She might've smelled the rat.
/r/seduction23/01/21 11:23 PM
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If she flakes more than once goodbye.
/r/seduction26/12/20 02:55 PM
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No shit sherlock
/r/seduction16/12/20 07:02 PM
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I took that one directly from the book "seduce her with text" by matt ardisson. "Are you always so friendly" is great, because it suggests she was just friendly because she's into you. Also it's not so much about the first message as it is to act fast. This way you are still on her mind and can make a smooth transition.
/r/seduction16/12/20 05:38 PM
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Although that's a huge quota, you can try up your text game. Send a message right after meeting her "hey sillynickname, so random meeting you just now. Are you always so friendly?" Then set up a date that in the best case you seeded during set.
/r/seduction15/12/20 06:12 PM
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Good post. Having your red flags figured out will not only bring you happier relationships but will also make you more attractive, as it will show by you actively responding to / watching out for bad behaviour.
/r/seduction18/11/20 06:35 PM
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True, one little remark: Showcasing won't get you anywhere without evaluating her (and you do it subconsciously once you know which values you are looking for).
/r/seduction12/11/20 12:09 AM
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The way I see it, there's two types of funny. The one that is trying to make people laugh and the one who does it because it brings him joy.
/r/seduction12/11/20 12:07 AM
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Well observed!
/r/seduction12/11/20 12:05 AM
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Yes, especially since the gambler does have a different look on it. Really blends in with the sexual gaze too.
/r/seduction10/11/20 11:25 PM
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Do the make out numbers include your notches? If not, then there might be some miscalibration between makeout and taking her cloths off. While it is more based on clubgame, I can not possibly praise something to the sky more than "stealth seduction" by Richard La Ruina (aka gambler). It has a lot of stuff on how to kino and the mindset on sexual touches.
/r/seduction10/11/20 01:01 AM
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Second this. Once you pay attention you will notice how girls that find you attractive eyefuck you. Whenever a girl holds long eyecontact, there you have it, she's interested in you. Whenever you feel slightly uncomfortable and there's something thick hanging in the air, you found what you were looking for. That's why staring into each other's eye until one looks away is such a popular game in dating (so I assume).
/r/seduction02/10/20 02:49 AM
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Yes, yes and yes.
/r/seduction27/09/20 02:32 AM
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While I disagree with the assumption that women are nice = want something, I agree with the rest. While men hide their sexuality behind niceness, it's the opposite of flirting and banter. Flirting is playfully being mean to each other and testing boundaries and weaknesses. Being nice and agreeing with everything also shows that your needy for affection and you do expect something in return. People don't respect you if you never say no and are scared of stepping on peoples toes, ignoring red flag…
/r/seduction23/09/20 03:17 PM
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Why do you need socially distant dates? You tested for antibodies, so neither can you infect someone (nor can someone infect you??).
/r/seduction06/09/20 10:04 PM
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Longtime smoker here too: problem with weed is, that it makes you passive when really you should have an active part in conversations. Everything is exhausting when you really just wanna relax on the couch. I was gonna make love to you but then I got high I was gonna eat yo pussy too but then I got high Now I'm jacking off and I know why Because I got high, because I got high Because I got high
/r/seduction06/09/20 02:20 PM
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I hope I never will.
/r/seduction06/09/20 12:18 AM
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What nuances are you speaking of?
/r/seduction06/09/20 12:11 AM
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Did you have too much wine too?
/r/seduction06/09/20 12:02 AM
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Amen to that. Those men hold it all back until the bubble busts and out comes a pathetic confession of love.
/r/seduction05/09/20 11:17 PM
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Filet Mignon and hamburger referred to different men? Were you talking to your friend about guys you date or guys you don't find attractive? I bet it's the former.
/r/seduction05/09/20 10:36 PM
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Hey, while I agree with most observations from your perspective and enjoy your witty writing style, your last segment seems like wild ramblings to me, I'm a little disappointed. All the baseless generalizations aside: women seem to complain about guys that put women on a pedestal yet you do the same. Way of shooting yourself in the foot. On a sidenote; referring to men as 'a slab of meat' is creepy af.
/r/seduction05/09/20 10:11 PM
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Girls with self-confidence will see right through that facade. Confidence is being confident in what you have, in your strenghts.
/r/seduction05/09/20 02:34 AM
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Yes, most definitely. Excuse my language but if you two don't have some better than sex soulbonding you'll come off as needy. Validation is key but not like this.
/r/seduction05/09/20 02:31 AM
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Sex is a very positive topic.
/r/seduction05/09/20 02:12 AM
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(I know breaking the touch barrier is gonna be a bit difficult with a table which is why I’m asking here). Wrong thinking. Escalation starts way sooner with how you would touch a friend. Touches on the arm when you're trying to make a point, high-fiving, taking her hands to look at them. Two steps forward, one step back. Kissing is just a milestone for comfort and to pick up on it later. With that in mind to increase your chance on taking her home have her meet you at your house and ask her to c…
/r/seduction05/09/20 02:10 AM
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Keep that spirit up. There's the principle of emotion transference. You can literally do anything to girls, as long as you aren't afraid. Being afraid (of rejection) leads to all the nasty things like outcome dependence, neediness etc. Being afraid is the opposite of confidence. If you're afraid, work on that first. Do it even though you know you gonna slip. Because that will take your anxiety of failure. Other people immediately feel anxiety. It turns them off because now they're subconsciously…
/r/seduction05/09/20 01:53 AM
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You HAVE to validate girls. It shows her the reasons you're interested in other ways than taking her panties off. Not only does this make her feel good about herself but also shows you're not desperate for sex. Just don't say it in need of validation. Also don't make the mistake of just leaving the compliment hanging in an awkward silence. Say it as a dry realization you just had or do it tongue in check with a backhanded joke to realease the tension.
/r/seduction04/09/20 12:17 AM
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Ask her about her first kiss. Thats a good starter.
/r/seduction04/09/20 12:04 AM
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Escalation starts way sooner. Besides: when a girl gives you heavy IOIs (eg she eyefucks you) you can go for a kiss in literally any way you want (except for jumping or leaning in like a creep, you always wanna draw her in for the kiss)
/r/seduction03/09/20 11:54 PM
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Amen to that. Seduction always be preaching be the best when we are all just average. Even the hot ones are average except for their exterior.
/r/seduction31/08/20 10:57 PM
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I like to complement overlooked features like eyebrows or even things like small scars. Good way of testing how self-conscious she is. If she isn't, she'll like it if you really do find them interesting.
/r/seduction26/08/20 09:27 PM
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Spit and polish
/r/seduction26/08/20 09:22 PM
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Women are into guys that confidently handle their own femininity as well as theirs.
/r/seduction26/08/20 09:19 PM
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Reminds of the story of that guy who just walks up to women and yells "SEEEX!!!" like a true barbarian. Apparently has a 10% success quota.
/r/seduction22/08/20 02:00 AM
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Excellent idea. While you're at it make her pinch your ass because you always wanted a man touch you that way.
/r/seduction22/08/20 01:56 AM
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Talk with her about sex. Show your curiousity. Be fearless. Embrace your sexuality.
/r/seduction22/08/20 01:27 AM
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You don't want her to like you, you want her to be attracted to you. Never get your hopes up with girls, they are unpredictable anyway and it leads directly to needy outcome dependence..
/r/seduction22/08/20 01:04 AM
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I suggest telling her 20 minutes in (self assuredly, you're the price after all). Maybe think about what she might ask and how you will answer (eg why?). She won't be expecting too much initiation from you but you might have to move at her pace.Just keep in mind sex is not what you see in porn, rather lots of foreplay and you're already more enjoyable in bed than 60% of experienced male population.
/r/seduction22/08/20 12:45 AM
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Totally ok. Let me reassure you I've met plenty of girls that would be thrilled to take your virginity just for the fulfilled curiousity in your eyes.
/r/seduction21/08/20 10:45 PM
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You got it. They don't do it to cause a reaction in the girl, they do it to tease and for amusement. That and needlessly to say have a common sense of whether someone enjoys your company or not. Watch for IOIs.
/r/seduction17/08/20 06:05 PM
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My opinion might differ from most, but I don't think it's a question of whether she's attracted to you. You can definitely flirt (or at least make attempts) with any girl without coming off as creepy. It's a matter of how needy you appear, whether you make that lusting I've got a big boner face that girls hate. As long as you're amused, outcome independent and not hold back by anxiety (-> confidence) you're fine. Ever seen a gay man jokingly pinch a girls butt or comment on their boobs (without …
/r/seduction17/08/20 05:38 PM
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Probably not, but I dare to say that if you're in touch with your feels chances are good your opposite feels the same. There's a whole area in psychology built on that principle. If you've ever taken psychedelics you probably felt how much the vibe of the whole group you're doing it with foregrounds. Everyone feels the same. I think it's always there, psychedelics just make us more aware of it. Especially so with tension. Ever had that moment where you look into a girls eyes and the air is just …
/r/seduction17/08/20 11:42 AM
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We are not talking nuances, we are talking sexual tension.
/r/seduction16/08/20 07:16 PM
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Reading social cues and reacting to them.
/r/seduction16/08/20 07:16 PM
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Social calibration and needyness. Trying too hard. Not enjoying the moment. Anxiety to mess up.
/r/seduction16/08/20 01:49 PM
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Yes, sexual tension is a two way street. If you feel tension. he feels it too.
/r/seduction16/08/20 01:38 PM
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Wait a day or two then call her. But don't get your hopes up. Was nice to meet you is a phrase of civility. In that case you might have to create more attraction in your approaches, give them a silly nickname and use it when texting.
/r/seduction16/08/20 01:20 PM
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I don't know if I've always been to the wrong clubs but making eye contact on the dance floor is pretty hard. Also don't buy them a drink, it's like you think you owe them something for hanging out with you.
/r/seduction16/08/20 01:16 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9mVFtDiMyLY This. Works like a charm.
/r/seduction16/08/20 01:09 PM
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I don't get why everyone here rationalizes this by giving you reasons for not dealing with women in the first place. Women are people thus often enough awesome and teaching. I'd take the following steps if I were you - Go to the park and talk to people, even if it's just old folks (they often do have great conversational skills). Believe me, you will make vast improvements on just how comfortable you are dealing with people and starting conversations with them. - Do the same to girls. You can li…
/r/seduction16/08/20 01:45 AM
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Most likely corny. Depending on her intentions say thanks, ignore or say something cheeky lie 'i know'
/r/seduction30/07/20 02:05 AM
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One question: does it get easier with age? I'm in my mid twenties and I'm somewhat afraid of already losing due to age.
/r/seduction28/07/20 01:18 AM
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Seed it by letting her meet you at your place first, tell her to come in while you put on cloths, get ready,.. you get the jist. Easier to get her back if she knows you got it nice and has a clear picture in mind.
/r/seduction26/07/20 11:59 PM
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This and also: the easier it is to funk her the easier it will be for other guys too.
/r/seduction26/07/20 03:17 AM
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Problem with compliments is your building tension and never release it. You can well make compliments then take off the edge by teasing her lightheartedly.
/r/seduction26/07/20 02:54 AM
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You can tell her that you're nervous in a self-confident way. In fact there's many gals and guys that get nervous on the phone. Sending voice messages might be helpful for feeling less nervous.
/r/seduction21/07/20 07:08 PM
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I was. And it has (for quite some time). I'd take the sexually open, promiscuous woman anytime over the one that doesn't have a clue given I'm equally attracted to both.
/r/seduction09/04/20 12:32 AM
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In addition to everything that has been said: pushing for a meeting more than she does will most likely turn her off. Don't be dependent on what will happen, just focus on enjoying the time with her.
/r/seduction09/04/20 12:12 AM
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Never hunt for sex. Never. ​ I would've friendzoned her that very moment.
/r/seduction09/04/20 12:04 AM
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Dangerous indeed since it's stigmatizing girls who enjoy sex, which ultimately ends up in girls enjoying sex less.
/r/seduction08/04/20 11:39 PM
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I don't believe in the whole everything is energy. "Sacred" energy is on the same level as crystal healing and homeopathy. Having sex with a lot of guys ruins natural feminine energy Stupid and dangerous bullshit. That's just another way of saying "she a hoe".
/r/seduction07/04/20 01:17 PM
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Sorry man, it's more of an attitude, less of applicable examples. Don't be easy on girls and give em smack. Accuse her of trying to be sexual with you when she says something ambiguos. Just keep in mind that you are the price and she's gotta work for it.
/r/seduction07/04/20 01:06 PM
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Make yourself and your virginity the trophy man. Lots of girls out there would die to take your virginity, so make them work for being the one taking it. Saying you never touched a pussy but you would love to with the right girl might make her wet in and of itself. Wear your suit confidently, even when your suit really is a leaf covering your groin.
/r/seduction07/04/20 12:51 PM
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The key is flirting. Playful banter, make her punch your shoulder. Looking into her eyes like you're thinking about ripping her cloths off.
/r/seduction07/04/20 12:42 PM
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I like your... boobs
/r/seduction07/04/20 12:40 PM
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Sexual innuendos. Keeping it playful. Flirty banter. You wanna make her show intent by being a challenge.
/r/seduction07/04/20 12:27 PM
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" Just so you know, you don't have to send me everyday " Don't send her everyday. "In this period of my life, I like things that happen sponteneously/ impulsively, without someone going after them." She doesn't want you to hunt after her. It's nice she's sexting you but the long text you wrote here shows you're too invested. Don't be needy, make her come after you.
/r/seduction07/04/20 12:26 PM
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Finding out your boundaries, having no fear to communicate it when someone crosses them and being consistent.
/r/seduction30/03/20 03:10 PM
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Just hold that eye contact with a smirk on your face while the conversation dies out. Like you're amused by the way she's looking at you or the way she plucked her eyebrows. I can highly suggest watching Richard La Ruinas stealth seduction method on Youtube. Very good stuff to create that sweet tension.
/r/seduction30/03/20 03:06 PM
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For interaction. When it comes to contacting: girls will almost never contact you first if they don't have a good reason to do so yet. Do low invest contacts with something stupid like "Umbrella ella ella..." or if you two have met before tell her you found leaked nudes of her online with three shocked emojis, when she replies you send a picture of some gorilla making kissy lips. If the last conversation died midway I'd write something along the lines of me sitting in the parking lot where the s…
/r/seduction30/03/20 02:49 PM
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If the problem of not being able to take the first step stems from an underlying fear of getting rejected look at it this way: You can only get rid of the fear by getting rejected and seeing it's half as bad as you thought. Many guides even suggest DELIBERATELY trying to get rejected to shake off that anxiety. I've heard one PUA mentor say: "If I could have the guys on bootcamp do one thing on the first day, it'd be to approach girls naked." On the same page: doing something that is rejection wo…
/r/seduction30/03/20 02:19 PM
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When it comes to texting: quality > quantity. And never invest more than she does.
/r/seduction30/03/20 02:05 PM
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You are looking for that moment when you look into each other's eyes and you either both begin smirking or she's getting flustered and asks "What??" (which you in return just grin off knowingly)
/r/seduction30/03/20 01:57 PM
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Well, I know of guys who are great socializers and popular but just can't score with women. Then there's master PUAs who are introverted weirdos. I think being socially skilled definitely helps with girls who are socially skilled aswell but I don't see it as less important than not giving too many fucks or nonverbal game (which is half the cake).
/r/seduction30/03/20 12:45 AM
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