knighttimeblues Archive

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7	An Update Is this for real? Read up on the legal definitions of extortion and blackmail. And you just admitted to it on the internet.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/05/26 03:37 PM
2	Can people who get divorced remain close friends? Yes it is possible to be friends after you divorce. How close depends on many things, including who else each of you has in your life. Take some time to take care of and heal yourself. Depression tends to come back, so figure out what you are depressing. If you can, be amicable in how you split up. But you will have to see how you feel about her being affectionate with another man, and it sounds like you may get an opportunity to experience that sooner rather than later. You might find it easier…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/03/26 12:01 AM
2	Help please My ex and I wanted to hire a single mediator, but were told to each hire a lawyer who works as a mediator, which we did. Key is for both to take a mediation approach. Split assets and liabilities 50-50 (except for separate property) and agreed to pay for future liabilities proportional to our incomes as they change over time. (So if she makes twice what I make, she pays 67% and I pay 33%; then if one of us loses our job or gets a raise, we readjust the percentages.) Smooth process and not very e…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/03/26 04:56 PM
2	Better as friends than married? That’s exactly what we are going for. It’s working for us. I hope it works for you too.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/01/26 03:25 AM
3	Better as friends than married? OP, this is definitely the case for my ex and me. Separated years ago and now divorced for 6 years. We coparent our kids on a friendly basis, sharing expenses based on respective incomes. Had Thanksgiving together with her partner’s kids as well as ours: one big expanded family. And I cannot overemphasize how important this is to our kids.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/01/26 04:20 PM
1	Helping the wife move Are you forgetting about the kids?! They need to co-parent, for the kids’ sake.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/12/22 12:46 AM
1	California Binding Contract? I would recommend using lawyers — find ones who hold themselves out as mediators if you want a more amicable divorce. You can also Google “California Marital Settlement Agreement”. I found a sample form on the www.courts.ca.gov website that will give you an idea of the kinds of things you need to agree on. Good luck!	/r/Divorce_Men	16/06/22 05:36 AM
2	I am stuck Have you tried EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing therapy) tor the PTSD? Sounds strange to me but my daughter works with therapists and has seen some amazing results from it. Might be worth looking into.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/10/21 02:39 PM
5	I am stuck Sounds to me like you want to try to make the relationship work. (“She honestly is my best friend” and “we love each other but are not in love with each other” are not the words of someone desperate to find the exit but afraid of what he will encounter on the other side.) If she wants to try as well (which you only find out by talking about it and then seeing if actions match words), you might try couples therapy (again?). The problem is breaking bad patterns of interacting that you both probabl…	/r/Divorce_Men	20/10/21 02:08 PM
1	Wife and I moving toward divorce. Unsure of a lot but we want to do as amicable as possible and avoid lawyers and court. Just mediation is possible ? Anyone have experience in this outcome without a messy court situation and lawyers ? Thanks for help Amicable divorce is possible; I’m not sure divorce without a lawyer is, though. Both my ex and I are lawyers and we considered hiring a single mediator, but the ones I spoke with said there is an inherent conflict of interest in “representing” both sides and they wouldn’t do it. So ex and I each hired lawyers who held themselves out as mediators and did a lot of the work ourselves to keep expenses down. There is a lot to consider, even in a friendly divorce, and it is good to have someone helpin…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/09/21 08:02 PM