koeselitzz Archive

Upvotes	Title	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
9	Five Important Things Women Don’t Know About Men	koeselitzz	/r/MensRights	10/02/13 04:21 AM
5	Alexis Ohanian: “It's irresponsible to continue to act as though we are victims.”	koeselitzz	/r/MensRights	25/03/13 10:01 PM
3	"Women’s liberation has often been portrayed as a movement intent on encroaching upon or taking power and privilege away from men, as though in some dismal zero-sum game, only one gender at a time cou	koeselitzz	/r/MensRights	24/01/13 10:32 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Why don't you just grow some balls? This is true everywhere in the United States. However, I notice that what other people have said here is true - in British Columba, you are automatically considered to be common-law married if you live with a partner for more than two years. There seem to be similar laws in other parts of Canada.	/r/MensRights	29/03/13 02:07 PM
2	Sexual Harassment and Double Standards I agree, but I don't think you even need to record her. Make sure reporting can be done safely and confidentially, and report her now. If I were you, I wouldn't want to have to endure that for even five more minutes.	/r/MensRights	28/03/13 10:55 PM
4	Why don't you just grow some balls? It's state by state, but there are actually very few (if any) US states that have some instant marriage that descends on you automatically after you cohabitate for a while. In every state I know of, both parties have to signal that they consider themselves to be in a marriage - and those signals have to be explicit, not just sharing a bed or something. edit: It's worth reading about this, since there's a lot of misinformation. Basically, it's a lot more difficult to get "entrapped" into a common…	/r/MensRights	28/03/13 10:46 PM
2	I need feminism because men aren't psychic! [X-post from /r/TumblrInAction] Who said anything about feminism?	/r/MensRights	28/03/13 03:09 PM
2	No means no. Yes may also mean no. Basically, all heterosexual sex is possible rape. The point in itself isn't that confusing, is it? If someone is so drunk they can't stand, then it doesn't mean much if they say "yes I want to have sex with you." This is also a pretty big thing feminists are trying to advocate for. The point is that getting consent isn't about getting someone to say a magic word; there are a number of indicators, including age, general sobriety, mental health, and the things a person is saying. It isn't incredibly complicated, I don't think; and it's not an unf…	/r/MensRights	28/03/13 02:33 AM
1	Huffington Post: "If you like big boobs, you're probably a sexist." As a feminist, I feel like I should say this is bullshit - and the Huff Post, which makes its bread and butter on bullshit "SIDEBOOBZ!!!" articles, has absolutely no right to tell us that liking boobs is in any way sexist.	/r/MensRights	28/03/13 01:39 AM
4	No means no. Yes may also mean no. Basically, all heterosexual sex is possible rape. That's not what the sign says. Look, sometimes when a victim says "yes" it's still rape. If the victim is intoxicated to the point where they clearly can't consent, or if the victim is too young to cogently consent, then, whether they are a male or a female, they have not actually consented to sex, and it's rape. I feel like a lot of people here probably agree with this, so I'm not sure why it's such a difficult point to understand.	/r/MensRights	28/03/13 01:35 AM
-8	I need feminism because men aren't psychic! [X-post from /r/TumblrInAction] She's not muddying the waters at all. The line remains clear. If someone (male or female) is intoxicated to the point of losing the ability to cogently consent or is under the age of consent, then their "yes" still means "no." And I feel like most people here must agree with that... right?	/r/MensRights	28/03/13 01:28 AM
1	This Was on CNN's Front Page No, it's implying that men in society today are socialized to be rapists, and we have to work to counteract that socialization. And that does seem to be the case, as far as I can tell. It isn't blaming males as a group or anything like that to say that society is fucked up where rape is concerned.	/r/MensRights	25/03/13 10:07 PM
1	"I am tired of rape culture in the gaming world." by Gaming As Women So, ma'am... I am a man. With a penis and everything. Throughout our society there is nothing save murder (and even that's up for debate) worse than raping a woman. Even being accused of it (and later found not guilty) is enough to destroy a man's reputation. And yet we hear jokes about men being raped in prison all the time and in the most polite settings. When boys are young they're told not to get in trouble because you know what they'd do to someone as pretty as you in prison wink wink Yeah,…	/r/MensRights	08/03/13 04:58 AM
6	"I am tired of rape culture in the gaming world." by Gaming As Women It's pretty clear that this isn't true, factually - that's not how the term "Rape Culture" was coined. But that doesn't matter. Honestly, as far as "Rape Culture" in games is concerned, I don't even think this is an issue where gender even matters. It's a problem. It's a problem when teenaged kids get used to the fact that "ha ha gonna rape you" is a joke - whether they are male or female, whether the victim is male or female. I notice, incidentally, that if the person they're joking about rapin…	/r/MensRights	07/03/13 11:18 PM
4	"I am tired of rape culture in the gaming world." by Gaming As Women But JabCross claimed the term "Rape Culture" was coined to describe society's approval of prison rape. Factually, that's pretty clearly not true, right?	/r/MensRights	07/03/13 11:15 PM
-1	A Tumblr user's infograph on how 'Reverse Sexism' against Men doesn't exist, and 4chan /pol/'s (slightly juvenile) response to it Man, I hate to say it, but this chart makes sense. As a man, pretty much all of the sexism against me that I've encountered has come from other men demanding that I "man up" or otherwise belittling me for not measuring up to their standards of what manhood is supposed to be. In my entire life, I've only had one woman do that to me, and it sucked, but it was nothing compared to the bullshit I've gotten from other men. I mean, I'm not trying to blame men as a gender here. I just think that there r…	/r/MensRights	27/02/13 02:45 AM
1	So, some feminists think that the Oscars were sexist and misogynist. Can someone explain to me how this is promoting hate against women by men? Yeah, I'll try to keep that in mind the next time I hire somebody to host the Oscars.	/r/MensRights	25/02/13 10:37 PM
2	White Knighting and Misogyny "White knight" is a slur that is consistently used to shut down conversation. If you think someone's arguments are wrong, say why; don't use a shorthand insult just to try to drive people off without being coherent or adding to a discussion.	/r/MensRights	25/02/13 08:19 PM
2	A Kickstarter comparison In addition to being misspelled, this doesn't make sense. By this logic, there is no white-against-black racism in society because I can give an example of one black person who's better off than one white person.	/r/MensRights	24/02/13 03:34 PM
1	Ever been accused of "mansplaining"? It's an annoying term, but I've come to realize that for the women who use it "mansplaining" just means having a male talk down to them. This seems to be a common experience that lots of women have: men talking down to them and acting as though everything must be explained to them as though they were children simply because they don't have a penis. It pissed me off at first, but I came to accept that (a) they weren't talking about every man that explains something, only a certain specific phenom…	/r/MensRights	10/02/13 06:29 AM
-3	The "MRA's are pussies" canard They actually believe that we think that we're oppressed by females when the fact of the matter is that we're being oppressed by other men. Then why "men's rights?" Why not just "rights?"	/r/MensRights	10/02/13 06:12 AM
3	Apparently "privilege week" is a thing on college campuses now. If you missed your privilege check-in on the quad yesterday you should probably expect a visit from the femistasi soon for questioning. Femistasi? Seriously? Our society has a lot of problems, but we're not East Germany in the 1970s. I think making these kinds of riffs only makes these things worse.	/r/MensRights	05/02/13 08:23 PM
6	Study: Husbands who do more housework have less sex \| Science \| an SFGate.com Don't know why you got downvoted when you're right. Housework shouldn't be a function of sex, and vice versa. Not sure what this has to do with anything, to be honest.	/r/MensRights	30/01/13 11:33 PM
2	The only thing that sometimes bothers me about living in San Francisco is seeing flyers like this at a bar. I'm still not really getting why ending rape - which is all that gender violence is, really - is such a bad goal. Yes, that includes male-on-male rape and the far more rare but no less serious female-on-male rape. Rape seems like a big enough problem to tackle. Ending all violence everywhere of every kind seems like - well, I wouldn't even know where you would start.	/r/MensRights	28/01/13 09:24 AM
4	The only thing that sometimes bothers me about living in San Francisco is seeing flyers like this at a bar. Well, I imagine they are against violence. But there's nothing wrong with working to end specific problems, is there? And isn't it understandable that women would want to work to end the kinds of violence of which they are overwhelmingly more likely to be the victims, like sexual assault?	/r/MensRights	28/01/13 08:52 AM
6	The only thing that sometimes bothers me about living in San Francisco is seeing flyers like this at a bar. What's wrong with being against gender violence? Even if not all violence has gender as a component, it's hard to deny that some of it does. Right?	/r/MensRights	28/01/13 07:29 AM
0	"Women’s liberation has often been portrayed as a movement intent on encroaching upon or taking power and privilege away from men, as though in some dismal zero-sum game, only one gender at a time cou They are generally biased toward the progressive and against the conservative, but that's not really the point. The point is that their criticisms of Sommers in that article are accurate.	/r/MensRights	25/01/13 05:07 AM
0	"Women’s liberation has often been portrayed as a movement intent on encroaching upon or taking power and privilege away from men, as though in some dismal zero-sum game, only one gender at a time cou I've read them. I read them before commenting or posting. It's funny; people always insist this. But I've never experienced it. So I guess either I'm not an actual man, or men aren't actually oppressed as a class.	/r/MensRights	25/01/13 05:05 AM
-1	"Women’s liberation has often been portrayed as a movement intent on encroaching upon or taking power and privilege away from men, as though in some dismal zero-sum game, only one gender at a time cou This article establishes clearly that, regardless of anyone's status under the law, women are overwhelmingly more often the victims of sexual violence, and overwhelmingly more often at the hands of men. That is the problem. It needs to be dealt with. One can say that dealing with that violence is not as important as "oppression" of men, but as a man, I find that dubious. Some men might meet with oppression; but as a class, men are not oppressed, at least in American society.	/r/MensRights	25/01/13 04:03 AM
0	"Women’s liberation has often been portrayed as a movement intent on encroaching upon or taking power and privilege away from men, as though in some dismal zero-sum game, only one gender at a time cou Christina Sommers has a long history of making factual errors and mistakes in her essays. Here's a pretty good overview from the group Fairness and Accuracy in Reporting (FAIR) of what she gets wrong in her "rape myths" article and in her book, "Stolen Feminism": http://fair.org/extra-online-articles/the-stolen-feminism-hoax/	/r/MensRights	25/01/13 03:55 AM
0	"Women’s liberation has often been portrayed as a movement intent on encroaching upon or taking power and privilege away from men, as though in some dismal zero-sum game, only one gender at a time cou I think it's a tremendous mistake to believe that men aren't acknowledged as equal human beings with equal worth and equal rights. That article goes out of its way to do so at several points. The fact that violence is gendered does not mean men are bad.	/r/MensRights	24/01/13 11:55 PM
30	Recieved this in an email... Guess I won't apply ): Just a note - acceptance might actually be based solely on ability. "We encourage these groups to apply" is not the same thing as "we will weight their applications higher than others." It may seem weird, but I'd actually prefer to see this kind of "encouragement," because it can be an indication that they want to increase their "diversity" (to attract funding) but aren't willing to water down their standards - so they're reduced to just begging women and minorities to apply more. So basically w…	/r/MensRights	24/01/13 11:42 PM
0	"Women’s liberation has often been portrayed as a movement intent on encroaching upon or taking power and privilege away from men, as though in some dismal zero-sum game, only one gender at a time cou How is the "one in five" stat bullshit? Edit: also, I'm not sure which bus rape you're talking about where a guy tried to defend a girl - she lists at least half a dozen similar incidents. And she hardly talks about the one in India at all anyway. Edit 2: no, actually I'm pretty sure you're wrong. "The New Delhi rape and murder of Jyoti Singh Pandey, the 23-year-old who was studying physiotherapy so that she could better herself while helping others, and the assault on her male companion (who su…	/r/MensRights	24/01/13 11:11 PM
-3	came across this twisted logic on facebook Patriarchy is a hierarchy based on the distinctions between men and women; gender-conforming men are most privileged, gender-conforming women are second most privileged, and non-gender-conforming women and men are at the bottom. So both women and men are forced, in a patriarchal system, to conform to gender roles that are often cruel and ill-fitting. If you want to be a man in this kind of system, you must be brutish and strong and aggressive. You cannot show interest in "feminine" subjects like…	/r/MensRights	16/11/12 07:39 PM
-1	came across this twisted logic on facebook I don't think it's really that weird to believe that the same sexism that hurts women also hurts men. This is in fact what most feminists believe.	/r/MensRights	16/11/12 05:26 PM
18	Its only child rape if a man does it. As a feminist, I find this article execrable. There are plenty of 15-year-old girls who have sexual desires; that's natural, just like it's natural for 15-year-old boys. Turning that into some justification, even a partial justification, for sexual abuse of 15-year-old boys by women is disgusting and a violation. Boys deserve the same respect and protection as girls. The fact that that's a radical notion is both frightening and revealing. It's also interesting to think about what this woman woul…	/r/MensRights	14/11/12 11:46 PM
1	Why we need feminism http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=245209575607662&set=a.245207875607832.56535.145767228885231&type=1&theater	/r/MensRights	13/11/12 12:20 AM
0	"So... women have a broader understanding of reality." This idealization of the sensitive person is stupid and self-serving to the intellectual class. What, so now I can't be an actual man because I'm an intellectual? And I can't defend myself because I'm sensitive? This is exactly what I'm talking about: the stigmatization of particular kinds of men by a sexist society that demands that men only be a certain way.	/r/MensRights	08/11/12 09:29 PM
-1	"So... women have a broader understanding of reality." I'm not being dishonest. It's the argument the author is making (which the professor is explaining.) She's arguing that boys are forced to "be tough" and "be strong," and as a result they aren't allowed to approach the world as broadly as women. Which seems true to me; it's part of sexist culture that consistently victimizes men and forces them to adhere to a bullshit gender role. Women, on the other hand, tend to receive more nurture, and aren't stigmatized for expressing feelings or sensitivit…	/r/MensRights	08/11/12 08:56 PM
-2	"So... women have a broader understanding of reality." It's clearly not a valuational statement. The point isn't that women are superior to men; it's that women as a class (not as a gender) are raised to approach the world differently than men. Doesn't this seem to be true?	/r/MensRights	08/11/12 08:31 PM
-3	"So... women have a broader understanding of reality." Wow, that's not taken out of context at all, is it?	/r/MensRights	08/11/12 04:15 PM
4	Oh boy here we go... "Cunt bullshit"? "Thunder-cunt"? Goddamn. Using "dick" and "penis-head" and all that as an insult is wrong; it's wrong to use gendered insults and imply that they're bad people because they're male. People do this all the time, and we're right to call them on the bullshit that implies that all males are aggressive jerks. But the moral high ground kinda dissipates when we use shitty gendered insults right back. Right?	/r/MensRights	01/11/12 03:30 AM
1	I live in a part of California where any domestic violence call will result in the arrest and prosecution of the male party regardless of the facts surrounding the incident. As a result, I am in a domestic violence class to avoid harsh penalties. AMA. Hit the nail right on the head! One instance of shouting constitutes abuse and should be prosecuted. Yeah, that's basically the opposite of what I said. It constitutes a milder form of abuse and should not be prosecuted or punished. And it wasn't in this case. Which is good; the system is apparently sane enough to see that a guy who only did this once is absolutely not a criminal. Multiple women I am very close to have been severely abused in their lives, you trivialize the shit they go through …	/r/MensRights	31/10/12 02:43 PM
0	I live in a part of California where any domestic violence call will result in the arrest and prosecution of the male party regardless of the facts surrounding the incident. As a result, I am in a domestic violence class to avoid harsh penalties. AMA. It's funny that when you fight back and stand up to a bully that you aren't dating, it's considered justice. I don't think I would consider it justice, though. I know there's a lot of bullshit floating around these days, and plenty of people are delighted to see abusers get abused right back. I'm not; I don't think it solves anything. There might be some sense in which "standing up to a bully" is something worthwhile, but bullying a bully doesn't seem like the way to do it to me. I think this is…	/r/MensRights	30/10/12 10:29 PM
0	I live in a part of California where any domestic violence call will result in the arrest and prosecution of the male party regardless of the facts surrounding the incident. As a result, I am in a domestic violence class to avoid harsh penalties. AMA. I agree - sometimes that's what it takes to walk away. And when there's a family involved, things can get a lot tougher, I know. But anything is better than sticking around with someone who's abusing you.	/r/MensRights	30/10/12 08:48 PM
-1	I live in a part of California where any domestic violence call will result in the arrest and prosecution of the male party regardless of the facts surrounding the incident. As a result, I am in a domestic violence class to avoid harsh penalties. AMA. What I was saying was this: as far as I can tell, nobody technically got "punished" here. He is ostensibly getting help dealing with what happened. (I agree that that depends on the quality of the program; as someone who has been on both sides of them, administering and receiving, I can say that sometimes they're terrible and sometimes they're pretty good.) In a just world, she would get help for her habitual abusiveness, which sounds like a long-term problem. I agree - that is important. I thin…	/r/MensRights	30/10/12 08:43 PM
-4	I live in a part of California where any domestic violence call will result in the arrest and prosecution of the male party regardless of the facts surrounding the incident. As a result, I am in a domestic violence class to avoid harsh penalties. AMA. You admitted above that you did something wrong, right? I'm not saying you "deserve" punishment - it sounds like you did a deal to avoid punishment, and I think that's exactly what should have happened. I've been arrested before, on multiple occasions. I know how incredibly shitty that can be. That, in itself, is something I wouldn't wish on anybody. But at the same time I can't really see the horrible injustice in your case here; you won't have a criminal record, you won't do any time. The only…	/r/MensRights	30/10/12 08:32 PM
-6	I live in a part of California where any domestic violence call will result in the arrest and prosecution of the male party regardless of the facts surrounding the incident. As a result, I am in a domestic violence class to avoid harsh penalties. AMA. So, to recap: Your partner was verbally abusive to you. You had an argument, and you "snapped on her with a verbal onslaught that would scare and belittle anyone." She called the cops, and you were immediately arrested. In court, they offered not to charge you or give you jail time or a criminal record, and in exchange you have to take a class on domestic violence. As a guy who's been in similar circumstances, let me say: it seems like the system is working here. You shouted at somebody in a way…	/r/MensRights	30/10/12 05:52 PM
1	A real feminist at work!!!! The fact that her fantasy was misplaced is the whole point of the essay, I think. She's saying that, instead of telling herself "shut up, I need to play nice and just accept this even though it's unjust," she's realizing she can take that anger and turn it into something constructive. Which is something I feel like people here can probably relate to.	/r/MensRights	27/10/12 11:01 PM
19	A real feminist at work!!!! That's a good essay, and one that is worth reading carefully. I don't think there's anybody who hasn't felt that kind of rage at mundane, boring, everyday injustice. And if that rage can be captured and used, as she says at the end of the essay, by "linking it instead to a passion for freedom and justice that illuminates, heals, and makes redemptive struggle possible," then it stops being an impotent, pointless anger and starts being a force for good. Murder fantasies are common. Everybody has t…	/r/MensRights	27/10/12 04:12 PM
1	MISANDRY – Sexist Pigs, Female Chauvinists I kind of feel like calling anybody a "sexist pig" for any reason is probably not only unnecessarily insulting but more importantly pointless. Isn't it? Prejudice is hard to root out; the only way to do it effectively (I think) is to avoid personalizing it and turning it into an insult, to instead say something like: "hey, this is not intended as an insult, but the thing you just said was really sexist. All dads are not deadbeats (just as an example) and it hurts everybody when you talk as thoug…	/r/MensRights	26/10/12 01:59 AM
1	Obama on rape: "politicians -- especially male politicians -- shouldn't be making decisions about women's health care (video)" As far as I can tell, a majority of women (and men) in the US believe abortion should be legal. To start with, there's a 2003 CBS/NYT poll cited here which found that 76% of women, and 80% of men, believe abortion should be legal. That's a pretty big majority.	/r/MensRights	25/10/12 09:15 PM
2	Stop imprisoning women? Really? Sexist "fairer sex" bullshit aside, I think this actually might be good idea (at least in the US, not sure about the UK) - if applied equally to both sexes. Here is a good argument for the abolition of prison: Raise The Crime Rate One of the essential things here for me is that the majority of rape victims in the US today are men who are in prison. This extremely serious problem is only one of the issues with the continued existence of prison, but it must not be swept under the rug. People nowad…	/r/MensRights	23/10/12 08:16 PM