kolumbia Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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2	[FR]: I moved my way out of the friendzone i don't get why you assume that they were awkward and slow flirtations. they weren't. all i'm saying is that there are more steps involved when seducing a good friend. many more layers to unpack. negotiating the relationship is inherently more complex. that means more time and a sense of respect. it should be obvious to anyone. 'seduction' doesn't mean plowing ahead with reckless abandon for every given situation. you don't just 'escalate kino' in 7 hours the moment you decide to bang your very …	/r/seduction	21/11/11 03:09 PM
2	[FR]: I moved my way out of the friendzone just to contextualize it, i dated other girls during those 1.5 years that i was best friends with this girl. i literally started 'seducing' my current gf as soon as i got out of my last relationship. trust me, i was moving	/r/seduction	21/11/11 02:57 PM
7	[FR]: I moved my way out of the friendzone It's a nice little slogan, but you ignore the reality of what it's like to navigate the path between close platonic friend and potential mate. The dynamic is completely different from seducing a stranger. There is a legitimate fear of ruining a good friendship, so intimacy needs to be negotiated more respectfully. It's not about being timid - it's really about being wise. Done correctly, this can lead to some of the most rewarding relationships. I've been dating my current girl for 11 months now…	/r/seduction	20/11/11 08:30 AM
9	[FR]: I moved my way out of the friendzone I think that applies more for cold pickups. With a close friend (and this is speaking as someone who also successfully moved out of the friendzone).. it pays to be more deliberate with escalating physical intimacy. It's a sign of respect.	/r/seduction	20/11/11 03:39 AM
12	[FR] First ever OkCupid date, unexpectedly cute girl, f-close. So I get this conversation go with a faily pretty 21-year old student with a wonderful geeky edge on her profile. Okay... Not what you'd expect from a 19-year old on an online dating site, man, I'm still impressed thinking back of it. Eh??	/r/seduction	16/09/11 04:56 PM
6	Seddit, help! I know I made a LOT of mistakes when trying to woo this girl (before reading seddit). How do I salvage it? a. stop doing those mistakes you listed. now b. start talking to other women. and by talking i don't mean write them love letters. but make it clear that you're not just stuck on this one chick c. maintain friendship w/ the girl you like, but tease her playfully, neg her, and basically lower her value a little (she probably considers herself much higher value than you at this point) d. stop obsessing over this one girl. it's called oneitis. getting rid of this will mentally free you from caring …	/r/seduction	18/03/11 04:12 PM
1	[FR] WTF happened? Major bitch shield. Hopefully you're familiar with the concept by now. Hot girls get hit on 23492324x more than guys, so they get really good at faking personality flaws in order to purposely turn off unwanted guys. It's almost never that they're fundamentally bad or bitchy people - Mystery says that almost every HB9-10 turned out to be a really caring, nice, genuine human being once he finally got to know them. The bitch shield is well choreographed act that only the hot girl is able to pull of…	/r/seduction	18/03/11 04:08 PM
56	Kino from a girl's perspective Two points, and this is all you need to know: 1. It's really about congruency. Basically, if you have this guy who is kino-ing like mad, but the rest of his demeanor and lifestlye seems incongruent with someone who would be comfortable kino-ing, then girls pick up on this. Girls would have no objection to someone using lots of kino if they backed it up with a killer attitude, fun vibes, confidence, lots of social proof, etc. But if he just kinos without anything to back it up, it WILL come acros…	/r/seduction	13/03/11 04:51 AM
3	Nice Guys can get girls. Douchebags get more. Go out to the club, see all the hot girls with douchebags. Conclusion? Well to me the most obvious one isn't "Oh there just aren't a lot of confident guys so women are forced to go with these douchebags." It's that women like douchebags. The 7's that you know hook up with either confident guys or douchebags. The 8+'s? Yeah well they hook up with guys who are confident and douchebags. Believe it or not, a lot of quality women don't like assholes. That being said, club rats (the kind that you appa…	/r/seduction	08/03/11 05:30 PM
2	[FR] First date with a girl, going swimmingly until I went for the kiss This should help: http://www.bestpuatraining.com/qualification	/r/seduction	05/03/11 01:40 AM
37	[FR] First date with a girl, going swimmingly until I went for the kiss It's not that she wanted to get to know you better. She wanted you to get to know HER better. Very often, last minute resistance (from actual high value girls, that is) is caused by you not qualifying HER enough. She has to feel like she earned you if you kiss her; otherwise, she just feels seduced - she has no reason to believe that she's not just 'another one of his girls, after all, he's high value'. It's more than just being alpha or having social proof, it's making her prove to YOU why she …	/r/seduction	04/03/11 11:19 PM