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| 14 | Cost of marriage/divorce vs child support | krinky_dink | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/22 09:37 PM |
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| 0 | You don’t need to save women from ChadI’m in my early 20s and have never dated with a concerning age gap, so don’t accuse me of being the creepy old guy here but I don’t get the “they’re practically kids” argument. No they aren’t, they’re adults, they can join the army, they can vote, they pay taxes. 18 and over = full adult, idk why that’s a hard thing to understand. You can’t just move the goal posts constantly, there has to be a cut off somewhere on what is an adult and what isn’t, and it seems like that’s inarguably 18 (unless y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/22 06:25 PM |
| 5 | What exactly qualifies as a high n count "bodycount" to people on this sub?The likely baggage that can come along with that many exes, can be an indicator of how casual and noncommittal someone views sex or values themselves. If I’m going to have kids with someone I don’t want my daughter raised the same way. If we split or I pass away I don’t want my kids getting dragged along for “finding myself” phase 2. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/22 05:01 AM |
| 3 | What exactly qualifies as a high n count "bodycount" to people on this sub?Too many for casual dating? Probably not. Too many for to consider marriage? It starts to become a consideration at 10. Not saying that makes someone a hoe, just not for me. When things start getting serious to the point conversations about the future need to occur or it needs to end before feelings get too deep is usually when I’d start asking deal breaker questions I don’t already know the answer to. I haven’t gotten to that point without a girl telling me on their own before though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/22 04:55 AM |
| 8 | What exactly qualifies as a high n count "bodycount" to people on this sub?If your BC is more than a R6 lobby, you will not ever meet my mommy 🤷♂️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/22 04:22 AM |
| 1 | Why is it a bad deal?STDs and exclusivity | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/22 01:24 PM |
| 16 | Does unconditional love truly exist?No. If someone cheated, started beating you every day, doing drugs, all without remorse at all and continued doing it nobody would continue loving that person. Maybe you can love who they used to be but not who they are. There’s always somethings you can do that are unforgivable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/22 12:23 AM |
| 9 | Why is it a bad deal?You unironically believe you're incapable of seeing someone again if you put out on the first date? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/22 12:07 AM |
| 7 | Why is it a bad deal?Because they aren't mutually exclusive. You can smash them just as fast and still get to know them. If you're really into a dude like that what sense does it make not to put out just as fast you did for complete strangers? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/22 12:04 AM |
| 2 | [Question4All] would you date someone who doesnt match your vaccine status?Dr, but I don’t actually care that much, it was mostly a joke. Are you immuno compromised or something? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/22 12:08 AM |
| 6 | [Question4All] would you date someone who doesnt match your vaccine status?The real conspiracy theorists are the ones who think it’s all going to be OK. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/22 12:05 AM |
| 2 | [Question4All] would you date someone who doesnt match your vaccine status?What if you're a medical professional and in your own professional opinion you don't need it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/22 11:58 PM |
| 7 | [Question4All] would you date someone who doesnt match your vaccine status?Unvaxed and I'm along those lines. That's a very fair take that I respect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/22 11:14 PM |
| 1 | [Question4All] would you date someone who doesnt match your vaccine status?I don't have a double standard when it comes to "your body your choice" so ya. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/22 11:12 PM |
| 0 | If age gap relationships are frowned upon due to an experience gap, then can’t the same be said if a higher n count woman dates a man with a lower n count?Only one of those studies is even remotely applicable to this scenario. One refers to minors (which as I already stated is a groomer issue rather than an age gap issue), and one is about end of life care (obviously a 90 year old guy can't exactly care for his 70 old wife very well, but that's pretty irrelevant here). I'd also like to point out you are trying to use a stereo type as evidence lol. "The stereo type that they're bad exists so its true even though I can't present evidence of it." Doe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/22 12:28 AM |
| 3 | If age gap relationships are frowned upon due to an experience gap, then can’t the same be said if a higher n count woman dates a man with a lower n count?Ah, just wanted to make sure lol. I actually did find a study indicating that age gaps (and thus male maturity) were correlated with decreased IPV. https://bmcpublichealth.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12889-018-5118-1 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 06:03 PM |
| 1 | If age gap relationships are frowned upon due to an experience gap, then can’t the same be said if a higher n count woman dates a man with a lower n count?I can't tell if that's directed at me or the person making statistical claims with nothing to support them who I was replying to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 05:55 PM |
| 1 | Do BJs and the frequency of sex decline after marriage?That’s exactly what I’m saying. I think we’re on the same page. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 05:49 PM |
| 2 | Do BJs and the frequency of sex decline after marriage?However bad it is to say, the knowledge/fear that they can just leave if you don't act right is just as big a part of the "never stop dating them" thing. When dating it's a balanced cycle. Want to keep a partner from leaving, keep them happy, happy partners do nice things, repeat. When one has no fear their partner will leave even if they consistently aren't happy in the relationship that gets out of balance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 05:13 PM |
| 1 | Do BJs and the frequency of sex decline after marriage?Oh me to. It was a great learning experience if nothing else. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 04:39 PM |
| 2 | Do BJs and the frequency of sex decline after marriage?I did not. I was talked into believing it was "just a rough patch." I know better now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 04:33 PM |
| 4 | Do BJs and the frequency of sex decline after marriage?Not married but it happened in a long term relationship of mine almost immediately after moving in together and moving to a new area. My theory is the need/motivation to keep you happy sharply declines once the relationship progresses to a point that there are steep barriers keeping you from just leaving if you aren't happy. Things were great until moving. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 03:53 PM |
| 1 | If women were genuinely concerned for their safety with men, they would avoid alcohol moreCan we get a dislike button here? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 03:00 PM |
| – | If women were genuinely concerned for their safety with men, they would avoid alcohol moreI'm a dude and I still don't get drunk drunk in public, it's just way too big of a liability and makes you exponentially more vulnerable to anyone with bad intentions, whether those intentions be manipulation, robbery or assault. Don't get blackout drunk around people you don't trust seems like pretty good advice for just about everyone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 03:00 PM |
| – | If women were genuinely concerned for their safety with men, they would avoid alcohol morehave a good time without the burden of a safe drinking environment falling on potential victims? The predators are the problem "Why can't pedestrians just walk across the street without looking without the burden of not gettin run over being on them? The cars are the problem" Obviously they're still the victim and there's no excuse for assault, but regardless predators are out there and we know that. Realistically there's no way to identify them much less unilaterally get rid of them. "Why don't… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 02:56 PM |
| 3 | If age gap relationships are frowned upon due to an experience gap, then can’t the same be said if a higher n count woman dates a man with a lower n count?Source ~ "trust me bro" Even if that's true correlation isn't causation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 02:25 PM |
| 2 | If age gap relationships are frowned upon due to an experience gap, then can’t the same be said if a higher n count woman dates a man with a lower n count?They only have that similar thing because you added that similar thing. Are those things any better without an age gap? Is an abusive/controlling relationship with same aged people superior than that of one with an age gap? Is a relationship with a power dynamic difference (CEO and secretary) but no age gap any less coercive than one where there is an age gap? Is gold digging any different with similarly aged people and people with an age gap? Slapping "with an age gap" onto an already not good … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 01:58 PM |
| 3 | If age gap relationships are frowned upon due to an experience gap, then can’t the same be said if a higher n count woman dates a man with a lower n count?It doesn't sound like many of those you listed are specifically age gap issues, but rather grooming+an age gap, or gold digging+ an age gap, or coercion+ an age gap. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 01:09 PM |
| 1 | If age gap relationships are frowned upon due to an experience gap, then can’t the same be said if a higher n count woman dates a man with a lower n count?Nobody is actually opposed to age gaps because of an "experience gap" (aside from a genuine groomer situation). They oppose it because it's pretty damn hard to compete with young, fit women with less baggage and no kids, so they'd rather shame you out of pursuing them by saying it's "weird and creepy" to date them, and that you should settle for them instead. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 01:07 PM |
| 12 | The importance of male look shouldn’t be a topic of controversy.The one that’s like $30k, they break your legs and your bed bound for months with pegs sticking out of your legs 😂? I know of it but it’s not really a viable or worth while option for 99.999% of men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/22 05:36 AM |
| 2 | what's the psychology behind serial cheating/ compulsive lying?They lie afterwards because they have nothing to loose. Option A) they feds up, taking responsibility for their actions (don’t laugh), knowing you’re going to dump them and probably out them as a cheater. Option B) Deny deny deny, probably still get dumped but there’s a small change they squirm out of it. If they get dumped anyways they can still deny to others that they cheated making it a he said/she said thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 04:20 PM |
| 38 | The importance of male look shouldn’t be a topic of controversy.I think it’s more a matter of men knowing there’s only so much they can do about it than lying to each other that it doesn’t matter. Men don’t get makeup, they can’t make themselves taller (or longer). They can get in shape and get a better hair cut, but that’s about it. Men encourage men to improve what they can and not bother worrying about things that they can’t in my experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 04:15 PM |
| 11 | are women allowed to have fun in their youth according to the red pillWomen can do whatever they want to do. However as we've established men are usually the gatekeepers of commitment, and will usually want to know what someones background is before committing. Jobs/employers/banks/apartments will deny committing even temporarily to someone because of what their background turns up. If you had a "committing felonies phase" in your youth many jobs won't commit to hiring you due to the risk you'll do it again. Even if you tell them "this job opening didn't exist whe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 11:41 AM |
| 1 | what age should you prioritize marriage?This post wasn't about how to make marriages work, it was about what age it should become a priority. You seem to be of the mindset of "looks and age and wealth don't matter at all". I am not of that mindset, but I understand why that could be a hill you're willing to die on regardless of what evidence I present so I won't debate it with you any longer. I will agree that no amount of looks or youth will compensate for a bad attitude, which I specifically said, numerous times, "all else being equ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/22 03:27 AM |
| 1 | what age should you prioritize marriage?People marry the most desirable spouse they are capable of attracting. Find me a middle aged millionaire who married another 40+ year old women and not one in her 20s or early 30s. Most millionaires with wives their own age married them before they were well off enough to do better, or married them when they were both younger. Again, there are exceptions, this is just a general rule, so I'm not saying you're universally wrong, do what you think works best for you. Study proving well off men marr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/22 02:16 AM |
| 1 | what age should you prioritize marriage?You sound like a very cool headed person capable of having a non-emotion driven and logical conversation about differing of opinions. All other things being equal, why would a man marry a 45 year old over a 22 year old (again, all else being equal). Vice versa, all else being equal, why would a woman marry a cashier over a 6-7 figure per year business owner? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/22 02:03 AM |
| 0 | what age should you prioritize marriage?I can say a rock I found in a parking lot is worth $5 billion dollars but that means nothing if no one is willing to pay that. Its value is determined by what others are willing to pay. What makes a diamond valuable is peoples willingness to pay for it, not the price tag the seller slaps on it. A person can say they're valuable as a spouse, but that means just about nothing if no one they want is willing to marry them. It's literally the definition of economic value. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/22 01:41 AM |
| 0 | what age should you prioritize marriage?Well your value as a spouse is determined more by your potential spouse than you, and vice versa. As I said there’s exceptions, you just have to find a spouse who see that the same way as you, or you already have in which case congratulations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/22 01:04 AM |
| 0 | what age should you prioritize marriage?When your value as a spouse is near/at its peak. Basic buy low sell high stuff. What would your potential spouse value in your? For men it’s usually stability, resources, and to arguably a lesser extent looks/youth. In general it’s reversed for women. Obviously these are gust general rules and there’s exceptions everywhere though. If you want to marry the best spouse you can get your best odds are to try when you are the best/most desirable spouse you can be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/22 12:18 AM |
| 6 | What’s the solution?There isn't one. Men and women have different goals and motivations in relationships and human nature is selfish there will always be contention to some extent. I think recognizing that and being able to attribute some people's behaviors to them pursuing their biological goals in a relationship rather than them being a malicious person is as good as it gets. I'm not saying we're all just slaves to biology, we can control ourselves, but our goals and motivations will always differ along sex/gende… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/22 05:30 AM |
| 1 | Dating spaces gaslight the absolutely living shit out of menThis is the same phenomenon as woman pulling out the ole reliable dodge answering your question + “you’re just insecure/controlling/untrusting” whenever you question their behavior or rationally challenge it as inconsistent with their supposed value of the relationship. I’d call it more manipulation that gaslighting but I feel like it’s it’s own very specific thing. They are so quick to go to these nonsequitir accusations because they know the only way for you to confront/deny them in a logical … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/22 08:20 AM |
| – | Question for the fellas. Do you believe in 2nd chances in forgiving cheating? Have you forgave cheating before in the past? Are there different levels to cheating?No. There are different levels of cheating, but they all constitute intentional/malicious disrespect and gross breach of trust. Unless you are genuinely incapable of finding a new replacement, the risk of future cheating and consequences of lost trust/respect will almost always outweigh the benefit of keeping your current cheating partner. You can forgive them without taking them back though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/22 01:32 AM |
| 1 | Cost of marriage/divorce vs child supportYa, I'm aware of that. You still pay child support in the event of a divorce, but in addition to the child support you risk loosing half of everything. I'm not talking about dipping with the intention of paying 18 years of child support. Ideally the situation would be coparenting/cohabitation that is a marriage in everyday except legally, and if it didn't work out I'd pay child support from the time it failed until they turn 18. The alternative would be getting married, having a kid, if they lea… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/22 02:24 AM |
| 3 | Cost of marriage/divorce vs child supportSounds like we are on exactly the same page and those numbers are exactly what I was looking for (was hoping for some child support numbers in addition to salary, but at least you don't have to worry about that. Still super helpful). Thank you | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/22 02:00 AM |
| 1 | Cost of marriage/divorce vs child supportI'm already aware of divorce statistics and how unpleasant divorce can be, and agree with you there. I am mostly trying to compare the apples to apples finances of potentially 18 years of child support vs a few years of coparenting in a marriage+divorce+10 years (or however many years until they turn 18) of child support. For me ideally, I'd like to coparent in an unofficial "marriage" (functionally a marriage but with no official marriage certificate). If it works out great, if it doesn't I don… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/22 01:41 AM |
| 1 | Cost of marriage/divorce vs child supportWhile that is a totally acceptable opinion to hold, that doesn't really address the questions I asked. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/22 10:38 PM |
| 4 | Cost of marriage/divorce vs child supportThat's the reason for me asking. I'd like to have kids and raise them in a stable 2 parent home. I just don't like the idea of a government enforced contract designed specifically to fuck me over if it doesn't work out. Plus I don't really thing a marriage license really keeps anyone from leaving, just drags it out into a more prolonged painful experience. I'm fine with a ceremony and cohabitation, etc, just not the loosing half my stuff if it doesn't work out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/22 10:06 PM |
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