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I also moved right before the pandemic. The worse timing for making friends ever apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 04:17 PM
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I had the same experience as a woman who moved to a new city in her mid 20s. Finding good men to date was a matter of patience - I just needed to go through many bad first dates until I found someone I clicked with, but essentially in a few months I had a serious boyfriend. I am now in my late 20s, still with the same boyfriend, engaged and expecting our first kid. Meanwhile I still struggle with building my social network here and I feel like I made very little progress. Most of my collegues ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 06:44 PM
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Just because you do well does not mean you do better than locals or better than other foreigners. Not saying it's about money or citizenship - it definitely isn't unless the country is severely poor, which in case of Europe, the vast majority of countries aren't. European women overwhelmingly aren't desperate enough to get with some loser for money and passport. And it's true that in any European country you will have a portion of women willing to date foreigners. In fact dating foreigners is pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 08:33 PM
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So western men could go to any country and do better than locals? You keep talking about Europe, but I am not sure if you realize that most of Europe has similar living standards to Australia? Or what exactly do you think makes you so much more interesting to European women than other European men? I genuinely don't get it. I am a European women, I have been dating both locals and foreigners, currently engaged to a foreigner (not from the Anglosphere) and it really never occured to me to give a …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 04:28 PM
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I always roll my eyes when some men say early 20s is a woman's peek and at that age she has the highest chance to find a very high value (as in, handsome, well off, intelligent) man. When I was in my early 20s, I got the attention of the following guys: much older than me (over 35) men who were actually married and were looking for a mistress, commitment-phobic guys in their late 20s and early 30s looking for "something casual" and targeting early 20s girls precisely because they thought we woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 07:07 PM
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Wow, so weird they don't want to give a random stranger their GFs/wife's number. I bet their GF/wives would be so very happy to hear that their partner is giving out their number to randos online, risking they will get stalked by some psycho. Are you even for real?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 10:06 AM
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I guess the crux at what i was getting at or trying to is more people giving up big careers like being a doctor , lawyer, banker, or engineer or something, that always requires being employed. I am really curious why are you interested in this question if you don't mind me asking? What makes you care if people give up their jobs?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 07:58 PM
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I am actually planning to stay at home for a year or two when we have our kid, but apart from taking care of the kid I am planning to use that time to prepare myself to expand a small family businesses that my mom owns. So becoming a stay at home wife for a while would be ok, but doing that indefinitely would absolutely not be ok no matter how much my partner makes. I like making my own money plus my mother won't be working forever, I like what she does and I don't want her project she spend so …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 07:40 PM
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I swear the ideas that some American conservatives have about countries like Hungary, Poland or the Czech Republic are crazy. Are the populations in these countries on average more conservative than the populations in, say, Netherlands or Sweden? Yes. But not in the capitals where all the expats flock. And not among the young demographic that these expats are trying to meet. There is not that much of a difference between a Dutch 25 year old girl and a Czech 25 year old girl nowadays - especially…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 09:20 AM
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I get that. I met my fiancé when I was 26 and he was 30. Sometimes I wish we met earlier, just to have more time together, more of these careless years when we had more free time and fewer worries. But then I remember what kind of person I was in the first half of my 20s and I realize if I would have met him then, possibly we would never get together. I was very much focused on my studies, I didn't want commitment, I wanted to spend semesters studying and working abroad, building my resumes and …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:23 PM
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Well it's stupid to only talk about the dessert. You seem to say that most people will automatically know it is supposed to mean a full meal, the whole dining experience, not just the dessert, but that is imho not true at all. The stereotype of men lying and manipulating women to get them into bed while skipping "the dinning" is super common. It's really everywhere in tv shows/movies/books, it's in fact a common plot of both comedic and serious stories. Even ignoring mass media, it is something …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 05:54 AM
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I would never argue with what you say if that was in fact the message. If the message was "I want to form a strong emotional, romantic and physical bond with a person of the opositie gender. I want a partner for life that I can love and be intimate with". If this was what the romantically unsuccessful men were saying here, then I would totally get it and I would feel bad for them. Instead the actual message is most often focused on sex only. Not on achieving an emotional bond, not on finding a c…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 06:52 PM
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But that's the thing. I had dried spells as well, I only had sex at 21, then again around 23-24 and then consistently only since 26 till now. It was not painful, I just had some FOMO from it occassionally. But I survived just fine. And you did too, because you knew if you really wanted to find someone, you eventually would. The guys who complain here complain either because they really cannot get anyone at all interested in them or they just actually complain about the lack of casual sex, not se…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 06:05 PM
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No, but the OP was suggesting that people who say sex is not a need would not last a few months without sex, as if not having sex for a few months is somehow super difficult. When in fact, completely regular people (not just those romantically unsuccesful/undesirable) go through dry spells very often - not just because of physical issues like pregnancy or illnesses, but also because many people focus on school/work and don't have time for dating. Or they don't want to commit to a relationship ye…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 05:45 PM
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Not, I am not trying to shit on all men. I am just trying to say that it's completely fine to go several months without sex when your partner is physically unable to have sex. It's just life. People get older, sick, women get pregnant. It's not healthy to be sex obsessed. Being a man is not an excuse to not manage your impluses. Everyone should know how to handle a dry spell period.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 01:25 PM
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She is talking about herself and her husband, who is presumably a man. Evidently some men can hold it together for a few months without complaining online that their "needs" are not met.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 08:42 AM
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Kids suck, man. I am a woman and my teenage years sucked a lot too. I went from a confident outgoing kid, to an awkward teen and it was harsh. Most of my female friends blossomed while I remained an ugly duckling. I experienced my fair share of cruel remarks by popular boys pursuing my attractive friends. I was lucky in a way, my facial features evened out more in my 20s, my skin improved a lot, I learnt how to work with my curly hair and this made me more attractive in my 20s. It still took a l…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 06:37 PM
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But when you say men want an “experienced” partner in bed, I mean yes, but…it doesn’t matter that much. As long as she isn’t a starfish, most men will happily oblige. I get that, but when I was 19-20, I felt like a freak because I was still a virgin and everyone I knew had sex by then. So I lied without thinking through the consequences. A few dates later I was confronted with the fact that my dates now thought I have experiences with both PIV and oral. I was too scared to just have sex with the…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 08:01 AM
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I was ghosted by a few guys and I have to admit I did ghost a couple guys myself and I do feel quite quilty about this, but the thing is that many people are just really trying to avoid confrontation. And I think women are more socialized to do this than men. A lot of us just don't want to say no to your face. Also, I think especially on OLD people often lie about certain things, they kinda maybe almost show a different version of themselves, they go on a first date, or maybe even second/third a…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 07:32 AM
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Sorry to be rude, but you are not on the chubbier side, your BMI is over 30, you are fat. Lose some weight and your dating prospects will improve for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:36 AM
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OP, you are 20 and in Uni, what do you expect, that everyone around you will be either in a happy loving relationship or having lots of casual sex? Current young adults are figuring things out, just like we used to when we were in our early 20s. When I was 20, I was single too. I wasn't sleeping around. Some people around me had relationships, some didn't. Everyone found that normal. There were a lot of break ups happening, which is also totally normal in this age. My college relationship didn't…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 08:39 AM
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This is very true. I am rather introverted and on the top of that had low self esteem in my late teens and early 20s, resulting in me believing nobody would find me attractive and as a result men thought I was an icy lady - not interested in being approached. I later heard this from several of guys around me - that I seemed unavailable. I gained much more confidence later, but I am still more on the introverted side and I also moved to a different city right before the pandemic started. Everythi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 06:02 AM
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For couples that are intentionally child-free this does not apply. But even for couples who are not having kids yet but are planning to have them, you can be pretty sure that this is something that a woman will have on her mind and it can influence her career choices. If you know you may be pregnant in the forseeable future, it may make you think twice to switch to another company or even push for promotions. Let's say you have a chance to get a 20% raise if you switch to another company, but yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 11:34 AM
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The whole idea that a woman should compensate for men's higher earnings by doing significantly more chores than him also ignores the fact that many women sacrifice their earning potentional to have the men's kids. Women lose out the important career years in late 20s and early to mid 30s, to bear and give birth to kids, then spend some time home to take care of infants and toddlers and they return to work with a few years behind. And even when they are back, they are usually the ones who stay ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 11:03 AM
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You mean female and male profile? Sure the female one would get more likes. But this is imho because a huge amount of male users of dating apps are looking for casual sex there. Men are just looking for sex so much more often, hence they are on the apps so much more frequently, so they just flood them, causing the horrid gender ratio on these apps, ruining it also for men who look for a relationship. I don't really think this is something you can fix though. It's just how things are.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 08:28 PM
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Is it really a mess though? I think some of the problems are being blown out of proportion online. That being said, I have never been in the US, so I don't know. I have some American friends here in Prague but they are not a good source on this, since they are an "old" married couple in their 40s. I can't complain about dating in my country. As anywhere in the world, it can be brutal in your teenage years if you don't fit the beauty standards perfectly, because kids can be really mean. But once …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 08:07 PM
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What I don't understand from a lot of these pill subs is that even when most of us are US citizens, the concept of equality just evades the conversation. Yeah, there is so much old-fashioned thinking here. And I am not from the US btw., I am from Europe. And not even from one of the most progressive European countries. I'd say my country is somewhere in the middle in Europe when it comes to gender relations - not much progressive but not much conservative either. But I still find a lot of the th…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 07:38 PM
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You can't beat biology, women are born with their value, men have to earn their value over time This is a view of someone mentally stuck a few decades ago. The gender stereotypes shifted a lot in the past few decades and that means that women are no longer expected to just be pretty and pleasent. Women now have the same access to education and careers as men. The vast majority of younger men (let's say under 40) have seen women as their classmates and collegues performing well and see that as a …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 09:17 AM
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A lot of men on this sub say men don't care about a woman's job or how much money she makes and that accomplished men are ok with dating a college student who works part-time in Starbucks. They actively advise young women in their early 20s to use their good looks to lock up an older, successful man. I am now 28 years old, so it's not so long ago when I was in my early 20s too and what I saw in reality was that successful older men date other successful, educated women as serious partners. They …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 07:50 AM
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Yeah, that is pretty much my experience too. Too many men on this sub seem to be convinced that men in their 30s or even 40s all want a sweet, feminine 21 year old girl and they don't mind she has no career and no money yet and is not on the same maturity level and has a completely different schedule compared to them since she is still in college. In reality, they do mind, which is why they want these girls as side chicks at most and look for a relationship with a woman more on their level. Inte…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 04:03 PM
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Where even are all these men who are obsessed with dating super young women in their early 20s? From this sub you might get the impression that it's the majority of men, but I don't really remember being showered by the attention of commitment-oriented older men when I was in my early 20s. The guys who wanted to date me seriously where mostly my age or just a bit older or a bit younger. They were mostly college students like me. Older established men who showed an interest were often already tak…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 03:05 PM
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The weirdest thing I noticed while lurking on this sub for a few weeks is how much both American women and men on this sub like to potray themselves as a victim and as the gender who does not have the upper hand. In my culture it's mostly the opposite, people avoid adopting a victim label even in situations where they objectively could. Over here you would want to avoid having people think you are somehow disadvantaged.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 12:46 PM
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But you will have a Turing programme or something like that I heard. Brits were not using Erasmus nearly as much as as students from other EU countries anyways. Not sure why. But it sucks for those who were interested that the British government is not interested. You don't even need to be in the EU to be in Erasmus, Norway for example is taking part in Erasmus and they are not an EU member.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 09:56 AM
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No, I don't think every guy thinks his mate is the best looking woman ever, but I think the vast majority of men will not have a serious relationship with a girl who looks worse than him. Everyone, both men and women, want at least their looksmatch. But women are more likely to date a guy who looks worse than them as long as he can compensate for it in other ways. Men will not date a woman who is uglier than them no matter how smart or funny or rich she is.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 09:43 PM
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You wouldn't marry a man making minimum wage. I don't get why people on PPD (on both sides) lie so damn blatantly. I didn't say I would. I said there were basic requirements. Not being on minimum wage is one of the of them. But you know if he makes a lot, a little, is average, etc Yes, but you don't know exactly, that's why I said we don't exactly rank people based on their income only. What does this mean? Explain what makes two people have chemistry with one another if women don't judge men of…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 07:45 PM
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You know when we women decide about who we should date, it's not like we make a list with all candidates and rank them by income, looks, education etc. Often we don't even know exactly how much a guy makes when we start dating. And I think the vast majority of women still pick a dude who they have chemistry with and who seems like they have a lot in common, as long as he meets the basic requirements. You can't quantify everything when it comes to dating. When I was deciding who to date, my two c…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 06:31 PM
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I don't see that happening. I guess this is anecdotal, but it was common in my environment. I was single and not looking for some parts of my university life myself. I think maybe in Europe it is more commom, because a huge chunk of people go on exchange programs where you study in a foreign country for a half a year. Some people do multiple programs like that - one for studying, another for an internship. The EU gives money for that, so it is affordable. And it is hard to maintain a serious rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 04:15 PM
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I don't think wanting someone on your level is hypergamy. Hypergamy is when you aim for someone clearly better than you. I agree that men are willing to date a womam who is significantly below them in terms of income, but they won't be willing to comprosime in terms of looks. Women are more willing to compromise in terms of looks, but less so in terms of education/status/personality/income. And to be honest, I don't really think women in their early 20s are so much more attractive to men in thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 04:09 PM
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I am from Europe and I would say most parts of Europe are on average more egalitarian and have better social security networks, so over here there is in general a lower expectation of how much you have to make to have a "nice life". But educated women still largely want educated men. They just have more in common with them. And all women still want a guy who is at least their looksmatch. Which I find fair enough to be honest. Nobody wants to date someone who they are not at all physically attrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 02:34 PM
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I went to a faculty with more women than men and I think it's true that there is definitely less opportunity for women to meet men organically and that means women have to show more effort to find a boyfriend. However I did not observe that every guy in this kind of environment would be an accidental Casanova. This only applied to guys with either above average looks or above average charm. Guys who were super shy or not looking very well definitely were not flooded by female attention. I basica…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 11:29 AM
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The thing is, I never even expected a guy to tell me he wants a relationship WITH ME, after meeting on OLD. I mean, of course I understand he doesn't know me properly and needs to first get to know me to know if he can see himself with me. The same goes for me. But I want to know if he is interested in a relationship in general, because if not, I am wasting my time. So for me, it is better if he says "yes, I am looking for a serious relationship, so let's get to know each other to see if we coul…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 03:22 PM
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And the plausible deniability guys are especially bad for dating ability, because they're the one's that cause women to drop out the most. That's spot on. Back when I was online dating, it happened to me several times that I would invest time talking with a man and meeting up with him only to learn he only looks for something casual at the moment. I was confused because I clearly stated in my profile I am looking for a serious relationship, so I assumed men who were interested in a hook up or a …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 12:38 PM
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Yes, I understand that. I am myself "guilty" of this since I am with a man who is 4 years older than me. This can get problematic when the birth rates get lower and lower. But obviously, this is not some conspiracy against men. In the past few decades, the conditions to have kids have been more or more problematic, for both men and women. But for women especially - we still have to sacrifice way more to have kids compared to our male counterparts. Also environmentally it's not sustainable that t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 04:18 PM
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The small disbalance of roughly 102 - 105 boys born to every 100 girls is normal and natural. Of course what you have in places like China and India where they mass-aborted female fetuses is wrong and bad, but what you have in the West is normal and there is nothing you can do about it. The West does not practice polygamy or sex-selective abortions, yet there is a tiny gender disbalance, but it's natural and nothing anyone can influence unless you wanted to start with sex-selective abortions of …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:03 PM
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There is indeed a natural gender ratio that is slightly in favour of boys that causes a small male surplus in the young age cohorts. In my country (in Europe), the difference is around 2 - 4% for young and middle aged people, it evens out to 50-50 ratio at the age of 58 and then there are more women. That being said, the difference is miniscule. Only 2 - 4%, and you have to take into account that there are men who are homeless, unemployed, drug addicts etc., so basically you just have to not be …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 06:03 AM
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They don't want a dumb woman, they want a woman about as smart as them or slightly less smart. I would generally agree with that. Of course there are exceptions to every rule. Especially since being smart/intelligent does not always manifest in the same way. I see couples where the woman is clearly the more book-smart or academically accomplished in the couple, but the man compensates for it by being more street-smart and business accomplished and this seems like it can work.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 08:00 PM
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when they are actually forced to interact with two equally attractive women, they overwhelming prefer the less intelligent one, because the more intelligent one makes them feel less masculine Most intelligent men will not date a woman who is dumb as a rock. They would get bored with her soon not to mention that they would be embarassed to introduce her to his friends and a family as a serious girlfriend. I agree that some men may be intimidated by smarter women, but only by those who are signifi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 07:48 PM
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I am not sure if I am making myself clear. I don't want to call you a NLOG, because I don't think you are one at all - I think there are plenty of women who are smart and intelectual, so I think just being smart and intelectual does not make you "not like other girls". Because there are many other girls that are like you. Why would being smart be something unfeminine?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 09:25 AM
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Look, I am certainly not gonna deny that there are some people, women included, who are rather arrogant and full of themselves. But when I look at the actual couples around me, what I see is that people are mostly with their looksmatch and in case they are not, it is almost always the woman who is the hotter of the pair. This is just the reality I see around me, but I am not saying it is the case everywhere around the world. Perhaps in some places it can be the other way around. But where I am f…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 07:45 AM
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No offence, but you don't sound like a NLOG, you just sound like an intelligent person who has a calm personality. There are plenty of women who are intelligent and calm. It's not some unique trait, I mean, just go to any work place that has highly educated women and many of the women there will fit this description.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 06:31 AM
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Many good points were already raised, so I will just mention what I haven't seen mentioned yet: Many men on this sub tend to be convinced that women have over-inflated egos and that they are delusional about what man they can get/what man is in their league looks-wise. I don't see that happening around me. What I see is that women are very much aware of their flaws. Those who do not fit the current beauty standards are made aware of that since their teenage years - teens can be rather cunty to e…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 12:26 PM
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Dude, I understand men face rejection more likely (because they approach more often) and that they mostly have a high sex drive, but you seem to think that women somehow don't have the experience of being rejected or overlooked at all, when in reality, we experience it too. You know the power women have over men mostly belongs to women who are desirable. Often these women don't even want the power, they want to be left alone, but that's another thing. Women who aren't very desirable get rejected…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 08:10 AM
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Exactly. What people on this sub call average is above average in reality. So many people are overweight or have not that attractive body types for their gender. Many people have weird looking facial features or bad skin or they don't know how to dress. A lot of guys are balding. Not having the things I listed basically already puts you way above average yet many people pretend like it's the standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:59 PM
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The guy's face looks quite nice, depending on his body, personality, education etc. I would date him if I wasn't already in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:13 PM
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I don't know about that, I think if anything some women tend to feel superior to other women who they think are less good looking. I think it gives women a confidence boost if they are in a collective with other women and they are among the hottest. I assume it applies to collectives of men too. But when it comes to women's relations to men, I think they only get this confidence boost if they find out that an attractive man likes them. They may be insecure around him, thinking he is out of their…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 11:33 AM
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Yeah, but the pill does not turn you impotent. You can still have sex. In fact you can often physically have more of it, because it shortens and weakens our period and you can also take the pill continously for, say, 3 months, hence making your period less frequent. You can also still have orgasm, your g spot or clitoris are still there, it does not change your anatomy. It may only lower your sex drive, so it can take more effort to turn you on, but it does not turn off the possibility to have a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 02:41 PM
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Eliminating the side effect would basically mean changing the entire bases of the pill, but if that was changed, then it would not be able to treat hormonal disorders. The only effect the pill has on libido is that it stops ovulation. It basically tricks your body into thinking you got pregnant or you are breastfeeding. Some women feel hornier when they are ovulating, so if you eliminate their ovulation, they will be less horny. But eliminating ovulation or the natural cycle is the entire point …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 01:07 PM
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I am not giving you any bullshit, there are studies about it, just google "endometrioses average diagnoses time". It can be less that that of course, if you are assertive or lucky with doctors or you have the type of endo that shows on ultrasound. But ultimately as I said, the only definitive diagnoses is via a surgery and I assume that you need money for that in the US. Plus as I said, even if it's confirmed, there really isn't a definitive cure, only treatments that don't always work for every…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 05:11 PM
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Unfortunately if she does have endometrioses, this often takes years to diagnose. It is a bitch disease that manifests completely differently in different women, some are even asymptomatic and many doctors are in general still not quite educated about it. It does not always show on ultrasounds or other imaging. The only conclusive diagnoses is via a laparoscopic surgery. I know about it because I have it too, but I am lucky enough to have the asymptomatic version that did show up in imaging, so …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 02:42 PM
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You are making it sound like she chose to get sick and have painful sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 02:20 PM
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It's not that I don't have arguments, it's that I am unwilling to argue with you, because you don't seem to be able to have a calm discussion. I don't know for sure if you are angry, bitter, shocked, frustrated or just an asshole, the result for me is the same - you started to be rude and insulting first and so I responded in kind and now you are whining that I dared to insult you. Lol. Maybe go check your discussion style and instead of assuming that women won't discuss with you because they do…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 04:16 AM
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Jesus, you are angry as fuck. Before the last post of yours, I though we were having a nice reasonable discussion. I enjoyed reading about your point of view and thought maybe you would enjoy mine. Then you got hostile out of nowhere, not taking seriously what I say, telling me I am immature, questioning my experience. From that message, I realized you are bitter as fuck and there is nothing productive about discussion with bitter people. So I responded how I did because I no longer wanted to ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 06:01 PM
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Well maybe it's me, but hey, I have a successful long-term relationship with a great guy I love and you are in your 40s and whine about "fickle" women and have "MGTOW" in your username which does not exactly point to a successful romantic life with the opposite sex. So sorry, but I don't think I will be taking advice from you on male-female interactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 09:31 AM
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Look, I don't actually get hit on that often either, because A) when I am out, it's quite often with my bf, B) I am not much of a party animal in the first place, C) I am from a country with a relatively reserved culture where cold-approaching is quite rare and most of it happens in bars/clubs. So in reality, men approaching me is not something I have to deal with often, however when it does happen, it tends to be unpleasent. This is because normal nice guys don't cold-approach much. It has happ…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 05:56 AM
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You know it's funny that women claim to be better at verbalizing and communication than men. But yet don't know how to use their words in a situation like this. How many times have you been in such a situation? It's one thing to think about what you would say if you were in the situation, it's another thing to be then confronted with the actual reality that not always goes as the scenario you made up in your head. You see, if it was enough to say "thank you, I am flattered, but I am not interest…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 02:53 PM
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If you don't like corporate sphere, it's perfectly ok. You don't need to have a top notch career. You don't have to make ton of money. My partner is a teacher and I am perfectly happy with his profession. I am just happy that he has a job that he is happy with that also sustains him. I am not expecting him to have more resources than me. I am just expecting him to not be a lazy bum and make enough money to contribute his part to our household. He is also not extremely handsome, he just looks goo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 07:15 PM
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I know you will probably say that I am lying, but here it goes anyways - I have never dated an unemployed guy. I either dated a student (when I was a student myself) or a guy with a job. I would never date a man who is so lazy that he can't provide for himself once he is in the age when he should. However I once did date a guy who was not that attractive to me physically. It did not work, so now I am with a guy who has his shit together professionally AND he is attractive to me. Both things are …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 05:18 PM
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Women openly admit that they don't give af if a guy is broke or not as long as he's hot. Maybe for casual sex, but not for a relationship. I mean, seriously, why would anyone, a man or a woman, want a useless individual as a partner? Where is even the virtue signaling in that? The vast majority of people want a partner who can bring something to the table, not a deadweight who can't even function as an individual let alone in a couple. None of this means that looks aren't important too btw. You …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 03:41 PM
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If it makes you feel better to think that, feel free to continue thinking that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 02:56 PM
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Because the only other option than dating a guy who has never worked a day in his life is dating a workaholic. How about just dating a normal dude with a job who can function as a normal adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 02:00 PM
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Sure, I would be running from such a "catch" as fast as I possibly could. A guy who virtually is so lazy that he can't even function as a normal adult human is just a burden, not a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 01:44 PM
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Lol, nobody needs to settle for useless losers who can't even be bothered to get a job. It's better to be single than dating a guy like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 01:38 PM
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It is not difficult in the sense that there are still vastly more stay at home moms than top level career women, and by top level, I mean really like on the top of corporate ladders or top 5% in their respective field. Nobody admires a woman for being a mid level management, but people admire those who reach the top levels or who are, say, top lawyers, scientists, surgeons, artists, writers etc. Or those who start successful companies. And of course there are a lot of people who are shit at pare…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 04:23 PM
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A lot of people admire other people for achieving something that is hard to do. Getting a couple of kids, taking care of them, cooking and cleaning is not something difficult per se. It can be time consuming, physically and mentally draining, it can require a lot of sacrifices, but essentially, a lot of women are able to take care of kids, cook and clean. It's not some exlusive skill. Having a top career is an exclusive skill. Not many people can achieve it, especially not many women. It require…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 03:25 PM
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Nope, I am Czech.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 06:53 AM
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I am 5'10" which is above average in my country, but not as much as in the US. The average height of young women in my country is around 5'7". I was never rejected directly because of my height but then I never actively cold-approached men. Shorter men never really approached me much, so I assume they were not interested in me because of my height or assumed I would not be interested in them. I also always stated my height on OLD, so if some men minded, they would not match with me. I was never …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 01:49 PM
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I don't have to blame my "homegirls", I just found myself a nice dude and we are happy together. Sometimes reading stuff on reddit makes me feel like I live in an alternative reality or something. I am not from the US, but I have American friends (a couple) living in my country and they never mentioned anything about their dating lives being much different from what it is like here. Like seriously, this obsession with "bad boys" is something 15 year old girls have - are you dating people who are…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 07:51 PM
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Someone being athletic or in a band is supposed to have some impact on their preferences in dating? Dude, just find yourself a decent, mature girl. Not a girl who is into relationship drama and who thinks being a jerk is an attractive trait. Somehow millions of people in the western world manage this and live in stable and happy relationships. If you look around, you will see them all around you. Look for a girl who is behaving kindly and ethically to the people around her - family, friends, col…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 05:36 PM
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Watching the girls I had feelings for go for exactly the types of guys red pill said they go Have you ever considered that you were doing what you accuse those women of doing, i.e. falling for the wrong type of woman? Because I see a lot of women around me who were dating nice men during their high school and university years, but somehow you only saw those who fell for the "bad boys". Maybe you were, you know, selecting wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 07:29 AM
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Americans tourists don't have a terrible reputation in my country (Czechia). The kind of Americans who can afford to travel to Europe and have an interest to do so are likely not going to be the most offensive types. But god damn in my experience even the "good" kind of Americans are just so much more talkative and so much more opinionated than your average European AND they willing to express their opinions very fast to people they don't know so much. This can be refreshing and interesting some…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 11:51 AM
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Just out of curiosity, did you somehow ask them what their IQ is and they already had it measured? Or did they take the test based on your request? Or how exactly did you find them, were you going to Mensa meetings and asking the women there out or what?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 08:23 AM
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I don't mean to sound critical, you have the right to have any standards you want, but IQ above 130 is pretty rare, that's like 3% of the population or so. That's gonna be hard to find.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 08:05 AM
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I agree that it is more widespread among women compared to men. I think this is because men are traditionally the initiators of romantic advances, so the concept of waiting until the one suddenly appears does not really exist in their mind. They know they have to actively try to meet the one. Some women are more likely to believe it, because for them, this "delusion" actually worked at some point in their life, but as you get older, you need to be more and more lucky for it to work, because the …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 07:54 AM
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Probably true, but I've been to many western countries and Men seem much less relationship minded these days. I am from Europe. The Czech Republic specifically. We consider ourselves to be the part of the broader West, but I am not sure how would most Americans see us. Anyways I have lived in few other European countries (though never long term, always just for max 6 months period, but it helped me gaining friends from all over Europe) throughout my 20s. The most people I met who were also in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 08:44 PM
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I now know more women, who are finding it really difficult, to find relationship minded partners. I guess this really depends on where you are and what is your social circle. In my country and my social circle, it's not that there is too few guys willing to be in a relationship, it's really that some women expect too much from their partner while they themselves just don't put enough effort into meeting that guy who would match their expectation. They could find that guy if they were consistentl…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 06:33 PM
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Yeah, I think some women are just used to getting in relationships easily in university, where you just effortlesly meet new people of the opposite sex. They get into a relationship there and sometimes these relationship don't last and they find themselves single in their late 20s or early 30s where you just need to actively try to meet new people and they are still stuck in the college mindset and don't realize that this won't work anymore. And I can see that some of them may be awful at dating…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 05:42 PM
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In my experience the only women over 30 who have a problem getting into relationship are those who have very high standards combined with a shitty attitude. And by shitty attitude I don't neccessarily mean they have a bad personality, it's more that they just expect a relationship to happen to them without putting any significant effort on their side. Typically they are quite busy with their job and hobbies/friends and think that the right guy will just magically appear in their life. They don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 05:06 PM
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Back when I was single it happened occassionally but not very often. I don't go to night clubs, where this cold approaching mostly happens. But sometimes a guy would give me his number when I was on a train or when I was in a park alone. Or they would stop me with some excuse (asking for directions) and then tried to get my number. I had guys finding me on social media after we briefly met somewhere (like during a university class) and asking me out. But really direct cold approach does not happ…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 11:12 AM
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Damn, Americans are short if you have struggles as a 5'10" woman. In my country, the average height of a woman is 5'7", so being 5'10" is above average, but nothing out of the norm. I am 5'10" myself and my height has never been an issue for me while dating. The only thing it does is that it can limit your dating pool a bit if you want to date a guy who is at least the same height as you or taller.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 07:15 AM
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Sure, you do you, man. Those moms you see though, I assume you don't see them walking around in bikini with all the little imperfections visible and you see them outside with their hair done and make-up on. They probably look a bit different at home where their husbands presumably see them too. It's imho unrealistic to expect your partner to always look absolutely the best even if you are just chilling together at home. But you are entitled to have whichever standards you want, you just need to …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 01:17 PM
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You know if the high level of physical attraction for you means that she has to look like a model, be always super fit and having perfect hair and make-up and on top of that good personality, then yes, you will struggle to find a girl to meet those expectations. Doesn't mean you should lower them, that is your decision and if you know you would be really unhappy with someone who does not meet your standards, then you should not lower them. I think you should realize though that that many of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 12:09 PM
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Well bear in mind this is still on top of everything else. I've definitely met women who want kids, but we didn't line up with chemistry or compatibility in other areas. Well from your profile, I can see you are a good looking guy, so I guess I can throw in your face when a lot of guys in this sub throw in the face of women who complain about their dating difficulties - you probably have high standards :) Which is not bad tbh, I understand that you want the best possible option for yourself, but…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 09:10 AM
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Well then you were just unlucky to meet women who are not interested in motherhood. If you are active on OLD, you could just hint already in your profile that you're interested in having kids and this way you'd filter out women who are pretty certain they don't want them. Or just bring it up early in the relationship so that you are not losing time with someone incompatible. It can't be that hard to find a woman who is interested in having kids (unless you exclusively look in the early 20s age g…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 07:51 AM
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I've had to break things off multiple times with women who just had no interest in starting a family any time soon or ever What were their reasons? Was it purely that they just don't want to have kids no matter what? Or were the economic reasons? For women, having kids often means taking a hit in their career and harming their earning prospects. Did you actively take steps to demonstrate that you are willing to compensate for that, either by earning enough on your own to support the whole family…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 07:25 AM
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Well they do that when their options dry up, not when they have peak demand. Basically women seem to be at their most desirable in their earl 20's while men "peak" later. Ok, but if you are a 30 year old man, who is just not that physically attractive, then how exactly do you want to force women to lust you for your physical appearance? You don't like not being selected by women based on looks, but if your looks just aren't that good, then what? You just don't want to be selected at all? Sorry, …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 08:01 AM
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This might not be common in Europe (is it?) I can't speak for the whole Europe, but in my country, having a FWB and at the same time trying to find a serious relationship would be frowned upon, so whoever does that, would hide it, otherwise no one reasonable would want to date them. In general, the assumption of being exclusive comes way sooner here I guess. If you both know you are looking for a serious relationship and you have been on a few dates and started to get intimate, then the assumpti…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 07:09 PM
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They don't have a series of short term relationships that don't work out? It's prett common for people to marry their highschool or university bf/gf. It's also common for your highschool/university relationship to fail. Then you just either stay single for a while or look for another LTR. And it's also quite common for women to just be single in their early 20s. If you don't feel like being ready for a relationship and at the same time you don't want to sleep around, then you are just single. Al…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 06:03 AM
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Do you even relate to these issues as a central European? I feel like the environmental factors are completely different and many of this stuff may not apply to you. To some aspects yes. For example online dating is a thing here too and especially in bigger cities, it absolutely opens up possibilities for women to date more easily and it allows them to have a higher standard in their 20s especially. But I do not see the development that is described here that women are using it to have tons of c…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 07:57 PM
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You're from Europe so I don't believe the hook-up culture is as prevalent but here in the states it has become very normal. I would not say that it is that normal in my country. I mean, yes, people do that, mainly to get experience, I mean, both men and women have the desire to experiment I would say. But if you are a woman, having the ability to have casual sex is not something to be very braggy about. What girls want here is to have a real boyfriend who they can present to their friends and fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 07:12 PM
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I am not saying young girls aren't chasing pretty boys when they are in high school/university, of course this happens. Both young girls and young guys are immature and very self-conscious and keen to present themselves well among their peers and this includes dating a popular/good-looking guy or a girl. But wouldn't you say growing up with sisters made you understand that women are normal human beings too, that they have other aspects to them than just sexual/romantic aspect and that they can b…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 07:20 AM
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Do you have any female relatives your age? Sisters, cousins? I don't know, this is just my anecdotal observation, but I feel like guys who have girls around them when growing up (and also as teenagers) have an easier time seeing women as normal human beings and can interact with them much more naturally, because they don't automatically associate younger women with nothing but sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 07:01 AM
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I mean, China already has a massive problem with a low birthrate. People there don't want to have (enough) kids despite the authoritarian policies. This just shows that the falling birthrates don't happen in the West only, it happens everywhere where the living standards go up, but subsequently also the cost of living, especially housing and childcare.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 02:56 PM
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My experience has been mostly positive as a woman who has been using it in her mid 20s. For me it was a bit of a shortcut to meet men easily. I was always too shy to ask a guy out in the real life and I don't like clubs and wild nightlife in general, so I was not putting myself out there too much. On the top of that, people who don't know me sometimes think I have a bit of icy personality and I just seem unapproachable. Plus strangers asking strangers out does not really happen that much in my c…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 12:27 PM
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I am 27 and in a stable relationship, though not yet married. My and my bf discussed children and we would both like to have them. That being said, for me, having a solid paying job is (not neccessarily a top notch career) is a necessity, because I am an adult and I have to be able to take care of myself and my hypothetical children on my own. I don't want to live without a man, I don't want to be on my own, but I want to be prepared should that happen. Realistically there are things that can ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 10:26 AM
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In my experience, women who go on about how there are no good guys are those who just got out of a bad relationship. They are upset, angry and basically just venting. When I discuss dating with my female friends who have not been recently in a bad relationship, the rhetoric that everyone cheats etc. isn't there. The women I know don't have a problem admitting they have certain standards. When they complain that dating is hard, they don't mean that it is hard to get any dates, they mean it is har…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 08:29 AM
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I'd rather pay for my healthcare than pay absorbent taxes for everyone's healthcare. What about when you would need the society to pay for you? My friends from the US told me that in the US, when you lose your job, you lose your insurance and then if you get cancer, you have to pay for it yourself and the amounts are insane. This to me seems incredibly unfair. Nobody should be left to die just because they can't afford treatment, if there is a reasonable treatment available to them. Especially i…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 07:14 PM
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I've been to Paris, and I remember seeing poor immigrants, but as far as French people or, more specifically, Parisians living in poverty, it was rare. Sure, but some of these immigrants have lived there for decades. They effectively are Parisians. Of course some of them are more recent immigrants. Europeans in general sometimes tend to ignore problems that primarely concern immigrant communities. "Everyone in Western Europe has a guaranteed dignified existence", they will say, and when you poin…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 11:23 AM
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Seeing suffering homeless people is something of a norm in America that many foreigners from Europe (excluding eastern) I am from a country that most people consider Eastern Europe, i.e. the Czech Republic. Trust me, you will see more homeless people in Brussels, Paris or Berlin than in Prague or Warsaw. Some big western European cities definitely have a big homelessness/poverty problem, especially in the immigrant communities. It is absolutely not the case that everyone in Western Europe is per…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 10:49 AM
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I can't speak for all women, but for me, the only requirements were that he is at least the same height or taller than me. I am 178cm, or 5'10", this is above average in my country for a girl, but nothing crazy. So I never had an issue finding guys who were at least tall like me. The second requirement is that he is not super skinny. I like guys with broad sholders and just overall broad chest and muscular legs. I don't care if he has a sick pack or a bit of belly fat. I mean objectively I don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 01:47 PM
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Well if you decide that anyone with different political opinions or people who have degrees that don't exactly match your expectations are not worth dating, then you are limiting your dating pool, yes. So surprising. I can understand not wanting to date someone who is totally incompatible values-wise or totally unattractive, but if you come up with other artifically requirements, like "has to have a STEM degree" then shockingly, your dating pool is smaller. That's like when women say they will o…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 12:07 PM
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I have a similar experience. I was 26 when I started to look for a serious relationship and I set up the age filters on dating apps to 27 - 32. I went on a date with a guy who looked older than in pictures and it turned out he was 38, i.e. 12 years older than me. Despite that I decided to give him a chance because he seemed nice during the first date. Later it became pretty clear he has quite bossy personality and is looking for a submissive young woman and I didn't want such partnership so I di…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 03:23 PM
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Post wall women? What is that supposed to mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 12:45 PM
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I am a woman and I can't believe these comments either. Did people who write comments like this guy is average at best ever been around any kind of collective of humans? Like seriously, did they not go to school with a bunch of dudes? Don't they have male collegues around them? Don't they look around the street when they are in the public? This is ridiculous. This dude has a symmetrical face, he is not overweight, does not have skin issues, is not under 170cm, has nice hair...this already puts h…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 05:27 PM
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