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I'm left leaning, and I'm totally against making it an automatically granted allowance with fixed amount for each child of a single mother. It would incentivize mothers to separate "on paper" from fathers of their children, to collect money. In long term it would lead to a lot of children growing up without a father figure in sight. It would incentivize young women to abandon education pursuits or labor market in favor of popping out brats to live of government stipends. "Idiocracy" argument, ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 06:12 AM
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Changes in the body were not a problem, she gained just a few kilos, and lost most of them within a year. With no significant stretch-marks and minimal C-section scar. The problem was with her attitude. As soon as she was sure that a bun was in the oven, she assumed she has me bent over the barrel.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 06:07 AM
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You're right, I'm uninterested in listening to her. I've switched from being attentive, to frustrated, to indifferent. I would call it natural evolution. At the same time, I got better at ignoring verbal abuse. By now I'm only interested in surviving with my sanity intact till our son is 18 y.o.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 01:36 PM
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Actually you do personal jabs, like Maybe they should try washing more dishes. or Skill issue. Couldn’t be me. On the other hand, I simplify a lot of things. while you focus on literal correctness. From your perspective, there might be fundamental difference between: "She doesn't want to have sex." and "She doesn't want to have sex with him.". From my perspective "She doesn't want to have sex", and "She doesn't want to have sex with me" are functionally identical.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 12:19 PM
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I admire your dedication to taking jabs at me. In my native language there is an aphorism that roughly translates to: A hungry person cannot be understood by sated one, because their appetites differ. I think it is good summary of the difference between our views of the world. Your advice is to put more effort into relationship, my advice is not to go into permanent relationship without an exit strategy when it goes sour (prenup, separation of property, getting to really know each other (as in l…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 11:45 AM
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On average is very dicey concept. I'll try to perform reductio ad absurdum on it. Assume a couple got married, and intend to begot an offspring. For the sake of argument, lets say they go at it like wild rabbits, and have sex three times a day every day, for 5 months (call it fertility problem), 5 months is ~150 days, minus 5 periods 4 day each, is 130 days. This gives grand total of 390 intercourses. Lets assume that the well dried the day two stripes appeared on the test, and they hadn't have …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 07:40 AM
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Without hard proof of mutual consensus to opening the relationship, it would be short way at-fault divorce due to adultery.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 09:08 PM
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What about women who stop having sex right after getting two stripes on pregnancy test?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 02:19 PM
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You're barking up the wrong tree.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 01:34 PM
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"Skill issue" This is what people think, about such advice, when they rush to buy an engagement ring. Of four males (aged 46-55) in my team at work, 3 share roof with partners who are not interested in sex with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 01:13 PM
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I'm fully aware of it. It has been a few years since I've gave up on even trying to convince her to have sex. Separate bedrooms, separate vacations. I write it to caution against entangling oneself in such relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 12:50 PM
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There is a difference between being allowed to and being able to afford to break up a relationship. Not only in financial aspect, but also emotional (as in loosing contact with one's children, estrangement).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 11:56 AM
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The usual conundrum. At the beginning of the relationship other person gives all the vibes of being sex-positive. But after relationship has been formalized, and it is both hard to dissolve and with high expectation of fidelity, it becomes duty-sex or control via Lysistrata method.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 11:39 AM
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The problem: the same people, who state that children are too impressionable for exposition to radical ideas, have no problem with religious indoctrination.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 01:57 PM
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Staying together "for the sake of the child" is sometimes the only options. Real life scenario: Mother exhibits narcissistic, borderline or bi-polar behaviors at home, but her mask never slips in public. Family courts are strongly biased against men, with slim chance getting even shared custody (despite of preteen child showing strong preference of staying with father). It becomes the choice between staying in a failed marriage to shield the child from abusive parent, or leaving the child with a…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 09:53 AM
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Assuming I'll get out of current bad marriage: Yes: Different race. Quiet. Talkative. Taller. Military. 6'3". Same first name as mom. Maybe: Different religion (as long as she accepts me as an unbeliever, without plans to convert me). Church every Sunday (as long as she accepts me as an unbeliever, without plans to convert me). Alcoholic (sober for 1+ year - OK; active - no way). Two kids. (I'm too old for dealing with diapers) Waiting until marriage to have sex. 50+ sexual partners (in her coll…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 07:19 AM
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In Sweden the government attacks demand side by making it illegal to pay for sex services. Generally they do not go after prostitutes, "creators" or platforms, but directly after clients.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 04:13 PM
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Nope, you know the saying: "the bigger they are, the longer they get"?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 04:46 AM
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In my opinion there won't be more childless marriages. The population is going down, so there won't be more marriages. Number of marriages having children will decline. Number of marriages with children won't grow, as people will remain single or cohabitate without bothering to formalize it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 04:50 PM
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I'm European, used to multi-party system (in case of Poland, a conservative, isolationist party, and a coalition if liberal, pro-EU parties). The problem with modern left wing is their focus on problems relevant to very narrow minority of voters (LGBTQ+), or to non-voters (non-naturalized immigrants). Left wing should be about providing citizens with public healthcare, public education, public transport and affordable housing. In two party system, this means that left-wing ideas that would benef…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 05:24 PM
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No, anti-immigration sentiments have economic and cultural basis. People, especially in low skill jobs are afraid of immigrants driving down wages. People are afraid of mass immigration, as it is often encumbered with home country problems (i.e. gangs, violence), moreover mass immigration creates closed communities of immigrants that hinder their integration into broader society (i.e. learning local language, rules and customs).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 08:57 AM
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Their bodies, their choices, so unless someone forced them into this line of work (via violence, addiction, blackmail or as debt de-facto slaves) I have nothing against it. On the other hand, I've never paid for adult content, so I give no fsck.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 06:13 PM
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I was a child in 80's, behind iron courtain, with 2 channels of national TV with a sprinking of child approprieate content in their programming; then a teen in 90s, with just 6 or 7 channels, with no dedicated cartoon nor teen channels and some access to offline computers. Comparing that devices to modern smartphones is like comparing ibuprofen with opioids. Child programmes in 80s TV were designed to be educational. TikTok and YT are designed to keep users glued to screens. Endless scroll of al…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 08:13 AM
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We initially knew, I will work longer hours (8+commute), and contribute more to our finances. My wife is a teacher in public school, less hours, less money. I expected pretty even split of chores, but when our son was born situation changed. She pushed him into my care as soon as I returned from work and she took responsibility for house chores. Now the boy is 10 y.o. I'm supervising his schoolwork, I transport him to extracurricular activities and I spend quality time with him. My wife cooks fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 04:07 AM
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My son is 9yo. Reduce his screen time. Weather allowing, he goes out to socialize with his peers (boys and girls living nearby). I keep my wife, his mother, from selecting his clothes for him. He has his own style, he tells me what he wants to wear, his choices are pretty realistic. We talk. He asks a lot of questions, I give him truthful answers (formulated so he can understand it), or tell him that I'll answer this question when he will be ready, I never lie to him. I also give him some hints,…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 10:41 AM
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Male in mid-forties. I can easily imagine AI becoming some kind of companion, a mix between personal assistant and best-buddy. Reminding you about medications and appointments. Listening constantly to your surroundings, and helping you keep anger in check. Recommending quality content (TV, games, YT), and actively watching it with you. Assisting with your hobbies. This would become deep personal relationship or friendship (φιλία, philía) but not intimate love (ἔρως, érōs).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 04:29 AM
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Each of real women you've mentioned played a shallow game. Wanted provider for her and her kids; she was flirty and sensual; this was bite, she didn't even have presence of the mind to keep switch part (polyamory) to herself. Wanted provider for traveler's lifestyle. You'd be working by day, she'll be parting by night. Wanted a ticket to another life. AI companion wanted to interact with you. On the other hand, service operator wanted you to subscribe to experience and stay subscribed. In each o…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 08:43 AM
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Lets say, that a couple has sex twice a day, 24 days out of every 28 days. This calculates to 625 intercourses a year. there are 52 weeks in a year. 12 * 52 = 624. So one couple screwing like wild rabbits and eleven couples having dead bedroom gives us average of an intercourse once a week. Average is flawed metric, it would be much more interesting to know what percentage of couples abstained from sex for more than three months without compelling medical reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 08:00 AM
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Business as usual, dead bedroom on the horizon.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 12:56 PM
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Fourth point you've made is pretty interesting. My second cousin is civil engineer in mid-twenties. She works for a company that builds bridges (field work, no office hours) and lives in apartments rented by said company for employees, moving all over country from project to project. This is kind of job is great for singles, but would be a nightmare for people in long term relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 07:03 AM
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You've got the point about comfort of living. Kids are expensive (bigger house/apartment, education, clothes and toys etc.), they swallow free time and their appearance often corelates with onset of dead bedroom. So couples delay first child (often up to the point when it becomes too late to convince). On the other hand, reliable contraception is instrumental in granting couples choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 08:18 PM
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Can't remember, my wife changed after she got pregnant, she started take things I say out of their context and use it against me. I keep my guard up, and avoid sharing anything she can use against me. Our son is 9yo.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 04:05 PM
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It's specially problematic for men in the age of 18-25, but after 25 it corrects a lot, since men can date younger women when they are +30, something 18-25 years old men can't, for obvious (legal) reassons. I wonder whether data would be significantly different in Poland (age of consent is 15).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 10:02 AM
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Don't care. Plate spinning, don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 10:32 PM
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My wife is two and a half year younger, we met when I was 32. The highest age gap for me was dating 16y.o. girl when I was 20. (In Poland age of consent is 15).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 10:26 PM
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It depends. Two years ago if I was really in pain (i.e. sprained back) I wouldn't, but if I was just tired I would still go through the motions, with enough enthusiasm to make her come. Now, after a year of her not acknowledging my needs and six months without any intimate contact, I wouldn't believe she is sincere, even if I was healthy, fresh and horny.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 09:09 PM
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Captain State to the rescue. Seven years ago my country started a program that paid 500PLN per child per month. Back in 2016 the lowest wage was 1356PLN (after tax) per month. It became huge incentive for lowest earning families to have additional child. This program failed to fix low birth-rates in a long-run, but it managed to lower women's participation in job-market in poorest parts of country.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 08:50 PM
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TLDR; please split your text into paragraphs by inserting empty line between them. One has to work to compensate for deficiencies, i.e. growing up as only child, leads to less developed social skills, which need to be learned later in life. growing up with multiplayer games or text/voice based social apps, leads to less developed body language, which needs to be learned later. growing up with at home hobbies, leads to less developed musculature and coordination, which needs to be learned later. …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 05:25 AM
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Simple, relationship went sour, but kid and cost of living keep us under the same roof.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 05:57 AM
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We would be at each other throats. I'm afraid, that being close together without possibility to unwind at work we would quarrel non-stop. I would probably MacGyver some kind of lock between first and second floor to keep her from nagging me whole day everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 03:24 PM
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Assumption: I am attractive male (physically, interesting or good provider). Experiment: A female will have sex with me if I am attractive. Validation: She had sex with me, so at the time I was attractive to her, therefore my assumption was correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 10:46 AM
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Then what's the point of having a sex drive ? It used to be about procreation, but with prevalent contraception sex drive is about getting sex. Having Testosterones ? Development of secondary sex characteristics.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 10:01 AM
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Getting sex is validation i.e. I'm manly enough to be desired. Manly might mean different things for different people, and might depend on age. Is it a problem? It might be if a man is convinced he deserves it, but women ignore him, or he got tricked into monogamous sexless relationship and cannot leave it without loosing contact with his children or financially crippling consequences. Porn and masturbation can be temporary relief, but porn is addictive, especially if reinforced by masturbation.…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 08:49 AM
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In abstract it would be better for kids if parents were happy apart rather than quarrelling everyday. But reality is much more complicated, parent who wins custody often uses children to effect vengeance on ex-partner. Instead of "both parents love you, but can't stand each other" is often "Your father left us, but I'll make it up for you".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 08:31 AM
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I'm perfect able to appreciate the spirit of your answer. I'm just playing with the letter. :-)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 05:52 AM
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I understand that should be safe from procreation perspective, but I find menstrual sex disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 05:47 AM
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No, by definition half of world population would be at or below MEAN intelligence and other half at or above. This wouldn't be true for average unless it was equal to 50th percentile.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 02:13 PM
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No, but only because I failed to impress the girl. Three sisters, I was aiming for eldest (20 at the time), but youngest (17) set me up with mid (19). We didn't go further than third base.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 05:40 PM
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The problem is not with this specific record, but with precedence it sets up. I might be old fashioned, but in my opinion differentiation between a man and a woman for sport results should be based on 23rd chromosome pair, with hormonal therapies treated as permanent performance-enhancing drugs.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 07:16 AM
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Surrogacy is too close to selling children for my peace of mind. It is too easy to become addicted to antidepressants.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 03:51 AM
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Relationship? Not necessarily. Availing oneself of a sex-worker services? I would consider it fair. (prostitution is not illegal in Poland, pimping is)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 06:55 PM
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Real life example of someone I knew: Married with two kids, he divorced her and vacated their apartment. Wife stopped paying mortgage, so bank started repossession procedure, he was part of mortgage agreement so repossession agent found it easier to impound his earnings than single mother's. On top of it there was child support. He couldn't afford to rent a room, lived in a car, his health declined, he lost his job and self terminated. Bad relationship isn't the worst thing that can happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 06:49 PM
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US: Legal agreement that stipulates limited contact with children, child support, alimony and half of assets? Poland: Mortgage, limited contact with children and child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 06:21 PM
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Actually laws are not about carrying cash, but about disclosing cash carried. For example, in Poland you are allowed to carry no more than 10_000 EUR (or its equivalent in other currency) without disclosing it. But if you carry more than that you are required to fill a declaration (Personal information, on whose behalf you carry that money, where money come from, where are they going to, how did you get those money, what do you intend to do with this money). This intrusion in privacy is explaine…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 08:06 AM
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before our relationship she moved a lot, renting a room in a flat, each place there was this one person, who was at fault for everything it was never her fault, she loved to describe herself as a victim she took offense easily, she thought my sense of humor was rude at best mood swings and drama her mother was verbally abusive towards her father (up to shaming in public situations)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 06:20 AM
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It wouldn't do. There is big body of anecdotal evidence pertaining to extra-martial carnal activities of millennials in their high-school and college years (think all those young adults movies out there). High school students hearing millennials talking about responsibility in relationships, would understand it as: "We had fun in our 20's, but we require you to settle down early and have babies to work for our retirements in 25 years". It would be joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 05:59 AM
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Behaviors described by Red Pill aligned too well with my experience of failed marriage. I've ignored multiple red flags in the beginning of the relationship, I've been led by my genitals and emotions, and as soon I put the ring on her finger and got her pregnant the demo period was over and she showed her true colors. Red Pill gave me understanding of my emotions, the ways she plays with them, and manipulation techniques she uses. I've stopped being passive punch bag for her verbal abuse. I've l…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 05:33 AM
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If you do the right thing for the wrong reasons, the work becomes corrupted, impure, and ultimately self-destructive. Babylon 5:"Comes the Inquisitor" My perspective is a bit different. I already have a son, but my marriage is on its way to court room. With bedroom as a distant memory of times we were trying to make it work. I would get a snip, if there was a perspective of having carnal relationship, just to avoid two years of sleep deprivation associated with new kid. But I wouldn't do it on t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 03:33 AM
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I'm from Poland. One of better YouTube channels on TRP in Polish is called "Musisz wiedzieć" which means You need to know. Red Pill is knowledge. About my shortcomings, misconceptions, manipulations, social engineering. It is a roadmap of skills I need to forge and hone to make my life less miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 12:22 PM
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Polygamy and MGTOW
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 07:37 PM
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This, I'm in my 40's, on fast lane to divorce. I'm acclimated to lack of intimacy (dead bedroom), I would much rather have no quarrels/drama, than dinner and washing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 08:57 AM
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Drugs, a friend tried and they scrambled his brain by the time he was 21. Alcohol, I drunk for a few weeks when I was 15, but dodged that bullet.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 07:01 PM
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Because fathers are ashamed to talk with their sons about downsides of marriage. Men marry without realizing that passionate lover may turn into hostile flatmate in a few years.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 05:57 PM
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Follow the money. The business of app owner is not to find you a prospect for fulfilling relationship, the business is to sell you subscription, boost etc. Hook-up generates greater turnover and return customers than long term relationships, so apps are designed to facilitate hook-up and milk desperate man.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 05:22 AM
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I'm in my forties, I have a son and I have no interest in begoting anymore offspring. I'd rather consider snip for myself. But, if the procedure becomes no-risk and 100 percent reversible I would advice my son to undergo one (my extended family has a history of shotgun weddings). I do not think male contraception would cause new STD epidemic, HIV taught society a lesson, but semi permanent conception control would reduce Western birth-rates even more by reducing unplanned (or maliciously planned…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 03:31 AM
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Back in a day I wouldn't consider buying such service, I feel it would be dishonest to myself. A little like buying services of a sex worker. On the other hand, if such services were indistinguishable from prolonged on-line relationship with real woman, I see my friends pranking me with buying one for me (to pose as a woman from South Africa or other far away but similar timezone country).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 01:01 PM
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It does not affect attractiveness, but it raises huge red flag (crazy???).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 06:12 AM
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Yes, I'm a simple code monkey, but there are three women in my team. I also have a wife, she removes price tags from her cosmetics, I remove price tags from my gadgets but we both know.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 05:00 PM
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No LARPs and reenactment are pretty different. LARPs are just about fun, reenactment puts more value into period accurate clothes, equipment, techniques and tactics.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 04:42 PM
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I know a red piller, he became one after bitter fight for custody over his daughter (out of wedlock). He is 40, in a relationship (long-term, informal, w/o cohabitation). On the other hand he is 6'5" and practices medieval swordsmanship in Viking reenactment group in his spare time. He lives according to red pill tenants, but does not preach them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 02:55 PM
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Porn is a porn is a porn. Dopamine rush is the same, coming from variety, choice and instant gratification.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 01:14 PM
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So...when are we pushing for young men (18-25) to be perceived as more attractive? As soon as it will become profitable. There is huge business in making women look younger, the longer they are perceived as attractive, the longer they are willing pay for cosmetics and surgeries. Sugar daddy does not save his money, but instead pushes them back into market (indirectly with help of sugar babies). Industry profits. But who would profit from changing perception of young man?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 09:21 AM
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My father was 14 years older than my mother, they were together for 35+ years, till his death. Statistics are far less convincing than personal experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 09:04 AM
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I generally agree with statement you make in the title of your post, but I have doubts where it comes to rationalization you've put in body of your post. Genetics play huge role in attractiveness, but DNA is not the only factor i.e. weight is result of diet and lifestyle muscle comes from exercise good teeth might be result of dental care some skin problems can be healed if only men decide to visit dermatologist On top of that, behavior affects attraction. Some behaviors were imprinted in proces…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 08:08 AM
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It depends, opening up in established relationship will not get you immediate rejection. More likely she will learn your insecurities and will use them to induce shame later to dominate the relationship (and then you are a toast).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 05:43 AM
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MGTOW only makes sense for men with experience. I strongly disagree with this opinion. Someone who isn't getting any action might be classified as: incel if he is sorry for himself and nurses his anger. MGTOW if he accepts it, and actively works on being happy in current circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 08:46 AM
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Disclaimer: I am a father, but my son is 9yo, so such choices are far ahead in the future for him. red-pilled, if he become red-pilled before marriage: I would be proud of him learning from father's mistakes. incel, as in someone who does not get any female attention: I would push him to take care of his body (diet, gym etc.) and financial situation. incel, as in someone who hates women due to not getting any attention: All of above plus therapy. MGTOW, his life, his choice, whatever makes him h…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 08:33 AM
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I do not think that MGTOW is not numerous enough to make statistically significant impact on dating market. You've mentioned that women want to marry up. I dare say that men who decide to leave the game are mostly men without perspective to play the game to satisfactory outcome, i.e. this are the same men, that women ignore. Therefore, even if MGTOW became more numerous, it may stay hidden in the statistics under the label of reluctance to form relationship across education/income gap.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 07:36 AM
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One more reason not to go to US... In countries using metric system, the cut-off usually comes at 180 cm (it is 2,88 cm or a 1 and 1/7 inch less than 6'0). I'm over 180 cm but below 6'0...
/r/MGTOW19/07/17 04:58 AM
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