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If they're mad about that, probably shouldn't pork em.
/r/seduction04/06/26 12:08 AM
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I can see kids with an autistic sibling or classmate in school saying that they are coddled. For adults, what you're saying completely tracks. There's maybe one workplace I've been in that would treat an autistic person as well as a neurotypical, let alone better. Shame cause people without the neurotypical hivemine drone mentality are usually more enjoyable to hang out with. They have unique interests and perspectives on life.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/05/26 03:15 PM
3

Lots of people here seem to think that being rich = women drooling over you is probably why.
/r/seduction02/05/26 07:03 PM
1

As men, has anyone had success questioning veracity/trying to get more details of serious claims of a woman against a man in a group setting without being labeled as a woman hater/creepy/wannabe rapist etc? I'd understand if someone automatically took the man's side always but I hate how the modern discourse seems to be "agree without verifying or be shunned" when it comes to certain topics. I'm sure a lot of us would do the exact same even if the genders were reversed.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/04/26 11:41 PM
5

If lesbians can have a normal and satisfying sex life, you'll be okay. You got them beat by 4 inches. Some women like it bigger, some like it smaller, there's no one size fits all. Also, I'm pretty sure you're within 1 standard deviation on average size so it's not like you've got something that nobody else has. I think the minimum needed for standard activities is like 2-3 inches so you'll be quite alright. The warmup is wayyyy more important than size anyways.
/r/seduction25/11/25 10:15 PM
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Good luck and have fun!
/r/seduction19/11/25 02:10 PM
3

Even if being a selfish asshole doesn't seem to bother you, that still just sounds like a waste of time and money.
/r/seduction18/11/25 07:40 PM
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Absolutely man, happy to help. Most popular way you'll see is hitting the gym. Builds discipline, makes you eye candy, you look more capable of defending her, yada yada yada. Finding something you're passionate about is huge. What makes you happy to get up in the morning? If you don't have it, find it. Women love to be with people who are happy and make them happy. You know the saying "misery loves company"? So does joy. Building social value is huge, I'd say much more important than the gym. If…
/r/seduction18/11/25 06:21 PM
1

I'll agree that game is a mumbo jumbo word, usually used to justify being a dick. I'd highly recommend reading Models by Mark Manson to help you gain a different perspective.
/r/seduction18/11/25 05:58 PM
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You can become both with effort, discipline and time. I've seen enough average/below average guys pull it off. And most guys can look average or above average if they focus on improving their appearance. If you're not willing to put the effort in, yeah it's not going to happen.
/r/seduction18/11/25 05:56 PM
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Then maybe respect the fact they don't want to get their heart broken by being emotionally and physically vulnerable with someone who wants to use and lose them? WTF kind of response you're looking for here?
/r/seduction18/11/25 02:04 AM
10

The game is whatever you want it to be. If you want to believe that you can't get laid without lying, that's your decision to make. Good people are attracted to good energy. Shitty human beings are attracted to shitty energy. I know what kind of people I'd rather spend time around.
/r/seduction18/11/25 01:54 AM
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What you're missing here is the part about building value. There are plenty of women into the casual thing and many people can have casual hookups without lying about their intentions. What I've seen work is being a passionate, positive person and being willing to drop them if they aren't the right fit for you. If all you do is be upfront and say "I want sex" without doing much else, then yeah, you're not gonna get laid. I'm not in the room with you on dates so I can't really tell what you're do…
/r/seduction17/11/25 11:32 PM
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Look, i don't know you in person. You don't have to lie to impress me. I want you to be happy. I want you to be successful. I want you to find someone who treats you to way you want to be treated. It's glaringly obvious from what comments you're posting here that you're not having the level of success you want to see, that's why. Take the advice and improve for next time or continue to struggle, your choice.
/r/seduction08/10/25 01:20 AM
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"She should make it up to me for ghosting" This mindset isn't helping you. If you're going to treat sex like a commodity, get a hooker. If you want success with women, you need to stick to your boundaries and see women as humans instead of vending machines where you put money in and sex comes out.
/r/seduction07/10/25 11:46 PM
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You decide what type of man you want to be. You want to be a sleazebag just to get laid?
/r/seduction07/10/25 01:55 AM
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I have to overexplain sometimes cause some redditors gets a little too eager to call people creeps sometimes. Helps avoid the discussion straying sometimes. It is about respect for me. I've had enough pleasant dates with pleasant people to know that this is a reasonable thing to achieve. I treat women with respect, and I deserve the same treatment back. If a woman cant decide if the man has built up enough value to commit to a date that she already she agreed to, that's a major turn off for me. …
/r/seduction13/09/25 04:05 AM
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Yes and no. There's shittesting, building rapport, push & pull and all that jazz but dropping out of a date an hour before and claiming he needs to bring a friend for a 2nd attempt at a first date shows very poor communication skills. Now could OP have built up more trust and a better rapport? Perhaps but I don't think he did anything wrong outside of asking to pick her up in his car on the 1st date. Just shows that he's probably a little clueless about women perceive safety on a 1st date but th…
/r/seduction12/09/25 07:32 PM
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It's pretty normal to feel slighted when people decide last minute to not hang out with you. It's pretty disrespectful of your time when you could have made plans to do stuff with other people instead.
/r/seduction12/09/25 05:55 PM
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At this point, I would write her off as not serious enough for dating. She's already got you overthinking and writing paragraphs about her behavior when you haven't even met her yet. The right one makes it easy for you because they WANT to meet you.
/r/seduction12/09/25 05:53 PM
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You get her to not be a fencesitter. Make assumptions about what she thinks about an aspect about you, tease, physically escalate. You have to polarize. Make her pick a side. She'll either back off or lean into it, and you can adjust from there. Realize that she probably isn't 100% raring to go immediately like a lot of men and needs to gradually build up interest. What probably won't work 3 minutes into the conversation might work 3 hours in.
/r/seduction21/08/25 01:46 AM
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Because despite popular dialogue, there's a lot of women who don't need people to make 6 figures before being willing to talk and get to know them. Money doesnt really make someone attractive outside of being financially stable and helps you look like you make good decisions. She could be attracted to your lifestyle but it wont make her necessarily be attracted to you. Until you make enough money to influence people, but then she is attracted to your power.
/r/seduction19/08/25 09:13 PM
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There's some truth in this, however a lot of times what they are wearing doesn't matter as well and its important to be mindful that there are many awful situations where sexual assault/rape isn't within the victim's control. While very dark, I would recommend clicking the link and reviewing the stories of survivors. I don't believe you think "they deserve it" or anything of that nature, just please keep in mind that while sexuality is a tool that many manipulate to get ahead, it also has direct…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/08/25 05:25 PM
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Everything. Why would you be with someone who doesn't value some part of you in some way, no matter if its short or long term? Sucessful seduction is about framing, flirting and becoming the best version of yourself, not orbiting some chick in the desperate hope of being given a chance.
/r/seduction29/07/25 11:48 PM
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Almost every time when i hear "at first i didn't like him..." she seems like the settler and he is the reacher in the relationship. Not that she's a more valuable person and he is less so but more that they seem to be both convinced at least subconsciously that the woman settled for less than what she could have gotten in the dating market.
/r/seduction29/07/25 08:40 PM
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Would you date you? Do you have passions, hobbies and strong morals, whichever direction you take with them? Do you go after the type of person that you are an equal complement to and not just going after eye candy? Sorry you're having a rough time, hope it gets better soon.
/r/seduction03/03/25 04:10 AM
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The goal is to be where your niche is. Figure out what your vibe is and find a location that matches your vibe
/r/seduction02/02/25 07:31 PM
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Ignorance breeds fear. Fear breeds hate. Hate breeds suffering. Or something like that. Wish we'd stop demonizing men for existing :(
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/01/25 02:21 AM
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Basic game theory is not being defined externally. You believe that you aren't enough because of your height. That is wrong. I've seen firsthand women throwing away their height requirement for short guys that exude charm. Have strong enough positives and you'll begin to find women that are quick to dismiss your negatives. Lying is dumb because good communication is the cornerstone of all quality relationships you have from FWB to dating to marriage. Play stupid games, you might win a stupid pri…
/r/seduction03/01/25 04:41 AM
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The being soft on women is intentional I'm sure to avoid getting labeled a woman hater and losing their trust. Ultimately its about changing hearts and minds and I'd rather see him convert women to our side than have a few extra "gotcha's" sprinkled in there. Very fine line to walk while simultaneously advocating for male issues.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates31/12/24 01:43 PM
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The closest large sub is probably female dating strategy which for whatever reason celebrates objectifying men and never suggests that becoming a better person is a great way to attract a better partner. Their goal is to promote choosiness and filtering out bad partners, which is fair in the concept at least. Its the execution that sucks lol. We have our share of knuckleheaded takes here but at least they get mostly shot down.
/r/seduction15/12/24 05:23 PM
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Hell, even men in general. She has a fortnite map and her and Walz played Madden together. That's it as far as I know for outreach to men lol
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/11/24 11:12 PM
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This isn't about agreeing or disagreeing with God's design, it's about what you're prioritizing in your journey. That's like me saying my favorite Bible verse is Judges 3:22. Unless I somehow have a convicting story about how a morbidly obese guy getting stabbed to death with the focus on how gross the guy is being a pivotal point in my journey with Christ, you'd reasonably wonder what's wrong with me. The Bible preaches that women be subordinate in a setting with leaders, sure. They are still h…
/r/RPChristians12/09/24 08:56 PM
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Out of all the verses in the Bible, you're claiming that that this one is the most meaningful to you and not some other verse that highlights your journey with being a Christian or one that reminds you of the circumstances when you converted or one that reminds you of a special aspect of your relationship with God? Why is telling women to be quiet your favorite verse? Do you think that makes you a good Christian?
/r/RPChristians12/09/24 08:20 PM
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I feel ya. It's worrisome how much online culture has affected us and our ability to get along with people we have disagreements with.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/24 04:38 PM
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I appreciate you giving her an opportunity to grow instead of just cutting her stop. Lot of people are too quick to make enemies.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/24 04:21 PM
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What i see in the example though is a space being created for women, not denying a male only building. Im not a fan of shutting things down for the other side because we don't have it yet, would rather use that energy to get it too. I thought allegedly the building was for DV survivors? I think its fair to have those women reset from men for a bit while they get their shit together. I hear a lot of men want to do the same thing as well. They clearly don't have resources for that though. Id rathe…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/06/24 04:35 PM
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Absolutely I would for women. Women shouldn't be in male DV shelter housing. While it probably doesn't exist, it should. I was thinking gender, not race when I made the comment. There may be a good example, there may not, I haven't thought about it enough yet at this point to expand my comment to race as well.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/06/24 04:29 PM
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Ehhh this isnt the hill Id die on. Men don't need to access 100% of the spaces in the world, as long as we are given the same grace.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/06/24 03:09 PM
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"The left needs to do a better job being more inclusive" Made me chuckle but you're absolutely right. They talk a big game about inclusivity though.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/06/24 09:41 AM
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You gotta think about the long game here. Sure, it's no problem in the moment but if she ends up finding a great guy to date, she's either gonna have to lie or come clean about her friend circle having 1 or more fuckbuddies. How would you feel if you were her boyfriend and in that situation? No problem for the poly folks I'm sure but it would be definitely more than a bit concerning for the average monogamous couple.
/r/seduction31/05/24 01:54 PM
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Positive femininity implies there's toxic femininity and that can't coexist in a worldview where women always are wonderful and perfect.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/04/24 11:45 PM
3

I bet half of the people complaining about being virgins would lose it within a year of benching 300 pounds. It doesn't fix everything but it teaches people consistency, respecting yourself, discipline, and focus on long-term progress rather than being a victim.
/r/seduction15/04/24 09:40 PM
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Just because you presently struggle with something doesn't mean you're forever doomed to be that way. These things require consistency over months/years to improve but it can and will happen if you decide they're worth the effort. Success won't happen overnight but it's not impossible.
/r/seduction15/04/24 09:33 PM
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You're on the right track. If you keep working at it, I'd be shocked if you were still holding your v card by the end of the year. Women like guys with labrador energy. Just don't get caught up in the trap that good guys aren't physically assertive. If she didn't like you, she wouldn't be on a date with you. Learn how to read body language, gradually physically escalate & make her have to prove herself to you as well.
/r/seduction12/04/24 12:06 AM
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You're treating subjective preferences like objective things. Every person is different with different wants and needs. Just treat women with respect and understand that a lot want the same thing you do. Confidence is your issue. You're pretending to yourself that its about wanting to be respectful when in reality the fear of failure is holding you back. "I am too scared to come across bold , wrong, or fail." The fear of failure is what's causing you to fail. You don't need to say the "right" th…
/r/seduction11/04/24 10:50 PM
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Sounds like you're going in the right direction. Takes time and sometimes the process sucks but it sounds like you're gonna get there :) Denver is a holiday destination right? You might be getting additional resistance cause of people either not living there for more than a few weeks/months or locals not wanting to form long-term bonds with people who are going to up and leave.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/03/24 10:01 PM
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OLD is designed to keep you coming back. Use this moment as an opportunity to figure out how to meet people IRL. Don't even focus on dating women yet, just go out and do things you find fun that other people do. Use Facebook and the Meetup app to find groups of people doing fun stuff. Find a rec kickball league, D&D groups, book clubs, Magic TCG tournaments, hiking groups, dancing, etc. Do things that you truly enjoy, meet people who also enjoy it and you just might find someone who likes those …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/03/24 07:16 PM
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You may not personally have problems with male-only spaces but society at large absolutely does. I'd encourage you to read about Earl Silverman and his experience with running a male DV shelter. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Earl_Silverman
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/03/24 07:51 PM
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Did they ever stop using those headlines?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/02/24 04:05 PM
1

You're right, you're asking them to give them something of value. That's why it's SO important to demonstrate your value and show them that you'll give them something worth the gift they could give to you.
/r/seduction19/02/24 04:06 PM
5

Sheeeit, glad I didn't make the age cutoff. Currently applying for Latvian dual citizenship lol.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/02/24 02:09 AM
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Which begs the question, what do the politicians get out of the deal by going out of the way to treat men worse?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/02/24 02:04 AM
20

There's a snippet of truth with incels One line from one of C.S. Lewis's books really stuck with me "By mixing a little truth with it they had made their lie far stronger.'
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/02/24 02:02 AM
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Downvoted because the post is low effort. It's easy to hate on people that hate men but we need to be solution-focused and not waste our limited energy on non-productive things. Plenty of other subreddits that will happily hate on extremist feminists.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/02/24 05:53 PM
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I don't see why not. "Benevolent *insert category*" really just means you treat that category of people better than another category of people because of their gender/skin color/etc rather than the person. This negatively impacts people outside that group who have to work harder to gain the same level of admiration/respect as the person/people inside that particular category.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/01/24 09:15 PM
2

I'm not really sure why he keeps posting so often with these scenarios but I'm entertained. Is there a specific style of writing that you're using u/Alpha-Bunny1? It's a very unique form of storytelling and I'm finding it enjoyable.
/r/RPChristians30/01/24 06:22 PM
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Id bet a HUGE percentage of them got bullied badly in the first place though. So its a vicious cycle
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/01/24 10:40 PM
6

I'll happily shame it for being exploitative. If its just about getting off then whatever but to prey on people who don't know how to find and build a relationship is super low. Praising people for doing OF, stripping, etc is a red flag for me. It screams "man hater".
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/01/24 11:23 PM
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Oh there's definitely a solid argument to be had there and I could possibly even be convinced that you're correct to given some studies I've already read. That was just my gut feeling for relationships worldwide is all.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/01/24 08:55 PM
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Makes me wonder if OP is the article writer that is looking to drive engagement on her article lol
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/01/24 06:53 PM
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Depending on what lens you're viewing through, I'd agree or disagree with the premise of the question. Emotionally? Yeah men probably do want to rely more on women than vice versa? Through the lens of safety, direction in life, and finances I'd hazard that women rely more on men for those things.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/01/24 06:40 PM
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Left doesnt mean good and right doesnt mean evil. You could make an argument that anti men people aren't progressive though
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates31/12/23 11:26 PM
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Men's rights is not a blue vs red thing. Democrats don't give a shit about us as a group either. You're better off explaining to other people why men need help rather than telling me one politicial party cares about men's rights when neither actually do.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/12/23 05:07 AM
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Like liberals don't? It's a universal problem, come on. You could argue the sexism/misandry presents itself differently of course but both sides treat men as disposable. If anything, I'd say conservative lip service of men is better than what the average liberal feels about men's health/rights though neither side really gives a shit about men as a group.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/12/23 04:39 AM
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I hear where you're coming from. People need to be able to take what they're dishing out. However, there's also the matter of not being fucked up just cause the enemy is too. Personally just off of what you said it doesnt seem that bad if he didnt say it maliciously. Of all the shit he's said, I'm honestly surprised that that's the one that got people up in arms about him lol.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/12/23 04:50 PM
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Ah damn, what's the drama with Rife? Seemed like a cool guy and great comedian, is the hate deserved or nah?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/12/23 04:44 AM
2

Plenty of legitimate issues to deal with out there, lets start with the ones that we can point to actual evidence for. I'm not saying you're wrong but I'm not saying you're right either and your post is just fear porn with no actual data in it. Men as a group have limited social capital, we need to spend it wisely on easy to understand and support issues like male suicide and homelessness instead of issues that will unite many men and women AGAINST us for the dubious benefits that stopping watch…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/11/23 03:31 AM
2

TBH the thought has its appeal at times though I'd ultimately be against it in the end.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/11/23 03:25 AM
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Then people arent seeing LMWA's enough to make that kind of comment if this subreddit is their only place to find one.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/11/23 03:34 AM
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Serious question, where are the LWMA's?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/11/23 04:24 PM
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If women could understand that the experience of successful men is vastly different from the average man's experience the world would be in a much better place.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/10/23 07:32 PM
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Being authentic is still good advice. Fixing the part about being miserable is the key. If you have good energy, women are into that. Plus, being happy is just a good thing in general to be. Faking it isn't a good idea, especially long term. Not saying its easy to get to that point though, I wish you the best as you navigate the process of healing from past traumas and fixing bullshit happening in the present.
/r/seduction09/10/23 03:14 AM
2

Clearly that person has never tried dating in Colombia lol. Scopolamine is a scary drug.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/09/23 10:13 PM
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Yeah thats why that quote had me looking sideways. Like we're for the most part supporting feminism in 1st world countries while they treat our problems as bs.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/09/23 10:11 AM
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A lot can happen in 10 years. I saw gayness go from a dirty little secret to being mostly acceptable in that time frame. Its gonna be a rough road but we can make it better for the generation to come.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/09/23 12:49 AM
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For those curious like me about what comment: "GB News presenter Laurence Fox has been formally suspended by the channel for saying of a female journalist live on air: 'Show me a self-respecting man that would like to climb into bed with that.' "
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/09/23 10:34 PM
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Was she the one who said something along the lines of "men should come to bat for us like we do for them" in that video?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/09/23 10:32 PM
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TBF the woman in the middle was respectful. No idea what viewpoint she has but she gave him space to talk. Not thrilled her and the other guy let the 2 braindead women steamroll the conversation. Who knows though, maybe that will help in the long run with people seeing how seeing male issues get constantly talked over on live television.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/09/23 10:29 PM
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That video was a rollercoaster. The lady in the middle was giving him space to talk, was asking questions neutrally and seemed interested in letting him say his piece. Thought "oh wow, this might actually be a decent discussion. Props to BBC for giving men space to talk about male-specific issues." And then the other two women jumped in. Holy fuck. The comment about women supposedly being more useful than men during the pandemic to divert focus from the issue of men dying way more than women fro…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/09/23 10:25 PM
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Only thing stopping you is yourself my dude. Ive seen way shorter dudes with ethnicities that are associated with higher difficulties with dating do fine. Women are attracted to energy, how you feel about yourself and how you make them feel. I cant speak specifically for asians in eastern europe though sorry. Latam countries, eastern europe and phillipines seem to be the hot spots in general for now though.
/r/seduction19/09/23 09:53 PM
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For real. Matched with 2k people inside the states. No gf, just didnt click with anyone enough. My gf is from outside the states. Dunno the number of international matches i had but definitely wayyyy less than 2k. Would be surprised if i hit 200.
/r/seduction19/09/23 09:47 PM
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Its because we give those types of women too much of a platform. They say those things because getting hit on by the wrong guy annoys them and they don't care about the men trying to find love. They'll keep preaching that approaching is harassment until they get hit on by their dream guy. Solution is to promote respectful approaching and call out the assholes who cry "creep" for no good reason. That being said, those women exist way more in online spaces than real life in my experience.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/05/23 08:53 PM
2

He also liked to play rock (against Goliath's head)
/r/RPChristians23/04/23 06:39 PM
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Money helps but if you need it to attract women... they aint attracted to you.
/r/seduction15/04/23 12:21 AM
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Jesus, sounds like she's trying her best to make that statement true.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/03/23 04:46 AM
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Its more like "sticking it to the patriarchy" and empowering than seen as less harmful unfortunately
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/03/23 04:43 AM
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Yeah its wild when you have someone like Andrew Tate - who is objectively a piece of shit- who is basically worshipped by so many young men because he validates the experiences and pain that they have experienced in their lives. He shares lies but also enough truth to give certain male youth a voice. Same deal essentially happened with Trump and rural conservative america. Many people don't really care if you're a piece of shit as long as you validate their worldview. Very worrisome for young bo…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/03/23 11:44 PM
2

There's romantic women out there man, it just comes down to knowing where to look, having game/confidence, improving yourself to be attractive to those types of women or all the above.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/01/23 06:23 AM
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It means understanding that life isnt fair but having the perseverance to overcome adversity anyways
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/01/23 05:33 AM
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1st message, displaying extreme neediness. 2nd message, qualifying her wayyyy too fast plus kinda objectifying I'm rooting for you but damn son, your texting game needs work
/r/seduction16/08/22 01:57 AM
5

Truuuuuue that unfortunately. It's a counter point at best for this day and age.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/07/22 10:35 PM
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“Breasts aren’t obscene, they nurture life” narrative Unless you got a shit ton of money, a penis is involved in creating 99.9999% of life so an argument can be made there as well.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/07/22 08:29 PM
1

If you're already miserable then theres no harm in changing things up, right? If you become willing to leave your comfort zone and fail and become proactive in searching for happiness that is the perfect mindset. Then all you have to do is the grind haha. What kind of life would make you happy? Look around you, use media, read books and find people who have lives that you admire. Figure out what they have that you want and set goals that are objective, not subjective. Say you're tired of being p…
/r/seduction10/07/22 06:23 PM
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A good woman should be part of a good life, not your whole life. If you are a happy person content with your life as is -and I know people who have been happy with being single and have turned down advances- the validation of an interested woman matters so much less than someone who makes it their life to go to the clubs or wherever else to attempt to get laid every weekend. Trying to seduce women while not having a fulfilling life that makes you happy is skipping an important step that makes da…
/r/seduction10/07/22 05:15 AM
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Depends on your life outlook. Is your goal to live a good life and find a compatible woman to share in the enjoyment or to get laid as much as possible? Both motivate you to workout, be an interesting person etc but one gives you the power of controlling your happiness while the other is that.
/r/seduction09/07/22 09:47 PM
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Are you saying women in 3rd world countries are worth less than women in first world nations? There are wonderful women everywhere that dont want you just for your money. If people are throwing money around to attract women, its gonna be toxic no matter what nation she's from.
/r/seduction04/07/22 11:58 PM
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He didnt just say his opinion, he turned a fun interaction sour because he couldn't respect hearing a rejection. Control yourselves. This type of immature shit is why a lot of women are afraid to tell us the truth and get flaky/ghost.
/r/seduction04/07/22 11:15 PM
0

Gonna have to agree to disagree here
/r/seduction29/06/22 04:47 PM
12

Sleazy? Maybe a bit. Desperate? Yeah. Its online orbiting and you're interacting with her cause you want to get with her but shes currently taken lol
/r/seduction29/06/22 04:06 PM
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It's all in the energy you're putting out. If you're in a good state of mind (promotion, bench a new personal record, etc) women sense that positivity/confidence and want it in their lives. Positive loop happens when you get more female attention and then you truly arent needy for a womans attention vs pretending not to be. That's why its so important to build a solid life that's not woman centric to land a woman haha
/r/seduction29/06/22 02:11 AM
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If she blocked you, you missed quite a few signs along the way that shes not into you and you probably pushed past a few "please leave me alone" signs. Take the L, move on and learn when women are saying non verbal nos and to take the rejection gracefully. Good luck bud, it's a steep learning curve but you'll get there if you learn non verbal cues, build yourself up and be respectful.
/r/seduction29/06/22 12:59 AM
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I get that there's a lot of pent up frustration from constant rejection that went into this post but the knee jerk reaction of calling all men racists and that they never see black women as dateable is aggressively misandrist and just plain wrong. I get that there are some people with racist tendencies that can bleed into their dating preferences as well but any guy worth dating would see this comment as a massive red flag. If I said that half the human population was racist because they didnt w…
/r/seduction26/06/22 05:21 AM
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Your problem is not your looks. Take a deeper look inside yourself and be honest. Would you date a male version of yourself? Why/why not? Are you a kind person? Do you have passions? What makes you happy in life? The little bit of insight that I have from your post and replies seems to indicate you're blaming the world around you and haven't considered looking inwards at all yet. And maybe you're not what the average tech guy is into. It sucks for sure but it doesnt mean it's your only avenue fo…
/r/seduction26/06/22 05:04 AM
1

Go out and have fun till you know enough about yourself and what you want out of a partner besides that's she's hot, is nice to you and puts out.
/r/seduction23/06/22 01:16 AM
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You should absolutely do that. Your mind is on the right track, chasing women can be a fun hobby but shouldn't be ruling your life. Get yourself right and enjoy your life. Besides, improving yourself is going to make you more attractive anyways so if anything you're more likely to have more success while going down the path of self-improvement.
/r/seduction12/06/22 09:24 PM
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It's not either/or. Hitting the gym is something that basically everyone can do and drastically increases attractiveness for most folks. It also helps get people in a grind mindset vs a victim mindset. I think working on mental health is super important as well but given the amount of people who complain on here about not getting laid vs the percentage of fit people I see in real life, the advice is valid and still needs to be pushed.
/r/seduction21/05/22 03:23 AM
1

Most jobs come with a certain set of stereotypes. I think you'd be hard pressed to find someone who thought the same of their boyfriend/girlfriend if they changed jobs into a wildly different field/ level of pay/ work/life balance
/r/seduction16/05/22 06:28 AM
3

Have you spent money on her? If yes, you are her client. She may like spending time with you but you are her client. Do not get that confused.
/r/seduction08/03/22 10:17 PM
1

Have you considered learning to dance? Still get a vibrant active environment that doesn't require inebriation
/r/seduction22/02/22 04:44 PM
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It's not about judging, it's about doing the right thing. His gf has no idea she's at risk of catching an std. She could get something nasty for life if she doesn't know. And yeah, if he's imposing rules while he's cheating, he's full of shit lol. I would expect to be crossed by him at some point
/r/seduction22/02/22 02:16 PM
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Its ALL morally wrong lol. Friends dont let friends cheat on their partners and dont steal hot dates from each other. Right now you're treating sex as the god in your life and you are willing to disrespect others and yourself for it.
/r/seduction22/02/22 02:02 PM
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Doesnt have to be. A guy I know is virgin by choice and he's got a very full life and is a pretty happy dude, happier than most people that are even getting laid. All depends on what you prioritize in life.
/r/seduction18/02/22 04:58 AM
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If you're tired about talking about schoolwork, just say that haha "So I feel like the only thing I know about you is schoolwork, what does (name) find herself doing for fun?" Ask about hobbies, passions, where she'd travel to, all that jazz haha Learning how to steer the course of conversation is very important. Being abrupt isnt a big deal as long as you're not cutting her off or steering away from a topic shes really enjoying, etc. If all you've been talking about is schoolwork, jumping strai…
/r/seduction17/02/22 01:53 PM
1

As we all can lol
/r/seduction07/02/22 08:41 PM
2

🤣 Whatever you say dude. I do quite all right
/r/seduction07/02/22 07:30 PM
9

Everyone has different speeds. If she was super into you, she would have taken the time to figure out why you weren't moving as fast as she'd like and be willing to accommodate to an extent. Sorry it ended like that my man, ghosting after meeting up once is so rude, let alone four times.
/r/seduction07/02/22 05:49 PM
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For most, yes. It's very unsettling that you have no interest in what most people find great joy in having. It insinuates you only want women for sex and that you wont treat them like a person because why would you if you dont want to have any friends?
/r/seduction05/02/22 04:49 AM
2

Sounds like you're on the right path man, you'll get there if you keep putting in the effort.
/r/seduction01/02/22 06:07 PM
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There's two parts to being successful. One is knowing how to sell yourself (having no fear when cold approaching, being charismatic, grooming, can push/pull, physically escalate, etc) The other is being a high value person that you would date if you were the opposite gender. Hobbies, morals, consistency, fitness, etc We all can work on one if not both things. Assess yourself and prioritize what needs to be worked on. And 80 is rookie numbers haha. You'll get there eventually if you work on yours…
/r/seduction01/02/22 05:21 PM
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There is a difference but doing either is not exactly productive. Depends on your definition of being persistent I suppose but doing either does not stem from an abundance mindset
/r/seduction01/02/22 05:16 PM
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If you run out of things to say in person after only 1 or 2 dates supposedly from texting too much, I'd have doubts about there being enough of a connection anyways for long term potential. With the right person you'll always find more things to talk about. Now if you're not looking for longterm.... *shrug That being said, you're totally right that texting should not be the primary form of communication
/r/seduction28/01/22 03:15 PM
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You know what man? Keep on doing your thing. If a woman left swipes you for a fishing photo, she's probably gonna at least mildly disapprove of one of your favorite hobbies for the duration of time you know her. There's too much emphasis on a shotgun approach on here sometimes and there's nothing wrong with weeding out non compatible people.
/r/seduction27/01/22 05:01 AM
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Glad I could help! You seem like a wholesome guy, wishing you success
/r/seduction26/01/22 05:06 PM
2

This is a perfect example of why frame is so important. Do you choose to accept that random bitchy lady's frame of reality that the only reason to talk to the opposite sex is to get laid and that you're a failure for not doing so OR Stay strong with your own frame of reality that you wanted to and did talk with a cute lady about the secrets of life and sucessfully enjoyed each other's company for the evening? Something something the opinions of mice do not affect the lion or something like that …
/r/seduction25/01/22 06:55 PM
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Can't save everyone lol. Just gotta reach out to those to who listen and help them improve so everyone benefits
/r/seduction21/01/22 10:34 PM
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Real game isnt trying to manipulate unsuspecting women though. If done right, it's like a dance between two partners, with each willingly playing their part
/r/seduction21/01/22 06:00 PM
36

SOME women do it, doesn't mean all. Should the innocent be judged by the sins of the guilty?
/r/seduction19/01/22 05:32 AM
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The kind of guy women approach is the type of guy who knows how to and does approach women. Otherwise you're hoping for essentially the same thing as winning the lottery, especially at a bar alone with no friends around.
/r/seduction18/01/22 11:10 PM
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A poly triad sounds like a shit ton of work, even with everyone being good communicators haha. Glad you can make it work though, sounds like fun lol
/r/seduction16/01/22 04:12 PM
1

Why are you spending money on someone if you don't want to spend money on someone? Shouldn't have to be beyond maybe a drink or two for a first date.
/r/seduction16/01/22 04:08 PM
2

What are Japanese rules?
/r/seduction14/01/22 02:17 PM
3

Who cares if you get crushed? I'm a fairly strong dude and tbh I'd be pretty psyched if some 5'0 chick kicked my ass in my first class cause then I'd know the training is actually effective! You're there to learn so if you dont have an attitude or anything while there I'm sure it will be a great time
/r/seduction12/01/22 07:21 PM
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Which one do you prioritize more? I'm assuming a relationship if you saw potential. Do you do anything differently because of searching for something serious? While experience dating casually has definite benefits for long term relationships, I wonder if the approach needs to be at least a little different. Kinda feel like I'm in the same routine and cant break free, ya feel me?
/r/seduction10/01/22 02:49 AM
2

Maybe she had a lot of fun on the date but the morning after realized that you guys weren't compatible longish term?
/r/seduction09/01/22 10:33 PM
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You'll get there, you know what to do. Just gotta build momentum. It's a journey. Get used to talking with strangers first then move onto women. You dont have to approach a 100 women a day right off the bat or anything. The more you do, the less you overthink and over time things will become more natural
/r/seduction08/01/22 08:02 PM
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Also, theres a ton of location based subreddits. I think what would be very helpful for you would be to find one in your area, post about an event you want to go to but would like a person/some people to enjoy the experience with. Give a brief intro to what you're like and into and if you like, mention you want to chat with them a bit first online as well to get to know them a bit better. Best way I see to meet people without having to interact with a bunch all at once.
/r/seduction08/01/22 01:43 AM
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Offer to take someone clothes shopping with you next time you hear a guy lamenting about his poor sense of style lol. I'm sure there are many who would gladly take you up on the offer. Whenever I've hit up a meetup there's almost always at least 1-3 other people that say it's also their first to third time there. If they didnt want to hang out with you, they would have made it a private event instead of a public one. Do you have any interest in board games? There's usually new people showing up …
/r/seduction08/01/22 01:35 AM
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That's what I initially thought too but its actually kind of a thing. If you want to read more about it here's a starting point https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theatlantic.com/amp/article/284364/
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/01/22 01:06 AM
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I didnt say desirable, I said hotter. There's a difference. You can be good looking without being supermodel status. Majority of good looking guys arent getting constant validation every moment they're outside.
/r/seduction07/01/22 09:55 PM
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I'll agree with that but you dont need to have super high levels of charisma to do alright as long as you have other things going for you. Most people could get to the minimum level of charisma they need to be successful in the dating world if they worked on it.
/r/seduction07/01/22 08:39 PM
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I consider myself to be fairly decent looking and I dont get an incredible amount of compliments about my appearance from people. You getting a bunch of those comments is not average and I mean that in a good way! 50% of men are overweight/obese in america so if you're here and running a lot every way, you're already above average without even factoring your sense of style and everything else. Honestly dude, you sound close to being there. You just gotta overcome the social hurdle and then you'v…
/r/seduction07/01/22 08:36 PM
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That's not what I said. Looks are a definite advantage but unless you're literally Brad Pitt level handsome, a quiet socially awkward and slightly depressed hotter guy imo will have a harder time dating than an outgoing social ugly guy who's happy about life. Doesnt make you a retard to realize hot people have it easier but women care also about the vibes you give off. A fun outgoing vibe will do A LOT and if you don't have that, looks weren't gonna be much help to you anyways. Again, it makes d…
/r/seduction07/01/22 08:12 PM
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Not every guy puts in the effort to be charismatic.
/r/seduction07/01/22 05:15 PM
2

How is your social game? Do you have social hobbies, play sports, volunteer? You clearly are willing to put in the effort to better yourself in multiple ways, have you explored this as well? Have you considered taking up a martial art or dancing? I hear these can do wonders in terms of inner confidence, interacting with people, being more comfortable with touch/body language, etc. (Assuming you're a straight dude here) To combat approach anxiety, how often do you cold approach guys just to strik…
/r/seduction07/01/22 05:14 PM
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Standing out would be not approaching women at all and forcing them to approach you. I guarantee you no one’s doing that If you have a high enough social status, this totally does happen. Seen it multiple times with my own eyes.
/r/seduction07/01/22 04:54 PM
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Depends why you have one. If its just for thirst trapping women, maybe there's an issue. If you want a digital scrapbook of your life that also attracts women as a bonus, I don't see a problem with that.
/r/seduction07/01/22 04:52 PM
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Dunno why the downvotes, you're absolutely right. Most people don't put the effort in for a high quality IG account though.
/r/seduction07/01/22 04:48 PM
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Oh they matter but they're not everything. I've seen enough ugly to average looking guys do well. The one thing they had in common? They are very confident/ social people and got out to make friends instead of solely being thirsty horndogs and were able to build up decent social groups. Social proof is just as powerful as looks if not even more. Online dating isn't for everyone but people can totally do better if they worked on their social skills and focus on being a part of their community. I …
/r/seduction07/01/22 04:48 PM
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Cant cheat if you were never bf/gf level. That being said, sounds like a weird situation and more info is needed before claiming one party is at fault. Tbh its probably both lol
/r/seduction04/01/22 02:44 PM
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Wrong lol
/r/seduction30/12/21 11:04 PM
5

It's your view of the world and how much control others have over yours/you have over theirs.
/r/seduction30/12/21 05:01 PM
2

That's one of the differences between me and the average person. I've picked the 2nd job irl because I get do something actually meaningful for work and get 6 months off out of the year to travel and have new experiences that 90% of the population may never experience anything similar to my level of freedom. I have way more stories to share about my life and in generally am more interesting to be around. I am different in a much better way for not making the rat race my #1 priority and women sen…
/r/seduction25/12/21 12:43 PM
6

If shes pressing that hard when you just met her, shes not into you.
/r/seduction25/12/21 03:23 AM
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And I'm happy you enjoy that type. However they are not for everyone. While I did all right before, I've had way more success with the type of women I'm into when I left my stable better paying career for one I've really enjoyed. Yes, having money is better than not having money but it is not everything. I would even hazard to say that it's better to place a higher priority on building other aspects of your personality once you have enough money to be self sufficient but that's my personal prefe…
/r/seduction25/12/21 03:09 AM
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Money matters for seduction in terms of how much you decide it makes you a HVM for having/not having a lot of it as well as how important ambition and to a lesser degree stability is for women you're into. The prim and proper lady dressed to the nines in nyc will be looking for financial success while the barefoot hippie out west wont care as much if at all.
/r/seduction24/12/21 11:37 PM
3

"She's getting her period" Most people dont turn into a fucking werewolf on their period. This behavior is NOT okay
/r/seduction23/12/21 12:55 PM
1

It's less about attraction and more about demonstrating social value imo. Dont want your friends thinking less of you cause you chose the non socially correct option. Though most of those options listed should be definitely be thoroughly shamed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 05:00 AM
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While I think its great you're planning on building wealth and being altruistic with it, theres a lot more factors that go into being romantically successful. In fact, that lifestyle choice might even repel a few women. Which is okay because you want something very different for your life than what they want. You plan to offer stability, safety, being a community leader which are all great things. Others may offer freedom, adventure, spontaneity which you can only offer in limited amounts if you…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 04:03 AM
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Oh no, they have tattoos, so terrible lol. Sucks she cheated on you though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 02:37 AM
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That's not the abundance mindset though unfortunately. The women that are sort of/are ignoring you just are not interested enough. If you're being put on read and shes not responding, you're her plan B AT BEST, honestly probably more like option #12 at that point. There are techniques to cope with rejection by not being her priority but to pursue a woman that you've shot your shot with and is tepid at best about you is needy behavior and no internal technique is gonna change that that I'm aware …
/r/seduction13/12/21 05:07 AM
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Constantly trying to continue dead conversations does mess with your inner psyche though. It makes you enter/stay in a mindset of neediness, you're essentially trying to impress someone enough to continue talking with you that already has given you a soft rejection. If they liked you as much as you'd want them to, you'd know. Gotta demonstrate value and good conversation skills from the get go. If she doesn't do her part to keep up the conversation and you're trying to keep it going, you're just…
/r/seduction12/12/21 07:41 PM
4

Exactly. You will see this attitude everywhere, not just where it pertains to men's issues unfortunately. Whoever can devise and implement a way to make the masses of people actually critically think and emphasize with others will be the savior of humanity.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/11/21 06:57 PM
1

Happy to help lol. People are attracted to people who do what makes them happy when it doesnt harm others. Good luck tomorrow!
/r/seduction29/10/21 10:01 PM
3

Have you ever tried calling instead of texting? Obviously you have to have some sort of back and forth built up already but in my experience, most actually like it. And if she doesn't, oh well. Sounds like youd get along better with someone who does. Joke about preferring to call people in your tinder bio and see what happens haha
/r/seduction29/10/21 04:32 PM
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And why are they just like you? Gotta display your unique side to rise above the sea of nameless faces
/r/seduction29/10/21 04:16 PM
1

And then she would likely have post sex regret, having them both feel like shit afterwards. If you dont care about a woman's feelings, just get a hooker lol. They're paid to deal with that kind of attitude at least.
/r/seduction27/10/21 07:07 PM
0

How is this a mistake? If you're only getting laid because of a lack of critical thinking being applied on their end, you dont deserve to get laid tbh.
/r/seduction27/10/21 03:11 PM
4

Cause some people take more than 5 mins on foreplay, give the poor guy a break. He didnt fuck up.
/r/seduction27/10/21 03:06 PM
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On the money. One of the worst things a guy can do is look too needy. If you set the tone that you are too busy to reply to him more than once a day, dont be surprised if he does the same.
/r/seduction27/10/21 12:55 PM
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The people that would hate you for progressing men's rights without hurting other people's rights are sexists. Idgaf about what sexists think of me.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/10/21 04:57 PM
2

What cultures are more touchy feely in your experience?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/09/21 10:32 PM
1

There was an old post in here about some dude with asperger's who learned how to eventually slay. With the right mindset and willingness to learn from your mistakes you can make it. Hopefully he didnt delete his post but if you can find it with the reddit search engine that will likely tell you what you need to know
/r/seduction01/09/21 10:06 PM
2

I think it's possible. Men reject women by not approaching so a woman may never know if she never approaches which is pretty common.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 03:14 AM
1

Have you tried cold approaching guys? A lot of guys could use a friend out there so I'd imagine your success rate will be way higher and you get a friend out of the deal while sharpening your skillset
/r/seduction16/08/21 04:44 PM
1

What is beta game?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 07:10 PM
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all that is called working on yourself. That saying only applies for selfish women. Maybe it won't turn me on but I'd have more respect for a woman that can make it on the career world. It's a green flag for a relationship. A good woman is more than just a good lay.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 04:58 AM
2

I dont see how improving yourself isn't attractive as hell. Maybe for the men searching for just pussy sure but it means everything for a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 02:05 AM
2

If women build their value the same way as a man, that would not hold true. If they rely mainly on beauty to be high value then yes this statement is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 09:00 PM
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The problem is that most women inherently want to feel submissive in relationships. This can be done by having the man out earn, have an assertive attitude, and yes being older. All of these arent bad but they are simply a means to allow a woman to let herself to give up control to a guy. What he does with his newfound power is what defines his character
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 01:16 AM
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Probably because short girls are preyed on more by creepers and value a strong protector imo
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 05:30 AM
1

Now I'm super curious, is this viewpoint held by mainly men or do a large portion of men and women subscribe to this notion?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 02:19 AM
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Is it really not part of who you are though? With very few exceptions, most people's satisfaction for their partner drastically increases with their fitness level as well as literally everybody benefitting from being more in shape. If you cant do something that helps both yourself and your partner drastically that in all reality doesnt require much beyond discipline and a bit of time, I would be concerned that that person lacks the discipline to better themselves in other ways.
/r/seduction25/05/21 12:39 PM
1

They are more capable of subconsciously displaying characteristics that signal to a woman what she wants to know. A rich man is rich but while a man may not be rich atm, he could be ambitious and likely to be a high earner down the road.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 09:08 PM
2

Because many men are good at presenting themselves differently than they are and testing is the best way for women to figure out the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 02:38 AM
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Most of the men I know in real life are nothing like the average male user here. Its important to be aware of the evils in humanity and exercise caution as needed but please dont let that stop you from feeling compassion and empathy for the men in your life, especially when the only thing many men share with people on here is the same type of reproductive equipment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 02:34 AM
1

The transactional thinking is true and it's an Interesting thought but would need some evidence to back that up.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 04:38 PM
2

Personally I'd call that a medium value woman. Sounds like a good person that could make someone happy but IMO sounds kind of boring. Having hobbies/passion for something would make her high value. Unfortunately that is rare to find for both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 04:42 PM
1

That isnt a woman only thing. There are many guys who'd ruin their lives over a hot women giving them interest lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 12:43 PM
1

I'd be very curious to know if those feelings resulted from the act itself or if those women typically view themselves desired for their personalities when in reality all they offer of value is their body and/or the men they go home with only care about using their bodies, causing many to face a harsh reality. Talk to most middle aged women who have lost their looks and most will say they are basically treated as invisible in society now where before people were way more outgoing/friendlier to t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 12:35 PM
1

Used to be, went very downhill.
/r/seduction04/05/21 03:27 PM
21

I personally wasnt even aware that enough women had the ability to own land/property/slaves at that time to have a noticable impact. All people share the same capacity for evil. Hell, even africans would help englishmen capture other africans back in the day as well as own slaves of their own. White men just happen to be the scapegoat of racism unfortunately. However, our goal should not be to bring others down but to progress the advancement of equality, with a special focus on male rights bein…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/05/21 01:03 AM
3

I've lived on the east coast and west coast of the US. In my experience, people are more open to different ways of living life out west, even if they arent necessarily financially lucrative. That being said, I was a wildland firefighter out there which tends to be a bit of a panty dropper haha
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 01:54 AM
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Depends heavily on region but you certainly are a minority. Wishing you many years of happiness in your relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 10:25 PM
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Without knowing the particular guy in question, that's difficult to give specifics If he's single and he doesnt want to be, he needs to work on something. Nobody is perfect and while he could maybe get someone as is, his chances will improve if he improves. Maybe he's a good guy and has substance but if that is true, he needs to work on being more flashy and being able to attract women's attention. Many guys lack confidence and the social calibration to hold an entertaining conversation. That wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 11:01 PM
1

War will do that, good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 01:18 AM
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Do you have a passion for something? I'm not talking about ambition to excel in your career. That should be a given unless you are looking for a provider/housewife dynamic in your relationships. Do you have hobbies? Do you have a good work-life balance? Do you have empathy for your fellow human? Do you depend on an SO for your happiness? If we know it's a lack of self-esteem, no. However, most likely your nervousness will be interpreted as a lack of interest which IS a problem unless you make an…
/r/seduction24/04/21 07:11 PM
5

Ask how its possible how out of all the billions of men, theres nobody with a good personality. Or say something along the lines of "yeah a lot of women also have pretty bland personalities too, dating just sucks for everyone on there, am I right? Hows that IPA, any good?..."
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 09:57 PM
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Not necessarily, just because they dont speak up doesn't mean they care about women. Tbh it sounds more like they just dont have spines to protect themselves from sexist rants
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 09:39 PM
3

You can be bi and absolutely repress your bi thoughts to the point that you genuinely believe you're not bi. Dont believe I'm bi but as a guy I can absolutely see how it can happen, especially in more conservative circles
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 03:26 PM
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Not a woman so curious on their viewpoint here but I got the impression that it isnt as much about your strength vs their strength as long as you're stronger than her as it is about your strength vs the strength of strangers that may wish to do her harm.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 01:27 PM
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I literally said except for those exact two things to you already. Assuming its consensual, both parties are at fault. And no, they dont always have control where they ejaculate unless you believe male rape isnt a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 06:16 PM
2

Again, not disagreeing with men's involvement in accidental pregnancy. Birth control failure doesnt make one gender any more or less culpable than another. Both genders make mistakes/use faulty products. Do you disagree with the statement that it takes two to get pregnant?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 05:56 PM
3

And a woman has total control over whether she uses birth control, IUD or even wearing her own condom.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 05:47 PM
1

While it shouldn't be mandatory, I disagree with men not paying for it, assuming both dont want the baby. It takes two people to get her pregnant and both should shoulder the responsibility of the consequences. It's the respectful thing to do. Shes already getting an operation done on her, I'd rather pay than deal with that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:54 PM
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I'm not defending those men but the women are also at fault here, assuming they didnt get raped, stealthed, etc. There are plenty of women that beg for it raw within the first couple hours of meeting them. Accidental pregnancy isnt just one gender's fault
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:50 PM
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Sure, theres a chance he can influence it a bit but what she says, goes. There is a major power imbalance here created by biology and only heightened if things are more casual e.g. she gives less of a shit what her partner thinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:45 PM
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Why would someone financially abort if they could actually abort? I'm not opposed to that option existing but I dont see why anyone would exercise that option if they had a choice between the two
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:41 PM
5

More powerful in terms of supply/demand yes, other avenues I'm not too sure of.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/04/21 03:21 PM
2

I hate coffee dates, if it's something you can do on an interview, you probably shouldn't do it as a first date idea
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 08:54 PM
39

You're not wrong but I'd highly recommend not having the last part of your dialogue not be something that could be construed as threatening. I get it, hurt people hurt people but if someone's already thinking men are evil, that part will read to them as we're gonna hurt them if we dont get treated better, which isnt a good optic for a gender that's trying to not be viewed as monsters.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/04/21 02:46 PM
2

It's like there needs to be a beginner level seddit for people to get their shit together and have another subreddit for reading IOI's, how to properly physically escalate and all that jazz.
/r/seduction24/03/21 02:48 PM
1

No reason you can't do all that, just be sincere with your intentions
/r/seduction24/03/21 02:46 PM
3

I'd be curious if these girls would be less or more into a guy who had all those qualities but focused on not having a gut. Like yeah, the general population favors fit over fat but idk if the gut helps retain that "daddy" image you're talking about? Maybe that look signifies a "protector" archetype to those girls who are really looking for someone to make them feel protected with a familiar comfortable vibe that wouldnt be present from a bodybuilder? Unless their dad's and uncles were bodybuild…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 09:40 PM
2

Mostly agreeing with everything you just said. Compatibility is important. On a personal level, I can agree with that. I could be in a relationship now if I wanted but I haven't found that right person just yet. Theres a whole unexplored side of attraction which is all about making what type of people you attract and what type of people you want to attract the same thing that I wish we could have more discussions on instead of whining about the same old tired issues. Yeah theres some basic tenet…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 08:03 PM
1

I'd be very curious to see the percentage of women who are against legalizing sex work that are also against dating bisexual men (keeping sex as a bargaining too in their household).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 07:46 PM
2

For argument's sake, let's say all women are looking for a relationship (not all for sure but let's pretend). There is no question that decent looking women and hotter get a ton of male attention. However the intentions of some of her high quality suitors will change based on what type of person she is. Yeah, most men are willing to have a ONS with the average woman but a combination of looks, personality, passion, hobbies, healthy friend group, compassion, intelligence, chemistry, financial ind…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 06:26 PM
4

While yeah, abstaining from low quality men is better than being with one, why not improve yourself instead to be with someone who actually fits your standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 01:23 PM
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Cause there's a jackass that I share the same name with that's a degenerate so I have to hope tinder's algorithm somehow knows I'm not the other guy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 04:48 PM
1

What happened to women trying to filter out people to get the best match? Isnt this strategy of pretending to be something they're not working against their best interests?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 11:15 AM
2

While I agree, the girl he married seems much happier than before from what we know. Despite all the well deserved criticism, there are much worse places to live than America and he very well could have made her feel like she won the lottery
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 04:10 AM
12

I wouldnt say "easy" as much as "looks like she wants to be approached"
/r/seduction04/03/21 07:19 PM
2

Probably a bit of hyperbole but there are relationships where both people do constantly have the hots for each other when life doesnt get in the way. People arent always at the same libido levels everyday but not everyone has low libido and he has a right to search for someone who matches his.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 01:59 PM
3

That's... a different take. What was their reasoning?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 01:36 PM
2

Good luck, always happy to see people pursue their passions! I have limited experience with it but feel free to ask if you have questions. You will need to start prepping your body NOW for the season if you mean to pursue it. Saw way too many people drop out before the season started because they physically couldn't handle it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/21 03:42 PM
2

If you're serious, look into wildland firefighting, plenty of work to be had. Got to be willing to ruck with 40 pound packs up steep mountains in 100 degree weather though
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/21 03:14 PM
1

Same, ended up on the opposite coast of the US and got paid to hike lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/21 02:52 PM
1

Better to fail than not try at all. That's how people grow
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/21 02:50 PM
3

You underestimate how attractive a passionate person who's led an interesting life can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/21 02:36 PM
1

This only makes sense if "Chad" wants kids lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 07:26 PM
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They probably are responding better to you being more genuine and knowing what you want. Some girls like casual sex too, they just dont want to deal with fuckboys lol
/r/seduction22/02/21 06:55 PM
1

Very true, which is why I'm of the mindset that we should all self improve. Much more options and less bitterness all around.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 06:46 PM
4

So then that should be the narrative pushed, fun dates. Not necessarily expensive ones then. Wanting to have sex with someone shouldn't be viewed as dehumanizing. It's basically just a better version of a back massage haha. It's all about the vibes being put out with it which admittedly I'm sure most women get inundated with negative vibes with it. Big one is to stop using online dating. Men are socially isolated on there and face no real social repercussion if they treat you wrongly. I treat pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 06:31 PM
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Doesnt have to be an either/or is what I'm getting at. Have filters, yes but make em smarter filters. Effort is important, I agree. Maybe you don't ascribe to that particular vein of thinking but when I last viewed FDS, every other post was going on about men being worthless unless they went all out on a $$$ meal for a first date so they could set the tone for continually milking him for resources, said in similar language and tone. VERY offputting for people who dont accept getting treated like…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 04:43 PM
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If it doesnt repulse all HVM that you're actually compatible with. The type of person that would stick around after jumping through FDS's ridiculous hoops is a specific type of guy that most women say they are but arent really attracted to. I dont have an issue with filtering out men, I think it's a great idea. I have an issue with a lot of those filters being ridiculous as fuck and aimed way more at extracting resources than trying to find a genuine connection. I want women to be happy too and …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 04:18 PM
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That idea in and of itself is great (I want people to be happy and find love) but their ideas for filtering and the level of entitlement is godawful and would repulse most of the HVM they're searching for. The sad part is it could still be giving them better results than before but they could do so much better.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 03:29 PM
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If you look into it, I believe their rates of marital satisfaction are higher than the modern relationship. Most families get input from the kids too before settling on a choice if i remember correctly
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/21 12:25 AM
1

All depends what you're looking for. PUA gets your foot in the door but you have to have other character traits as well to stay/want to stay in a relationship. Both can have quality and shit advice to give.
/r/seduction15/02/21 02:52 PM
2

Look into dicarlo's ladder of physical escalation
/r/seduction13/02/21 12:40 PM
1

I see that avenue working for some people. I am a strong believer of striking while the iron is hot in terms of chemistry, which is much easier when you can physically escalate in person. You need to figure out what works best for you.
/r/seduction11/02/21 08:17 PM
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I dont think you really can besides not creeping them out. There are some women who are open to meeting up immediately, some that need some warming up and those who have great difficulty opening up. Best you can do is display enough value for them to want to meet up more than care about stranger danger if you're shooting to meet up within a few texts.
/r/seduction11/02/21 08:04 PM
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What I said doesnt clash with you said, in fact I agree with you for the most part. The availability of hotter guys for casual dating may make a lot of women perceive that they are dating down in actual relationships when they are probably equals. Which if true is a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/21 05:41 PM
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Not necessarily a downgrade. People prioritize one set of traits when dating casually and another set when getting serious. That being said, I do agree with you on the increased likelihood that women are more likely to land men in their league lookswise for relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/21 02:04 PM
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Yep, time to move on lol
/r/seduction09/02/21 05:15 PM
5

Ask any woman in a male dominated field about whether they are treated better by older guys or younger guys lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 12:00 AM
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There's plenty of women who get off more than just one occasion per partner. Doesn't mean it has to be a relationship. If STD's are the main concern, request a recent test before going forward. That being said, I've always preferred the FWB side of casual stuff. Would like to be in a relationship ideally but have been bouncing around too much for something stable.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 02:14 AM
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That's what condoms/IUD/birth control etc. are for lol. And consent is a two way street.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 11:33 PM
2

Know off another subreddit where people discuss gender dynamics in the dating world as sane people? Cause I'd love to subscribe to that haha
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 11:08 PM
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If they choose to enjoy themselves with a good man who respects them, why is that a shame?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 11:04 PM
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Look up dicarlo's ladder of physical escalation
/r/seduction27/01/21 09:07 PM
-1

Look up dicarlo's ladder of physical escalation
/r/seduction27/01/21 09:06 PM
1

Look up dicarlo's ladder of physical escalation
/r/seduction27/01/21 09:06 PM
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In that case, self improvement wouldnt exist if nobody was worse or better than everyone else. I wouldnt say people are as simple as a 1 to 10 scale but as much as I would like to agree with you, no. There are varying levels of objective attractiveness, all affected by genes, grooming, social calibration, achievements, fitness, etc. Now everyone has their own personal priorities of which values matter more than others which can tip the scales quite dramatically but I'm sure you can think of peop…
/r/seduction27/01/21 01:42 PM
2

I know this is (hopefully) a hypothetical situation but if you've been with someone for years and they haven't gotten you off once, yes that person is probably a horrible lover. But the lack of communication required for him to think he's an amazing lover, that's really shitty and on you as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/21 01:12 PM
2

That's the blue pill ideology from a red pill viewpoint. Not saying whether I disagree or agree with the red pill, just want someone who is bluepill to show me what they believe works for a guy that is interested in being more than friends with a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 01:32 AM
1

It's only fickle when the overall bond is new/weak. If you stoke that fire...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/21 05:52 PM
2

All I see on BP is people shitposting about rp. Is there actual BP theory on how to get laid/get a gf beyond simply be nice and hope for the best?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 09:38 PM
1

I cant imagine it's that simple if kids are involved
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 05:52 PM
2

True but we can also see overarching themes. While I think it's great women are getting more representation, I worry that young men are getting shafted to an uneccesary extent in the name of feminism. I believe in equality, all I want like most sane people is opportunity for all.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 05:49 PM
1

Not for good dick though lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 05:33 PM
1

Saying only crazy women are interested in casual sex is a bit of a stretch.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 05:16 PM
1

While theres definitely a lot of truth in those who blame their problems on other people being the problem themselves, it's important to note that there is a generational difference in the males who have power and those who dont. I'd love to know the percentage of males under 40 vs women under 40 that have positions of power.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 11:39 PM
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? Its totally possible lol
/r/seduction14/01/21 05:21 PM
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Yes, but wouldn't you say the same about men as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 04:25 PM
1

What are these laws from?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 04:25 PM
2

For women that dont know you, it's very easy for them to interpret those positive attributes as neediness/desperation and ignoring as you having options. Not saying it's right but that's the thought process I believe
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 03:21 AM
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I'm all over the place. Most pills have some truths buried deep under a pile of bullshit. While I have sympathy for men who think this way, for getting girls being a nice guy doesnt really do much for you if you're boring. Men as a whole need to start realizing that women arent attracted to bad boys as much as they are exciting boys and women need to stop saying to just be nice/be yourself. Men can feel like the nice guy lost out but from what I've seen, it's the boring guys that lose. The soone…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/21 11:05 PM
0

I've never claimed to deny its existence. Not really sure what it has to do with what I said though
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/21 10:41 PM
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Because the preference of other qualities outweighs their preference for good guy qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/21 10:39 PM
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Eh, not really. Very few people actively seek bad men. They look for exciting, popular and charismatic and either dont know or dont care enough to look for red flags. The dude was a star football player, of course that will turn heads. Dudes would be like this too if they had as much attention from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/21 09:46 PM
2

I was shocked to find there has been research done on this. Think the phenomenon was called the youth bulge?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/21 01:32 AM
1

Good for you man, you're too wholesome for this subreddit haha
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 10:52 PM
1

It's different, they cant see if theres actual chemistry online plus body language and all that jazz. Unless they're downright ugly/obese, women will always have options. What they struggle with is the filtering out process. In person flirting makes it much easier to determine if you're a good fit or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 12:56 PM
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I've gotten told by multiple women that they do in fact love it as long as its respectful/not creepy. Some women dont like it, sure. Plenty do, just dont be a sleazeball about it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/20 09:30 PM
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Who said it was just for one night stands? Can be, doesnt have to just be. Many men nowadays lack the knowledge required to make a woman feel giddy and make sparks fly. This sub seeks to change that. Would you rather rare resources like this for men didnt exist so you can get hit on by only weirdos that either dont know or dont care to learn? Also, many women simply just have to show up to make a ONS happen. A lot more skill is involved on the man's side.
/r/seduction23/12/20 11:49 AM
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Again, I dont have any sources to back me up so idk. Porn has also warped many people's sense of normal size as well. It's less about their size and more about their perceived size in comparison to others
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/20 11:45 PM
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Agreed but I believe theres way too many men that let their dick size insecurity get to them and kill their confidence. Women rarely ever approach so whoever does the majority of approaching gets laid the most. Again, purely my guess and I hope it's not true. People are worth way more than just their genital size.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/20 11:43 PM
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I was thinking more about male insecurity over it minimizing approaches (theres a reason for BDE being a meme) and word of mouth. Some probably do on their tinders, wouldn't surprise me
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/20 10:19 PM
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I'd buy anywhere from 97 to that percentile. I see your point but I'd also imagine more dudes with big dicks are getting laid than the dudes with little dicks, though I doubt it would be an insane ratio. Would be curious if there has been a study done on that
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/20 09:58 PM
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Rape is bad, yes. Oftentimes it can be soul crushing, I'm not trying to diminish how awful it is. However getting accused is no cakewalk either. To have all your friends and family despise you for something you never did, that alone would be worth considering. If you get convicted, then you end up in prison, potentially for a VERY long time. I would rather be violated than spend 30 years in prison. And people also get raped in prison.
/r/seduction19/12/20 06:52 PM
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Of course, it's your choice. I just dont see how women spending time with people only because they get paid counts as intimacy. And yes, self improvement can be difficult and can take years sometimes but it's totally worth it if true intimacy is what you seek.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 06:40 AM
0

Really, that low? Could have sworn many more used it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/20 01:18 AM
1

Most women are average, with some reaching success in life and some that are failures. There are fewer average men then there are women. More of us are pushed to greatness with the cost of a way higher number of us being terrible failures. This has been backed up by quite a few studies. Most of us still desire attention from the opposite gender though. This explains the hordes of messages women receive from undesirable men that creates the "women are buyers, not sellers" market. The thing is, un…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/20 03:36 PM
1

Hmm, never thought about that. You happen to have a source on that by chance?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/20 05:57 AM
1

You say that like a woman is better than a man for relationships. Both have many strengths and weaknesses and there are many exceptions to all of those found in both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/20 05:45 AM
1

Heard that from someone too, sounds like bicurious women are the lesbian version of fuckboys haha
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/20 05:07 AM
1

Yes and no. If he is going after only gym girls then sure. If he's going after women in his weight class or larger then I think it's fair to be disgruntled about the lack of interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 07:11 PM
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Cracking down on personal attacks alone would make this sub much higher quality. Sure, we all have to face harsh truths to move the discussion forward and I know it's too much to expect everyone to do so kindly but it's really not a big ask to expect everyone to do so civilly or risk getting banned.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/20 05:06 AM
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All those subs are just for improving looks which dont get me wrong is important but looks are just one piece of the puzzle. Submissive and chill are not bad things to be but they are not necessarily good things either. And while it's a long process, yes you can change if you want. I personally used to be much more submissive and while it's still a process, I have become more assertive. If I were a woman, I'd love to see a subreddit contain guides on how to grow to be the type of person they are…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/20 03:18 AM
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People do change in the process of self improvement. Is that a bad thing? Eh, I wouldn't even call it great advice. It's way too broad and people need specifics. Hence why OP was wondering why there's no woman focused self improvement subs. Men have two big ones that I'm aware of while women have zero.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/20 01:59 AM
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Agreed but im not talking about compatibility/being fake, I'm saying that women not caring about improving themselves hurts then in the dating world. You can be all of those positive qualities without having those negative qualities. If you like, I can give examples. My point is that -just like men- there are low value women and high value women. Self improvement would help attract better quality men, do you disagree with this?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/20 12:27 AM
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Looks can initially attract guys and sure, women need to focus more on weeding guys out than men do (but both genders should have standards!) but I absolutely disagree with the notion of not having to focus on improving yourself. Hot women can have a endless line of men that are into her but her personality dictates the percentage of those suitors that are quality men. Most high quality guys are not going to want to be with a bitchy selfish person with no passions beyond spending his money, even…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/20 06:46 PM
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You're confusing high value with the character trait of assertiveness/dominance. Also anyone that takes those general guidelines to the extreme of not letting a women make decisions or thinking that a women is less valuable cause she didnt sleep with you on the third date is a fool.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/20 07:26 AM
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I generally rate low on the app not because people look ugly but because most of the pictures I see have a shit angle, nothing interesting going on, no cool background and/or just shows only the face. Avoid these traps and you'll probably be fine. Remember that you're rating the photo quality as much as the person
/r/seduction15/11/20 01:18 PM
3

It's a website, not an app. Photofeeler.com
/r/seduction15/11/20 01:14 PM
1

Been told by quite a few strangers at this point I look like him. If I can get it repeatedly, so can he haha
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/20 02:52 AM
2

Interesting concept. Any recommendations for further reading on it?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 02:11 AM
2

Jesus, that changed. Keep scrolling down, hopefully it's not too far back
/r/seduction26/10/20 12:06 PM
1

Search by top posts of all time. Real good advice
/r/seduction25/10/20 12:52 PM
3

You can still ask someone to take your picture. Just choose someone who doesn't look as fit as you if it's an expensive phone 🤣
/r/seduction05/09/20 02:29 PM
1

Just trying to help my fellow man decode what women mean when they say certain stuff on dating apps and such, not offended. I'm not a fan of how a lot of people talk here on both sides though. I think theres a lot of interesting material to discuss but I do wish there was more respect for each other all around. You'd think with all the people here craving intimacy that there would be better communication and compassion.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/20 10:41 PM
3

Tinder, not exactly my favorite option but choices are limited nowadays
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/20 10:29 PM
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Agreed, dont think I've ever seen a women say lol without also trying to convey a sense of disapproval. Maybe it wasn't the original intent but it just comes across as someone just trying to pass off a snarky comment as a joke instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/20 09:24 PM
1

I think you underestimate the amount of effort and likely steroids it takes to get to that point. Yes there is an upper limit to lifting and still being mainstream attractive but most men can stand to lift more and look better for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/20 03:22 AM
1

How does one pick a smell to match a personality?
/r/seduction29/07/20 08:31 PM
3

I'm curious, what's the negative connotation you associate with impressed?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/20 03:34 PM
2

Absolutely not. But teaching a young man that all it takes to get laid is be a good person is misinformed at best, lying at worst. Besides, the youth should be raised to be good people for it's own sake, not for the hope of landing some pussy. If it makes you feel better, I'd say most of of qualities you listed just now would definitely negatively impact anyone who took that advice. There's a lot of nuance to it but ultimately confidence, passion and success is what attracts the vast majority of…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 01:44 AM
1

What do you mean by honorable gentleman?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 01:26 AM
2

I appreciate you thinking of the opposite gender in all this. The truth is that outside of religion, abuse, etc everyone loves (good) sex. Both men and women. If you have not lied, manipulated, or done some other negative thing to get laid, what is so horrible about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 01:25 AM
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Go to r/seduction and sort posts by best of all time if you want legitimate advice on how to ethically land women. People on ppd are crazy, though the occasional kernels of truth that pop out can be interesting. You'll be alright man.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 01:15 AM
1

I followed that advice initially, didn't do anything for me nor a lot of other people lol. While people should absolutely be doing those things anyway, just having those qualities doesn't exactly make them the pick of the litter and I imagine they probably end up in a lot of dead bedroom situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 12:46 AM
3

Ultimately yes, I do agree that people should be judged individually but it is worth noting that there is some additional risk involved which likely does not exist as much with people sharing the same socioeconomic class
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 02:21 AM
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I wouldn't say NEVER is a good idea but the overall premise that someone who is poor is more likely to be with you cause of your material worth than someone who is rich is valid. I wouldn't write off a couple in wildly different socio economic classes but it is certainly something to be wary of in a partner until you truly know them. It's like a beautiful woman who doesn't want to be used just for her body. She's more than happy to share with someone who appreciates her for who she is but is not…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 02:01 AM
1

I'd like to think that at that point, people would compromise on the idiotic aspects of their beliefs and become more in sync with one another. The parts that conflict with each other are mostly the parts that manipulate the opposite gender so imo we'd be better off. Banging on the first date would probably happen way less so that part would kinda suck though haha
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/20 02:03 AM
1

Look up dicarlos ladder of physical escalation.
/r/seduction27/06/20 06:51 PM
1

Makes sense, ultimately people have to aim within their league and decide whether they want to be the reacher or settler. Best of luck to ya, sounds like you're approaching it right.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/20 07:03 PM
1

Nobody should stand by waiting for sure. You've got plenty of options yeah but I don't see the appeal of picking someone who chose you for a relationship just cause you're a random woman that's into him. Isn't that gonna waste your time more than actively asking guys out that you like that you sense may like you for you? Now for something more casual, sure go wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/20 03:53 PM
1

Curious, I feel that would be more of a turn on, instead of being with someone who's desperate, being with someone who has options but chose you because of your unique qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/20 01:22 PM
1

Both are reall shitty situations to be in though if unintended. Not sure if that's a huge factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/20 05:04 PM
-5

Out in the real world I see people of all attractiveness levels paired up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/20 08:27 PM
3

I get that, I'm just curious if people are just experiencing more difficulty or if its virtually impossible for most to hook up online
/r/seduction20/06/20 04:03 PM
3

I agree, you gotta prioritize your time. I was just curious if you thought if it was simply harder to pull online vs virtually impossible for most men.
/r/seduction20/06/20 04:02 PM
48

You hit the nail on the head. Boys want to flirt and girls want to be flirted with. However flirting is like learning a language. Some people are born in "bilingual" households and grow up learning to speak it fluently while others have to start from the basics when they are older. Now imagine learning Spanish and every time you make a mistake you get hit with a ruler. Sometimes it's a light tap, almost gentle even. Other times it's a hard whack across the forehead. That's how it feels to learn …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/20 03:35 PM
5

Are you saying that most people who can pull irl can't do it online? Not saying it's not harder though.
/r/seduction20/06/20 02:31 PM
4

I don't call lack of texting before meeting up ghosting. If you spent the time/effort to actually meet someone though, that's different in my eyes
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 06:41 AM
6

He's saying to let the person know it's not working out to give them closure. Ghosting is extremely immature.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 04:28 AM
9

Wouldn't a string of ltr's be the real problem? To me, it shows the guy struggles to maintain a relationship while the other person simply doesn't want one at that stage of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/20 08:32 PM
1

Because women by and large had no real way of supporting themselves and were forced to marry to have a support system available. It's a system built on desperation. I would hazard to guess that modern marriages are on average happier than relationships 400 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 09:45 PM
2

And do you really think those relationships would be high quality ones? If the only reason guys got gf's was cause they couldn't get laid otherwise, that sounds like a pretty sad relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 08:42 PM
1

I feel sorry for both you and the women that you've been with if you feel treating them like shit is okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 05:44 PM
1

Nah, r/seduction is way more effective cause it treats women like human beings. Much more wholesome community too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 04:48 PM
1

Seriously though, this sub is full of extremists. It's like watching antifa and the alt right go at it most of the time lol. Most of my friends would rather have a relationship with a quality woman but many aren't opposed to ons in the meantine.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/20 12:46 AM
3

Seriously though, this sub is full of extremists. It's like watching antifa and the alt right go at it most of the time lol. Most of my friends would rather have a relationship with a quality woman but many aren't opposed to ons in the meantine.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/20 12:46 AM
9

What mixed messages, what exactly is he doing that makes him seem like a boyfriend? He's meeting up with someone, having fun conversation with them and presumably treating them like a human being before giving them a heads up on his intentions. Besides, the body language should be doing most of the talking for you anyways. I've done the exact same thing and there was no mixed messages.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 05:40 AM
14

How is it leading them on? He tells them on the first date. Just in case you are not aware "not looking for a relationship right now, just looking to meet cool girls and have fun" is as straightforward as it gets without being blunt
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 05:19 AM
2

I'm not defending those who have made selfish choices. I have no issue with shitty people's actions being derided. In fact I'm happy for women that stand up to getting treated like shit. The problem I have is most/all men being treated like shit there (with the exception of less than maybe 3% of posts?) for the actions of some. Additionally, a man hating attitude is setting those people up for failure. What self-respecting guy is gonna want to be with someone who hates on men? I get that people …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 06:02 AM
1

Now while I completely support that notion, that's not the vibe I got from FDS. There's way too much man hating in there. I'd love to see a healthy version of that sub form though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 05:10 AM
2

I would LOVE to see a breakdown of what groups are more likely to be attracted to other groups but idk how someone could pull that off
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 03:50 PM
1

Try reading the whole paragraph. I can't help you with reading comprehension.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 07:58 PM
4

"Even if we do “spin plates” we dont generally equate you to a literal thing" That's exactly what he said he does as well. Any decent guy may enjoy casually dating but should never treat anyone like an object, as should be expected on the opposite end as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 04:10 PM
0

I have a career in a stem field too so I can also give anecdotal "evidence". The men and women alike that I've seen involved in stem are as engaging and attractive as other majors.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 03:58 AM
10

Keep telling yourself that. There's plenty of people with stem degrees and fiscally responsible that are plenty attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/20 11:33 PM
1

A famous author once wrote something about a lie becomes so much stronger once you sprinkle truth into it. The sub had so much potential. Hell, I'm a guy and want women to find quality men. Shame there's so much manhating and some real terrible advice in there. You look at r/seduction (the male counterpart) and while there's some bullshit, most men in there seem to respect women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 12:47 AM
1

I humbly believe I hit all those marks and was horrified by FDS's philosophy of basically treating men as worthless until they prove themselves and basically becoming her boytoy pet until she decides he's alright (and even then I have major doubts). I want women to get good men but that isn't the way. You want someone who's your equal? Treat them like your equal until given reason to believe otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 12:33 AM
1

Either we have a mutual friend or there's more than one person doing this haha
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 11:23 PM
2

Because "curvy redhead" is a type and "knowing how to attract potential mates" is a skill.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 11:20 PM
2

So the question is, where can one view an exhaustive pipeline of skills needed to do some self reflection and improve?
/r/seduction04/02/20 04:45 PM
3

Was it ever not though? Besides ancient times of course lol
/r/seduction20/12/19 04:07 AM
4

Men unionizing to withhold sex? Would be hilarious and effective but it'll never happen
/r/seduction26/11/19 01:25 PM
8

Kinda unexpected but a pleasant surprise. Wonder if it's from women mainly wanting to know what "tactics" men use or if they are genuinely interested in learning how to approach as well?
/r/seduction26/11/19 01:22 PM
3

So (not you) swipe right only 10 times then if 20 is too much. I cut down on swiping once I'm talking to enough people lol. Maybe we're all just too addicted to the endorphins from swiping right and matching to care about what to actually do with the match?
/r/seduction08/11/19 03:24 PM
2

I hear this all the time but if it's too much, why not just swipe less?
/r/seduction08/11/19 03:14 AM
1

Bring a step stool with ya haha
/r/seduction29/08/19 07:53 PM
2

Now I'm curious what his power stance looks like lol
/r/seduction08/07/19 04:07 PM
-5

Are you one of those goofballs that selected his gender as a woman on accident? Cause otherwise if you have a creative bio and good pics (not necessarily pics showing physical attractiveness) you should be getting a few hits at least if your standards aren't unrealistic.
/r/seduction07/04/19 07:05 PM
1

From the very limited info given, maybe she didn't feel like there was enough give and take in the conversation? If she's the one initiating conversation most/all the time it gets old fast. Sure humorous snaps are great but actually talking is necessary
/r/seduction07/01/19 03:50 AM
1

? I'm a dude so I was asking how often she feels like guys listen to her. Not sure what you're asking
/r/seduction06/01/19 05:37 PM
1

Damn, that's worse than I thought. Yep, it's all about finding that balance.
/r/seduction06/01/19 05:34 PM
5

% wise roughly, how many guys listen to you straight up telling them vs those who don't? Curious cause I don't have firsthand experience from your end lol
/r/seduction06/01/19 04:26 AM
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