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Same! Exact same! Face was different, like as less bright and more numb, and then behavior, all extremely subtle. In the end she had befriended already the mother of a 'gym friend' which she was exercising only legs for the last 6 months. - as in, she went to his house, more I don't know, but she told then a horrible story (with lies as I could prove) that barely makes any sense, the think is, I did not see the cheating, just have a lot of signals. Hard to believe, you take the person from a hol…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 08:49 PM
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Same here, I'm probably still in on of the first stages since she just left back to her country, well, she right now is in the plane and we split officially on Friday, then I stayed in depressing hotel room waiting for her to leave from home so i could back, I was not able to go home with she still there... this whole thing is overwhelming, constant light headache, random feeling brain waver ..my god hopes this passes
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 06:22 PM
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I did the move to other room move, I also thought it would calm it down and maybe make her miss me, it didn't which just raised more red-flags, staied separate rooms about 3 months about 8 months later now, found she was entertaining another dude from the gym like making leg exercice togheter for 6 months, she also hide a receipt because she bought a mug to the dudes mother which she did take to their house, she said she didnt even enter, so assume, and assuming is not so good but anyway, back t…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 04:37 PM
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thanks! big mountain for me, but no other direction available right now.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 03:03 PM
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not good mate, but it is what it is.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 02:39 PM
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that is spot on! I'm now 1.5 year trying to fix me, since we grow away and I basically wanted one think: make sure I'm not the problem, all problems she mentioned I tried to fix on myself and let her know because I thought it was me, I really changed as a person. She made a mistake and I confronted her, after some insistence she said she had become friend of another guy in the gym for the "last 6 months" "never kissed or had sex". She already met the mother of the dude because 'she is a nice old…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 02:15 PM
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It is what it is, now you need to work on the clean up work, if you want to move forward you need to think forward, looking pictures of the good times will make you only remember the good times which is not how a relation works, clean up the memories, back it up where you have no easy access and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 11:54 AM
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Because the promotion was not given yet, you really only celebrate when it's done. So that's already a micro crack, because man are more logical and women emotional, for a man to congratulate on something that is done he would be doing it against what he really is, that's why a relationship of many years is so hard, if the man goes all in and always says what makes the partner happy he is slowly becoming something else and in a few years he will ask himself what he has become and feel unhappy, t…
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/26 08:32 AM
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Interesting, I am you but still with the wife. Recently I seriously asked to end it, she reverted and I'm trying once more, probably 3rd time, so I was like ok, let's see if this time she changes, they change a few weeks and slowly go back to the default. Now shes not at the whole day a few days in the week for some months and this really made me able to see myself again, how simple and calm I am, when I'm alone, no stress I do my stuff on my time, no egg shell walk... it's amazing, I think she …
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/26 09:57 PM
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That thing of continuing friends never works, even if it works it's bad for you, if its done its done, move on. Also, most of the times on side is 'experimenting', if it fails they still have a fallback 'friend' option.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/26 12:07 PM
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yeah, welcome onboard! there is still nice stuff out there, seems you used a lot of brain cycles to put it all on you, that's not correct, brain will do what yourself tell it todo, if you keep telling the brain you are shit it will eventually rewrite some path and make that part of you, that's why I said, you need to take control back and undo those damages, it's not you are bad and all that shit, you just convinced the brain, you need to rollback, its not realistic, just bad thinking habits - M…
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/26 09:43 PM
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Get back on control! Your are in a hole, many here have been there, you need to re-write your brain, you don't need to be an all time smiling human because ppl who do are faking it, but you need to heal your brain, it's not easy, minimal 6 months, but you are still there, you need to focus on your goals, set goals and follow, set goal that you body likes, I do some calisthenic exercises at home in an empty room, some 10, 15 minutes, body likes. Also, walk or go with bike, get a beer, watch world…
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/26 05:28 PM
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Oh sorry for that, I don't really use this platform that often, I edited and tweaked it a bit. Thanks for answering!
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 09:07 PM
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Careful with the brain tricks, brain in general likes stability, brain may may be telling you 'it's a family think, need to go' but in fact, he wants to see if can grantee stability back, as in 'maybe this cruise fixes it'. I probably did "a cruise" in another way, trying if maybe things would change, 6 months later, she still threats me like a coworker, I can't have this anymore, should have had the balls 6 months ago, now I know, back then not... well, at least now I fully know so well, maybe …
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 05:57 PM
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Im somewhat in a same situation, for the last 6 months or so she driftet away more and more, made friends in the gym, changed a lot haf habits, no action for months, and time when there was action it was horrible for me, it was a trap, she basically lured my in and started to list a lot of problems and complained ffs. She still makes good food, nice disches and stuff, but feels kind of fake, more like so she can tell her mother she was nice and did all right while I did nothing and complained al…
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 09:46 PM
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yeah so in 1 year you still remember it, maybe even still a little bit of anger or questions, but at the same time the other side of the brain will also fight back you start feeling a bit stupid :) It is incremental, but slow, first month ... you are a zombie kind off, then 3 months, still a zombie but with a small light in sight, just take the time, let the months pass, let the brain reconnect the old functions again, eventually you will be free, as in, really free, she will still be out there …
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 10:07 PM
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Best investment ever!
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/25 07:57 PM
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Give you brain some time, it has to rewrite some functions, make new ones. It will be fun, but while it rewires, it will also not call the usual functions, that makes you feel dislocated, it's part of it, just wait, do your stuff, soon it will be ready, time depends a bit per person, but the first days is black hole, stay strong, it's within specs :) Don't forget, we man are logical creatures.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/25 11:17 AM
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the sex part is depressive on itself, last time here, well probably 1 month ago, when I got 'blessed' it felt she was making me a favor, she knew she could come up with a lot of shit before giving sex, so depressive, since then I don't even care anymore, I don't want it, she noticed but I don't care anyway, I drink my beer and don't give a fuck, well literally :) rather walk with the balls full than...well, same as OP 'obsessed with sex' or whatsoever bullshit.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/25 09:55 PM
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They have this ability of crying and looking sad just to get what they want from us, i keep falling, they are so good at it that even knowing that I'm falling still makes me thinks ifs really a trap. Usually it is.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/25 10:20 PM
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We man cannot make a woman happy. If you had money, there would be something else, and so one and so on. Last year I heard a quote from a friend, I take it for life: A wife cannot see her man happy, if hes happy something happens to her, something they cannot control, as ifs burning and they get desperate to finish hes happiness, even without reason. It's probably something like 'how you dear to be happy without me being the reason!'
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/25 05:45 PM
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Regarding memories, yeah, I remember a similar situation, at some point I said no, when to the photos / social networks and got rid of everything, all photos, twitter logs and so one, that actually helped me, was kinda telling the brain fuckoff.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/25 01:56 PM
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This emotional support think, even if you change as a person and be the most supportive a man could ever be, then she would find something else. It's always like this, they are never happy.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 02:08 PM
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Also don't spend to much brain cycles in this 'finding myself', to me it is somewhat a cliche, just let life flow, don't set a target on 'I need to find myself', make the usual calculations, since you are single and more free maybe indeed you can take more liberty on the calculations, wait 24h, is after this it still looks like a good idea get the bike, also, you may get and get bored after some time, there is also winter. :) Another good hobby is simracing, not cheap at the beginning but you se…
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 11:38 AM
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Remember, she doesn't want to come back to you, she wants to come back to the good life, in exchange of being with you. If you ever to go back, as soon as it settles she would sniff outside again.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/25 01:49 PM
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Many ppl have problems with facts, then they come up with abstract solutions, like 'the love is a think that needs to be blabalbalbalbalbala'
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/25 01:32 PM
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Your brain is still very dependent, but it will clear out with time and you will be a free man. I'm still married, basically living one separate room on my own, when I leave the room I get gaslight about something in about 1 min. (just made the test). I basically wish she decides to move on. When they decide, they go, we man, always have this 'we can fix it' function in the brain. So go trough this bumpy ride, soon, it's only you and you do whatever you want to do and when.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/25 01:29 PM
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Recently was talking to mine, she said her father once said she should learn to swim. All good. Then an old lady, neighbor, also told her it would be good, she could go to a swimming place and learn how to swim. All good. Then I say yeah, maybe that's indeed a good idea. Face closed, you could immediately see the anger. Why we even accept marriage, probably it's the illusion of having 'it' every day, while in reality you have less then if you single. ffs.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/25 10:44 PM
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I recently moved to a separate room where there is a bed, did bring my table and PC here, I have all here I need, and peace. Before we where in the same room almost the whole time, it was feeling as she was draining my energy to keep happy, now alone I almost believe she cannot stand her own and I basically was feeling very very good from the first minute I was here. You need to make your way into that garage, there you have some privacy, can do your stuff, no one to complain or give bad looks.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 09:31 PM
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