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Hey friend. A couple of things that are good to remember. - There isn't a "right" amount of time to heal or recover. - You probably made some mistakes in your relationship, but that's normal and that's good. That means you were making an effort. Whatever mistakes you made and whatever good you did were not ULTIMATELY what caused her to leave - she CHOSE to do that. Enjoy your "today's" and be as healthy as you can be for you.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 05:29 AM
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Bingo
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 04:31 AM
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I'd say that this sub may be behind you. "Rebuilding" at 30?? Man, do EVERYTHING. Be who you are, who you want to be. Put money into savings, but work to live not to save. Get a passport and travel. It doesn't have to be far and it doesn't have to be wild. Most major cities around the world can be explored by an English speaker (if you don't speak any other languages). Check your health insurance and go to therapy for a short while. Betterhelp, Talkiatry, Teladoc, Talk space, and more provide go…
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 08:26 PM
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Did anyone else hear Dave Mustaine's voice reading this??
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 04:54 PM
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I didn't know if I've ever read that before but WOW.... That makes ac LOOOOOT of sensem
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 04:05 PM
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Don't be an ass; that's certainly not a topic at hand here.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 05:04 PM
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Are you actively involved in some mind of therapy or mental health group? Your previous posts seem to show a pattern of self destructive behavior and your current state of despondence is concerning. There are things that you have control over and that you can influence. I hope that you can find those things and recognize that you ARE doing something meaningful and that while it's difficult NOW, every decision you make to continue making progress WILL benefit your kids and it will be sooner than …
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/26 06:25 PM
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Friend, it is indeed difficult to see outside of difficult times and circumstances but you are NOT alone and you are not in a forever situation. What you are doing matters even when you can't see HOW it does. You can call or text 988 if you need SOMEONE to interact with beyond AI.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/26 05:41 PM
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Even if you YOURSELF are a lawyer, self representation is not a great idea in divorce. Waaaay down the list of reasonable ways to handle it is "Partner with AI" just above hiring RFK Jr or Alan Dershowitz.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 10:35 PM
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WHOOOOOA Do you mind sharing where the legal work has been? Is it division of assets, custody, something else?
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 07:03 PM
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You are right and you are wrong, and those things can coexist simultaneously. It is true that one of the married parties can initiate the process of divorce without the input or consent of the other. However, where you are wrong is that there are precursor events that lead to a divorce and that is always due to a series of circumstances that are the consequence of both parties. It may not be a single catastrophic act or decision, but a cumulative effect from numerous exchanges. You may believe t…
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 05:35 AM
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You can call it whatever you want to, but you're rationalizing a relationship. My two cents....
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 04:18 AM
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Here's the big thing that you need to remember for yourself.....YOU AREN'T BEING AN ASSHOLE. You are divorced and your relationship has changed. What you are describing is a personal financial boundary. You don't have to explain and you don't have to justify. "No" is a complete sentence.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 04:00 AM
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Go to a jeweler. If you happen to have the gem info from your purchase that would be best but at the very least they can test the metal and get you something better than a pawn shop
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 03:30 AM
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I hope that it works out for you, but I personally don't think that another relationship is what you need.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 03:25 AM
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Friend, I say this with care and compassion; you need to remove any thought of being a boyfriend/husband or a father for now or for the foreseeable future. You need to move on. You didn't say this explicitly, but all of the positive changes you've made need to be for YOU not to impress her or convince her. The reality is that you can't convince her. It is something that she will decide for herself and the best that you can do is enjoy your life as it is and improve it as YOU want for YOURSELF.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 02:21 AM
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Get therapy
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 01:51 AM
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I didn't see anything about kids in which case, JUST GET OUT. The best thing that you can do is get away as soon as you possibly can. Let HER bills be hers. Pull credit card statements, bank statements, check stubs, payment history for utilities, whatever you need to show flow of money OR where things begin to misalign. You are absolutely not STUCK in any way other than your worry about what happens next. Check you area for divorce lawyers who offer a free consultation. You can also check Justia…
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 01:49 AM
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Absolutely this. If you have her SSN you can run a free report that will give you a LOT of transparency and it will not further impact her credit. I don't think that there is any way that it could come back on you but I'm not a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 01:38 AM
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Well I suppose there's a silver lining to my scenario of just laying for all of that.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 03:16 PM
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I'm going to piggyback on this - if she is anxious that is HER feeling. She doesn't get to make her feelings something YOU control. Her effort to blame you for her feelings is projection and manipulative.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/26 05:51 AM
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I'm going to be straightforward with my opinion; it seems like you are making an immature decision and not accepting accountability for your decisions. Like, you don't "develop limerence you feed into it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/26 05:32 AM
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Short answer: attachment patterns learned while you were growing up. [EDIT] Which I'm sure is what you've also found out. Personally, there's layers of traumatic experiences that I had NO idea were affecting me the way that they were. When we decided to divorce and I was in therapy regularly, I started lining things up.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/26 02:38 AM
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I wholeheartedly agree to this. Look up the term "gray rock" response. It's basically giving unemotional, minimalist answers but without compromising your own boundaries or sense of self. Self important people want attention and will act out however they can to get it. You owe him nothing beyond basic human respect.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/26 08:09 PM
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Good idea to carry the recorder around. EVERYONE loves a rousing rendition of Hot Cross Buns.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 12:42 AM
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Let their own stupid catch up to them. You'll move on more easily and cleanly.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 02:57 AM
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What are you even talking about? Rigidly adhering to archaic gender roles isn’t necessarily the right way solve everything.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 05:19 AM
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Friend, it sounds like you may want to stick to working on yourself and let the law of attraction play out.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 10:31 PM
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I would also like to say that your feelings are YOURS my brother. You didn't have to ask yourself if a feeling is "normal" or "ok". Your feelings are teachers - listen to them and feel them but don't judge them or hold onto them and don't judge YOURSELF for having them. As you work on understanding the thoughts behind them, you will learn how to help foster good feelings. I highly recommend the book "Permission to Feel" by Marc Brackett. You are young!! You have so much opportunity to find healt…
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 06:25 PM
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Have you tried it from the rear?? 😆😆😆 Sorry. Wordplay......I had to.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 06:05 PM
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I agree. Extortion is not the way to fix this. The root causes are not addressed and you will only create a wider rift where resentment and power dynamics will cause all of this to occur again in much worse ways.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 06:02 PM
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I agree that there should be individual and couples therapy, but there's no need to do one before the other. You can do both concurrently.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 06:00 PM
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Sorry, I wasn't familiar with it. I'm with you though.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 05:49 PM
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Good. I loved this line "She said I should have told her since my son came and I explained that since hes almost 19... thats between him and her." He's a fucking adult. WTH? She's still trying to leverage through him to make you the bad guy. He's knows it too. If he has a full ride..... Imma guess the boy ain't dumb.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 06:42 PM
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Even better than revenge is like what OP said, indifference. Zero impact on life now or the future. I'm pretty sure that you weren't saying like active revenge, but just that she "gets what she deserves".
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 06:38 PM
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HAHA, OP was ON Hinge sind that girl was UNhinged 😆 I had to laugh and point out the wordplay.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 06:29 PM
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Yeah, this is reeeeeally a good point.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/26 04:10 AM
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Amazing
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/26 04:21 PM
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OMG the Cookie Run Kingdom stuff!! 😆😆
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/26 04:19 PM
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This is it man. Perfection is unattainable but this is within reach.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 04:34 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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