kyookumbah Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	"Young, male, straight -- and anorexic." Men and boys are often shamed into not getting help for various psychological issues and their resources are usually underfunded and not specifically tailored - if they exist at all. Well it's pretty easy to fit into just about any anti-bullying lecture.	/r/MensRights	28/12/10 09:56 PM
1	Is it OK to deceive your spouse about your ability to have children? But it could help them figure out if having another kid or not is really worth destroying their marriage over. I don't know... do marriage counselors ever suggest divorce? I'd think that would be the only ethical option in some cases. Just the discussion might help either way.	/r/MensRights	29/11/10 05:43 AM
9	Is it OK to deceive your spouse about your ability to have children? If the husband is genuinely afraid that that's a possibility then they have bigger problems than a lack of communication and should probably seek counseling.	/r/MensRights	29/11/10 05:01 AM
7	Is it OK to deceive your spouse about your ability to have children? No one ever claimed that committing to someone is based solely on love. There's a place for compromise, but some things like the desire to have children or not, where you want to live (city vs country), how much time you spend together vs apart, etc, can be dealbreakers. You can love someone all you want, but if they have a different idea of the kind of life they want to live then it's perfectly fine to separate. Weighing important life decisions is part of being a grownup, and healthy relations…	/r/MensRights	29/11/10 01:59 AM
42	Is it OK to deceive your spouse about your ability to have children? If it's that important to those women, they should have the right to know why it isn't happening. There's no room for that level of deception in a healthy relationship.	/r/MensRights	29/11/10 01:51 AM
1	Calling boys fags has more to do with masculinity than homosexuality Thank you. That's the gist of what I was trying to express.	/r/MensRights	07/11/10 09:28 PM
1	Calling boys fags has more to do with masculinity than homosexuality I resent that you say I'm trying to police culture. I have repeatedly said you can use whatever words you want. I am only explaining why you may want to consider the social implications of words and actions.	/r/MensRights	07/11/10 05:53 PM
2	Calling boys fags has more to do with masculinity than homosexuality You can make as many arguments about linguistic evolution as you want, but I can guarantee you that the careless use of certain words in the presence of strangers will cause some mixed messages and hurt feelings. This is more relevant for kids and teenagers than adults, of course, but it's true nonetheless. Lots of teens have a hard enough time dealing with their sexuality, bullying, isolation, suicidal thoughts, etc, without worrying about interpreting the meaning of strangers when they're ofte…	/r/MensRights	07/11/10 05:22 PM
2	Calling boys fags has more to do with masculinity than homosexuality I am a selectively word-sensitive gay dude. Basically I have no problem with people who are clearly not anti-gay (friends, flaming queens I don't know, etc) but there are moments in public spaces where it really bothers me. I think it's all about context. If I overhear a group of clearly straight (usually really immature) people say "that's gay" or "fag" at school, work, movie theatres, etc, then I find it really insensitive because it forces me to put my guard up and determine exactly what they…	/r/MensRights	07/11/10 04:31 PM
0	Myth Of The Ghetto Alpha Male- I have made the same observations so many times. Most works that actually resonate with people are.	/r/MensRights	06/11/10 06:46 AM
2	Myth Of The Ghetto Alpha Male- I have made the same observations so many times. Exactly. What statistics are we really expecting to be provided? Should we make surveys and ask men if they are overly influenced by their maternal role models and their lack of paternal ones, and if they think that made them the social failures they are today? At what point do we really expect raw data and numbers alone to give us everything we need to explain complicated social trends given the limitations of our current methods of gathering information? Tough questions. I hope we get a better…	/r/MensRights	06/11/10 06:40 AM
3	Myth Of The Ghetto Alpha Male- I have made the same observations so many times. Except for the ones they also share with the rest of humanity, eg. emotional and/or superficial/decorative attributes as feminine traits.	/r/MensRights	06/11/10 03:58 AM
8	Myth Of The Ghetto Alpha Male- I have made the same observations so many times. AND/OR some human gender attributes are universal across all cultures and so it's okay to analyze social trends even from an outsider's perspective. Perhaps it's the assumption that Black communities are different enough that we have no means to understand (or criticize) them that is the real "white centric" point of view.	/r/MensRights	05/11/10 08:52 PM
3	Is it possible, as a man, to avoid taking responsibility for a pregnancy in a relationship by stating so in a document similar to a prenuptial agreement? Dude, you are hopeless.	/r/MensRights	27/10/10 10:52 PM
3	Is it possible, as a man, to avoid taking responsibility for a pregnancy in a relationship by stating so in a document similar to a prenuptial agreement? Oh, please. I'm saying that if you do trust a woman, you can't complain about the consequences if things don't go your way. Very different.	/r/MensRights	27/10/10 10:43 PM
2	Is it possible, as a man, to avoid taking responsibility for a pregnancy in a relationship by stating so in a document similar to a prenuptial agreement? By your logic, a man who lies and says he's a millionaire basketball player to get a girl into bed has just committed an act that is comparable to rape because that violates her "autonomy" and "right to choose under proper circumstances." You're deluded if you think both parties have to be 100% honest about their situations before having sex. With that childish victim complex, you're positioning yourself to get royally fucked over sooner or later. It may be "wrong" but only in a legal, you-have-…	/r/MensRights	27/10/10 10:27 PM
2	Is it possible, as a man, to avoid taking responsibility for a pregnancy in a relationship by stating so in a document similar to a prenuptial agreement? Still you have been robbed of your autonomy. Your right to choose under proper circumstances. What is this "right to choose under proper circumstances"? I don't think that even exists. If you ever put the responsibility for sex solely on the other person, you will wind up with all manner of diseases and unwanted pregnancies. What are you going to do then? Whine about it? If you're not mature enough to take responsibility for your own actions, then you're not mature enough to be having sex at all…	/r/MensRights	27/10/10 10:11 PM
2	Is it possible, as a man, to avoid taking responsibility for a pregnancy in a relationship by stating so in a document similar to a prenuptial agreement? No, I think you misunderstand what I am trying to say. If you consent to having sex with someone, you give up any autonomy you may have had. A woman can be conned into having sex with someone who may be feigning affection, or who could give her a disease he has been keeping secret. Likewise, a man can be conned into creating a child he may not want. Either way, nothing illegal has taken place, and nothing is the equivalent of rape. When you have willing sex with someone, you have to accept the c…	/r/MensRights	27/10/10 09:57 PM
4	Is it possible, as a man, to avoid taking responsibility for a pregnancy in a relationship by stating so in a document similar to a prenuptial agreement? Deceit in that case does not make it comparable to rape. It is still the man's responsibility to wear a condom and/or to just not have sex at all if he's afraid of the responsibilities that come with the creation of a child regardless of the situation. If there's deceit involved in sex, like lying about being in love with the other person, that doesn't make the sex rape anymore than lying about using protection makes unwanted pregnancy the equivalent of rape. You give up any kind of autonomy whe…	/r/MensRights	27/10/10 09:45 PM
2	Canadian marries Ukrainian, then discovers she just wanted a ticket into the country. Divorces her, then has to give her half his paycheck while she fights deportation. I don't think there are laws against faking love to get laid. Likewise, there are no laws against faking love to get married. You just have to know the person you're with. No one can protect a person from getting scammed if they're willing to rush into either. I feel bad for the guy, but being lonely isn't an excuse for stupidity on his part in this case.	/r/MensRights	20/10/10 02:35 PM
6	Modern Marriage In One Picture If you're testing someone after or during the proposal, you should never have proposed at all.	/r/MensRights	17/10/10 04:35 AM
1	Real Men Do Apologize "para acreditar um contrition das autorizações do incidente do detalhe."	/r/MensRights	25/09/10 09:18 PM
0	'Ladies Nights' OK'd by appeals court Oh, thanks for that great argument. Truly, interesting, thought-provoking debate like this is the reason so many come to r/mensrights. I am thoroughly persuaded. A redditor for 1 hour at that! Colour me impressed.	/r/MensRights	02/09/10 08:09 PM
-4	'Ladies Nights' OK'd by appeals court I think there's an exception to be made in favour of ladies' nights, because the idea is that it will bring in women AND men. It isn't a "No men" policy at all, it's just an incentive to bring in both genders on a night they probably wouldn't go out on normally. Women go for the discounted drinks/entry/whatever, and men go for better odds of meeting women. They still expect men to come, and they do, so it works. They wouldn't have it at all if only women showed up. A "No blacks" policy is comple…	/r/MensRights	02/09/10 07:58 PM
1	Girls think they are cleverer than boys from age four, study finds \| Education \| The Guardian (Or how sexist female teachers do boys down.) I think the issue is a little more nuanced than that, though. Silence reinforces the stigma by keeping it taboo. Teachers need to do a little more to address it, otherwise they may as well be encouraging the bullying for all the kids care. The fact that it's okay to not fall under mainstream sexual norms should be covered under a basic health & sexuality course. Kids going through puberty have enough to worry about without thinking they're the first gay person to ever exist. It's an incredibly s…	/r/MensRights	02/09/10 02:01 AM
0	Women in their 30s were the most likely to say they would marry for money (74%) while men in their 20s were the least likely (41%). Among the women in their twenties who said they would marry for money, 71% said they expected to get divorced. That's my stereotype of guys who would consider a mail-order bride. Jaded, because they're either divorced or never even had a long-term relationship. Unattractive, because they're unable to date anyone up to their unrealistic standards. Middle-aged, because time is running out and they're realizing that they're going to die alone. Wealthy, because that's really all they have going for them in most cases. Romancitize the East, because they view foreign women as subservient, perfect wives. Romant…	/r/MensRights	01/09/10 03:12 PM
2	Women in their 30s were the most likely to say they would marry for money (74%) while men in their 20s were the least likely (41%). Among the women in their twenties who said they would marry for money, 71% said they expected to get divorced. Jaded, unattractive, middle-aged american men with lots of money from cushy jobs who romanticize the East and the mid 20th century.	/r/MensRights	01/09/10 02:58 AM
4	U.S. Circumcision Rates on the Decline: Just about one-thirds now compared to two-thirds during 80's and 90's. Anti-circumcision movement cited as a reason. That's a pretty fucking stupid comparison. Circumcision has no real benefits other than purely subjective aesthetics.	/r/MensRights	18/08/10 03:20 AM
1	Without any fear for the future, boys have given up their ambition Indoor cats live longer, too.	/r/MensRights	08/07/10 06:41 PM
1	Man secretly videos sex; saves himself from false rape charges. The obvious solution is for men to abstain from sex unless they're 100% positive that they want to be in a committed relationship with the woman. Herp, derp!	/r/MensRights	08/07/10 05:55 PM
1	Who else is disgusted by this The word "Feminist" means whatever the user wants it to mean. Maybe not in its beginning, but certainly since the sexual revolution.	/r/MensRights	08/07/10 05:45 PM
4	Who else is disgusted by this I'm just going to steal this from a poster above... More than 50% marriages ends in a divorce, in >80% of cases it's initiated by women. When you have a legal system set up that results in a hefty portion of an entire gender being able to get away with pretty much whatever they want, it's hardly "condemning" them as much as applying reasonable caution. My parents are happily married, but I doubt that I'd want to marry even if I was a straight guy.	/r/MensRights	08/07/10 05:42 PM
1	Hi... I'm Your Sex Offender Neighbor. Man on sex offender's list for 15 years for having consensual sex with his current wife when she was 16 I agree with this, but to be honest I would have loved to fool around with a 35 year old at that age. I think the fact that they were "dating" is way more messed up than if it had been a strictly sexual relationship. edit: Okay I'm getting downvoted, I'll bite; Why? I still consider it inappropriate behaviour given the age difference but I'm not so sure it should be illegal. Let's be serious here, teenagers are sexual creatures. To pretend otherwise like our society tries to is denial on a ridic…	/r/MensRights	21/06/10 01:14 PM
9	Twin Cities Ruling: 'Ladies night' discriminates against men Yes, because then you know which clubs to avoid. I don't want to accidentally support some asshole bar owner just because sensitive people have put a system in place that hides people's contemptible attitudes. Edit: I'm not actually sure if I would prefer it if things worked this way, I kind of just wanted to give a smart-ass/devil's advocate response.	/r/MensRights	11/06/10 08:21 PM
2	Authorities Japan have ordered all male employees to shave off their facial hair, after members of the public said they found dealing with bearded bureaucrats "unpleasant". Yeah, it sucks but seems like no one in a position of power really believes in that. Ask anyone who has ever worked a job that didn't allow dyed hair, visible tattoos, sideburns, piercings, etc...	/r/MensRights	21/05/10 01:11 AM
15	I made a decision about whether or not to circumcise my son. This is real. I understand the aesthetic appeal for certain people. However, I must respectfully disagree that preference for the human body in its natural state, as it evolved over millions of years, can be considered brainwashing from the other side. What other side? Nature? Having grown up in a family, society, culture, and country where circumcision is considered the norm, and only realizing how fucked up it is after extensive reading over the last couple years (I'm 22), no, I don't think I could be consi…	/r/MensRights	18/05/10 06:36 PM
19	I made a decision about whether or not to circumcise my son. This is real. You have been brainwashed.	/r/MensRights	18/05/10 05:16 PM
1	Canadian feminists already want 'sexbots' banned. I'm 21, can I sue him/her now in Ontario?	/r/MensRights	23/11/09 10:09 PM