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1	Stop Hamstering that your Wife is Nuts Then she gets on meds and stays on meds. My cousin and one of my close friends were both diagnosed with BPD in college. They own it and make sure they take medication to regulate their moods. They have pretty normal lives now. It's like having diabetes or any other medical disorder. It's down to you to deal with it with whatever pills, injections, etc the doctor gives you. If you deliberately refuse to take care of your own health when you have the option to, that's on you. I get sick of hearing…	/r/MarriedRedPill	21/04/20 10:49 PM
1	Regarding "older" women... I'm not entirely sure. I think you'd have to survey the men on cougar forums/dating sites to really understand that.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/10/19 05:55 AM
1	Regarding "older" women... I'm now reaching the lower limit of 'cougar' age and was a bit shocked by this phenomenon myself. I was asked out by a 20 year old the day after I turned 31 and it blew my mind for a bit! Unfortunately, I have zero interest in younger men, otherwise my dating life would be amazing right now! ; D I would just point out that men have different preferences for women in the same way women have different preferences for men. Some guys want a young, very submissive woman who will just look nice on the…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/10/19 01:03 PM
2	Please tell me I’m just being anxious After 4 years together, you likely know who he is as a person and whether or not you are compatible. Don't go into marriage thinking he will change. He may do, but he also may not. Assume he won't for now. Are you happy to stay with him, as he is, for the rest of your life? Will you be a good team and make each other happier or will you end up resenting his behaviour more and more? Be honest with yourself. If the answer is no, have you considered putting the marriage on hold (not cancel, just po…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/10/19 12:45 PM
1	How to hold out sex with an alpha man Honestly, if he's been with 20+ women that would put me off. I'd consider that a red flag (unless it was one giant orgy back in college?). But I don't consider a man having a high body count to be attractive like some people do, so it depends on what you value. I'd rather date someone that's had some experience in longer term, committed relationships and isn't going to quit and run off to another woman after a few months. Some people prefer detached, unemotional sex to the romantic, bonding type…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/10/19 12:30 PM
0	My boyfriend of 12years doesn't want to get married. I would first ask why you feel marriage would benefit you? At least, 'marriage' in the state-backed sense of the word. What would it provide that you don't already get in your relationship? I would then advise you look into the history of marriage versus the modern version and decide what aspects of it you really want/need. Is it the religious ceremony part? The dress up/party afterwards that most young girls are taught to idolise? The 'public' declaration in front of all your friends and family…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/10/19 12:08 PM
3	Regarding "submission".. I can answer this from a religious/cultural perspective, as I grew up being taught the same thing. There are a few assumptions about the judeo-christian idea of 'submission' that are incorrect but get batted around a lot (usually by 'religious' people themselves). The Torah/Bible teaches that men and women have different skill sets that compliment one another - in very very basic terms, women have better innate skills to raise a family and run a home, men have better innate skills to bring in re…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/10/19 11:34 AM
1	Homemaking on a Budget I was raised in a very traditional family by a 'victorian style' mother, so was skilled in various household tasks from early childhood. It was taught to me on the assumption that I would get married fairly young and have a big family like my own mother/grandmother, and therefore things like managing a household budget and being able to save a ton of money by creating/repairing items myself would be essential. My family are also very much against debt, so avoiding it (especially early on) necces…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/10/19 10:08 AM
1	Q4Men: what is this obsession with posting fat/ ugly/ “post wall”/ single mom dating profiles on the internet and shaming women for having them? 'Single' mothers are normally getting financial support from the fathers and/or state though. The few single dads I've met aren't getting the same from the mother. Yes, there are exceptions, but that's generally the rule.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/19 09:28 AM
2	Isn't the Red Pill movement just the same thing as the Feminist Movement? Except men? Perhaps it's a generational thing? Most of the women I know are between the 30 and 45 mark, so maybe this skews my perspective a bit. Younger (< 25) women have been raised a bit differently and possibly have different expectations of men. I don't know. I'm not sure what younger women are taught these days. But the women I meet, with very few exceptions, still have the 'traditional' values of their mothers (i.e. the man should pay for everything, hold open doors, give up their seats...) mixed wit…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/19 09:16 AM
3	Isn't the Red Pill movement just the same thing as the Feminist Movement? Except men? From a (bit older, contributing to society, adult) female perspective... I see and hear women behaving the way that 'red pill' men describe all the time. If anything, it is more extreme behind closed doors. Women tend to let their guard down around other women, especially if they don't know them that well, and are far more open about this stuff. I'm worn out listening to the same gold-digging, cheating, narcissistic crap all the time. I wasn't raised that way and find it really jarring. I don't …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/19 10:56 PM
1	Does ignoring women make them like you more? It just tells us to you're likely not that interested and/or already taken. If the woman has any ounce of self esteem, she will give up trying and move on. Most women don't enjoy chasing guys.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/19 10:31 PM
2	Do You Speak to Strange Men that You Aren't Attracted To? I try to be a decent human to everyone I meet until they give me a reason not to. Being polite and friendly doesn't cost anything and just makes the day better for everyone. Although I fall into the extrovert category, so other women may not act the same way. I probably wouldn't go out of my way to routinely spend ages talking to you unless I was really attracted, so if the woman keeps coming back to talk then I'd say chances are high that she is interested and trying to gauge if you're availabl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/19 10:22 PM
1	What the fuck is the difference for women between having casual sex with random men because they are hot and because they have money? Women having sex with / dating / marrying men because they are attracted to them is more moral because they are being honest. They are genuinely attracted to them and want to be with that person. Women having sex with / dating / marrying men just for the money and nice lifestyle is less moral because they are usually lying to the man about being attracted to him. The man is falling in love with a false identity that eventually disappears. I would argue that either situation is fine if both parti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/19 09:46 PM
1	If you're a dude into Femdom you're fucked. I would also suggest women who had strict/religious childhoods. It definitely contributed to my extra-curricular interests as an adult. I met a lot of women with a similar upbringing in the S&M scene when I was younger.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/19 09:29 PM
1	Short women don't deserve tall men Because we're too small to defend ourselves. Really, it's a disability and tall women should be feeling sorry for us! ; D	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/19 09:11 PM
2	Short women don't deserve tall men Can confirm. As a member of the evil 5'3 midget women army that dates taller men, after 5'10 I have no damn clue how tall you are. You're either 'tall' or 'very tall' as far as I'm concerned! I don't go around measuring the guys that approach me, but if they are tall enough that I get that 'protected' feeling then I'll be more attracted to them. I mainly date tall guys because I grew up around tall guys and that's what feels most normal to me. Also, at 5'3, a lot of the world is situated just ou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/19 09:09 PM
2	The bride grabbed all the balls less than an hour after stating her vows. Don't say anything. He either won't believe you (unless you have video evidence, why should he?) or he will believe you but will hate you for being the messenger. I see this sort of thing happen regularly and you just have to keep your mouth shut and wait for the gf/wife to get lazy and do it in front of their partner. Which they eventually do. Just encourage him to get a good lawyer/accountant for generic reasons, so at least he has some protection in future.	/r/MGTOW	19/10/19 09:26 AM
2	Should You Live With Your Partner Before Marriage? This! My ex acted like the perfect guy while we were doing the LDR thing. He was always on best behaviour when we went to stay at each other's homes for 1-2 week holidays and I had a completely warped idea of who he was as a result. When I moved in with him (we had already talked about marriage at that point), it was a complete eye opener and led to the engagement being postponed and ultimately called off. Dating is nothing like living with someone. People can easily hide who they really are whe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/19 09:47 PM
1	Some questions about MGTOW I'm another anti-feminist woman and discovered the whole MGTOW movement via a feminist ex-colleague who used to constantly rant about it. I visited a couple of forums out of pure curiosity, initially with exactly the same assumptions as you, but hung around to actually study the reasoning behind all the anger and complaints. Now I'm in full agreement with them, as a lot of the stereotypical female behaviour that MGTOW guys highlight is the exact same behaviour that annoys and affects me in diffe…	/r/MGTOW2	10/08/19 10:31 AM