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| 5 | Tea TimeThanks for the support. It helps to get some outside validation. It bugs me that he has this kind of history with her but I realize that may be my insecurities getting to me. He stopped saying that kind of stuff to her once we started dating. Whereas she still tries to be super active in the group like arranging group Facetime calls and everything even though she's married. I guess since he's 100% supportive of distancing himself from this situation I should put it in the past. Thanks again for … | /r/RedPillWives | 23/02/22 09:57 PM |
| 6 | Tea TimeSo I've been holding back from sharing this with my friends because I didn't want to unload drama onto them, but it would help to share it with someone. My SO has a group of male friends from college, and there was a female friend who would occasionally hang out with all of them. I got some weird vibes from her when I met her, mostly that she would cross some emotional boundaries and use really flattering language with them that I felt would have caused guys to like me if I was in her shoes. Any… | /r/RedPillWives | 23/02/22 08:40 PM |
| 2 | Do you think he likes me? Is this anxious overthinking?This comment concerned me - why are you dating him if he never compliments you? I think you can do better. He doesn't sound very caring or thoughtful. He also said his last girlfriend essentially caused too many problems and blamed her for all the arguments. I wouldn't see this guy anymore. I don't think he sounds like a very nice person, even if he might come across as decent initially. You sound like a genuine person who is looking for something real, and he should know this about you already.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/21 06:47 PM |
| 20 | Why Do Men Prefer Younger Women?I understand what you're saying. From what I've observed, healthy mature men tend to marry women who are on their level mentally, so they tend to marry within their age range. The ones who actually get into relationships with women when there's a significant age difference tend to not be psychologically healthy for their age, there's usually some maturity deficiency that propels them to seek younger women for relationships. Most men might recognize that women in their 20s are attractive (as do I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/21 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Should I be worried about his previous fling?Can’t answer that question, I’m not him. But it certainly doesn’t sound like a committed relationship to me. Also, the last two sentences sound a bit contradictory. I think you just need to have an honest conversation with him about what you want instead of focusing on the other girl and their social media activity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/21 04:24 AM |
| 1 | Should I be worried about his previous fling?I think you subconsciously know what's going on - that he's hesitant to get involved with you again after the break up, which is why you haven't defined the relationship yet. You can't expect him to act like a boyfriend when he's not your boyfriend. He sounds like a friends with benefits situation right now, and I think you guys need to have a talk to figure out if you guys want to rekindle the relationship or move on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/21 07:28 PM |
| 1 | Surprising your manThe other day I made dinner for him, there were 4-5 dishes in total along with a homemade drink. I told him about it in advance so it wasn't a complete surprise but he couldn't stop talking about how excited he was for dinner and told all of his friends about our plans. We took a walk to the park afterwards and enjoyed the sunset. He got me flowers for that night and I could tell he really appreciated it because he took me out on a bunch of dates afterwards. I think a homecooked meal is a really… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/19 07:17 PM |
| 3 | How to inspire respect without demanding it?Yeah, you're right, I guess this is more about him wanting to know that I value the relationship, his friends, and will try to get along with everyone. I spoke with him a little earlier and reassured him that I really liked everyone and had a lot of fun, but was just feeling a bit anxious in a new relationship since I'm not used to it and will be better once I'm more comfy. He's on a weekend trip right now but when he comes back I'll ask him to teach me how to play the game. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/19 06:43 PM |
| 2 | How to inspire respect without demanding it?Yeah, I can 100% agree with this analysis. I will talk to him a little bit in person, communicate my feelings, and maybe get him to show me what he likes he about the game they were playing. Maybe I will like the game too, and I imagine we'll walk away from it all with a better understanding of each other and feeling more close instead of defensive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/19 06:07 PM |
| 6 | How to inspire respect without demanding it?Just gonna stand my ground on this one, but I understand that you're protective of that title. By your standards, he's not a gamer either, FYI. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/19 06:05 PM |
| 2 | How to inspire respect without demanding it?Wow, this was kind of out of the blue. I never claimed to be a gamer. He made the assumption based off of the fact that I played a few video games before, and last night was the first time he made it clear that he had this assumption. It was just an honest miscommunication. And he plays games maybe a few times a month at the most. We all had dinner at a restaurant beforehand, I chatted with everyone there, played with the dog, and there was another couple that was just observing too. Going back … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/19 05:44 PM |
| 5 | How to inspire respect without demanding it?Thank you for your perspective. :) I'm definitely a private and reserved person so I can explain this to him. Maybe he didn't know that it would make me feel put on the spot, I imagine if I communicate that to him he will be sensitive to it and adjust. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/19 03:49 PM |
| 21 | How to inspire respect without demanding it?To be entirely honest, I was overwhelmed yesterday because I was just meeting a bunch of his friends for the first time, I haven't started a relationship in years, I'm not entirely secure in the relationship yet, and I'm not good at the game so I was embarrassed. But I do see what you're saying. I do play games with him in private and am totally open to practicing a little bit at home alone so I will feel more comfortable joining with everyone. I also couldn't hold it in anymore without talking … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/19 03:42 PM |
| 1 | How to maintain your confidence and faith in healthy relationships?Thank you! This is helpful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/19 11:56 PM |
| 1 | How to maintain your confidence and faith in healthy relationships?Honestly, I think it’s because I live in the most liberal area of US. You can probably guess which area it is. Many men display a lot of red flags very early. I can’t even tell what’s acceptable and what’s not anymore. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/19 11:53 PM |
| 2 | Should I confirm a date?Yeah I can agree that it really depends on the group that you’re dating within. Also, as a side note, who was the salty person who downvoted me? I was just speaking from my own personal experience and even qualified it first. I was just trying to reassure the OP to just go with the flow and see what happens. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/19 06:28 PM |
| 2 | Should I confirm a date?This might be regional but I never confirm dates and it isn't common for the guys to confirm either. All of my dates have always showed up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/19 05:18 AM |
| 1 | Field Report: First date after discovering RPWTo be honest, I think you might have overthought the date and was a little too invested already based on the write-up. I usually see first dates as just a meet-up to see if there's any chemistry. I usually wear something casual that shows off my figure (maybe something cinched in at the waist or something that hints at cleavage) with pants and casual, heeled boots. I would only wear dresses for very special occasions (birthdays, holidays, anniversaries) or for dates after work and even then I'm … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/18 09:09 AM |
| 1 | “You know how to make a man feel loved”I love this story. I think men are just so absolutely adorable for this reason - the good ones are not too difficult to satisfy. All they need is food, sex, and a compassionate partner and they'll be happy with their relationship. Whereas women have like a million qualifiers haha. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/18 06:46 PM |
| 1 | “Men are more satisfied by their bromances than their romantic relationships, study says”Sounds like they were purposefully selecting for a very specific group by choosing college aged male white sports majors. ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/18 06:12 AM |
| 1 | Vulnerability as a StrengthYes, I think the strong, independent woman archetype is overpromoted by pop culture and very problematic. This new brand of feminism is basically reverse sexism. I think if a guy acted the way that "strong independent females" are encouraged to, they would be labeled a sexist and have a lot of issues in relationships as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/18 06:00 AM |
| 1 | Honest question, why does SMV matter if all men are inherently horny and looking for partners?That sounds like a study of one. At any rate, you seem to fundamentally disagree with the assertions put forth in this sub. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/18 10:58 PM |
| 1 | Mixing money and love: a dilemmaHmm, well, do you have any reason to believe that once he pays off his debt he'll continue to be irresponsible and escalate his spending? I broke up with my ex for this reason, but he had a ton of red flags such as prioritizing the wrong type of spending (buying gadgets versus fixing his car), being lazy (going out for NYE instead of working the next day), and poor decision making (spending $40 on Kickstarter while jobless and in ~$200k in student debt). I don't know if it's really worth breakin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/18 12:16 AM |
| 24 | Relationship is sinking S.O.S!Are you sure he's not manipulating you into thinking that this is all your fault when in reality he's just an emotionally abusive mooch? | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/18 02:04 AM |
| 9 | What advice would you give your younger self?I think people enjoy intellectual conversations in moderation but sometimes it can come off as holier-than-thou, and oftentimes people are looking for someone to just hang out with and forget the seriousness of day to day life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/18 01:59 AM |
| 4 | What advice would you give your younger self?Curious to learn more about how you benefited from nun mode of you wouldn't mind sharing! I'm in the beginning stages of mine. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/18 01:55 AM |
| 1 | What advice would you give your younger self?Yes! And also to know that you can be in a bad relationship with a good person, which is unfortunate but it would still be in your best interest to leave. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/18 01:53 AM |
| 2 | 23 yo/Waiting for boyfriend to get MBA and proposeHmm... if he was concerned that the loans would prevent him from having the large fancy wedding he would want, then maybe that would make sense. But, the fact that he keeps changing his mind is concerning. And business school loans are nothing to shake a stick at and he'll likely be paying it off for years to come. I've seen people get married during business school, medical school, or residency when they are very marriage-minded. It sounds like he likes you a lot but feels anxious about committ… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/18 11:30 PM |
| 1 | 23 yo/Waiting for boyfriend to get MBA and proposeI think the one red flag here is that he changed his mind from wanting to get married before business school to after. Did he explain why? Business school is nonstop networking, which means lots of drinking, club parties and trips to Vegas or abroad. Did he speak with you at all on how he expects the relationship to go while he's in school? Some men tend to "upgrade" when they move up a social class, so if I were you I would stay focused on improving myself, not necessarily for him, but for my o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/18 08:12 PM |
| 5 | Learning how to speak skillfully/gracefully?Oh this is a good idea! Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/18 03:51 AM |
| 3 | On vetting marriage minded menI suppose it's better to consider how he relates to his siblings. I once dated a guy who never questioned his sister's decisions, even when she dated a drug user with children or when she continued to go to raves and club parties over the age of 30. She's still single at the age of 40 and he's just barely getting his career started at 34. I believe he wants to get married but I think he still has a long way to go until he's mature enough. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/18 02:06 AM |
| 1 | On vetting marriage minded menI agree with everything written here - overall it sounds like it is very important to look for consistency and strength of character in a man. A few years back, I mentioned to a guy that I was dating that I was attracted to him because he seemed very "stable" and he was SO offended. I understand that I could have worded it differently but at the end of the day, he was actually all over the place so in retrospect his reaction my statement should have raised a red flag. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/18 02:03 AM |
| 5 | Becoming a High Value WomanBecause it is possible to overdo things and oftentimes people focus too much on their physical traits when they think about improving their overall value to the opposite sex. We are discussing surgery, not makeup, which changes how your breasts feel and look when you're undressed. Optimizing your immediate visual sexual appearance to the detriment of your other features, including how you look when you're undressed or how your breasts feel during sex, may not be the wisest choice in the long run… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/18 11:19 PM |
| 2 | Is it bad that I want a high N count?This is an interesting way of looking at it and I do agree - are there any other tantra theories that would apply to relationships? I find that our society tends to brush spirituality off was "woo-woo" kind of concepts but I feel like it is all just another way of looking at human nature/human psyche. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/18 10:52 PM |
| 7 | Becoming a High Value WomanThis. Optimizing your sexuality is not the key to attracting a committed relationship. Also, from what I've heard, fake breasts are fun to look at but not to touch. If you are concerned about your size, I would just experiment with different ways of dressing to enhance the features that you do like, such as your arms, shoulders, back, legs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/18 08:22 PM |
| 2 | Is it bad that I want a high N count?I agree that she shouldn't ideally, I'm not arguing that. I just don't think she would take the advice to heart without having someone speak from her perspective. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/18 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Is it bad that I want a high N count?I don't know too many women who have slept with 8-10+ men who have their head on their shoulders. Meaning they have a solid career, family life, and circle of friends in their late 20s. For some reason there is a really big correlation between emotional stability and n count in a woman. Men naturally want to sleep around but women do not, so when a woman does they usually are starved for affection/attention and are compensated, which to be honest, the OP is doing to some extent as she admits to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/18 02:48 PM |
| 1 | Confused!Just out of curiosity, what did you find attractive about him? I think this is where to start if you are trying to figure out where you could avoid getting into a similar situation in the future. Secondly, I think these types of men are especially confusing because they are actively working to hide the truth of how they feel from you. The best way to see how a man feels about you is to ask yourself if you would treat another person the way he does if you were falling in love. If your answer to t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/18 06:21 AM |
| 4 | Cooking TraineeI still don't know how to cook in the sense that I have to follow recipes. I wish I was at the point where I could just go grocery shopping and then throw something together. But I think that over time with experimenting, you start to get a sense of the theory behind cooking and why certain flavors work with others. I would go on epicurious.com and Pinterest and start cooking some simple recipes that you find. I would also recommend picking up The Flavor Bible. It's a really great look into the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/18 06:13 AM |
| 7 | tips on living in a feminist world with traditonal values?I avoid talking about my beliefs openly. Some women are in denial about their true nature and desires. I had one friend talk about how she would never choose money over love and then go on to talk about how her boyfriend could potentially earn 6 figures in his future career. Differences will always exist between friends and I just write this off as one of them. Ironically, whenever I discuss red pill theory with guys or anyone who is 50+ in age (not TRP pick up artist theory but more so RPW theo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/18 06:08 AM |
| 1 | Is it bad that I want a high N count?I see. In my opinion, it's not worthwhile to experience. Sex is sex. Some men are better at it, some men are not. A vibrator will always get you off. A good man is irreplaceable. But it does sound like you are still attracted to the newness of flirting with multiple men, so I have a feeling that you will have to get it out of your system a bit before you are ready to settle down, otherwise you will always wonder. In your case, maybe it would be better to experience casual sex so that you know th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/18 05:45 AM |
| 1 | Is it bad that I want a high N count?There's a saying: youth is wasted on the young. You are young, inexperienced and frankly naive. You feel that it's futile to follow them because you haven't experienced the ramifications of poor decision making yet. If you really see yourself being happy with a lifetime of casual sex well into your 50s while your friends are all getting married and have less time and energy for you or if yourself eventually settling down with a man that you've picked from a smaller dating pool when you're older … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/18 05:27 AM |
| 4 | Confused!Definitely - if they are too smooth I start getting a slick car salesman vibe which isn't a good sign. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/18 10:38 PM |
| 2 | Why would a woman stay perpetually single and maintain a large circle of male friends?Based on the fact that I asked this question, no, I couldn't figure it out. Getting attention is easy as a woman. You just have to walk outside and depending on who you run across, you'll get plenty of looks or compliments. Some guys will even follow you around or borderline stalk you on Facebook or send you anonymous presents. Anyone who needs more attention than that puzzles me. Call me old fashioned? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/18 03:48 AM |
| 4 | Confused!I know a few, but they would never joke about dumping their SO. Also, they are usually charming because they're very at ease with themselves so you feel end up feeling comfortable in their presence, but they might not plan the perfect date since they don't spend all of their time thinking about how to woo women the way some players do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/18 12:33 AM |
| – | Simple QuestionsI would be wary if they hung out a lot one on one. Usually there is some interest there from at least one person if they're spending a lot of time alone - I've never seen it end well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/18 04:56 AM |
| – | Simple QuestionsWhat are some of your favorite clothing stores? I usually do most of my shopping online on Shopbop or Revolve, but when I make the trek out to the mall I like to frequent Banana Republic, J Crew, or Club Monaco. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/18 04:53 AM |
| 2 | Why would a woman stay perpetually single and maintain a large circle of male friends?Thanks for sharing! I feel like we may have come from very similar places - I'm told that I'm too nice all the time! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/18 12:33 AM |
| 1 | Women plating men.How old are you? Dating gets harder as you get older. I can tell you that I had guys following me down the street to get a chance to talk to me when I was in college. Guys gain an upper hand as they develop their careers and the dating pool significantly decreases as people get married off. Whether or not you will have trouble dating as you age is hard to say, but this is the general rule. By the way, the premise of this forum is dating for the purposes of finding a long-term relationship, so yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/18 12:32 AM |
| 2 | Why would a woman stay perpetually single and maintain a large circle of male friends?I definitely agree that it is possible to be friends with someone of the opposite gender if you are both mature, responsible adults and if someone has an SO who is also an important part of the friend group. When I was in a relationship, I brought my ex with me everywhere and had plenty of normal, healthy interactions with people of both genders and we had our mutual friends, some single, some not. Everyone was very respectful of our relationship. When I became single again, however, I found it … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/17 09:14 PM |
| 3 | Why would a woman stay perpetually single and maintain a large circle of male friends?Oh by the way, I was wondering if you would mind sharing the books that you found to be helpful? I'm always looking to improve. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/17 05:39 PM |
| 2 | Why would a woman stay perpetually single and maintain a large circle of male friends?She's attractive and most likely from the same area that we are both thinking of. You bring up a good point. I grew up in an area where that sort of thing was rare, but it is one of the main industries in that part of the world. I'll give the show that you mentioned a watch. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/17 04:16 PM |
| 3 | Why would a woman stay perpetually single and maintain a large circle of male friends?Yes, I agree that a lot of people take dating too casually nowadays. Modern culture has rejected a lot of traditional values which are now seen as outdated, but I feel like it's created a sense of lawlessness or lack of responsibility in dating. Not everyone is like this, but quite a few are. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/17 03:40 PM |
| 12 | Why would a woman stay perpetually single and maintain a large circle of male friends?This is kind of a side note and not directed at your comment, but I wish there was a different term for orbiter, because I feel that term places the brunt of the responsibility for the situation on the male's shoulders. I feel that, for the most part, these males only stick around because the females give them false hope. I've actually found that guys get the hint very easily if you're truly intent on keeping your interactions with them platonic. The females who tend to have a bunch of orbiters … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/17 03:36 PM |
| 4 | Why would a woman stay perpetually single and maintain a large circle of male friends?This makes sense - I was similar when I was younger and less mature as well. I stopped once I got into a serious relationship. It looks like we have both grown out of this phase. I no longer see men as playthings that I use to enhance my own ego after a month or two of being that way in college. I guess it surprises me that some women never seem to grow out of it even when they're well into their late 20s, but stranger things have happened. I agree that it is possible for women and men to be tru… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/17 03:32 PM |
| 20 | How to tell him that I was assaultedI'm very sorry to hear about your past experience - it sounds like you were with an abusive man. In regards to if and when you should discuss this with a future partner, don't tell him until you've fully processed it yourself and wait until you know you can trust him. I honestly think that you should probably refrain from dating until you've fully processed the things that have happened. Oftentimes people end up dating one abuser after another if they jump into dating again too quickly. For now,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/17 04:52 AM |
| 5 | Want to Give Myself a 'Feminine' MakeoverI am definitely a reformed tomboy. It took me 5 years to feel comfortable wearing dresses in public. I found that I was really able to break out of my tomboy-ish nature when I realized that I was suppressing my femininity because I interpreted it as weakness. However, I now understand that it is possible to be feminine and assertive but not aggressive. In fact, it's far more effective to utilize your femininity in a pleasing way, which I'm definitely still working on! Nevertheless, with this sma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/17 03:00 PM |
| 3 | How do I Always end up losing power in relationships?To be honest, I sense a bit of insecurity and emotional instability; I think that this is what the men are picking up on. I think you might benefit from speaking to someone one on one who can help unpack your sources of insecurity while taking a break from dating for awhile. By the way, it is better to not frame the relationship in terms of who has the "power." That is setting yourself up to feel insecure whenever the guy starts to pull away for whatever reason. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/17 03:55 PM |
| 15 | New Years resolutions1) Embrace my femininity through the way that I dress every day. 2) Get back into the habit of working out regularly. I used to go to the gym 4-5 days out of the week but recently stopped after being thrown for a loop by a guy. I'm allowing myself the time to accept and process what happened so that I don't make similar mistakes in the future, but I will not allow myself to mope forever. 3) Aim to cook dinner for my parents once a week as a way of bonding with them, showing my appreciation for t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/17 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Advice needed from experienced womenAfter reading this comment, I'm not entirely sure if I understand where you are coming from anymore. Why do you want him so badly? The best way to make someone regret leaving you is to not care if they regret leaving you but I don't think that's the right way to approach this situation. I am not sure what there is to gain from trying to manipulate him into missing you and it doesn't sound like you care for him very much if this is how you see him. I can definitely tolerate some unwanted traits i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/17 05:23 PM |
| 2 | Advice needed from experienced womenSo I can understand where you are coming from - when you see that he is upset or hurt, you think he cares about you. He doesn't. He cares about his ego. I can relate to this since I went through something similar. I recently distanced myself from a guy who was showing signs of being controlling and a serial womanizer. Whenever I saw him around, I would avoid him and he was usually upset or saddened by my actions. Most recently he actually forced his way into a conversation with me and he looked … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/17 05:17 PM |
| 1 | For Single Ladies “Late to the Red Pill” Part II: Nun Mode, Realism vs. Settling, Vetting MistakesThank you for posting this! I feel like this is so relevant to where I am in my life right now. I spent a long time with a very passive guy and after ending that relationship I ended up attracting and dating a string of extremely aggressive and morally questionable men. I haven't truly entered a real "monk mode" so I would probably benefit a lot from focusing just on improving myself for now. And I love the list that you put together on red flags to avoid in men - the last three guys that I date… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/17 02:36 AM |
| 1 | Getting over unsuccessful prospects?thank you for the well thought out post. believe me, i don't disagree that dating is more difficult for women than it is for men as we age. i responded negatively to the other poster's comment since it was quite honestly coming from a place of destructive versus constructive criticism. in regards to your comments, i agree that i'm commitment-phobic as well. i'm trying to do a lot of self-analysis to figure out where it stems from and how to correct it. i think i had invested a significant amount… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/17 12:55 AM |
| 1 | Getting over unsuccessful prospects?Yes, I definitely agree that I hang on to the relationship for too long. I'm slowly learning to just walk away and I've gotten much better at it. This last guy was the first one that I really, really liked and managed to pull away from within 3 dates. Unfortunately, my feelings still remained afterwards so I'm still working on learning how to overcome them in a reasonable time frame. But I'll remember your advice and stick with my decision to create distance; I really do think it's for the best.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/17 11:39 PM |
| -1 | Getting over unsuccessful prospects?I understand his perspective, and if it were accurate, I would have taken it seriously. However if you read my posts, my expectations are not unreasonable. Nor am I having trouble dating men my age. People think I'm in my early 20s, both physically and personality-wise. Is that something to strive for? I don't know but that's how I am. The last guy I dated was 28 and he treated me like I was much younger than him. I am also open to dating older men. I have my filter set to 60 on the dating apps.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/17 09:28 PM |
| 0 | Getting over unsuccessful prospects?This will be my last response as I understand that I'm clearly just feeding a troll here but I would like to state that you have made many presumptions in your responses in regards to the type of men that approach me and that I am open to. You cherry picked one comment that I made out of many; the comment that I made was in reference to how now that I am dating in my 30s, men seem to have way more baggage than they did in their early 20s, which is logical considering that everyone is less damage… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/17 08:41 PM |
| 1 | 34f - Will he marry me?This is very clever and insightful - thank you for posting this. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/17 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Getting over unsuccessful prospects?I see that my usage of the term untrustworthy is causing a bit of confusion. I guess it's hard to clarify since my sense of this trait in them is something that's built up through multiple small interactions in which I felt that they were a little too manipulative, selfish, or hot-tempered. I understand that it's hard to really grasp what I'm trying to get at since I'm not providing specific examples, but essentially I don't see them as husband material. They do end up wanting relationships, and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/17 08:12 PM |
| 1 | Getting over unsuccessful prospects?This makes sense, I probably need to find a way to communicate with them firmly that I am looking for a relationship only and the ones who aren't interested will fall by the wayside on their own naturally. I do think the last guy would have been persistent nonetheless since I get the feeling that he was sizing me up for a relationship, but he had an awful temper so I pushed him away. I do miss him a lot and was very happy to see him last week but tried to hide it. And unfortunately I am looking … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/17 07:57 PM |
| 0 | Getting over unsuccessful prospects?Sorry, you're right, I'll just pack away my dreams of landing a 36 year old man and settle for a 48 year old who will put up with my shriveled tin ovaries. I'm glad that the world is so very black and white. I'm sure that by dating older men since you presume that I am not open to the idea one day I'll find one who wouldn't mind my decrepit 31 year old body. Side note, what is with the angry TRP men who feel the need to troll this subreddit? Don't you guys have plates to spin? Hmm.. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/17 07:50 PM |
| 1 | Getting over unsuccessful prospects?To respond to your edit, by trust I was referring to their character traits or glaringly unacceptable issues like a predisposition to partying excessively, lingering ex-girlfriends who were kept a secret, questionable escapades abroad, short tempers, judgmental natures, etc. I wish it was only that they were casually dating! I would be able to handle that up to a certain extent, although I think if they weren't offering commitment within a few months I'd start to get antsy. It's very interesting… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/17 05:56 PM |
| 1 | Afraid of being alone forever...it sounds like you're attracted to the wrong men. you want someone fiercely independent but who will still remain loyal. those two qualities directly contradict each other. perfection is unattainable, men are people too, and sometimes what's perceived as "weakness" in men is simply compassion and sensitivity, which isn't a bad thing. a man who can lead a company isn't necessarily the type of man who can lead a family. there has to be some compromise in your standards unfortunately. honestly, it … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/17 11:53 AM |
| 2 | You will never feel beautiful until you are wearing your own skinI love this post! The wall is real from a social economics standpoint but the way that some people here speak of it, you would think that every woman turned into Gandalf as soon as they hit 30. Dating gets exponentially harder as you get older, as do many things in life, but a woman can age quite gracefully if 1) she is willing to accept it and doesn't resort to too much makeup/plastic surgery, etc. and 2) she develops a serene maturity. Amal Clooney is 39 and absolutely beautiful and part of th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/17 11:12 PM |
| – | Simple QuestionsMani/pedi, scented body lotion, heatstyling my hair so that it's straight and sleek, and wearing a slimming outfit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/17 04:48 PM |
| 3 | Honing your soft skillsYes definitely. I feel that in all social groups people try to test your boundaries or try to get a reaction either through subtle putdowns or by trying to undermine you. It's just human nature to want to assert yourself or show your dominance. It's easy to turn it around in a flirtatious manner (for example, when a guy comments on how little you eat, smile and comment on how you're so much smaller than them in comparison) or to be rude and abrasive (for example, when a guy tries to lecture you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/17 05:05 PM |
| 5 | Honing your soft skillsHmm good tip - I realized I do this with my patients at work but for some reason I'm not as gentle with the people in my life. Probably because I have higher expectations and it can be tiring to be constantly on all the time but it sounds like that's what I need to work on. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/17 04:55 PM |
| 8 | Women are the prize: You're more valuable.I disagree with this. In general, men need women less than the other way around. They don't get attached as easily and therefore women can be interchangeable for them. In real life, I rarely hear men stressing out over whether a girl likes them back whereas women are always overanalyzing their dates to the point of reciting text messages to their friends almost word for word. The power that you're referring to is short-lived. Sure, it's easy to get a guy to buy you dinner or to do you favors if … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/17 03:40 AM |
| 7 | Appreciating random acts of male kindnessThis implies that any time a man talks to me, whether he compliments me, helps me with something, or insults me, he is attempting an RP pickup tactic, seeing as how they can all be considered pickup lines. Certainly this may be true in some cases, but I doubt it is true in all, and perhaps I'm thinking too much of myself but I'd like to think I am smart enough to know the difference. :) Thank you kindly for your opinion though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/17 06:55 PM |
| 2 | Appreciating random acts of male kindnessI agree, men are way more willing to help in general. I think I had one woman stop to help me put my luggage away in an overhead bin on a flight once (I'm 5'1 so I couldn't reach!) and afterward she kind of laughed to herself like, "I can't believe I just helped someone put their luggage away." Haha. I was still very appreciative of her help since I really couldn't do it on my own, but it just speaks to how much women are used to be taken care of in this way. Yesterday was proof to me that gentl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/17 06:48 PM |
| 6 | Appreciating random acts of male kindnessYes, my original intent in writing this post came out of the desire to appreciate that men have this built-in need to assist women around them. Of course, nothing is black and white and when it comes to gendered motivations the idea of sex is usually in play, but I think in general men are taught to physically protect women and I am grateful for that. Looking forward to the day that I meet someone with whom I can build the type of relationship that you're describing! Men provide physical securit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/17 03:09 PM |
| 5 | Appreciating random acts of male kindnessI really think it's so amazing that guys are so eager to help. Of course they do it because we're women, but that doesn't always mean they're trying to get in your pants as it was implied elsewhere in this thread. Maybe most of the time, but not always, and not in the case of what happened yesterday. I hope that other people reading this will trust that I have enough life experience to know the difference. As a side note, in public I always let other women go ahead of me, open doors for them, pu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/17 02:31 PM |
| 3 | girlfriend donating eggs and It's making me uncomfortable. Thoughts from TRP women?If I was in a serious relationship and my boyfriend was this bothered by it, I wouldn't go through with it. However, from her perspective, initially you were okay with it but now it's so bothersome that it seems like you're questioning whether or not you should stay in a relationship with her. That would be a red flag for me. Reading through your responses, it seems like there are problems in this relationship beyond the help of this sub - mainly, there appears to be a fair amount of instability… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/17 11:48 PM |
| 1 | Advice AppreciatedI feel like a guy who is ready for a relationship will make it apparent that he's on the market for one - either by talking about how he wants to settle down or through his actions, preferably both. The ones who are serious about you generally start acting pretty boyfriend-like very quickly. Guys might be wired differently than women but they are still people so their intentions can be read as long as you're willing to be realistic. I don't know if it's possible to gently push a guy towards a re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/17 04:21 PM |
| 2 | Fitness Advice.. Please help.Yeah the visualization really helps! I gravitate towards a lean protein/plant based diet now, even low fat string cheese is a bit too fat heavy for me. I'm not sure if you're from the US, but if you are, our diet here is typically sooo greasy and heavy. A lot of the stuff that we're used to eating here are so bad for you and I've found that visualization really helps break those bad habits. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/17 02:25 PM |
| 3 | how many of you actually work out?I do something moderately intensive most of the days of the week. I rotate between yoga, spin class, running and weightlifting. I do it to help relieve stress, for the energy boost and to feel empowered. I also do it because as a 30 year old I want to set up healthy habits so I can have a slamming body for as long as I can help it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/17 06:03 AM |
| 3 | We've Developed Orbiters - Invasion of the MenThis is true too! But occasionally there is the guy who will post something that's so logical, reasonable, and well thought-out that I wonder what he looks like in real life and if we'd get along. Haha! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/17 05:58 AM |
| 24 | We've Developed Orbiters - Invasion of the MenI appreciate the male perspective when it is balanced, although sometimes I feel like the guys who are commenting are angry and spiteful. There are multiple sides to each coin and I appreciate healthy debate but I feel like there is some misguided animosity that I don't quite understand. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/17 05:21 AM |
| 4 | Rant about women's fitness in a feminist worldEvery subculture has its own zeitgeist and if you combine Olympic weightlifting with being a woman you're going to get a number of females who lift to get ripped since that is the point of that type of lifting - lift as heavy as you can. The particular sub you mentioned emphasizes Olympic lifting as the primary form of exercise to aspire to which makes sense to me given that it's a fitness focused forum on Reddit (which to be fair, isn't filled with feminine people - but I still love Reddit!) In… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/17 09:04 PM |
| 4 | I attract very alpha men and I wish I could attract more beta qualitiesI'm glad it helped! In general extremely type A men tend to objectify the people in their lives - it's painful to experience if they cross certain boundaries and it sounds like yours definitely did. I'm sorry to hear that happened to you. Take care love! <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/17 07:24 PM |
| 4 | Fitness Advice.. Please help.Weight loss is partially about exercise and mostly about diet. I'm not into calorie counting so I've been trying this thing...this is going to sound kind of woo-woo, but I've been visualizing myself as a person with the figure that I want - I find that my cravings go away and I start to eat more healthy intuitively. I allow myself to cheat occasionally if I get the urge. I find that if I restrict myself or start calorie-counting I become obsessive to a fault and then I start to relate really poo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/17 03:17 AM |
| 9 | I attract very alpha men and I wish I could attract more beta qualitiesYes, this. I would also like to add that they are probably emotionally unhealthy as well. These men are treating u/sheikha4teddies the way they treat themselves. I have a pattern of dating these men too, usually because they're attracted to my accomplishments - and to be perfectly honest, I'm super neurotic so I have similar faults as them, I'm just a woman and therefore naturally more relationship-oriented so I'm more accepting of their faults than they are of mine. But initially these guys are… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/17 11:25 PM |
| 2 | The Daughters of Feminism Expose the LieI see things like this and can only think that feminists are the true misogynists. How could you possibly deny a little girl her natural pleasures/tendencies and then say you are pro-woman?? It's nonsensical. I have a lot of female friends who are tomboys and to be honest I can tell that they interpret my femininity as weakness. In general, it doesn't bother me since I can't expect all of my friendships to be free of judgment, but there was one particular group of friends who could not begin to … | /r/RedPillWives | 22/07/17 06:34 PM |
| 3 | I'm never approached by men.Are you a friendly, open person? How do you relate to people in general? Do you smile and laugh (with everyone, not just men) to show that you are friendly and harmless? And do you take pride in your appearance in general? I have a feeling that you might come across and closed-off and unapproachable. I think if you are able to answer yes to all of the questions above, eventually you will start to be approached by men. Guys are programmed to approach women when they feel like there's an opportuni… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/17 04:39 PM |
| 1 | Are the majority of men that you encounter flaky/not that great at dating as well?Haha, not rude at all, I agree that it's important to have standards. In fact I think we probably have similar philosophies, except I probably have more trouble moving on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/17 06:45 PM |
| 1 | Are the majority of men that you encounter flaky/not that great at dating as well?I am not correcting your assumptions because I'd rather not get into an argument with a stranger online - it is a waste of time, like all of these men, although you may beg to differ on both points. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/17 10:07 PM |
| 1 | Are the majority of men that you encounter flaky/not that great at dating as well?And good luck to you as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/17 10:03 PM |
| 1 | Are the majority of men that you encounter flaky/not that great at dating as well?You have again made many assumptions in your post. It is clear that this is dead end conversation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/17 09:54 PM |
| 2 | Are the majority of men that you encounter flaky/not that great at dating as well?There is no need for a DM. 1) In regards to the man who misspelled my name, he tried to pick me up while I was at a yoga class. He was there with another girl. When he introduced himself to me, it was clear that the other woman was slightly offended. He then sent me a vague text where he misspelled my name, told me that he was personal trainer, and told me to let him know if I wanted to get in a workout. Clearly a weak attempt. 2) The guy who did not finalize plans until the last day was taking … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/17 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Are the majority of men that you encounter flaky/not that great at dating as well?Yes, I am probably not seeing this enough as a "people" problem. I agree that it's important to not be entitled. In fact, I think that I have the opposite problem - people comment on how I'm the most caring person they know and I end up attracting a lot of aggressive, selfish men for it. This bill-paying topic is clearly a sensitive topic for everyone since it was brought up out of context of the type of man that I'm referring to and who I am as a person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/17 06:12 PM |
| 2 | Are the majority of men that you encounter flaky/not that great at dating as well?This is understood, which is why I use it as a data point to try to figure out if a guy is serious about me. It's clear that this is a touchy subject, and bizarrely so in my opinion since usually guys want to pay for our first dates. The few who didn't turned out to be undateable in the context of the rest of their behavior. :shrugs: | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/17 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Are the majority of men that you encounter flaky/not that great at dating as well?You are making a lot of assumptions. You're right that I'm leaving some things out, but there isn't enough space to go into depth about all of the men that I've dated or who have approached me in the last few months. When you'd like to have an open-minded conversation and if you truly have the time, I'd love to share. In the meantime, I'd hate to bore you with the details. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/17 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Are the majority of men that you encounter flaky/not that great at dating as well?Quite a bit, but this isn't what this thread is about. ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/17 05:19 AM |
| 3 | Are the majority of men that you encounter flaky/not that great at dating as well?Dating is quite complicated! I have had similar experiences with dating - the guys are very focused on sex. Men are very visual and sexual, so I understand that initially the relationship is all about sex for them. They literally have no other reason to be so interested in women when they're triggered to pursue one. I do enjoy this aspect of dating initially - it's fun to pick out outfits that I know he'll like and know that I'm providing some visual variety for him that he'll enjoy. It's like a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/17 03:08 AM |
| 3 | Are the majority of men that you encounter flaky/not that great at dating as well?In regards to seeing bill-paying as leading, I do have to say that I have had better dating experiences with guys who have paid for the first date. The ones who didn't were either very passive or not very serious about dating. But it is of course all dependent on the individual guy, it's not an all-or-nothing thing, just one more data point to work with. Of course, since you and I are in opposite roles, we will have different experiences - I am sure that you've encountered plenty of princesses/m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/17 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Are the majority of men that you encounter flaky/not that great at dating as well?Perhaps we're thinking of entirely different scenarios - but if we've met many many times before and we know each other quite well or if we were set up by friends and we're just going on a first date and you do not show any enthusiasm whatsoever when the check comes, that's a major red flag for me and almost an instant pass. First date with a man that I connected with online or if I only exchanged a few words with him? Not paying is passable (in fact, I split the bill with the guy that I was sup… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/17 12:14 AM |
| 8 | Are the majority of men that you encounter flaky/not that great at dating as well?Haha, on the last three first dates I've been on, two of the guys complained about work and another complained about this ankle injury (the last one wasn't so bad I guess, but I'm fairly active so it was a turn off). I thought to myself, hey wait, I didn't get a chance to complain yet, is it my turn now? Haha. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/17 11:27 PM |
| 3 | Are the majority of men that you encounter flaky/not that great at dating as well?I feel you girl. But my emotions don't work any other way and I can't fall in "like" with a man who acts this way. Stay strong and positive! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/17 11:19 PM |
| 2 | Are the majority of men that you encounter flaky/not that great at dating as well?I think perhaps your last bullet point is the source of our difference in opinion. It's not worth the investment for me to put myself in the position of being the one who really wants it. But thank you for your perspective - it sounds like you're successful in your endeavors so I am hoping that you're enjoying your time well! :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/17 11:17 PM |
| 2 | Are the majority of men that you encounter flaky/not that great at dating as well?Yes, definitely attractive in men too! Didn't mean to exclude them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/17 11:11 PM |
| 9 | Are the majority of men that you encounter flaky/not that great at dating as well?I used to be okay with a guy not footing the bill, but I know better now. It's a sign that he lacks the "protector" instinct. And if I'm with a guy who doesn't have that instinct then I might as well be single since he clearly won't be looking after me that much. I've noticed that guys who don't offer to pay the bill are also very passive overall in many different areas of their lives. I think that the attractive feminine traits are absolutely divine. Natural beauty, empathy, warmth, and creativ… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/17 10:59 PM |
| – | Simple QuestionsNo, not at all - I've met plenty of men nearing 40 who are still convinced they're 21! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/17 10:48 PM |
| 2 | Are the majority of men that you encounter flaky/not that great at dating as well?It's quite unattractive - I feel like both parties need to bring something to the table in dating and if the man can't even bring a sense of stability then I'm not quite sure what the point of dating is for me. I might as well just hang out with my flaky guy friends haha. The guy who had delayed finalizing plans until the day before had been taking a day to respond to my texts - we weren't even chatting, just trying to figure out what to do and when. Of course when I told him that I had arranged… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/17 10:41 PM |
| – | Simple QuestionsHaha, I wonder if that actually works. I've passed on guys for persistently poor grammar/misspellings before. Usually they were paying absolutely zero attention to the text conversation at hand too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/17 10:23 PM |
| – | Simple QuestionsI would have passed on him too. Just for spelling it "dranks." Haha! It's signaling that he might be a bit of a partier which is not my type. I think if you're interested in him, it's fair to say, "hey not today, but maybe another time in the future? I like to plan ahead," but in an upbeat manner to see if he gets the hint and starts taking things a bit more seriously. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/17 10:15 PM |
| 3 | What do you look for in a man and why?Assertive, determined, physically active, stable (both emotionally and in his career), smarter than me, loyal, and relatively easy-going. I would also like to see that they relate well to their parents, or at least in a mature fashion. Also, taller than me when I'm wearing heels. I majored in science and currently work in healthcare so I have a super soft spot for physicians since they understand the type of work that I do and they do it better than me, which I find very admirable. I haven't rea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/17 05:48 AM |
| 2 | Increasing your SMV...for yourself!Thank you! I was SO close to texting him multiple times and rationalized everything away as if I really just wanted to be friends and wasn't grasping at straws to keep him in my life. Then I imagined him telling me stories about dating other women and I knew I had to stay away. I think monk mode is very important since it is so very useful in helping define the boundaries of what is or isn't okay in dating - I probably would have gotten myself into a lot of trouble if I hadn't taken any time to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/17 05:26 AM |
| 1 | Increasing your SMV...for yourself!I am trying so hard to eliminate the bitchiness from my personality too. I make lots of snarky and condescending comments to myself when I'm alone and I've realized that even that is too much. It's been an uphill battle! And I agree that your wardrobe says a lot about you. It's one of the first things that people notice and as we all know first impressions mean a lot. I've started buying only high quality items - I don't let the price tag scare me away since I shop so selectively now. And I stay… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/17 05:21 AM |
| 1 | Increasing your SMV...for yourself!I'm glad to hear that you're feeling better now. That is quite a lot to be dealing with at one time and it must have been quite challenging. It takes a lot of inner strength to make it through all of that in one piece! And I agree with being careful with one's energy - you have to protect the source of the energy in order to ensure that you're able to radiate it to the world. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/17 05:13 AM |
| 1 | Increasing your SMV...for yourself!I agree that it's easier to work on yourself when you're single - the emotions of dating really distract me from being able to focus. I like your point that our motivation to improve should come from within. I've realized that I really like the energy of dominant men but I tend to lose myself in the process by completely molding myself to their wishes, which I've realized is the wrong strategy. Yielding to a man is something that I find really enjoyable, but if I end up changing my values for on… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/17 05:09 AM |
| 2 | Increasing your SMV...for yourself!Thank you! And you should definitely love what you see in the mirror, there is only one of you in this world after all. <3 :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/17 05:00 AM |
| 1 | Male friends exist... I think. FRHe gets something out of his interactions with you that he doesn't get elsewhere - what that exactly is, only he knows. But he likely wouldn't tell the whole truth even if we asked him. I suppose this is why opposite sex friendships are so complicated! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/17 02:28 AM |
| 2 | Male friends exist... I think. FRMy concern stems from the fact that he is so intriguing that you've made a Reddit post about him and the tone seems to be along the lines of, why does he flirt with me when he could with someone more attractive. The answer is because he wants to because it's fun. For example, I have male friends who I see platonically who flirt with me and I write it off for what it is - he's a red-blooded male with a lot of testosterone running through his system, nothing more nothing less. He thinks I'm kind o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/17 01:55 AM |
| 2 | Male friends exist... I think. FRHi, I might be completely off base but I am a bit worried that you might be hoping that he has feelings for you. Just reading in-between the lines. In my experience, never wait for a man. If he offers something casual, then keep it casual; sometimes they change their minds later but you have to take care of yourself first and make sure that you aren't emotionally committing more to the situation than he is. Otherwise, it is best to disengage unless you are 100% sure that you don't have any feeli… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/17 12:29 AM |
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