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Still haven't done it, last event will be next week. I'm thinking of baking some cookies but still haven't decided on what. Will keep you updated!
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/16 01:06 PM
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Class_Punk, you're so right. We had a "talk" and he's at the point where I am almost feeling uncomfortable - he's just done so much to secretly engage in my life and interests, picking up the same hobbies, etc. And I didn't know. Had to tell him that I wasn't interested and that those feelings wouldn't change. All I know is that I never flirted with him, but always saw him as 100% friend material. At least now he knows he's got no chance and I told him he should do whatever he needs to move on. …
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/16 01:03 PM
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I don't know the exact definition of a beta orbiter. But if it's a guy who is making himself available at any point, doing anything to please, always takes initiative to talk or meet up, wants to hang out longer, etc, all under the pre-text of being friends when it turns out that he's just hoping for something more... then I'd say he's one of them.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/16 12:59 PM
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Interesting. I just never assume that people are interested, need to work on that :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/16 12:57 PM
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I needed that Maya Angelou quote today. Will have to put it somewhere where I can see it daily... thank you for sharing.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/16 12:24 PM
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Yeah, seeing the video in loneliness-inc's post where this guy interviewed men and women did make me realize that... I really appreciate our conversations more than anything. I can't say that he supports me financially at all. Emotionally, not more than I would expect from someone I hang out with over time. But of course he's paying attention to me and thereby validating me, and I appreciate that. Cut out sounds harsh. I'll start by distancing myself from him.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/16 09:32 AM
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Yes, if he's pursuing me, then he's wasting his time. I've just refused to accept that it might be the case because I appreciate hanging out with him and feel like I've communicated my standards for the relationship (e.g. friendship nothing else). But I'll be clearer.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/16 09:29 AM
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Tough but true. I appreciate your advice. I'll do that now.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/16 09:28 AM
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I'm actually not talking about my love life with him at all - we mostly have discussions about interests, life, philosophy, etc, rather than "girl talk". But I agree on more distance being necessary.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/16 09:13 AM
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Wow, that post is terrific. The video interviewing men and women on whether male-female friendship is possible was eye-opening. So... should I assume that most men happy to hang out as friends are interested in more than that?
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/16 09:11 AM
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Starting to realize that :/
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/16 09:07 AM
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It is great, I recommend it. When I get stressed, I tend to drop self-care and paying attention to everyday pleasure - when these are the things that makes life less stressful and more pleasant. Mama Gena have some cool, low-pressure suggestions for getting those things back (plus some more unusual and racy ones worth testing).
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/16 08:15 AM
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Representing the geek squad, am I the only one thinking Star Trek, Captain + First officer? Not a good idea unless he's a trekkie, though.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/16 10:13 AM
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If you don't relate to being feminine as such, can you related to other close-by concepts or parts of femininity? For example, I'm reading the book P*ssy by Gena Thomashauer at the moment. It talks a lot (surprise, surprise!) about pleasure. Not just sexual pleasure, but pleasure in life, in every day things. It is about enjoyment. You mention that you don't get enjoyment out of "girly things", but what do you get enjoyment out of? How can you involve the different senses in that? You can draw a…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/16 10:12 AM
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I'd completely overlook the dark haired thing for Chris Pine in plaid and glasses, though...
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/16 10:04 AM
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Apart from my first big crush at high school, all "my type" guys have been brown or dark-haired. Of course the eyes and their expression matters the most. For purely physical matters, I want a guy to be minimum similar size but preferably bigger than me. Meaning the overall impression of mass, rather than the exact weight or height. Somehow I don't feel as safe and protected with a smaller guy. As I'm quite tall, that rules out more than necessary, so I'm adjusting by losing some weight -> more …
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/16 10:01 AM
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Nah, it's okay, I've asked myself the same thing. I got kicks out of our intellectual discussions, sharing the same humor, his personality, and his way of being. At the time we met, I loved all of that so much that I on some level decided to accept that sex was okay, but not that thrilling. Didn't have much experience before we met, he was #3 and my first real LTR, so I wasn't sure what it was supposed to be like... I was enthusiastic and did my best in staying out of starfish territory, it just…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/16 01:10 PM
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I'm a bottom-heavy hourglass (sort of pear-shaped). Don't know your climate but for staying warm and pretty, I'm wearing a-line skirts that hit the knees, paired with tights. There are some nice thicker wool or wool-like skirts that keep you warm (and you can always wear some silk "knickers" underneath, like shorts, to keep extra warm, plus keep modest if there are any sudden gusts of wind). If it gets really cold, woolen tights or fleece-lined tights will keep your legs warm. You can always add…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/16 09:24 AM
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Okay, I'm going out on a limb here, but this has been my experience... when I meet someone and starts fancying them, I start thinking, "they're so amazing, why would they even like me?". Even if I'm normally self-confident, I get a bit blind. By cutting them off first, you won't have to deal with them rejecting you. Rejection will happen to us all, but you won't know if they'll reject you or want to be with you until you give it a try.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/16 09:09 AM
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Haha well that's one of the things I'm a bit nervous about... he's always surrounded by people so I never know when or if I can get him to myself for a few minutes. Will have to try to get rid of my friends and his friends, too, because think it might feel awkward to hand it over when there are lots of other people around... I don't want him or the others to feel like I'm asking him to marry me heh :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/16 09:05 AM
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Yeah, age is a factor too... I do want kids. But to be honest I waited too long to call it quits, so I had sort of gotten used to the idea as I was debating with myself. As soon as I really knew, I broke up, but it took such a long time to "admit defeat" - he was and is a great guy.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/16 09:03 AM
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Have done some baking for them in the past, but this time I intended to just do it for him because he's the one arranging all of this. As a way of saying thank you :) but I'll consider what you suggested, thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/16 09:01 AM
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Oh that's smart, I haven't actually thought of what to bake yet... Something I can put in a box with a ribbon, so it looks nice.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/16 09:01 AM
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I have baked for the centre before, for their events. But this time I thought I'd do something just for him, as a way of saying thanks. Good idea on making it child friendly!
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/16 09:00 AM
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That was what I was thinking :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/16 08:59 AM
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Thank you so much for your advice. I carry the weight pretty well, don't look fat but a bit chubby thighs. My plan is to be down another 5 pounds or so by the time I hand it over (yeah, I started thinking about this way early hah). Your comment got me thinking, of course he won't know that my weight is due to emotional eating (working on that, much better...) and not to being some cookie monster! It is so obvious but how would he know. I'll definitely keep what you said in mind.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/16 08:59 AM
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Oh wow! I appreciate the wisdom of your married male friend, insider's info... Well I do wear mostly skirts nowadays anyway - phasing out my one pair of pants :) So definitely doing that. I feel like I'm really exposing myself just by handing over a gift so I think I'd stick to non-hearts to start with.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/16 08:55 AM
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No, I know that I'm not ready, but I need to start getting used to the thought of dating. Just starting to look at men and thinking, "hm, he's interesting" has been a stretch because I did my best to shut all of that off when I was my ex. Also, I stayed probably at least a year longer than I should have, because I hoped that me working on being more attractive (working out, cooking, no nagging, generous bjs, etc) would magically solve all our issues. I would get my feelings for him back, and bec…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/16 08:52 AM
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Lurker here. Thanks to the RPWomen community, I really feel like I gave my past relationship (6 years) everything I could. In the end, we wanted completely different lives and I made the decision to say goodbye. Now I'm in monk mode (trying to stay there!) while getting fit and improving my social life. Looking forward to being more active in the community!
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/16 09:52 AM
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