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INFJ and a 4w5. It’s been a couple years since I’ve done the Enneagram test, I’d be curious to do it again - I know they say that your type doesn’t typically change but I’m not so sure about that. At the very least I’d be curious to see if maybe I’ve shifted to a 3 wing instead of a 5.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 03:56 PM
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Great post. This made me think of the other night, when I started to load the dishwasher and do some dishes after dinner, and mentioned to my husband (who is not always the most conscious of cleanliness / tidiness), that my back hurt. I am about 5 months pregnant so I’m really starting to feel it if I stand there and lean over a sink handling heavy dishes for too long. So I simply mentioned that to him, stating it as a problem, like you said. And he said “stop doing the dishes! Go lie down, give…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 01:14 AM
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Exactly. Was it a random hookup out of “desperation” or was it because she genuinely cared about it and saw past his looks? Huge difference.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/18 05:04 PM
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Can't you be both? Make a genuine offer to pay, because after all this is the first date and you barely know this person and you're not a princess who "expects" things, but then when/if he does offer, graciously accept and be appreciative?
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/16 12:54 AM
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Agreed. Plus, being active is essential to your overall health. I don't really need to lose weight, but I started jogging a few times a week because I don't want to have irreversible health problems when I'm 40. You can eat well in good sized proportions but you should also get your heart pumping every once in a while.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/15 05:58 PM
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Bang on!
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/14 06:39 PM
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I love this! Her way of speaking is hilarious. I really wanna do this. Especially that weird wispy hair at the back of my neck near my hairline, that you can see every time my hair's in a ponytail. NO MORE!
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/14 11:15 PM
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Lol! A whole different bag of chips, that is adorable. Might have to steal that one.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/14 03:47 AM
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I'm a little late to the thread but I'll give you my two cents: when I really like a guy, especially at the beginning, I inevitably find out about past girls and it makes me crazy. It's that unfortunate truth of dread game. And in the age of social media it's even worse because it's so easy to find out what these girls look like and other details that make a girl insecure. As much as it makes a woman crazy, it makes her want the guy more. (This should not be surprising to anyone whose been readi…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/14 11:59 PM
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Seriously, this is the kind of awesome RP post that I really think could/should be applicable to most people, regardless of your view on gender roles
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/14 09:14 PM
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I think you hit the nail on the head.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/14 08:09 PM
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I'm at a loss for advice but I wanted to say that my boyfriend and I have the exact same issue, and it's really taking a toll on my confidence and feelings of security. It's funny too because in some ways, he is so masculine, it's not like he's a feminine wussy guy with low levels of testosterone. I just think he has problems with intimacy in general because it's not just sex, it's all physical affection. He can be flirty and playful with me, and he definitely shows affection in his own ways, bu…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/14 11:38 PM
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And let's face it, everyone's senses of humour is different. Some men may appreciate a singing gorilla and think it's hilarious, some may not "get it", some might think it's cute just cause it represents their girl's sense of humour. The point is that she knew her man well enough to know he'd appreciate it, and wasn't afraid to go against the grain to do something FOR him.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/14 02:59 AM
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Okay, I understand that you meant that while we interact on an online forum, we do not interact in real life. That's fair. But to me, in this conversation for example, I am taking the things you're saying seriously because you're a real person with a valid opinion. I am honestly reflecting on my own opinions in order to respond to you, because I have a soul and heart and am a human being, as are you. Emotions or feelings are not inherently bad. Just because they are typically considered feminine…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/14 03:47 AM
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I agree that people should absolutely be able to keep their emotions in check. However, having emotions and not being able to keep them in check are two different things. And am I misreading your comment that people who post on rpw aren't involved in real life?
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/14 05:25 PM
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They're not "internet feelings", they're feelings... there are no robots sitting behind computers.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/14 03:47 AM
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That was entertaining. Your defenses of rpw were completely rational. Edit: oh and in case anyone wants more: /r/redpilltrollx
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/14 01:14 AM
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Maybe he wasn't talking about her getting a job?
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/14 03:30 AM
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This is refreshing.
/r/TheRedPill12/04/14 04:50 AM
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Okay? But at a certain point, there's such a thing as wasting your time with the question, especially since, like other posters have said, we are not given enough information to know the dynamics of their relationship. Would it change your opinion of their marriage if they do not fit into traditional gender roles, but have still found a way to be happy? Other forms of relationships DO work for some people - but like many ladies here have pointed out in the past, it is not the purpose of this sub…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/14 07:30 PM
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Does it really matter, as long as it works for both of them?
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/14 06:42 PM
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I don't think your self-respect is the highest it could be. You sound apologetic about being an "8" rather than a "10" - but it is possible to be confident despite this. Sooner or later those ratings won't matter - even the 10s won't be 10s when they're 40 years old. You have to have a sense of inner confidence to fall back on.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/14 10:44 PM
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This is good advice. Whenever I read your post, my first thought was, how happy is your marriage in general? I know that personally, my SO is a huge flirt, and has made it clear to me that he always will be that way but that his flirtation is innocent. And it is..he is a really social person, and at the end of the day he makes me feel like I am the only girl for him. And I never feel the need to question that, thank god. Of course it's theoretically always possible for anyone in a relationship t…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/14 10:24 PM
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I think it's both! Hopefully, when two people are in a relationship, their happiness is connected.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/14 09:59 PM
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You should read The Surrendered Wife if you haven't, specifically Chapter 19, "Take a Feminine Approach to Sex".
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/14 05:27 AM
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My boyfriend has affectionately started to refer to me as his wife, so I'm taking that as a good sign. We've never been as in love as now and my heart is soaring! I feel like we each need to take a step up in the job/finances department though before anything is made official.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/14 07:53 AM
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This is beautiful, I am incredibly inspired now
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/14 05:36 AM
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Yay, analysis time! :) My Dad is, in some ways, what you might call "beta" - although overall, he is a wonderful, loving man and a great father. My mom is no raging feminist or anything, but she is a modern woman, always worked and busted her ass, was very hands on with us kids. They love us a lot, and we have turned out a really tight-knit family with a ridiculous sense of humour. Overall my parents have always seemed to treat each other pretty well, and I think they are happy. If I had to char…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/14 04:26 AM
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I agree with the little each day routine - just do whatever's bothering you the most. Maybe it's the floors, or the dishes, or the bathroom. It's amazing how much better the whole apartment will look and feel after doing just one thing. It's easy to find little ways to be as efficient as possible. For example If I get up in the morning and make a pot of coffee, instead of going and sitting back down at my laptop while I wait for it to brew, I quickly do any leftover dishes, put clean dishes away…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/14 05:46 PM
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Obviously we're not going to agree. I hope you find happiness and fulfillment in your life.
/r/TheRedPill02/02/14 03:31 AM
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Yeah and some men, no matter how "alpha" they are, actually love their woman, rather than view her as something that can just give him things. Ditching your dying partner for someone that can provide more, that sounds a little hypergamous does it not? Doesn't red pill theory state that once men love, they love unconditionally? I don't know. The position you're defending sounds like something that would only occur in a redditors mind, to be honest. You're entitled to feel the way you want though.…
/r/TheRedPill02/02/14 03:18 AM
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That's assuming that all he wants her for is sex. Not all men are after sex alone, even red pillers.
/r/TheRedPill02/02/14 02:44 AM
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You do know that in some relationships, the woman might be more mathematically stronger than the man is, right? That although there are certain recurring biological patterns, there are exceptions and shades of grey, and sometimes two people might come together where the woman is better at handling finances? I'm curious as to why couples like this don't seem to matter to you. Why take it right to the extreme and compare them to a crossdressing man and a pampering woman? Why the emphasis on tradit…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/14 08:59 PM
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I'm so glad others feel the same way about V-day. I don't think it's ever excited me. In terms of gifts, I'd MUCH rather give or receive something out of the blue on a random day of the year, than give or receive something because it's what's supposed to happen. To all the ladies who can see right through Valentines day, this is proof that being feminine does not equal being weak or stupid. Seeing through the facade and being secure enough in yourself not to feel like your relationship is inadeq…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/14 05:01 AM
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I love each and every one of these!
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/14 04:48 AM
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That's a great idea, maybe I'll do that too. Putting things in written words always makes them so much clearer and I find for some reason the chances of noticing your own hypocrisies or mistakes is higher.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/14 08:46 AM
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Will do! This is what I know so far... My mom has always advised me to give myself a 24-48 hour cooling off period before addressing major issues, and "for gods sake don't start bawling" (which is the most impossible thing for me). However I think this advice is solid. If you get upset, go be by yourself for a little while and get yourself into a better mood. Here's where the gratitude comes in - remind yourself of all the great things in your relationship, get your confidence in your man back u…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/14 08:43 AM
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You should, it's a fun way to keep track of all the great aspects in your relationship. You could potentially be 70 years old reading your journal, remembering all these things from when you were young and just starting your life together, that you would have otherwise forgotten.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/14 08:34 AM
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Lol! Funny men are just the best.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/14 08:31 AM
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All that matters anyway is that you're aware of his awesomeness! :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/14 08:31 AM
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Why thank you :) I am ever so slightly concerned about internet anonymity which may be be the REAL reason I was a bit hesitant to share what I'm thankful for, but here are a couple I don't mind sharing :) This doesn't happen too often, but occasionally he will leave me cute little notes around our apartment or on our chalk board. If he goes out with friends and I can't/don't go for whatever reason, he will always keep me posted as to where he is. Always responds if I text him. I've never had to …
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/14 08:29 AM
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It's really interesting you say that - my SO will kind of jokingly refer to me as crazy, and in the past I've said, "but I've never been like this in a relationship before, you bring it out in me!" Which isn't entirely fair to him. Because I was still a ball of emotions in past relationships, I just did it behind closed doors and wouldn't dare admit my neuroses to whoever i was dating, or to anyone really. I think the reason that my current SO has "brought it out of me" isn't because he's "less …
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/14 08:13 AM
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You're welcome, glad to hear it!
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/14 08:02 AM
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Thank you - I definitely will. This sub has been so helpful in getting me to the point I'm at now. It's comforting to know that i've stumbled onto something that is going to provide long-term benefits in life. Maybe one day our insecurities and reactive nature won't be issues anymore, and we won't have to fight so hard against them.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/14 08:00 AM
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This was awesome. I love the idea of working on your marriage before you get married, or before you even meet your spouse. It's okay to be goal-oriented about relationships. There are a lot of people who roll their eyes at the idea of treating a committed relationship like a dream job, and being forth-right about your desires. "Why can't you just be happy in the moment?" etc. Or who think that you shouldn't have to "try" for these things, that fate will bring them to you. But it's not realistic.…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/14 07:56 AM
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