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What you fail to understand is that sexual fantasies and kinks need safety and trust in order to arouse the individual. Fantasies are safety within one’s own mind, where you’re in control of the narrative. That rarely translates over to real life. Without the care and respect for each other, it’s just pain and abuse, there’s nothing pleasurable about that, only traumatic. This is likely why smut is so popular amongst women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 03:31 PM
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I think men should have their own version. If someone has a pattern of toxic behavior in relationships, they should get called out.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 04:13 PM
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As a woman with this exact problem, you’re right about finding a partner you trust being a factor, but that isn’t the only factor. It’s years of social conditioning, shaming women for desiring sex. It’s the stress and anxiety of everyday life that’s hard to turn off. In my case it’s all of those things, but I think having ADHD is a huge factor for me. My brain literally acts different when there is another person present. I drive more carefully when I have someone in the car. I’m just wired that…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 01:03 PM
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Imagine if pedophiles said that about children. It’s literally the same thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 08:44 PM
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They’re still people, clothed, adorned or not. Get out of your primitive mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 05:55 PM
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Because throughout all of human history, humans have fought for control. It’s a constant battle. Men still have the advantage of having greater physical strength naturally, but that’s about it. Women are capable of doing anything else on their own, including survival. In today’s world, it a lot easier for women to thrive on their own. Getting married and having kids has become optional instead of something you were forced or expected to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 02:58 AM
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Okay but when did that arise, in modern times, yes?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 04:35 PM
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Who is calling that a money grab? And even so, why does it matter? Everything is a money grab. If there’s a demand for it, it will survive. De-centering men is a relatively new concept. De-centering women, not so much….
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 04:11 PM
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Because they’re master manipulators and just find new victims.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 04:35 PM
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I don’t think women value marriage and kids like you think we do. Scaring us into submission isn’t going to work. I believe the reason women were even allowed into the workforce is because of capitalism itself. Women were working their asses off at home, either getting abused or cheated on, and they couldn’t do anything about it. Working isn’t ideal but it buys freedom, and that’s a much better deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 04:28 PM
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I think it just depends on the situation. If a woman is clearly assuming the man is paying and orders expensive and excessive items, I’d be miffed if I was the guy. If the date is less about the extravagance and more about connecting with one another, I’d be happy to pay as the guy. As a woman, I also wouldn’t be offended at all if we went dutch on the first few dates. It makes sense when you’re just getting to know someone to not invest heavily in extravagant experiences. I’d be weirded out if …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 11:07 PM
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What other ways are there to mistakenly believe someone is consenting to having sex with you? Just because they didn’t intend harm doesn’t mean the other person doesn’t feel harmed.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 09:19 PM
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Are we talking about someone under the influence of drugs or alcohol? Those substances alter your ability to be able to properly consent to anything. The decent thing to do would be to wait until the person is sober and find out if the desire is still there.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 08:36 PM
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Feeling entitled to use another person’s body without their consent is not intent to harm? What the fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 06:15 AM
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It’s the same with men and big boobs, but ultimately when you love someone, the size doesn’t matter so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 05:14 PM
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I’m not sure what you mean by that. Care to elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:41 AM
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Barring medical reasons, if your partner isn’t into you sexually, there’s a huge problem. You should at least talk about it and come to the agreement of having an open relationship. I do believe people can stay married or want to stay married for the stability of their kids or other financial reasons. It shouldn’t have to be cheating. Open relationships/marriages are a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 02:25 AM
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Yup, ultimately we’re all responsible for our own survival, and life owes us nothing. Might be harsh but that’s just the way the world is. Some people are luckier than others. Most of us go through phases of tough times and good times. Nothing is guaranteed to last.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 09:10 PM
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Having money is a need too then. You can’t just take that from other people (unless they willingly donate it). You have to earn it yourself and no one owes it to you. You won’t die directly from not having money, but you would die from not having access to life sustaining resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:29 PM
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No one is justifying anything. Stop spreading misinformation.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 12:30 PM
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Read it again.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 05:09 AM
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There’s no evidence women retain the DNA of the men they’ve had intercourse with. https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/women-retain-dna/ Studies are cited within the article.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 04:11 AM
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Self love just means recognizing that you have value. How can you expect other people to value you when you don’t value yourself? I think that’s what OP meant by that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 05:24 PM
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Singleness is good for anybody that wants it. It should be everyone’s default state. Too many people look for a partner to solve all their problems or are too afraid of being alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 07:06 PM
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The only way I’d stay married for the kids is if we agree to live like roommates and coparents. Once the relationship has dissolved there’s no going back. I’m not pretending to love someone when I don’t feel that way anymore. I’d be doing my own thing and would expect him to do the same. I actually offered this to my ex husband before we divorced but he didn’t want to take that deal. No idea why.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 07:02 PM
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Everyone should do what they want and not what other people want them to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 05:37 PM
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Masturbation is a solo activity and porn or whatever is mental/visual stimulation to help you get there. I’d only be offended if he went off to do any kind of sexual activity in real time with another person.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 11:02 AM
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Why not try that and see if it works? I always hear guys say this. Go be an asshole if it helps you get laid or in a relationship. You’re likely going to attract women with trauma or other mental issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 09:54 AM
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You need to reframe how you view rejection. You’re simply not what they are looking for, and that’s okay. You don’t need everyone to like you. You’re also looking for one person to court and have a relationship with and you definitely don’t want to do that with someone you have to convince to be with you. How do you handle other types of rejection? Rejection from jobs? Do you dwell on what you did wrong? Do you think you’re not skilled enough in general or just not for that particular job. Maybe…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 09:19 AM
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It’s like blaming the drug dealer and not the addict.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 06:01 PM
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It’s dumb but when it happened to me I realized later that my anger was displaced. I wanted to blame someone else and not the person that I loved. (I was making a lot of excuses for this guy for many years, smh). In my head, I thought, “if she hadn’t seduced him, he wouldn’t have cheated.” Of course I realized quickly after how irrational that is. It’s 100% my partner’s fault for cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 01:58 PM
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Alone for sure. I don’t trust anyone. If I die, I die.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 02:35 AM
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They both suck. I would never want to be the sole provider and I wouldn’t want to rely on someone else for my livelihood and care for children full time. Kids are mentally and physically so taxing, especially before the age of 4. I’m never doing that again.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 03:00 AM
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Idk about a wall but I’m not attracted to bald men. I’m 37 and I’m mostly attracted to men 25-44 ish but it’s rare for me to find anyone my age or older attractive. Currently very attracted to this 51 year old man. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m bisexual so honestly the same age bracket applies and it’s rare for me to be attracted to women 40+.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 05:03 PM
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I admit I picked the wrong guy, but y’all don’t come with labels. I did learn from that experience and I’m picking better. Everyone learns with experience. If you’re making the same mistakes over and over then there’s something deeper going on that needs to be fixed.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 03:47 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 03:43 PM
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I don’t get why anyone would be triggered by it. It’s a good thing. Women need to be choosy and careful about who they pick.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 03:41 PM
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I hate this narrative. I have sensory issues and I don’t like hair in that area or on my legs at all. It’s not just a male preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 03:18 PM
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No, that’s really ignorant. People in America are from different cultural backgrounds and not all of us grow up this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 05:06 PM
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I’m not sure if settling is the right term, but I can’t think of the right term. Marrying for love is a relatively new concept anyway. Most people married out of duty/survival. Being alone is definitely better than being in a toxic relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 09:23 PM
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I can’t stress this enough…human sexuality is far more complex than people think. I have kinks that I would be traumatized by in real life….probably rooted from trauma. This is fairly common. Not everyone wants to act out their fantasies or kinks, and even if they did it would be with someone they built trust with. Kinks like that require a high level of trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 02:14 AM
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The only problem with being polite is that very often I don’t get taken seriously. I have no idea why but so many guys take my very clear “no thanks, I’m not interested” as “oh I must have not done enough to impress her, let me try again.” I don’t even think I owe anyone a reason as to why. No should suffice. I’m polite during all of my initial interactions with everyone I meet (both men and women) unless they start to give me a reason not to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 01:43 AM
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“Sorry, I’m not interested” is non-aggressive and courteous. The guy above said how she should say she has a boyfriend to save his ego…that’s what I don’t agree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 01:21 AM
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Why are women responsible for saving a man’s ego? We could tell men to fuck off but that hurts their egos too. I wouldn’t take the chance of joking with a stranger…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 01:11 AM
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I was married, but okay, lol. I’m fully accepting my consequences and cautioning other women to be wary of those consequences, nothing more. I’m sure women are already picking up on that anyway. I have no regrets, I wanted a child, but it took me one time to realize how selfless you truly have to be to raise a child well. I want to live the rest of my life for myself. It’s possible I would have had another child if I had picked a better partner, but I didn’t so this is my path.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 03:08 AM
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Sure, it’s subjective, and it’s my opinion that people who don’t want to reproduce, shouldn’t. People who do will regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 03:00 AM
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I pay my taxes so aren’t I paying for that? I use the roads too… I’m talking about people who actually do burden society be either not working, or going into massive debt. People can barely afford to live and I don’t think adding to the population is going to help that. Yes, you’re correct, I’m no longer with him. Not sure what that has to do with anything. A lot of women share the same sentiments I do, and many of them never even had a desire to have kids. My son was planned, but I didn’t know …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 02:54 AM
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Tell me, what more do I owe society? I have a decent paying job, I can afford to take care of myself and my child. I’ve never been in debt or used government assistance. Am I missing something?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 02:38 AM
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I’d rather the population collapse than people reproducing with the wrong partners and further exacerbating generational trauma. Everything has a demise, I’m not sure humans will last forever anyway. Our ancestors did what they did without stressing about what the future is going to look like. You can’t ensure any outcome. I think life is following its natural course and either we will find a way to adjust or shit will hit the fan. I brought one kid into this and I hope to equip him the best I c…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 02:25 AM
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People’s preferences can change over time. I used to exclusively be into much younger men or men my age and now I’m dating someone 14 years older than me. I actually think he’s just an exception, but he’s definitely more attractive to me than anyone I’ve ever been with. I don’t prefer older men, and I don’t know that I would if I were to break up with my current partner. Nothing is absolute or even predictable in my opinion. Just go with the flow.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 03:55 PM
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Yet average looking people are still reproducing. There will be less people that reproduce in general because our society is changing and people are less hell bent on getting married and having kids. I don’t think this is a bad thing, and likely won’t last forever. I do believe in the future we will invent artificial wombs and whoever wants to reproduce will be able to as long as they can afford it. I’ve been married and I’ve had a child and you couldn’t pay me to do either one again. I’m curren…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 03:49 PM
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6,4,9,7,2,1,3,5,8 36F
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 02:05 AM
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If you have to show a woman you have options and make it a point to do so at every opportunity, it screams insecurity. If you know it and don’t flaunt it, it’s confidence. Women like confidence. Same thing with money. It’s usually the ones who have the least who try to flaunt it the most.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 12:59 AM
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The short average looking ones cheat too. Better to be alone than to settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 02:22 PM
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Yes, I can relate to this completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 10:48 PM
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This is the perfect list.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 05:14 AM
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If sex drive is linked to fertility, then explain homosexuality to me. I think that humans have sex for pleasure (probably first and foremost) and reproduction is just a consequence of that. Human sexuality is far more complex than just reproduction. That’s why there are so many kinks and fetishes which have nothing to do with reproduction at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 05:07 AM
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I’d say it’s the opposite. How many of us get anything right the first time we do it? It’s pretty rare. Finding love later means you’re more likely to find love for the right reasons. You’re more likely to be financially stable yourself and so money and looks (slowly fade) don’t seem to be strong determining factors. You also care less what other people think as you get older. Sex has only gotten better for me as I’ve aged, and I didn’t even know I could orgasm until I was much older anyway. Fin…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 05:09 AM
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No one gives a shit in real life. Plenty of step parents out there in all walks of life. I will admit that certain cultures do frown upon that and it isn’t common at all (Indian people for example). I personally don’t give a shit what people think because I spent my younger years conforming to my parents/cultural expectations and I was miserable. So much happier now that I’m doing my own thing and there’s no going back. Someone will always have something to say about your life, might as well do …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 02:17 PM
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It’s all about perspective. It sounds like you’re projecting a bit because you even said so yourself that your mom and stepdad are happy. You may not see him as someone who was dateable but he was busy caring for his mother. Being nice and kind is not a turn off, but its not a turn on either. Everyone wants to be treated well. It sounds like YOU wouldn’t date someone like him, and YOU think your mom settled for him. Also 36 isn’t too old to have kids and they probably decided together they didn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 02:57 PM
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No date and keeping your money is better than dating and losing money each time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 02:04 PM
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Also, just curious…why don’t you do coffee dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 01:29 PM
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I stopped online dating, but when I did I’ve always asked to split the bill, regardless of if I was dating a man or a woman. Most of my dates have been coffee or lunch dates but I’ve paid for myself on most of them. It makes me really uncomfortable if someone I don’t know that well is footing the whole bill or spending a lot of money on me regardless of their financial situation (which I wouldn’t even know on a first date).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 01:28 PM
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Yeah if I was courting someone in person I think it’s a different thing. I’d would definitely go for a personalized fun activity and I wouldn’t mind spending money for the first date, but obviously nothing super extravagant on the first date. Meeting people off apps is different because it completely removes the natural courting process. You can’t gauge the chemistry off a few texts back and forth and most people don’t want to chat incessantly without meeting in person. That person could easily …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 01:24 PM
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You remind me of my younger self, it comes out eventually and then you stabilize a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 06:41 AM
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Yup, all first dates (which are really date zero if you’re meeting through an app) should be public and inexpensive. You’re both feeling each other out and either party is free to decline any subsequent dates if the chemistry isn’t there.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 06:38 AM
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That’s a good thing, you don’t want those kind of women anyway. If I was a guy and woman said no to a coffee date I’d move on. She’s obviously not interested in getting to know me first or testing out our in person chemistry before expecting me to court her. Hell, as a bi-curious woman, I would move on if a woman said no to a coffee date. This could be the reason I haven’t been successful with courting women, but so be it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 06:34 AM
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Isn’t there an easy way to avoid this? A coffee date perhaps? It’s insane to expect someone to go all out on a first date, especially if you met through a dating app.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 06:19 AM
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This article doesn’t specify women. Men get the itch too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 05:41 AM
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I became a lot happier when I realized nothing is forever and everything is temporary. That is the beauty of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 05:39 AM
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Still, there’s nothing wrong with being picky. Man y’all are sensitive AF lol I’m getting downvoted in the daily chat. 😂 I mean yeah I’m Southeast Asian and I was pressured my whole life to get an arranged marriage and that no one will want me after I’m 26, but here I am at 36, divorced, but living my best life. I have options, I just haven’t met anyone that I want to incorporate in my life. I’m sure they are lovely and I can’t figure out why you would even care about why they’re single. I don’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 05:19 AM
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Someone wore this as a Halloween costume, I’m sure you can find it online.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 05:06 AM
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Are these women even looking? A lot of women are perfectly happy being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 05:04 AM
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Okay, but can people stop acting like it’s so rare for women to be lustful and enjoy sex for pleasure. That’s what really bothers me. It not being common (or open) enough doesn’t make it insignificant…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 11:07 PM
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I never said it’s the same. It never will be. Sexuality differs throughout genders and orientations. There are more bisexual women than men. Men have less inhibitions in general when it comes to sex, and are generally more willing to take risks. Risk to reward ratio is skewed in their favor. My point was that women definitely lust after men and most of us probably wouldn’t pay for it, but we certainly are lustful creatures. Men in uniform. 🥵 A lot of women like smut, I know I do, but most of the…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 09:49 PM
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I’m 36 and I’ve never had more people stare at or hit on me. Take care of yourself and you can be attractive well into old age.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 05:57 PM
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Lol why is everyone hating on her? She’s allowed to have whatever standards she wants. When I was single there were plenty of nice men, I just didn’t like them in that way for whatever reason and it wouldn’t be fair to them if I had settled. I wasn’t single because of lack of eligible men, just because they didn’t make me feel the spark that I was looking for. When I did find my current boyfriend it happened so out of the blue. I met him at work and we slowly got to know each other and fell for …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 05:21 PM
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You know what I’ll answer your question since you keep asking this. We don’t have sex with EVERY hot guy for the same reason we don’t eat junk food everyday or binge on anything really. The novelty does wear off. It’s all about balance. Safety is huge factor as well, some people are crazy. Also for me personally, I went through phases of when I would enjoy it and sometimes I really just want to be left alone because I’m touched out, overstimulated, or socially exhausted. I do this with my social…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 02:09 PM
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I think it can…this might become more popular in the near future.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 01:17 AM
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Right? I love spoiling my man. Heck I spoil everyone I care about deeply. Makes me genuinely happy to do nice things for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 01:16 AM
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I’m respectful towards people as long as they’re respectful towards me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 01:26 PM
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My parents had an arranged marriage, I definitely wouldn’t exist. That’s why I appreciate my life, the odds of me even existing are astronomically high.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 06:14 PM
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Dealbreaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:33 PM
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Definitely not in my case. I’ve always been attracted to white men. My friends though mostly date within their culture/religion which is probably a priority for them. I’m not a religious person so that was never a barrier for me. I think where and how you grew up is a factor. There are a lot of mixed couples in the US, but obviously not in other countries. People do tend to stick to what’s familiar.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 10:07 AM
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Exactly lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 08:42 PM
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They did hysterectomies to cure women of hysteria for some time..:I don’t think they really knew what they were doing….
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 03:52 AM
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I’m not disagreeing with you, I think it’s just that people back then weren’t aware that clitoral stimulation leads to orgasms (paroxysms) and therefore they didn’t see it as sexual stimulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 03:51 AM
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The thing is they didn’t consider clitoral stimulation to be sexual, only penetration. I’m not gonna read all that right now, but I’ll take a look at it at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 02:53 AM
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Back then men took over the jobs of gynecologists and midwives so it’s not that outrageous and especially if women were acting “crazy” I can see why a husband would want to try to get her treated. A woman’s orgasm is still a mystery to so many people, and not even recognized as important. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/the-controversy-of-female-hysteria https://www.mcgill.ca/oss/article/history-quackery/history-hysteria
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 12:41 AM
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Okay, but what about the teeny bopper celebrities that the younger women are into (Twilight, boy bands, etc). It’s the same thing. Women lust over/fantasize about attractive men…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 08:04 PM
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I’m pretty sure my ex is a narcissist and he definitely has mommy issues because he always talked about how he was traumatized by it because his bio parents were teen parents and he was adopted at 8 months old. I always felt bad for him so I’d never push intimacy issues and had fights with him a few times before I just gave up. He’s definitely very controlling and I didn’t see it as abuse because my own dad was abusive and I always thought to myself…well at least he doesn’t beat me or talk down …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 05:32 PM
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Omg, yes. My ex husband withheld sex and I stayed loyal but I was so miserable and then he ended up cheating on me. In fact the whole reason I even learned to orgasm was because I was so deprived of sex and I just watched porn and was finally able to figure it out. I actually offered to stay married to him even after the cheating as long as we both are allowed to have sex with other people every now and then. He didn’t like that idea at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 04:45 PM
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Exactly. Why are these Magic Mike shows and men in uniform so popular with so many women. If you look at the comment section of any of those reels, you will see that women really are no different than men. Notice how none of those guys look like your average Joe.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 01:31 PM
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I thought something was wrong with me too…and my ex would even say “you’re the horniest girl I’ve ever met.” I just have a normal sex drive…women throughout history were shamed for expressing it. In fact, they were labeled as hysterical and had to get a male doctor to “fix” them every now and then. I actually believed I couldn’t orgasm for a long time because I knew it was harder for women and some women just never do. It seemed to me like a woman’s orgasm didn’t have any importance so I didn’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 01:29 PM
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Profound lol 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 03:24 AM
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Men struggle with loneliness in the sense that they don’t have as many options (for sex or relationships) and women struggle because they get too much attention from all the wrong guys (looking for only access to sex/her body) and it’s difficult to find a truly compatible match.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 11:51 PM
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People who want others to suffer just because they did are the worst kind of people. I’d think you would have some sort of empathy for them. Were they horrible to you? Why are you gloating about this?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 09:54 AM
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Rejection is a part of life though, not just with women. If you’re trying your chance with anyone and everyone you’re going to have to accept you will fail many more times than you will succeed. You can take a break if it’s really taking a toll on your mental health and than try again. To not try at all is guaranteed failure. You get to decide how much value it has for you. That’s just how I look at things. I suck at a lot of things but I know if I keep trying and learning from my mistakes/failu…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 03:01 AM
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You can approach any woman as long as you can accept rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 08:46 PM
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No, but I also don’t want to do jobs like nursing or childcare/teaching or even cooking. I like my cushy office job. Grateful for the people that do those jobs. 🫡
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 02:53 AM
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Explain to me how menopause kills women exactly…. We’re not cicadas, our only purpose isn’t just to breed.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 02:37 PM
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I’m on cloud fucking 9 right now 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 03:46 AM
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Wine and hookah
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 03:43 AM
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My head is spinning 😵‍💫
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 03:20 AM
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Hookah and booze is the most relaxing feeling ever 😌
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 03:18 AM
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This makes a lot of sense. I finally have my own space and I’m genuinely happy. I actually have trouble letting people in my space…it feels invasive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 09:38 AM
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Millionaire as long as it’s an open relationship otherwise I’d rather be alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:19 AM
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People need to get out of the “forever” mentality. Literally nothing lasts forever, and it’s rare and takes a lot of work to keep things going. Too many factors, and people change over time and want different things. It’s not a bad thing. Enjoy things while they last and while they’re good and be ready to part ways when it no longer works or isn’t healthy anymore. Couples should try to split amicably.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 04:00 PM
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Ain’t nobody wanna see that…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 06:10 PM
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Why is that a problem? Leave them alone and let them live.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 11:56 AM
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I despise the notion of a wall because that’s literally what was drilled into me. I come from a culture/parents that wanted me to get an arranged marriage and from 23-26 they put an incredible amount of pressure on me to find a suitor without being allowed to date. But here I am at 36 and honestly living my best life yet. I think a lot of people that know me would agree that I had a glow up post divorce and I’ve never looked better. I was definitely depressed in my younger years and didn’t have …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 04:59 AM
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14
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 11:28 AM
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Okay, that makes sense. 30k/yr where I live would be very difficult to live with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 07:53 PM
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Give me a little background on your education and work history. I’m not judging you, I’m just curious why you’re doing a job that’s only paying you $19/hr. I actually never completed a degree and I got out of retail by luck at the age of 27, but from there I kept hopping jobs until I ended where I am now.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 04:44 PM
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Same here! I’m in my mid thirties and it’s still so weird to me when guys are interested in me. I’m still that dork on the inside.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 02:06 PM
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I’m the only woman in a room full of 100 single guys? Unless some of them are gay or asexual, I feel like most of them would try to get with me. That’s not flattering to me at all, that’s just how it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 04:50 AM
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Nope, rather be single for life. Single life isn’t bad at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 03:20 AM
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He’s not my type regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 01:38 PM
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Neither.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 07:11 PM
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Well honestly you’d just really have to lick/suck the clit and not the vagina. Nothing secretes from the clit and as long as she’s regularly washing it, it shouldn’t be gross. Fingering the vag + clit stimulation with the mouth by sucking gently or licking firmly is what leads to orgasm. I think very few, if any women, get off on a guy putting his tongue in their hole. Although I’ve had a guy do that once and I didn’t hate it. But idk, I’ve never licked a pussy before so I can’t say if it’s unpl…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 06:54 PM
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Could you elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 06:29 PM
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And that’s fine, but women aren’t going to be or stay pure just because that’s what men desire. Women like/want sex too. I really think the middle ground is a healthy place for most people to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 05:11 PM
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There is a middle ground you know…between virgin and fucking 100s of women for novelty. I think most people appreciate sexual selectivity in a partner. Virgin is usually only used as an insult if the guy is a misogynist, at least in the cases I’ve seen. Same with being accused of having a small dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 05:04 PM
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I am a little weird tbh. I’m cross dominant (preference for left side with some things preference for right side with other things), ADHD and have some OCD tendencies as well. I’m probably on the spectrum too, or maybe I just grew up sheltered, I can’t really tell. Like cum on my body doesn’t bother me but can’t stand it in my face, mouth, or hair. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 04:54 PM
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This is true. Hate when dudes try to shove a finger in your mouth too. 🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 04:14 PM
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I guess I’m a weirdo then because it definitely gives me the ick. I’d only do bjs if we were exclusive and only if he reciprocated. Penetrative sex with a condom is fine though…that doesn’t ick me out. I couldn’t do a bj with a condom on though, because latex is just nasty lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 03:41 PM
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You could honestly say the same thing about dick. You really never know where it’s been. Oral sex probably should be saved for after exclusivity has been established.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 03:11 PM
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Oh well, more pussy for the guys that do. It’s funny how many of them expect a blowjob too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 03:05 PM
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Halo effect is definitely a thing, but I think if a guy comes across as sleazy or otherwise makes me feels unsafe (pressure for sex/nudes too soon), that would trump the halo effect. I’ve actually had this happen recently. I was very much into the guy, but he completely turned me off when he was begging for nudes. For looks there’s a threshold, but making me feel safe, comfortable and respected is a non-negotiable.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 03:35 PM
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Because cold approaching gives salespeople vibes. I’m willing to bet guys who directly approach women are just playing a numbers game. How is rejecting a man because he’s not attractive to me a comparable situation? You wouldn’t approach someone you’re not attracted to, right? Looks being important is not the same as looks being the only thing that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 02:26 PM
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Hell no. I’ve had really controlling parents so that would just trigger me. I don’t need anyone to be that protective of me anyway. If I die, I die. If we don’t trust each other then why are we together? People had to trust each other before all this technology existed.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 02:54 AM
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Marriages are like pancakes, it’s okay to throw the first one out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 02:48 PM
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I think the dating process is daunting and sucks for everyone, which is why a lot of people stay in toxic relationships. Also because of sunken cost fallacy. People feel like because they’ve already invested so much time and energy into a relationship that’s it’s better to stay rather than be alone or start over. Once you free yourself from that mindset you will start to recognize red flags early on and be a better judge of what’s acceptable and what’s not. I’m definitely a lot more picky and wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 06:02 PM
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So don’t date women with high n counts. It’s not that hard. Why do you need women to understand this? Don’t date fat women, don’t date single moms, don’t date whatever is not your preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 04:32 PM
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Definitely. My parents are together but I would not want a marriage like theirs. I’d rather be alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 09:01 PM
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Hell no. I couldn’t be with a grown ass adult that doesn’t work and can’t help out with bills. If I wanted a maid or a nanny I could hire one.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:25 AM
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Idk if it’s because I’m neurodivergent or because my whole life I had to fight for my peace/independence, but I love being left tf alone. Even social interactions with friends are exhausting for me right now and I don’t have the energy most days. I normally consider myself an ambivert, but between being a single parent, working full time, and working out, I just have very little free time and I like to spend most of that time by myself. I’m very picky about who I spend my free time with. I don’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 12:56 PM
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I’m at 396 but I have mine set to private. I’m sure that number would go up substantially if I made it public, but I don’t like randos looking at my stuff. My IG is pretty boring anyway. Just handful of selfies, nature pics, and recently, pictures of my son. I’m undateable lol but it’s not because of my IG followers. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 03:24 AM
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I’m pretty sure most modern women dislike traditional roles. They may want men that can earn more than them but they are also earning money themselves. Women aren’t just waiting around to be picked by some guy to knock them up and provide for them before they can start living their lives. If they do choose to stay at home it’s usually only for a few years until the kids start going to school. Are men just not doing any cooking and cleaning and waiting until they find a woman so she can do that f…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:00 PM
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I always thought it was because older women dated older men when they were younger and they had a bad experience. I can see why they would warn other women from making the same mistakes. I never dated older men so I’m definitely not giving anyone advice on something I have no experience with. I’d also be a hypocrite, because I tend to prefer younger men for the same reason…they look better. I’m still not going to turn down a sexy man regardless of his age though, it’s just harder to come by when…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 04:33 PM
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I think men and women have similar libidos but I will admit that hormones definitely have an effect on when and how horny. If there is zero libido there’s something else going on. Also, men are just less inhibited because they have less to risk when it comes to sex. Women have a higher likelihood of getting STIs, pregnancy and even getting assaulted or raped. There are also too many guys out there basically looking for a free prostitute or “live sex doll” where they think they can just do whatev…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:25 PM
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I actually do think men and women have very similar sex drives, but men are just less inhibited because they have less to risk. Women can get assaulted, raped, get STIs, or get pregnant. I don’t think most women really care about slut shaming since it doesn’t really seem to have an effect. I live in the US though and can’t speak for other parts of the world. Just like you mentioned being gay was heavily ostracized and it was risky for gay people to be open about their sexuality. It’s the same wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 05:23 AM
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Husband could die, he could cheat, he could fall out of love and leave. You’re leaving out a lot of other common scenarios. A woman could get some money from insurance or alimony and child support, but it’s likely not going to carry her until old age. How are women supposed to “retire” if they don’t have careers or a retirement plan? The government is not going to provide for me for the rest of my life and my kids lives. I don’t want to live that kind of lifestyle. That’s a huge burden to societ…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:31 AM
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That’s because you’re a man. Don’t you get it? You can remarry. Much harder for a woman to remarry after having kids and not having a stable source of income. She has to trust a whole nother man to support her and her kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:12 AM
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The fact is you just never know if it could happen to you, so having a career would be like insurance. If one person is gone, the other person can still generate income to survive. This is especially important if you have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:07 AM
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You mentioned being able to get fired at any time, which is true for anyone who works, so wouldn’t it be better to have two people earning income? Why does the burden of working a job or maintaining a household have to solely fall on one person. Isn’t it better to have two incomes and share household duties? Losing a spouse is definitely a tragic situation, but you can’t just rely on insurance to carry you through the rest of your years. This is why I firmly believe everyone should be able to ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 03:50 AM
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I fully support it. Go wherever you need to go to find what you’re looking for. This applies to women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 04:04 PM
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I pay taxes too, I don’t get a say in where they go. I’m not happy about it, but it is what it is. I hate deadbeat dads more, they should be taking care of the offspring that they helped create. It takes two to tango and the blame shouldn’t solely fall on the mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 09:52 PM
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I feel like I avoided being a single mom my entire life and it still happened and I can’t imagine how many more women must have gone through the same thing. I wasn’t even allowed to date before the age of 26 and didn’t bother because it was too much trouble going against my family’s wishes for me to have an arranged marriage. It was only when the guy I was betrothed to turned out to be an alcoholic and they had to call off the wedding that they allowed me to date after that. I had zero dating ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 03:45 PM
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Avoid stability? I was married and I waited for him to give me the green light to come off birth control. He said he wanted to wait until we had a house and we’re married and 3 years into our relationship that happened. I never had a relationship prior to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 03:32 PM
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I don’t care if people have empathy for me or not, I wasn’t going to stay with a cheater. Do you have any idea how many men so easily will “commit” to one woman, have kids with her and then drop her for someone else? It’s more common than you think. My ex husband didn’t even marry his mistress, he got married immediately to the next woman he started dating. He sure moves fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 03:22 PM
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I think both fit/toned men and women are aesthetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 03:36 PM
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I’m not white either and I can relate to how you felt when I was younger. I used to think that other women were always prettier also, and there always will be women prettier than me, but that doesn’t take away from my own beauty. I think you’re probably more attractive than you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 02:49 PM
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Why though? Because you compare yourself to others or because of other people’s reactions/lack of reaction to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 02:39 PM
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But if they look around there are average looking people in relationships, marriages and even having kids. Looks matter, but you only have to be attractive to a few people not to most. Is it harder than if you were above average? Sure, but that’s going to be the case for many things in life. Still worth trying IMO, but maybe not everyone would agree. That’s fine too, but how is complaining about other people’s standards going to help? What I don’t get is the guys here complaining about overweigh…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 06:40 PM
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It really is subjective so I don’t know why it matters so much. I think it’s actually rare to be actually ugly/unattractive and most people are just average.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 05:17 PM
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Actually everyone overrates themselves. There’s an interesting study about this. https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/you-are-less-beautiful-than-you-think/
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 01:50 PM
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Okay, but that’s actually not women’s fault. Men create the demand for women’s nudes. Also gay men would definitely appreciate nudes from men. They’re not completely worthless.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 03:42 AM
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Generally speaking, women also don’t want their man sharing himself or his money and paying other women to do sexual acts/nudes/etc. If they have an attractive partner, it’s very much in demand. The only right answer is that it’s up to the couple what each of them will accept in a relationship. Personally, I don’t think one partner physically having sex with other people is equal to another partner sharing nudes/videos of themselves. Those are two very different things regardless of their sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 03:33 AM
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I don’t see what that has to do with your question. Feel free to elaborate.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 03:24 AM
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What does that even mean? Yes, generally they both desire sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 03:19 AM
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By that logic, a woman in a relationship with a man who subscribes to others OnlyFans or pays for porn/cam girls should be allowed to sleep with other men. Right?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 03:17 AM
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Also if women are so okay with being part of a harem or sharing a man, why is this a thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 05:08 PM
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I did the 50/50 scenario in my marriage and I honestly wouldn’t do it again. I think it should be split with a fair percentage based on income. 60/40 in your scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 06:54 PM
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Sounds like a great life to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:54 PM
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Everyone should be leveling up. I don’t care where you are starting, what you’re doing, just keep trying to improve in all areas of your life. Fitness, food choices, health, financial decisions, career wise, hobbies, skills, etc. There’s always something you can learn/do better. You shouldn’t be doing any of these things to get/attract a partner, this is just something everyone should be doing for themselves. Be the best version of yourself that you can be. I give this advice to everyone not jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 03:30 PM
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Rapist? She didn’t know what his intentions were and she didn’t care to find out. She simply wants to be left alone, which isn’t that outrageous. Did she profile him? Sure, but let’s not act like women are the only ones who do this. She didn’t harm him in any way (pepper spray, taser, etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 02:34 PM
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How is she treating him badly? She told him not to approach her.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 02:21 PM
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To make females look good? You have no idea what you’re talking about. You have no idea what postpartum anxiety feels like. I couldn’t go through a car wash without having a panic attack for up to a year postpartum and I still get weird pangs of anxiety. You don’t know her background or her experiences with men. I’m just giving her the benefit of the doubt here, and truly nobody has any business approaching people in parking lots. Even dads with their kids are more guarded than they usually are,…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 02:12 PM
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She was still visibly freaked out, but I think getting in the car and locking doors definitely feels safer than being outside. She’s a small petite woman, and she was being approached by a homeless man while she was with her kid. I really don’t blame her. It wouldn’t be hard for him to harm her or rob her if she said no. She didn’t have to wait and let him approach her to see he he was friendly or had good intentions. She simply didn’t want to be approached and made it clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 12:49 PM
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She’s a mom, and postpartum anxiety is intense. I was actually lucky because I had my son right before the pandemic and I didn’t have to go out much at all. Mine manifested as mostly claustrophobia and healthy related anxiety, but every woman is different. She could have had a bad experience in her past that caused her to be triggered like this. My PPA is a lot better now, but it doesn’t fully go away. I still get pangs of intrusive thoughts and panic. I don’t even think she’s over the top in he…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 03:13 AM
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I don’t think it’s just Muslim men though, I think a lot of men from various cultures and religions have Madonna-Whore complex when it comes to women. I just stated that example in particular because it was something that I came across recently, and it was disturbing, but I have seen men act like this in real life. I’m sure women have their own version of this, where they deem if a man is relationship worthy or just to mess around with. Both sexes are a lot more picky when it comes to investing …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 04:30 PM
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Some men are the same way though. They want to have fun with promiscuous women and then settle down with a chaste one. I just saw a tweet the other day about a Muslim man saying white women are for fun only. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people like this where they view the opposite sex as a commodity, you just have to filter them out.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 12:37 PM
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A lot of the time I’ve gotten the ick was because of something he said. But yes, certain mannerisms have also given me the ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 12:30 PM
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Confidence comes from being good at things and feeling good about yourself. Like if I’m good at cooking and most people like that and validate that that’s cool, but I enjoy my own food so I don’t really need that external validation (buts it’s nice to have). Also, if someone or a few people don’t like my cooking, that’s cool too, but it’s not going to shake my confidence that my cooking is good. I’m terrible at cooking, btw, not sure why I used that analogy, lol. My advice is definitely for peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 05:59 PM
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I’ll tell you why it used to work on me. I wasn’t treated that nicely ever, by any man. Media (Disney, romance movies) taught me that guys who are really into me will treat me really nicely so when it finally happened I thought wow, I finally found him, he’s the “one.” Of course all of that faded 1 or 2 years in, but I was still stuck on how well he treated me in the beginning and I thought it would come back if I just tried harder at being more perfect for him. If he stopped treating that way i…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 02:18 PM
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None of that appeals to me honestly, lol. Too much going on plus the incest is just weird. You’re right though that it was common in the past, but I think that was to keep bloodlines pure and assets within the family. I remember watching House of the Dragons and thinking to myself that this is how people lived in Medieval times, but also glad we don’t live like that anymore. While I agree that monogamy isn’t “natural” and it’s a social construct, I do think it works for many people. You’re also …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 02:10 PM
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How would that work exactly, financially? Would everyone join assets? If I was a man I sure as hell wouldn’t want to be the sole or primary breadwinner for that many people. As a woman though, it probably would be nice to have that many guys providing for you. There’s no way I’d ever not use condoms though, whether I was a man or a woman in that scenario. The risk of STDs isn’t worth it. Also, what about the kids? Who is helping with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 12:50 PM
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I’m single because I haven’t found anyone worth giving up my singlehood for. There are plenty of attractive and good men out there, just none so far that I really click with. It is worth noting that all the ones I’ve been wildly attracted to in person were already in relationships, and that could just be because of the age group I fall in. Most people my age have entered serious long term relationships and are married. I also don’t want any more kids so I think that narrows my options a lot. I’m…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 04:43 PM
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My son will likely be short, but he definitely won’t be ugly. Maybe that’s mom bias though, idk. Regardless, I’m going encourage him to be the best damn version of himself. Something I wish I had done sooner, myself. I’m going to put him in combat sports early, and teach him the importance of independence and money management early on too. I’m definitely not going to teach him that relationships and marriage and kids is the ultimate goal. I don’t want him to think that he’s getting an education …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 04:06 PM
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By simply adding another person to your life. I can do whatever I want without having to factor in another person. My situation is unique because when I was younger I wasn’t allowed to date. My parents wanted me to have an arranged marriage just like they did. They started to show me some potential suitors when I was 23 and by the time I was 26 they kind of just picked one for me because I kept saying no. Luckily that didn’t work out the way they planned and ultimately they gave me permission to…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 12:16 PM
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Drought? Wow, I’m sorry. I have no idea what that’s like but that would make me paranoid as well. Hope you get some rain soon! It’s weird here because it’s like Springtime when it’s supposed to be Winter. Cherry blossoms are already budding and they normally don’t blossom for another 6 weeks.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 03:18 AM
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Yes indeed. I’m a little wine drunk myself. I wish I had some cheese though…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 02:55 AM
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Oh no! It could be allergies though. This weather is a little weird. Well at least where I am, I have no idea where you live. 😄 I really hope it isn’t the flu because that always feels like you’re dying. Props for being proactive though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 02:42 AM
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That makes sense. Those things do come naturally when I’m really into the guy. I want to spoil him with my love and affection (gifts too) and also be his safe place to express his feelings. Your guy is really lucky to have you! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 02:32 AM
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Idk if it’s because I’ve had a different life experience than a lot of people, but I prefer to be single because I truly value freedom over anything else. I think I desire sex and a relationship as much as anyone else, but I’m not willing to compromise my freedom or sanity to have that. I also don’t want to feel disrespected by anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 02:24 AM
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I very much lust after a man’s body. The body hair, the muscular arms and thighs. I have a thing for man hands too. 🥵
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 02:07 AM
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Wait, you got good insight from this sub? Now I’m curious lol. What kind of advice did you get?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 02:04 AM
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That sounds like a fun night! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 01:57 AM
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I’m hella bored and it’s too cold to go out/I’m too lazy, so hi PPD. How is everyone doing tonight?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 01:35 AM
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Not always, no. Idk maybe I’m autistic. I wouldn’t be surprised tbh, lol. 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 01:25 AM
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I think what really needs to happen is that society needs to stop romanticizing having kids. It’s like ingrained into us when we’re young that everyone grows up and gets married and then has kids or that kids are a product of love (which a lot of the time they’re not). I’m a single mom, and as much as I love my little guy, I would never do this again and especially not at 60+. I don’t think sane people do this…. Kids are hard to raise, and especially if you have to work also, which most of us do…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 01:23 AM
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Okay but like how are people supposed to know that. It’s not like you can read people that well via text. I honestly don’t blame him. Edit: it says Tinder in the title/sub but the interface is Hinge.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 01:00 AM
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I mean kinks are cool and all but you can’t just go around calling strangers pansies… But what do I know. I’m vanilla AF.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 12:59 AM
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He sounds like a normal individual to me, she just seems over the top. That might be okay if I knew the person a bit better but a complete stranger? Idk people flirt weird these days I guess. 0-60 in the first 5 minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 12:41 AM
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Ummm idk about that one. I’m a woman and she sounds pretty crazy to me. I feel like I know how to be a little playful and she’s definitely over the top. Edit: it’s the pansy for me…like I’d never call someone I was into a pansy…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 12:35 AM
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I actually think very few people actually need antidepressants (clinical depression). In life you’re meant to have some depressive episodes, it’s just that a lot of people didn’t learn to cope properly with it. You need to find multiple sources of happiness (hobbies, social life, etc) instead of depending on any one thing (video games, alcohol, weed, a relationship, etc). I’m not saying it’s easy, but I just see too many people quickly turning to self destructive behavior to cope rather than goo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 05:09 PM
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Whoa whoa whoa, women aren’t the only ones with monogamy issues, let’s not forget that. Also, men will view women as an object regardless. It’s why women wear burqas in other countries and it’s stupid. I don’t think anyone is promoting hookup culture as much as they’re just telling people that it’s okay to enjoy sex and be free, which women were shamed for in the past. I’m not giving anything when I choose to have sex with someone, I’m hoping for a mutually pleasurable experience. I think it’s w…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 07:25 PM
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The options for women are don’t have children, have children and potentially become a single mom, or get lucky and find the right person to have children with and have a good life. How do you think the odds are stacked? Also a lot of women are choosing to be single moms by choice (sperm donors), but I don’t really see men doing that even when they can afford a surrogate.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 06:22 PM
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I don’t know why you say that like it’s a good thing. We have to weed through hoards of men who ONLY want to fuck us. There’s no way to really secure a man because we all know just having sex with him isn’t good enough. Why do people think we just have to look good and just exist? Maybe that is true for some women but it’s definitely not the majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 06:16 PM
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I agree. Society needs to stop telling women they need to a husband or kids to be happy too. Single lives matter!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 06:40 PM
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Right? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 06:06 PM
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Embarrassment of riches, haha, good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 04:39 PM
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Both men and women use strategy…dating is a game of trying things and seeing what works and what doesn’t. Men have to have good selling skills and women have to have good vetting skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 03:24 PM
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I’m pro choice all the way. I’ll never waver on that stance. I’ll entertain the idea of financial abortion for men, but then women should also be allowed to give up raising an unwanted child if they cannot afford to have one or simply don’t want one. If men can be fully free from any consequences of an unwanted pregnancy, then women should be allowed that privilege too. I actually don’t understand men who are against abortion, because it’s a win-win, is it not? “Keeping your legs closed” is such…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 11:07 AM
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How is that the same? Okay, let’s say we ban abortion and women are now having babies they didn’t really want. These babies are now being abandoned by both the father and the mother. What now? Who is going to raise and support these kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 10:25 AM
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I’m nosy so I peeped your post history. I think you should focus on getting sober first. Addictions of any kind are dealbreakers for a lot of women. Also, idk what kind of business you have, but are you doing okay financially?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 04:20 AM
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I have one child, and as much as I love him, being a parent is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. It’s so difficult to manage a career with a small child. Daycare is ridiculously expensive. I never want any more children ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 12:53 AM
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Good man. 🍻
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 11:19 PM
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He can have a blowjob as frequently as he goes down on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 04:31 PM
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I had weak boundaries and people pleasing tendencies. Probably stemming from daddy issues, I won’t even deny that. Some guys took advantage of that and they ranged from attractive to unattractive. It really made no difference in the attractiveness level of the guy. My ex husband definitely doesn’t fit the Chad standard (short guy and didn’t make so much money when I met him), but he was really great to me at first until he wasn’t. I thought he was really cute and sweet and that was what roped me…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 08:43 PM
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No, you just to weed through a lot of assholes. Eventually you learn to recognize patterns. Setting strong boundaries helps. I personally struggled with that one for a long time, but I can say recently I’ve done really well. People will treat you how you let them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 03:31 AM
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I think they think that people who look good are used to getting away with things which honestly is kinda true (halo effect/pretty privilege). But ugly men can also be assholes because they’re insecure and usually project those onto other people. Anyone can be an asshole and unfortunately they don’t come with labels.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 12:15 AM
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I don’t really know when exactly makeup was decidedly a feminine enhancement, because it originated in Ancient Egypt and actually the men wore it first. Somewhere in our history we decided it looked good, and more people adopted it, mainly women. Women have had way more things that enhanced their femininity throughout history. Wigs (men actually wore wigs for a brief period in time) girdles, push up bras, shape wear, and now surgery to replace all of those things, but the concept still applies. …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 04:15 AM
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A beard makes men look more masculine/mature. Obviously it doesn’t, but it enhances the face by covering blemishes, adding color and providing contrast to features and making them pop (eyes).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 04:01 AM
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Exactly! That’s definitely happened to me a few times. The opposite happens too, like how my son’s daycare teachers were so used to me bare faced that when I had makeup on to pick him up, they were like “oh, you look so pretty! Whose mom is this?”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 12:35 AM
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I feel like most women do wear natural makeup. I like to wear dark eyeliner and mascara but I don’t see many women doing this anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 12:05 AM
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I don’t think that’s the same thing at all. A beard is probably more comparable. Also, he’s eventually going to see me without makeup and if he really feels that’s deceived and loses attraction to me, as much as it would suck, I’d understand and let him go. I’m not going to be dolled up 24/7 for anyone. But to answer the question, I’d feel deceived. If it makes him feel more confident though, more power to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 11:59 PM
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I think a lot of people just don’t understand what body positivity is really about. No one is telling you to celebrate being overweight and unhealthy. It simply says we all come in different shapes and sizes and that’s okay, the standard of beauty shouldn’t be light skinned and a size 0 or whatever the ideal standard has been up to this point. That’s really hard for most women to achieve. Also, being overweight is a lot more complex than eating too much food. You have to look at why people are e…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 07:58 PM
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Body positivity is simply telling people not to hate themselves because of how their body is. You’re still human and worthy of basic respect. Women don’t shit on other women because most of us have been there at one point or another. Also, if you want people to be healthier, telling them they’re fat and need to workout is not the way. I always encourage everyone to go to the gym OR find an activity they enjoy doing. I couldn’t stick to a workout routine because it was boring and I finally found …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 06:54 PM
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So you want women to not wear makeup and show up to dates in sweatpants and t-shirt with messy buns? I don’t get why guys on here hate on makeup so much. Makeup is definitely an enhancement, but it’s not going to make someone that much more attractive. It’s like most other things, hairstyles, clothing’s styles, etc. I can admit I’m prettier with makeup, but I’m not ugly without it, I just look less lively. I always offer to split the bill and when I order I assume I’d be paying for my part anywa…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 06:29 PM
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Well yeah, I didn’t mean based on what everyone else finds attractive. Beauty is definitely subjective, but I’d say the guys I’m most attracted to would be considered attractive by a lot of people. Maybe? I’m actually not sure. This is interesting actually because I remember showing my girl friends a pic of the guy I was seeing a long while back and one of them thought he was really attractive (he was her type) and another didn’t find him attractive at all (she has similar taste to me). I don’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 04:27 AM
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I’m not going to deny it, I definitely think there’s some truth to it. People want the most attractive person they can get. I wasn’t always this way though, I’m definitely pickier now about the guys I find attractive. There are a lot of reasons for this, but mostly because my self esteem and confidence is much higher than it used to be. I also don’t care for marriage and babies any more since I’ve already been married once and had one child.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 02:12 AM
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I look for a man that I find physically attractive, then his personality, and then his career, in that order. He has to have all three and there’s a threshold for all of those things that he would have to meet. To be honest the first thing I do think of when I see an attractive man is that I want to have sex with him. I will admit though sometimes I’ve been turned off by their personalities or he does something to give me the ick. Doesn’t happen often but it does happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 01:18 AM
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Might be a good thing for guys that are afraid of being baby trapped.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 03:31 PM
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Thank you! I really am proud of myself, but I’ll be happier when I reach my goals. I think this year might be the year. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 05:22 PM
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I actually did work out during my relationship and marriage, but I was on birth control and that affected me a lot. I only realized why after getting a Dexcom and realizing hormones can cause major insulin resistance. I’m a type 1 diabetic, btw, and I’ve actually never been overweight but I definitely got chubby after getting on birth control pills (never again). After having my son, my weight dropped relatively quickly (thanks to breastfeeding) and I got back into fitness and now I’m in the bes…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 05:10 PM
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I want to say it wouldn’t be much different from the life I have now, but I’m not really sure. It does seem like a lot of work to pursue women though. I don’t know how good at that I would be. According to a Snapchat filter though, guy version of me is a total Chad. 😎
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 04:40 AM
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I don’t agree with this at all. Are femme lesbians who are into masc lesbians, straight? No. That is just not how it works. Masculine women are still women. Sexuality is a spectrum and fluid for a lot of people so it can be hard to define. I think some people are attracted to masculine/feminine traits more than actual genders and others are attracted to just genders and more commonly, a combination of both. Everyone has both masculine and feminine traits, just varying degrees of each.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 12:24 AM
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Not the same thing, but you can be both at the same time, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 04:00 PM
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I only drink mine iced, never hot. I definitely put some almond milk and sugar free syrup in it, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 04:56 AM
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Any good shows on Netflix, Hulu, or HBO Max?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 04:48 AM
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Maybe you won’t be ashamed but it might limit your prospects. Eventually, you’re reputation will precede you. Is fuckboy really a compliment?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 04:46 AM
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The women in these groups get called out on their shit too though. Like if someone is being petty or insecure and doesn’t have a valid reason to be mad at the guy, they get called out on it. I actually really appreciate these kinds of groups because it’s not always super obvious you’re dating a narcissist/cheater/asshole. Just don’t be a dickhead and you won’t get posted. I fully support men creating these groups as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 06:05 PM
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Turning 36 next month. 🥳
/r/AllPillDebate17/01/23 05:22 PM
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I’d choose to be single but down to be fwb with number one if he wanted to, only if he showers though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 11:38 PM
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I was unemployed for 7 months, so I just took it. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 04:06 AM
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Omg, that would drive me insane, lol. I just can’t stand busywork like that. I know some people maybe would love to get paid to do things like that, but definitely not me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 10:03 PM
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Bring it!!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 05:46 AM
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Does anyone want to play Words with Friends? 🤓
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 05:33 AM
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You’re going to regret a lot more than missing out on sex if you don’t get sober. Also, why do you feel like you’re missing out? Did you not enjoy the sex you had in a relationship? Why is having a lot of women better than having sex with one woman? Why do you feel like choosing to be celibate is lame? Why does your self worth come from how many women you sleep with? You need to get out of this mindset. Also, sex does generally get better as you get older because you figure out what works and wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 04:40 AM
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That’s the problem, I have no idea. I feel like I definitely would get bored of whatever it is I would do eventually. I didn’t really think much about what I actually wanted to do growing up, because my parents pushed me towards the medical field. I’m definitely not cut out for the medical field. Someone mentioned data scientist in a another comment, which sounds really interesting. I might look into that. We spend so much of our lives working, it makes sense to do something worthwhile.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 03:26 AM
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I’m going to risk it anyway. I used to stay at my jobs because I didn’t think I could do better. But the only way I’ve increased my pay significantly is by hopping jobs. I’m actually in a good place right now since I don’t have a mortgage or rent payment or any major bills. If I wanted to I could go back to school without taking a huge loan. That’s another option I may consider. I really hate school though. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 02:50 AM
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I’m single because the guys that are my age and that I’d actually date are already taken/married. I’m attracted to younger men and I’d date them, but idk I feel like the age gap would eventually catch up and there’s a difference in life experience because I’ve already been married and had a child, and I have zero desire to do that all over again. It would be nice to find someone to build a life together with, but I’m extremely picky about who I’d chose to do that with. There are plenty of guys t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 02:28 AM
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D) Built up sexual tension in person and then whatever happens from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 01:34 AM
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That makes sense! I’m glad it’s not causing any strain in your personal life and that it’s working well for you. :) I have social anxiety sometimes but not at other times. It’s weird, my brain is weird. I barely adult. 🙃 I am going to therapy this year though, I think that might be my first step actually. I’ve been putting that off way too long.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 10:51 PM
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I actually don’t mind going in sometimes, but I want to be able to choose when and how often. I don’t hate going into the office, it’s mostly commuting that I’m not fond of. But now that you mention it. I also would like the option of being able to travel around a bit, so if I can take my work with me, maybe that would be easier. Maybe I can live in a different area for a while, but still make a decent salary. Having a fully remote job allows for a lot of flexibility with time and location.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 10:34 PM
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This sounds really awesome actually, thanks for the info! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 10:29 PM
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Sometimes I wish I went down this route in school, or maybe mechanical engineering.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 10:23 PM
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I’m so glad you love this! I actually think I’m not cut out for childcare at all, and maybe it’s because I’m neurodivergent, but I can barely handle my own toddler.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 10:22 PM
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Let me give you a overview of my work experience. First job at pharmacy at age 20 and did that for 5ish year. Worked some odd Bs retail jobs for about year or two and finally got my fist office job as a CSR for an insurance agency. Did that for a year because the lady was a Karen (and that was her real name too lol) and I got lucky and landed a job as a help desk analyst. I thought this was going to be more IT related, but it wasn’t and I barely lasted a year. I then landed my next role as progr…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 10:21 PM
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I mostly wanted to join the government side for the benefits and job security. But I do want better pay too. 😬 A lot of companies I noticed are offering fully covered medical benefits and fully remote work, which was considered a privilege before the pandemic, so the reasons for me wanting to move over to the government side have faded.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 10:14 PM
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I tried to get a government job when I was a contractor and that was my original plan. Maybe I should get back on the contract side of things. I can’t tell if it’s better to be in the government side or the private sector side because I know a lot of people who left the government to join the private sector.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 10:09 PM
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You work 24/7? That’s insane but I can see how that would work if you really love what you do. Does your job keep you from doing other things or take time away from family/obligations/etc?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 10:06 PM
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Lol, this is me, I love it for the first few months and I’m like this is great, then the boredom sinks in and becomes unbearable by the 1 year mark. I’m just worried it’s going to make my resume look crazy, and it’s going make me less hireable. There’s only one job I had for about 3 years and that involved travel so it was fun, but the pay and commute was shit. But since the pandemic I haven’t found anything I really like or want to do, and I just think the best thing for me is to just hop aroun…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 10:05 PM
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That’s funny because I think I want that and then the second it becomes boring I’d much rather be doing anything else, and it actually becomes an annoyance. I need to be stimulated to be motivated to do things. I get paid a decent amount but I’m constantly doing things, but they’re tedious things like uploading things for people and compiling weekly/monthly reports. I’m just putting things together. I think I want to be creating things or working on projects. I don’t think I want the stress of s…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 10:01 PM
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I actually took a 10k pay-cut for my current role in the hopes that I’d actually learn something, but after one year I’m not really seeing that. I’m going to stick is out until I get my CAPM, but otherwise I’m ready to jump ship. The company itself isn’t a bad place to work, but I gotta go where there’s money. I’m also afraid of running into a toxic work environment at my next job, so I’m a bit hesitant, but I can’t let that hold me back.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 09:55 PM
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Ooh! I have lots of questions. What does a data scientist do and what kind of educational requirements/certifications do you need for that role?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 09:52 PM
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Aren’t a lot of places offering remote work though? I work a hybrid schedule now and I want to go fully remote. Also, what do you do? I’m debating whether I want to stay on the project management route or maybe shift to HR. Ironically, I do some HR things at my job, which I’m not supposed to be doing, but it got dumped on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 09:50 PM
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Does anyone here have a career they love or are content with? I don’t know if it’s my ADHD, but I’m getting that 1 year itch again to find something different. Maybe most jobs are BS and I’m going to go through this cycle til I retire. I don’t even care about what I do as long as I’m learning something at least and it’s not tedious admin crap. Like it can’t be the same thing over and over again, which is why I also dropped out of college while studying Pre-Pharmacy. I just want to make enough mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 09:40 PM
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You know, I’m really tired of hearing that women aren’t as high libido as men. We are, and unless there’s something medically wrong or the person is asexual, we think about sex a lot. Thinking about it and actually finding a partner that we want to do it is the complicated part. We have more criteria that our partner needs to meet before that can happen. Safety and security is one, mutual respect and pleasure are other factors. Physical attraction too obviously. I feel like for most men physical…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 08:42 PM
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This certainly doesn’t apply to me, but I do think it’s harder for some women to prioritize themselves after having kids. I lucked out because I only have 1, he was tiny when he was born, and I had a c section. I nursed him and I think that helped me lose the weight quickly, and I started working out after I weaned him two year later so my body looks better than before I even had him. Yours looks are dependent on way too many factors for a wall to really exist, imo. Aging applies to everyone the…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 06:20 PM
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I think most women do wait to be more financially stable, and that generally does happen during late 20’s and early to mid 30’s. I personally didn’t wait for those reasons, but my ex-husband did want to wait so I respected that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 03:05 PM
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The average woman isn’t trying to put off having their first kid until 45, so this isn’t even relevant. This is just a rare and tragic case. Also, there are plenty of really young women having kids, but doing it out of wedlock or ending up single, and you all hate on them too.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 11:33 AM
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I feel like the only women that would really be upset about this are sex workers. Their jobs are being replaced by robots.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 02:43 PM
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She’s not strikingly gorgeous but she’s definitely not ugly. She’s not even that fat, she’s just a smidge chubby. I think ratings are kind of dumb anyway and I go by a pass or fail system. I either find you attractive or I don’t, the number doesn’t matter. I just think more women pass men’s threshold than the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 01:56 AM
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Patrick Bateman vibes
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:08 PM
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I actually think there’s truth to this. I definitely have a strong preference for white men. Also, this is probably accurate for OLD but I think IRL is different because a lot of races tend to stick to their own kind still. I can definitely say that about brown people, but I’m glad the ones in the West are starting to branch out. Mixed genes are a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:02 AM
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You’re not stuck though, you might lose some money, but you’re not stuck. If you’re afraid of losing money, don’t get married or marry someone who contributes financially as well. How does cheating help you in that situation? Is that a long term solution?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 10:45 AM
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If you’re going to use that as justification you might as well add in the others. Can women cheat if their husbands are away? Everyone needs intimacy, right? What about if your partner is ill or disabled, okay to cheat then? Cheating doesn’t solve anything at all, and can become really toxic. Why bother being in a relationship if you’re not getting your intimacy needs met? Losing money isn’t as bad as losing years of your life with the wrong person. Pick a partner that contributes financially if…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 09:26 AM
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No, I wouldn’t date someone who uses or has used a sex workers in the past. Paying strippers and OF counts btw. It gives me the ick. There’s free content out there anyway, why are you paying for it? Also, would these same men who use sex workers ever date/marry a woman who has done sex work in the past? I feel like most of them wouldn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 11:23 AM
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ಠ_ಠ
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 05:27 AM
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I don’t know if I’ll ever get married again, but a ring is important to me. First of all anyone who knows me knows that I love sparkly things and jewelry, but I can’t wear fake jewelry anymore because I’m severely allergic to nickel. Second, we earn money to spend it on things we care about and make us happy, so why not? Why do some people buy Range Rovers instead of a Toyota? If it’s not outside of your means, why not? I hate the argument that money is better spent on something else, because if…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 03:25 AM
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How? It sounds practically the same. Just use homegirls. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 10:49 PM
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That’s why you need a space in between. Girl friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 10:46 PM
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Um, idk about this one. Might be true for some people. I know when I reject someone it’s not because I think I’m too good for them or better than them, I’m simply not attracted to them. I have no idea what people are thinking when they reject me, but I doubt it’s because they think they’re better than me or too good for me, lol. I mean maybe, but who cares? Focus on people that are interested in you. I’m looking for one person, out of hundreds, so of course I’m not going to be attracted to a maj…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 10:25 PM
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That makes sense, thank you for providing some insight into NPD. I’m really sorry that happened to you. I’m glad you’re aware of your condition and actively trying to manage it. If more people did that we can try to break the cycle of generational trauma.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 02:45 PM
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That’s interesting. Would you say you’re an introverted (covert) or an extroverted (grandiose) narcissist? Also, did certain events in your life or childhood cause your disorder?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 05:25 AM
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At what point did you realize you had a problem? Most narcissistic people don’t get therapy because they don’t think they have a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 03:02 AM
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That’s fine but he has to show what he offers in return. I’m not going to give it 100% if he’s only giving me 50%. I’m going to match his level of interest/effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 08:14 PM
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Happy Thanksgiving! 🍁🦃🍽
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 02:27 PM
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That may be your experience, but that’s definitely not the only reason. One guy I was dating said he wasn’t ready for a relationship and admitted to having a problem with alcohol (he was a functioning alcoholic). Another guy said he didn’t reach out to me for over a week after our date because he had “a lot going on.” I lost interest because I thought our first date went well and he just left me hanging. Another guy kept going on about his ex and eventually started asking me for money which was …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 01:30 PM
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Nick Bateman hits all the marks for me. Body, face, hair. Sexy AF. I do love a man with some thickish, hairy but not too hairy thighs though. Something about the way they sit makes me feel tingly. Same with arms and hands, especially when they cross their arms. 🥵
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 02:46 AM
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My son is 3, and I’m not going to tell him. I’d keep it vague even when he’s older, that sometimes relationships don’t work out. I’m sure he will figure it out eventually, but hopefully not until he’s older. I I would never want my child to feel like he has to pick sides or choose between his parents. It’s actually pretty common, so hopefully it doesn’t impact his mental or emotional health in huge way.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 04:24 PM
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Have you actually visited the nice guy sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 03:52 PM
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Okay, but why is this a problem? How does it hurt anyone? Why do you care if women you find unattractive are attracted to men “out of their league”?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 03:28 PM
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A “nice guy” isn’t someone just venting, it’s a guy who is butthurt about being rejected, and has his ego bruised so he goes on a misogynistic tirade. There’s a huge difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 03:17 PM
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I don’t think you understand what I meant when I said “benefit.” It should benefit me more than being single. Being with someone should add value to my life, not take away from it. But as another user pointed out, a relationship should benefit both parties in some way. It’s never going to be an equal 50/50 split, but you should be able to complement each other. People who truly care about each other and are compatible will be able to navigate through conflicts and relationship issues in a health…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 03:04 PM
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Virgin/low n-count, call it whatever you want, my point still stands. Madonna/whore complex is more common than you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 02:51 PM
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As long as it doesn’t involve violence, I don’t see why men can’t also vent their frustrations with dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 05:16 AM
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I agree with this. I don’t see any harm in venting or expressing frustration.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 05:11 AM
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Nobody wants to be in relationships more or less than anyone else, unless they’re asexual maybe but even then I think we all value companionship and romantic love. I keep hearing on this sub that men are the gatekeepers of relationships and they don’t want to commit, especially not to women that aren’t virgins, so who is pickier really?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 03:24 AM
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Why does singlehood have to be a permanent state though? Yeah they are happy with it for now, until someone comes along and changes that. Or not. It’s all good either way. Singlehood is the default state but not the ideal state.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 03:16 AM
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I think a more accurate statement would be that women are happier being single than in a relationship that does not benefit them. We want to be in relationships, but not just for the sake of being in a relationship, does that make sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 03:10 AM
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<sup>this!</sup>
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 09:23 PM
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I’m going to be 36 soon and I feel like I’m at my prime. I’m in the best shape of my life. I have a few scant grays, but other than that I look exactly the same and no one can ever guess my age correctly. My 20’s sucked big time. I have so much financial freedom now. I have split custody of my son, so I get to be a mom part time and still have fun other days. It’s honestly pretty great, I’m still very much into the EDM scene as I was 10 years ago. I don’t think I’ll start feeling old until I’m 5…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 09:18 PM
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I’m definitely more flirtatious, confident and overall even more social/extroverted than I normally am after drinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 11:57 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 09:14 PM
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I have major trust issues. Not sure how to correct this one, because to counter it I try to remember that not every man is like my ex, and trust men until they give me a reason not to. I don’t think this is a good way to approach it. Maybe I put out mixed signals too, idk. It’s happened a few times and I can’t tell if it’s them or me. I probably have others and would benefit from therapy. I need to stop putting that off.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:11 PM
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Arab beatboxing, that’s pretty dope. Speaking of, there’s this woman who is really amazing at it. Like I was seriously blown away at her skills. I’ll see if I can find a link.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:38 PM
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What kind of music are y’all into? Someone send me some music. I’m trying to add more bangers to my playlist.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:34 PM
2

Taller men look more dominant. Even men respect other tall men more.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 12:29 AM
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That’s fair!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 10:19 PM
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Of course there are some crazies here, that’s why it’s entertaining lol. That’s what DMs are for. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 08:22 PM
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It’s not stalking if we’re friends. 👉🏽👈🏽
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 07:38 PM
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I’m starting to feel like maybe it’s similar to post nut clarity where things are sexy only when you’re horny and then not at all and disgust you afterwards or you’re like, “why did I do that, ew.” Right? My fantasies have involved people I know, but I have no idea why because I don’t find them sexually attractive at all. I really feel like something might be wrong with me, because that felt weird to even type out. I never even thought about why before just that I was horny in the moment and I n…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:05 PM
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Well yeah, obviously not and if he did feel that way he needs to let me know. I can set him free to have sex with whomever he pleases if I’m holding him back.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 02:39 PM
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Porn makes men less sexually frustrated, really? That’s interesting and news to me. I can’t say that it does the same for me because I still be feenin for the peen, but maybe that’s just me. Also, women were okay with men using prostitutes? By choice? Really? Or were they just forced to swallow a shit sandwich because they didn’t have rights?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 02:08 PM
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I’m not against porn usage, I use it myself for the same reasons, and that would not change regardless of my relationship status. Sex with a partner is completely different from masturbating to porn. I don’t think the frequency of using porn really relates to how often you ask for/want sex with a partner, but maybe that is subjective. You’re saying men will want sex less frequently with a partner if they use porn to satisfy their libido?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 01:59 PM
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Wait, since when are any of these things mutually exclusive? I’m pretty sure guys who watch porn still pursue women IRL and still watch it while in relationships. Porn was never a replacement for relationships/sex with women. Also, if porn is becoming more real it probably will become more of a dealbreaker in monogamous relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 01:44 PM
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Yup, exactly. I don’t hang out with people who steal, have gambling or addiction issues, or are known to be violent or problematic either. Keep my circle real small.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 01:34 PM
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Cheating is huge character flaw in my opinion, so no, hard pass on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 01:17 PM
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I think that’s fair, but women aren’t exactly excited about a man who is known to have been around either. It applies to men too and I think a lot of guys here fail to acknowledge that. How many women in real life do you know that do this? If they do, they probably assume they can change him or that he would change for them, but that doesn’t usually happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 01:11 PM
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If an ex said that about me I honestly wouldn’t care. We’re not together and maybe our sex together was shit lol idk. Doesn’t matter now, does it? Sexual compatibility is a thing and I fully acknowledge that I won’t be everyone’s best sex they ever had. This doesn’t bother me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 01:05 PM
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I say that because he actually DB’ed me in our relationship/marriage. He stopped wanting to fuck me for whatever reason (you’d have to ask him). I mean if that’s not holding someone back, then idk what is… I definitely had a choice to leave, but me wanting to make the relationship work (sunken cost fallacy combined with codependency probably), I stuck it out in the hopes that it would improve. It did not and he ended up cheating on me anyway. I said what I said, don’t care if he’s butthurt about…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 01:04 PM
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My fantasies have involved real people I know, but usually as a voyeur or something. I feel weird now, because I would never be okay with that in real life and the thought actually repulses me. I do think sexy thoughts about my crushes but I’ve never actually masturbated to them. Am I broken? 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 12:59 PM
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No, there doesn’t have to be a logical explanation, but usually there is one. I would assume somewhere in our biology it gives us the ick because of STDs obviously, and even though we have condoms now, we still get the ick. That’s fair, but I think it applies to both sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 12:54 PM
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I’ve actually never orgasmed with a partner, only by myself, so in my case it wouldn’t have mattered. Why though, because of STDs? What if condoms were used? Also, penises aren’t exempt from STDs so a dick that’s been in many vaginas is equally yuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 12:05 PM
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Man, I really want to go feel a bunch of titties now, but I don’t know I can do that without coming across as a perv.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:41 AM
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Oh yeah I’m not denying that it’s cultural, it definitely is, but it’s like hard ingrained in me at this point. Can’t speak for anyone else. I know the British don’t seem to care as much. No shade, lol. Love you guys. 🫶🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:39 AM
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Nah! I definitely feel you. My ex definitely kept me from the best sex of my life lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:21 AM
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I’ve only got a handful myself lol, so I never had big titty privilege. I’m also actually happy with my size because I feel like if they were any bigger they’d probably sag. I know guys care way less about that than women do, but just saying. I’ve never felt fake titties, but can you tell the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:20 AM
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I couldn’t tell you, tbh. But yeah I’m very sexually attracted to nice straight teeth, and very turned off by janky crooked teeth. Maybe has something to do with hygiene? I’m. She put off by natural body odors as well. I put in a lot of effort to smell nice and and clean and definitely expect that from my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:15 AM
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Oh yeah, I definitely can’t make myself squirt, but squirting to me is just a sexy bonus anyway. Much prefer an actual orgasm. FYI, to all the people here, real orgasms do cause involuntary contractions of the vagina, so if she isn’t milking your dick, she didn’t cum. I’m not hating, if, in your personal experience. there’s a strong correlation between women who have a high n count and bad behaviors, then by all means vet as you see fit. I actually had a low ish body count before I met my ex hus…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:13 AM
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The ones with smaller hips? Really? Is there a study on this?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:06 AM
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Infected with good times. You will never know.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 08:53 AM
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I know it’s primal, but it doesn’t make sense because even women with small hips and small boobs rear and nurse children just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 08:52 AM
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Ooh yes! This is true! They are definitely nice to squeeze/hold on too for comfort. It is that what the hoopla is all about? Why is bigger better? What about fake ones? Do they provide the same comfort?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 08:50 AM
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It’s a struggle for real, I’m sure. Keep fighting the good fight, my friend. 💪🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 08:48 AM
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Ooh that sounds like fun! How do I subscribe to this? Yes! I’ll DM you in a sec.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 08:42 AM
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I don’t understand the obsession with titties at all. Like they’re literally udders. Are they really that aesthetic? Is any part of the human body aesthetic? Particularly genitalia? Yet, when horny all of that stuff is aesthetic. I don’t understand. 🤨
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 08:40 AM
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I can literally hide things in my cooter. Can’t top that. Also, I can definitely pee off a building if I wanted to, don’t challenge me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 08:34 AM
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Not unless you’re a slave to it. I’m a perv too, but I would never make someone else feel uncomfortable because of it. If everyone is on the same page then have at it. 🥳
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 08:32 AM
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Yes, I’m still interested, because why not? 🙃 What’s purge week?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 08:29 AM
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I sometimes wonder how depraved I’d be with a penis. I feel like I’m pretty depraved with a vagina, so that’s like scary to think about. But then I come across a thirsty ass guy and I’m like ohhhh yeah, that’s probably what it’s like to have a penis. It doesn’t sound fun tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 08:25 AM
1

How about mom boobs?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 08:19 AM
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Boo!! Why haven’t we evolved to this level of inter webz. Ugh! I’m gonna party with you in spirit though. 🫶🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 08:13 AM
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I suppose a lot of that is cultural, but I’m American, so straight teeth, tans, and toned bodies are where it’s at. I don’t actually think tanning is healthy though. Don’t do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 08:12 AM
2

I’m actually sobering up and I’m not happy about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 08:09 AM
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Lol I know hahaha you couldn’t tell by looking at me, but I’m a lot of fun!! Come party with me! 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 08:08 AM
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I’m not gonna knock it, but I definitely think people with straighter and whiter teeth look better than people who don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 08:07 AM
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Noooo you first 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 07:33 AM
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Me too! 🥺 Why is everyone asleep? Someone stay up and snort some Molly with me or something. 🥺
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 07:33 AM
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LOL you crack me up
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 07:25 AM
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Nothing special, I promise! Just a regular person like you. Happy to show you regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 07:23 AM
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I don’t know about value, but we all have a vessel to carry us through life. Just interested in seeing others. 🤷🏻‍♀️ It doesn’t matter either way. You’re still you and you still represent your thoughts. It’s okay to stay anonymous. I’m jus totally buzzed right now and in a social mood. I might regret this in the morning. 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 07:22 AM
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I dig your hair! You’re handsome. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 07:15 AM
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No boobies just mug
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 07:14 AM
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My face 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 07:08 AM
1

Honestly, humans have been pretty shitty to other humans throughout mankind, and I’m not glorifying it, but I do feel like it’s natural to animalkind/human nature. I’m glad we’ve gotten to the point in our evolution where we acknowledge that it is a terrible thing to do. (Some people are still behind in this). Violence will probably always exist to some degree but I do hope that it lessens, and so far it has (I think?).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 07:07 AM
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I want to see your faces! 😁 Don’t be shy!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 07:02 AM
2

Omg, is that what it is? Do I need therapy?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 07:00 AM
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Okay yeah Nazi stuff is definitely way over my head rn. But props to you for making that post.🫡
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:58 AM
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LOL totally agree but short term pain for long term gain. It honestly doesn’t even take that long for them to be normally spaced out again.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:47 AM
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This is a PSA to everyone, be fit and get your teeth fixed (invisalign/braces). Best investment you can make in yourself. Be the best version of you that you can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:41 AM
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So, can I be super serious for a second…why do men want someone who doesn’t have much experience in the bedroom? Is that really a precursor for a good sex life? Personally, I didn’t even know I could orgasm until I was 28, and I discovered I could squirt post divorce. I’m probably better at oral sex now than I was in my younger years too. Just food for thought, no hate here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:29 AM
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I’m waiting!!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:15 AM
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I bet you do! Can I see? 🙈
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:15 AM
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So maybe I have Madonna-whore complex but rarely have I ever masturbated to someone I actually have a crush on/like. Can someone tell me if this is weird/abnormal or not? My fantasies usually involve things/people I’d never want to do in real life. Am I a freak? Be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:10 AM
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I definitely feel you! I want a flat stomach and a bigger butt. The foundation is there for sure, just needs a boost. I think I might try out weight lifting.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:07 AM
1

What kind of workouts do you do?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:51 AM
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I’ve only had like a handful of chik fil a fries with the sauce today. Idk if that’s good or not. Probably not… But I have ADHD and somehow my brain thinks it’s okay to go for loooooong periods of time without food or water. I’d probably do pretty good in an apocalypse type of situation lol. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’d be happy with my bod if I had a flat/right/toned stomach, like literally everything else is good. I have the right amount of fat in my butt too, but I should probably do some squats, hip thrusts, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:51 AM
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It’s okay LOL you’re still cool in my books 🫶🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:45 AM
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YAAAASSSS hit me with with it, kind sir. 😈 Or send me music or funny videos or memes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:43 AM
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Oof I know how that feels. Though I’m proud of myself because I’ve been going 5 days a week and I went to workout tonight even though I was a little drunk LOL. Not sure if anyone noticed but I was definitely happy with my workout.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:41 AM
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I’m a little disappointed NGL…thought I could dive deep into the mind of a crazy person, but maybe next time I guess. Still gonna DM you to bug you though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:37 AM
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YES! Like please someone piss me off or say something controversial AF. I’m here for it!! PLEASE!!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:35 AM
1

Meeee fucking toooo!! I hate being blasted on a weeknight, but thanks to custody, here I am. 🍻
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:33 AM
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I don’t think y’all understand the level of bored I am. I’m definitely struggling tonight. 😩
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:32 AM
1

Damn, lol. Are you okay, fam?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:30 AM
1

Oooh fun! Can I DM you?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:27 AM
1

Yo, is anyone still awake?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:24 AM
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I live with my family lol, so I do talk to him in person. We just don’t really have heart to hearts or anything. I want to though. I want him to be okay. I just don’t get the vibe that he would be comfortable talking about his personal life with me. That’s okay though. I don’t talk about mine with him. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:54 AM
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Thank you! 🥹 I swear God gave me a son for a reason because he loves me back unconditionally and I’ve never felt that kind of love before. 🥹😭 I really do wish for everyone to experience that kind of love at least once in their life, but I’m realizing now that only lucky people get that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:41 AM
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Oh yeah it’s expensive for sure. I’m sorry that’s a barrier for you. I live with my family so I’m taking full advantage of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:36 AM
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I’m glad you’re close with your siblings though. I wish I had that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:34 AM
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Yeah it’s definitely the culture, and I think it’s kinda sad honestly. :( I hope to change that with my 3 year old son (he’s half white). I show him lots of affection, and I can’t even help it. He’s just so perfect. 💕
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:34 AM
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Do you do it too? I can’t wait until I’m actually good at it. Gives me such a rush. Wish I started like a decade ago, but better late than never, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:29 AM
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Aw man, I suck as a sibling. 🥺 Idk, I’m curious but I also don’t want to make him uncomfortable, you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:26 AM
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NUH don’t you try to pin this on me. You ruined your own life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:22 AM
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I’m 35, and we’re twins so he’s 35 too. But I don’t even hug or kiss my parents so idk. I’m even more distant with my cousins and I feel like we shouldn’t be. We grew up together. This makes me sad. 🥺
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:21 AM
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I don’t know anything about that, and I’m not even going to pretend to. I like MMA and Boxing and Muay Thai because it’s fun though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:20 AM
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DAMN IT LULLL WHY CAN’T YOU DO ANYTHING RIGHT FOR FUCKS SAKE OMG YOU MAKE ME WANT TO UNALIVE MYSELF
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:18 AM
2

I’m dressing up as a Fallen Angel 😈
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:11 AM
1

Awkward. Honestly, I’m not that close to my brother either. Like I have no idea if he’s ever had a gf or if he’s still a virgin. We don’t hug. Is this weird?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:07 AM
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Okay yeah I’m definitely way too drunk to even comprehend what’s happening here, but maybe I’ll check back in the morning. Thanks though. 🫠
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:05 AM
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I’m bored and a little tipsy. Someone entertain me, please.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 03:58 AM
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I think my odd are pretty good tbh. I get carded all the time and the other night a bouncer thought I had a fake ID. Both of my parents look really young for their age too.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 03:46 AM
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Literally no one can tell that I’m 35. I get ID’d all the time, and a bouncer recently thought I was using a fake ID. Ultimate compliment! 😁 This might be my peak though, idk. I’m still gonna try be as hot as I can be, but I think I can maintain this well into my mid 50’s before I probably give up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 09:35 PM
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I wouldn’t say repulsive, just not someone I’d consider having sex with or a relationship with. But isn’t that normal? And also, just because I wouldn’t have sex with them or have a relationship with them doesn’t mean they’re undesirable to someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:32 PM
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In general yes, we do discuss this amongst our friends or whatever, but that’s usually for majorly ick things like giant red flags. I’d never tell a guy why he gave me the ick. I’m pretty sure guys don’t tell women directly either. It’s just incompatibility and you really don’t need to tear people down or make them feel self conscious. Just because that person isn’t for me doesn’t mean they’re not for someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:20 PM
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Most women tell you why you gave them the ick? Well, I just find that kind of unnecessary. Unless I’m directly asked, but I’ve never been directly asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:29 PM
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It’s not complicated, we just don’t go around telling people what gave us the ick, because not only is it impolite, it’s just not necessary to state in the early stages of dating. Don’t overthink it, if a woman is into you she’s not going to make it harder for you to court her. Also, if she’s playing games then clearly she isn’t worth it. I give the same advice to men and women, match their level of effort. Also, men aren’t any less complicated. They can be hot and cold too. I just don’t enterta…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 02:11 PM
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I mean a guy can be all of those things but if he isn’t attractive to me physically, it’s not going to help him. It really has to be be both.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 09:35 PM
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I do think that when it comes to sex, men don’t have stringent requirements. A lot of them just want a body to bang and they really don’t care about the person behind it. I think most women find this very off putting. Men are definitely a lot more selective about the kind of woman they would choose for a LTR/marriage. Women in general are very picky about both casual sex and LTRs.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 10:47 PM
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Okay, but a man cheating on his wife with another woman could also be passing on his genes by procreating with multiple women. Do you see my point now? Cheating isn’t okay for anyone, period.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 05:00 PM
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So, I do agree with you that dating isn’t fair, but this applies to women too. Men are judged by their height, build, careers/wealth, intelligence, having a full head of hair, and yes the size of their penis. Women are judged by their beauty and youth, ability to cook, do housework, rear children, not be overweight, and have big boobs and a shapely butt and even wide hips. Women are also expected to be more chaste. Of course you’ll find people that are attracted to people that don’t have these t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 04:53 PM
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You can have a conversation about those things with someone without it sounding like an interview or saying “what do you bring to the table?” That just sounds like you want the Cliffs Notes or that you want me to sell myself to you. That’s cool, if you want that but then don’t get mad when they ask you the same thing or treat you the same way. I personally find that very off putting. Are dates nowadays where people just bring their checklists around with them and try to find someone who meets al…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 12:25 AM
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Because it feels like a job interview. I don’t ask men this, so I expect the same. How about we just get to know each other the old fashioned way?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 08:02 PM
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What I appreciate about good men is their strong and supportive nature. They help me to challenge myself and don’t go super easy on me so that I can improve and become stronger. This is the kind of interactions I have with some of the men in my boxing/Muay Thai classes and also with my boss, who I have a lot respect for.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 03:07 AM
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Anyone who cheats is a giant POS and completely worthless. That’s a huge character flaw, and you have to be extremely narcissistic to think you can get away with it. It shows complete lack of regard for other people. If I was in Jenna’s shoes I’d divorce him and just take whatever alimony/child support I’d get. She can easily find someone else. Also, this doesn’t explain why regular people cheat, which also happens on a large scale. Technically, everyone has options, even if it’s just one or two…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 01:33 PM
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By that logic, it’s okay for women to cheat and for men to raise children that aren’t biologically theirs. If no one ever finds out, there’s no problem, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 01:11 PM
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I’m 35 and I look better than most guys my age. Guys past 38-40 don’t look any better either. The ones that look good at that age have always looked good (besides celebrities I don’t know any IRL), but I’d still prefer their younger versions. I think guys look their best at the ages of 22-28 and then slowly they start to age a bit. Still kinda hot at 28-32, and even rarer up until 36. Recently, IRL, I haven’t been attracted to anyone past the age of 35 (only 2 guys in the 2 years I’ve been singl…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 01:59 AM
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Not even a little. We weren’t even dating, and I had no intention of waiting for a relationship for my first time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 02:28 PM
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So, you just want to ignore the hoards of women who lust after non criminal celebrity men? Attractive people get away with murder, quite literally. It’s just human nature. It’s called the Halo Effect/Pretty Privilege. It’s the same reason why if an attractive man hits on a woman or follows her the woman would probably be flattered, vs if an unattractive man who did the same thing would be called a creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 01:06 PM
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No, I don’t mean just look because I think it’s natural to look at attractive people whether you’re a man or woman. What I mean is deliberately acting thirsty around attractive people. Like trying to interact with them and get their number, “be friends” with them knowing damn well it’s because you’re sexually attracted to them and you have no intentions of anything platonic. This includes social media (OnlyFans, IG, SC, etc.).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 12:58 AM
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No one is angry about it, we just don’t want to date hypocrites. I feel the same way about guys who look at scantily clad women, but have an issue with their partner dressing the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 06:54 PM
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People are attracted to people who look good, that doesn’t mean they only want to date top tier men/women. My advice is to stop worrying about gigachads and Stacys and worry about looking your best and being the best version of yourself. That whole mindset of “well I’ll never be gigachad so what’s the point” is holding you back. For the record, my FYP is definitely full of hot attractive men AND women. There’s nothing wrong with this. I’m not delusional and I don’t think I’m magically going to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 04:30 PM
1

Same. I attract more guys now than I ever did.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:50 AM
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For casual sex, I usually get bored of the person after one time. I feel like that’s pretty normal when you don’t have an emotional connection with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:24 PM
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This is because of social monogamy and also women being dependent on men for protection and survival. I don’t think any of this is hard wired or coded, otherwise we wouldn’t see the massive shift in behavior in women as we do today. That says to me that was societal and not necessarily due to genetic evolution. As you said yourself, it takes many years for evolution to occur. Let’s go all the way back, how do you think men knew whether their offspring was theirs or not before paternity tests wer…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 04:34 PM
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I’m aware that evolution is not a quick process, but I was just trying to follow the logic behind the evolution process. Personally, I have no issues with whatever preferences/aversions people have. Dating/mating in general is highly selective and was never meant to be fair. People should do what works for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 03:51 PM
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I was talking about the future. Wouldn’t this trait be canceled out, or at least headed that way? The only thing that might solve that is artificial wombs.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 12:08 PM
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I mean they would likely still be on the hook to provide for their offspring at the very least. But I don’t think most guys want that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 11:56 AM
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So if it’s evolutionary, and the men who are disgusted by high n count won’t reproduce with high n count women, it will be bred out? Is that how it works?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 11:47 AM
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Yup, 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 02:30 PM
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I like how I look with makeup on, whether I get attention for it or not. Most of the time it’s women who even comment or remark on it. The best way I can explain it is, wearing a really nice outfit vs sweats and a t-shirt or pajamas. I prefer to look my best/more put together when I’m outside of the house. I will go out without makeup to like the grocery store or the gym, but I wouldn’t go to a nice restaurant or even work without my makeup on. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 07:37 PM
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Mental health issues don’t absolve anyone from being an asshole, violent, or abusive. They need to get help for their condition and until they do they can’t be around other people. If they refuse help, they need to be involuntarily committed. I would do exactly what the husband did. If I was the woman I would not want trust myself around the child. Hitting a five month old, whose only method of communication is crying when something is wrong, is not okay. She is probably sleep deprived, depresse…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 10:02 PM
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1,000% agree. Dating isn’t meant to be fair or inclusive. It’s highly selective and that’s a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 09:45 PM
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I agree with this. Along the same lines, is it racist if you aren’t sexually attracted to a particular race?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 09:30 PM
1

I agree with this, and have no issue with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 11:54 PM
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That’s pretty sensible, thanks for your feedback.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 02:18 AM
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But at what point? After how many dates is it reasonable to ask that question without seeming like a controlling or clingy person?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 10:51 PM
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I don’t think trauma is necessarily a bad thing, and it’s pretty normal. It just needs to be navigated through correctly with communication and consistency. Both parties need to be on the same page and the only way to avoid butthurt later is to talk about it and set clear expectations. I don’t think it’s entirely unreasonable to assume that people are dating around by default, especially in today’s dating climate.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 04:49 PM
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My ex husband said literally the same thing, so honestly I’d rather he be sure he wants to be with me than still try to explore other options or change his mind. I’m 35 and divorced though, so my dating experience is going to be different than others. Most people my age are walking around with trust issues from being burned in previous relationships. Trust/loyalty has to be established, not assumed. I would never assume by default that I’m the only person this guy is talking to or dating, especi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 04:30 PM
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I can’t establish if he’s a good guy or not on the first time meeting him, that’s ridiculous. That takes time. It takes time to figure out people, generally 3 months or so at least. Even if he’s a good guy, he’s also trying to find the right fit for him, as am I.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 04:18 PM
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Why though? He very well could be, and I have no reason to assume otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 04:05 PM
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Okay, fair, but how does the woman know he’s not courting other women the same way too? Especially early on? If exclusivity isn’t established, I always assume the dude is still exploring his options or still banging other women. Why would I assume otherwise?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:48 PM
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I don’t think Abby was wrong because if exclusivity wasn’t established, it’s fair game for both parties. He could have had a fuck buddy too. I only take a guy seriously after we establish exclusivity/monogamy. If he doesn’t want to commit, I don’t either. It’s important to have this conversation early on, but how early is the question. Dating is a mixed bag these days where some people prefer to get to really know someone before trusting them enough to be exclusive, and other people wanting to d…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:41 PM
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I would have to know the reason why he never initiates sex if he enjoys it so much. That doesn’t make any sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 01:05 PM
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I think that’s pretty stupid. I know plenty of happily married women whose parents were divorced. Also, my parents are still together but I personally would rather be single than have a relationship like theirs. I suffered through a lot of trauma in my childhood because of it. What’s next? Not dating adopted people? If you want to avoid risk, just don’t date at all. You’re in for a bad time. People that have the best relationships have learned from experience btw, so it’s actually better to take…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 09:31 PM
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Well, I’m certainly glad that it’s an option and does work for some men, but do you think most men who want this will be successful? I suppose it’s possible that just being a US Citizen is enough, at least in poorer countries. Also, I can’t imagine it being any more of a stigma than older men dating younger women. Personally, I have no issue with men doing either and as long as both parties are being treated well and it’s consensual. People absolutely deserve to find love/happiness wherever it m…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:22 AM
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Okay, but what countries are we talking here? Third world countries, Asian countries, European countries? Where would these men be successful and why aren’t they doing that? I know a wealthy, reasonably attractive (I don’t find him attractive at all but I could see how he could be to others) guy who is struggling to date women here in America. He has the means to find a woman abroad and easily start a family with one of them. Why hasn’t he done that? The women he dates here are all mostly ethnic…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 12:53 AM
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I don’t think the average American man is a hot commodity abroad either. I’m pretty sure most them envision fat, balding, gunslinging, redneck hillbillies when they think of American men. Also, according to 2017/2018 stats from the NIH, more men are overweight than women, but more women are severely obese than men. So it’s pretty close. If we ain’t shit, y’all ain’t shit either. I attribute mental health issues to a lot of physical health issues in America, and I do agree that everyone should st…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 09:33 PM
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Regardless of gender, people who look good when they’re young generally look good (if they take care of themselves) well into their 40’s and 50’s. Beyond that, I don’t think anyone is really considered sexy at like 60+, but I also think by then looks really don’t matter much.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 03:25 AM
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Everything in life that’s difficult or hard to do is worth it. You gain experience and learn from your mistakes. If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again. Just because our dating climate has changed to adapt to modern times doesn’t mean it’s a complete disaster. I know plenty of happy couples and families.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:53 PM
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It’s not. I was referring to people opting out of dating/leaving because that’s better than being used and abused, similar to people refusing to stay employed in toxic work environments.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 11:41 PM
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I’m just saying that women that are interested are not going to be like “hmm, I don’t know, maybe,” or continuing to make excuses as to why they can’t. That is not in any way indication that there’s a chance or opening. I admit it’s not fully direct, but women do have a hard time being 100% blunt because we generally don’t like to hurt people’s feelings. We also have had men react badly to us being direct. Men need to understand this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 06:30 PM
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It makes sense. People want to be where they are appreciated and not exploited.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 02:37 PM
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Lol, you’re better than me, that’s for sure. Lust is a hell of a drug! I do learn quickly though. 😆 I too enjoyed this exchange. Cheers! ✌🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 05:21 AM
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That’s not a bad thing, and you’re able to do what a lot of us can’t, not right away anyway. Many of us get clouded by emotions. I’m more cautious and wary now than when I was younger, and I’m also aware that coming on too strong in the beginning could potentially be love bombing, which is a giant red flag. I don’t look for big grand gestures, just consistency in communication and the level of effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 05:08 AM
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It’s going to be too much for some women and a positive thing for others. I have ADHD myself and I know it’s too much for some extremely introverted guys. I consider myself an ambivert because I like being social, but I also need my downtime to recharge. I’ve definitely met some guys that were just way too much like all the time and it was exhausting. But, I also don’t want someone who’s quiet and boring and serious all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 04:52 AM
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If you were a woman and you felt threatened by a man who isn’t backing off when you’re being clear, what is the correct way to handle the situation? Especially when you know the man has the potential to physically harm or stalk you. You just triggered her fight or flight response, it’s really not that unreasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 04:45 AM
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Okay fair enough, but even if that is the case, why would you assume that it would work for every woman? Also, if I was a guy and a woman told me “why didn’t you try harder?” I’d be very put off. If I have to chase you like a cat and mouse game, I’m out. How long do I have to keep doing that? I could jump through a lot of hoops and there’s still a good chance I won’t get anything out of it. That’s extremely exhausting, no matter how much I like the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 04:28 AM
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It shouldn’t be a gendered thing, but I think it is. Generally speaking, women risk potentially having a child with the wrong person. I’m not saying every relationship will lead to marriage or kids, but if long term commitment and investment in building a life with a person is the goal, I don’t think a relationship where one person is meh usually works out well. I personally have not experienced a situation where I was meh and became more interested as I got to know the person more. It’s always …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 04:21 AM
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I fully agree that it’s hard to do and hard to communicate for most people because we’re all out here not really knowing what we really are looking for, but trying to figure it out. Sometimes we’re looking for one thing and leads to something else. That’s all fine and dandy, but people need to be honest. Sometimes people just want to hold on to you but they don’t want to be with you, but they also don’t want you to be with anyone else. That was my ex husband lol. I wasted way too much time with …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 03:27 AM
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I mean if they want to make fools of themselves they can continue to pursue someone that’s clearly not interested. Right or wrong, it doesn’t benefit anyone. You’re just wasting time. I take mental health and trauma very seriously and most of us have those issues (I have them too), it’s not an excuse not to heal your traumas and actively work on improving them. Sure, it’s harder for some people than others, but that going to be true for just about everything in life. You have to decide if it’s w…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 03:16 AM
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I actually get bored of the casual sex partners. It’s usually once or twice max. I have caught feelings for guys after the first time but we had chemistry outside of the bedroom too. I catch feelings for some guys and not for others, and the ones I catch feelings for it’s because there’s mutual chemistry.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 02:58 AM
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In love? No, love takes time and you won’t even find out if you’re truly compatible long term until the honeymoon phase is over (generally 2-3 years). There should be a strong level of interest though. At least in getting to know me better. To me, if someone isn’t that interested, it says to me they’re still playing the field or looking for something else. I’ve actually had that happen to me where a guy was super interested in me at first and I was actually a little taken aback and wasn’t expect…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 10:52 PM
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Okay, so how much communication does it take for someone to finally get it? If I’m really being unclear to someone I expect them to communicate that and let me know what exactly I’m doing or saying that’s giving them mixed signals. Do I have to be downright mean or rude to you for you to understand? Do I have to ghost you? Because if you don’t get it, eventually I’ll do just that. Also, guys really do try to climb out of the friend zone and I have no idea why. If a guy told me he wanted to be ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 10:32 PM
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“I don’t know, maybe” is not a good answer if you’re even a little interested in someone. If they had a valid reason, maybe they should state the reason. It can be vague, I don’t need details, but “I don’t know, maybe” isn’t giving me anything to work with. I would just ask once and if they were interested they can reach out to me. Not sure why you that’s a bullshit way to communicate. “I don’t know, maybe” is a bullshit way to communicate, especially if you’re somewhat interested in the person.…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 10:25 PM
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Exactly, and I do blame media and society for teaching men that a maybe doesn’t mean no and that she just needs some convincing or that she’s playing hard to get. That’s absolutely not how it works in the real world at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 06:09 PM
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If one person is consistently putting in more effort than the other then it’s definitely incompatibility. It should match as close to equal as possible. It’s rare but it does happen and that’s who I reserve my time and energy for. If it doesn’t mutually benefit both parties, then what’s the point?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 05:01 PM
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If I’m interested in a guy I will make it extremely obvious. I’m not going to make it difficult for him by being wishy washy. Also, that shouldn’t matter. Everyone should have self respect. It’s okay to be rejected, it’s not okay to keep getting rejected by the same person over and over. If they wanted to, they would. This applies to men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 04:54 PM
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Yeah, I mean that’s what sales teaches you, so I get it. But how many times does the same person have to say no? Are they showing any other signs of interest at all? Why should you have to convince someone to date you or have sex with you? I want someone who’s equally excited to be with me. They need to match my level of interest, at the very least. I’m not going to sit here and try convince someone why they should date me, because you can’t force compatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 04:51 PM
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Umm, no. Rafael needs to take a hint. If it’s not a yes, it’s a no. It’s not that hard. The reason women do this is because we are taught to be polite and friendly and try not to make people feel bad. I still find it difficult to outright reject someone, but recently I’ve done a pretty good job. Some men definitely seem nice at first but then get pushy really fast so even if I was slightly interested at first, they will completely turn me off and I will reject them, but sometimes they don’t take…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 02:45 PM
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I’m Indian and I tried my luck with brown guys in my early to mid 20s (despite being primarily attracted to white guys) because I thought that would make my parents happy, but it never worked out and they always saw me as a friend or someone they would fuck, but would never date and i events figured it out and just started dating white guys. I’m divorced now and I’m still dating white guys, except this time I’m fine with not having a relationship, and just enjoying their company for however long…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 12:30 AM
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I honestly don’t even know why this is news. I’m sure Camilla, and any other woman Leo has been involved with know the kind of lifestyle he chooses to live. No one is being deceived or hurt here, at least it appears that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 03:36 PM
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B. Usually at the gym I go to. I think I’m pretty darn attractive, especially for being mid 30’s. I’d give myself a 7.5/8 probably, I really like how I look and I have very unique features. I’ve probably hit my peak though and it’s probably downhill from here, but I’m going to enjoy it while it lasts.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 08:04 PM
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I agree, it’s definitely something that should be discussed sooner rather than later to avoid problems such as these.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 05:26 PM
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I don’t think either one of them is wrong they’re just not compatible and they just figured that out. No big deal, both should move on and find people they’re compatible with.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 05:21 PM
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I’m not flattered if someone I’m not attracted to asks me out. Probably because I assume they’re shooting their shot with anyone. They don’t have anything to lose and they’re trying their luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 04:51 PM
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I’m prettier with makeup and I don’t feel like myself without it. I don’t think I’m ugly without it just more tired looking and more plain. It’s like wearing sweats vs a pretty/cute outfit.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 04:14 PM
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I’m part of a “Pillow Talk” group for women and trust me, women are equally crude.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 11:11 PM
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Nope never, but I haven’t really been outright asked often, maybe once or twice. Why would I lie to make someone feel special? That’s like faking an orgasm and I don’t do that either. I’m not in the business of stroking anyone’s ego, and I only give out genuine compliments or none at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 01:44 PM
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I’d probably hire a housekeeper to come in once a week, but I wouldn’t expect my spouse to do all of the housework. If they cook I’d do dishes, and if they have taken care of the kids all day I’d do bathtime and bedtime. On weekends we would both help out where we can and take turns doing things. It’s a team effort, and honestly it’s really hard for one person to do it all. I watched my mom do it for most of her life, and it’s so miserable, I feel terrible for her. She has held jobs off and on (…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 05:37 PM
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Both IRL and through dating apps, and they approach me/swipe on me first.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 10:23 PM
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I’m 35 and I mostly date guys that are 23-25 and have enjoyed it so far. Casually though, because I don’t want to be in a relationship. I guess that’s why it works so well.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 10:13 PM
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If guys want variety they can opt for an open or ENM relationship. Cheaters are entitled scumbags.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 12:00 AM
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I’d only share him if he was willing to share me too. Sharing is caring. But honestly I’d rather just be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 07:32 PM
1

A polygynist?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:17 AM
1

Obviously, but how many guys in real life do you meet that look like them?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 02:25 PM
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If he wanted to, he would. Came from an internet meme, I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 01:40 AM
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If she’s into you, she will let a lot of things slide, if she’s not, she’ll cut you off over the smallest thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 07:22 PM
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This is the best advice. 🙌🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 06:10 PM
1

There’s a guy at my gym that has thick thighs, a really nice ass (literally everyone stares) and overall a really good build. Not too bulky but strong and sexy. That’s probably ideal, but I’m also attracted to leaner and toned guys. I have a thing for nice arms and hands so bonus points there. No dad bods. He’s got to have a nice face structure, nice skin, hair and teeth. No bald men. Good hygiene too because that will turn me off real fast no matter how attractive he is physically. I’ve never r…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 05:03 PM
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I’m definitely into the young boyish look (little facial hair, long hair or full hair). I never thought I’d be into younger men, especially 10-12 years younger than myself, but here I am. Maybe getting divorced flipped a switched or something. Maybe it’s a phase, who knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 12:44 PM
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I’m 35 and I find guys 23-25 the most attractive. There are a handful that are attractive around my age but they are in relationships or married. Some celebrity men are attractive that are 38-44 but I’ve never met a guy in real life that age that I find attractive. Not yet anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 12:16 AM
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I love being a woman and I love being able to dress up and look and smell good. Do I always look that way? No. Does it take a lot of effort and time? Yes. Totally worth it though. It’s such a confidence boost when you look good. I consider it part of my self care actually. I don’t have to look like a supermodel, I just have to look my best. I don’t do it for compliments, but it is nice when someone notices and validates how I feel. Handsome men still have some maintenance involved like basic gro…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 09:49 PM
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I’m not where I want to be with my body but I’m getting there. It hasn’t stopped me from having sex though lol. Most guys don’t care about all the things I’m insecure about.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 08:28 PM
13

Single by choice. I honestly really enjoy being single. Not sure how long I’ll feel this way, maybe forever, who knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 09:37 PM
2

It’s not your job, but don’t expect women to fall out of the sky into your lap. That’s what I tell my brother. You snooze, you lose. Taking a chance will always be better than not trying at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 06:04 PM
0

Nick Bateman 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 10:13 PM
1

23- 35 probably for the average person, and 25-45 for celebrities. I’m 35 so I haven’t come across anyone younger than 23 that I would find attractive. The oldest person I find attractive IRL is 37 and celebrity would be 44 Jensen Ackles).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 07:39 PM
5

3, the rest are crap and I’d never settle for any of those scenarios.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 12:50 AM
1

I mean, do we say the same about men who are in abusive relationships or have had abusive parents? There are plenty of men out there with low self esteem that tolerate a lot of abuse as well. Men also have a fear of being alone or not being able to secure another relationship. Abuse can come in different forms, emotional and physical. Cheating and gaslighting and manipulation are harder to recognize than a blatant punch to the face. Abuse isn’t so obvious in the beginning, especially when they h…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 02:44 PM
1

Okay, you’re correct, but lack of empathy is only one of the defined traits. They would have to exhibit some of the other crazy behaviors to be considered an actual sociopath. A lot of them generally land in trouble with the law because of their impulsive behavior. Are most people criminals? I don’t think so. Lack of empathy is a defining trait for narcissism, which is what I think most people fall under. Narcissists justify their own behavior to themselves and others which is why they don’t see…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 02:00 PM
1

A sociopath could literally kill someone with ease because they don’t have any empathy or they don’t see the other person as another human being, merely an object. Most of us would have an extremely hard time killing someone, even if we’re angry. These people usually have troubled childhoods, and display cruel behavior towards animals at a young age. I suppose there could be a genetic element to it as well, or perhaps something congenital, I’m not sure. Also, I agree with you that these people l…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 01:40 PM
2

Why do you think only sociopaths are capable of this? It’s actually closer to narcissistic personality disorder. Narcissism falls on a spectrum and everyone falls on it somewhere. Most people have narcissistic traits, some more than others. A lot of mental health issues stem from childhood. It’s not about placing blame, it’s about becoming aware of it. I think you underestimate how many people are walking around with unhealed trauma and just taking it out on everyone else. It’s like expecting a …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 01:28 PM
11

The only advice I have for everyone is to get therapy, and make it a regular thing, even if you think you don’t need it. With a good therapist it can only help you, you have an unbiased third party that isn’t just going to tell you what you want to hear. You may have some traumas or habits that can be improved that you may not even be aware of. Let a professional guide you. It’s a lot like personal training. You exercise your body to stay healthy, but you need to keep your mental health optimal …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 01:12 PM
1

It’s called trauma bonding/Stockholm syndrome. The person doing it may or may not be aware and same with the victim. Usually it takes sometimes huge for the person to realize they’re being mistreated and usually after multiple times. Like they know being hit or harmed is bad, but the perp seems really apologetic afterwards and treats them really well. It’s a cycle of abuse that not always obvious to the person involved. This usually happens to people who are a victim of abuse by one or both pare…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 01:06 PM
3

It’s just like how men prefer women with curves. It’s superficial and only a dealbreaker for some. Unfortunately, you can’t change your height with surgery.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 02:59 PM
3

I think it’s a good idea in general. Helps with socializing and personal development. I’m also way more likely to be attracted to/crush on someone IRL vs OLD. I think this is true for most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 03:13 PM
2

I was so embarrassed by my changing body that I wore a sweatshirt everyday for two years, including in the summer. Does that count?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 12:14 AM
2

That’s how it should be, but I think a lot of people these days seek validation and attention from other people. They measure their self worth and success by how many people they can score/attract. I think a lot of the time they do realize that it makes them feel empty inside jumping from person to person but they can’t help themselves. For some people, being lonely is worse than the empty feeling, so they basically put a bandaid on it with temporary gratification. We need to remove the stigmas …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 01:53 PM
3

I honestly don’t have a clue, but meeting someone online isn’t the same as meeting them in person for the first time. I can gauge chemistry better IRL and I feel like if I was into the guy he would be able to tell by my body language. Even if I’m attracted to him initially I would want to get to know him a bit more before kissing and holding hands. Most guys don’t even try to read my body language or cues though, so it makes me feel like they don’t really care or they figure they have nothing to…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 08:17 PM
4

Matches don’t mean anything, at most it’s a maybe and usually never leads further than a few exchanges of pleasantries. I used to be less selective about who I went on dates with because I thought there was no pressure on the first date for anything to happen, but most of my dates have tried to kiss me, and some at completely inappropriate times (literally as I was still talking). And for the record, I’m not completely against having something casual, but I have strict rules for that and I still…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 03:57 PM
5

Yup, just as I suspected. Most people here are pretty average. I would have participated if I had seen it sooner, but oh well, lol maybe next time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 05:09 PM
1

Boxing, kickboxing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 11:21 PM
1

Yeah, but a 5? 5 would be average and I don’t think she’s average. She’s definitely above average.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 06:13 PM
1

Conventionally attractive to me is a 6 or 7. 8/9 is like supermodel gorgeous or someone with exotic features. Number 2 does look a little derpy, but I can see why she would be considered cute/attractive. She wore makeup but not as heavy as number 1, and she has styled hair and a nice body.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 05:35 PM
4

I’m surprised people here rated number 9 so high. Out of the bunch number 2 is the most attractive, IMO I’d give her a 7.5. I reserve my 8’s and 9’s for the ones that really stand out to me and I didn’t find any of the women here strikingly gorgeous.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 03:34 AM
16

I agree, my ex was like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 10:18 PM
1

Pros: I look good, I’m fit, I take care of myself and make sure I smell good, nice teeth, really good skin, most people think I’m 10-11 years younger than I am. I’m financially responsible and have a good job. I’m generally a kind and compassionate person and most people I meet like me and my energy. I’m definitely not entitled or spoiled, I’m and immigrant and my family worked hard to get to where we are, and I did the same. I’m not rich but I’m comfortable. Cons: Divorced, single mom. I didn’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 08:05 PM
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You can try group classes like boxing/kickboxing, MMA or Jiu Jitsu. It allows interaction with others. I recently joined one and found out that two of the members are dating each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 05:59 PM
7

I agree. I would never settle for someone and I hope to never be settled for.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 07:57 PM
2

I don’t care that other people do it, and if it’s not icky for them, great. How is that judging?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 02:01 AM
0

It’s icky to me. Did I need to clarify that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 01:29 AM
3

Personally, I think it’s weird and icky to sleep with someone that’s technically old enough to be your parent. I don’t judge others for doing it, I just couldn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 01:25 AM
2

There’s a very small percentage of men that can’t get laid ever probably, I don’t know the exact number but I don’t think it’s very high. Definitely have seen some goofy looking dudes getting laid on the regular. I know because they would brag to me about it. Also, why are you holding that against women? Is it their fault tons of men are thirsty? Just because women can get laid more easily if they wanted to doesn’t mean they will actually have sex with all of those men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 05:44 PM
1

Maybe most men, but not all men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 08:00 AM
1

You mean women have always been objectified by society. Why is it bad to treat people like objects? Are men just ATM machines? Why is having sex with someone using them? I don’t get that part. Unless you’re paying for it (a sex worker) or it’s strictly casual and consensual amongst both parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 07:58 AM
1

If men prefer sex dolls then that’s great. I rather they do whatever they want with a lifeless doll than treat a human being like that. I’ve already procreated, but I could have done that with donor sperm too. Men have competition too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 07:18 AM
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I don’t agree with that. Women definitely have a shorter fertile period than men, but luckily we as a species don’t have sex just to procreate, we have sex for pleasure too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 07:13 AM
0

Women are literal objects now? Why even bother with live women then? Do you hear yourself? You have to be a troll.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 06:55 AM
0

I’ve learned to appreciate both seasons. Relationships are nice when they work, and being by yourself is great too because you can just focus on yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 04:42 AM
2

Right, but why do men see it as a negative? I understand if they don’t have a high n count themselves, but if they do why is it a negative for other women but not themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 02:41 AM
1

Well, I do actually think some men are hypocritical, but it’s probably not going to be the majority. Not in real life anyway. There are a lot of men on this forum that think men having high n counts makes them more desirable and that women with high n counts are undesirable because “biology,” and I simply don’t agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 02:25 AM
3

I don’t think society favors promiscuous men either though, it’s just men that believe that narrative. I do agree that a lot of women should stop shitting on other women (slut shaming), but I mostly see that from older generations. Men give kudos to each other for being promiscuous, you’re not getting brownie points from other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 02:19 AM
1

Says who? I’d say it’s pretty equal. I haven’t ever encountered a man that was even remotely interested in my past aside from relationships. Women can also feel threatened by a man with too many sexual partners. It makes him less likely to want to settle down. Why would women want that? Why would they knowingly want to be another notch on his post? It’s not so much about the n count itself for me, but if they treat women like conquests or keep bragging about it, that’s an immediate dealbreaker f…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 02:01 AM
2

Exactly. People look for people similar to them, at least in values. Your last point is exactly why women are averse to virgins or low count men, not because they’re not studs but because they’re extremely likely to be insecure about her having a past and they project their insecurities onto her.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 01:48 AM
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No one is saying it doesn’t matter, they’re saying don’t be hypocritical about it. If a woman’s past matters then so should a man’s. Why do men get a pass for being promiscuous? That’s stupid. So if it matters to you, your nose better be squeaky clean too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 01:08 AM
3

It was! But I’m out of it now and we coparent really well and our son is doing really great so far. I didn’t plan for any of it but I’m doing pretty great right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 10:46 PM
1

Well you should be able to feed, bathe and clothe, and take care of each child’s basic needs from 0-18. That’s literally it. What does that cost? Probably not a huge amount. You’re already paying for yourself, and maybe a partner is helping, so most people would probably be able to afford one or two anyway. You have to qualify for a loan right? Same deal here. Someone will review all your finances and debt and give you the green light. If you have kids anyway then you automatically waive any gov…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 10:41 PM
1

This is probably going to sound harsh but IDC: 1) Rapists, murderers and child molesters will be euthanized if proven guilty with irrefutable evidence. We put down dogs that bite, don’t see how this is any different. I think it’s extremely unlikely for them to be rehabilitated, sorry. They’re a danger to society and it’s too risky to have them running about. 2) Welfare and government benefits will have a very rigorous qualification process and a cap. If you can’t live a life without relying on o…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 09:48 PM
5

I mean I enjoy variety too, who doesn’t? And honestly that’s fine, but maybe don’t get married if you want variety. Everyone is going to find multiple people attractive throughout their lifetimes, but when you commit to someone you agree not to act on those urges. If the urge to be with someone else is that strong, than at least break it off with your current partner or try to see if they would be willing to do an open relationship. It needs to be fair to both parties. Just because I was still a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 07:16 PM
4

I can’t speak for all women, but I did not lose attraction to my ex husband during our relationship. I only lost attraction to him when he started acting like an asshole and had an affair behind my back. I do think he lost attraction to me though, I don’t know why he couldn’t just be upfront about it instead of literally dating someone behind my back. I had a feeling he was cheating obviously but instead of being honest he decided to gaslight me. And if anyone cares, I asked for the divorce but …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:32 PM
2

That’s a good question but it’s really hard to answer and is different for everyone. There are definitely guys I had attraction towards and over time just didn’t anymore. Like I maybe have once felt attraction towards them but I wouldn’t hook up with them again if I had the opportunity. It’s not a permanent or fixed thing. I don’t even have a type because the guys I’ve been attracted to are all so different lol. Attraction is so strange. There are definitely guys I would never fuck and the best …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 05:03 PM
7

Being horny and finding them physically attractive, them being respectful towards me, and agreeing to use condoms. That’s my criteria for FWB. I don’t do ONS. Hooking up with randos is risky business and no one is worth that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 05:00 PM
3

Option 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 03:50 PM
8

Yup, I’d be fine with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 10:04 PM
1

I wouldn’t stay if they got significantly overweight. I hold myself to the same standard, so I think it’s fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 12:43 AM
8

Just everyday challenges. Like for example, I went down a snowy icy road that had not been paved at all because my gps took me that way and my car slipped and fell into a ditch. There were a few very kind gentlemen that stopped to try and help me, and two of them with straps and an SUV eventually helped me get my car out. I mean I guess I could have called a tow truck, but it was just nice to have that kind of help/assistance. Sometimes I don’t even need them to do anything big (I can call a ser…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 01:53 AM
8

I love the take charge attitude men have. I like that I can rely on them to come save the day sometimes lol. So safety and security I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 08:31 PM
1

I don’t find either of them attractive at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 03:00 PM
5

This hasn’t happened to me, but I’ve heard so many stories of women getting divorced because their husband of 20+ years was either gay or trans. I don’t have a problem with people being LGBT, but it’s not fair to a straight person to get used and live a lie for that many years. I can’t imagine how devastating that is. Makes me wonder how many guys are secretly gay or bisexual. I don’t know how often this happens to men, and maybe it’s an issue for them too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 07:49 PM
2

I don’t care so much about an exact number but as long as he’s not reckless I don’t care about his past. Guys with multiple baby mommas are a huge red flag. No STDs. I’m clean and expect my partner to be as well. Also, consent matters and as long as he wasn’t pumping and dumping women under the guise of exclusivity, then I don’t really care. He can’t have a history of cheating. I hold myself to the same standard so it’s not unreasonable for me to expect his from my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 06:38 PM
5

I look a lot younger than I am, so I don’t know if that’s a factor. I find younger men more physically attractive, and in my experience they’re really sweet and endearing. They’re polite and respectful too. I’ve only had one experience where I felt the guy was a bit immature, but overall I really enjoy dating younger men. They’re really good in bed too. I think around 27 is probably the sweet spot for me. They’re established enough to have a job and are generally mature enough. I’m definitely no…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 04:36 PM
7

My range is 23 - 42 and I’m 34. Though I have to admit, I haven’t really been attracted to guys that are older than me. I’ve always dated guys that were my age. More recently though I’ve exclusively dated guys younger than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 03:41 AM
2

He’s probably going to do some stupid things, but he’s also going to suffer the consequences. Mommy isn’t going to bail him out. I honestly hope he doesn’t do anything that he can’t come back from. I can’t control what he does, but I can certainly refrain from enabling him. Also, he can play with toy guns when he’s old enough to understand that they are just for fun and the real thing can actually hurt people. I support the right to bear arms (responsibly, of course).
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 01:05 AM
1

What I mean is that there are the lot of people who excuse or dismiss certain behavior from boys/men because they think it can’t be helped…because testosterone. Like there was a drunk passed out girl in front of him, what was he supposed to do? Be a decent human being?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 12:08 AM
1

Well recently, where I live, a high school boy snuck into the girls bathroom and sexually assaulted a girl. This was his second offense. They transferred him to a different school after the first incident and this was the outcome. It’s a bigger problem than you think. What’s worse is that the girls father was arrested when he tried to speak out against the school.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 11:45 PM
-1

His dad literally said his son’s life shouldn’t be ruined for 20 minutes of action…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 09:43 PM
-1

Do I need to remind you of the Brock Turner case? Rape, violence, aggressive behavior in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 09:00 PM
6

Guys can get away with acting like complete animals, which is justified by “boys will be boys.” I have a son and love him to pieces, but he’s not getting away with that. Not on my watch.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 06:32 PM
3

The best advice for women is to be independent. You can’t make anyone commit or stay faithful regardless of how amazing you are. Better to have a safety net and at least be able to provide for yourself. EDIT: I also wanted to add that don’t give more into the relationship/situation than you’re getting in return. I’ve learned to only give people the same energy I’m getting back, no more, no less.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 05:24 PM
3

Friendship, much like romantic partnerships, should be give and take. If it’s one sided, it’s not a healthy friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 11:46 PM
2

This a stupid question and I’d roll my eyes and walk away. I’m on a date not a job interview. If you don’t want to take the time to get to know me you can go on your merry way.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 05:06 AM
2

There’s nothing inherently wrong with it as long as both parties are happy and no one was groomed. Specifically seeking out younger people because they’re young and naive and more likely to do as they are told is predatory. I generally find guys younger than me sexually attractive, but I understand that dating them might not be the best option since we are at different life stages. It might work out short term but there would be many challenges trying to make it work long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 08:45 PM
2

Maybe I’m the odd one out here but I don’t kiss on the first date. I can definitely find someone attractive on the first date but I would want to get to know them more before that urge settles in. I’ve had so many guy try to kiss me on the first date and it turns me off completely. Even if he’s physically attractive it comes off as aggressive or that he’s only interested in hooking up.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 09:37 PM
3

What many guys on this forum don’t understand is trauma bonding. Yes, there are women out there that are drawn to abusive partners, but those partners weren’t always abusive. They fell for someone who was initially very kind to them, then slowly the mask falls off and even when the partner is being abusive, they make excuses that their partner is just having a bad day and that they’re normally not like that. Or they will say something like the good outweighs the bad. They’re literally stuck beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 04:34 PM
2

I’m aware of that. I don’t see why that would make a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 07:10 PM
3

Not sure what you mean by that. If his mouth is not going near my genitals my mouth isn’t going near his either. That’s fine by me, we can do other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 06:05 PM
3

I simply wouldn’t go down on someone if he doesn’t return the favor. If he’s okay with not having oral sex then I don’t see the problem. I’m not about to force someone to do something they don’t want to, but I’m also not going feel obligated to go down on him either. Anything he did with his ex is irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 12:20 PM
1

So, natural selection is women having a desire to keep people in their tier and league? I don’t think any woman out there is saying incels should remain incels, betas should always remain betas, and Chads should remain Chads. Why wouldn’t we want more suitable mates to choose from? I think most people wouldn’t want incels to even exist. Incels are not incels because of their want or desire to have sex, but rather their entitlement to it. I don’t know what exactly causes inceldom, whether it’s me…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 02:29 PM
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I think if libido hasn’t returned after a year something is wrong. She may be exhausted, so maybe don’t expect it to return to what it used to be before having a child. If that is ruled out and any medical issues are ruled out, and libido has not returned, then I think splitting up is the only option. Sex is important in a relationship, but it should never be forced. Both parties should go their separate ways if it’s not fixable.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 04:16 PM
0

Person B for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 03:28 PM
8

I wouldn’t be attracted to the guy on the left physically, so that would never work. He deserves someone that finds him attractive. I’d want someone to find me attractive and not settle because of what I can do for them. The guy on the right is physically attractive but his personality sucks. So, neither.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 06:32 PM
1

Okay, that’s fair. Definitely a risk to consider. I understand why younger men or men who may want children might be reluctant to get one. You can still use condoms and be more selective about who you choose to have sex with. That statement applies to both men and women. Like I said earlier, you can’t force people to be responsible, but if a child does come into existence, the people responsible for creating the child should be held accountable for his or her livelihood.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 06:59 PM
2

How is is permanent if it’s reversible? How are men still having children after getting reversals?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 06:21 PM
2

I can agree with not having jail time. I think it’s just a debt you’re going to accumulate and owe the child and/or pay back the government if the mother is getting assistance because the father couldn’t pay. That child didn’t ask to be born, and unless he or she is put up for adoption by both parents, both need to provide a livelihood for that child.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 04:54 PM
3

Also, if anything there’s going to be a lot more unwanted children and guys paying child support. So I don’t see how that’s a win for anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 04:41 PM
3

I think the women who need it will just go somewhere else to get it. It’s not going to make a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 04:40 PM
3

Honestly, both men and women should be more responsible about pregnancy prevention. You can’t force people to be responsible though. 🤷🏻‍♀️ The government doesn’t want to pay and shouldn’t have to, so whoever’s dna is responsible for bringing this child into existence is on the hook. There’s no perfect way to fix it, but this is the best solution so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 04:30 PM
1

Getting your tubes tied isn’t always reversible and can affect woman’s fertility more than a vasectomy would affect a man’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 03:58 PM
1

Simple, because men have the choice of getting vasectomies if they don’t want to become fathers. The consequences of having sex apply to both men and women. Men just can’t get pregnant, but they can certainly help prevent it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 03:07 PM
3

I personally wouldn’t know, but maybe it’s the female version of Madonna-whore complex?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 08:08 PM
1

Try Hinge. I met a younger guy on there.
/r/seduction10/09/21 12:54 AM
2

As a single mother, I can understand why someone wouldn’t want to risk seriously dating someone who has kids with someone else. It’s the same reason I’m reluctant to date single fathers. They will always be tied to their ex because of the child. This isn’t an automatic dealbreaker for me anymore but it would take a lot of vetting to make sure that there aren’t still feelings involved and that they have appropriate boundaries with their ex. No one wants to deal with baby mama/baby daddy drama. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 10:28 AM
1

I agree with you, but this is one of those things that people need to decide for themselves. You don’t have to subscribe to polygamy/monogamy forever, and I think many people dabble in polygamy and eventually settle down into something monogamous, or some people get out of a long term relationship and decide they want to try something less serious. Sometimes people have to try something before they decide it’s not for them. They may or may not be aware of the cons going into it, but they certain…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 06:47 PM
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We’re not wired to be any which way, monogamy is a social construct and a choice. It was beneficial for many reasons years ago and it still is and will continue to be for many people. Not everyone though, and that’s fine. People should be free to do what suits them as long as it doesn’t harm others. No one gets to decide that monogamy should be abolished for everyone. That’s just ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 05:43 PM
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I always split the bill on a first date, so no. Opening doors and acting like a gentleman should be basic common courtesy and not a gender role. I hold doors open for men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 08:37 PM
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I don’t care about “gender roles.” Cooking, cleaning, and paying bills are basic life skills that every adult should have, whether you’re in a relationship or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 01:55 PM
1

Define better. How is starting over with someone new better? I think women are well aware of it actually. That’s why a lot of them choose to have careers to at least be able to secure financial independence in the event that their relationship doesn’t work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 09:04 PM
1

How could she? Do you think she would marry and have kids for someone she knew she was eventually going to get dumped by him for someone younger?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 07:39 PM
1

Of course he can. Just don’t sabotage a poor lady’s life and make her bear your children and invest emotionally in you only for you to abandonment on her later. Just stay single forever and enjoy as many women as you want. If you did happen to marry and have kids, at least leave her with a decent parting gift. Don’t be a complete dickhead to someone who wasted their prime with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 07:25 PM
1

Yeah, but that isn’t likely to happen and even if it does, it wouldn’t last, so that’s a moot point. People always want the best they can get, and the best she can get when she’s young and beautiful isn’t going to be some average dude. People aren’t attracted to potential because there’s no guarantee of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 07:11 PM
1

I disagree, but if that’s how you view people, you’re better off not committing. It’s doesn’t make sense for TRP men to enter a monogamous or long term relationship, get married, or even have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:06 PM
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Gets away with what exactly? Unless they’re both virgins, he has a past before her and she has a past before him. Why are women expected to never fall in love or have sex when you weren’t even in the picture at the moment? I don’t agree with the double standards that TRP places on women, sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 02:01 PM
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And this is exactly why I don’t take or send guys nudes. Even if they can be trusted with them I just don’t like the idea that they can can be saved or shared without my consent. He can use his memory like people used to have to do before cameras and the internet were a thing. Call me a prude or whatever. It’s my body and I control all access to it and who gets to see it, period. A true gentleman would never ask for them anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 04:40 AM
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So again, don’t commit lol. If you want to keep exploring your hotter sexier options then why settle down at all? Also, you don’t think being abandoned after you’re no longer young and beautiful is punishment? After possibly investing your best years and emotions with this person and even having a family with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 04:26 AM
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I mean hopefully he’s not completely stupid and knows for a fact that women age, so I can’t really understand why he would commit in the first place. Even if he did commit and he wants out, I think a 50/50 split of marital assets would be fair, and definitely split custody and child support for any minor children.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 04:16 AM
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Cheating is never justified, maybe don’t commit in the first place if you’re eventually just going to look for someone better/hotter/younger/whatever. Would you want to be the person on the other end of that?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 03:35 AM
16

She probably knew that she was being cheated on, but didn’t care because of all the financial benefits of staying with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 12:28 PM
4

Having access to each other’s phones isn’t going to guarantee that you won’t get cheated on. It wouldn’t even be much of a deterrent, because cheaters don’t mind putting in the extra work of deleting and hiding things or even getting another phone. Nothing you do can guarantee that you get cheated on. You can’t control another person’s actions. I’ve been cheated on and gaslighted, but I still wouldn’t implement this rule. Trust definitely has to be earned, but even once it’s earned there’s no gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 11:24 AM
1

Single fathers are not at all desirable even compared to single moms. Many single moms prefer men who don’t have baby mama drama, and/or have to pay child support to another woman. Even worse if he’s a deadbeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 03:20 AM
1

The thing is that nobody is perfect and no one is going to meet every single standard you have 100%. You have to know what things you’re willing to compromise on, because if you want a relationship you’re going to have to “settle” to some degree. What works for me is returning the same energy that I receive. If a guy wants to watch porn or follow Instagram models, fine, but I draw the line at paying for it and actively engaging with them. I also expect him to have zero issues with me having my o…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 11:07 AM
1

I think what they mean by that phrase is that you can work really hard at something and still not achieve your goal. Sex is not guaranteed, so it’s up to you to decide if it’s even worth trying for or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 03:25 AM
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Okay, I think I see what’s really going on here. Retroactive jealousy. Women experience this too. I know I have. It’s a normal human response to feel jealous of someone’s past relationships/sexual experiences, especially if it’s someone we like and care about. It’s not really rational though because everyone has a past and they didn’t know they were going to meet you in the future. It’s something that the couple is going to have to navigate past. Both parties will have to make each other feel lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 11:10 PM
1

Neither. No man is worth an STD, gross. Also, he doesn’t have to wine and dine me, but at minimum he would have to be respectful. Scenario B wouldn’t work if I’m not attracted to him, the poor guy deserves better than to be settled for.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 06:00 AM
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Men get their variety from porn and women get their validation from social media. Both of these things keep people satiated enough that the real thing becomes less worthwhile. I think both are symptoms because if you look at people in healthy relationships, they don’t use porn or social media often.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 04:32 AM
2

Being “nice” is not impossible, it’s actually quite simple. Treat others as you want to be treated. No one expects anyone to go out of their way to be nice, just don’t be an asshole. Being neutral is acceptable too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:13 AM
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They are probably not the majority, but I do believe many people are genuinely nice. I do wonder how many religious folk would actually continue to be good or nice if they found out that God, Heaven, Hell, 72 Virgins, or whatever they believe, doesn’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 03:21 AM
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If you’re being “nice” to get something out of it (I.e sex, validation, etc.) then you’re not really nice. People will eventually see through that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 03:15 AM
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We are social creatures so we definitely still need each other. It’s just a lot more work and effort, and many people struggle with making such an investment. I think a lot more people just feel more comfortable being by themselves than taking that risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 04:30 AM
0

How does the AF/BB thing work anyway? Alphas I’m assuming are Chads and basically men that are good looking or popular and can get away with treating women like shit. Betas are what? Anyone that’s not an alpha? How would learning RPT sooner have helped you? Can betas become alphas? How would you have been able to bag more chicks exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 04:19 AM
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Yeah but all that goes away after college when your world becomes bigger. Also, people tend to get bored of casual sex and start to look for more stable relationships as they mature. What’s the issue with that anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 03:40 AM
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I don’t think commitment is the problem, just getting everyone on the same page about it is. Both men and women are afraid of being taken advantage of, and rightfully so. Men for their money and women for sex. Also, people need to realize that relationships are work and nothing guarantees a relationship (being a provider for men/being a nurturer for women). It’s what we strive for and want, but since it’s not guaranteed both men and women need to build a life for themselves that still has value …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 01:37 AM
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Women are brainwashed as well and from a young age. Take Disney for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 01:17 AM
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It is what it is. Doesn’t seem to hinder women at all. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 12:39 AM
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Just as I suspected. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 11:35 PM
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Well most people that are in college aren’t trying to settle down. They’re just trying to have fun, so obviously some guys are going to miss out. College is like extended high school. What are the statistics for celibacy rates in men and women after college? The 25+ crowd?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 10:06 PM
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Well technology is useful for a lot of other things, so that wouldn’t work either. I guess it’s just not possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 04:52 AM
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I put porn in the same category as alcohol and recreational drugs. You don’t need it, but some people can enjoy it responsibly. It would be interesting to see a society in which these things didn’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 04:25 AM
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Watching the ideal girlfriend on screen? Is she washing laundry and making food too? Supporting him emotionally? Does he hear himself? He said his ideal girlfriend is only good for one thing...sex. What a loser. I really hope men like this don’t procreate. None of them have to settle for “mediocre” aka real women, they can have their wonderful lives with their ideal e-gfs forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:31 PM
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Okay sure, but why would younger women go for older men? Men her own age are going to be more physically attractive than older men. Why wouldn’t she just date in her own age group?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 09:28 PM
12

Lmao I’m sorry, what makes him think women in their late 20’s and early 30’s want whatever money he is making? Chances are those same women that rejected him before have academically surpassed him or are doing just as well. If he’s waiting to get revenge on this line of women that supposedly want him because of his money, he’s going to be waiting a long time. They somehow find a way to blame women for their problems. SMH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:55 PM
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I think it’s creepy because I believe that older men that go for younger women are doing so because she lacks experience and he has that advantage over her. He has the money, the resources, the control in the relationship. I also think that young women who go for significantly older men tend to have “daddy issues” or they’re just in it for the money. None of those are going to result in a healthy relationship. Also, older women getting with significantly younger men is equally as creepy. I think…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 06:41 PM
1

I agree that we don’t know what will happen and that’s scary, but we do have somewhat of an idea of what happens if the world becomes overpopulated. I really think we are just following a trend where nature is trying to correct itself/slow down a bit. Take a look at this study done on mice. https://pdxscholar.library.pdx.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=2428&context=open_access_etds I feel that outcome will be far worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 04:36 PM
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Nobody is stopping anyone and no one is telling people not to get married or be in happy relationships. I’m genuinely happy for the lucky people that are in healthy relationships/marriages. I do hope that if their marriage or relationship were to dissolve that they are still able to find happiness and live a fulfilled life regardless. Don’t wait on someone to make you happy...that’s a life wasted.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 03:51 AM
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Why not though? Why is their happiness defined by marriage or a relationship? Is it because society tells you that you have to in order to be considered successful and happy?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 03:41 AM
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I fail to see why any of this is an issue. People are still reproducing and will continue to do so, just not at the rate that it used to be. That’s a good thing. Who cares if people aren’t getting married or entering LTRs. The nuclear family is becoming less common anyway. People don’t need life long partners or commitment for survival anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 08:44 PM
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I’m not denying that. I don’t agree that only women hit this wall and I don’t agree with 30 being the age of decline. Maybe 40 is more accurate, but men also start to age and no longer look youthful at this age. I don’t think women age at a faster rate than men, that’s just ridiculous. Both men and women look their best from 20 - 40 in my opinion. Then it’s a slow decline until maybe about age 55 or so. The “wall” is going to be different for everyone based on genetics and lifestyle choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 07:14 PM
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Yup, basically this. I also don’t agree with a “wall” at the age of 30 or whatever the number is. Also, I don’t agree that it only applies to women because women care about looks too, we’ve just been taught to overlook that as not being the most important factor. A lot of us make our own money now, so looks do matter along with a plethora of other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 07:49 PM
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Exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:22 AM
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They don’t see the hypocrisy for some reason. They try to justify it by saying “wAtChInG PoRn IsN’t ThE sAmE aS mAkInG PoRn.” 🙄 When men are objectified and sexualized like women are then we can make that comparison, otherwise the point remains. I also think it’s funny that some men regularly watch free porn but get all uppity if their SO posts bikini pics or tight revealing clothes on social media. Why isn’t she allowed to get free attention/validation about her looks from other men if you’re b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:49 PM
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No, it doesn’t count, not when there is alcohol involved. Sorry. If it’s not eager and enthusiastic and completely sober approval, it’s non-consensual.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 01:16 AM
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If you can’t prove that it’s consensual, it’s not, especially when there is alcohol involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 01:11 AM
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I’m new to that sub but I haven’t seen anything that says women shouldn’t improve themselves. They encourage women to invest in a career and to be able to take care of themselves and not depend on a man to bring value to her life. He should complement her lifestyle not take away from it. That’s too much to ask for? What exactly don’t you agree with? Women demanding the same qualities in their partners that they hold themselves to? What should women be doing to deserve the men they seek? I don’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 12:42 AM
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I really am sorry about your experience. You know what they say, nice guys finish last. I know it’s hard, but I sincerely do hope you find what you are looking for. You seem to have a good personality, but do you think there is anything you could improve to increase your odds of success, even a little?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 09:15 PM
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Would you feel safe getting drinks with these men? Would you worry about being roofied? Of course you would be flattered by women catcalling you because you’re sexually attracted to them. That’s not a fair comparison. Women are not sexually attracted to the men that are catcalling and objectifying them, so that’s why I had to use gay men as an example. So no, it’s not just orientation. Just because I’m attracted to men doesn’t mean I’m attracted to all men. Maybe more women and men would catcall…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 08:58 PM
1

Sorry, I still don’t know how to quote on my mobile app, so that’s probably annoying. That’s really interesting, I didn’t know that. I’ll have to read up more about that. My experience has a lot of factors and like many people, trauma in my younger years. That led to trauma bonding and it wasn’t something I was consciously aware of. But yeah, the nice thing about have a shitty depressing life in your younger years, is that the rest of your years seem pretty damn great in comparison. You’re still…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 08:44 PM
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Also about the whole gay men hitting on you thing. Sure, it’s flattering when they tell you you’re pretty, but not so much if they start saying things like how they want to suck your dick or stick their penis in your butthole lol. What if they grabbed your butt in public or tried to cop a feel. Still flattering? What if they offered you a large sum of money if you let them stick it in? Still want to take advantage of them? You don’t have to be sexually attracted to them, let’s say you could real…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 08:12 PM
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So, I do feel bad for incels, but if sex is all they want can’t they just pay for it? There are plenty on women out there making a living providing such services. I don’t necessarily agree with it, but I understand why the market exists and why men would pay for those services and why women don’t mind being paid for those services. As long as there’s consent from both parties and women are safe and not being forced to do things against their will, I think it’s fine. Also, what percentage of men …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 08:03 PM
1

I want them to download my brain/personality/soul or whatever into a chip. But existing forever might be a curse. Part of me wants to be alive to see the future and how things play out, but it’s probably going to be boring being stuck forever. Or maybe this already exists and reincarnation is a real thing, and to keep things from being boring, our memories are wiped and we get a fresh start each time. Maybe life is one giant video game after all. But just in case none of that is real I’m gonna l…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 07:49 PM
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Men have high standards when it comes to long term commitment, not for sex. So I agree with you there. But many women don’t value just sex and many require somewhat of a emotional connection and trust, which takes time and vetting. Would you have sex with an obese woman? I really have a hard time believing men aren’t able to have sex because there are zero willing partners. I’m suspicious that these men are aiming above their league in terms of looks and then faulting all women for having high s…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 07:43 PM
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Women’s standards are super high because of being treated badly by shitty men. You can’t fault them for that. I don’t fault men because they’re mistreated by some women. Toxic people suck. People have a right to preserve and protect their own self interest. If someone doesn’t ADD value to your life and instead takes from it, then there’s no reason to give that person a chance. You don’t think men have ridiculously high standards? We’re supposed to never age and be subservient. We’re supposed to …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 06:59 PM
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Men should improve themselves for themselves so they can live out a good life and pursue hobbies they find interesting, travel, I don’t know. My main motivation for having a career is so that I can provide for myself without depending on someone. I can travel and go on vacations, have a place I call home, not just survive but live a good quality of life. I don’t have to wait for someone to give that to me. Relationships are work and they’re not guaranteed to work out, so you have to have your ow…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 06:36 PM
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That’s not exclusive to women, so I don’t agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 06:28 PM
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Projection is silly because the grass always looks greener on the other side. The problem is that men can’t walk over and see for themselves so maybe they should take our word for it. I don’t think it’s greener on their side either. Well, I don’t think that’s relevant because it’s usually men assaulting other men and that’s usually outside of the realm of dating. I was speaking about the inherent physical power dynamic between men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 05:41 PM
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I really can’t speak for all women, but I feel like the more mature and level headed women that are 25+ are similar? But that’s when our SMV declines apparently so that’s not helpful I guess. I think a possible solution could be men being more pickier about who they swipe right on/give attention to. Men should try to stay in their “league” and I really hate using that term, but I don’t know how else to put it. That’s probably not realistic though, because simps are gonna simp. I don’t like that …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 05:34 PM
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Yeah, well you’re not the one that going to get potentially knocked up so that’s why it’s harder for you. You’d be a lot more picky too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:44 PM
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I see what you’re saying, but do you know how exhausting and discouraging that actually is? Especially for women who actually want a relationship and not just sex. Even if you match with someone, chances are they only want sex. Hundreds of men wanting just sex with me doesn’t mean a thing to me. It does not inflate my ego since men want sex with basically any female. Apparently their bar is pretty low, so why would I feel flattered by that? OLD I think makes people lazy and is extremely superfic…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:35 PM
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But, that’s how it’s always been. There are just more candidates and less available jobs, so now you have to really stand out to get your foot in the door. That’s a good analogy but “easier” isn’t how I would describe it. There are high turnover rates due to flaky employees, people who lie on their resume, and employees who want the job just so they’re not unemployed but then leave to find one that’s better. Let’s not forget the ones that have a side hustle. A lot of resources go into employing …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 03:47 PM
0

What is female privilege exactly? I genuinely don’t know.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:56 AM
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Sorry, but I don’t see FDS as promoting anything except rigorously vetting men, and with good reason. I subscribe because I agree with a lot of what they say, but I don’t agree with everything. I don’t object to splitting the bills (by percentage according to income). Why should women date down? I see nothing wrong with holding your partner to the same standards as you do yourself. Also, let’s say she is willing to date down, would he be willing to do the cooking and cleaning and child rearing i…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:52 AM
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You’re looking at it very one sided. Just because we have dozens of men propositioning us for sex, and usually it’s just sex, doesn’t mean we want those prospects. Also, we do have higher odds than men of being assaulted, there’s always that power dynamic and you can’t just choose to ignore that. We don’t have that luxury and guys don’t come with labels. I’m not going around being scared of every man, but the fact that any man could overpower me if he wanted to is caution enough. What was the pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:22 AM
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Dating was never meant to be fair. It’s competitive and it’s frustrating, but maybe learn to be happy single. Dating sucks for both men and women, but for different reasons. I’m sure all of us would like to find people we’re compatible with without having to vet so vigorously and weed through the dozens to get there. Also, no one should have to settle or be settled for. Having high standards isn’t a problem, as long as you’re not berating other people for not meeting them, or complaining that th…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 03:50 AM
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What about segregating both genders altogether? Wouldn’t that be better? Males catch up to females after high school so colleges can remain co-ed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 03:44 PM
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Sorry, I don’t know how to quote on my mobile app, so I’ll try my best to address your points. I don’t have any issue with a man playing video games occasionally as a recreational activity as long as he’s fulfilling his other duties in the relationship. I agree with most of FDS principles, but there are some things I am willing to compromise on as long as there’s an effort being made to change or to meet me halfway. I’m not perfect either. I don’t want a relationship where one person benefits mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 01:17 PM
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Family, friends, therapists. Maybe mentors? None of these will help if the individual doesn’t have the motivation to help/improve themselves. I say this because my very own brother falls into this category of men. While I empathize, I don’t think it’s the lack of resources that is contributing to his failure. It’s his own lack of motivation to improve himself and do better. He definitely has a lot of potential and he’s even aware of this, so it’s really frustrating for me to watch him wasting it…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 07:43 AM
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Go on then, tell me what more society can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 06:47 AM
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Well you do have a point there, men have more competition academically because more women are now pursuing having careers. I don’t think men starting later is the solution though. I would imagine that they would struggle even harder later since women would be further ahead.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 04:47 AM
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What do you mean by losing men? If you’re speaking of suicide, we’re are losing many people to it, yes, and maybe the majority are men. I think younger people are actually more prone to depression, but I think that’s because society tells them life is supposed to be a certain way and if they don’t live out life that way, they are failures. It reminds me of all the young people in Asian countries that commit suicide for not passing a test or class for the highest marks/grades. A lot of young peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 04:09 AM
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There’s nothing more we can do to help them, the resources are already there. Only they can help themselves. Not everyone will be successful at having relationships, sex, or reproducing. The 1:1 ratio doesn’t mean anything when people are choosing to opt out of reproducing in the first place. Also, a slightly diminished population isn’t a necessarily a bad thing. Maybe some people wouldn’t be as picky if they didn’t have so many options. Nature has a funny way of working itself out. We as humans…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 03:47 AM
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I don’t know. I’m not attracted to men who are attracted to other men. I do agree there’s a double standard, because it’s more socially acceptable for women to be bi, but I can’t really tell you why. Maybe because men aren’t threatened by other women or see them as competition?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 06:56 PM
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Horrifying indeed. That poor woman and her poor kids. I want to believe that kind of stuff doesn’t happen anymore or at least isn’t as common as it used to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 06:24 PM
1

There are just as many out of shape and obese men, so I can agree that more people and not just women need to get healthy and in shape, but so they can have a better quality of life, feel good about themselves. If they’re doing it just to attract someone, they may be disappointed, but at least they’ve given themselves the best possible chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 04:55 PM
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Disgusting. 🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:52 PM
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I’m Indian, and while some of them do work, I don’t really agree with the concept. It makes men feel entitled to a wife and they are raised with the belief that they will eventually be set up with someone and she will stay with him no matter what. Women are also raised to be subservient and made to believe they will be well taken care of by their future husband, and end up enduring a lot of abuse later for the sake of keeping the family together. Women will also marry for citizenship in another …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 04:26 PM
1

That’s a fair assessment. I feel like the same person on the inside, but you’re right, I am more confident with makeup on. I know I look better with makeup than without. I don’t think I’m ugly without it, just more plain, which I’m okay with. A lot of women are using less makeup but I also see a lot of women getting Botox, investing in skincare, lip fillers, micro bladed eyebrows and the latest trend is eyelash extensions, so that they can get away with wearing less makeup. They’re still enhance…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 01:57 AM
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I really have no idea how bad it is for ugly men. I always thought it was equally as bad for ugly women. Everyone wants love and no one likes being alone forever, but you’re saying ugly women somehow override that and would rather be alone than be with someone that matches them look wise? Why is that? I think you have to be really ugly to not be able to successfully procreate, so I don’t think this is going to be huge number of people. Also, less people even want to procreate in general and ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 01:41 AM
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I agree with you. I think people should care about their appearance and even take pride in it, but not place so much importance on it that all of their self worth is tied to it. There’s a fine line between cocky and confident. A lot of people cross this line.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 12:06 AM
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How does makeup enhance one’s performance? It’s not a mask, women don’t change their personalities because they wear makeup. My makeup version of me isn’t some alter ego. I personally think I look fine without makeup and have no problem going out in public without any on. I certainly wouldn’t go to social events in sweats, messy bun and zero makeup on though. I do think a little bit of makeup enhances certain features and just makes women look more put together. Just adds color to the face and h…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 11:45 PM
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I think makeup is different. It’s in the same category as clothes and getting your hair and nails done. That’s just part of looking put together and I don’t think women do that because men value that. I know plenty of women that don’t wear makeup at all, even in the workplace. Other women wear makeup to do creative looks. Most men don’t even like heavy makeup, so I know women don’t wear makeup for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 11:01 PM
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Many women, sure. There are a lot of women getting plastic surgery and ruining perfectly normal features, and they’re not doing that because of their own beauty standards. A lot of them do that because it gets them more attention (social media likes) and makes more money (celebrities). I feel like younger and younger women are getting extensive plastic surgery and most of them don’t even need it. Everyone should strive to be healthy and look their best (for themselves of course). This isn’t excl…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 08:08 PM
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Of course they matter, but depending on what you’re looking for, since looks fade and money comes and goes, if that’s the only reason you’re with your partner, it’s not going to last very long. You need to be interested in other non-superficial qualities for the relationship to last. I do think both men and women biologically wired to find certain physical features attractive in order to produce the best offspring. That’s natural and no one should be shamed for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 05:37 PM
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I agree with a lot of your points, but I think women should stop placing so much of their worth in their appearance just because men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 05:23 PM
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It’s still superficial because looks fade...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 05:17 PM
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I don’t think it’s quite that simple. Everyone should be aware of their dealbreakers and not settle when it comes to those, but you’re not likely to meet someone who meets every single thing on your checklist. You’re not going to find someone who is 100% compatible with you, so know which things you’re willing to compromise on. I think people who have extremely high standards are just people who have been hurt before. They set the filter really high, but as they heal from their trauma (hopefully…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 04:27 PM
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Yes, this is definitely a thing, but I think bad boys only appeal to women with unresolved trauma bonding issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 07:48 AM
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Humans are constantly battling their animal brains vs logical reasoning. Usually it takes a few tries to get it right. Factor in trauma or emotional abuse in childhood or early adolescence and you get more people that are constantly trying to fill a void yet never really satisfied. It takes a lot of self awareness and personal accountability to overcome these issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 05:44 AM
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It’s definitely not a need, it’s a want. Instead of candy I would compare it to alcohol. Nothing wrong with indulging yourself occasionally or drinking with a meal, but if you’re an alcoholic or you can’t enjoy food without it...well, then you have a problem. A need would be like actual food or water.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 06:56 PM
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I agree. I mentioned in another comment in this thread that men prioritize sex over emotional needs, and women prioritize their emotional needs being met first. In a lot of cases where there’s a DB, if it’s not for medical reasons, I think it’s because one partner is burnt out. It then creates a vicious cycle, where the man is not meeting the woman’s emotional needs or withholding because he’s not having sex, and the woman is withholding sex because she’s not having her emotional needs met. This…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 04:59 PM
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Rational minded people don’t cheat like I said. Both partners need to consider each other’s needs and communicate and work towards a compromise/happy medium. This is where most couples fail. Cheating happens because people feel entitled to have their needs met without wanting to put in the work of making sure their partners needs are met too, or simply because some people are just selfish (cake eaters). The problem is that a lot of women think that sexually satisfying a man is how you secure a m…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 04:45 PM
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I think we all want the same thing. Both men and women want stability and excitement at the same time. Both want a loyal and supportive partner at home to have kids with and/or build a future with. Generally speaking, I think women want to be constantly courted and made to feel special, and when that stops or becomes less frequent it becomes easy to seek that somewhere else. I think men want to be constantly sexually desired and fulfilled and when that becomes less frequent, they tend to seek th…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 12:51 PM
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This has less to do with you being nice and more to do with her trauma bonding to abusive partners. I know it feels personal, but I’m willing to bet she has some trauma from her past that makes her equate abuse to love. I’m still sorry you had to experience that though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 02:44 PM
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Yes!! Mine was a covert narcissist which I think is the same thing. He loves to show people he’s such a good guy. Everything he does is for external validation and there aren’t any true or genuine feelings behind anything he does. I unfortunately discovered FDS after I had already left him, but I’m so glad to be here and hope I can help other women who were in my shoes realize sooner rather than later that they deserve better and to never allow themselves to be mistreated or taken for granted by…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:44 PM
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Yes! I tolerated this for a few years unfortunately. It’s called withholding intimacy and it’s a tactic that narcissists use to control and manipulate their partner into doing things they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:24 PM
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LOL, how is that even an insult? I feel bad for their SO’s if they’re charging them for sex. Do they even have SO’s? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:45 PM
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Why is that manipulative? What if she’s saying that because she genuinely wants a deeper connection before having sex? If a woman wants casual sex she will be upfront about it. I don’t think in this modern era women care about being chaste, nor should they. There’s really no reason to pretend to be a virgin anymore. No one is going to burn you at the stake for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 01:52 PM
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You pretty much hit the nail on the head. I think both genders essentially want long term love and companionship, I just think that’s it’s super rare to find someone that compatible with you. Like you said, a lot of relationships fail once the lust (romantic love) wears off, and it always wears off (honeymoon period). That’s where affectionate love is supposed to kick in and keep the fuel going, but most people these days don’t care to build that kind of foundation in the first place. That takes…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 01:41 PM
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I don’t understand these women. They know damn well if they were to cheat or if they were the ones that cheated that their spouse wouldn’t even hesitate to leave them. Why reconcile with someone that wouldn’t do the same for you? In fact, challenge him and tell him you will reconcile as long as you get a free pass too. That’s what I offered my ex husband. He picked divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 11:10 PM
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The only reason anyone should marry or commit is because they want to. It’s that simple. No one cares about why or why not. If you don’t see the value in it, then don’t do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 11:27 PM
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What were the reasons for divorce? Do you have a link to this study?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 09:50 PM
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What does that prove exactly? Myself, and many of the women I know that are divorced are divorced because their spouse cheated. So are you saying men are less likely to divorce and stay committed even if their spouse cheats?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 09:39 PM
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I stopped reading at “women 15-24,” you mean a literal child? Yeah, I don’t need to see the stats... Sure, some women are going to be into men that are way older than them, but I don’t think that’s the majority, and if that is the case there are some underlying issues as to why. Most people are attracted to people that are in similar age groups to them. Also, are we talking about relationships or just sex? That 20 something year old isn’t going to want to have kids with someone 20 years older th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 07:57 PM
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Do you really think all men can make themselves that valuable? Is that realistic?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 01:36 AM
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I’d give the man the boot if he’s spending money, time, attention on other women AND if he’s sticking his dick in them too. Both are disrespectful and offensive. I’m better off alone. Also, I think you underestimate women’s ability to separate emotions from sex. There are a lot of sex workers and women who enjoy casual sex without having their emotions involved. I wouldn’t call that rare exactly. Even so, just because men can have sex without emotions doesn’t mean women want to share their men. …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 01:09 AM
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Sure, I guess you can love someone who doesn’t want to have sex with you, but then why not open the relationship for both parties? Let’s say you don’t meet her financial needs or become temporarily unemployed, and some other man can gift her something she wants in exchange for sex. You’re saying it would be okay for her to proceed with the exchange and pause fidelity? Or let’s even consider other scenarios like medical reasons, military deployment or a temporary long distance work assignment. Pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 12:18 AM
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Right, which would mean to leave not to cheat...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 10:49 PM
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If your partner doesn’t want to have sex with you , like ever, then something is wrong and needs to be addressed or both partners need to go their separate ways. What is this pausing fidelity BS? If he’s gonna be pausing his fidelity when he says so I’d sure be pausing mine whenever I feel like it too. Some of you people will try to find any excuse to cheat. Yes, sex and intimacy are valid wants, so if you’re not getting what you want, just leave. Why pause? How does that solve the problem? Why …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 10:34 PM
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Let’s say clothes didn’t exist and everyone was naked. I still should be treated like a normal human being. Flirting is one thing, cat calling and being downright disrespectful is another.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 05:57 PM
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This was true in my case and my ex husband failed. What I don’t understand is why loyalty even needs to be tested. Why can’t people just actively choose to commit to a person and realize that money and looks fluctuate/fade? Your loyalty shouldn’t be based on those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 02:18 PM
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Yup! He got exactly what he deserved.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/21 09:51 PM
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My ex husband did this. It started as an affair which he tried to hide, and she was only slightly younger than me (3 years) and was really nice to him at first. Once we divorced (I asked for the divorce) he told me she changed and became very abusive towards him.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/21 06:59 PM
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You’re assuming that people aren’t having kids to “help the environment.” Maybe some are, but many people genuinely don’t want children. People who want kids are still having them, they just have more control over when and how many.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 12:20 AM
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It’s one of the factors along with birth control. It’s a good thing though.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 05:19 PM
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I didn’t downvote any of your posts, sorry that people are doing that. I appreciate your input.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 04:18 AM
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I wasn’t actually referring to you in my in my initial comment, I was referring to Professor Dingbat who had previously dismissed my talking points. At least you’re a Biomedical Engineer, and that statement coming from you would have some merit if you provided a valid reason backed with evidence from your research. So the reason YOUR statement is not an ad hominem is because you weren’t actually attacking my character, it’s because in your experience 95% of people (not a personal attack) don’t u…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 03:17 AM
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Right, but you’re assuming all of the clients care enough about the ethical aspect of it to seek out these independent escorts. Most of them just want sexual gratification and don’t think twice about the person on the other end of it. The fact that the person providing the service is all the justification they need, they don’t care about why.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 01:17 AM
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Yes, exactly. I don’t care if it’s just a job for them and just fantasy for guys. If he’s spending time and money on other women then I have no reason to stay in relationship with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 11:23 PM
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Okay, but your engineering job isn’t going to have serious effects on your mental health or well being. It’s also not forced or something you were coerced into doing. You went to school and decided since you have to work to make a living, engineering is what you want to invest your time doing. There’s definitely a certain personality type for each job. I wouldn’t do well as a doctor where I would feel responsible for saving other people’s lives. I also don’t react well to seeing blood and guts a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 10:44 PM
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You know whose wives I think are banging other guys? The ones who are are too busy banging women other than their wives. The ones seeking validation and attention from other men because the ones at home are too busy throwing themselves at other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 08:47 PM
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See, there you go again lol. Why on earth would you make such a wild assumption. I honestly don’t think their wives are doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 08:42 PM
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Mine aren’t solely my experiences either. You act like I don’t have other male of female friends that I’m basing my views off of. I consider both of their opinions and the men I know in real life do not agree with your sentiments.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 08:39 PM
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I don’t hate sex workers, and think they deserve to have legal protection and benefits. I don’t think anyone should have to sell sex for money if they don’t want to, but that’s trafficking and it’s difficult to distinguish which ones are being forced into it and which ones are not. It would only be a personal issue for me if someone I’m in an exclusive relationship with wants to provide or subscribe to those services. I don’t think that’s unreasonable. I’m sure my partner wouldn’t want me to eng…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 08:33 PM
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I could argue that you refuse to accept that. You are going to invalidate anything I say like you have been so why should I bother? I believe that your perception of reality is based off your experiences, why can’t you believe that mine are based off mine? Why do you believe your perception of reality is everyone else’s or the majority as you claim. I read somewhere that TRP men are 1/3 of the population of men. Interesting majority. Maybe my city isn’t saturated with TRP men. Why can’t you acce…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 08:26 PM
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Alright, Professor Dingbat. Let’s just agree to disagree then. Your perception of reality will never match mine. You live in your world and I’ll live mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 08:16 PM
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I only used that example because you so definitively stated that women cannot remove emotions from sex as if all women cannot. The reality is that women do also have sex for pleasure just as men do, sex workers or not. Not every woman gets the feels for every man she’s having sex with. If that’s what you’re implying that’s just ridiculous. There’s no need for name calling. If you’re getting triggered just stop engaging. Didn’t mean to hurt your feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 08:09 PM
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Women can absolutely remove emotion from sex. Sex workers wouldn’t exist if that were the case. Try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 08:02 PM
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Your projection is also not reality. As far as BDSM goes there’s consent in that or at least I hope so it’s not the same. Context matters. I could see why a woman would engage in that with someone she has already established trust with. There’s dominance and then there is abuse. Women are not inherently into being abused, we have just been conditioned to tolerate it for our survival. There is also something called trauma bonding and Stockholm Syndrome. There are women that fall into this categor…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 07:56 PM
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Actually a lot of things factor into attraction and it’s subjective, but I made it about looks because it seems that people like you don’t think women care about looks, when in fact we do. I’d say that the primary point of attraction for all genders. We’re wired to be attracted to physical features that we think we could create the best offspring with. This is hard coded. Women throughout history just didn’t prioritize it as much because their survival and their children’s survival depending on …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 07:34 PM
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I’m aware. My ad hominem was in response to another person’s ad hominem. Someone who can’t argue logically and resorts to personal attacks deserves the same in response. Clearly they have no interest in actually having a proper debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 07:19 PM
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Okay, but men in their 40’s and 50’s are less attractive than their 20 year old selves. Why are they considered more fuckable when they are older? Just because they have more money? So shouldn’t a wealthier older woman be just as desirable to younger men since they can override the value that’s being placed on looks?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 07:14 PM
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Then why are MILFs even a thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 07:09 PM
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I guess you would have to include your actual username. But essentially we would let the unbiased public be the judge about who’s more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 07:06 PM
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Alright then, I dare you to post a picture of yourself and I will do the same. State nothing but your age. Post from a throwaway account. To verify legitimacy you have to hold up a sign that says “PPD social experiment” with today’s date. What say you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 07:04 PM
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I didn’t say anything about character. You don’t talk about the person making the argument at all. His response would have been different to me if I had been a male, in which case he would probably label me a simp. His so called reasoning was that I’m not capable of understanding basic biology because I’m a woman. That is not a scientific fact, and I never even said men and women are exactly the same., I just said that any differences that we do have don’t provide any valid reason for one to hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 06:32 PM
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I asked for a legitimate reason for why they feel men deserve to treat women that way, and their reasoning was because I don’t understand basic biology, so yes their emotional response to my question leads me to believe their beliefs stem from an emotional place and not one of actual logic or facts, because I wasn’t provided with one. I don’t agree with double standards and there’s nothing in our biology that says that says one gender is supposed to have an advantage over the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 06:24 PM
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Why else would they think it’s okay for them to want variety and and want someone younger and women lose their value after a certain age but theirs doesn’t. Why else wouldn’t they view women as equals when it comes to being treated with respect? Why else would they believe that men’s SMV increases if they have a high body count, but a woman’s value decreases if she has a similar body count? Oh it’s not because they’re jaded it’s because they understand biology better...right...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 06:06 PM
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I didn’t personally attack anyone just ideologies.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 05:49 PM
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Lol see you don’t even know what ad hominem fallacy is. It’s when you attack the person making the argument instead of actually making a logical argument as to why the statement is incorrect. I’ve had this conversation with another TRPer and his basic beliefs is that women and men are not equal. I agree that men and women are not equal but that doesn’t mean either gender has the right to use the other to their advantage. There is nothing in our biology that supports this.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 05:46 PM
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The part that’s invalid is claiming that their beliefs apply to everyone universally. Not that difficult to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 05:36 PM
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Irony has nothing to do with people trying to validate their beliefs with faux scientific facts and invalidate women’s opinions. If you’re trying to point out that we cancel each other out because they are TRP men and I’m a woman and therefore they would never be interested in my opinion and I would never be interested in theirs, then yes I’m aware of that. Good thing I know how natural selection works.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 05:32 PM
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You hit the nail on the head.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 05:25 PM
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Do you understand the ad hominem fallacy?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 05:13 PM
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Yes, exactly. They don’t care about women’s opinions and whenever we state something that doesn’t validate their views we don’t know what we’re talking about because we don’t understand basic biology. 🙄 These men are jaded and don’t value women unless they can control them. I avoid them like the plague.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 04:20 PM
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I’m not convinced this wall applies to women only. Women care about looks, which is why you guys complain about Chads all the time. Single, divorced men also lose SMV. Not a lot of women want a man who’s paying out the ass for child support or worse a deadbeat father, or potential baby mama drama. I think TRP men are just delusional and want to believe that it’s going finally get better for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 04:06 PM
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I was agreeing with you. I was referring to some of the comments I saw under your post. Their justifications don’t make any sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 04:53 AM
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There could be a few reasons. Maybe they got out of a relationship and are aren’t looking for anything serious. Maybe the guy is attractive but not suitable as a long term partner (FWBs). Maybe he’s good at sex but not really good for much else. It sometimes could be for monetary reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 09:40 PM
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Sex is harmful to women when it doesn’t benefit them. If they genuinely enjoy it and don’t feel degraded then it’s not harmful. Is easy to feel that way when your pleasure isn’t prioritized by your partners and you’re made to feel like a receptacle. Also, I think a lot of women engage in dangerous or promiscuous behavior when they have low self esteem or self worth, but not always. Just like how some people turn to drugs or alcohol. It’s human nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 02:55 PM
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Yes, absolutely. I think a lot of women have been conditioned not to prioritize their needs so a lot of them feel shy or uncomfortable about being vocal about it. It is harder for women to achieve orgasm than men, but not impossible. A lot of the time, men don’t last as long so usually sex is over as soon as the man achieves orgasm and women are left to finish themselves or not at all. A woman’s pleasure is not any less important, because as humans we have sex for both reproduction and for pleas…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 02:27 PM
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It’s better if it results in an orgasm but I think women can generally still enjoy sex without. What does that have to do with anything? Most people can orgasm by themselves if they try.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 02:01 PM
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Hold on, so if the justification for men not being shamed for high body counts is because they have to work harder for sex (not really because apparently they just lower their standards to get it) why aren’t we praising the bottom 20% of women for being promiscuous? Men don’t have to have standards but women do? What the hell? Also, there’s no scientific evidence that men are the ones that are wired to spread their seed. The ones that do aren’t praised by society either. Both men and women shoul…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 10:41 AM
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Opinions aren’t facts though. I haven’t seen what you have seen, my experience has been different and you haven’t provided me with any concrete evidence to change my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 05:16 AM
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Your perception of reality is far different from mine, so that’s a moot point.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 05:08 AM
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They weren’t lost, you just failed to get me to agree with your logic and reasoning.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 05:03 AM
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If they don’t at least bring to the table what I bring to the table then they are beneath me. I don’t think that’s unreasonable. Why should I settle for less? He should add value to my life, not take away from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 04:59 AM
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Lol what makes you think I’m having so much sex when I just described my ideal man. Very few make it through my filter. My standards weren’t always this high, but I wish they had been. I didn’t know I even needed to have them because I assumed if I was good to a man and treated him well he would treat me well in return. I don’t see the value in having sex with someone I’m not actually attracted to or don’t see a future with. I also don’t want a man who has sex with women for sport, even if it is…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 04:33 AM
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I literally just said they aren’t identical and never will be, but their same basic needs are the same. What makes you think women want to marry and bear the children of a man that not only banged a lot of women but will leave her once she’s done bearing his children and gets old. The only way a woman would tolerate any of that crap is because she needs financial stability that she can’t acquire on her own for whatever reason. Even then, I can’t imagine why she would want to stay faithful. Life …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 04:05 AM
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I still don’t see why men get to have a lot of sex and women don’t. We’re all programmed to want to mate and produce offspring. Both men and women have sex for pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 03:45 AM
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They’re both human with the same basic needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 03:38 AM
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You don’t see the hypocrisy in a man having lots of sex before settling down wanting a woman that hasn’t had a lot of sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 03:35 AM
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I mean men are out there banging anything with a pulse, so do they really have any ground to stand on?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 03:31 AM
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Haha, trust me I know. It’s still amusing to me what they will tell themselves though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 03:21 AM
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Lol I mean you’re right, most men just aren’t capable of being that amazing and if they are close they probably aren’t worth it still because they can’t commit. If that means no man will ever meet my standards then so be it. I’d much prefer being by myself than to lower my standards. It’s no loss to me. Men want a woman that never ages and caters to their every need without anything in return, especially not commitment. Why would they commit to something that loses value over time. Are you sure …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 03:20 AM
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Where are you getting that from? I personally know several single moms that are great parents and have successfully provided a good life for their children. A lot of them only got divorced because the husband turned out to be a dud (alcoholic in one case, cheaters in the others).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 03:08 AM
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Hold on, if I have the finances to raise a child, why is that bad thing. A proper family requires a proper relationship and that doesn’t always happen. Children just need to be loved and cared for by mentally healthy parents and other close relatives. It’s more important they are raised in a non-toxic environment. They only benefit from having two parents if both parents get along. There are plenty of single moms out there that raise their children just fine. What if the father died in an accide…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 03:04 AM
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I never said it was anything to be ashamed of. You can have still have companionship at any stage in your life. You act like people don’t remarry after a spouse dies or after getting divorced.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 02:56 AM
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It’s okay, most men can’t be happy alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 02:46 AM
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I don’t think you can speak for all men, but sure, go ahead, tell me. I don’t really care because I just need one man to fit the bill, and if I never find him, that’s okay too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 02:45 AM
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Whatever you say, chief. I’m perfectly happy being by myself so it’s no loss to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 02:43 AM
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All the things I just listed. I bring the same things to the table. He should want to marry me and want to commit to me because we’re compatible and we have an emotional bond and enjoy each other’s company. He should marry me because he wants stability and doesn’t want to keep starting over with someone new. Why does anyone commit to anyone else? Obviously if he’s not done exploring his options then he’s not the man for me. I would ever be committed to someone who isn’t committed to me. I’m bett…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 02:41 AM
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Of course I do, why would I want to spend my time and energy being with someone who doesn’t believe in monogamy. I’m sure he would expect the same of me. I only want marriage with the right man. If I don’t find one I’d consider getting a sperm donor or adopt.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 02:13 AM
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Good hygiene, well groomed, dresses well, doesn’t have any major addictions. Oh and not more than 5 years older or younger than me, but I have yet to date a man that is older or younger. I’ve only dated men my own age.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 10:44 PM
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Oh no definitely not. I want someone who is equally attractive as I am physically. I take care of myself and he should too. I’ve dated short guys before but I am attracted to taller men. I’m not generally attracted to bald guys. I definitely don’t want someone who is fat because I’m not fat. He should also make as much as I do or more.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 10:26 PM
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I make close to 6 figures, but that might be the norm around here where I live. I didn’t always make this much, I worked my way up. It’s not that I don’t need a man, I don’t need to be dependent on a man, and any man I choose to be with will be for companionship and building a life together. What kind of criteria are you looking for? I really just want someone who is similar to me and shares the same values. I want someone who respects me and makes me feel special, loved, cared for and valued. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 10:19 PM
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I don’t know what world you live in but women these days make money and a living on their own, so they’re going to be a lot more selective. They don’t need men to provide when they can provide for themselves. They don’t earn money to be more attractive to men, they earn money so they can be independent and be more selective about the men they choose to be with.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 08:53 PM
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Because they have money not because they look good, duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 08:45 PM
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Sure, whatever you say buddy. I don’t really see young women clamoring to be with men much older than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 08:38 PM
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Beauty decreases for both genders with age. Everyone gets progressively worse looking after a certain age. You act like 80 year old men get so studly and are wrinkle free with a full head of hair. Just because you can have kids doesn’t mean you’re attractive enough that someone wants to have them with you. Women are plenty fertile up until they are close to 40’s so why does this wall hit at 30 for women?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 08:20 PM
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I understand that, but what does it have to do with hitting a wall? Men still physically age regardless of whether they can have kids or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 08:11 PM
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No, I don’t. What does that have to do with anything? Why would a woman want a child with a 80 year old man unless it’s for financial reasons?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 08:07 PM
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I don’t understand this wall and if women hit it, so do men. I think it really just depends on genetics and how well you take care of yourself. I definitely look better now than I did in my 20’s and I take care of myself better. If there’s a walI haven’t hit it yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 07:39 PM
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I agree, I bet many women working a low wage job would be happy to be a stay at home mom and housewife. There’s plenty of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 11:42 PM
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I wouldn’t say it has nothing to do with love. I think honestly all relationships, whether short term or long term have the same basic components. Physical attraction is part of it and it’s perfectly natural. You could never fall in love with someone you’re not at least somewhat physically attracted to, even on a subconscious level. It’s what draw us in. We’re wired to be attracted to people we think we would have the best offspring with. It’s everywhere in nature. You’re right that looks do fad…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 05:05 PM
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You’re welcome! Good luck! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 05:04 AM
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I make sure they can hold a proper conversation with me first via messaging/phone. I usually wait maybe two or three weeks before meeting them. This seems to weed a lot of guys out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 05:01 AM
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I’m glad it’s not just me. I was seriously baffled at how many guys touched or kissed me on a first date. These were relatively normal looking dudes too. I just got way more selective about who I choose to meet and so far it’s working. I meet less guys now but at least I’m not being assaulted.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 03:55 AM
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