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ladycheri/r/RedPillWives10/07/18 07:12 PM
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ADVICEladycheri/r/RedPillWives15/10/17 12:57 AM
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Genius
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/24 11:43 AM
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/r/RedPillWives25/03/24 02:33 PM
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Your son is old enough to sleep through the night and not be fed. I’m sure you can find information online about this but would your husband listen to your pediatrician if he needs assurance that this is safe and normal for your son?
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/24 03:08 AM
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How old is your toddler? Are you sleeping through the night or is he waking frequently? This sounds like it’s wearing on you and impacting your health.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/24 02:59 AM
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Thank you. I didn't get that far yet, but I cut down exercise to once per week and am losing weight (focusing on diet with Whole30 to reset and be healthy). Also, I have prioritized bedtime so I'm getting good sleep and feeling better throughout the day and emotionally.
/r/RedPillWives24/07/18 07:46 PM
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I've been on a long weight loss journey. I had been exercising heavily but cut it out (not entirely, but once per week cardio in addition to my normal outdoor moving around activities like gardening). I gained a lot of weight during marriage and after having kids, I think in large part because of the portions being the same as my husband and not doing a lot of home cooking. I started Whole30 (I'm 15 days in) and have broken through my weight loss plateau. So far it has really helped me to reset …
/r/RedPillWives24/07/18 07:44 PM
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I've canceled the trainer, so now I will be looking into housekeepers! Every other week would be perfect.
/r/RedPillWives16/07/18 02:41 PM
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That is important to him but I do struggle with ways to show that.
/r/RedPillWives16/07/18 02:40 PM
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I think you hit the nail on the head. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWives11/07/18 01:41 PM
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Totally on my way to burning out, if not already there. I have been fighting back-to-back illnesses which have forced me to do a little less and cut back what's on my plate. It's the cheerleading part that I am clueless about. I don't know what to say?
/r/RedPillWives11/07/18 12:39 PM
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Yes, that's it. He is a very calm person, so it was news to me that he was feeling stressed out. Me on the other hand... you just know when I'm stressed. I will shout it from the rooftops!
/r/RedPillWives11/07/18 12:38 PM
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As far as I understand, regular business is low but he is trying to work on other projects that would generate income. He does handle appointments as they come up with the kids and dogs and other errands that I can't accomplish because I'm at work. If I asked him to do a load of laundry or something, he would if he has the time.
/r/RedPillWives11/07/18 12:36 PM
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He doesn’t want me to sacrifice my job or take a significant pay cut, so I am feeling backed into a corner. Also like I said in prior responses I carry our health insurance which is important. I received a job offer than was $36k less than I make. Factor in the health insurance premiums and the deductible, it would have been a $50k pay cut. I can’t justify that especially when his business is down. He said it wasn’t worth it. I don’t know if I would say I’m bitter. But I am frustrated and probab…
/r/RedPillWives11/07/18 01:48 AM
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I thought we were on the same page financially speaking. We have no debt (other than the mortgage). We aggressively paid off all our loans before buying the house. We own both vehicles. We got into a little debt after moving into the house and making necessary purchases. We had an emergency expense that drained the savings we had left. But that has since been paid off. We also have college savings going for the kids. Also, I know many were saying he should have waited to start this business. He …
/r/RedPillWives11/07/18 01:10 AM
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He doesn’t feel like the things for the house are necessary. I agree they aren’t like the roof is collapsing levels of necessity but my point isn’t to spend frivolously. I want to make a list that we save towards. The kitchen is from the 80s, the driveway needs to be paved (the gravel is mostly gone), we need landscaping to level out areas of the yard, etc. These are big ticket items that we should work towards completing. Right now because business is slow (he has business accounts separate fro…
/r/RedPillWives11/07/18 12:38 AM
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I responded to the cleaning question somewhere else. In short, he doesn’t see the value what I do cleaning wise and doesn’t believe we should spend money on outsourcing like kind of thing. My house isn’t nearly as clean as I would like it so I feel like I already cut corners. I tend to clean as I go to minimize my time - ex. after I shower I’ll clean the bathroom shower, toilet, floors, etc. I’m not a clean the baseboards every week kind of gal. I feel like I have a good system but I could kill …
/r/RedPillWives11/07/18 12:30 AM
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He will do certain things if I ask but not always willingly. He is reluctant many times so I give him the option - make lunches or do bath time.
/r/RedPillWives10/07/18 11:52 PM
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To address your edit first - he left the house without saying anything and would not respond to my calls or texts. He left for over 9 hours. When he finally responded to me, it was all through text which I hate but it’s his mode of communication with me. Boy, would I love a cleaning lady. At our last place we had a huge fight about this too because I was feeling overwhelmed. He agreed to it only on a trial and initially wanted me to pay for it out of my own money. He came around but there was a …
/r/RedPillWives10/07/18 11:50 PM
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I used to have a cleaner but since we bought a house, money has been a little tighter with the repairs and other house surprises. It's definitely on my priority list when my oldest starts kindergarten. I would be happy with 2x month because I keep the home tidy daily and I wouldn't change those tasks. But I can't get around to deep clean or mop the floors regularly so knowing that is going to happen on a set day twice a month would take a huge weight off my mind. I find PeaPod to be so unreliabl…
/r/RedPillWives14/03/18 04:52 PM
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This is a good point. I'd still expect the family to be getting homecooked meals each day if my wife was working full time, which naturally might not end up happening if she was too busy. If she's working and not getting home until after 5pm, an elaborate home cooked meal is going to be difficult. I guess it's possible with planning/meal prep in advance. I find it's not realistic for me to do that and would rather spend my time doing other things.
/r/RedPillWives14/03/18 04:46 PM
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That sounds like our dinners too, which is fine by me.
/r/RedPillWives14/03/18 04:45 PM
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It's difficult. I work full-time and have a long commute, so my husband drops the kids at daycare and picks them up because he is more local. I clean as I go. I keep the kitchen and our daily living spaces tidy. I do a quick vacuuming and wiping down of the surfaces that get a lot of use every day. On the weekends, I have a basic cleaning schedule and try to multi-task. For example, if it's time to clean the bathroom - I'll shower and do my thing and then clean the floors, toilet, counter, etc. …
/r/RedPillWives14/03/18 02:06 PM
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My MIL had my husband at 42. I don't think she necessarily planned it that way. There were many miscarriages and stillbirths before he was conceived. It was a stressful birth for her. But I believe in the end it has helped to keep her young. She is an active and healthy 80 year old.
/r/RedPillWives07/02/18 09:08 PM
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I see it being way more interconnected though. Working full time comes at the expense of the family whether it is a career or a job. Sacrifices are made regardless even if your job enables you to provide your family with a better material life.
/r/RedPillWives13/11/17 12:11 AM
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I agree so much about the idea of a career and how you can “have it all” so to speak has been glamorized for women. No one tells you how difficult it is to juggle it plus a family and the pressure to appear like you have it all together is unreal. I don’t know anyone I went to high school with who got married out of school. It wasn’t really an option in my world to not go to college. So even if you don’t pursue a career post-graduation, you’re saddled with student loans. You don’t have an option…
/r/RedPillWives12/11/17 03:28 AM
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Yeah, I mean I get how that can feel like even more “work” when piled on top of everything else. And personally I have had to work on distancing myself from that level perfection and creating the distinction between essential and non-essential. I primarily find family activities happening on the weekends for us to do but if it doesn’t happen, it doesn’t happen. I think it goes back to our tendency to want project an image of perfection rather than live spontaneously.
/r/RedPillWives28/10/17 07:27 AM
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I think that’s an over simplification. There are things that women like doing like your example but are basically non-essential. I don’t organize family photos and mail out Christmas cards because I have to. I do it because I like it and I want to have those memories. But if I stopped doing it, would anyone notice? I don’t think my phone will be ringing off the hook of people asking me why I didn’t send out a card this year. I used garbage as an example in my response to someone above. The way I…
/r/RedPillWives28/10/17 06:52 AM
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If it’s part of being an adult, why does it primarily fall on women? A lot of my friends complain about this and I feel this way sometimes too. If I dropped dead tonight, I’m sure my husband is fully capable of taking on these tasks and he would do it well. But the “assignment” (for lack of a better word) of these things - primarily related to the kids as well as some other household things - fell to me in an unspoken way. Meaning we’ve had conversations about who is managing the finances but no…
/r/RedPillWives28/10/17 06:40 AM
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There's no way to have it all without cutting corners. I know from personal experience! I work full-time and it's impossible to keep the home spotless. I always tidy up in the evenings so things are relatively in order. I'm not dusting the baseboards on a weekly basis though because I also want to spend time with my kids on the weekends. We had a cleaner for a while. It took a lot of effort to even convince my husband that this was a good idea. Unfortunately, we don't have one now because of the…
/r/RedPillWives18/10/17 12:42 PM
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I hate counting calories too. I feel like, oh just ANOTHER thing I need to do. I see the value in doing it in the beginning as a way to gauge what you've been eating, but it's not sustainable for me. I need it to be more intuitive. And intuitively, I know what I SHOULD be eating. I've just been letting my emotions rule my stomach.
/r/RedPillWives17/10/17 02:35 PM
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I have such a difficult time with dieting because of my life at the moment. I work full-time and have a long commute home. Everyone talks about meal prepping but I really hate leftovers (certain things I do enjoy) and weekends are jam-packed with activities and catch up from the week's household cleaning/laundry. I want to spend time with the kids too. Snacking and empty calories have always been my downfall. Intermittent fasting has really helped me to avoid the after-hours snacking. I seem to …
/r/RedPillWives17/10/17 02:28 PM
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Thank you! So far, I've been working on just being more positive and loving in general and hoping the rest catches up with me.
/r/RedPillWives17/10/17 02:16 PM
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Have you ever read The New Rules of Lifting for Women? I have it on my kindle from ages ago but might revisit.
/r/RedPillWives16/10/17 08:11 PM
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Thanks I’ll check out the book!
/r/RedPillWives16/10/17 01:30 AM
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I don’t think the delivery even matters. I mean he’s not verbally abusive but even a honey you need to lose a few would still hurt my feelings. I don’t think there’s really a nice way to go about it because it’s a sensitive topic for me. If my doctor told me I need to lose weight, then from a medical perspective I wouldn’t feel hurt. I might be upset about that fact but I wouldn’t be stewing for weeks about it because of the role my doctor plays in my life. It’s different from a husband because …
/r/RedPillWives16/10/17 01:29 AM
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Thank you! <3
/r/RedPillWives16/10/17 12:22 AM
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I don’t have time for breakfast in the morning so it was easy to wait a few more hours. It also helped me stopped snacking!
/r/RedPillWives15/10/17 02:53 PM
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You’re right. He said he wasn’t going to tip toe around me anymore and just said it. I think I mentioned he hasn’t said anything recently. I’m just mentally harping on the past comments.
/r/RedPillWives15/10/17 01:31 PM
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What’s your idea of lifting weights? I do some hand weights mixed in with the cardio. We’re talking 5 lbs to work up to 8 lbs next.
/r/RedPillWives15/10/17 01:29 PM
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I’ve been doing IF but had to stop temporarily bc I’m on a medication that has to be taken at certain times with food. I was down 5 lbs which has probably been negated at this point.
/r/RedPillWives15/10/17 01:27 PM
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He has never said anything like that to me before. I guess that’s why it hurt so much.
/r/RedPillWives15/10/17 01:13 PM
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I have such a sweet tooth too! How long does it take to adjust to keto? Thanks for the other tips. I always try to look nice. It’s not always easy around the house when cleaning and running around!
/r/RedPillWives15/10/17 12:55 PM
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That’s a great idea. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWives15/10/17 12:17 PM
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