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| 44 | Why do men give you their contact first then expect you to initiate?“He’s Just Not That Into You” - great scene from that movie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 01:21 AM |
| 42 | 4+ years and I JUST walked the door with a small bag and without even a glance let alone a goodbye!Yes, to historical exits & yes, to extra longer posts- congrats! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 03:29 PM |
| 8 | Introducing my husband ladies ..I want you to understand how as an onlooker- reading this- is sickening. He’s emotionally manipulating , gaslighting you. It will never matter what you’re talking about- or how many times you apologize for doing something that he found to be “wrong.” As soon as you’re apologizing, he knows you feel guilty - and instead of being satisfied, he wants more- he wants to drag it out and make you feel WORSE. I want you to know this way of talking to your partner, bait and switching- suddenly trying to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 03:49 PM |
| 21 | The bar is on the groundI’m confused. Why is this cute? Her fiancé forgot her working hours because he doesn’t listen to her? Then came up with an excuse to make himself “look good” by saying he’s excited to continue not listening to her when they start a family? Nah, sis- is right! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 11:33 AM |
| 1 | Calling all FDS experts! We need your help over at r/AskFDS to help answer personal relationship questions.Yes, please! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 01:09 PM |
| 8 | Field report - too focused on my looks?I’ll be honest- when I was a serial dater and i sent a guy a message asking to change our date, it was because I just made plans with SOMEBODY ELSE WHO I WANTED TO SEE MORE ON THAT DAY. This guy is NOT FOR YOU. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 09:54 AM |
| 126 | The look on his face was worth every pennyI love this story and I’m SO HAPPY you’re doing so well & leveled up! That moment must’ve been priceless. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 01:17 PM |
| 3 | How many times I used to say this 😩 🤡This makes me so sad. It’s so true. 🤯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 12:57 PM |
| 17 | Draconian sexist mindsets/laws that force women to have to run an obstacle course to get tubes tied vs men getting a vasectomyI think, the irony is ESPECIALLY strong with the people who fight so hard for “pro-life” and then turn around and complain about folks on welfare... having kids is EXPENSIVE. They’re never around when you need those same people to babysit or help in the community. You can’t pick and choose which beliefs to follow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 06:15 PM |
| 41 | Draconian sexist mindsets/laws that force women to have to run an obstacle course to get tubes tied vs men getting a vasectomyI didn’t understand. I didn’t even argue. I think I just stared at her blankly because I’ve been living in New England for so long that I wasn’t expecting someone to not understand why a 20 something year old doesn’t want to accidentally get pregnant while in a pickme phase and very vulnerable to getting lovebombed. It’s not like IUDs were permanent? She said she’d refer me to another gynecologist. My mom is a doctor so this was my first interaction with someone in the science field who put thei… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 03:36 PM |
| 23 | Draconian sexist mindsets/laws that force women to have to run an obstacle course to get tubes tied vs men getting a vasectomyI believe there are procedures - “tubal ligation reversal” which can make it possible to get pregnant again (although I have not researched how successful or how often it is done.) I can understand presenting someone with all of the medical facts regarding any surgery or medical procedure- whether reversible or irreversible- but what this woman described is multiple medical doctors trying to dissuade her from the idea that she may “change her mind” and “regret” not having more kids in her future… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 03:28 PM |
| 101 | Draconian sexist mindsets/laws that force women to have to run an obstacle course to get tubes tied vs men getting a vasectomyLet me tell you about the time I decided to get an IUD and went to go see my gynecologist, who then proceeded to tell me that she doesn’t do “those kinds of birth control” as it is against her religion. 🤯 I had to get a new gynecologist. Just kidding, I went to planned parenthood, where I know I have control over MY body and I didn’t get a single person trying to talk me out of anything, just facts and support. The amount of patience this woman exhibited in her story... I probably would’ve blown… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 02:11 PM |
| 13 | Ugh they want us to do everything even planning the dates...I can’t I can’tI love ALL of your responses & SALUTE YOU, sis! 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 05:54 PM |
| 11 | What are some the embarassing things you’ve done as a pickmeisha that you promise you won’t ever do it again, now that FDS has taught you better?• planned better dates in my head than what is offered as a suggestion “you can come over and watch a movie, I already made dinner” • if he slows his responses or shows lacking effort in texting (ESPECIALLY during this pandemic where we’re not meeting up anytime soon) - thank u, NEXT (I used to fill in the “gaps” or try to keep up the conversation, but NO MORE.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 04:34 PM |
| 1 | Gaslighting: Table for 3🤣🤣🤣 I can’t | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 02:57 AM |
| 13 | Gaslighting: Table for 3I think we’re all aware of being gaslighted, but if I were you I’d do some more research on the actual definition. You can’t define a word based on your personal experience- it’s not that specific. People are downvoting you because what you’re saying isn’t a correct definition, there is no debate. https://www.britannica.com/topic/gaslighting https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Gaslighting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 07:34 PM |
| 7 | Gaslighting: Table for 3It’s crazy how many men have attempted to control my changing hairstyles “you looked great as a blonde” “I don’t like pixie haircuts” blah blah blah... then why did you start dating me when I’m this or that? It’s hilarious when they see me change my hair seasonally (if I stick around long enough for that)-but I’ll never let a man control any part of how I look. I’m not here to train you or change You and I won’t stay to let you attempt to change anything about me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 07:27 PM |
| 18 | Gaslighting: Table for 3Do it next time. If they lied about that - what else are they lying about or will in the future? What possible positive can you garner from a man who lies or rounds up when it comes to their height? I’ve dated men of varying heights & at the end of the day, it comes down to confidence. It doesn’t matter how tall or how short they are, if their confidence is low, they will take it out on you- or you will bear the emotional baggage that comes with that. Do yourself a favor and don’t let them waste… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 03:36 PM |
| 13 | Gaslighting: Table for 3Exactly 😂 my mom is 6’2” & my dad was actually 5’9” - there’s no way I’d ever be confused about a man being 6’ if he’s not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 03:31 PM |
| 27 | Gaslighting: Table for 3“Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person or a group covertly sows seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or group, making them question their own memory, perception, or judgment, often evoking in them cognitive dissonance and other changes including low self-esteem.” -Wikipedia If this man is planning with at least two other men to try to make a woman think that his height is more than what it actually is in reality, then I don’t see that I’m misusing the term here… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 03:26 PM |
| 94 | Gaslighting: Table for 3Cross post from r/Tinder - I’m 6’ - ask me how many times I’ve met guys from OLD and it turns out they’re shorter than they say in their profile... it’s hard to gaslight a female, who is herself 6’. I remember multiple conversations of “i don’t believe you’re 6’” —> “wow, you really ARE 6’+!” I’ve even, unfortunately, dated men who spent the entire relationship telling me I wasn’t, in fact, as tall as I said I was, despite government identification telling them so. Also- it shouldn’t really matt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 02:27 PM |
| 17 | Blocked my LVM boyfriend with no explanation. He doesn’t need one right?I feel like we should sticky these links so we can repost whenever someone needs a confidence boost about making the right decision, it’s super useful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 09:40 PM |
| 3 | Not directly related to dating, but ladies clean up your aura. We gain absolutely nothing from hating and being negative.Listen- I 💯 feel you here. I was dating a guy I vetted for a few months, but it was a coworker (and I’ve never ever dated a coworker before, but he acts like the perfect guy to everyone, including me, so I gave it a chance.) suddenly, 3 months in, a bunch of us workers are at the bar, and the girl I’m sitting next to, who i’ve been hanging out with more and more, gone on a road trip with, introduced to my best friend, helped HER get a better job as I was moving on from this one, this woman turns… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 10:01 PM |
| 126 | Men stop putting in an effort, and then are perplexed when you’re no longer cheery, feminine and enthusiastic about sex.This is such a good point, thanks for writing it out. I was in a dead bedroom situation and felt like 95% of the pressure was on me and that it was my fault that I wasn’t interested- mainly, because I basically got love bombed into this relationship that I didn’t feel I was mentally ready for since I had been sexually assaulted and was trying to come to terms with that when he started pressuring me to date him. He stated in the beginning that he WASN’T going to pressure me for sex that he would … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 05:45 AM |
| 6 | No, I am NOT the crazy one.Yeah, I may have been a pickme at that age, but I still had some decency to stay away from any kind of alcoholic abuse or physical abuse. If only I’d been more self-aware of mental abuse and more discerning about pain medication abuse- but as you said, they get better at hiding things in their 30s... I think though, personally, that’s the “peak” because after that all I see is 🚩 for guys in their 40s or 50s. There’s just no hiding anything at that point because they almost don’t care or feel lik… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 05:28 AM |
| 12 | No, I am NOT the crazy one.I think from what I remember it was confusing for him when he was sober to understand why somebody who He thought “wasn’t good enough” for him rejected Him and didn’t want to give Him a second chance, which is why he kept trying to apologize. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 05:23 AM |
| 98 | No, I am NOT the crazy one.He was definitely gaslighting you. This is a huge red flag. Glad you dropped him, don’t doubt for a minute his behavior with regards to his ex was going to change- he needs therapy. On a side note: I went on a date with a guy back in college who was a perfect gentleman, green flags all the way, then after he drops me at my dorm, he apparently goes drinking with his buddies. He then proceeds to call me, drunk, at 11pm, and then goes on a tirade about how great the date was but how he’s not sure I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 08:20 PM |
| 1 | My roommate randomly came across my ex on tinder and he’s using a photo of US on his profileYes, there’s no way I was planning on contacting him. She swiped the other way and so the only solution would’ve been downloading the app and creating an account myself. Blah blah.. just not worth the time or energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 08:11 PM |
| 33 | When you block him while he's still typing.“wyd?” Typing... /Blocked .feelsgoodman.jpg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 04:36 AM |
| 9 | My roommate randomly came across my ex on tinder and he’s using a photo of US on his profileI don’t know how tinder works exactly (I used to use okc) but can she find him again if she didn’t swipe on him or whatever that means? Or do I have to create an anon account and try to find him and do it myself? I almost don’t want to waste energy doing that. Maybe I should just ignore it? Ugh. Already wasted too much energy on this anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 04:24 PM |
| 14 | Today on Spot-A-Scrote: man in Florida rents $300 Airbnb for a tinder hookup that doesn’t show, is upsetThere’s also other apps that allow you to create other numbers including picking out specific area codes so you can text and call with a different number. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 05:45 PM |
| 59 | Today on Spot-A-Scrote: man in Florida rents $300 Airbnb for a tinder hookup that doesn’t show, is upsetI wasn’t feeling bad for this douche for trying to hookup with someone in the middle of a place where the pandemic is surging, but he seemed to make himself look like the “good guy” and “woe is me” the entire post and then another red flag was near the end when he casually refers to her as the “bitch” that did this to him was an absolute SCROTE ALERT for me- I do NOT put up with men casually swearing and calling people, anybody names (I don’t give a fuck about swearing in general) but there’s no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 05:07 PM |
| 3 | I’m moving to another country and started selling stuff in my room to help with shipping costs and whatnot. Found some gems from my pickme days 💃I typed it out there, but didn’t post it because I don’t want it to look like I’m bitter-l (and nobody really knows I’m moving yet) I’m just happy I got some use out of it 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 10:52 PM |
| 38 | I’m moving to another country and started selling stuff in my room to help with shipping costs and whatnot. Found some gems from my pickme days 💃It is- I typed it there because I don’t know how to make memes 😅 please don’t kick me off Reddit! I just like how the font looks on there ! I still appreciate your post because your angle DEFINITELY points out a great reason not to post stuff like this on socials. It reminds me of the cringe-era of aol away messages, where you “hope” your crush or w/e saw your meaningful text. I haven’t actually let anybody other than a couple close friends and my roommates know I’m leaving. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 08:49 PM |
| 52 | I’m moving to another country and started selling stuff in my room to help with shipping costs and whatnot. Found some gems from my pickme days 💃That is a valid point. I actually did NOT post this to any of my social media- just here- because it’s a safe space for me to laugh and show how far I’ve come from my pickme days! The gems are the items I’ve found in my room- not the post itself. Maybe that makes it clearer? I’m just happy I finally found some use out of my past mistakes instead of continuing to let them take up space in my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 08:35 PM |
| 6 | Woman gets her period on a weekend getaway, boyfriend gets ANGRY and says she should’ve just “held it in” and that she’s ruining his plans of hiking and sex.Didn’t even see that part 🤦🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 07:46 PM |
| 37 | Woman gets her period on a weekend getaway, boyfriend gets ANGRY and says she should’ve just “held it in” and that she’s ruining his plans of hiking and sex.I’m not even going to comment on the inherent r/badwomensanatomy HOWEVER, surprisingly, the top comment threads are all “THIS IS A RED FLAG- he responded to you with anger at ruining HIS “plans” for the weekend instead of caring for you while you’re in pain over something you can’t control, definitely leave him..” Her Update: “Thanks for all the comments & support! I’LL TALK TO HIM.” What. #pickmevibes 🤡 If I were at a weekend getaway with a new boyfriend (of any length in the relationship) and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 06:58 PM |
| 12 | And somehow she doesn't see the issueI just don’t understand how a person is incapable of going to the grocery store on their own with her simpler list. If you get the wrong thing, deal with it. If you can’t deal with it, send him back til he gets it right. If he keeps doing it wrong because he’s an idiot or doesn’t want to “help” then send him back to the store and get a new boyfriend. Simple. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 06:38 PM |
| 5 | Sexually coerced?This is just typical NVM behavior, sexual assault is way more common than we even let on now, because when you think about it- we sometimes grow up not even realizing we were assaulted until later on when our confidence rises and we understand how to feel respected in a relationship- I look back on my dating history and cringe because there were so many instances where I let men get away with making me feel uncomfortable and doing things I wasn’t ready to do (in general, or just in the relations… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Lovebombing at its worst: a Case Study😳😳😳 definitely lock your doors at night, yikes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 04:06 PM |
| 1 | Every time I see a disgusting male habit on r/relationships or r/datingadvice and the woman says: “What should I do? Except leave him? 😅🤡” Please continue enjoying your manbaby I guess.The look on her face is definitely in Dante’s inferno | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Every time I see a disgusting male habit on r/relationships or r/datingadvice and the woman says: “What should I do? Except leave him? 😅🤡” Please continue enjoying your manbaby I guess.Can’t fix something that doesn’t want to be fixed 🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️💃💃💃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Every time I see a disgusting male habit on r/relationships or r/datingadvice and the woman says: “What should I do? Except leave him? 😅🤡” Please continue enjoying your manbaby I guess.Not specifically any one post.. I see a LOT of them and this cartoon reminded me of what pickme mentality goes with it 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 03:58 PM |
| 32 | Every time I see a disgusting male habit on r/relationships or r/datingadvice and the woman says: “What should I do? Except leave him? 😅🤡” Please continue enjoying your manbaby I guess.I think I saw somebody post a tweet about how they overheard a group of dads hanging out for a beer, socially distancing, and one of them said, “I don’t want to go home.” Yeah, it’s hard being a parent. And this pandemic is hopefully forcing dads all over to realize that taking care of a house and kids isn’t “EASY” especially when there’s plenty of women that still work on top of that... how many videos have we seen about women complaining about coming home from work and nothing in the house is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 01:42 AM |
| 8 | “You own all of those things but you still don’t have a man.” This was posted in r/trashy where everyone is bashing the woman for expecting more than an Applebee’s for a first date.You’re never too old, gotta get out of that mindset! I love that FDS is filled with women of all ages, and from all kinds of different history & experiences. That’s why I do appreciate your perspective, I think that’s hilarious- I stand with the dad, you deserved better! I’ve worked in restaurants for over 10-15 years and I’ll be honest, even if the guy owned the fanciest place in town and chose to take her there- it says exactly the same thing to me: he’s cheap, not broke! He probably wouldn’t … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 09:56 PM |
| 16 | “You own all of those things but you still don’t have a man.” This was posted in r/trashy where everyone is bashing the woman for expecting more than an Applebee’s for a first date.💯 that’s what I’ve been trying to say, but couldn’t wrap my mind around it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 08:50 PM |
| 16 | “You own all of those things but you still don’t have a man.” This was posted in r/trashy where everyone is bashing the woman for expecting more than an Applebee’s for a first date.I think you took the words right out of that guy’s mouth ^ Sure, we only have the context from the text that she wrote, but to me, she set her own standards and I’m not here to shame her for not wanting to go to Applebee’s on a first date. I don’t want to go to Applebee’s on a first date either. When I was a pickme, that was my mindset, I wanted to give the man a chance to take me out wherever because I was just grateful for the attention and didn’t want to seem “high maintenance“ or “uppity” fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 08:35 PM |
| 9 | “You own all of those things but you still don’t have a man.” This was posted in r/trashy where everyone is bashing the woman for expecting more than an Applebee’s for a first date.I grew up on Applebee’s so I hear you. I think you can change out Applebee’s for your standards, but the premise is the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 07:49 PM |
| 25 | “You own all of those things but you still don’t have a man.” This was posted in r/trashy where everyone is bashing the woman for expecting more than an Applebee’s for a first date.💯 agreed. Maybe she’d be more of an FDS Newbie? I’ve learned to stop apologizing & explaining myself- it definitely takes awhile to get there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 07:46 PM |
| 26 | “You own all of those things but you still don’t have a man.” This was posted in r/trashy where everyone is bashing the woman for expecting more than an Applebee’s for a first date.You can tell this guy got upset because he has a litany of go-to pickme dates at punch-a-card chains like Applebee’s or Fuddrucker’s so her calling her date out hit too close to home for him 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 06:40 PM |
| 57 | “You own all of those things but you still don’t have a man.” This was posted in r/trashy where everyone is bashing the woman for expecting more than an Applebee’s for a first date.So she’s being shamed because she pointed out that she has standards and is a HVF*FDS Newbie and didn’t want to go to Applebee’s on a first date. Feel free to look through the comments at r/trashy to play whack-a-mole with a plethora of pickmes and scrotes trying to shame a nonexistent OP on an outdated Facebook post to make themselves feel better about their sad little circlejerk. PS: I went on a date with a 35 year old to an UNO’s as a 25 year old in my pickme days and it’s everything this wom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 06:27 PM |
| 2 | Lovebombing at its worst: a Case StudyDamn English! 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 07:31 AM |
| 7 | Lovebombing at its worst: a Case StudyI’m not sure about the exact timeline, but from the way most people tell stories it seems like they weren’t even exclusive here. Otherwise she would’ve said “boyfriend” or “we’d been dating for _______ weeks/months/etc.” He lovebombed her hard & fast, got what he wanted and got out. He was never “in love” with this poor girl, he just told her what she wanted to hear. If you’re a romantic like me- this is EXACTLY what you need to watch out for. If it seems too good to be true- vet, vet, vet & wai… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 07:07 AM |
| 4 | If a guy who’s courting you is complaining about wearing a mask right now 🚩 🚩I thought we had already weeded out those domestic terrorists 😑 like the woman who filmed herself licking ice cream AFTER she filmed herself getting tested AND finding out she was positive and how she didn’t care and wanted everyone to get sick with her .. crazy people are a special kind of stupid. She was charged with (domestic?) terrorism I believe- felony charge from 2-10? years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 04:10 AM |
| 15 | Sexually coerced?** TRIGGER WARNING ** Jesus I just read about my own sexual assault 😢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 05:22 PM |
| 42 | My opinion was most men are trash oopsie daisy“Isn’t it Ironic” 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 07:04 AM |
| 21 | Probably my favorite tinder bio from my brief stint on the app....this is the kind of guy that starts talking about why he never washes his hands after taking a piss because his dick is “clean” and “natural” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 06:31 AM |
| 34 | Probably my favorite tinder bio from my brief stint on the app....I can’t get over it. All I’m imagining is the creepy dead stare that goes along with his bio 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 06:27 AM |
| 2 | FDS While Being Married to an LVMKeep reading the handbook, signup for the website, stay in touch with community, and don’t stop working towards your goals. You deserve better & you’ll get there. I almost downvoted somebody’s example of a “pickme” on my front page the other day, but then realized it was in the FDS sub, 😂 so I think my mind is slowly healing and getting more self aware about stuff like this. Even watching tv shows/movies now, I try to figure out what the women’s behavior reminds me of: Queen shit vs pickme, and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 06:25 AM |
| 10 | Asking if I live alone in the first thirty seconds of getting to know a woman is creepy as shit. And this isn’t even on a dating site.It’s like they don’t know how to hold a normal conversation. I‘ve never thought to ask anybody if they “live alone” because the average person brings up roommates, their partner, or their family on their own. It’s so fucking creepy, I can only wonder what his next question would be “cAn I cUm oVeR?” “No.” “bUt u sEd U liVe aLoNe?!?!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 06:16 AM |
| 3 | Two reasons why following the FDS principles saves you from scrotes:😂 I’m sorry. Set a timer for yourself so you know when to “wake up!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 03:50 AM |
| 3 | Two reasons why following the FDS principles saves you from scrotes:Somebody posted this screenshot on /niceguys but I think somebody else confirmed your theory in an above thread, too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 03:12 AM |
| 3 | If a guy who’s courting you is complaining about wearing a mask right now 🚩 🚩I can’t imagine going on dates with anybody worth your time during this outbreak 😷 but I do love saving these truly awful dates and put them in my back pocket so I can take them out when I’m in a good relationship and we can laugh over our bad date stories together. 💃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 03:08 AM |
| 4 | Two reasons why following the FDS principles saves you from scrotes:Agreed! I haven’t dated since last fall- once the pandemic dies down & I’m in a good place with my classes I may consider it, but I’m past the point where I feel the need to point out “givens” for why I won’t give a guy a first, or a second chance when I spot a red flag. And I definitely have far fewer guy friends than I used to and almost all of them are HVMs and happy in relationships so it makes them great examples for what to look for! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 01:42 AM |
| 6 | Two reasons why following the FDS principles saves you from scrotes:Holy shit, what a backstory! Sad to say he’s not alone in his beliefs 😑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 01:39 AM |
| 12 | 😩“No, but I am dialing mental health services in my purse because you’re delusional.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 07:56 PM |
| 21 | Two reasons why following the FDS principles saves you from scrotes:This was ages ago and I am happy to say I‘ve cut any shitty people out of my life. Just giving an example for the lady that asked, but I’d be happy to edit the comment if it’s needed - I was trying to keep it as basic & vague as possible. I also don’t think this kind of behavior or mentality changes just because they read this one thing. It’s SO many different red flags that all point to the same type of LVM/NVM behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 07:49 PM |
| 11 | Two reasons why following the FDS principles saves you from scrotes:If I could count the number of times I’ve been asked this question... honestly it was frustrating. Now, it’s so much easier to say, “I’m single because I haven’t found anybody at my level to spend my time with and my standards are high. I’m not “high maintenance “ as I “maintain” myself- it’s just all the men before “you” were low effort 💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 07:48 PM |
| 62 | Two reasons why following the FDS principles saves you from scrotes:Nice guys have very specific tells - I always had more male friends than female friends and would point out what they were doing to scare women off and how they should re-evaluate their shitty behavior. They exhibit a lot of “creepy” and “clingy” behavior in my opinion. They make normal, polite behavior like some kind of extravaganza because they’re so butthurt about their opinion of “bros” who “always” end up with women. IE: opening the door for you becomes—-> RUNNING in front of you to open th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 05:37 PM |
| 49 | Two reasons why following the FDS principles saves you from scrotes:No question. 😑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 05:26 PM |
| 29 | Two reasons why following the FDS principles saves you from scrotes:1) It helps you separate the bad apples by helping support your gut instincts about red flags & 2) helps you continue avoid the “nice guys” who think they’re entitled to go out with you because there’s rotten apples out there for you to avoid. More on 1: I used to be a huge serial dater in my early-mid 20’s, I’d live it up in the honeymoon phase and break it off with guys I was dating after two weeks when I got “bored” or found a “red flag” I didn’t want to deal with. I was like Seinfeld except … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 05:05 PM |
| 7 | Okay... I’ll stay singleYeah, I remember him confirming this or someone pointing this out awhile back. Just an absolutely awful human. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 04:35 PM |
| 1 | FDS While Being Married to an LVMYou will get through this. These kinds of mistakes are only expensive if you don’t learn from them. The amount of money I spent learning from mine (all my savings when I was 24ish) to pay for both our share of the rent, groceries, and a vacation- savings I had wanted to use to take a trip around the world- that was my price. I’ll never make that mistake ever again, and like you, I’m glad I learned it earlier rather than later- but your health is priceless. Mentally and physically you will feel s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 04:28 AM |
| 121 | Okay... I’ll stay singleThis guy keeps popping up but he’s such a POS - he exposes sex workers by buying their photos, etc- from their only fans accounts, and then finding out their private info, sending their photos and outting them to their friends and family to make them “quit” because he thinks he’s “helping them.” Seriously, fuck this guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 03:46 AM |
| 21 | FDS While Being Married to an LVMI’m so sorry you’re dealing with all of these things, but I’m glad to read you are pushing yourself to level up and eventually move on. I urge you to understand the possible ramifications of staying with a LVM because you feel you’re not ready yet and are waiting for a “last straw” to push you out the door. If you continue leveling up while still in the relationship he may start to give you proper attention again. You need to remember to stay true to who you are. Just because it seems like he’s … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 05:23 AM |
| 21 | A new low for NVM- suing twitch because he can’t stop masturbating to streamers causing him physical ailments. /facepalmIt did sound too ridiculous for a reasonable lawyer to take his case. That lawyer would never be able to walk into another courtroom without everyone in the room thinking the exact same thing. YIKES. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 03:56 AM |
| 13 | Men subtly joking you do little workPublic service work is mentally exhausting. Being a bus driver can be mentally exhausting. Being a social worker can be mentally exhausting. Being a therapist in a hospital as opposed to a private practice is most certainly mentally exhausting. It is a red flag for me if a partner doesn’t understand the amount of mental gymnastics involved in compartmentalizing your work days - and the fact that you are doing a public service and receiving less pay - should be viewed as a selfless act, not a stu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/20 02:45 AM |
| 39 | Men only take me seriously when I look “hot”Honestly- the NUMBER of men who have said out loud to women over the last 100+ years “I really prefer you in this natural look” WHILE YOU’RE WEARING MAKEUP makes me doubt 💯percent that they have NO FUCKING CLUE about how MUCH makeup you need to look like you’re wearing NONE AT ALL while looking SO GOOD we’re all fucking wizards and this is the longest con known to man. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 05:44 AM |
| 4 | Relationship issueThere’s a few posts regarding this specific issue a little higher up today (in case you want more reassurance regarding this issue.) All of the comments are saying that: 1) Red Flag 2) you’ve told him something he does makes you uncomfortable or upset 50x 3) Are you okay with continuing to ask him to stop this behavior which he’s clearly not stopping for the rest of your life? 4) Drop him - he’s only going to get more defensive, proceed to gaslight you saying it’s all in your head or saying it’s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 03:39 PM |
| 41 | Evolution Supports Generous MenI’m only laughing because the poor author’s name is R. Kelly. 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 05:01 AM |
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