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LIES MEN TELLladylabrys/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 10:56 PM
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Yes. Choking (technically strangulation since it happens outside the neck not in it) during sex is both really dangerous and a predictor of abuse and even homicide. https://www.strangulationtraininginstitute.com/all-abusers-are-not-equal-new-ipv-research-reveals-an-indicator-of-deadly-abuse/ According to the Training Institute on Strangulation Prevention, “A woman who has suffered a nonfatal strangulation incident with her intimate partner is 750% more likely to be killed by the same perpetrator…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 08:41 AM
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Preach sis. I'm so glad you got away from him safely. An angry man using violence is an intimidation tactic. He's saying "This could be you if I don't get my way." Off the top of my mind the signs a relationship will become physically abusive: Throwing, kicking, or punching inanimate objects Slamming doors Blocking your path or trapping you Breaking things Posing like he's going to punch or slap Signs it's already physically abusive and it's going to get worse: Physically restraining, grabbing, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 01:23 AM
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You're 100% right, the root reason women wear make up is we have been collectively sold the two lies that beauty is our only asset, and we are ugly. I used to wear make up daily but after a lot of self reflection and studying feminism I stopped. I have a rule for myself: when it comes to beauty rituals, if men are not EXPECTED to do the same ritual I don't do it. (As in, if a male CEO would not be expected wear make up/heels to his important board meeting than I don't either.) That said, I do ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 09:05 AM
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I was about to say the same thing!! Friends, or like, second cousins????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 05:52 PM
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It's a combination of male entitlement and almost no consequences. If a man gets a woman pregnant and he really doesn't want to be involved, he can just bail. Women don't have that luxury, we HAVE to deal with it with or without the man who did it. And just like men who refuse to take the trash out until their wife has asked them over and over, you better believe these men won't wear a condom until you badger them to do so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 12:34 AM
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There's a reason why the "fun" feminist is the only one that is supported by men at large. The "fun" feminist has "eye liner sharp enough to stab the patriarchy" (men benefit), is sex-posi and kink friendly (men benefit), goes 50:50 (men benefit), and praises and coddles men who do the bare minimum like talk about their feelings (men benefit). Feminists who focus on women's independence and safety first and foremost are hated by men. We're called prudes, ugly, misandrists, sexists, for committin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 12:12 AM
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Well said. The anti-porn sentiments already were very popular on a particular anti masturbation subreddit (which already shows that these men can't separate masturbation from porn), and the men on those threads are SO misogynistic and they hate hate hate women. They talk about women like they are evil demonic temptresses that cannot be trusted. As if the porn industry isn't controlled and perpetuated by men! You can take man from the misogyny but you can't take the misogyny from the man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 10:01 AM
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Spoken like an entitled man who sees women as commodities and not a fellow human equal to him. That said, I'm confident that his gf can do better if he's talking about her like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 09:52 AM
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This is like, some sort of next level "stringing along" evil strat. Women will stay with men for "potential" and nothing says (unfulfilled) potential like a ring he might (but won't) give her. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 10:15 AM
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Totally agree! Sorry I misinterpreted your comment earlier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 09:16 AM
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Frankly I don't think we need to protect teenager's "right" to marry each other. They have to wait to vote, drink, and rent a car, they can wait to get married too. I actually disagree with op, I think the age of consent mostly benefits pedophilia. I've seen way more gross age gap relationships than teen weddings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 05:55 PM
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I see the pixie cut made it in! Thank you these are awesome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 06:55 PM
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I love your art so much! Every time I see it I upvote right away! These are beautiful, great work~ My only request is short pixie cut hair if you want to include it. 😊✂️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 01:34 AM
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I've seen this video before and I'm glad it's been reposted. It was such a wake up call to see that men do not not think of us women the way we view them. I think it's because we women consider men as equals, but most men see us as lesser than them: they can't truly be friends because they don't respect us. They have the same amount of respect for us that a cat has for a mouse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 01:26 AM
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Trust your gut and switch doctors if you can! I unfortunately had breast cancer which meant I suddenly had to meet with TONS of doctors, and unfortunately most of them were male. That included my radiologist and oncologist who gave me the creeps (they both seemed a little too eager to check my breasts...). But my mammogram/ultrasound doctor didn't give me any bad vibes at all, which was nice. Encouraging you to have kids is definitely inappropriate behavior from a doctor!! Especially in such a n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 08:12 PM
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Whenever I hear "he's good on paper..." I know the man is trash! He's only good on "paper" because the negative and toxic traits aren't written on it! 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 10:37 AM
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Oh my god, curly hair is delicate af and yes, using a low ply absorbent towel makes a HUGE difference. Let's be real though. This isn't about the towel. This is about respect, or rather the lack of respect he has for her. Sneakily going behind her back and taking something from her is a RED FLAG. If he is going to be so insidious and controlling to get his way over a fucking towel than she is going to be in deep shit when he decides he wants (or doesn't want) kids, doesn't approve of her job, ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 06:09 PM
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Not me, but a friend of mine had a husband (now ex-husband) who would have a "panic attack" when she would very delicately ask him to look for a job. He would punish her with a tantrum/meltdown anytime she did anything he didn't like. Remember, mental illness does not make someone abusive. It's also not an excuse to be abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 10:41 PM
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All abusive relationships have good times mixed in. After all, you wouldn't have been with him if it was always bad! But the good times come with a price that isn't worth it! You deserve to be treated well with no bad trade offs. He is trying to manipulate you. This is because he has everything to gain by coercing you back. You, however, have everything to lose if you go back to him. Now that you escaped, don't re-enter his web!! You can do this, you're going to be okay!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 10:16 PM
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Same. I swipe left on women who use that word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 07:53 AM
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She doesn't have an onlyfans or sell nudes. She's one of the most successful game streamers and men HATE that she doesn't sell her body to them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 12:09 AM
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When men destroy your property, slam doors, throw things, etc, the message is: this is what I could do to you . It's a threat and it often precedes assault/ domestic violence. (Source: "why does he do that" by Lundy Bancroft) Women are told we need to reject men "gently" but also we need to "be more firm". Unfortunately, both come with consequences. It's a trap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 04:49 PM
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The reason she feels "uncomfortable" with men paying is because men often feel they are owed sex if they pay for dinner. If she established her boundaries and made it clear that she owes men nothing and they need to impress her, she would not feel uncomfortable with her date covering the check. This is so hard to watch because even though she's clearly upset, she keeps dismissing it and even calls him "smart" for taking advantage of her!!! 😱😱😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 07:23 PM
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Don't underestimate how many gay men are misogynists and look down on women. Hell, the terms f** hag and fruit fly came from male gay communities to describe women who befriend gay men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 07:18 AM
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Clearly she just needed to fire up the old time machine so he could get his misogynistic creepy hands on the young version of her. /s But seriously, I will never understand how men can get jealous for the young past version of women they are currently dating. Clearly he sees her as an object past it's freshness rating and not a person full of experiences and a bright future. Kick him out!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 01:42 AM
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Statistically speaking, most men under the age of 30-ish have been masturbating to porn since they have been physically able to. They've made it a part of their sexuality and they don't know how to get off with out it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 11:53 PM
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Just like with online dating apps and women who get in free to bars/clubs, we are the product. The fact that we are paying just to be "introduced" to other paying men adds insult to injury.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 11:33 PM
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I feel like Gen X-ers and some older millennials are completely out of touch with what porn is these days. But the younger women know how barbaric it's become and are fucking sick of being expected to be "positive" about being brutalized and degraded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 11:29 PM
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God!! What a miserable and embarrassing wedding, he clearly doesn't respect her! And she doesn't respect herself! I hope an annulment is in the near future... I have a similar story though not as bad as yours. A friend of mine got married to her boyfriend after 7 years of tearfully "communicating" that she wanted to get married. He loudly proclaimed how much he detested weddings and they split the labor in that he planned the bar menu and she did literally EVERYTHING else. She owns her own busin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 11:24 PM
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The concept of "forever girlfriend", aka: if a relationship is over 3 years with no ring (give or take, exceptions are made for college age kids), then he is keeping an eye out for someone better to come along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 02:15 AM
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Unfortunately therapy is a job that attracts power tripping abusers. It's a job that gives you power over vulnerable people, and that goes double for the dynamic between men and women. Of course there are plenty of therapists that sincerely want only the best for their patients, but tragically that is not ALWAYS the case. Just like with dating, always vet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 11:42 PM
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Great words of wisdom from your mother. The lightbulb for me was that so much of bdsm defense goes on and on how the sub likes being hurt. But that's to distract from the fact that bdsm is REALLY for men that get boners from hitting women and making them cry. What kind of demented person gets aroused by inflicting pain on someone they allegedly "love"?? Can you imagine looking at your significant other and thinking "it would be so hot to beat them black and blue" ??? Awful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 09:06 PM
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Are you me??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 07:49 AM
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I saw this vid earlier. She's not wearing heels, she's wearing FLAT SANDALS 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 10:38 PM
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The only 50/50 that works 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 07:51 AM
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AAAHHHH nightmare!! And I thought it was bad that my friend waited 7 years for marriage! Her man-child now-husband is the same parasite he always has been, just draining her emotional and financial resources while he does nothing but drink and play video games. Marriage is not the answer when the man is LV!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 10:14 PM
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This is what we call "the patriarchy backfiring on men." The patriarchy considers women weak and worthless. So men who exhibit "woman-like" traits are also considered weak and worthless. Shaming feminine men is an extension of shaming women. It is not feminism's job to fix problems that affect men that THEY created. A side effect of feminism would be respect for women and with it, respect for feminine men too. But men won't let us because they benefit from the patriarchy too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 09:54 PM
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What kills me is that liberal feminism started out alright. Back in the day it was focused on ending the shaming of sexually active women, giving women access to reproductive healthcare, and insisting on sexual consent. Then, "No means no" quickly turned into "Yes means you're cool and feminist so always say yes! Don't kink shame!" And now we have a whole young generation of girls being groomed into accepting being treated like objects because emPoWeRmEnT. They are taught that SEXUAL submission …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 09:50 PM
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I agree whole heartedly! Patriarchal religions were made by men and are used to control women, and Christianity is no exception. Same as you, I used to be very religious. Now I look back and see the Bible for what it is: written by men who had multiple underage wives, controlled, scorned, raped, and stoned women. Men created god in THEIR image, not the other way around. "Forgiveness" is another concept that is used to control women in religion. I have seen so many women who feel like they have t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 08:51 PM
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I think this is a great reply to see how they respond, but make sure you aren't making any "deals". There are some men who are willing to put up with something so they are "allowed" to then do it to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 08:13 PM
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Translation: "My porn addiction is ruining my life. Is there anyone out there who will have sex with me anyway?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 08:08 PM
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When a man says "I'd like to date someone I'm attracted too" no one tries to talk him out of it. In fact, that's a given considering most men value physical attraction above anything else. It's only women that are expected to fake attraction towards men they have no physical interest in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:53 PM
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Ugh this Jared guy (plus the other men in this youth group) had his pedo rape technique perfected to a T. What a disgusting monster! His cool guy "probably gay" good Christian persona was all a front to manipulate CHILDREN and sexually abuse them. Awful awful awful! You were one of many victims and it is not your fault, you were completely unequipped to handle this horrible man and situation. This gets me thinking though, we need women to lead these youth groups so they can teach girls not to tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:37 PM
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Her brother is (or was) dating a woman who looked freakishly similar to Billie. Red flags everywhere. Something isn't right with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 06:54 PM
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I learned from someone who left bdsm that "spank" is another euphemism. Normal people think of it as a slap on the ass, but in bdsm a spanking is hitting the sub (almost always a woman) in areas that are usually covered by clothes until she's black and blue. Usually the goal is to make her cry and unable sit normally afterwards. Usually an instrument like a paddle or switch is used (can't have the man hurting his hand after all). If she taps out she's shamed for being a bad sub and disappointing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 10:28 PM
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I feel like if a man says he likes anime the chance of him being a pedophile (or has pedophilic preferences) shoots way up. Anime is constantly sexualizing girls in school uniforms as the norm. Add on the sexualization of baby talk, childish behavior, child like proportions, and how so many angles focus on boobs, butts, and thighs, it's male-gaze everywhere. (And this is just mainstream stuff, I'm not even talking about hentai which gets away with depicting the most depraved shit imaginable to g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 07:37 PM
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Thank you for saying it! On the one hand I get that the tiktok algorithm is showing make-up videos to make-up fans that might need to hear these hot takes, but it really seems hypocritical. These women are (weakly) criticizing the patriarchy while actively participating in it. The make up industry is run by men with a business model that tells women they are ugly by default. The industry benefits men and hurts women by raising the beauty standard for women to levels unobtainable naturally. Not t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 05:42 PM
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This was me in high school. I really struggled to find men attractive, and I felt like I could identify men/boys who were objectively handsome, but I still didn't think they were attractive. Turns out I was a very closeted lesbian. 😆 I wish you the best of luck though! You're already on a great track by keeping those standards high! You're still young and you'll figure it out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 01:09 AM
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Good recap! This is also why therapy won't make an abuser stop abusing. The benefits of being abusive (which you summarized so nicely), are too good for the abuser to resist. Only an abuser rehab program has any chance of success, and even that is slim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:14 PM
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This is when the kinksters flood the chat with "he's a bad Dom! REAL Dom's always respect safe words!" But the truth is, THIS is what real bdsm is like. This is end game: ignoring safe words and shaming women for not being "good" enough subs. This woman needs to escape asap. What kind of monster is aroused by women crying in pain??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:34 AM
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I think we are screwed no matter what she we are. Girls spend a good portion of their girlhood trying to look like women: dressing in heels and bikinis, wearing make up, trying to make their breasts bigger... We are taught that being a girl is lacking. And then the next thing you know you're older and expected to stay looking like a girl. Shaving every body hair off before it gets more than a few mm long, stressing out over wrinkles, hiding grey hairs, lying about your age... To this Patriarchal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:33 AM
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I've seen enough shit that I'm convinced that porn addicted men have reprogrammed their brains to the point where they aren't aroused by women anymore, they are aroused by degradation, kinks, and disembodied body parts (boobs, butts, feet, hairless vulvas, etc).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 08:57 PM
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If you hear a man saying this, RUN. "post nut clarity" is either the shadow of his conscience telling him he's fucked up for masturbating to abused women, OR him admitting that he hates women when he's not using them for sex. ☣️ There is a term for the feeling after healthy sex: AFTER GLOW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 08:44 PM
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You said it! Your post reminded me: male suicide rates include murder-suicides, a crime disproportionately committed by men that almost always includes a female victim! https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder%E2%80%93suicide https://amp.tennessean.com/amp/1676431002
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:53 PM
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It's not the first month, the recruiters take 5% for the first year! Add OF's cut of 20% (!!!) then taxes... (I can't speak for other countries but US federal taxes are about 30%...) Edit: Fixed typo (off ➡️ of)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:18 PM
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I don't have the full quote by Malcolm X on hand so I'll summarize. Segregation is when an oppressor controls the oppressed spaces. He used the example of Black neighborhoods being created/funded/controlled/neglected by white politicians. Separation is when oppressed groups and/or minorities make their own spaces that THEY control. A gay bar isn't segregation, it's separation. A Black book club isn't segregation, it's separation. A woman's gym isn't segregation, it's separation. These women are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:49 AM
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All I can think of is "The Emperor's New Clothes". Don't accept the lies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 11:16 PM
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There's a few posts at the bottom about how pole dancing is good actually. Any exercise is better than none. Getting stronger is empowering. But even if you have dissociated pole dancing from strip teasing, the fact of the matter is that the only reason it's a popular option is because of female objectification. It's basically grooming: convincing women to train to be a sex object for the male gaze under the guise of "fun" and "exercise". I feel the same way about burlesque. There are hundreds o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 03:22 PM
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Make up (men benefit) Shaving/waxing (men benefit) High heels (men benefit) So commonly I hear women desperately explain that these things empower them. But your kidding yourself if you don't think men benefit from nearly every woman they know trying to look like super models (or p*rn stars). These things only provide power in the form of male validation. It gives power... Over OTHER WOMEN. Not men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 03:14 PM
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Exactly right!! Also, always check what is classified as "abuse" by cited studies. Lundy Bancroft says in "Why Does He Do That" that abusive men will claim "not being served dinner" or "not getting sex" counts as being emotional abused. 🙄 Another statistic that gets twisted is a claim that lesbians are have the highest rates of domestic abuse. This is patently incorrect. First, this claim is based on ONE study that pulled data 50 women who were lesbian or bisexual. An extremely LOW data pool. Se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 12:17 AM
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There sure are a lot of tik tok trends for women/girls that specifically benefit men like: buy your bf shit objectify yourself clean his house Is this a joke??? What's next? "Write him into your will" challenge? "Give up your right to vote" challenge? "Don't speak unless spoken to" challenge??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 11:03 PM
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Couple's therapy is such a sham. I'm all for individual therapy. But couple's therapy is almost always a case where the woman "communicates" with her husband again and again and again and the man ignores her and gaslights her. "Couple's therapy" often is just a way to prolong a doomed relationship and force women to spin their wheels trying to fix their abusive, asshole husband who has no intention of changing. Let's not forget that couple's therapists are invested in keeping the couple together…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 10:08 PM
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The example I always see is "men who aren't manly are mocked!" But what they mean is men who are have feminine traits are mocked... Because the patriarchy hates women. I've said it before and I'll say it again: the patriarchy backfiring on men is not women's problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:30 PM
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Men fear a world where women treat them like they treat women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 11:15 PM
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We call that a sunk cost fallacy. I've been there. Cut your losses!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 08:13 PM
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Literally biological differences are the reason the patriarchy exists! Imagine living in an ancient early human settlement. You know that women and women only have this strange and mysterious power to CREATE LIFE. If you were to point to someone and say "who is his Mother?" Anyone in the village would be able to say, "oh he came out of that woman." But asking "who is his father?" Complete and total mystery. Patriarchal religions and systems were made to try and control the creation of life. Men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:26 PM
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Anyone worried about his children?? Get that ped*phile's web history checked stat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 07:23 AM
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Men who date way younger women don't want an equal partner they want a pet. It's disgusting and it's something many truly do not understand until they are older themself and see just how naïve and vulnerable 18-24 year olds are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 07:18 AM
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This happened to my aunt when she was in her 20s! She had a casual Muslim bf who said he wasn't very religious, but one day he said that he was going to take her to some family and friends. There would be a small ceremony and "friends" might say some things in their language but don't worry about it. My aunt laughed and was like "what are you trying to secretly get married" and he couldn't respond. She dumped him shortly after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 05:24 PM
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Yup, I'm tired of people acting like redpillers and pick up artists invented misogyny. Misogyny has been in the foundation of every culture/religion/society for literally thousands of years. Redpill and PUA is just the new name of old misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 11:47 PM
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Thank you for mentioning the double standard on hair! I realized that I grew up having NO IDEA what natural women's body hair looked like. My mom, aunts, and even grandmas have been shaving/waxing since puberty, and every female celebrity, politician, character on tv (even cartoons!) have totally hairless legs and under arms. 51% of the population pressured into removing their body hair from puberty till DEATH. RIDICULOUS! I didn't even know what MY body hair looked like at full length since I w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:37 PM
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"Intersectionality" was coined by Kimberlé Crenshaw, a Black feminist, and it was intended to describe the intersection between misogyny and racism and/or sex and race. Like everything else, it got co-opted. https://www.cjr.org/language_corner/intersectionality.php
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 10:04 PM
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The patriarchy backfiring on men is not the fault or responsibility of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:57 PM
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Anyone else side eyeing the choice of penname: Dominique Sisley ? Can't be a coincidence that it can be shortened to p*rn terms. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:17 PM
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If men make something it's art. If women make something it's "crafts." Beading, ceramics, papercrafts, sculpture, collage, embroidery, etc etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 07:51 PM
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I hope this is allowed because my red-flag pet story is about an ex-girlfriend. My gf at the time begged and begged for us to get a pet rabbit and eventually we did. Rabbits are slow to trust, so everyday I'd spend over an hour sitting on the floor with the bunny, just reading and letting him approach me on his own. I invited my gf to join me over and over, but she'd scoff at how boring it was. After a couple weeks, the bunny was jumping in my lap begging for treats and pets. My gf rushed over t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:37 AM
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I will never understand men's obsession with using as little tp was possible. It costs like, what, $2 a roll?? It's not about cost it's about CONTROL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 09:16 PM
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Who would win? Human sexuality reinforced through millions of years of evolution hentai
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 01:49 AM
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What the hell, if my partner even hinted that I had bad breath I'd be brushing 3x a day and fixing my diet. Why don't these men want to be attractive to their girlfriends????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 01:42 AM
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Torture in movies is totally fake, but the torture in porn is REAL. Women are REALLY getting slapped, thrown, things shoved in them, gagged, etc, it's all really happening to them!! Hell a common dig is how "bad" the acting is in porn, but girls crying and puking is "not real just really good acting"? No, it's legit torture and these porn sick men get AROUSED by it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 01:26 AM
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The implication of "men get raped too" is "so get over it." Same goes for every conversation men steer away from women to be about themselves. Terrible!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 11:02 PM
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I've heard that abusive men can hide their abusiveness until about the 1.5 year mark. It takes about that long before they do something like punch a hole in the wall or the like. What's the right time period for engagement that allows time to vet but not be strung along?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 10:58 PM
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I like (some) anime; used to cosplay and the whole 9 yards. In my experience, any man who calls himself a fan of anime is a complete degenerate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 04:31 PM
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Covertly and overtly, girls get told their whole lives by media, entertainment, family, friends, etc. that the most important thing they can possibly be is married. It comes before anything else. You can have a career, but you also gotta be married. You can have kids, but married. You can not have kids, but you have to be married. Like moving out of your parents place or getting a job, you aren't really considered an adult until you are married. Of course women want the day to be perfect, all th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 03:52 AM
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Feminism is not about equality, it's about liberation from the patriarchy. 80-90% of violent crimes are committed by men. "Equality" could mean women deciding to commit the same amount of crime as men do, but that's not what feminists want. We want a world where violence is not tolerated and mutual respect is upheld. Where men are not pushed to be dominant and aggressive , and where women are not pushed to be compliant and submissive. Nearly every part of the world has been ruled, molded, and de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 10:01 PM
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I disagree. Porn companies will adapt by making individual only fans accounts, one for each "performer" (including trafficked women/girls) and pull in cash that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 12:19 AM
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A couple years ago I decided I was going to put in the same amount of effort into my appearance as was expected of well-groomed men. I quit makeup, shaving, and high heels. It took some adjusting, but now I would never go back. My self image has improved significantly since I no longer fret over "fixing" my face. I no longer suffer pain in my feet or legs from heels. I don't waste time giving myself micro-cuts with shaving. And now it's just the new normal. This is the kind of comfort and freedo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 12:50 AM
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Thank you for posting the follow up, I'm so glad she left this monster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 12:17 AM
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Anger = something is unfair
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:08 PM
18

I looked up Julia from Tekken and the hairstyle she's emulating is so simple and common. Just two short low braids. I'm disgusted with men! Dump that pornsick asshole asap!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 05:20 PM
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Lesbian here. FDS is such a nice environment with all the women supporting each other and no men allowed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 12:46 AM
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Are some men are more attracted to "feminity" (submissiveness, makeup, clothing, etc) than actual WOMEN???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 07:16 PM
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A bunch of the rich OF posts have been debunked as FAKE. On top of that, OF has a referral plan that lets someone earn 5% of the earnings from women they refer. It's literally multi-marketing but using the bodies of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 06:41 AM
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This is a tough situation and only you can decide what to do from here. Here's question that was passed on to me that I am passing on to you: Can you be friends with her even if she never changes? If the answer is no, wish her well and move on. It is okay to say no! You aren't obligated to watch her life fall apart If the answer is yes, you enter into a difficult role. Hear her out, spend time with her (away from her abuser), and resist the temptation to force her leave him. Being a victim is re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 11:48 PM
2

I know three (3) outspoken "male feminists" that ended up taking hormones, transitioning, buying kink gear and started posting their own nudes/porn on the internet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 08:02 AM
3

The ideal woman's body is a moving target. Back in the 90s and early 00s having a small butt, thin legs, and big boobs was ideal. It seemed like every woman was trying to get rid of her "fat ass" and thighs. Now, big butts are in and women are doing squats and getting butt implants to comply. The misogynistic beauty standards have us constantly trying to change our bodies to please men, sacrificing our self esteem while we contort, starve, and punish ourselves to match whatever the latest trend …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 03:08 AM
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So far, research says going bra-free will NOT make your breasts sag. In fact, this study correlates wearing bras with increased sagging. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/259073#1
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 07:32 AM
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I posted this elsewhere, but if you want to go bra-less are worried about your nipples poking out, try wearing a cami or you can wear reusable silicone pasties. I got the latter for summer when I wear light tops and they are way more comfortable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 06:28 AM
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I'm seeing almost only pro-bra representation in the comments so I've had over 3 years of bra free bliss! I know it's not realistic for all body types, but don't knock it til you try it. :) Winter is the perfect time to give the bra free thing a shot! (If you are worried about nipping out, a pair of reusable silicone pasties will keep you modest.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 12:43 AM
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I hate that men created the myth that they need their own spaces as if their wives have taken over the whole house. The reality is that they feel entitled to the WHOLE house and treat their wives like maids who's job is to clean it. The woman rarely gets her own room or office. She's lucky if she gets her own closet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 06:22 AM
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bdsm is a rigged game. The only winning move is not to play.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 04:39 AM
14

Male doms get off on hurting women and making them cry. They don't deserve an ounce of respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 04:31 AM
2

The fin stands for financial
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 04:15 AM
5

In the book "Why Does he do that", the author explains than abusive men see themselves as victims when their gfs/wives fight back in self defense. I have a personal anecdote too. My tiny aunt was assaulted by her husband (at the time) and she fought back by trying to punch and bite him. Her husband was the size of a quarterback and an MMA fighter. She was 5'3" and about 110 pounds and had her arm in a sling. Her husband left the house, drove to a gas station, and called the cops to report his wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 09:33 PM
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Yes! All vulvas are worth appreciation and being eaten out! Protruding labia minora develop with puberty, and have such a delicate wonderful look, like an opening flower. 🌷 Vulvas with small labia minora are more rare, and that makes them special too. All vulvas are unique and perfect and designed for YOUR pleasure!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:59 AM
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Wow. This sounds like the latest lie men are pushing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 03:32 AM
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We don't want to be equal to men. Men treat everyone like shit; they are responsible for 9/10 violent crimes. We want liberation from the patriarchy that holds women down and occasionally backfires on men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 03:02 AM
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"When I was in high school I was looking for Miss Universe. In college I wanted Miss America. Now, Miss Brooklyn would do." Wow how open-minded, willing to settle for the sexiest woman in Brooklyn. /s 🙄 🙄 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 05:43 PM
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Good catch. Based on my own experience, "Never fought" can mean "I always compromised and did everything my partner asked to prevent a fight."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 05:36 PM
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No one, not even "ugly" women should settle for LVMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 05:22 PM
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I agree wholeheartedly! Never forget your empathy and where you came from. I'll never forget feeling so confused and hurt and carefully asking Reddit if I was as crazy as my ex made me feel. I totally understand being frustrated by the behaviors of other women and wanting to vent, but let's not act all high and mighty. We've been in their shoes in one way or another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:58 AM
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Yes!! I love it when a fellow curly head embraces her natural hair! Welcome to the path of self acceptance! I found r/curlyhair helped me come to love my own hair. If you are curious, take a peek
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:50 AM
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What the FUCK??? I'm glad you stood your ground, that is creepy as hell!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 10:17 PM
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Jesus Christ this sounds absolutely mortifying and traumatizing. There's no doubt in my mind that this was done for nefarious purposes. I hate how much power doctors wield over their patients, and I completely empathize with how powerless and humiliating it is when men use their power for evil. My own story is small potatoes compared to yours, but I hope you don't mind me sharing with you. I'm in my early 30s, and was diagnosed with breast cancer this year. My male oncologist and male radiologis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 10:14 PM
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I've never been married and I probably never will be. However, if I do, I've sworn to write into the contract rules that make it easy to get divorced. It's already SO hard to break up with someone and divorce makes it so much harder. I never want me or my hypothetical partner to feel stuck in a relationship bc divorce is such a hassle. Relationships should be opt in, not opt out. That said, things get infinitely more complicated with children, pets, and assets, so definitely consult with a real …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 09:56 PM
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When I hear "but he was abused as a child!" as an excuse for killers/rapists/abusers, I can't help but say, "If abuse caused people to commit heinous crimes, most violent crimes would be committed by women." But they don't! Men commit about 90% of violent crimes even though women/girls are more likely to be abuse victims. Something's not adding up here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:47 PM
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It's a fetish. He wants to trade half-assed chores for sex. Then he'll still expect you to do all of the domestic labor when he's not horny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 08:18 PM
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"it's been there since I've been a teenager" Oh fuck off, pedo. I'm sure you've been watching loli porn since teenage years too. This creep doesn't deserve any pity and clearly he's not trying very hard to get rid of "it" if he's actively indulging his depravity with roleplay. Evidence has shown that giving pedos outlets (porn, roleplay, dolls) only increases their desire to harm real children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:18 AM
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It's been a while since I've been active on it, but I recommended r/skincareaddiction! It may get you more of that 0.01% goodness 100% of the time. 🧖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:37 AM
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Well said. If looks gave you power, then every male ceo would have winged eyeliner and spanx on under their suit. It took a long time for me to accept my appearance, but a part of what helped was reminding myself that men don't fret over their eyebrows or contour their faces. And if they can confidently strut around while looking like an unwashed sock, then I certainly shouldn't be ashamed of the little unnoticeable flaws that make me one of a kind! All women may not be conventionally beautiful …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:33 AM
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I've pretty much erased "bitch" from my vocabulary. It's used as a misogynistic slur to mean worthless woman, and even when applied to a man or a "boss" woman you are still calling them a worthless woman. Here's a fun fact. In ancient Greece, "dog" was an insult to both men and women, but it eventually came to be used against JUST women because they were considered subservient. What's changed, really?? 😡 If a man calls you bitch that may mean you are doing something right, but I still won't stan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 11:58 PM
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Save her. A woman having public sex on a train with TWO men sounds like something straight out of porn! Somehow I doubt that was her idea! This is like blaming women for dying when they are killed by their bfs/husbands under the excuse of "rough sex."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:47 PM
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I'm really shocked by the comments focusing on this man being a closeted homosexual and not that he is a goddamn RAPIST who has been raping and brutalizing his victim for who knows how long and is brazenly inviting his friend to gang rape him too. This monster needs to be arrested and thrown in jail for life! His victim is not the first or last!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 08:48 PM
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This is a tough one. I don't really have a solution but here's how I cope when the reality of men is too rage inducing. prioritize the women and girls in your life. I think having one good female friend is better than 100 feminist posts on the internet. (Though social media activism is good too of course!) limit interactions with men where you realistically can. The fewer you see, the less they can disappoint you. look back and think of all the good our feminist predecessors have done for the wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:25 PM
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Yes. Porn oppresses all women. Men's consumption of porn makes them less empathetic to women, see us as objects, and as a result, devalue us and feel entitled to our bodies. It creates a culture where women's bodies are seen as commodities and we are expected to consider selling our bodies if we are in a desperate situation. It normalizes violent, dehumanizing, selfish sex that men inflict on their partners. Perhaps most disturbing of all child-on-child sexual assault (realistically: boy-on-girl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:19 PM
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Ugh, and then these same male gamers smugly ask why so few women play competitively. It couldn't be because of the barrage of abuse and gatekeeping we suffer the moment we turn our mic on. No, it's because "GiRL's SuCk At GaMeS"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:37 PM
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I have seen this tid bit before and I can't help but notice it doesn't mention the skills of the women. I wonder if the high-skilled male gamers are only nice when they perceive themselves as superior to the women. Do they continue to be respectful of the women who outperform them? Are they being kind only because they don't feel like their status is threatened? Similarly, you hear about men who seem fine until their wife makes more money than them, and then their insecurity rears its ugly head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:10 AM
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He doesn't hate porn he clearly hates WOMEN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 10:30 PM
2

This post made me get ramen for lunch. It was delicious, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 05:14 PM
2

Exactly this. What I have seen is this insistence that both partners can date/sleep with others as long as they "communicate" and ensure everyone's "okay" with it. I'm reality the man pressures his gf into letting him sleep with whoever he wants (manipulation, tantrums, pouting, etc), but then never grants his gf permission to see anyone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 08:05 PM
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Came here to say exactly this. Therapy actually makes abusers BETTER at emotional abusing. The book "Why Does He Do That" has a whole section on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 06:51 PM
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I'm cringing at that age gap. If he's actually unemployed he'd be getting welfare, which is a lot more than what his poor, broke, teenage girlfriend can give him anyway. But government assistance aside, he's clearly taking advantage of her and emotionally abusing her on top of it. She's practically still a kid too. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 07:41 PM
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I understand the sentiment, but be glad you're not a man. Women are resilient, live longer, are healthier, smarter, more empathetic, and work harder. With the fds you'll weed out the loser men and find a great man if you haven't yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:39 PM
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I grew up in a very religious and conservative household so for the longest time I assumed I'd be obligated to have kids. Then I realized I was a lesbian. Along with that, realizing that I didn't have to have kids was a huge relief! I do like kids and get along with them, but I'm glad I can hand them back to their parents at the end of the day! I'm 30 years old and it's so great spending my money on travel and cool vacations. Not having to worry about getting a long term babysitter or bringing c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 05:15 AM
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