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Ooh, I'd love to be entered into the draw!
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 12:06 PM
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Good advice. "I" statements are always a good bet. Instead of, "You were being so rude- interrupting me and talking over me!" say, "I felt frustrated and felt like I wasn't being heard." That way she can't just say, "That's not true!" and storm off.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/15 12:34 AM
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/u/YakCat mentioned Emily Post, so I will add the Awesome Etiquette podcast from the Emily Post Institute. It's hosted by two of Emily's great-great-grandchildren!
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/15 12:29 AM
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I also recommend the Stay Focused extension for Chrome. You can customize how long you are allowed to spend each day on your time-wasting websites and have different settings for weekends, evenings, etc. And it will let you know how much time you have left.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/15 12:47 PM
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As others have mentioned, definitely check out pin-up and vintage-style stores like the ones listed below. Honestly, if your area has a burlesque community, those ladies have been my best inspiration for how to dress and style myself more femininely. A boutique that I love that has storefronts in a few cities is Tatyana
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/15 09:11 PM
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Wonderful tips. I will add to the tips about personality that not only practice, but just being more conscious of your behaviour is a good way to go about it. For me, it's listening to etiquette podcasts on my way to work and reading books about etiquette and manners. That way, the subject is always at the top of my mind and I'm much more self-aware throughout the day.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/15 04:19 PM
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Thank you- so well said! There's too much emphasis nowadays on, "Just do what you want, what makes you happy!" Uh, no, you're an adult and a member of a society with responsibilities to yourself and others, so no, you don't get to do what you want all the time.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/15 04:16 PM
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If you're on a budget, I always recommend getting a few good versatile pieces from a nice store (a blazer, a pencil skirt, a neutral-coloured blouse) and then filling out your wardrobe with skirts, dresses, and tops from thrift stores. I have gotten so many lovely flow-y long skirts from Salvation Army for <$10 and it's easy to dress them up or down, or pair them with a fancier blouse and necklace.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/15 04:12 PM
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Oh my gawd, I know. My SO uses his grandfather's old razor and watching him shave with it is the best.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/15 05:31 PM
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Not a film, but John and Olivia on The Waltons for sure.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/15 05:25 PM
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I can't get enough of Duchess Catherine, nee Kate Middleton. She is such a princess in the most wonderful way. The way she exudes feminine grace, compassion, and general ladylike awesomeness in everything she does is positively inspiring.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/15 05:23 PM
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This is definitely not for everybody but I found two ways of managing my spending on small things. 1 is to carry around a notebook and write down all your purchases. I find keeping track of it all helps me look at where I'm being wasteful but also if I'm debating buying that lipgloss or latte I'll go, "Ugh, I don't want to bother writing this down," so I don't buy it. 2 is a bit easier- it's simply deciding how much spending money you'll have this week, withdrawing that much cash on a Monday mor…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/14 12:58 AM
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We're going to NYC in January to visit my great-aunt so I got us tickets to a Broadway show he loves! I'm so excited!
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/14 08:28 PM
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A lady is attentive and a good listener who asks questions in conversation and doesn't just talk about herself!
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/14 08:23 PM
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Here is the abridged version. I was raised by an amazing single mother after my dad left our family. My mom is really incredible and I know growing up when she did she struggled with her self esteem and self-worth. So she was extremely dedicated to making sure me and my brothers felt confident and loved and she showered us with praise and affection. Which of course included the message that became so popular in the late '90s of "You should just love your body the way you are! You are perfect!" I…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/14 01:18 PM
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This was so nice to read :) If you need a gal pal to help keep you accountable I'd be happy to help out! It'd be good for me too :) I know what you mean about trying to get on board with fat acceptance for yourself and just finding it awful. It's a long story for me but I had been feeling like that since I was 12 years old and didn't figure it out for more than a decade later.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/14 02:15 AM
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Mm, I love seeing the words "graciously" and "feminine" together like that :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/14 01:55 AM
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Women naturally come in all shapes and sizes and there's nothing wrong with being tall. I know plenty of men who'd think it's a great thing! (Kudos to my 6'3" brother whose last girlfriend was 6'1", by the way). Height has nothing to do with being a woman- both of those things are in your genetics! Anyway, if you don't like heels, you can get some gorgeous flats for sure :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/14 01:54 AM
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Yep, I know what you mean. The important thing is to keep at it. If you give up and start gaining fat back it'll go to your belly. But if you keep with it and keep getting fit, trust that your body will wind up in a nice shape with your boobs looking the way they did.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/14 10:11 PM
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I can't believe you got all that done in a day! Man, I need to get more motivated. My partner is writing an exam right now and will be home in a few hours. I'm getting off reddit right now to make soup! Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/14 10:17 PM
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Agreed! This is a super good idea. The hostess gift will impress his family and show him you appreciate him bringing you :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/14 10:14 PM
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My mom's five minute chocolate fudge recipe! Melt 2 cups of chocolate chips and 1 can of sweetened condensed milk in the microwave or double boiler. Stir in a teaspoon of vanilla, 1&1/4 cups of icing sugar, and a pinch of salt. Mix well. Pour into a 8 inch square pan lined with wax paper. Put it in the fridge overnight, then remove from paper and cut into bite-size pieces and enjoy!
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/14 04:10 AM
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Totally!
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/14 03:58 AM
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See, this is ridiculous. Even feminist economic scholars like Marilyn Waring have criticized the lack of recognition of wives and mothers, and how we need to stop thinking of unpaid women's work as unimportant and frivolous. I can't think of any good reason, liberal or conservative, to downplay the importance of SAHMs.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/14 01:00 AM
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There's lots of good advice here, and I will add more specifically when you're thinking about the future and feeling like you're not contributing as a SAHM, just remember that taking care of the house, the kids, all the domestic duties is a job! So don't feel inadequate and don't take it lightly. As long as you're not sitting around the house all day watching Netflix, you are absolutely contributing to your livelihood together.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/14 12:53 AM
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Ooh, love it!
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/14 11:52 PM
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I will say an oldie but a goodie- John and Olivia Walton on The Waltons. So encouraging of each other and determined to face everything together. Their kids are sometimes a little too TV-perfect but there are some nice moments.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/14 11:52 PM
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Try installing the Stay Focused extension for Chrome. You can program how many hours a day you can go on whatever list of sites you want and how often it will warn you that your time is almost up. It helps me a lot!
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/14 01:29 AM
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Very cute! One thing I found really important to remember is that sometimes missing each other really sucks and it's okay to feel upset about that. But never, ever, ever take it out on him! I would say to myself, "I'm mad at the situation." And sometimes my bf and I could share in our feelings of how it sucks to be apart, which was nice. Just don't fall into the trap of blaming each other for the situation.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/14 04:03 PM
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[The CDC reports one in five women experience rape:] (http://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/sv-datasheet-a.pdf) The UN reports 35% of women experience sexual violence (This one does include international data so it's obviously skewered higher) I absolutely hate the SJWs who say "OMG a man saying hi is LITERALLY rape!" but when someone starts to get aggressive on the street it's understandable to get your guard up
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/14 01:56 AM
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The problem is that most of the men in their minds were just having fun, being flirty, and had no intention of assaulting this woman so it's understandable they'd be upset as to why people are assuming the worst. The problem is that as a woman walking down the street alone I don't know which men are going to turn violent. So to you, a man, you're just having fun and playing around but I, as a woman, have to always keep my guard up because I don't know that. And considering how high the number is…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/14 02:47 AM
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Adorable! These are the kinds of things I wish I'd learned ages ago so perhaps I'll pick up a copy. And nice nails! :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/14 08:59 PM
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If you hate doing dishes or other chores like that, put on a playlist, starting with a song you really like. Then say, "Okay, I'm just going to do dishes until this one song is over. I have four minutes to listen to this song and do some dishes." Chances are you'll be motivated to just finish them all, but if not, those four minutes makes a huge difference anyway!
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/14 01:46 AM
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Good point!
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/14 06:06 PM
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Ugh, that's so frustrating. Feminism is supposed to be about choice and freedom, anyway. In that girls should be encouraged to play with dolls and kitchen sets if that's what they like doing (which this kid obviously did). If you freely chose to be a housewife and SAHM because it was the right choice for you and your family, that's amazing and wonderful and even women like this one should support it. I'm pretty sure forcing all women to become career-obsessed workaholics is just as bad as forcin…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/14 02:00 PM
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Agreed, it could just be a person being an ass but it's no way to treat someone you are paying to help you. /u/thinkinit , I love your example of martial arts! I had a similar experience singing in a professional choir for most of my childhood/teen years where we were always expected to be on time, prepared, and attentive during rehearsals and treat all conductors/teachers with respect. There is so much value in starting young and being expected to behave with courtesy in social settings.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/14 07:58 PM
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Agreed. Bad things happen and it's okay to feel bad about them. That's really the only way. Try to do little things for yourself when you can motivate yourself to do so (exercise, paint your nails, buy really expensive fancy tea, etc.) but if you need to be sad for a while, that's totally okay. Just remember that it WILL get better.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/14 01:38 PM
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This makes me so happy to know I'm not crazy. I love that my SO and I have our own spaces in the house. I know some of my friends must think it's crazy, so it's so refreshing to hear from you awesome ladies that it works for you, too!
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/14 09:56 PM
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I get cold easily but can't give up skirts, so I invested in a good pair of thermal leggings from Mountain Equipment Co-op (Not sure what the American equivalent is). I tend to wear those with tights on top so I can still wear skirts and dresses even when it's a blizzard out. Or you can even wear them under jeans!
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/14 02:02 PM
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That last photo is so silly and adorable :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/14 08:43 PM
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That's awesome :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/14 08:20 PM
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Going to answer first and say before anyone else that I love John and Olivia from The Waltons. I find that show so comforting. The love and respect they have for each other is amazing and the way they handle tough times is really inspiring.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/14 07:07 PM
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OMG I had to make an account just to comment on this. I LOVE that you mentioned Dan Savage, that's just what I was thinking. But I was thinking of a different thing he often says which is men get horny and then start having sex, while women start having sex and then get horny. So my advice is if you're not in the mood, start off slow with some foreplay (or like /u/lifterofthings suggested by reading erotica or something that gets you horny) and you might surprise yourself by getting more in the …
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/14 03:42 PM
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