lahadley Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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6	Nice guys actually do talk to women as people, but women then treat them as "one of the girls" Sorry to see you're going through this just now. It sounds like your current friends have a somewhat narrow window of how much they want to know about you, or what aspects of you they want to see. If you become good friends with anyone, over a few weeks/months, the conversation should inevitably turn to who you like, what romantic prospects/interests you have right now, etc. I can understand, if you've started off and stayed friends with these girls, they might be put off by a romantic approach.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/25 07:34 PM
5	Why do people think it’s so wrong to pay a sex worker for sex? There's nothing wrong with it. Some men go mostly for just for a hug, if the truth be known. Those who rail against the oldest profession have no appreciation of loneliness, or what it's like to be a man.. As a woman I don't desire that kind of connection (though many women also hire escorts). But if I was a man or just differently wired, I'd probably hire them occasionally. Anyone who kicks down at sex workers' clients needs to grow up, tbh	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/24 10:05 PM
3	Q4W: You wake up a man, how long would it take you to have casual sex and how do you go about it Took me a while to realise this q. was not about man's time from dozing to doing it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/23 10:28 PM
0	Q4W: Whats your thoughts on men dating younger women? 6+ years age difference Remember the good old rule of thumb: half your age plus seven. To refer to recent comments: that means 19 with 26 is just out of range, but 19 with 25 is just okay. 19 with 32, as in this case? You'd be asking what sort of family support the girl has and what's her bigger, social and emotional picture. It's fair to be a little concerned, but then he could put her through college & everything. Exposure to so many contacts & situations... Massive learning curve, but could pay off in the long run. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/23 06:06 AM
2	Study shows that the "Happiest couples have sex once a week" This is the most delusional comment I've ever seen.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/23 01:47 AM
1	Study shows that the "Happiest couples have sex once a week" Seems obvious that once a week is a compromise between the typical, male & female libidos. That said, I've met women (30s) who'd feel weird if they weren't intimate multiple times a week. I think there's also plenty of men who are just happy to do other stuff (hobbies etc.) late into the night.. Most couples are both busy with life pursuits, so yeah if they're fitting it in consistently, they're prob. pretty happy together. There seems to be a solid block of guys who can't seem to imagine that o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/23 09:59 PM
6	Why makes someone undateable? Great comment. It clarifies how it can take time & several shots, for a woman to find 'the one'. The reasons are not necessarily, even objective (though in your case, it seems they were). Falling in love cannot be manufactured. To say the original commenter was 'holding out' for an unrealistic rank of guy, based on predictable metrics is unimaginative and reductive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/22 03:42 AM
2	I really just want to know how many guys have been able to pull this off. Over 1650 likes and all my messages look like this. I know dating apps are trash, I just wanna know if this approach actually works for you guys? I've had this from guys and concluded it's loneliness. They miss or want someone to just be around at home, & be close to. They just want to skip all the BS, as they've lost motivation due to being alone. Terrible idea, but I think that's where they're coming from.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/10/22 07:26 AM
1	Q4W - which of the following two men would you rather have? B	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/09/22 03:29 AM
1	CMV while biological instincts make a difference for relationships, the ideal solution would be to minimize them rather than to acknowledge and go back to tradition. Arranged or quasi-arranged marriages are incredibly common across class and status groups, in wealthy and poor nations alike. They are also relatively successful, on the whole. There are countless well-off people from the subcontinent in the USA and similar nations, living in arranged marriages and thriving. Many build their life in the states/Australia/similar, then get their bride sorted back home and she also relocates. For others, mutual relatives arrange a meeting and everything flows the t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/20 09:04 AM
7	[CMV] one of the problems in the male/female arena is that females often feel free to change their minds. I'm struggling to read this as anything other than baseless butthurt. As others have said, she's prob. seeking or diverting to an LTR but even if not, who are you to care? The complaint, "she's ending a perfectly good arrangement" sounds like an appeal to a friend. But you two are not friends in this scenario - despite the moniker - you're actually something quite different. I mean, FWB is by definition casual. So you really can't appeal to her goodwill in this way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/19 09:51 PM
1	Are bad characteristics associated with women who don't get a lot of male attention? It sounds like you didn't reciprocate his attention, to the degree he might have hoped for. Like you didn't breach boundaries and he couldn't easily tell that you were into him. You were more of a challenge, so like a child he's just gone to someone else and cancelled you. He sounds like a f--kboi and an a/hole, TBH.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/19 06:23 PM
3	What is it about challenge in a relationship that people like so much? It sounds like your understanding of the word challenge is coloured by its increasingly euphemistic use, as a synonym for really hard or even garbage situations. No. 1 is the real meaning, though how deeply you're prepared to be challenged varies widely between people. Jordan Peterson talks about the role of challenge in relationships, being on a par with the role of support/ease/joy. Most people like to develop their own personality and expand their awareness, throughout life. A partner who con…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/09/19 08:27 PM
1	Regardless of partners, if a women struggles to achieve organism is she ‘bad at sex’? [Me F 36]	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/09/19 02:57 PM
1	Regardless of partners, if a women struggles to achieve organism is she ‘bad at sex’? Can confirm both of Jmitch's comments, word for word. Jmitch, it's an important point you initially made. For me and for a gf I previously had, there's a distinct difference between coming and...the other kind of peak that I'd describe as a 'full' orgasm. This might not be how all women function, but it's definitely a true thing. My then gf explained it very similar to how you have, and I've also seen it described similarly online. Coming may involve ejaculation, and does not fully extinguish se…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/09/19 02:42 PM