TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

lakster1 Archive

View 38 posts and 119 comments by lakster1 on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
84

lakster1/r/askTRP18/04/20 11:09 AM
20

lakster1/r/askTRP15/12/16 01:49 PM
19

lakster1/r/askTRP02/11/19 10:55 AM
16

lakster1/r/askTRP25/02/20 01:46 PM
15

lakster1/r/askTRP19/10/19 02:05 PM
13

lakster1/r/askTRP11/02/20 08:52 AM
8

lakster1/r/askTRP17/08/20 10:19 AM
8

lakster1/r/askTRP13/04/20 08:11 AM
7

lakster1/r/askTRP05/02/20 08:12 PM
6

lakster1/r/askTRP27/11/16 08:55 PM
6

lakster1/r/askTRP14/02/20 08:42 AM
5

lakster1/r/askTRP29/03/16 07:36 AM
4

lakster1/r/askTRP25/10/19 09:38 PM
3

lakster1/r/askTRP01/01/21 01:38 PM
3

lakster1/r/askTRP31/10/19 01:33 PM
3

lakster1/r/askTRP15/12/19 09:54 AM
3

lakster1/r/askTRP01/02/20 05:00 PM
2

lakster1/r/askTRP03/10/20 02:49 PM
2

lakster1/r/askTRP27/12/19 09:49 AM
1

lakster1/r/askTRP31/10/19 05:53 PM
1

Field Reportlakster1/r/TheRedPill20/12/19 09:12 PM
1

lakster1/r/askTRP16/10/19 06:18 AM
1

lakster1/r/askTRP10/12/19 06:10 PM
1

lakster1/r/askTRP02/12/19 09:08 AM
0

lakster1/r/askTRP21/10/19 05:09 PM
0

lakster1/r/askTRP17/12/19 06:05 PM
0

lakster1/r/askTRP22/11/19 06:28 AM
0

lakster1/r/askTRP25/10/19 03:32 PM
0

lakster1/r/askTRP04/11/19 04:10 PM
0

lakster1/r/askTRP21/07/16 06:25 AM
0

lakster1/r/askTRP11/11/19 11:32 AM
0

lakster1/r/askTRP12/10/19 04:58 PM
0

lakster1/r/askTRP06/10/20 07:48 PM
0

lakster1/r/askTRP16/04/20 02:18 PM
0

lakster1/r/askTRP17/12/19 09:30 AM
0

lakster1/r/askTRP26/12/19 12:34 PM
0

lakster1/r/askTRP30/10/19 04:34 PM
0

lakster1/r/askTRP17/03/20 02:25 PM
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
2

And how do you gauge this? She laughs at his jokes = you dump her? You cant definitely talk to her without coming off as insecure, so what’s the play here...
/r/askTRP01/01/21 02:16 PM
3

That’s the point, I want her to be my slut. Look, I cum in her mouth whenever I want to, so what’s the freaking deal with having me slighlty opening her ass withtout even looking at it? Jesus
/r/askTRP06/10/20 08:24 PM
1

If I hadn’t insisted months ago on other stuff she wouldn’t be dating me, so now I get this and I’m confused cause I’m kot sure where to stop and where to be myself
/r/askTRP06/10/20 08:21 PM
1

If I hadn’t insisted months ago on other stuff she wouldn’t be dating me, so now I get this and I’m confused
/r/askTRP06/10/20 08:19 PM
1

Hahaha, I’d like to see your stupid post when your girlfriend rejects you for some simple shit
/r/askTRP06/10/20 08:16 PM
1

Yeah I know... what pisses me off is the idea she’s notncomfortable with ME, which makes me lose attraction to her cause I want her down for it
/r/askTRP06/10/20 08:14 PM
-5

But if I was a hotter guy she’d let me, right? What about when I put a marker IN her ass in the office, she was down for that?
/r/askTRP06/10/20 08:13 PM
-1

I wanted her to be comfortable and let go, that’s it, not stare or any shit like that
/r/askTRP06/10/20 08:12 PM
-2

It was sexual, I just didnt want to fuck her
/r/askTRP06/10/20 08:08 PM
-3

Either explain or shut up
/r/askTRP06/10/20 08:03 PM
-2

?
/r/askTRP06/10/20 07:53 PM
-6

?
/r/askTRP06/10/20 07:51 PM
1

Love you too babe ;)
/r/askTRP20/08/20 10:08 AM
1

I know they are not fucking, dont talk in private and essentially have no contact other than work. All that bothered me was hearing my gf following up a joke by another dude against me, and imagining this happening with me in the room one day is what also bothers me. I dont care about sex or keeping her, it’s the disrespect that I felt towards me. It’s the lack of “he’s my bf, back off” On the other hand, I enabled this by mentioning the guy to her when this happened during the holidays. When sh…
/r/askTRP20/08/20 08:32 AM
1

Two replies to one comment, feeling a bit triggered? Lol
/r/askTRP20/08/20 08:15 AM
0

Cause they are coworkers and people talk, dont be a retarded moron pretending you dont know how humans work
/r/askTRP19/08/20 06:56 PM
0

Portraying it as ‘something’ means it’s not a big deal, but it definitely is bc it made it to asktrp. It also made it here because I was an insecure bitch for a very long time and sometimes it comes back and I have trouble figuring out what the issue really is. She's done nothing, and I mean NOTHING to make me believe anything but complete loyalty and respect, which is why a couple of harmless jokes about a topic that I enabled make me feel like this...
/r/askTRP18/08/20 01:41 PM
1

Which seems was your decision anyway. At the moment, yes. I need to think cause I feel like crap. The idea of saying: "you know pete's phone conversation yesterday? don't do that again, if you want to act like that with a guy that's not even our friend, then this relationship can't continue" To which her reply would be: "but I was just joking! he was too! why are you so touchy about it?", "cause he's not my friend and don't go around making fun of you to people you hate. Should I?"
/r/askTRP18/08/20 01:37 PM
0

She disrespected you while talking with a male colleague on the phone. That's what I don't get. Why aren't these jokes? I get that my ego is making me feel like shit, but do you really think she was disrespecting me and not joking? Because the tone of voice was clearly joking, but it's the content that bothered me.
/r/askTRP18/08/20 01:37 PM
1

I don't want to be disrespected, I'm trying to understand if I was overreacting or not. I know the guy hates me so I know he may have done it on purpose, but I don't want to overreact, that's all
/r/askTRP18/08/20 01:36 PM
1

Which was my first though, but then I thought: "if these are just jokes, am I overreacting by putting her in her place?" It's not like I never joke about her, tbh
/r/askTRP18/08/20 01:30 PM
1

Obviously there's more to it than just your post (is this the first time she joked about you? what's their relationship? etc etc). Not the first time these two joke about this specific topic. BUT I wasn't going out with her at the time so I couldn't give two fucks. Now that we are going out, hearing her doing this and not joking at HIS expense is what bothers me. Trust your gut (although from what I've read, you don't have any gut feelings for this situation, you just feel disrespected). ​My gut…
/r/askTRP18/08/20 09:18 AM
2

What else do you need? I just dont want to end a relationship for something like this. I don't lack the balls, on the contrary, I'm restraining myself really hard at the moment to avoid punishing her, but I know that'd end the relationship and I hate that. That's why I don't know what to do...
/r/askTRP18/08/20 07:05 AM
1

But she could have just as easily took my side and told him anything BUT make fun about leaving me there. She could have made fun of HIM by telling him HE was the one in the wrong, etc. ANYTHING. I dont give two shits about this except for the fact I’m involved with her and dont want her doing this shit, otherwise I’d dump her and she can do whatever she wants...
/r/askTRP17/08/20 02:50 PM
0

But how do you distinguish belittle from joking? I was a beta bitch for a very long time and that’s why I sometimes have difficulty distinguishing between the two. Jesus I fucking hate this...
/r/askTRP17/08/20 02:37 PM
3

Discipline her how? If I tell her the reason, she’ll see it as weak and me being touchy
/r/askTRP17/08/20 11:19 AM
1

It bothers me only what happened today. And the fact she didnt tell me, so it was actually a private mocking of me, which never happened before. She always was on my side
/r/askTRP17/08/20 11:17 AM
1

No but she had an extremely sensitive ex boyfriend that made her go through hell and she thinks everything means being touchy now. My question is: why did she come over here trying to have sex with me but is not mentioning the convo that I heard on the phone, even though it was “harmless”? Why is she staying here waiting for me go near her like something’s wrong?
/r/askTRP17/08/20 10:45 AM
0

I’m satisfied with myself and everything’s great, which is why seeing this bothers me so much
/r/askTRP17/08/20 10:41 AM
2

I’m not jealous, I’m pissed. I can kick her out if I wanted to, but I dont wanna make rushed decisions on something like this. But then again, I imagine this happening in pubblic and her doing the same thing and I cant stand the idea
/r/askTRP17/08/20 10:40 AM
3

It happened once or twice when we were not dating so I didnt give a fuck. Now that it happened again and she disnt have my back, it pissed me off. I take it as distespect cause we are very close and hearing her not even trying to defend myself pisses me off. In the past, she would have said some lie to be ob my side, but on this, she decided to joke about leaving me there. And I know that if I bring this up she’ll classify it as being “touchy”, but that’s not the point, she’s my fucking ltr...
/r/askTRP17/08/20 10:38 AM
1

They are jnot having sex and they barely talk outside of work. Do you think she just finds hin attractive and is scared I find out? Cause that’s the only thing that nakes sense to me. And we didnt have sex, I pushed her aside tactfully and went on with my work
/r/askTRP17/08/20 10:34 AM
1

So I should next her, just like that? No sex, no cheating, just jokes = nexting?
/r/askTRP17/08/20 10:30 AM
-9

Please stop playing guessing the answer... she's not cheating, what's your point? keeping him hooked?
/r/askTRP18/04/20 11:39 AM
-5

If youre trying to direct her responses, that relays insecurity. Yeah, I'm aware, but I've always been directing her actions one way or another cause she's insecure, so it's a mixed bag. Do your thing, and if he continues, ask her what you want to know. No reason to speculate. Be direct and communicate. ok, got it
/r/askTRP18/04/20 11:27 AM
10

ok, thanks for the advice
/r/askTRP18/04/20 11:27 AM
-11

?
/r/askTRP18/04/20 11:26 AM
0

I dont bother the pics of her ex, my issue was understanding why she’s not posting with me, especially since I’m way better looking than the other guy
/r/askTRP13/04/20 11:16 AM
5

I know why she dumped him. He was lazy, out of shape, boring and wouldn’t settle in. And again with the alpha widow bullshit lol
/r/askTRP13/04/20 09:30 AM
4

Cause she’s an LTR and I dont want my time wasted, if I’m just the filler, I wanna know now so I can treat her accordingly
/r/askTRP13/04/20 08:38 AM
2

Why do people answer “alpha widow” for anything lately? Just curious. Is it just the latest “trend”?
/r/askTRP13/04/20 08:36 AM
8

She does everything for me: cooks, clean, sex till her legs cant take it anymore and then some, makes me breakfast, pays for half the shit, etc. Her ex used to do everything for her, and now she does everything for me. I dont know of she’s an alpha widow or not, all I know is she dumped him out of the blue, the dude went down the drain for weeks, and she jumped on my cock without promises or any kind of expectation.
/r/askTRP13/04/20 08:30 AM
1

done, she says it's not an issue, is that man enough for you? lol
/r/askTRP05/02/20 08:16 PM
1

Of course she's not a 10, which is why she keeps doing this with me, cause I give her validation, but I'd stop the minute she stops doing what I tell her to do. I like having this "power" over her, and she likes being my slut. The moment this stops, I stop.
/r/askTRP05/01/20 11:54 AM
1

1.Withdraw attention without it feeling artificial, you are a busy man and it's the holidays so stop talking to her. Actually, we kept going at it. My reasoning was I would keep going as long as she did what I told her to, which she did. Every day I escalated and demanded more explicit pictures, and until the very last day when she was about to leave to see her boyfriend, she sent me pics. I get it, it's not like fucking, but what girl complies with these requests from someone she's not seeing n…
/r/askTRP05/01/20 11:50 AM
1

Why would you want her too? And how can sitting there typing bullshit on your phone even remotely satisfy or entertain you? it doesn't, what entertains me is me telling her what to do and she doing it, which is different. It's a strange sense of power, that's all. I like that.
/r/askTRP05/01/20 11:43 AM
1

fyi, she just texted me she feels like crap for sending me that last pic, what do you think it means?
/r/askTRP27/12/19 10:49 AM
1

fyi, she just texted me she feels like crap for sending me that last pic, what do you think it means?
/r/askTRP27/12/19 10:49 AM
1

But do you thing stuff like this means she's willing to do it?
/r/askTRP27/12/19 10:25 AM
1

Now if she let's you slide your dick inside of her now that's a different story. That's my idea. I escalated the last two days before she left for holidays, and now I did this to keep her on the hook. We never did anything like this before together, and honestly, I doubt she did either (especially with non-boyfriends). We are talking about a girl with N count of 2 lol
/r/askTRP27/12/19 10:25 AM
1

even if she keeps sending me this stuff that, "theoretically", she doesn't send to anyone else? just curious, first time this happens to me
/r/askTRP27/12/19 09:54 AM
1

Ok, good advice, thanks man
/r/askTRP17/12/19 06:57 PM
0

That’s why I didnt mention she’s a coworker, to avoid stupid advice like urs. I dont give a fuck about ur opinion on the workplace, I did not ask that, so keep it to ursef. Thank u
/r/askTRP17/12/19 06:53 PM
1

We work together. Told her to drive me the other day to buy some stuff, and she willingly did, no issues. It’s like she knows she wants me but will do anythjng to be loyal, and I cant make a real move wihout risking giving shes a coworker
/r/askTRP17/12/19 06:45 PM
1

I tried escalating twice in different occasions (we were alone) but she pulled away... so what’s the catch? It’s not like I havent fucking tried...
/r/askTRP17/12/19 06:30 PM
1

I’m 33 u fuckface
/r/askTRP17/12/19 06:29 PM
1

Well I already told her she has a nice rack, I think I’ll make the milk move next. Thanks dude
/r/askTRP17/12/19 05:54 PM
1

I’m not giving her attention or anything as far ad I’m aware...
/r/askTRP17/12/19 05:53 PM
1

Soooo? Wtf does it mean???
/r/askTRP17/12/19 05:53 PM
1

“Hey Kate, I like you but I can’t bang you cause you have a bf, so stop flirting with me and fishing for attention unless you wanna jump me”
/r/askTRP11/11/19 12:18 PM
1

Oh I get it, sorry, it’s important in the sense that I see this as learning, I like to understand why things happen so I can be prepared. Engineer’s mind I guess lol
/r/askTRP04/11/19 06:45 PM
1

The first time it happened was a couple of years ago and I felt bad cause the bitch who said this would then in private go as far as to suck another dude’s cock if he wanted to. I grew a bit since then. The last one (today) I first said “I meant please, of course...” cause I was taken aback by her attitude, and then I stood up and straight up told my girl to stop offering me food when other women are around or she’d be stirring jealousy. That’s when the bitch started making offended noises and l…
/r/askTRP04/11/19 06:26 PM
1

Actually I read it, I know why I wasnt confrontational, my question was why they do this?
/r/askTRP04/11/19 05:41 PM
1

yes, she's both cock blocking (eliminating competition) do you think the other woman actually gets weirded out but her actions? I mean, does it work?
/r/askTRP31/10/19 02:55 PM
1

an alternative reason could be she's cock blocking you. but I'm not getting that sense here. I got this impression for the simple fact that she's implying "I'm hitting on her", which makes the other one click out of the bubble and get away from me. See? making it into something it isn't or something that isn't of her business. my 2cents
/r/askTRP31/10/19 02:43 PM
1

so, forget it and let it go then. you are probably right, more negative shit can come out than positive, I just want her to think twice before opening her mouth next time
/r/askTRP31/10/19 02:19 PM
1

She’s currently next to me. So you say it’s not worth telling her to cut it out?
/r/askTRP31/10/19 02:15 PM
1

she'll never come cause of the boyfriend. See, I'm getting the impression she'd only jump if the situation presents itself for me to kiss her, otherwise, she'd never do it.
/r/askTRP25/10/19 03:57 PM
1

But does it mean they are usually down to kiss or fuck, or is it just attention?
/r/askTRP19/10/19 03:28 PM
0

Tricky. You don’t want to lose your job nor your coworkers’ trust. I’d say warn the owners, but try to figure out if any of these two are protected. Maybe /u/VasiliyZaitzev can help out on this issue.
/r/askTRP24/02/18 08:48 AM
0

Who gives a fuck man. Seriously, if you are getting paid, just help her/support her/whatever. Just don’t do more than what’s expected of you, i.e., don’t become a beta bitch to her. Fyi, another guy had a similar problem recently here, document everything and act as a manager. Shit will be flushed out, eventually
/r/askTRP24/09/17 08:44 PM
2

Before I say any of this, I'll preface it with the fact that I've been financially independent for the last 10 years and got there out of necessity because I'm an asshole who is entirely unfit for working life . . . that disclaimer out of the way . Well, I'm an asshole who manages to tune it down when needed. Let's say I'm 40-60% fit for working life, depending on the environment. Definitely I become much less fit when the one acting like a dick is a useless brick at work, I just cannot shake th…
/r/askTRP16/12/16 07:06 AM
1

her attitude changed very, very quickly lol.. probably because the whole group laughed at what I said. Social shaming works wonders with passive aggressive girls like that one or like the one I'm talking about.
/r/askTRP16/12/16 07:04 AM
1

She's not my GF
/r/askTRP15/12/16 09:42 PM
1

Get rid of her somehow. You don't have to deal with her yourself, you know. Already made my move and she'll regret her actions in the long run. Besides, the bitch being passive aggressive is not new, and I was not the only one who had to deal with her. Let's just say that, if she pulls this crap with me, you can imagine what she can do with girls she considers... "enemies".
/r/askTRP15/12/16 08:34 PM
1

On the contrary, it's usually me the one who walks over them and do whatever I want. This is work, they are not "my friends", just friendly acquaintances. Because I'm arrogant and don't go around sucking up, people had some resentment towards me. The guy I'm talking about picked on this and exponentially blew it out of proportion. Who's supposed to defend me, someone who somehow resents me? But, unlike the usual kind of "socially neutral" relationship you have at work, this guy turned it on my h…
/r/askTRP15/12/16 08:29 PM
1

Exactly, I don't care about her, nor am I trying to plate her in any way, shape or form. It's the arrogance of opening her mouth, in front of other girls, and trying to tell them what my position is in the group (implicitly, of course).
/r/askTRP15/12/16 08:25 PM
1

Not insults, the guy always walked the line between insult and joke on purpose, until he chilled when he realized eh was not gonna win this. The girl never insults, she's just the passive aggressive queen of the company. For example: I'm sitting, working, and the girl next to me offers me a coffee. She goes to the coffee machine, where bitch X is waiting for a coffee. She sees the girl is about to make me a coffee, and says "what? let him prepare his own coffee, you don't have to do anything for…
/r/askTRP15/12/16 08:08 PM
1

Because she's implicitly saying that she's submissive to the alpha, and you're down at her level. It puts you in a tough place because if you banter back, you are implicitly agreeing to be at her level - below the alpha. If you don't banter back, that could be interpreted even as submissive to her. It's not what she thinks about me that bothers me. It's the fact she does this in front of other people, to get them to turn on me. The same exact thing the guy did in the past. That's what bothers me…
/r/askTRP15/12/16 08:02 PM
1

Lol, I didn't get what you meant, what do you mean, exactly?
/r/askTRP15/12/16 08:00 PM
1

Yeah, but it's a pain. Once, one of the girls that liked me was doing something nice for me, and this cunt told her "don't do that, let him do it himself..." with no remorse. Should I have stood up, walked up to her, and tell her to shut her cunt?
/r/askTRP15/12/16 06:53 PM
1

Then who is the alpha dick you talk about? We are at work, the guy started acting like a dick for no reason against me and all those who had some kind of power over him. This was months ago. We went head on for a long time until he chilled.
/r/askTRP15/12/16 06:51 PM
1

I get it, but there's no "they", it's just one woman. It's still a group, we banter among guys, joke with the girls. This one is the exception by trying to put me down like the other guy did in the past. Listen, I even called her out on her shitty behavior a while ago and she got offended as fuck, didn't talk to me for months and was pissed at the fact other girls were not angry at me...
/r/askTRP15/12/16 06:42 PM
5

The difference is, the guy is not my friend. He tried very hard for a very long time to put me down, and I kept telling him to fuck off. Now, he's calmer, but this bitch feels entitled to say shit just because he's there. If a friend of mine said that stuff, I'd be ok, but she isn't, and the fact she repeats what the guy used to say in the past convinces me she's just emulating him. A few months ago she tried to act whiny and manipulative about something, and given I don't act manipulatively at …
/r/askTRP15/12/16 06:35 PM
1

I can't, we work together. I still think she would like to fuck him, but can't for many reasons. However, when she says stuff like this in front of other girls, that's when all I want is to tell her to shut that cunt mount of hers up and mind her own fucking business. The last time she pulled this on me, I told a joke, she didn't get it, and while a pal of mine built on the joke, she started saying "yes! just tell him 'yes'! it doesn't matter...", like telling them to ignore me. wtf is wrong wit…
/r/askTRP15/12/16 06:31 PM
1

Exactly. The funny thing is that, when I treat her like an acquaintance and call her out on her shit, she blows up like a high octane teenage girl... But then, she pulls crap against me whenever she feels like it's fun. What bothers me, however, is not what she says, it's the fact that she says this stuff in front of other girls. Bottom line is, we all know both she and the guy are dumb as fuck, but they (girl and guy) have no fucking idea how dumb they are. It's so frustrating not being able to…
/r/askTRP15/12/16 06:28 PM
1

Work stuff. I don't really see the other group anymore so...
/r/askTRP15/12/16 06:26 PM
3

The fact that you see him as an "alpha dick" and that he "pulls stuff" against you isn't exactly a reassuring set of data points regarding your perceived status within the group. What can I tell you. We work together, he's an ignorant dick who likes to provoke and is below every single one of me and my coworkers, professionally speaking. He's calm now but he used to attack me constantly and we ended up heating things up. Can't really stop seeing a jackass at work... The point is, for this chick,…
/r/askTRP15/12/16 06:25 PM
1

What do you mean when you say "I helped him"?
/r/askTRP15/12/16 06:23 PM
3

Yeah, right. Not all of the women act like this, it's one in particular and it pisses me off that she pulls crap like that against me. Look, the guy is a total jerk (at least to me) and couldn't care less about him. We dish shit to each other every now and then. This girl emulates his own behavior... should I just throw shit at her too? This same girl, I call her out once on her shit and she flew off the handle and never spoke to me again. Now, she's back at this, for no reason. Why does she fee…
/r/askTRP15/12/16 06:18 PM
1

Nicollo Machiavelli's work found his Prince. That's enough for me to justify my actions xD
/r/askTRP28/11/16 09:11 PM
1

Sounds like "addition by subtraction". Dude shouldn't have been a shithead. Simples. Yeah, that was my rationalization, enough to push him out.
/r/askTRP28/11/16 09:08 PM
1

For HR to have fired him after a transfer it couldn't have been just you. You are right, I just gave them the final incentive to get him out of the picture (the transfer). Then, when the company could afford his replacement, off he went. Nothing changes. If they liked you over him nothing changes, if they liked him over you, nothing changes. Well, my actions were a surprise to his friends. They had no idea I was feeding the company all this info and so they talked shit about management with me i…
/r/askTRP28/11/16 07:32 AM
1

Gave information, talked to those that had power over him, exposed him for the passive-aggressive bitch he was. He provoked fights knowing nobody would fight him at work and knowing that nobody could ignore him. I gave information about the company information he divulged during "moments of rage" and how he kind of bullies those he doesn't like.
/r/askTRP28/11/16 07:28 AM
2

Of course not, he got fired because of other reasons and because the company finally could replace him. But, when the tensions slightly rose, I threw tons of gasoline into that fire and made sure everyone with authority understood the kind of toxic environment he had created and that he had to go.
/r/askTRP28/11/16 07:27 AM
1

I still don't get it man, you think she's attracted to me?
/r/askTRP04/08/16 04:48 AM
1

Yes. OP, she is using you for validation and attention when you are around her because you make her feel good and help pass the time; even though you seem to think you are not... You are right, I can't read her correctly. The last time I saw her, I kept making jokes and innuendos about sex, and she shut me down every single time. BUT, on the same day, she let me touch her neck massage like and lean against her body AND touch her legs and ass while playing around... so what is this? are you sure …
/r/askTRP24/07/16 07:22 PM
1

I don't get it. Interested or validation seeking, according to you? Because the last time I saw her I could basically touch her neck and lean against her body and she said nothing to stop me.
/r/askTRP24/07/16 07:20 PM
1

That's why it confuses me, she may be toying with me or really interestsd but wants to be discreet, I dont know
/r/askTRP21/07/16 11:44 AM
1

I thought she may be trying to keep it from her ltr, but I realize that's probably wishful thinking on my part. It's like the friend you can touch and won't get mad at you if you do it by accident or similar. I can do it whenevr I want on my own initiative (arms, legs, abs, face, etc). She doesn't pull away or rejcta me, but I havent scalated sexually yet (ass, boobs, etc).
/r/askTRP21/07/16 11:43 AM
1

But "only an obstacle?" I dunno. From what I've read, your offspring are more likely to prosper and reproduce if you stick around and provide a positive male influence in their lives. True, I'm talking about the fact that onitis usually developed around a person even when that person is not interested/available, which blocks you from meeting new people. Once you have him/her, then the topic becomes whether you want to reproduce or not, which brings other variables into the picture.
/r/askTRP07/06/16 07:31 PM
1

So, basically, that trait survived because those who managed to reproduce stick around with the women they already had instead of going out searching for others... Which, if I understand it correctly, is only an obstacle on the society we live in, where we don't have that kind of limitation and women are everywhere.
/r/askTRP07/06/16 06:47 PM
1

If you want affection give her very little so she will initiate. Push away before she does. This is counter-intuitive but these are the things that create tingles. Yeah, I've got to do this more. But you are right, the moment you are not focusing on them they tend to look for you.
/r/askTRP05/06/16 08:53 AM
1

What do you mean by clingy? Well, I think I try to escalate with them when they start showing interests and THAT may come off as clingy. I don't know, honestly, maybe I keep going for the same girl when she shows interest in me. The point is, why would she back off if she's into me? It makes no sense...
/r/askTRP04/06/16 09:37 PM
2

So, I'd have to game them, escalate a bit, and keep gaming the others?
/r/askTRP04/06/16 09:35 PM
1

You need to lead, you should be bringing them into your world... This part works fine. I manage to get them attracted and interested in me, enough to flirt and get close on their own. The issue is, if I start escalating, I quickly become clingy, or at least that's my rationalization. Why would them pull back if the actually were attracted in the first place?
/r/askTRP04/06/16 09:35 PM
1

I usually hit them back but in a fun way that anyone else would perceive as a joke but it could eat at him. Lol, I did this a few times. He lost it. He tried (always with a nervous laughter) to petty-insult me and it jsut didn't work. What hurts he most is that some people don't see him for what he really is. I pointed out his insecure behavior and his recent crap throwing behavior towards anyone to a couple of my coworkers and they basically reacted with pitty towards him. It's like they know h…
/r/askTRP02/04/16 06:52 PM
1

So by accepting it with a smile, small banter back at him and overexaggerating what he says followed by a highfive will make him a bro. I don't want to be his "bro". I didn't like him before this and I don't like him now. I won't change just becuase of this.
/r/askTRP02/04/16 06:49 PM
1

Ok, you keep hitting the right buttons, thanks :) What about this? Someone who: doesn't have access to that female organ :) is not a top dog he can still influence my social standing. What if that is the problem? I've always seen him as weak and below me. I don't like him and I don't want to be like him. Yet, he can undermine my social standing by criticizing me or joking about me. Why? because I don't care about his opinion so I won't consider changing just to avoid his banter. But that makes i…
/r/askTRP30/03/16 08:30 PM
1

It's the idea that they'll judge you if you fuck up is what I've always found. Oh my god, this is it! He's condescending and likes it to point out negatives. He jokes about it but does it all the time. This has to be it. I realized now that I'm extra cautious when I talk for this reason and whenever I'm saying jokes or similar stuff I feel anxious, not about the comeback, but about the idea of being judged negatively based on his comments. But I can't believe this, why is that? I was not like th…
/r/askTRP30/03/16 07:31 AM
1

Ironically, the few times I felt good were when people laughed at him for something I said. This is the thing: it's like I'm subconsciously aware that he's a piece of shit hiding behind jokes and stuff. And that somehow shakes whatever social-aware stuff I have in me. And it's making me mad. Not because he's being bad explicitly all the time, but because the few times he does I just take a note and I can't let go.
/r/askTRP30/03/16 06:19 AM
1

Thanks man. One question regarding this: Possibly because you feel him pointing out something negative about you will diminish your value to the group. If I actually feel competent and confident in myself, and someone pointing out my negatives or ridiculing me makes me feel like this, what does it mean? Could it just be a sense of competitive threat instead of lack of confidence?
/r/askTRP30/03/16 06:11 AM
1

LOL?!? thanks for the advice. Sounds like you're lacking self confidence. Once you become okay with yourself you won't care what someone says about you. It sounds like you're on a lower rung of the social heirarchy Could it just be lack of confidence only in certain situations? Like, for example, I'm good at a lot of stuff but in social related ones I may be so insecure that crap like this gets me going?
/r/askTRP30/03/16 06:01 AM
1

But this is what I don't understand. I admit I'm a jerk, but whenever I humiliated him in the past it felt really good. Why? My guess is that I'm aware he's being malicious underneath? That he's just playing a game therefore he cares more than I do about this crap? Let's say we are hanging out. I'm looking at my phone and the others are talking about something. He pulls my name in as a punch line and I start losing it. Yes, I get it, I'm being overly sensitive, but how do I deal with that partic…
/r/askTRP30/03/16 05:59 AM
1

Has someone else made you feel that way before? No. I have no problem disliking people. I've always been able to shrug everything off my shoulder. if this is a fight or flight response, from anticipation. Probably, but anticipation from what? verbal teasing? does that make sense?
/r/askTRP29/03/16 07:10 PM
1

I assume this is a person that you feel you need to be accepted Couldn't care less about his opinion. has high social status around the office. Maybe this one? But I'm not sure. It's not that he's the social center of the group. He's outspoken but he's not the "leader", so to speak.
/r/askTRP29/03/16 07:09 PM
1

Be unaffected, do not act, BE. Train your mind to think of him as insignificant. I already do, that's what I don't understand. True, we work together and we have to see each other every day, but I don't like him as a person, I don't respect him and I certainly know I'm not inferior to him. Yet, I feel like this and I can't help it... why is that?
/r/askTRP29/03/16 07:08 PM
1

But inferiority in what sense? Hear me out: this person is not smarter than me, he's not a threat to my position, he's not even a threat to me inside the group as people like me. Then why do I feel so bad in these cases? I sometimes even find myself actively attempting to look at him while I have no problem looking at the others! What the hell is this?
/r/askTRP29/03/16 07:06 PM
2

Man, your life is hard... first world problems...
/r/askTRP29/03/16 07:44 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter