lambertb Archive

Upvotes	Title	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
8	How To Comfort Someone Who Is Hurting [x-post from r/socialskills]	lambertb	/r/seduction	31/07/17 01:00 PM
5	Everything You Do is a Performance Designed to Gain Support for One of Your Identities (x-post from r/socialskills)	lambertb	/r/seduction	24/04/17 02:59 PM
2	How to Be a Great Communicator: Improve Your Map of the Social World [x-post from r/socialskills]	lambertb	/r/seduction	22/08/17 09:22 PM
1	One Secret that Will Help You Overcome Social Anxiety	lambertb	/r/seduction	28/06/17 08:01 PM
0	To mean more than you say, be uncooperative. (x-post from r/socialskills)	lambertb	/r/seduction	07/06/17 08:44 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	How to Be a Great Communicator: Improve Your Map of the Social World [x-post from r/socialskills] The idea is that people who have more differentiated, abstract, and integrated dimensions for representing the social world will, in general, be more skillful communicators. The most common way of measuring this degree of differentiation (also known as "cognitive complexity") is to ask people to write brief impressions of liked and disliked others. These impressions are then scored by counting the number of unique descriptors in the impressions. More descriptors means higher "cognitive complexit…	/r/seduction	23/08/17 04:25 AM
1	How to Be a Great Communicator: Improve Your Map of the Social World [x-post from r/socialskills] Sorry you didn't find it helpful. I'll post some references tomorrow if you want to read about the evidence behind what I posted.	/r/seduction	23/08/17 02:08 AM
1	How to Be a Great Communicator: Improve Your Map of the Social World [x-post from r/socialskills] I cross-posted from r/socialskills. Is that not allowed in this sub? I've done it before without any objection.	/r/seduction	23/08/17 02:07 AM
0	One Secret that Will Help You Overcome Social Anxiety This is a video i posted for my blog. It's about fundamental sources of social anxiety (e.g., the fear of being humiliated). I first discuss why social interaction is so scary for many people. It really is risky. At any moment we could make fools of ourselves. But then I talk about one fact about the social world that might help socially anxious people feel more confident and at ease: people do not want to see you being humiliated or embarrassed. It's embarrassing for them to witness it. Unless …	/r/seduction	28/06/17 08:06 PM
1	Academic approach to communication and social skills Being yourself or using tactics? Well, I have what is perhaps an unusual perspective on this distinction. I don't believe there is such a distinction. The perspective I take on the social world comes from the sociologist Erving Goffman. He is famous for his "dramaturgical" account of the social world. This is a fancy word for the idea that the world is a stage, and we are all performers playing roles. Every social interaction is a performance. We are all playing roles all the time. None of these…	/r/seduction	10/04/17 03:54 PM
1	Academic approach to communication and social skills I don't have much advice when it comes to seduction as a kind of exploitation or manipulation. But if you think of seduction as a way of building an authentic connection, as building emotional intimacy as a prelude to physical intimacy, then I have a few thoughts. I do think that the superficial things are important: dress, hygiene, posture, fitness, etc., because everything about our appearance communicates something about our identity, and if we want others to value us we have to show that we …	/r/seduction	07/04/17 03:07 PM
3	Academic approach to communication and social skills Thanks. Glad you're finding it useful. If folks let me know what they'd like to learn about, I'll try to write about it in future blog posts.	/r/seduction	06/04/17 11:28 PM