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| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 5 | In the trenches | lampsandshades7821 | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/19 03:16 AM |
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| 2 | Thinking of divorce but feel immense guilt if she is pleasant for half a day - is this normal?Same exact boat here. I listened to so much verbal abuse that I would seriously tell ppl I was having a great day when there was a non confrontational few hours. I’d look back through all the notes I was tracking and just couldn’t mentally remember how bad it was in brief times of peace. Finally I made a pact with myself to not get excited or happy when I wasn’t getting screamed at, and see how long it could last. When I realized I just had to wait a couple hours for her true self to reappear, I… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/20 03:47 AM |
| 1 | How to handle the inevitable insult fests of a live-in divorce?Hunker down. You need to stay for custody... no way around it. Get a recorder, find a way to force out of body experiences, and don’t let her run over you. If it gets too crazy, call the police. If that’s in front of your children, then that’s on her. You can’t back down during the live in but you also should not provoke at all. Care for your children and move the process along asap. Your kids will see who the “mean” one is and that will be the basis for your future relationship w them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/10/19 12:00 AM |
| 3 | That moment when the fear drops awayYou’ve reached the point you need to reach. I’m going through a divorce, with a 4 yr old, which was turbulent to say the least. For the past two years I completely forgot who I was before being sucked into the hole of constant berating and mental beat downs. A few months ago my friend referred me to a joe organ podcast with naval Ravikant and he had a quote in there along the likes of “every person has two lives, and the second one starts when you realize you only have one.” You only have one li… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/10/19 02:17 AM |
| 3 | In the trenchesThanks and there is no way I can get her to do anything. I push her to talk to her family (which she cutoff) and friends about what we’re going through but she’s too proud for that. If I mention seeing a progressional, she’ll turn it around and tell me I need to see someone for depression. I actually was depressed for about a year but honestly since filing, I’m feeling closer to my old self. I’m starting to enjoy life again and actually thinking about goals for the first time in a. Long time too… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/08/19 03:45 AM |
| 3 | In the trenchesSo many similarities... Mine doesn’t call out germs specifically but does think that everything is constantly dirty. Our house is clean, we have a biweekly cleaner, and our house is spic and span. God forbid something is out of place or not put away. Also, she is always smelling something bad which freaks me out. Another thing about cutting off your family, that is not good and not sustainable. I was getting screamed at for being on the phone w my family and she was always inventing some horribl… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/08/19 03:37 AM |
| 3 | In the trenchesIdk but it definitely felt horrible for a while until I realized it was just guilt tripping, and was in no way reflective of my actions. Just trying to control through guilt. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/08/19 03:17 AM |
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