| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 18 | 1 year in separation. | Living Situations | landy_109 | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/25 11:55 AM |
| 16 | I don't get it anymore. | landy_109 | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/25 12:10 PM | |
| 11 | My Xmas... | landy_109 | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/24 04:43 AM | |
| 8 | New twist in my case. | Rant | landy_109 | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/08/24 11:28 AM |
| 7 | Little update... | landy_109 | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/24 03:40 PM | |
| 6 | Best quote since separation... | landy_109 | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/25 10:56 AM | |
| 2 | UK social housing question. | Spousal Support / Alimony | landy_109 | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/04/24 07:35 PM |
| 2 | Divorce update time. | landy_109 | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/01/24 08:15 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | Getting forced to a real life breaking pointNo job, homeless, no future. All I need is getting my teeth fixed to get a chance on the job market. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/06/26 12:17 AM |
| 3 | When did you know your marriage was over?When she told me she wanted a separation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/26 01:09 AM |
| 1 | Happy Sunday fellas, divorce sucks but what's one thing you're looking forward to this week?And Ozempic is not used for weightloss overhere. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/05/26 02:13 AM |
| 2 | Happy Sunday fellas, divorce sucks but what's one thing you're looking forward to this week?Not a vet, I was not allowed to serve. I did end up restoring churches till my spine collapsed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/26 11:51 AM |
| 7 | Happy Sunday fellas, divorce sucks but what's one thing you're looking forward to this week?hoping to lose some weight. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/26 02:48 AM |
| 2 | How have you been in a marriage for so long with no kids?stay or be homeless. stayed a extra 12 years and ended up homeless. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/04/26 08:19 PM |
| 1 | In an amicable divorce, how did you cut your emotional ties?I can show you the pictures of the old house. She collected everything and blamed me for filling the house. Because the kitchen was dirty she left me doing everything and as I have bad days with my back the whole house and garden grew as a workload and I could not keep up. According to her friend she regrets booting me out, she found out I did a lot, I contributed financially what I could to keep us afloat and did extra jobs to get fuel for the boiler. Even at friends house, I cooked a 2.5kg gam… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/26 12:56 PM |
| 1 | In an amicable divorce, how did you cut your emotional ties?i am learning to hate her. i want, i want and more i want. friend gave her my xmas gift money, to add to a bigger gift, still did not get anything. can't afford anything but wants to go horse racing. her not doing anything, making her house look like a shit tip and not being able to blame me for it... f you, i am done. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/26 08:08 PM |
| 5 | Man im in a dark space againLonely for the rest of your life? Not with a dog... | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/26 01:50 AM |
| 1 | What was your ex wife’s occupation?She had no job, she did a silver jewellery making course, got the tools and did not make anything from 2019 till now. As she had a life changing bike crash she was on disability benefits. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/01/26 05:35 AM |
| 3 | No goodbyehatred is you taking poison and expecting the other to die. try to let it go, you have a greater worth. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/10/25 01:57 AM |
| 2 | Best quote since separation...She might regret it, but to much is set in motion for me to stay. Her flat that she rents from her son is two bedroom, loads of restrictions on the lease. She made her bed, and I am looking at others as I remember the 11 year dead bedroom. If she wants to claim from past that date she will have a problem. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/25 07:23 PM |
| 7 | Best quote since separation...We always had separate bank accounts, it is just that she figured out she needs my help with her disabilities, was shocked that after paying everything she has £75 for the month. I did ask for her how the local Aldi treats workers in wheelchairs for part time work. Me, well I will be living 1600km away, have a life full of home brewing beer, working on cars, meals provided and rent free accommodation. I went from being broke to having 75K in my savings during the 18 months. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/25 11:05 AM |
| 6 | How many of you left because you wanted MORE?she is disabled, i did stay in a 10 year dead bedroom and living in a house without heating trying to make things better. she kicked me to the kerb and hoped i did stay close. that was a year and a half ago, no girlfriends since. i know i am not the best looking, but i am loyal. It is ok, even if i stay alone for the rest of my life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/25 01:56 AM |
| 6 | Message to my STBXWCheating is not forgivable, well, not in my book. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/25 03:59 PM |
| 8 | Message to my STBXWForgive you for what? We are missing things. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/25 09:46 AM |
| 6 | One Week Away and She Now Decides to ContestWish you strength with this one, go for what you can grab as all iss off now. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/04/25 09:24 AM |
| 1 | When did you guys find your purpose/hobbies?What can you expect? The oldest is 63 years and the youngest 26. We have 7 in total. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/25 01:53 PM |
| 2 | When did you guys find your purpose/hobbies?I like fixing things. Land Rovers need constant fixing. I need to get my 101fc ambulance running, build a bed in it and travel a bit. The American woman that I chat with, she loves the look, loves the potential the vehicle has and wants to come with. It be fine, she can help tinker if she wants. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/02/25 02:39 AM |
| 3 | SpiralingIt took me a year, a lonely Xmas in a ice cold house and the comments from Lauren that she will have time between her family and me ... it made me realise I deserved better and that what ex and me had was not love. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/01/25 02:43 PM |
| 5 | Are any of you in this group on good terms with your ex?She is disabled, and she has me to rely on till the end of the month. After that time I am moving 1000 miles away. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/24 12:43 AM |
| 6 | Are any of you in this group on good terms with your ex?It is hit and miss. She relies on me but said I should spend Xmas in the cold and alone. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/24 08:38 PM |
| 3 | When did you stop wearing your wedding ring?Fear of de-gloving? Same here. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/24 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Separation = divorce?Not in my case. Even if she wanted me back, I ain't going. She asked me if I had a fling... I don't do short term, if I find someone I am committing for years. And I did find someone 5 years younger than me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/12/24 06:26 AM |
| 1 | How many of you are still friends w your ex wife?Still friends. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/24 06:21 PM |
| 2 | Holiday plans??I am in the mid of things, I am working to get the house empty, she sold it and bought another place. I am technically homeless now. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/11/24 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Holiday plans??At the friend of my ex wife, with ex wife and I have been told that if I am grumpy I will get booted out the door. So... Xmas at Salvation army? | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/11/24 02:10 AM |
| 2 | Getting ddivorced, did you find anyone betterI first have to deal with this issue. She hoped I stay local, she hinted at living next door to eachother, so I can help when she falls down with her prosthetic leg, or dog sit when she has fun with friends. There is nothing here for me anymore, so I am moving back to Holland and later to Spain. I can say this, I will end up with a Labrador pupper, for the rest... I will see. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/24 10:31 AM |
| 1 | Getting ddivorced, did you find anyone betterI haven't found anyone new, but I do look like Shrek as I scare people. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/24 09:05 AM |
| 6 | My Story…a summary of 15 years. Can you relate?I had a marriage of 10 years. She stated we are married 11 years now and will not grasp the end that seperation meant. If she wanted to live separately together, it is one... but she can't live with me. She told me she will miss my cooking, the help I offer, the extra funds she needed as she did not see how expensive shopping is these days and the disability needs she has got sorted by me. She misses the stuff I do, she never said she misses me. If she thinks I can drop stuff and fly from my new… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/10/24 12:35 AM |
| 5 | Anybody else having an absolutely dog shit 2024?Yes, '24 is shyte, but '25 might be Bulgaria, Hungary or Spain. We shall see. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/09/24 12:23 PM |
| 1 | New twist in my case.She sleeps with a friend on her sofa, I stay in the house. "You will need to be able to show that your spouse has, without your consent or without good reason, abandoned you for at least two years before you can start a petition for divorce." So that will be 2 years, in those 2 years I expect her to get me back as living alone as a disabled woman is hard. She even opted to buy houses next to each other but I can't see how that works out if I have another partner. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/09/24 08:39 AM |
| 2 | New twist in my case.She refuses divorce. So I have to stay separated for 2 years and then file for it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/08/24 04:40 PM |
| 2 | Boy do I feel conned, duped, bamboozled.... the whole gamut.If I look at my dating inbox, I agree. Had one that wanted me to pay her utilities... another wanted a concert as first date, £250 per ticket. And then call me cheap when I say a prostitute is cheaper. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/24 08:43 AM |
| 6 | What red flags did you see at the very beginning?She was only her orientated. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 11:42 PM |
| 2 | Guys with small social networks, how are you after divorce?Nope, I have no one. It is OK, less baggage for moving. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 01:03 AM |
| 7 | Guys with small social networks, how are you after divorce?Struggling. I found out I have 0 friends, they all picked her side. Nothing here for me, is there? I mean... not even prospects on dates. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/24 04:33 PM |
| 1 | Late 30s dating...oofIf it does not work out, I can cram my stuff in a sea container and move away to the next adventure. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/24 05:42 PM |
| 2 | When people talk about working on themselves after divorce, or "doing the work" - what does that look like?I went on holiday with my ex and a common friend. She saw me struggle with evening walks, as I did the cooking and cleaning too, friends dog went off her food so I finger fed her. I lost 22kg of weight in a year, quit my mental health drugs without telling my doctor... Friend saw how lazy ex can be, and ex told me my butt got in a better shape, I did reply that I will find someone to appreciate it. I was her perfect husband for a week, she knows what she will be missing... I, I slept next to a a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/24 09:52 AM |
| 1 | What are our worth without our jobs and assetsHeight, 6ft 3. 6 cars, non of them fast though... I am chubby and have long hair, teeth need work and my value is 0 to the ladies. I can cook, know how the washer and dryer works, weld, fix cars... but still my value is 0. I wonder what my value would be to a female prepper, she should value practical skills over the shallow things. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/06/24 08:20 PM |
| 1 | Late 30s dating...oofI have friends moving there, so why not tag along? Just looking for more freedom and a better life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/06/24 11:45 PM |
| 2 | Late 30s dating...oofTurning 44, I feel that. I will go to Bulgaria instead of looking in the UK. I am at the point where being alone is better than dating apps. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/24 09:20 AM |
| 7 | How many of you moved to a new city/state to start over completely fresh?How does moving 1000 miles to the other end of Europe sound? She hopes we will be neighbours, but my plan shocked her, me signing agreements with friends to start a Dutch area in Bulgaria shocked everyone. A new adventure, a new wife! | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/05/24 11:33 AM |
| 1 | Male sex toysYou can go dogging, but getting it on in front of a crowd is not for everyone though. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/24 07:19 PM |
| 1 | UK social housing question.She has set her mind on a social housing bungalow next door to her friend, her being single means she get a single room house, not what this house is... a double. There are 400 people waiting on housing, and her being disabled does not get her higher on that list, she is selling her house and making herself homeless. It can take a few years before she gets a house, not the dream house and in before Xmas likes she hopes. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/04/24 09:52 PM |
| 2 | Silver BulletFun addition, she phoned me two nights ago... when she did dishes, I guess she misses me as I am with my mom and I need to pack up my workshop. She hated the fact my mom's neighbour is getting close to me, she loathes the fact there is a daughter that loves to have me as stepdad. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/04/24 08:34 AM |
| 6 | Silver BulletI started dating my wife in 2006, we broke up in 2011 because her abusive friends stated I would never move in with her. I was dealing with my disability and benefits in my old country... I was ready to check out that week. After said friends left her for not wanting to sign over the house in their name, they left with all money and left their pets behind, and a 30k debt. I loaned her money to survive, made sure she ate and we went for try two. Got married two years later and ended up in the mes… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/04/24 08:29 AM |
| 2 | Divorced Men: With what you experienced, would you ever remarry? If you could go back, would you have ever married knowing what you know now?With her demands to finalise the divorce... I might not make it that far. I spoke to people about how she sees things and she got called delusional. Even to get divorced she wants the ring back, go back on promises she made... but even if I was divorced tomorrow, find new love... I only remarry if I have a biological child with her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/24 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Did you sleep with your x-wife after the divorce?She stated if she has sex with anyone, it is me. As she smokes and is quite boring in bed... nope. If pleasing me was important to her, it would be a factor in our marriage... I told her to find someone else. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/02/24 05:41 PM |
| 1 | In Retrospect, What Should Guys Screen for in a Partner Before Entering a Relationship?That is me screwed then. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/02/24 12:26 AM |
| 3 | Little update...With me putting 130k in and end up renting a room and the house ending up in her sons name. Can't win. She wants the high care, me cooking and doing what she wants but not do her duties. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/02/24 04:29 AM |
| 1 | Single Divorced Men, how are you dealing with the void on Valentine's day?First I need to make a plan on where to go. Deal with finances and then start a new adventure. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/24 07:36 PM |
| 1 | Single Divorced Men, how are you dealing with the void on Valentine's day?10 years no dental, cold and not much care grinds down your looks. I got to the point where if I stay alone the rest of my life that is fine too, where I am moving to, prostitution is legal. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/24 04:07 PM |
| 3 | Single Divorced Men, how are you dealing with the void on Valentine's day?Not with my looks. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/24 12:29 PM |
| 1 | Single Divorced Men, how are you dealing with the void on Valentine's day?My ex still calls me babe, she still has hopes to win "make me a winner" today with £126k to fix the house... I stated I would still have to find a space for my cars, dead bedroom... She stated I can't find room for your projects, no side women in marriage... and now she gives it as a option. I send some cards for valentine, she stated I am her last and I stated I am moving on as the day she pulled the plug out of the marriage is my start of freedom to move on. I wonder if she regrets it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/24 12:28 PM |
| 4 | If she was drowning…Not saving her points to me being a horrible human. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/24 01:27 AM |
| 4 | Have you ever “let her go” or given up while you was still married?She yelled in my face asking if I still loved her. That was 5 years ago, I broke that day... I told her a few times that she should be fine with me not knowing my value or I would be gone a few years ago. I was a live in carer, I told her I felt like that and nothing got done. I gave up ages ago, she needed a carer, I needed a roof. Should have left that last year before covid, made things more easy for me. She still states that we can be fixed, I need to put 50K in her house and that would go t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/02/24 05:14 PM |
| 3 | Happy sock day to me!Will do ... a Rum on your good health and freedom. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/02/24 02:07 AM |
| 11 | CowardsEven in my years of dead bedroom situation I never cheated. Now I am looking at dating I got a offer from a woman that looked for sex but behind her husbands back. It would be different if hubby knew and gave the ok, but now... no. I hate cheaters. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/24 01:14 AM |
| 1 | Divorce update time.The only close support I have, Is one friend that wants us back together. That will never happen... even if the house repairs are done overnight, it will still end up with dead bedroom and me not allowed to find that somewhere else. I refuse to buy her out and do it up with a new partner, as she demands that after I die, the house goes to her son. (He never wanted me as dad, he lives at his grandma). | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/01/24 10:14 AM |
| 1 | Divorce update time.Ex wife wants me to stay in the UK, she has a disability car (motability) that she wants me to have on my drive. She probably want to use me for the high rate of care I give her. If I get another woman, how would that go? Me doing fun stuff with partner, ex wife calls... I need to drop everything and help her? That is never going to work. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/01/24 10:10 AM |
| 2 | Divorce update time.She did try to drive a wedge between my Dutch family and me, my Dutch family saw this break up coming a mile away. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/01/24 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Divorce update time.Always wanted kids, glad I never had them. I have been a selfharmer since my teens, I have the scars, even my welding burns. I doubt with my looks I find love again, but that is fine too. Right now I am in no man's land, just trying to figure out what to do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/01/24 08:31 PM |
| 2 | For Those that did ALL the houseworkNot only house work for us, also for a friend. I was my wife's cripple carer. I will write about it in pieces I think. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/01/24 07:54 PM |
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