larkinnaire Archive

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3	VA Political Candidate Is Admitted Pedophile: Internet Echo Chambers To me, this article reads like "person with awful opinions exists". The fact that he's running for Congress is irrelevant unless we know what kind of support he gets. If he ran as a Republican, that would be interesting because it would imply he has institutional support, but he's running as an independent. Of course he believes he's speaking for lots of people -- he's completely crazy! The meta-belief that his views are popular is no more ridiculous than his first-order beliefs about women, etc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/18 10:38 PM
3	How do men reconcile hating sluts but wanting lots of sex?? Is it that they are pretending they aren't sluts, or is it that they have a different definition of "slut" from you, and you think yours is the one true definition?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/18 04:26 AM
1	How do men reconcile hating sluts but wanting lots of sex?? And yet, many people do point to women and say "she's a real slut", and they mean it in a derogatory way. The question is not, why do other dudes care or not? The question is, why do so many people use the word "slut" as a derogatory term in the first place?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/18 04:24 AM
1	[Q4All] Is "size doesnt matter" another lie women tell to not be percieved as shallow/slutty? I agree, no one should do it. Even for fat, since many people can't change that. I only ask because many RPers and other dudes feel the same way, and yet they gleefully make fun of women for their weight and all sorts of crap. It seems like people who do that don't really have a right to complain. Which makes your example of Trump super interesting. He gleefully makes fun of women for all sorts of things in a really middle-school way, so while I personally wouldn't go the small-dick route, it's …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/18 08:53 AM
1	[Q4All] Is "size doesnt matter" another lie women tell to not be percieved as shallow/slutty? It's true that some women torment men about their insecurities, and this is inconsistent. What is the consistent principle, in your view? Is it that everyone should be able to torment the opposite sex for their weight or dick or tits or whatever? Or is it that people should refrain from tormenting people about that stuff?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/18 08:01 AM
1	[Q4All] Is "size doesnt matter" another lie women tell to not be percieved as shallow/slutty? I'm a short dude with a small-ish dick, so for awhile I had a motivated interest in this question. The most informative responses will be from women, of course, but I've learned some things from having a sex life that is much better than I thought it would be when I bought into the "size matters" stuff. I think "size doesn't matter" and "it's the motion of the ocean" are not "lies", but are imprecise summaries of what makes good sex. Women have different preferences for optimal dick size. I have…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/18 07:54 AM
1	Q4BP: Is the inverse of female sexuality problematic? They are all fine and not problematic and perfectly feminist. It is fine to have preferences about the type of relationship you want and the person you want to date. Where it gets problematic is when people frame their desires as the way things ought to be for everyone: "I want to take charge of a woman because men dominating women is the natural order of things". Everyone has the freedom to adopt a traditional patriarchal role if that's what gets them off, but they shouldn't force those roles o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/18 02:01 AM
1	What's your gender, age bracket and notch count? Have you lied about your count? Straight dude, late 30's, 35-40 partners. I don't lie about it, but it doesn't come up much and I don't think it's very far from the average in my community.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/18 01:51 AM
1	Q4all: How do you weight a potential partner's count in these circumstances? Straight guy in my 30s. They are all I for me -- I don't care about partner counts. The ones about lies are possible red flags -- I would ask about why she lied, and we'd have to talk about it. The problem would be more in the lying than the fact that it's about sex. I understand why people lie about the number question, though, so I'd probably cut her some slack. And if she was a virgin, that would also be something we'd have to talk about a lot, because it affects how we move forward.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/18 01:39 AM
0	"Former" slut Is it possible that the "underlying pathologies" could go away? In other words, is it possible that people can change? I used to listen to a lot of punk music. I was angry and depressed, so it felt right. Now I don't listen to punk much. I still love it, I just listen to other things more nowadays. Are you saying I must still be angry and depressed, somewhere deep inside? Why is sluttiness so different from other things we outgrow?	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/18 01:27 AM
9	"Former" slut Your experience is also not the be-all-end-all of human experience, and yet you are drawing some big conclusions based on it. For the record, my experience matches RetardCat69's.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/18 01:19 AM
5	"Former" slut Right, "felon" is a technical term, and part of the definition is that it follows you around afterwards. There's no such technical condition for sluthood, and anyway, I don't think people intuitively consider someone a felon if they did their time 20 years ago and have been fine since then.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/18 01:16 AM
3	"Former" slut Oh geez, I have met many promiscuous women who approach it from a healthy perspective -- or at least, a perspective that is just as healthy as that of promiscuous men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/18 01:15 AM
3	"Former" slut If someone is a slut for a long-enough time (like a few years) then I guess I'd call them a former slut (not with any sort of negative implication, though -- sluts are great!). And a person who was single for awhile but currently has a partner is a former single person, sure. It's really about the length of time of the sluttiness. Someone who grows up Catholic but ends up atheist is, uncontroversially, a former Catholic, right? But someone who tries it out for 6 weeks and decides it's not for th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/18 01:11 AM
1	When asking a person their number of partners, how valid is a sexual encounter where the other person was only involved for money? Specify why you answer one way or the other Right, but not because hookers don't count as sex. It'd be wtf to hear someone casually talk about their hookers at all, much less that many of 'em.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/18 06:14 PM
2	When asking a person their number of partners, how valid is a sexual encounter where the other person was only involved for money? Specify why you answer one way or the other Right, the usefulness of including prostitutes in the answer depends on why the question was asked. This seems obvious. Even for those of us who have faced this question, it's not usually a conundrum because we either infer from context what the person is really asking, or...we ask them what they're really asking.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/18 06:13 PM
7	When asking a person their number of partners, how valid is a sexual encounter where the other person was only involved for money? Specify why you answer one way or the other She classifies them all as people she's had sex with, but if the question is "how many people have you had sex with that you cared about" the answer is 5. It's a different question, so it gets a different answer. Not sure why this is difficult.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/18 06:09 PM
3	Is causal sex ever really causal? "Never" is a ridiculously strong word here. There are all sorts of people in this world, some of them are going to be fine with casual sex at different points in their lives. Once we've established this, the question is "what percentage of people are like this?", which is empirical. 50% of respondents say they hook up without hoping for a LTR -- that's a lot! You've got to have some strong evidence that those 50% of people are just deluding themselves. It's probably true that every instance of c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/18 04:41 PM
3	The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness [sigh] Only one of your claims has a "probably" in it. You say definitively that "it hasn't changed", like you have some data about that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/18 08:54 PM
1	Q4ALL: Who is more "oppressed": an elite female escort who makes $300/hour or a man who makes $15/hour (or less) doing menial labor or working as a cashier or something? That's fair. I feel like the question was more about autonomy in general, rather than lack of autonomy that is specifically caused by oppression, and a male low-wage cashier has less autonomy than a successful elite escort. I'll still say that the cashier is more oppressed -- specifically, the class oppression caused by inequality, which makes the basics of fulfillment (food, rent, healthcare) hard to reach even when one has a job. See also: it's expensive to be poor	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/18 08:49 PM
3	The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness Got a source for that? I couldn't find one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/18 08:43 PM
1	Q4ALL: Who is more "oppressed": an elite female escort who makes $300/hour or a man who makes $15/hour (or less) doing menial labor or working as a cashier or something? I'd try for either a camboy (because of the time flexibility and distance) or the elite escort (because adventure, money, and I have the prerequisites), but the middle ground wouldn't interest me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/18 07:08 PM
3	Q4ALL: Who is more "oppressed": an elite female escort who makes $300/hour or a man who makes $15/hour (or less) doing menial labor or working as a cashier or something? It sounds like when you say "work", you mean something like "manual labor". When you hear "sex work is work", you should think of it more like a white-collar job such as acting, lawyering or software development. 20% of those jobs is the "real stuff" and the other 80% is the "bullshit" that has to happen to enable the other 20%. So for instance: being an actor consists of being onstage sometimes, and a lot of emailing for auditions, scheduling, staying in shape, warming up, etc. Lawyers are some…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/18 07:04 PM
3	The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness The paper is based on data that ends in 2005, when social media was something used by young people, and yet the paper finds the same result across all demographics.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/18 06:14 PM
2	The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness And the data is from 2005, 13 years ago.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/18 06:10 PM
5	Q4ALL: Who is more "oppressed": an elite female escort who makes $300/hour or a man who makes $15/hour (or less) doing menial labor or working as a cashier or something? You are more "oppressed", meaning there is more in your life that is out of your control than in hers. I don't think being an escort is an easy job. I bet they work their asses off, but movie stars also work their asses off when they are shooting a movie, doesn't mean they are oppressed. Women who are blessed with the education, personality and looks to make it work will probably find life working in her favor, generally. I don't know exactly what kind of bigger point you're trying to make, but …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/18 08:47 AM
1	A clear sign that feminists aren't believing in what they are fighting for like they used to Anytime. :)	/r/MensRights	27/06/15 05:15 PM
1	A clear sign that feminists aren't believing in what they are fighting for like they used to Sort of. I certainly believe exists in other countries, but for discussing American culture I don't think the concept is as relevant as it was back in the day. It's unnecessarily divisive. I do think, however, that a lot of the issues where the term "patriarchy" is invoked are legitimate. Women do have it rough in a number of ways. Men have it rough in a number of ways too. Thinking about it all as amorphous unstoppable "patriarchy" doesn't give any useful hints as to what steps to take to make …	/r/MensRights	27/06/15 05:15 PM
2	A clear sign that feminists aren't believing in what they are fighting for like they used to I've found, as I've done more reading, that feminists and MRAs have a lot of common ground, and a lot of good could be done if they'd stop demonizing eachother. The MRA conception of "feminism" is way different from what feminists (like me) conceive themselves to be, and the feminist conception of MRA is also pretty off-base. Introspecting about how and why MRAs are misinterpreted will lead to a lot of insights about how feminists are being misinterpreted.	/r/MensRights	26/06/15 01:58 AM
1	If you want to change the legal name of your child in Canada you will need the the form below. I don't think your post is primarily meant to be informative -- you're stating, at length, a judgment that dads have unfair difficulties when changing child names compared to moms. I'm saying the intensity of that judgment isn't backed up by the document you posted. It's true that one parent can check the "unreasonably witholding consent" box, but there's nothing that says "only women can check this box, and we won't do any checking up". If your a single father of a child, you have no ability to…	/r/MensRights	25/06/15 08:53 PM
1	If you want to change the legal name of your child in Canada you will need the the form below. I don't understand. This form says you need the consent of both parents, regardless of gender, and the only way you don't need the consent of the other parent is if there is a restraining order against that other parent, which is totally reasonable. The only sexist thing I see is the part that says "restraining order between father and children". There are restraining orders between mothers and children too, so they should change that. But again, this difference only applies when there are restr…	/r/MensRights	25/06/15 06:55 PM
1	#YesAllWomen (including the morbidly obese) are beautiful just the way they are, and you're a body-shaming misogynist piece of shit if you think or say otherwise, but a fast-spreading internet meme started by three girls celebrating imperfect men is literally a crime against humanity and women. I get it too. I disagree with the author that the Dad Bod trend(?) is a bad thing just because there are worse things. But women are held to way higher cultural standards about their bodies, by both genders. I think the key distinction is that if you look at what culture says about women, you'd think that men are only attracted to gorgeous women, but that is clearly not the case. It must be very strange having culture tell you you're ugly, but having individual men tell you you're hot. The smart…	/r/MensRights	06/05/15 02:23 AM