larkstarfish Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
51	Well-written article on the cultural burden placed on women in the home	BOOK REPORT	larkstarfish	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/01/21 08:24 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
135	Block & Delete isn't always Enough THIS. This is powerful. This is the only way we will see sustained change. There needs to be consequences for accountability. I recognize this is difficult in the moment- even to remember these options, but the more you do it, the easier it gets, and the braver you will become. Excellent, excellent post 🙏	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/04/22 11:58 PM
810	Yes, you are. 💋 What a massive asshole. I appreciate all the top rated comments, rightly pointing out that OP doesn’t make nearly the same effort to prepare himself for impressing society, nor did he approach her in way that would be empathetic to any signs of depression (if indeed that might have been why she stopped dressing up). I love that these questions are being brought to the forefront to be answered in a clear and direct way, that, yes, that is horrible treatment of someone you should love and care abo…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/03/22 01:44 AM
34	The Awakening is Hard. Yes, and forgive yourself for not knowing better. Sometimes I get so frustrated with myself for sliding backwards or when I think back to how o acted in the past. Treat yourself as if you were your six year old self. You didn’t know what you didn’t know, and it’s more productive to look forward than back 🤍	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/03/22 03:09 PM
164	The Awakening is Hard. I’m the words of Gloria Steinem: The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off. Be gentle with yourself, and take as much time as you need to digest. Remember that your whole life has been indoctrinated in the patriarchy, and you have the rest of it to unlearn those facets and engage in life on your own terms.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/03/22 04:47 AM
6	Sons of single mothers = a huge red flag Well put. I agree. Especially the timing of this is insensitive at the least.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/12/21 01:45 AM
17	Sons of single mothers = a huge red flag Here the main point I am reading are the single mothers. Clearly I’m taking this personally, but your title is literally pointing at single mothers. I know you say you don’t hate mothers or their children, but you are claiming this by itself is a red flag. A red flag (to me) means don’t even bother. This is absolutely your prerogative. I just want to point out that this isn’t helpful or productive to those of us who are single mothers. It also isn’t my experience with men either. This broad brus…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/21 07:53 AM
22	Sons of single mothers = a huge red flag I have to say I think this may have been your personal observations, but I will mirror many other responses on here that LVM come from all sorts of families. I am a single mom too, a widow. I work hard so I will be thinking hard about how to reduce the chance of #4 perspective happening. My son is 7. He has other HVM in his life (grandparents, uncles, friends, cousins, etc), so I’m not too worried. I will say that painting this broad a brush is not helpful for undoing patriarchy norms. Let’s do …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/21 07:01 AM
72	How do you handle being approached by scrotes? And certainly women couldn’t possibly know what they want by themselves and just want to be convinced how much they need you 🙄	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/12/21 12:38 AM
137	How do you handle being approached by scrotes? Sadly this has been the thing that has worked best for me- some form of “Shucks. I’m taken [and not interested in straying].” It’s awful that me saying “I’m not interested” simply isn’t good enough, but that’s the patriarchy for you… 🤷🏼‍♀️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/12/21 12:21 AM
26	is there a way to "win" ? Yes. Keep leveling up. Improving yourself, caring less what other think, learning, growing in every way. I honestly think getting older is a blessing because I don’t care as much what others think and it frees me from comparing myself to others. Just keep going. You will win.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/12/21 03:02 AM
125	Are all adults just getting dumber? It sounds like you’ve outgrown that group. Just like individual friendships, groups can get “leveled up.” I’ve found that when I’ve grown, I need to change my environment too. It’s uncomfortable, but a necessary part of maturation. It sounds like you have associated with this group for awhile and have outgrown them. I no longer enjoy the friend group I had in high school, I much prefer chatting with professionals in my field as I have much more in common with them. Time to move on?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/12/21 07:45 PM
13	How to be alone This was beautiful. Thank you 🤍	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/09/21 03:13 AM
38	courtesy of ‘feminists without religion’ on FB today. enjoy your game of chicken ladies. I play this game - especially when on a run through town. I get icy stares. They are shocked SHOCKED that I expect them to use their half of the sidewalk, especially older guys. They are also SHOCKED when I don’t look away. It’s fun sometimes.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/09/21 04:19 AM
11	Sorry ladies but I gotta use this space to mock poly people 🤣 “Certified Old Person”! I love it. May I use this?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/09/21 03:26 AM
159	A TERRORIST murdered five people in the UK. Women should learn a lesson. (Context in comments) What in the PATRIARCHY kind of logic is this? Gaslighting at the highest level. Make it make sense? No! It just doesn’t make sense! Stop blaming women for violence done to them. Ugh. Disgusting. 🤮	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/08/21 11:28 PM
11	“Build with him” Ewww. I’m sad on behalf of those ladies. What kind of person would say this kind of thing in public against, what should be, his best friend?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/06/21 08:13 PM
26	What's something that always bothered you/felt weird while growing up, but you could never place why until you realized it was misogyny? Same. Also noticed that the girls in the neighborhood were expected to babysit, but none of the guys were.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/06/21 03:16 AM
12	"Division of labor imbalances in marriage are a form of spousal abuse...make him earn his right to stay married or divorce his ass." Exactly. BRAVO. 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/05/21 05:19 AM
1	Banned from other subs just for being a member of FDS? That’s fair. I get it. Selfishly, that’s one area of Reddit I felt understood as an underappreciated mother. It’s disappointing that I can’t share with this small group and neither can they learn from me as true peers.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/05/21 12:10 AM
4	Banned from other subs just for being a member of FDS? I disagree. Each one of us should be able to comment and enlighten others in other areas. Especially moms.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/05/21 12:41 AM
1	Banned from other subs just for being a member of FDS? Yes - automatically and permanently banned from r/breakingmom for participation in FDS. So incredibly disappointing that they feel I can only be in one. Seems like there was nothing I can do about it.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/05/21 12:39 AM
25	What wall? 70yo woman credits her beautiful life to staying single and falling in love with yourself. She’s incredible. I wanted to hear more from her! Also - starting to moisturize....	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/03/21 06:21 AM
30	A tale about my elderly neighbor who embodies FDS. I love these stories about of the women we can embody if we continue to love ourselves. These are true community role models. Thank you for sharing.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/03/21 06:01 AM
1	Smh!!!!! Stuff like this is why I will probably never date until my kids grow up. You could be right many times, but I ask you to hold out for the exception, like being widowed. You never know what life will bring you.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/01/21 07:27 AM
5	Smh!!!!! Stuff like this is why I will probably never date until my kids grow up. This really hurts. I’m a single mom because he died by suicide. Thanks for asking the world to tell me how little it values me. This is so so disrespectful and thoughtless.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/01/21 07:25 AM