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It's gonna fall on deaf ears but: Work with a sense of dignity and pride and refuse things that seem suspect and that you genuinely don't want to do. If you lack the social or negotiating skills to do that then don't pursue this profession! You WILL get humiliated or hurt and you're lowering the social status of women as a group. Don't act superior to non sex workers simply because you make more money. It's not women's fault that our skills at every level are undervalued Plus if everyone did sex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 01:14 AM
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Anne of The Thousand Days is a movie that came out in the 70s based off of a popular stage play. Richard Burton plays Henry VIII and Genvieve Bujold plays Anne. I think it's the best portrayal of her ever put on screen. It shows her intelligence, wit, passion and fiery defience and what a tragedy the whole thing was. It even straight up depicts Henry VIII as a sociopath happily riding off to Jane Seymour's after Anne is beheaded. Claire Foys performace on the BBC miniseries Wolf Hall is a close …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:35 PM
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Omg the Tudors. I mean...he's been played by fucking Richard Burton and Jonathan Rhys Meyers and we know he wasn't that sexy IRL. Historical fiction is so wild tho. I enjoyed The Other Boleyn Girl even tho it was such trash. The same author made Margaret Beaufort, who gave birth to Henry Tudor at 12 and almost died and was known for her charity and piety and chastity into a child murderer Littlefingeresque type of schemer. Historians even have their biases so you gotta keep that in mind when rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:27 PM
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Lmao. She refused to be a mistress to a married man. Refused him at every turn until he proposed marriage. And because marriages of the nobility were affairs of state she couldn't marry anyone else without his permission! Even if he gave her gifts to win her favor and put her friends and family in high offices that's....basically what a king is SUPPOSED to do for his Queen. Her very last existing letter to him says something along the lines of, " You gave me all of this and I never asked for any…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 11:20 AM
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I've heard he supposedly had chlymidia. Princess Mary had notoriously poor eyesight and children born to women with untreated Chlymidia can be blind. I think blindness in one eye is a symptom of untreated Chlymidia. Also her fertility issues. Supposedly Anne figured out that it was him and said something about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 10:58 AM
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She was so awesome. And she's still maligned even today by dumbass people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 10:53 AM
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I was waiting for somebody to post this lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 10:50 AM
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Yo...this motherfucker right here! And Mary Queen of Scots Husband Lord Darnley. They make my blood boil. I think Henry was a narcissistic sociopath and set Anne up to take the fall for his breaking away from the church. How do you chase a woman for SEVEN YEARS, block her from marrying anyone else and then DECAPITATE HER??????? I always think about this whenever people make romances about a powerful man romancing a woman way below him in social status. I just think: "He's an abuser, or he's coo …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 10:39 AM
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I definitely saw marriage this way. Which is why it's my lowest priority. I want it but it would take a lot of convincing at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:07 AM
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I think I get the opposition to what she's saying but hear me out. As a black woman I have this same problem with a lot of performers playing out racial stereotypes onscreen or committing crimes. Because even if I have nothing to do with it, it still affects the way that I am perceived and how I move in the world. The racism/prejudice would still exist even if we were perfect noble angels but that shit doesn't help in that it forms this subconscious association in people's minds. Even in our own…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:45 PM
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Hahaha! I was just saying this to someone. That when I was younger, I didn't trust going into fields that I was actually interested in because they tend to be male dominated. In the case of the military or even long haul CDL driving, I didn't trust going off long distances with men I didn't know since most men view sex as currency(at least the only currency they value) and rape is just basically theft to them. Theft is a crime of oppurtunity and there's too many opportunities for it when they're…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:53 PM
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Women need to understand that sex isn't power-it's currency. You know what happens to currency when more of it is put into circulation: Inflation. The value of it goes down and you need more and more of it to purchase things because it's worth so much less. This is what you're seeing with the current generation of men and women and it's only going to get worse as time goes on if women don't stop falling for 3rd Wave feminist bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 01:54 PM
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This sounds like sadly typical 3rd world prostitution/grifting. I know they don't ask for money upfront so it sounds more like sugaring. But still fairly typical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:40 PM
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Or be like, "I hate child molesters." And then sexually proposition, try to date women the same age as their adult daughters. You know women who would've been a child at the same time as their biological children but are grown now so...somehow that's okay to them and not just as bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:25 PM
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Well damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 03:47 AM
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Ah okay. I didn't get what you meant. Marriage doesn't really stop you from pursuing studies and career. It changes your tax filing status which might change how you pay for school or which career you're pursuing but Im from the Midwestern U.S. where many people get married out of high school to people they've known since childhood and they pursue careers and finish university education just fine. In a situation where people may be far apart doing long distance relationships no sex before marria…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:32 PM
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Well generally unless you're underage...no one needs to spend years waiting to get married to anybody. You can get married at any time. Unless the person you're with just doesn't want to commit in which case yeah they find ways to drag their feet to the alter. But either way marriage isn't an irreversible decision. There's no reason for you stay married if there's some issue you can't resolve And nowadays with fertility testing, std testing, checking people's background. There's really nothing y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:16 PM
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If that's the case, marriages can be annulled. Pretty easily. I know someone who realised he WASN'T gay...on his honeymoon. After acting weird with his husband and avoiding him and then agonizing over it he finally sat down and explained to him what he was going through and they had a good laugh over it and annulled the marriage. They're still friends And unlike divorce you can get anullment for basically any and every reason. Fairly quickly too if you do it within whatever the appropriate timef…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:08 PM
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Here's the thing, if you love each other and you're a committed to each other you can work on anything. That includes sexual incompatibility. And if you can't fix whatever the problem is and you don't think more time together will solve it, then marriages can also be anulled. Most of the sexual problems in marriage/long term relationships don't even start in the beginning anyway, they start later on. You can wait until after marriage to have sex it's perfectly fine. You're supposed to be spendin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 10:59 PM
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I'm so sorry. I seriously hope he burns in hell for doing that shit to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:15 PM
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Same. Every time I think about it I get tired and realize that I'm too uninterested for that. I get so tired of people expecting me to mule at work why would I want to come home and do it when I did it so much as a kid? For shitty ungrateful ass people who didn't value me too? kiss teeth Fuck outta here. Unless you're doing something for me and its mutual...I don't have the time or the interest sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:33 AM
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See most men can't in my experience. At 30 he looked almost exactly like his 17 year old son. But my ex was one of the few who genuinely fooled me. He was unique simply because this guy just did not age visibly for whatever reason. Good genetics. He was into skincare because his mother was a dermatologist. He actually put me on to some things that I still do. Like dry brushing and also alternating between hot and cold water to bring more blood flow to the skin so it glows. He went to saunas and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 07:13 PM
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I've had a lot of older men try and date me and I've felt the same way as you, I recoiled as well. I'm surprised other people were more susceptible. I would have thought they would have reacted like us because they have experienced parentification before and would not want to repeat that dynamic. The one older guy I was engaged to was 10 years older than me. And he kind of tricked me because he looked younger than he was. He was actually an undercover cop! He already worked in law enforcement bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 06:09 PM
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I mentioned upthread about parentification and how it makes the younger partner in this kind of relationship more susceptible to this kind of grooming but it actually made me recoil from it, since I hated being parentified by the one parent who did it most often. And the few older men I dated lol it was always because they provided for me and made my life easier and seemed to want to settle down or have a serious relationship with me immediately(that was the lie I fell for since the one I was en…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:18 PM
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It never fooled me. Probably because I knew it wasn't true. I was exactly the right level of maturity for my age. No more, no less. That would actually be a red flag to me, when someone said that or implied something like that. Especially when they just met me. But then I've always been suspicious when people give me generic compliments that have nothing to do with my actual character traits. Usually it's a sign that they know NOTHING about me but are trying to sound as if they do so they can co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 11:58 AM
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Oh lol I already do that but thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:59 AM
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...I've seen the opposite of this tho. It's just people know what to say to rationalise it and make it sound better. I know someone who says they're a feminist and yet they got angry when their ten year fiance choked them and I called the cops on him since "cops trigger them". A lot of people do dumb toxic shit but will try to act like they're doing the opposite to keep up appearances. For instance a lot of "pickmeishas" will tell people that they're feminists. The one I'm talking about justifie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:13 PM
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https://youtu.be/7Wux4HnZRY0
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 09:42 AM
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Real talk...a lot of old school novels and movies be telling real relevant truths once you get past the euphemisms/outdated slang. I feel like a lot of bullshit that goes on nowadays women simply wouldn't fall for if we listened to what women from that generation had to say about men. But a lot of women are so inherently competative with each other that you really can't tell a lot of us anything. Especially to the ones that are addicted to male validation and approval.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:41 PM
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Um...I heard she actually...was sexually abused(throughout her life)so that could also explain why she got no pleasure from sex really. I don't think she was lesbian though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 11:01 AM
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I want children myself but I don't trust having them with anyone. People in general lie a lot, I've had them do it to me over trivial things. That's a decision I don't trust making with anyone and that's why I've been celibate for 5 years now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 04:04 AM
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Even back then many of them didn't actually do that. I was reading somewhere that some textile manufacturing plant in the 1900s many of the mostly female workforce were single mothers because the husbands refused to work or hold down jobs and their reasoning was that they HAD to take care of the child/children but not the man. So they threw him out or he left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 03:34 AM
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My life at work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:49 AM
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God this was so powerful to read. Glad you got away from that fucking pervert and situation. She was desperately codependent and pretended that she enjoyed her miserable relationship. ...I have a friend in this situation now who stopped talking to me for like two months because I called the cops on a DV her trash ten year fiance did to her. I'm dreading her ending up like this but she's going into it with both eyes open. Thankfully she says she doesn't want children but still. The wasting of yea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 12:02 AM
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It's stupid to lie about anyway because people can check if you're actually married or not. Isn't it a matter of public record? They're in the UK so maybe not there but seems dumb. A lot of men are pulling this shit now. I know a girl who's been with the same guy for 10 years he won't marry her, but he's willing to tell people that they're married. This woman didn't know so I don't blame her. But my friend knows and despite this and incidents of verbal, emotional, physical abuse she still choose…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:13 PM
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Ugh...it was such a good book! I borrowed from a university library I won't name and never returned it and then the bag I had it in got stolen while I was at work. It's so hard to find: Virginia Burrus: Chastity as Autonomy: Women in the Stories of Apocryphal Acts. A lot of the early Christian history deals with women because they were the earliest converts. Really interesting stuff even if you aren't a Christian. Revolt of the Widows is also another good one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 02:15 AM
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That's a whole mother topic but the more I read about the Roman Empire...the more I feel like classical historians romanticize it a lot. There's many complex reasons why so many people embraced Christian ideas despite how bizarre they were at that time. Paganism to me seems more totalitarian than its depicted and to many people back Christian ideology was seen as liberating. But it's easy to understand why being free from men's sexual demands was liberating for women back then. No diseases, no p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 09:56 PM
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This is why when people say women are catty I know they're ignorant or catty themselves because, the happiest women that I've ever met were nuns. I know this because I stayed at a rooming house run by nuns once. There were a few who just had bad personalities but the majority didn't. It was so peaceful in general. Women who CHOSE(choice is key) not to spend time with men I've noticed are generally happier. I think once you spend less time around men you see how little they matter to your life. N…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 07:39 PM
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Omg I love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:12 AM
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@IgetUsernameScraps In regards to the baby trap, she's ambivalent about kids...And he definitely wants kids but she's saying she doesn't because I think on a subconscious level she wants them but just not with him. I think him reneging on marriage after promising for ten years kind of made the wheels turn in mind and she's mentally emotionally moving away from him. She's not conscious of it yet but...I think that's happening and she's like holding on to the idea of marriage so she doesn't have t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 11:57 PM
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She's in Canada...Im not sure how the laws work there. I know restraining orders are harder to get, and they have something called a peace bond but not both parties have to be present to give their side. Canada has a shockingly high number of domestic violence type homicides for a country with such a small population and I fully believe this contributes to that. She may very well have told the therapist everything but the fact that she's trying to minimise it now with me makes me unsure. It does…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 11:08 PM
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They'll delete any apps or evidence. Better to check it when they aren't looking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 03:32 PM
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... And I love dresses. Especially vintage ones! But this advice is so true and life saving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 03:22 PM
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Omg that's genius.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 03:21 PM
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He was a provider so that bullshit was all on his dime. I'm not gonna say that made me trust him but it made me feel like he loved me because he was so generous, why else would he invest so much of his resources in me/us? Turns out he simply had a different scam going on because he was a narcissist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 03:18 PM
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I agree with this. It will show on its own if you're observant and know what to look for. I do the same because I'm conservative and I live in a liberal area(NYC). And I'm working class to boot. All cardinal social sins even though everyone I grew up with where I'm from is like that. People assume things, often the polar opposite of who I am and I just let them to suss them out. Very often it tells me a lot about their TRUE views on race: how they react to my upbringing and how it shaped my valu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 02:18 PM
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She says the counselor knows but she minimised the choking with me long afterwards. Three days later, it was "more like a push"and cops didn't need to be involved, even though...long story he got her charged for running away from an argument with him but later paid to help get the charge removed(Canada has BS self defense laws long story.) Butwhat she literally told me the day it happened was that "he put his hands around my throat". Doesn't sound "like a push" to me And she never described as s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:31 PM
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She does appreciate me it's just...her perspective is warped at the moment. She apologised but she's not herself with him. I feel like she'll move past this and be like, "What was I doing back then?" But even if she doesn't, at least there's public record that he's been physical with her. From a third party. If he escalates that's something on her side even if she can't see that now I knew it would help her later if she does have to build a case against him. I knew she would be upset with me, we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 04:55 AM
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Exactly. Long story but my first everything I was engaged to him. Turned out he was living a double life. He had a 2nd apartment for his side chick. I thought because I had a ring, we shared an apartment, he even called me his wife that meant we were serious. Chick in the other apartment that didn't know about me must've thought the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:12 AM
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My friend is in an abusive relationship now and they're in couple's counseling. She says it's working but they were also in counseling when he choked her a few months back and I called the cops on him when he refused to leave their shared dwelling and she stopped speaking to me for 3 months. She did say she was working on not needing others approval and therapy was helping her with that, and that's part of the complex reason she's still with her abuser but I just don't want her to get hurt in th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 11:47 PM
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The truffle fries and bubble tea was🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 05:42 PM
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Relationships only take effort if you're immature and selfish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 10:17 AM
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This! This guy had the nerve to ask why after two weeks we weren't having sex. And I was like, "We're not in a relationship." And he then claimed that such terms were "archaic" and that we had a "connection" we needed to express physically. But he also claimed he wasn't just out get sex but to feel desired. Dumb shit but it was highly amusing reading the texts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 10:12 AM
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Maybe he was...like years ago? I think the other day was just coincidence. God, I hope so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 08:51 AM
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Yes it was dumb...in my defense tho... try finding a bathroom in Manhattan at 4am. Even as a woman. You could literally be pregnant, and people would be like, "Sorry no bathrooms." I think that's why so many people urinate/deficate in the streets here and it was freezing that night so I wasn't doing that. Although when I used to go clubhopping pre pandemic sometimes I would see women peeing openly in the street. I never had the courage. I didn't want to consider the stalking angle because he kin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 08:38 AM
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...I know a girl who got pregnant by and married to a 60 year old. She's in her 30s. Before I met her I knew a disturbingly large number of men in their 50+ with newborns. And I'm just like...who the fuck are they getting pregnant and who the fuck has an oops baby at that age? Or if it's planned, what dumbass wants to be an septgenarian/octogenarian with college aged kid? That's really selfish. It's more selfish than having a kid too young because they can at least grow up together. They gonna s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 08:17 AM
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One of my guy friends said it best. A bunch of guys were talking and this one was going on about "pussy"and another guy was annoyed and he said to him, "Why do you talk about sex so much?" And my friend answered, "It's like a unicorn, he's fascinated with it because TO HIM it's so elusive and mysterious. He's only seen it in his dreams, he's never seen one in nature." And the men in the group laughed and this guy continued(oblivious that he was being clowned on)"Yeah I like pussy. What about it?…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 05:58 AM
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This is exactly how I feel!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 07:22 PM
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Because....they want to control women and are worried that they can't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:36 AM
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I love your username.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:17 AM
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-didn’t have a good dad/stepdad. I don’t care if anyone wants to come for me- women with daddy issues might be insecure but men with daddy issues? Are fucking monsters. I can tell this instantly when I meet a man now. It's unfortunate and I know there are some great men who grew up without fathers/male role models but I've organically never been attracted to one even before they tell me, I can just feel it because they give off a certain energy/vibe. I'm not just talking men from working/middle …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 04:19 AM
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I wasn't raised to accept abuse. Quite the opposite. I feel like soceity and culture encourage me to du to lacking social status.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 04:10 AM
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Omg Rachel Bloom must've been so uncomfortable in that I give her serious props for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 07:50 PM
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5 commentssharesavehide This show is hilarious and I really like all the characters. It's crazy to me that a show about a man stalking someone, that he murders people to get close to, and then eventually murders the object of his obsession is more popular than this show, where the female stalker causes mostly emotional harm and is forced to confront their issues and grow as a person and change. Says a lot about our culture sadly. Rebecca did crazy things at times but she never exactly wanted to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 12:38 PM
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I feel like when men say that they don't understand something what they usually mean is they don't understand how much or how little force they can get away with using in the situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 10:18 PM
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I've always felt this too. There's nothing radical about sexually reenacting oppressive real world power dynamics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 04:50 AM
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Why did this make me laugh so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 03:06 PM
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There's a couple of good books about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 11:54 PM
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Guuuuurl, the Mama's and the Papa's drama was so terrible for them but fascinating for me. John Phillips was THE WORST. He had an affair with Michelle Phillips when she was a teenager and she went to his wife, bold as brass, like, "He's gonna be mine." And then his wife was like, "John has a Michelle in every town Bye heaux." Then John went to his wife and was like, "Can she(Michelle) be my side heaux and you be my main?" And John's wife was like, "Okay, buh-bye now. I'm divorcing you." Then Mic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:24 AM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 01:18 AM
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Can I ask you a question? I've seen this before and I never know exactly how to help someone in this situation. If I sense they are uncomfortable then I'll ask them if they are okay, make it a point to hang around so they're not alone with the guy and if I know the guy is a creeper then I'll tell them but I've had women get upset with me sometimes when I did this. Is it just a chance I have to take? How would you have liked to be approached in this situation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 07:23 PM
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Sorry to hear that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 12:22 PM
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I was just thinking about this because with the Rona street harassment has mysteriously vanished. It's all just, "Good Morning." "How are you doing?" with friendly smiles and not leers or anything inappropriate being said(at least around my way and I live in NYC.) I was surprised by this...until I realised a lot of these men have probably not gotten laid in maybe two months. Possibly longer than that. And while some violent sexual attacks have happened (like an older special needs woman getting …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 03:02 PM
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..........You're onto something. The ONE time I was ever invited into a threesome(I declined). Was by a geeky guy and his overweight girlfriend. But mainly him. He even approached me alone after I curved them both and I turned him down( at my apartment too. We were talking about something else and walking together because we lived in the same building and worked the same schedule and when we got to my door he tried to kiss me. Creepy in retrospect.) He thanked me after because apparently he thou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 12:01 AM
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I've seen men admit they are married but want a monogamous extramarital relationship. It blows my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 11:48 PM
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Omg so many facts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 11:41 PM
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She was always beautiful. But yes. I'm here for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 11:37 PM
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Audience: Noooooooooooo. I'm DEAD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 08:26 PM
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Sad that this even needs to be said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 06:28 PM
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This 10000x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 02:09 PM
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No you did not do George Peppard like that! 😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 11:28 PM
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I've always known this. What amuses me is when men try to pretend to care about you. It's usually obvious that they don't know how to fake emotion adequately and I would just look at them like they were crazy when they called themselves trying. I honestly can separate emotions from sex so it confused why men who were only interested in me sexually(who I was only interested in sexually) would try to feign emotional connection they clearly didn't feel. I assumed it was just a lazy way of keeping m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 12:56 AM
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It lasted about two years You should look up the Dalia Dippolito case if you want a laugh. Married man meets an escort, divorces his wife of seven years to marry the escort after knowing her for about two weeks(married man was on probation and his first wife stayed with him through a seven year prison sentence.) At some point the escort gets tired of him and after failing to get her new husband thrown back in prison for parole violations (including putting drugs in his car and calling the cops o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 11:34 PM
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See real love matches existed it just was also easy for abuse to proliferate and women suffered in silence. My grandmother's first husband was her highschool sweetheart. And he became a physically/emotionally/financially abusive man after he came back from fighting in a war. My grandmother's first husband was a bigamist and started fights about something trivial like my grandmother's cooking or household expenses just so that he could leave for a few weeks and go be with his second wife the next…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 04:28 PM
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Didn't read because...I cannot. Some things I'm happier not knowing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 08:59 PM
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Well they're in Canada so they pay taxes like a married couple. And my friend is actually the one putting it off she doesn't want them to spend a lot of money on a wedding. The guy wants to get married because they been together for eight years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 04:40 AM
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One of my friends is in a happy common law marriage but they were both each others firsts and never been with other people and got together at a very young age. They are about to get married now though. So don't lose hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 09:20 PM
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I love this comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 02:33 PM
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The movies I haven't seen but supposedly they destroy basically all of the character development in the series for most of the characters. Like Miranda's husband randomly cheating on her. I remember thinking that they were such an adorable couple and that Steve or whatever her husband's name is was a really sweet guy. It really wasn't in his characterization to cheat. I would've expected Miranda to do it before him honestly. As far as Big leaving Carrie at the alter,that was supposedly randomly …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:20 PM
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Sadly I had an uncle introduce us to his sidepiece while he was separated. Brought her to a holiday dinner and big mouthed kid me was like, "Where is Auntie Jackie?" And got smacked by my Grannie and told to stay in a child's place. When the woman looked shocked AF. But when the dust settled my Uncle stayed married to my Aunt. i don't know if he stayed faithful but he did in fact stay married. I never saw this woman again. Sadly nowadays getting introduced to a guy's family and friends is no gua…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 11:45 PM
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The series as a whole hasn't aged well but that was especially cringey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 11:36 PM
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More pickmeness https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xIrX4TIZl2M
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 07:55 PM
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I LOVE Isla Schlezinger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:12 AM
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I know a guy with Covid and he's 40. He has bronchial issues before this(and weirdly refused to go to a doctor.) hes not in the best physical shape AND he's a heavy drinker. When he told me he had covid I said, "I'm sorry to hear that. Let me know when you're better." And he was like, "I'm young. I should be fine." Could just be fear talking tho. One thing many men don't like admitting being afraid of is their mortality. It's why so many of them do weird selfish shit when they hit middle age AKA…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 02:22 PM
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...I know someone who got pregnant by a minimum wage man who's in his 60s. Well he apparently makes a little over minimum wage. But still. He's in his sixties. She's in her 30s. Apparently they met in university. I see a lot of intergenerational relationships like this and while I don't want to judge...this girl mumbles when she talks and constantly has terrible hair. She's the typical quirky socially awkward nerdy girl and I can't help but feel like the man is being predatory and she's going al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 08:24 AM
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I have this urge but only to fuck with the person. I'm petty and peeped his narcissistic BS from the beginning and despite us not talking for months, it's funny to see how quickly he responds. I do it randomly every couple of months and he falls for it each time. I called him just to see if he'd pick up and he did and I literally just put the phone next to the tv while I did some work online. It took him 5 minutes to hang up the phone. Maybe he realised he was listening to Law and Order SVU. I'm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 08:50 PM
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There's a good book called, "Why does he do that?" By Lundy Bancroft. It's very good at explaining how abusers operate and how society enables their abusive behaviors. I personally knew a lot of these things I just feel as if women are socialized to ignore red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 12:57 AM
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Yes. I used to live in Indiana.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 01:20 PM
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I was just saying that even fat, unattractive men want supermodels. I know a guy like this, he's fat, cross eyed and not too bright, he honestly looks like Quasimodo. Thinks he can bag an "8" tho when he's at best a "4". He's not the ugliest guy I've seen but he's ugly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:47 PM
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There's an old 90s movie called "Hanging With The Homies" and one of the opening credit scenes is a woman bringing a man a plate of food and some money. He takes the plate and puts the plate in the refrigerator with a bunch of other plates from other women. Another woman brings over his laundry. He wasn't even that cute tho! I was JUST saying to somebody apparently women outnumber men in the workforce for the first time since WWII ended. Since they obviously haven't died....what are they doing? …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:05 PM
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Lol if he was good looking then yes he probably used to getting women to do shit for him for free. Many men do this as much or more than women do and never get the negative stigma for it that a woman would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 10:46 AM
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I made a post in blue collar women subreddit about attending women only trade schools because I had had same sex education and preferred it to mixed and I had bad experiences working/going to school with men and the responses were the same. They were like, "Well if you don't like being around men, why learn a trade." "And I said, I can work independently open my own buisness. I just want to learn the skills what I do with them after is my buisness." "So you want to practice gender discrimination…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:54 AM
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And something I've noticed about men who are abusive is that some of them talk about wanting marriage and children. Like on the first date. I'm an Aries and I'm very cynical so from my perspective it seems like many men say this just to get sexual access earlier or to make a woman emotionally invested in the relationship more quickly. If they are abusers getting pregnant or having a child with them is the green light for them to escalate the abuse. But don't lose hope if you do want those things…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 08:05 PM
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Um....I think...insecure people in general are just assholes. Male and Female. They always lash out and attack other people but mentally loathe themselves so they feel comfortable feeling like the victim....as they actively victimize someone else. I'm not talking about having insecurities, everyone has those but people who can't seem to see past their insecurities and develop identity issues for being unable to do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 06:06 PM
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This is actually one of the first type of questions I bring up casually around men to gauge what kind of person they are by their responses. I actually stopped dating because too many men I encountered, once they weren't flirting they were acting as if rape/sexual assault/sexual harassment was some kind of exaggerated myth. I'm in my late twenties and the only men I've met who don't seem to have this attitude are around my father's age. I don't know what happened to the men in my generation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 02:32 PM
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