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Is he married
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 06:21 PM
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You’re fine but learn to cook🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 07:39 PM
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I find your SMV improvements ridiculous wtf you’re what 125lbs, what boob size would you even want you look fine Edit: what’s wrong with your lips too wut
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 07:31 PM
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According to this calculator, my fiancé is a one of a kind
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 09:15 PM
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So you would be cutting her out more so to avoid any friction? Tbf you’re with probably the best looking 39yr old man around and he has money so I’d be cool with you🥰 Awww, glad to be accepted!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 08:45 PM
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Why cut them off?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 08:36 PM
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I am gonna start asking him for sure but I wouldn’t mind if he got a little fattened either. Would you care if your husband ate your food but gained a bit more weight?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 02:34 PM
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Fair and your video has officially made me appreciate dating a gymbro. Subbed to that guy
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 01:20 PM
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I like the hot bod but I still wanna be able to make apple pie and have someone actually eat it…preferably finish it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 01:11 PM
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Does anyone else hate it when their man is cutting? I’ve been enjoying waking up earlier than mine and baking some breakfast. Everyday I realize more and more why some women prefer dad bods. Can’t cook for a man that spends 2hrs in the gym
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 01:04 PM
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I think it's suburban white women actually
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 12:19 PM
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My fiancé might retire in a few years after we have kids and I am excited to see what he’ll do when he stays home. He can’t even cook so I am not sure how his sahd performance is gonna go
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 03:02 PM
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Yep he has to think you’re out of his league
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 01:18 AM
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I’ll never understand how little men value money and material goods
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 03:22 AM
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Ambition correlates with money, in my eyes. I am not sure I’d like the forms of ambition that don’t have tangible results in the end that I find valuable. So if my boyfriend had artistic ambition, I wouldn’t really care. But if he had an ambition to expand something in his company, build a house, or significantly increase his investment portfolio, I’d find all of those forms of ambition attractive. I feel like it’s the same thing with intelligence. I was an engineering major and met guys that we…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 11:53 PM
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Where are men constantly sending you dick pics unsolicited? I’d get off that platform if I were you
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 01:03 PM
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Those men exist so it’s realistic in that sense. But most women won’t get them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 12:23 PM
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It’s both the fact that so many women are projected to outearn their male counterparts especially in my generation and the accessibility of Social Media. I remember before I had an Instagram what I found attractive and then I got on social media saw the sheer “abundance” of my type that I thought my physical standards were actually low. Now, men and women alike are competing with edited videos and pics posted by someone a thousand miles away.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 12:05 PM
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Yikes, never been happier to be with a possessive man. This guy needs to get help
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 08:55 PM
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Why is this such a big deal? If you think she’s making you wait and didn’t make other men wait, just leave. We don’t need 10 posts a day debating that
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 11:06 PM
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What an odd question sheesh.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 11:05 PM
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It's natural women like men with abundance mentality and no one wants to be settled for.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 05:48 PM
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They compete for the top % of men and to standout, most of the time they work on their looks and increase their proximity to the top % of men. Most women don’t look like they’re competing because most of them aren’t competing for your average Joe. They’re competing for men with abundance
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 05:08 PM
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The issue is that women already do compete in dating. They just often don’t compete for the average man.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 05:04 PM
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No, my past shows you a series of decisions I made that led to my present. So it's important
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 04:33 PM
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He would be a fool not to care
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 04:31 PM
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The past matters to me
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 06:46 AM
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I would love a love triangle but my boyfriend has too much self respect and I am too loyal to force the issue. Welp
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 10:26 PM
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If he shares you, he probably doesn't love you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 09:02 PM
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I don't but that guy is a huge cheating risk. I wouldn't bother trying to detect whether it was a geniune change or him being "priced out" of his preferred women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 09:01 PM
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Cause it gets you cancelled
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 07:23 PM
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I see where you're going with this and I am definitely not interested in this man. If I wasn't his #1, I don't wanna be the placeholder til he levels up to be with the women that were.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 07:23 PM
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he implies he wanted a relationship with a few of them but never got a real relationship with any of them Unfortunately, this would bother me more than anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 06:47 PM
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Misandry sells & it's a common message a lot of women can get behind.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 06:40 PM
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I don't think that many men are bad people. Less than 5% I'd say. Generally, if women say a big percentage of men are creepy or abusive, they're surrounding themselves with weirdos.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 06:31 PM
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surely no-one will deny that some near-universals exist? Yep, some traits are generally considered attractive and put people near the objectively attractive. You touched on height and some others would include jawline being strong for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 01:45 PM
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Well their niche can drop a man out of the top 10%. There are definitely women who prefer dad bods (tend to be older women) for instance. But yes, in general, women prefer subtypes of already attractive men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 01:37 PM
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It's just a joking way of saying that the traits that make men attractive are universal OP can't wrap their head around this for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 01:29 PM
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Also, you are aware men have types too, right I acknowledged that. Oh yes, they would, especially that race part. Perhaps, I should reword. Instead of date, I should say they would sleep with and find attractive, for the most part.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 01:27 PM
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That narrative is nice if you wanna be politically correct. But it's simply untrue, there are features that make most people look better & are widely preferred. The traits consistently rated the most attractive tend to be Eurocentric.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 01:23 PM
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I think most women can recognize a man is objectively attractive but the difference is that they tend to have a tendency to prefer niches more than men. That could be down to how easily women can get with top men for sex and thus they almost develop a subtype. While men although they can have preferences, they wouldn't consider an objectively hot woman unworthy of dating because of her hair color or her race.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 01:15 PM
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I am Gen Z as well and I actually quite related to this article’s observation on female communication vs male communication but perhaps it’s because I was always in an all girl’s groups and don’t have any male friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 12:41 PM
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Thanks for this comment, really in depth response. I agree with your observations on female double speak, it’s quite easy to see in the FSM especially.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 12:40 PM
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I don’t think women are bad per se, I only think female dynamics in the FSM being brought into a relationship would be toxic. The indirect nature of most women when dealing with one another is how you see obese women being told they’re perfectly healthy by thin women. That mentality brought into a relationship would go a little like this: If I gained weight in a lesbian relationship, instead of telling me “hunny you’re getting a little big” or trying to adjust my eating habits, my female partner…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 09:05 AM
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Ooof, let me try to avoid that cycle then
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 08:49 AM
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When you geniunely know women, men aren’t so bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 08:43 AM
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Women who don’t have a hoe phase, so I’d say low n women probably like the stability. My boyfriend is my first everything & can’t imagine not having a stable partner
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 08:27 AM
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My question is, is this really a thing? Yes, and it’s easily observable in many female centric shows and movies. Leaving the “good guy” that’s obviously putting her above him for someone that doesn’t do that. Could you appreciate and respect, genuinely desire such a man? Yes, my boyfriend is the provider and in many ways the BB that TRP would scowl at. But I also do what I can to make sure he feels respected, comes home to a home cooked meal and a woman that loves him. He’s definitely not sexles…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 08:16 AM
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I don’t particularly care if a guy on here says he’s spinning plates especially if he’s being honest and his plates know that. If a close friend of mine was the plate, I’d make sure it was something she wanted long term and that she saw other men too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 03:58 PM
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Anything anyone says seems to be tuned out by you. So on that note, why do you care if people on the internet think your relationship isn’t authentic?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 12:07 AM
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On an unrelated note but still French: Have you seen the show “Emily in Paris” on Netflix?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 12:03 AM
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Libraries have entered the chat
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 11:59 PM
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Are his messes manageable? If so, maybe you could get him to clean up and reward him with something
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 11:20 PM
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Aw, how old is he?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 11:18 PM
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I just learned a French phrase “Seigneur-terraces” that means someone who hangs out a coffee shop but barely spends any money. We need this word in English so I can correctly describe people that spend 4hrs at Starbucks after buying one cup of coffee
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 11:17 PM
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I am borrowing that circus saying🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 11:08 PM
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This subreddit explores Western dating dynamics. In the Middle East, where 4 wives are allowed as per Islamic scriptures, I am sure your one way open relationship is common. But in the West, most people aren’t in your relationship model and if they are, usually someone is unhappy and breaking their end of the deal (i.e it’s not truly one sided open because the other partner is also messing around). As for if most women want to be with other men while in a loving relationship, I don’t think so. B…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 11:05 PM
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The same reason most people doubt the example I gave you: it’s rare and unlikely. Do you really not see how saying “I can fuck around and my wife sits home happily aware of it all and doesn’t seek out other men” is a claim anyone would doubt?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 10:49 PM
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Yeah, I didn’t think that doubt was particularly blue. Most people aren’t going to stay faithful as their partner does whatever they want sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 10:46 PM
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From my understanding of your post, you are honest with your partners and aren’t doing anything morally corrupt. You’re entering into a consensual one-sided open relationship. Now, I don’t think the doubts surrounding your claim that the women are not sleeping around and only you are, are just coming from Bluepillers. And to be fair, you can never know if they are truly, but you have trust in them that they’re upholding their end. Either way, I am glad you have what you want. But when you share …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 10:44 PM
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This is the meme of "why should I care about your orgasm when God doesn't." You should care because random women aren't going to fuck you to appease you, they want sexual pleasure too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 05:59 PM
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Looks like I judged it unfairly then. That guy was everywhere so I was caught off guard. I’ll check it out again soon
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 01:25 AM
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I could be wrong about him being an incel but the last time I checked on the server he was in multiple channels complaining about not being able to have sex. One of them there were pictures of women he cried he couldn’t have due to hypergamy? I could be misremembering, I’ll log in later and see if it was one guy or multiple talking about their sexlessness.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 01:12 AM
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Guy with pink avatar with a gun?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 01:10 AM
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I think they are actually attracted to 16yr olds, it’s not a surprise incels are into that though
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 11:39 PM
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The men here are at least 30% Indian
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 10:39 PM
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I don’t think the subreddit has an incel problem anymore but the discord definitely does. I don’t talk and when I was going to, there were a bunch of men talking about how women over 18 are postwall, saying 16yr olds are legal and they prefer that, whining about sexlessness (some had that as their name). Maybe there are different mods on the discord that aren’t as strict but it doesn’t seem moderated at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 10:23 PM
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Pretty sure that friendship is over. It was a little more than frustrating to hear her so stuck on the age gap when she had seen him and thought he was attractive & he treats me very well. Gotta work on surrounding myself with supportive people
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 06:28 AM
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Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 05:56 AM
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They always get you with the free shipping😭
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 05:45 AM
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I hadn’t told her much else about our relationship. She thought the age gap was a 🚩and when I was telling her how great he is etc she was like “omg he groomed you” not sure why I even bothered. It just sucks because I left my home state and it’s been hard meeting people who are just open. Used to the diversity in LA in both opinions & mindsets.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 03:27 AM
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We have a decently big age gap, he's 39.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 03:19 AM
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I moved to a new state recently and made some new friends and one of them thinks my boyfriend groomed me… how the hell do people think a 21yr old can’t choose who they wanna be with without some sort of manipulation being the reason?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 03:07 AM
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I am a woman, I am sure other women know this, they just would rather ignore that and have fun. And then complain that there are no good men left 5yrs later.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 05:47 PM
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Yeah if you cheat on her with the nanny tier bad but most of the time it's like a joke threat
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 05:46 PM
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Usually when couples say "you're gonna sleep on the couch tonight" it's in a joking manner especially in popular forms of media. It's just synonymous with you getting yourself in trouble with your partner. I don't think it's literal...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 05:36 PM
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Most of women's issues, I'd argue, are also caused by them. When women say they only get approached by creepy men, one or more of the following is usually true: The men are actually creepy and she needs to stop going to the places these men are frequenting to avoid them She's using creepy loosely as I do and she just means a man she's not interested in bothering her by approaching She considers very mild comments creepy such as a compliment on her appearance from a man. I'd say both men and wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 05:31 PM
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You should have gotten on fin
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 05:04 PM
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I think women like men, want unicorns. I'd love it if my boyfriend was a virgin and had the option to lose it at anytime but refrained, like I did. But alas, 99% of men don't have that self control so women can't make that a true deal breaker if they want a desireable man.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 12:54 PM
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It was fake news here
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 01:06 AM
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FDS strategies are similar to that of RPW. The main difference has to be how quickly FDS encourages women to pull the trigger & ignoring much of male nature. While RPWs recognize both female and male nature and work to compromise in pursuit of a happy marriage, FDSers recognize male nature as inherently bad and pedestalize HVMs to almost not be men. Furthermore, FDSers operate in a "the woman is always right" bias when posts are made initially, much of the accountability that RPW encourages is p…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 11:16 PM
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I don’t think it is but okay
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 10:42 PM
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I mean, you've never heard a guy say "you're too pretty to pay for that/ I can't let a beautiful girl pay for her own x" men covering a woman's meal/drink isn't a rarity. They turn around and hit on you lol usually saying something along the lines of what I stated above
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 09:01 PM
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Some people are giving obviously vague responses to make sure they don't characterize their actions in the past casual sex and it shows
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 04:55 PM
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This is probably a geographical and age thing too perhaps. I am 21 and I do actually get approached relatively often, it's not like PUA approaches. It's like a man at a coffee shop ahead of me in line paying for mine and asking to sit with me, guys helping me with carrying something and then asking for number. I don't drink so the bar approaches I can't relate to since I don't go to them but restaurant/coffee shop/ gym approaches happen often enough and I met my current boyfriend because he cold…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 01:17 PM
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You nailed it in your final sentence. Hypergamy on this subreddit is often used with the assumption that the woman that's being called that is an awful/disloyal person. There's been a shift in the past 2yrs on the sub that has led to many RP men thinking Hypergamy is a moral failing on the part of women when TRP itself just says it's female nature. I don't know if they aren't reading TRP or are and just aren't comprehending the material. Part of it is also how loosely hypergamy is being defined …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:29 AM
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I am with the same guy I lost my virginity to but if we break up, I don't know how I'll navigate the hook up culture
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 01:26 AM
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Being attractive is the most important part but also understanding how to love bomb/make these lonely older women feel like you're geniunely into them. I feel like it's so much easier to be a female gold digger even looks threshold is much more broad. Men tend to find above average women attractive generally but most of these rich women wouldn't probably bother with just an above average looking guy. You gotta be significantly more attractive than that
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 10:24 AM
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Probably until she gets serious about wanting a family. She’s 20 right now and I don’t think she’ll have kids with him because her family hates him.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 07:14 PM
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I already said in my response I don’t consider average women worthy of any real work. Any woman he would get would be average or below average and thus I don’t personally believe dating would even be worth it. Who wants average anything
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 07:11 PM
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How else do you suggest this guy gets a hot girl?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 07:10 PM
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He went to Ibiza and showed off his money and now she fucks with him so
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 06:50 PM
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Listen this post is about a man who is significantly below average in height and average in looks. If you’re not gonna play the money game, I don’t know what other strategy this guy could employ to get 8/10 hot chicks. And you don’t have to provide for her initially. Women like signs of wealth, I’ll drive an expensive car and pick up girls with it. Providership in the form of a few handbags and nice dates is the maximum you should do, no paying random women’s bills. (Handbag gifts after 6 months…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 06:49 PM
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Women cheat for a variety of reasons. She cheats & she’ll lose her lifestyle and get replaced. Not that hard to find another her
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 06:46 PM
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You don’t really know if she’s not into you though. If she isn’t into you, you go find a girl that will act like she is. You will never know for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 06:43 PM
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Huh? How would I know they didn’t want me? There are enough girls willing to put in an Oscar winning performance for life for a very good lifestyle. I don’t care about the magical ongoings of someone’s mind, you can never know for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 06:42 PM
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He looks like young Evan Handler but short (5’6) and fat ( 220ish last time she told us when he was trying to lose weight). I don’t know her celeb look alike but she’s blonde and 15yrs younger than him & slim. Her exes were much better looking but this guy has $$$. PPD men underestimate the power of money, women start convincing themselves of things
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 06:37 PM
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I have a friend that acts like her ugly boyfriend is something special. Money does wonders
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 06:30 PM
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If she’s fucking me daily and having my babies while staying faithful, why do I care if she deep down craves Chad? Who cares what a woman wants as long as she’s fulfilling all your wants and needs? She’ll know she’s easily replaceable and act accordingly
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 06:28 PM
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So if I was a 5’5 average looking man, I know whatever girlfriend I get through game or anything RP wouldn’t be some 8/10 hot girl. With that in mind, I honestly wouldn’t bother with average women and focus on my income/wealth building first. When I “make it” in life, I would provide for a girl way out of my league and BB. As long as she acts like I am the best thing that’s happened to her, I don’t care if she wants Chad more. Endlessly working on my personality or reading 100s of TRP posts I do…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 06:24 PM
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I want abortion to stay legalized but I wouldn’t ever abort a child I am carrying. The fact of the matter is people can support the legalization and the option being available to others without it being part of what they are personally interested in participating. And as a result, most people want partners that hold similar views on important issues. Also, I want a man that can get all the sex he wants freely without having to pay a sex worker.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 03:18 PM
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I like toxic masculinity
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 11:17 AM
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The main issue with your post is that you’re conflating masculinity with “not 6’5 jock looking guy” when I would argue shorter and less athletic men are less masculine than the 6’5 jock you’re making out to be feminine. Another issue seems to be you’re assuming to be masculine, a man has to have to be around these difficult situations. Women, both UMC and otherwise, all respond to social masculinity. The drug dealer that’s respected by the whole town or the CEO that gets his way all the time are…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 11:16 AM
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Most single fathers wanna be applauded for sticking around or knowing how to take care of their kids. I can’t stand them or most single mothers
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 12:50 AM
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If every man was attractive, I would have had to do a lot more vetting. What’s great now is that if 10 men approach you, 3 are maybe attractive enough to date and maybe 1/3 has all the things you need to be happy. Looks help narrow the pool of available men for a woman, without that, women would have to spend a lot more time weeding through viable men
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 04:45 PM
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The only time in which I’d financially support him would be if he was sick for an extended time or trying to take a break. Otherwise if I supported him financially, it would significantly change the dynamic of our relationship. Now, we have pretty clear responsibilities: he goes to work and comes home to a clean house, home cooked meal, and me being horny and eager to please. I don’t really wanna be the one to come home to a man that’s doing all the domestic chores; I would see him as less mascu…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 03:35 PM
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A girlfriend, I wouldn't care. A wife? I'd talk to him and push him to let her go but I wouldn't tell her personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 11:02 PM
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He has that Destiny game, I'll play it if I can't figure out Hitman
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 08:18 PM
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I am playing the ones my boyfriend already had, I couldn't do any of the missions in Red Dead Redemption 2 so now I am trying my hand at Hitman. I have been caught 4x so far already
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 08:13 PM
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I've recently discovered console videogames and I understand why people are in their basements playing it all the time. Though, I can't pass any of the missions:-(
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 08:11 PM
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Most people that have an adequate understanding of something can dilute it for someone who is unfamiliar with the topic easily. I don't wanna have to join your site to know what the pinkpill is. I can ask any Redpiller here and they can summarize TRP without linking me to the sidebar for instance
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 12:57 PM
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Is the pinkpill just "all men bad?"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 12:07 PM
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I don't care about his n count but would like to know if he had to directly pay for sex before (hooker/prostitute etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 12:57 AM
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60s is a little much even for me. I am early 20s and with a guy in his late 30s and he can offer all of that plus a longer life expectancy than the 60+yr olds
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 12:55 AM
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Fair👍
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 08:41 PM
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But surely if you believe in AFBB I was just saying the RP term for the phenomena I observed. I think most men and women change what they want in partner from their college years to their 30s when they're looking to get married because traits that make someone fun at 22 and exciting might make them a bad co-parent/spouse at 30. The only difference between the two evolutions is that a lot of the traits women find attractive in a husband or the future father of their children would be hard to find…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 08:21 PM
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I didnt know most American women are ok with marrying men they aren't attracted to, I'll keep that in mind for the future. Maybe there's a language barrier at play here but my comment only said how physical appearance becomes less important to women as they age in favor of other things and I don't think this is "American women" only thing. I didn't say looks didn't matter at all. Attraction is always important, its degree of importance lessens for women as they age.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 08:12 PM
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but if they dont prioritize physical attraction, then wont they end up with a man who they are LESS physically attracted to? Yes, because she's no longer vetting for attraction only. why would i want to be with a woman who is either not physically attracted to me, or less than "chad from tinder" when she was 19? Most people settle physically, it's unlikely she'll be the girl of your dreams physically and vice versa. As long as she acts like you're the man of her dreams physically & allows wife/l…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 08:03 PM
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I described how physical attraction goes from the #1 thing a young woman wants to lower. I am not sure where you got the assumption that older women can't find their man physically attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 07:53 PM
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Yeah I am BP but I have also observed aspects of TRP, but since the main premise of the ideology is AMALT and I believe in what TRP calls "unicorns", I lean BP
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 07:52 PM
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The progression you’re describing isn’t at all what I have viewed as a 21 year old woman. In high school, a lot of women recall how their first boyfriend was “ugly” and the shift in standards when they enter college for most girls is that they have a sense of their physical type and most of the hot girls know they are. They’re no longer the angsty insecure 16yr old girl that hated her thighs for no reason. Once they enter college is when you see their type in who they date. As they finish their …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 03:30 PM
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This is a debate sub
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 02:14 PM
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Hm? He’s attractive & wealthy so I guess he’s not much
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 05:01 AM
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I think the best data to look at for that would be marriage stats. The average couple has a 4yr age gap, so not very common at all
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 12:08 AM
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This is another one of those things women like to believe but isn't true. I am in an age gap relationship that's quite significant (18yrs) and I most likely wouldn't be with him if he wasn't a catch. Most young women aren't dating poor or loser older men that realistically can't get women their age. Whenever I hear that, I consider it intellectually dishonest since almost every instance of older man/younger woman pairings, the man is of high status or wealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 05:46 PM
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Consensus on whether or not they're losers depends on who you ask. As a woman, I am disgusted at the prospect that a man would need to pay to get laid directly, so I think they're losers. But a 55yr old man that's bald and fat being able to have sex with young hot women? That's probably the dream of most men that age so he's a winner to them. It's similar to how women vs men view age gaps. I am almost half my boyfriend's age and if you polled PPD women, they would say a man that needs to date so…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 05:42 PM
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Are women who are able to sleep with men they consider "unworthy" of pursuing a romantic relationship with them the exception?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 12:35 AM
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Men want sex more than they want to be chased. So they'll sacrifice their position as the "catch" and chase a girl inferior to them for easy access. Men's greatest weakness is their thirst.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 06:18 PM
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Instinctually, I wanna say broke unattractive men since even if you're broke as a girl, if you're slightly above average you can get a man to take care of you. For men, being slightly above average even doesn't workout well if they're broke, much less if they're full on unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 05:30 PM
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Around 2 months, my boyfriend was abroad and it was the longest I had gone without sex since my late start to having sex (17)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 05:26 PM
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I wouldn't completely lose attraction if my boyfriend lost his hair but I'd kindly suggest some sort of hair transplant. Balding completely tanks male attractiveness so I'd probably want sex less, compliment him less, and be less eager in general, unfortunately I think all of that would just be my subconscious response. Happy to say my man is 39 and has a better head of hair than most of the guys my age:,-) Also, this is probably an age thing. All the PPD women in their mid to late 30s being fin…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 12:04 AM
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If it's that most men have hairy arms and legs, I am happy I lucked out with one that shaves them:-)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 11:00 PM
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Tastefully shirtless pics (at the beach, maybe one in the gym showing you doing something) are fine. What these women are picturing are a bunch of badly taken shirtless mirror pics I presume. If I were on OLD, I'd like at least one shirtless pic to see a guy's physique.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 06:25 PM
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Not a fan of the physical toll it could take, blue collar men make less on average, and it's usually a status ding. I grew up poor surrounded by blue collar men so probably where my distaste stems from
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 06:24 PM
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Just not interested in blue collar men
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 06:10 PM
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This is the main issue and it also is the reason average women believe they can get the top 10% of men for relationship because many are willing to pretend to want that just to fuck them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 04:54 PM
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I don't know about other men because I haven't been with anyone but my boyfriend, he thinks he looks better completely hairless and I don't know how I'd deal with the vast majority of men not being like that if we ever broke up😅 He shaves his legs and arms & waxes his chest hair
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 04:44 PM
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Calloused hands means he's actually doing hard labor. No thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 03:14 PM
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I think height is in there somewhere but tattoos or piercings are deal breakers for me. Not being lean whether that's too bulked up like a body builder or with a beer belly would lead to me to passing on a man too. Any body hair throws me off too. I'd tolerate a little bit on the chest but hairy legs and arms are just disgusting
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 03:13 PM
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Permanent alimony has essentially been phased out as the men who can afford that are usually paying significant in Child Support.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 06:25 PM
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Not digging their own graves necessarily. A lot of women would rather be single than date down in those aspects, some change their minds because they want a family and their priorities shift. Others stay the course
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 02:08 PM
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So you're advocating for men to be losers?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 01:26 PM
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Sadly most of these men can't afford that so they better put up with these women bitching at them
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 12:51 PM
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Bringing in strength is a little strange and height too, those are biologically predetermined. The average woman is 5'4, and the average man is 5'8-5'9. The average woman dating the average man isn't hypergamy because he's taller. Much of female hypergamy is women wanting the top man. Additionally, how the trend is going now, women will outearn men and young women are already more educated than their male peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 12:43 PM
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The men you were around in college only dating educated women is just a byproduct of their environment. Educated men aren't constantly surrounded by uneducated women so the women they interact with the most and are likely to date are those of a similar level of education. Now, I think the whole "I am successful/educated woman and men are intimidated" narrative from women has been shaped by a minority of insecure men. In reality, successful/educated women will most likely prefer their equals and …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 12:30 PM
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Hypergamy being female nature doesn't mean every woman gets to practice it. Society at large would favor men if every man was better than every woman in every way or the most influential ways (social status/wealth/education). So by in large, most women wanting men with those better underlying characteristics may be true but them getting those men which aren't clearly abundant isn't likely. So the average man & woman aren't going to have such drastically unequal lives because she truly desires th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 12:27 PM
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The difference is the price. VS was a brand built on making women feel sexy, and their pricing structure unlike BMW, doesn't exclude unattractive women. No matter how unattractive you are, you can buy VS lol. While the cheapest brand new BMW starts at 37k. VS has seen a drop in both the viewership of their show and sales. Look up the figures and you'll see they're risking bankruptcy in the next 5-10yrs if they didn't drastically increase their appeal. Rebranding isn't something new in any indust…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 10:32 AM
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Um no? Most women aren't VS model level of hot. So yes, embracing all women is better for business, that means you widen your product's appeal and have more buyers.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 10:18 AM
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He needs to do what helps his company’s bottom line. Embracing ALL women does
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 05:36 AM
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This is a reach: VS has been slowly declining since the 90s. A rebrand isn’t an option, it’s a necessity if they want to survive. They can no longer rely on selling the images that sold so well to women 30yrs ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 05:35 AM
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What's wrong with having a height preference?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 02:48 PM
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How?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 02:47 PM
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Men having low standards for sex is the reason women get higher standards. They think the men they get for sex are the ones they can also get for relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 01:11 AM
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The fantasy of men jerking off to porn instead of being balls deep in a woman is something PPD women have made up. It's absolutely a symptom, not the cause.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 12:30 AM
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I am not a fan of government intervention in private business to that extent so I'd be appalled. The people so ardently against social media all have the capacity to delete their accounts and uninstall the apps, it's not that hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 11:44 PM
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Some weird new wave of men wanting one girl for life contradicts what men have wanted and expressed as their ideal for so many years. Men used to get those virginal wives and they visited brothels
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 05:20 PM
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No, I would probably cheat out of FOMO. I think it’s essential that men experience variety in their 20s so as to not settle down with the first girl that comes along and smiles in their direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 05:14 PM
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That sub is almost as good as braincels was when it comes to memes
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 10:10 AM
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This is too funny
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 10:09 AM
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I would and have waited for sex with a particular woman. I am usually sleeping with other women until we're exclusive, if you take issue with that, most attractive men with options will probably not be your cup of tea. Unlike the top comment, I don't think your definition of provider is mutually exclusive to you being independent. You want a generous man that doesn't mind picking up the tab.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 09:52 AM
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