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Honestly if all I find to a woman is physical attractiveness then that says more about them than me. You want to meet an interesting person? Then be Interesting yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 06:54 AM
1

Sorry but that’s Bullshit. Compatibility is a huge deal in relationships and that includes sexually too. People are fully entitled to value sexual compatibility. For many it is the difference between Friends and Lovers/Partner. If a partner isn’t going to want to fully be there for you or your not going to want to make them happy either then I would argue that the relationship will not work no matter how much care is there.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 01:21 PM
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“Hot” is subjective and it’s not always down to looks. There are plenty of “Hot” women out there who are stone cold dry in other departments and lack sexual drive and there are plenty of ladies out there who are normal/average in one department that more than make up for within romance and sex.
/r/seduction01/05/22 09:18 AM
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Screw everyone in here trying to justify ghosting after a hookup. If you meet up with someone and they blank you afterwards regardless of the rationale or reason then that is 100% on Them and there shitty rude behaviour. Everybody has an iPhone or Android at this stage in 2022 and it takes a mere 5 seconds to reach out and communicate. If they really wanted to, then they would. There is absolute zero excuse to ghost after you meet someone, let alone hook up.
/r/seduction01/05/22 09:12 AM
9

Teasing isn’t just about conversation, it’s about being brave enough to engage in Physical Touch. A great way to initiate physical playfulness is start a thumb of a war or high five with her and build kino from there. If she pulls back soon after, that indicates a lack of romantic interest but if she plays along with you and hands touch for an extensive period of time, then that suggests feelings are mutual.
/r/seduction26/04/22 08:27 AM
9

I’d have a couple of different openers lined up as you can get banned for spamming with just one copied and pasted.
/r/seduction24/04/22 09:14 AM
6

Who gives a fuck what people think. Here’s an unpopular opinion: one of the reasons why guys here aren’t getting laid is because they care Far too much about the opinions and judgement of women and other people. I can guarantee you that ladies don’t give half a hoot what line you dish up to them as long as you carry it with Confidence.
/r/seduction24/04/22 09:08 AM
1

“I’m doing an article on the finer things in life for the local newspaper and was hoping to interview you”
/r/seduction24/04/22 07:48 AM
1

For all we know maybe your not built for them. Tinder/Bumble/Hinge etc cater to a very vanilla audience and your preferences might not match up with the majority of people there? Which there’s nothing wrong with am in the same boat.
/r/seduction21/04/22 11:58 AM
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You shouldn’t apologise for being You. You can’t be more than somebody else and somebody else can’t be more than you. So just embrace yourself unapologetically. Touch is very clearly your Love Language. So what you need to do is find a girl with similar needs and languages. Anything less of that is a waste of your time and there time. The reason why you have not established relationships is because you were Incompatible with previous daters. When you are Compatible with a potential partner, the …
/r/seduction17/04/22 08:48 AM
2

Because we live in an Offended verbal Terrorist world.
/r/seduction16/04/22 11:57 AM
1

I’ll let you in on a secret. You don’t need to “work on yourself” for the right woman. Not everybody is going to like you and that is fully out of your control. All you can do is focus on those who do while continuing to move forward and not giving up but that doesn’t necessarily mean you have to go on a seemingly never ending journey of self improvement to impress someone. If they are meant for you, then they will also be impressed by you and you won’t need to prove anything.
/r/seduction16/04/22 10:16 AM
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Match is a decent app, I’ve noticed that the people on there are for more serious about meeting than Bumble/Tinder etc. which less face it, is a vanity/ego fest. You can also take a compatibility test and it matches your score and suggests people based on what percentage you got.
/r/seduction13/04/22 08:45 AM
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I disagree. You can. It’s a fricken D a t e, meaning 2 people meeting. If she doesn’t respect that then she doesn’t deserve him.
/r/seduction08/04/22 01:10 PM
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Your still going to die though at the end of the day doesn’t matter how much veg you eat. I eat enough fruit and protein to get through the day and have a well balanced diet in general, but it’s not going to stop me from having treats every so often and the same deal applies with masturbation. Again, a balanced diet and everything in Moderation.
/r/seduction01/04/22 12:15 PM
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Honestly it depends, I can jerk off 2-3 times a week and be perfectly fine in body and mind and maintain productive and energised. Now contrast that to 2-3 times everyday and then that is not good because it does sap your energy. Bottom line: there’s a Balance to everything in life. I don’t eat vegetables everyday but I also don’t eat pizza everyday either. It is perfectly healthy and normal to indulge every so often with Moderation. It is not healthy though in my opinion to repress yourself. Me…
/r/seduction01/04/22 09:48 AM
3

I have to disagree, confidence can 100% come with successful interactions. You obviously need to have a certain degree of confidence first to have success but if you get 1 lay down, then you’ll still be confident regardless if others don’t work out because you know there are people out there willing to at least enjoy your company. If you focus on the failures and rejections you’ll never be confident but if you focus on the wins you’ll always have it.
/r/seduction31/03/22 02:54 PM
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I’m going to give it to you straight from someone who was recently there. Shower together. There’s little pressure or expectation to perform and you can massage/ feel each other up while your body is getting warm. A warmer body also means more blood going to the penis and more blood flowing means more erections. It can be incredibly erotic. I was rock hard during and afterwards. Don’t underestimate Showers. It’s not always about porno. Physical stimulation and Foreplay are important. You can’t m…
/r/seduction24/03/22 08:31 PM
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If a woman stares your direction, you should be approaching her and moving towards, that’s her way of saying “it’s okay come over” And if not, then politely apologise laugh it off then move on to the next person. This is super important to do because if you don’t end the conversation on a good or fun note you’ll always have the insecurity and anxiety in the back of your head with approaching and those are the exact two things that kill attraction, seduction and confidence.
/r/seduction16/03/22 03:19 PM
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I think you’d have more luck with Orchestras instead of marching bands. Think about it, the woodwind and string section is dominated by females.
/r/seduction07/03/22 05:07 PM
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It depends on how successful the band is to be honest. Plenty of bands out there gigging every week and coming home to an empty room. But I do happen to know of one massively successful indie band on an mainstream level and there not particularly much to shout about on looks but are dating models. So your success, where your gigging and how often your gigging matters a lot when it comes to getting laid or not. Learning and playing music has no guarantees to women but being Successful and popular…
/r/seduction07/03/22 01:08 PM
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The same can be said for guys too though it’s not gender exclusive. Everybody has stuff going on in there life which can make it easy to shut down or blank people in an instant.
/r/seduction06/03/22 11:56 PM
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That’s a privilege and a curse that many girls have. Never short of options so how can one possibly know when to settle. They simply can’t. Guys are very black and white and more often than not have almost a picture perfect idea of who they want to settle with by the time they reach mid to late 20’s whereas girls are more emotionally led by instinct and moment. Ultimately however the tables turn massively when Father Time and the wall comes knocking. So while that Strawberry may feel sweet for a…
/r/seduction06/03/22 11:52 PM
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Well generally if a date goes well, you Kiss at the end so of course it’s to be expected. If a woman doesn’t know why you want to (especially if you both like each other) then that’s on her and not the guy.
/r/seduction05/03/22 03:49 PM
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Are dating apps unhealthy? Yes to a point if overused. Do they make you less of a man? Nope that’s nonsense. At the end of the day know one should give 2 flying fiddlers how couples meet or if it was “natural” or not. We all want the same thing ultimately (or at least most singletons do) and if there are sources out there to get you to where you want to be then who’s to say that’s right or wrong. Is a person worth less also because they watched youtube vids on how to cook instead of taking in li…
/r/seduction04/03/22 02:31 PM
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I have to disagree, making friends and being sociable is a Skill and you will only get better at it if you Work at it constantly and consistently. You don’t just luck your way into a social circle, you work at it and you force yourself into it out of necessity.
/r/seduction01/03/22 11:06 AM
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On the contrary though, there are loads of guys out there who have no intentions of improving themselves or working out and still have no problems attracting partners. Why is that? Because they were exactly in the right place, at the right time and put themselves out there for the right Opportunity to present itself. Don’t get me wrong self improvement and working on yourself is great, but it’s also not a magic pill or guarantee to attracting partners. The only certainties in dating and also in …
/r/seduction28/02/22 01:52 PM
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You don’t and let natural selection take care of things.
/r/seduction27/02/22 06:49 AM
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This is one thing that’s completely out of our control as guys unfortunately. You can do so much right but at the end of the day if there not into you, there not into you and that’s not a reflection at all on your self worth or what you have to offer others.
/r/seduction27/02/22 12:36 AM
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Screw that you shouldn’t have to prove yourself to anybody and you owe them nothing. The same goes for ladies too. Either you like someone or you don’t like them, no inbetween or sideline to dance on, you either want to play on the team or you don’t. And building interest is a 2 way street. Both parties have to figure it out and work together as a Team if there is attraction. As it should be. If one person isn’t willing to pull there weight then they don’t deserve to be on the team, simple as.
/r/seduction26/02/22 02:20 PM
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The key word in your text is “Latina”. Exotic and foreign women are much more open and human in general than most and that is the truth. But I do agree that dating shouldn’t be work and that you shouldn’t have to play games for somebody to be into you.
/r/seduction26/02/22 10:02 AM
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There’s 4 billion + other ladies out there. You’ll find yours. This one ain’t it. Move on, you deserve better.
/r/seduction24/02/22 06:53 PM
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You have Disney and years of social conditioning to thank for that one.
/r/seduction24/02/22 12:31 AM
1

That is a messed up mindset. If people can’t be vulnerable around there partners then should they be with them at all?v
/r/seduction23/02/22 11:48 PM
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Of course they are going to talk trash about women if they are not getting women. That’s the whole fucking point of why guys get frustrated. I don’t believe that confidence comes from fully within but Results. I guarantee that if those guys saw a change in fortune then they’d have no coins to toss around about ladies anymore and would develop the confidence to oh I don’t know…. Talk to more women. “Fake it til you make it” holds a lot of truth. Even women don’t know what there doing 90% of the t…
/r/seduction22/02/22 04:07 PM
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It’s funny and ironic for how often Feet are looked down upon within dating that a lot of emphasis and expectation is weighted on wearing shoes.
/r/seduction22/02/22 11:10 AM
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Lost youth perhaps? Maybe he wants to date someone he couldn’t have as a teenager and wants the lust and love that comes with dating as a teenager for the first time. Not saying it’s right, but I would bet there’s 1000’s of guys out there who cannot move on to the next phase of there life’s simply because they missed out on one massively important one.
/r/seduction22/02/22 11:06 AM
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Some ladies love attention, graft and the effort. Some hate it and throw out terms such as “needy” as an excuse to not like you. At the end of the day and this is how I see it exactly, if someone is really truly into you and wants to spend time with you or rip off your pants then no amount of effort will be too much and no amount of rapport will be too little. Playing the avoidant card is not a guaranteed route to dates and sex either. It all comes down to wether the person actually likes you or…
/r/seduction19/02/22 02:44 PM
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Because of years of “girl power” and social conditioning through the media. You break out of that through directly confronting the bullshit and approaching them. The girl itself doesn’t matter, it’s how many people you approach that counts because the more you shots you take the better chances you’ll get of getting a slam dunk. So go out there, get your game face on and talk to as many women as you can. That’s the only way you’ll learn to get better.
/r/seduction16/02/22 07:16 PM
1

Try this one, either tap on them or approach them with confident eye contact, smile and chat to them. “Excuse me….. (pause for a few seconds to create tension) that dance floor is missing me and you occupying it”
/r/seduction16/02/22 05:52 PM
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Because if she was interested she would either take the number the first time or say thanks and politely decline stating her reasons. It doesn’t take 5 seconds to do.
/r/seduction16/02/22 01:41 PM
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I think it does play a factor. Sometimes I get lots of matches and other times can be hit and miss. The day I turned 29, my matches increased out of nowhere.
/r/seduction14/02/22 08:48 AM
4

Here’s the good news though. You might not have control over who you date but you have full and total control over who you chose and pick to Marry. The tables will turn soon enough.
/r/seduction14/02/22 08:43 AM
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Those are excellent lines and very clever. Seeding the sows of a relationship straight into there heeds and letting them know your into them. Stealing them for future reference.
/r/seduction12/02/22 12:39 PM
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I think you should because tomorrow isn’t promised to anyone. You could genuinely die in your sleep tonight or have something else completely outside of your control tragically happen out of nowhere. I never regret going on dates because it is a Privilege to do so and not everybody gets that opportunity. Yes it is true as a man you’ll face way more rejection than women but it is only by doing and meeting people you’ll learn what works and what doesn’t and you’ll also learn what type of lady you …
/r/seduction12/02/22 10:38 AM
1

That is a total crock of nonsense. Nobody is an expert and it’s a privilege that we do have sexual education books, documentaries and films to learn from and particularly to those who might have been less fortunate in finding a mate or not developing the necessary education and guile from parents and schools.
/r/seduction11/02/22 01:52 PM
1

I think the Educational type can be. There’s a huge difference between modern dramatic porn and documentive and educational tips and guides about sex. You should check out the Lovers Guide to Sex series and any of Nina Hartley’s sex guides, I found them all very helpful learning about different foreplay, techniques and positions. And there’s also a 4 hour channel 4 show called A Girls Guide to 21st Century Sex that’s well worth checking out. Most of them are ironically on porn sites but if it we…
/r/seduction11/02/22 11:26 AM
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Your not settling if you just ask for a number, not everybody wants to get in someone’s pants after just meeting them.
/r/seduction11/02/22 11:11 AM
3

As someone in a similar position I’d like to throw out a spanner in the works. Maybe your actually not the problem at all and have done everything you can with what you have. When it comes down to it we can better ourselves and work on ourself every single day until the end of time, that’s in our control. Unfortunately what’s not in our total control is a a person liking you or not, that is completely up to fate and luck. So don’t put yourself down too much, it can be hard and I relate but all y…
/r/seduction11/02/22 11:05 AM
3

“Easy on the eye”
/r/seduction06/02/22 12:31 PM
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Yep he’s been brainwashed.
/r/seduction03/02/22 03:57 PM
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Forget about girls for a second and go out and do something your afraid of. I have a fear of heights for example but started to get on top of that by visiting skyscrapers and also travelling in a helicopter. You don’t have to do those things but the point is that you need to find objectives that scare you and use that as a challenge to grow and become more confident. This will build your character and ultimately your confidence and how you view yourself. On a more practical note one really good …
/r/seduction25/01/22 01:18 AM
1

It sounds mean but try and visualise them at there lowest points in life. They cry, they grieve, they aren’t perfect and they eventually will be dust in the ground like all of us. Remove the image and looks and you’ll realise that there human beings and make mistakes like everyone else. I sometimes like to imagine them in pain trying to take a shit or crying over something silly. It helps if you have female friends or family relations and you have experienced there emotional sorrows. Another tec…
/r/seduction24/01/22 10:56 AM
1

I recommend watching some Eddie Murphy stand up. Some serious one liners and comebacks to be found there. The guy is a legend.
/r/seduction24/01/22 10:47 AM
1

Read sex ed books/pdfs and watch instructional videos. The internet is full of free sex documentaries and guides. I recommend watching all of the Lovers Guide series. You’ll find it on Xvideos.
/r/seduction15/01/22 10:08 PM
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I’m going to be brutally honest: If you can do not attend alone. This is a low key dealbreaker for many women even if they don’t want to admit it. Fun happens 90% of the time when your not focused on it and are just having a good time with your group or friends. Naturally when your enjoying yourself, somebody may approach or be attracted to you rather than to confront them by yourself at the start of the night. If you want to pull a lady in a club, your best bet is to do it near the end of the n…
/r/seduction10/01/22 04:38 PM
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Your dead right. I was really into someone and they were more social than me. Ultimately they found someone because of the fact they simply had more social experiences and networks to work from. More social experiences = more options. More options = more opportunities for dates and sex. Now the socialising itself isn’t a guaranteed ticket to success but it does increase your chances and opportunities. It’s all a giant numbers game.
/r/seduction10/01/22 04:20 PM
1

Self love is important no doubts whatsoever but it’s not selfish in the slightest to want companionship or a partner if your lonely or single. And it’s also not for us to decide for why they want one either that is entirely up to them and there decision alone to make. It’s also worth noting too in life sometimes you don’t get to decide or have a choice in that matter either. Not everybody is handed or rewarded a Disney happy ending. Sometimes you just have to go out there and make it happen for …
/r/seduction06/01/22 01:30 AM
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You don’t. Let natural selection run its course.
/r/seduction04/01/22 11:22 AM
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What a sad Brainwashed and messed up Socially Conditioned cauldron we live in.
/r/seduction03/01/22 09:36 PM
5

People will say too much porn and that might be true but she’s also responsible too for arousing you and getting the engine started (so to speak) You can’t get a car going without turning on the engine first. So you have to ask yourself this question deeply and honestly, what are your turns ons. What can you do to get yourself in the mood and what can she do to get you in the mood? Perhaps you need to spend longer time with foreplay. Perhaps you need more physical stimulation, massages to loosen…
/r/seduction03/01/22 01:19 AM
1

Honestly as a guy it’s a turn off the other way around.
/r/seduction31/12/21 11:03 AM
3

“Kindness is the ultimate weapon! I’m telling you all I was on that emphatic shit way before the time Musk blasted off into space and tik tok was a fucking baby!”
/r/seduction29/12/21 07:24 PM
1

Initiate an arm wrestle, thumb war or high five her if the conversation is going well. All sure fire ways to test attraction.
/r/seduction23/12/21 09:00 AM
1

What’s great then? Define Great. Because every guy and girl has different interpretations of what’s Great. Attraction is Subjective. I don’t think it’s something you can quantify as one singular trait.
/r/seduction19/12/21 12:09 PM
0

I feel sorry for them. The fact that someone else’s life experience has completely Controlled there own. They live in Fear. And the most ironic thing is they will be the same people saying “open your heart to kindness and love” on the Instagram posts but when they receive it, they shoot it down.
/r/seduction18/12/21 09:31 AM
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You be Attractive.
/r/seduction16/12/21 10:08 AM
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Read the room. Some girls will make it more obvious than others that they want action. Eye contact is very important. Don’t stare down at the ground. Be bold, when your talking to her make sure you let her know your engaged. Don’t stand to the side of her and make it your business to stand face to face and get on her level, from time to time stare at her lips, this helps with attraction and flirting. If the conversation is going well invite her for a dance then escalate from there with kissing a…
/r/seduction16/12/21 10:05 AM
2

Initiate a play fight.
/r/seduction13/12/21 08:06 AM
2

I think most will say mid 20’s to 40’s but you have to remember we are living through exceptional times right now and the opportunities to meet people, form relationships or hook up are nowhere near as prevalent or as easy as they were before the pandemic and particularly for the early to late 20’s crowd. So the age is going to differentiate a lot depending on the person, there location and there country. A lot of people lost out on 2 years of experience and opportunity to meet people so will na…
/r/seduction09/12/21 01:53 PM
1

But if you hit or approach on other ladies would they not consider you needy too? Where does the neediness line start and end? For some reason or another wanting affection and to feel love has become a mortal sin and I just don’t get it. I personally believe that neediness shouldn’t be a bad thing with the right person. If someone is judging or disqualifying you based on your feelings and thoughts then they are quite simply not the right person.
/r/seduction07/12/21 03:11 PM
1

You can still have gratitude for life but still yearn and lust for attention and to have someone. And confidence can come in many shapes and forms. You don’t need to be jacked or rich to have it. What it comes down to is how content you are with your life. So find things that You love to do (and not things) you think are expected of you and you’ll be content in life. Naturally being content or in a state of happiness may attract someone.
/r/seduction06/12/21 05:22 PM
1

All right that’s enough internet for today….
/r/seduction04/12/21 12:23 AM
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This only works if you actively go out and force yourself into situations that Create opportunities. You could be a magnet for women but if you never leave your house or go to social events your never going to meet anyone. So self improvement has to be combined with actively making and creating opportunistic effort otherwise you won’t see results.
/r/seduction30/11/21 04:30 PM
2

Heck women twice your age can be a thorn to deal with. All you can do is live your live to the best off your ability without given a solidarity care or fuck to other people’s opinions or thoughts. As soon as you do that you’ve lost immediately and that’s where you start to overthink everything. So do you, be proud off you and if it’s not good enough for someone. There loss. Onto the next one. There are over 4 billion women in the world and not everyone will like you... and that’s Okay. You just …
/r/seduction27/10/21 06:57 PM
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Yeah Russell’s a great one, well mine are very niche related to sports and music so can’t think off one that would be off benefit to seduction but the Gary V Experience is great for self improvement and motivation in general. There’s also a channel on YouTube called The Attractive Man and that has some great tips on how to get better at flirting and courting for dating.
/r/seduction07/10/21 11:16 AM
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Haha sure is! It depends what type off skill or trait you want to improve at. Figure out what that quality is then find the material to get you there. I’ll give you an example, a drum educator who am a big fan of, studied Eddie Murphy stand up videos so that he could have a funnier personality and higher improv skills in his vids and during clinics and masterclasses.
/r/seduction07/10/21 11:11 AM
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Watch and study people with strong personalities. Listen to podcasts, look up stand up comedy, study how people entertain and converse and take what they are doing and incorporate it into your life. “Good artists borrow, great artists steal”
/r/seduction07/10/21 09:17 AM
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“give me a good reason why I shouldn’t be then”
/r/seduction21/09/21 08:19 PM
3

I think you should give Feeld a go. It’s an app specifically designed for fwb and kink minded people. Very easy to use and similar layout to Tinder.
/r/seduction16/09/21 02:40 PM
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It sounds to me like she is rooted in casual and your more serious leaning. It’s unfair on both off you to keep something going if your both different. You should let her know what you want and if it doesn’t match with her, there’s always more fish but unfortunately sounds like not with her. It’s completely unfair on you to be played around like that and the least she can do is communicate honestly with you and give the truth.
/r/seduction31/08/21 11:43 AM
2

If they know your trying to pick them up then who the f cares what you use on them, it’s going to either work or not no matter what route you take. If you want to be blunt and flirty then do it with confidence. Do it with the confidence off a shooter scoring a goal in football or a runner sprinting to the finish line and believe in every word you say. Stand by your words with confidence, attitude and an unshakable belief and you’ll have more chance off the approach being successful. It’s not alw…
/r/seduction11/08/21 08:18 AM
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Unpopular opinion: I don’t think human decency is a given. The more people you’ll meet, you will find not many have it or were thought it. So while no one should ever feel entitled or expect interest from the opposite they too in turn should also never assume that a guy will be a decent human being and act accordingly because the truth is there aren’t many who do.
/r/seduction07/08/21 05:21 PM
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I agree with this too and it’s true but it’s sad and messed up how if the shoe was flipt on the other foot and the poster was a guy, 9 times out off 10 he’d be thrown to the dogs.
/r/seduction05/08/21 09:50 AM
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And that’s their loss if they do. They have the right to reject you but you also have the right to move on to someone better.
/r/seduction03/08/21 07:57 PM
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It really depends on how you approach them and the country/culture your in plays a role too. Some women will not welcome it and others will be open to it. You have to Read Your Environment and the room before you consider doing it. Also, Context is everything. If your too forthcoming and blunt it might scare them off, if you come in light and with humor they might let their guard down and say yes. Ultimately it’s a lottery and a numbers game , but the more times you do it, the more likely you ar…
/r/seduction24/07/21 09:11 AM
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I compliment them on their clothing and body and by that let them straight up know that this isn’t fucking friend territory. Get into their heads and create sexual tension by flirting, complimenting and touching. You won’t get what you want if you don’t ask for it.
/r/seduction18/07/21 12:40 AM
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Yes. I’ve had casual experiences in the past but unless the person I’m seeing share similar traits or interests I’ve no interest in racking up a random number count. Compatibility >>>>>> Sex
/r/seduction01/07/21 08:47 AM
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Don’t say just do and go for it. Read her body language. Pay close attention to her eyes and lips. If she’s biting them and pupils are diluted and wide eyed high chance she’s waiting for you to do it. And worse case scenario if she didn’t want it laugh it off together, apologize and just be you. Great video on YouTube called the Art off Kissing. Dives through everything you need to know about initiating and signs. Look it up.
/r/seduction30/05/21 11:30 AM
2

Good to know there’s millions off unfounded diamonds to discover around the world then. All it takes is one and you’ve your life to find it.
/r/seduction12/05/21 11:34 AM
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Fuck that mindset. No woman is unattainable. Your only unbeatable until your bet.
/r/seduction12/05/21 11:25 AM
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Well said and I agree completely. I’ve done the same myself recently, sometimes with no expectation but to just find people out behind the looks. Questions like give me 3 things about yourself that would make me want to know you/date you? If they can’t answer that question then what business do they have off asking me or others similar? It snuffs out the reals from the fakes straight away and to my surprise I’ve found there’s a ton of people on the apps who are just there for attention and then …
/r/seduction12/05/21 11:00 AM
1

I have to disagree slightly, if you take online dating off the apps and into phone calls, zooms or voice texts you learn so much about yourself and the other person and even if the match didn’t work out, you still got experience from talking to them and know what you want and don’t want on the next one.
/r/seduction12/05/21 10:54 AM
2

It takes 5 seconds to fire off a not feeling well or a cancellation/reschedule text or a voice text. Everyone has time to do that so I’m more inclined to go with the OP on this one.
/r/seduction12/05/21 10:27 AM
6

Yup very well said. Everyone is different and one size doesn’t fit all. Too many people forget that.
/r/seduction01/05/21 02:15 PM
1

Or maybe just Luck and Timing too. It’s not always about Confidence. You could be the most confident man in the world and still get rejected. The former 2 are more important in my opinion.
/r/seduction26/04/21 07:04 AM
14

I have to take issue with the posts about mental health and loving yourself. Obviously important but I know plenty off people who don’t, some borderline suicidal and have plenty of chicks falling off them. I also know many people who do love themselves value their life, look after their fitness and have sweet damn all to show for it. When it comes down to it Dating and life in general is largely based around 4 defining factors. Timing, Luck, Opportunity and Perseverance. Now most people have no …
/r/seduction25/04/21 06:32 PM
3

Yeah I want to know this too. There’s far too much pressure and care on the matter and it’s going to end some people. Life isn’t a competition. Everyone is in their own race.
/r/seduction23/04/21 04:05 PM
2

Having a partner or being single is not the difference between someone loving themselves or not. Dating, relationships and life in general is not as binary as it’s made out to be. There are a number off factors and circumstances that effect someone’s chances off love. Timing and luck being the biggest off em all. You could love yourself to the moon and back, value everything about yourself but if the person you meet is incompatible or doesn’t want the same things you do that amounts to jack shit…
/r/seduction23/04/21 04:01 PM
2

I think it depends on age and maturity . If a woman is secure in herself and has confidence she’ll respect a guy that straight up asks her with no guessing no hiding behind messages just straight up “hey I like you let’s hang”. Now you don’t have to explicitly say let’s have sex but you you could say let’s make love.
/r/seduction23/04/21 01:45 PM
3

That’s exactly what I’m doing. Books, podcasts, films, documentaries anything that helps me grow and learn to be a better person in all aspects off life. This is the time to put your ego aside and learn from others. Also just wanted to say there’s nothing wrong with binging or having lazy days. As long as you Balance them out with days where you grew and got to work.
/r/seduction20/04/21 12:37 PM
3

Yes I’ve never understood this thinking either. What the fuck is wrong with someone wanting a partner or love? It’s messed up and sad that we have to Qualify and Justify to others why we want a Human Need.
/r/seduction20/04/21 07:51 AM
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Women choose who they want to date and Men choose who they can. Men choose who they want to marry and Women choose who they can.
/r/seduction19/04/21 09:27 PM
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Yes I’ve been in similar situations too and didn’t pursue because they were intoxicated. People and guys need to understand that Consent is a big thing in sex and if Women are not off sound mind to agree but you insist on going ahead then you are taking advantage of them and are liable to some serious damage within the future.
/r/seduction19/04/21 12:51 PM
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Or it means she has unrealistic standards.
/r/seduction19/04/21 11:11 AM
10

And by the same token humans aren’t Mind Readers. Some of them may also have Dyslexia, Dyspraxia, Autism or any type off disorder that clogs their head so people need to learn how to have Empathy. A good teacher doesn’t do things by accident either. They purposely educate the student on the topic at hand but they also don’t use the same Approach for every student as they Understand and Acknowledge that every person Learns and figures things out differently. The same goes for socializing and pick…
/r/seduction18/04/21 03:35 PM
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Hard disagree. Attraction and seduction isn’t a one size fits all approach and different people like different things. Some are attracted to looks inherently and some aren’t. It’s different for everyone.
/r/seduction07/04/21 02:51 PM
10

Yeah I agree with this. A previous fling once said to me that “yknow I don’t think your ready for me yet” which I thought at the time was really condescending/rude and it was so I up camped and left. A more positive and reframed approach in that context would of been “yknow baby maybe we should try something a little different and let’s figure it out together ” Men aren’t mind readers and Communication is always important. I don’t think guys would have half as much issues with women as they do i…
/r/seduction06/04/21 11:18 AM
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Excellent post. But when it comes down to I’d argue Girls are loved more than Boys when grown up. They are given the world, every possible rule off social norm is in their favor and they are equipped with unshakable confidence from loving parents/guardians who spoil them. Contrast that to Boys. Now of course they are loved too but no way as much in comparison to their gender counterparts. They come into the world and our gradually grounded and humbled by rules that they must follow to “act manly…
/r/seduction05/04/21 08:51 AM
1

This comment should be at the top off the thread. Most knowledgeable and true advice I’ve read on attraction.
/r/seduction26/03/21 02:33 PM
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You know what you need to do. You need to get out of your fucking head, be yourself and let the chips fall as they may. No magic pill, no secret code, just Do and calibrate accordingly within the moment. My most successful dates were based on spontaneity and not thinking about anything else. My least successful were planned well in advance, thought out and strategically rehearsed in my head. It’s not rocket science guys. Advice and tips are great but don’t let them define you. Think about a musi…
/r/seduction23/03/21 12:29 PM
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Wow what a stuck up bitch. I wonder how many “your not supposed to” lines would she have dropped in future conversations. Sounds like a close minded sheep that follows the crowd. In my opinion the number one wrong sentence in the English language is “your not supposed to” or “but this is how it’s always been done” People that are controlled by social norms are not people. They are Robots.
/r/seduction22/03/21 09:42 AM
2

Confidence can also be thought and learned from Experience. If other people can pass that experience or lesson on to others then more power to them. Your not magically going to fart it out no matter how much self improvement you do and especially to those who may have never felt it. There is no shame in showing someone the way or educating them on social mannerisms and etiquettes that portray confidence.
/r/seduction18/03/21 12:00 PM
1

It’s not so much about podcasts on social skills (but I am sure there are many) as much as it is learning social skills from podcasts. Sounds like an odd concept but it honestly does work. It’s the idea of listening to 2 human beings form conversation over a given topic and Listening and Observing to how they converse and structure the conversation. The conversation or topic itself could be irrelevant. It’s about How they are presenting that info more so than the info itself. I’m talking about S…
/r/seduction16/03/21 12:36 PM
18

Listen to podcasts or watch interviews when your at home. Get used to hearing 2 people or more conversing on a topic for long periods of time and the next time your out socializing won’t feel as off as you surrounded yourself with human communication mannerisms and sentences. Even if it’s just audio your still subliminally training your ear to consume some form of social skills and that could make all the difference between feeling comfortable in real life and not. It’s my first line of defense …
/r/seduction16/03/21 01:35 AM
3

Most people actually do enjoy going to places or doing activity’s you mentioned. You need to find enjoyment in what or where your going for the date or it will go nowhere. Enjoy your surroundings, enjoy your company.
/r/seduction15/03/21 11:06 AM
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It can mean a number of things depending on the person. Some women like men who can Lead and Make decisions for them. Dictating how dates will go or dictating what they want. Others like men who are confident in the sense that they stand by their beliefs or opinions and don’t always agree on topics. And then there’s the silent type of confidence (testosterone being the vehicle) in how present yourself to women. How you walk, how you look, your tone of voice and body posture. All of these traits …
/r/seduction14/03/21 02:07 PM
2

Timing is everything. It’s not as black and white or as binary as that. If it were then everyone attractive would have several lays and those that are not would have none. Timing. Luck. Perseverance.
/r/seduction26/02/21 04:22 PM
3

These are all great questions and not only for finding someone you like but also someone you don’t. I’ve experimented with similar questions online with girls and the reactions are very telling. Some just want to drink themselves to death while others do want to build a future and value deep conversation. A great way of weeding out the fakes and pretenders.
/r/seduction19/02/21 08:04 PM
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Remember these 5 humbling but sorrow words: You Are Going To Die. All of us are eventually and time won’t wait. Now go out and approach as if it’s your last day on earth. Because... it very well could be.
/r/seduction19/02/21 01:57 AM
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I disagree on the masturbation point. Guys absolutely do get turned on sometimes and don’t just jerk off for shits and giggles. It’s a natural emotional response that biologically calls for occasional release and pleasure single or not single. When it starts to become an issue is when that release becomes a constant reliance on your self worth and your fantasies start to dwarf reality. So if nature is telling you to do it go for it and have fun. But don’t let it define you. You do this by talkin…
/r/seduction11/02/21 09:47 AM
2

There’s so much negative stereotyping and cynicism in these comments and it sucks. Just be you, say what’s on your mind unapologetically and let the chips fall where they may. Solid post btw op.
/r/seduction10/02/21 10:53 AM
2

No it’s not. Why are their hundreds of books, videos and content specifically designed to get a woman and not a guy. That alone speaks volumes for the imbalance.
/r/seduction08/02/21 09:22 AM
2

Firstly I’m sorry to hear about your story and hope alls ok. in terms of openers, try and base the conversation on them. Tease them and be brave. “You know if you stare at me like that again I’m going to have to introduce myself to your group!” or “hey! I saw you looking in my direction and wanted to say hi” or ask them a random ice breaker question that gets them talking, “who’d win in a fight, would you rather, what do you think about insert popular story here? keep it interesting, intriguing …
/r/seduction04/02/21 01:25 PM
12

With semen.
/r/seduction04/02/21 12:02 PM
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You just answered the question. You need to escalate if the feeling is good and she is giving you signs. Don’t dance with her all night and not make a move otherwise she’ll get bored or doubt your interest. Talk to her every now and then and let her know you like her. And if you really want to get to know her move her off the dance floor. “Hey it’s really loud in here and I can’t hear you very well, want to move somewhere quieter?” If she accepts you’re in and if not you can kindly move along, s…
/r/seduction04/02/21 11:27 AM
6

If wanting love or finding a partner is deemed “Creepy” then we as a civilization have fallen off a cliff and landed into rocks that are shoved up our self righteous and broken butts.
/r/seduction31/01/21 02:19 AM
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Your not being honest. You’re just using sexual terms and tactics to manipulate a girl into bed with you. It’s manipulation not honesty.
/r/seduction11/01/21 12:08 PM
2

Everyone is much more stressed during covid so I wouldn’t take anything personally. People genuinely are on the apps just to pass the time. And while dates are doable in a pandemic I don’t recommend them at all as the lack of touch reduces your game to talking and unless you can really converse and get someone invested in you by doing so you are increasing the chances of being friend zoned. Datings time will come again. The vaccines are coming and life will get better. But for now my advice woul…
/r/seduction09/01/21 11:48 AM
1

I think number 6 is a greatly flawed and generalized myth and it’s been whored out too much on why relationships fail. People seem to forget that Men are Humans too. We have passions, hobbies, desires, dreams and goals far beyond dating/companionship and I really don’t buy into or believe that the modern man invests or puts too much of his happiness on a relationship more than as the internet will want you to believe.
/r/seduction07/01/21 05:55 PM
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I don’t think they are lacking it as much as they were for better or for worse robbed off it. Your formative years inbetween childhood and teenage are the most important of your life in my opinion. They ultimately shape how your 20’s will play out and if you did have bad experiences as a kid you can’t expect to be oozing with confidence and self esteem. So what happens is many people use their early and mid 20’s to undo any trauma or damage done and prepare to set themselves up to be their best …
/r/seduction06/01/21 03:58 PM
2

I think as evil as it sounds you need to see Women fail in situations. Tv, Instagram, Porn, Dating Apps and films build them up to be this untouchable powerful object that have no weaknesses but they do. They are human beings like me and you. If you haven’t seen a woman get upset or cry then go do it. Not from a place of hatred or resentment but simply to realize they are not untouchable. Watch videos of men rejecting women and desensitize yourself to the reality that women are no different than…
/r/seduction21/12/20 02:21 PM
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What a crock of Bullshit. Almost as bad as justifying someone to be nice. Which if you really are, then you shouldn’t have to. And the same goes even further if you’re not. Stupid advice.
/r/seduction20/12/20 09:50 PM
0

I’d bet more often than not that happens a lot. Time doesn’t wait for most people, there’s only so much bullshit you can take of women before you strategically settle. But I don’t think a man can be truly happy if they do, there just saving face and trying to compromise. In this instance that means divorce rates would be high.
/r/seduction20/12/20 09:48 AM
2

That’s an awesome response and very true. Mindset is everything.
/r/seduction20/12/20 09:45 AM
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Live your life for yourself and not women. Doesn’t matter if it’s quiet, busy or extraordinary. Who gives a fuck, just do you and you’ll radiate the happiness that attracts attraction as long as you are Actively meeting women in places where people meet, be it online or in person.
/r/seduction14/12/20 12:15 AM
0

Bottom line: Get Money=Get bitches.
/r/seduction10/12/20 10:20 AM
0

I never understood this. Obviously you should enjoy yourself first regardless of the night but why should it matter if someone has an agenda to meet someone new? Especially for guys. You see women dressed out to the throngs and sometimes to what would be normally considered barely acceptable in a public setting but it’s deemed as just having fun with their friends. Where as a guy that’s dressed responsibly and talks or attempts to get with people unapologetically is deemed a creep. Somethings no…
/r/seduction07/12/20 03:30 PM
1

It’s not just inherently trained by porn alone. Women are humans too and will naturally want sex or to stare at the prize when appropriate. They just won’t openly admit it for fear of being slut shamed. Humans are sexual creatures and desire sex. Porn or not.
/r/seduction30/11/20 01:42 PM
3

It depends on the person tbh. Have Fun with Fun people. Don’t blindly banter up people that won’t enjoy it. Read their bio first to be sure and then figure your angle. Always.
/r/seduction27/11/20 11:16 AM
5

I disagree about pick up lines. When used in context and not too forthcoming they can work. A musician doesn’t just start off an arrangement without an intro first. You have to start the song somehow.
/r/seduction21/11/20 10:05 AM
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I disagree. with the right partner it won’t matter what you desire as they’ll be willing to do anything that makes you happy and vice versa. This is why Compatibility is super important. Don’t settle on someone just because your alone. You owe it yourself and your desires to find someone that shares the same fantasies and sexuality as you. Cut down on porn yes but never be ashamed of your fantasies. And those that do shame you for it don’t deserve to be with you. Life is too short to be content …
/r/seduction17/11/20 01:23 AM
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Lads, rules are completely fucking up all of our dating lives. It’s not too dissimilar to music theory. You can have all the books and technique in the world but you can also overthink it and ruin the Song with chops, overplaying and no feel/emotion. There should only be one rule in dating and in life, and that’s to care more about yourself than what other people think of you. So if your the clingy affectionate type, own it with confidence! And if your not, then own that too. We are who we are. …
/r/seduction10/11/20 11:15 AM
1

This is like saying don’t go record an album or make songs without having a studio or a label to back them first. Life is way too short. We don’t know what tomorrow brings or if it’s even guaranteed, so fuck any pre conceived rules or advice and just follow through and do. You could be the best person in the world at your craft and have read and watched all the resources in the world but ultimately if you do not apply what you’ve learnt through on field life experience it counts for naught. The …
/r/seduction07/11/20 09:10 AM
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Solid advice but if anyone is new to running don’t challenge yourself straight away. Pace, speed and distance take work and time. Download the couch to 5k and do the on and off walking jogging assignments for 3 days every week and you’ll be flying it after a month or 2. Then apply the same process to everything in life, including dating and friendship. Start slow, continue consistently and you will see results.
/r/seduction02/11/20 06:44 PM
12

Have you tried turning them off and back on again?
/r/seduction21/10/20 03:14 PM
2

Good advice but what I’ve learned is that people are no different to businesses and entity’s. Take a major label for example. They will only sign artists that are guaranteed to reach an audience and are wanted already by other labels, and if they don’t like you they can also turn around and drop you at any moment. The same goes for relationships and girls. Don’t place all your chips on them because they are fickle creatures and most of the time don’t know what they want. All you can do is be you…
/r/seduction15/10/20 08:23 AM
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Here’s the thing: in cities where everything is a spinning carousel, that is not an issue. In smaller villages and towns where choice is limited, that’s when things become a little more difficult. Moral of the story: move to a bigger pool if you want to swim with more fish.
/r/seduction19/09/20 08:36 AM
2

Great advice This can be applied to Music too. Rely on too much theory and you’re feel and groove may suffer. Balance is key to everything in life.
/r/seduction16/09/20 11:56 PM
1

Just wanna chime in here and say while I agree people are ultimately at fault for not expressing their emotions or feelings earlier to others, I don’t believe it’s right or for us/anyone to Judge why they did or didn’t. God only knows what stunted them from making the move, the courage it took to do it or the emotional pain that pented up over time from not taking the initiative. I was one of those kids a few years ago that was paralyzed with fear and man it sucked, I can empathize with anyone t…
/r/seduction06/09/20 09:22 AM
1

Just because humans have a natural desire for sex does not mean they feel owed it. Someone might have a desire to participate in the Olympics but that does not mean they are entitled to be put on the team nor is it a guarantee. But they are entitled to at least within reason to give it their best shot.
/r/seduction11/08/20 09:42 AM
1

Try this one for fun. Go in with zero outcome expectation and ask your target the time as normal. When or if she responds reply back and say “well to be honest I was hoping to give the time of day to you” or “I figured it would be the time to ask you for a coffee” Set 3 or 4 rotational responses for each person to you’re question and see what happens. One of them is guaranteed to get a laugh at least and you can steer the conversation from there. If she rejects you, politely reply with “no worri…
/r/seduction08/08/20 12:39 PM
1

First off, don’t deny your feelings. Human beings are born to want compassion and intimacy. What’s not normal is when that desire consumes you’re entire life so much that you become overwhelmed and helpless to any form of critical thinking or evaluation and ultimately get swept away in a tsunami of emotion leaving any kind of life productivity dead in its wake. Live life with the intention of making it the best it possibly can for you and and when others see you thriving in what you love, they w…
/r/seduction07/08/20 12:21 PM
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