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In a time where both father abandonment is high and toxic masculinity is more often discussed than ways to make masculinity less toxic, TRP teaches boys how to be men. Their teachings are mostly useful and obvious (cultivate a good body and mind, give women time and space, you should be the most important person to yourself, etc). The toxic part is the justification as it's always some form of "men good, women bad". Often you don't notice how your mentality is shaping until you start questioning…
/r/ExRedPill10/01/24 12:29 PM
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This expand to other areas aswell. Their description of "nature" is based on the assumption the patriarchal polygamous society with private property is the only valid one and was built mutually by men and women. Both assumptions are false. It's also telling how the above description doesn't fit our western society as we are mostly monogamous. But mentioning the hypothesis that men are also monogamous and want a single woman for their entire lives is met with "but I know no men like this". Strang…
/r/ExRedPill10/01/24 12:19 PM
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Reading your story, I feel strong redpill vibes from your ex. Answering your question, there are many misogynysts that are not redpillers and would judge based on body count even if the woman regretted it. However, if I understood correctly, your cases weren't just regrets, they were outright abuses. This makes it way likelier that he's a redpiller. However, this isn't the biggest tell. See, TRP teaches men how to get and keep women and the tatics revolve around small abuses to make her addicted…
/r/ExRedPill08/01/24 01:25 PM
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I think "redpill is mostly right" is giving them to much credit. Not that I necessarily disagree with the saying, just that you are trying to imply that they are better than they really are. Redpill is right about a lot of things. Men shouldn't make their lives around women. Men should focus on being better individuals each day. When dating, men should give time and breathing space. They should also understand that a no is a no and go on. The list goes on an on and I wouldn't be surprised if thi…
/r/ExRedPill07/01/24 03:08 PM
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RPW is basically FDS + submission once the high value man is found. "Be a good housewife, keep your femininity high and expect a lot of masculinity from him" and things like that. While not as toxic to men as TRP is to women, it does reinforce a lot of toxic masculinity traits.
/r/ExRedPill03/01/24 12:55 PM
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Being as short as possible, you can ask for more detailing / proof if needed. 1 - Most couples met each other through work. This remains true even at this age when dating apps are everywhere. 2 - Strange that you point "because of dating apps, women do ..." when women are a minority among the dating apps userbase. While said women do exist, they are far from the majority. And strangely, even some dating apps evidence refute some of the points you mentioned (for example, in OkCupid women are more…
/r/ExRedPill27/09/23 01:13 PM
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Disagree. First, we must remember that TRP is part of the manosphere. As long as the second is going strong, the first is going to survive and vice-versa. TRP might adapt to become more incel-ish or MGTOW-ish (like it did before, when I met TRP it has ideas such as "a man must be willing to die for his wife" that has nothing to do with current TRP). Second, let's not fall down to USDefaultism here. TRP has vertents in many countries that don't speak English. Most redpillers there never even hear…
/r/ExRedPill29/08/23 03:11 PM
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War is hard for everyone. Men are forced to risk their lives to protect their country. But if they end up failing, mass rapes are extremely common. I don't see where this is a "gynocentric privilege".
/r/ExRedPill06/05/23 01:17 PM
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I can see narcissistic assholes from a distance. Narcisistic guys don't target you. This is why it's easy for you to spot them. Meanwhile, on TRP there are many guys traumatized by narcisistic women that were as easy to spot from other women's perspective.
/r/ExRedPill28/04/23 08:02 PM
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Now, if women REALLY disliked abusive men, why they are with them all time? Because abusive men know how to keep their targets trapped, usually through combinations of emotional and financial dependancy.
/r/ExRedPill28/04/23 06:48 PM
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Looks, money and status are all related to each other. There are many studies that show how good looking people end up usually working higher paying job, and have a higher status (again halo effect) They are related to each other. This is why it's important to define where one stops and the other starts. Height, voice, facial features are about beauty. Clothes and perfumes are about money. ​ It depends on the type of friends obviously. If you are friend with 100 neckbeards who live in their mom …
/r/ExRedPill23/04/23 08:08 PM
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I partially disagree on this. I think status is always linked to money, power and looks. The money and look parts are already covered in the theory. And power (as a concept) is mostly subjective. An important definition is that being attracted to someone's status is being attracted to the status itself, not what generated it. For example, someone with 100 friends, how much power does this person has? If they have an identical twin that has 10 friends, all of them close, which one is more powerfu…
/r/ExRedPill23/04/23 06:15 PM
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My problem is the theory itself. How much money someone has is objective. How well someone looks has objective and subjective aspects, but let's treat it as "how close someone is to the beauty standards" which is mostly objective. Status, however, is mostly subjective (besides the cases where it's directly tied to money or power). This leads to a situation where everyone in relationship that is not rich or beautiful is succesful because of status. And I don't believe in ideas that has these fail…
/r/ExRedPill23/04/23 05:30 PM
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Brazilian influencer Gabriel Breier talked in a redpill podcast some absurds. In the same podcast he mentioned how disrespectful it is to a man if a woman refuses to drink his cum. He also talks about how the best way to please a woman is bed is kneeling her clit, how he makes women orgasm with that. Last (but not least) he complains about how sex with a condom is not real sex because you aren't touching the person, each of you is touching the plastic. For those who can understand portuguese, tw…
/r/ExRedPill22/04/23 07:36 PM
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Redpill sees dating as a zero-sum game. The woman is trying to extract the most money out of the man while the man is trying to extract sex. If the relationship is making one feel good, TRP assumes the other is feeling proportionally bad. If you assume relationships are a zero-sum game, women become adversaries, not partners and their advice should be treated as such. It's not a coincidence that not only redpillers struggle getting relationships, they always end with one part very hurt.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/23 10:38 PM
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The way I see, there is a mostly objective part about looks (specially regarding to grooming) but a lot of it is mostly subjective.
/r/ExRedPill16/04/23 02:51 AM
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Besides what most people said so far (women are not monoliths, there are women attracted to any trait), I also like to ask: do these traits impair anything else in your life? There are varying degrees of dominance, in one extreme there's the macho who can't accept a "no" and on the other there's the guy who can't say "no" even if his life depends on it. The same for being outgoing, there's the guy who can make friends wherever and the guy who can't speak with people he doesn't know no matter the…
/r/ExRedPill07/04/23 04:27 PM
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Oh well, be ready for a wall of text. ​ 0 - Not everyone feels comfortable talking about real violence in a random internet group. I've been violated. Discovered the hard way that even my friends weren't to be trusted, much less a random group that's frequently stalked by incels. 1 - The discourse might feel similar, but the Three Reasons you gave change everything, as does the other data you provided. What fuels each discourse is widely different. 2 - Using data from OkCupid (source), women rat…
/r/ExRedPill06/04/23 02:13 PM
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26 is not what most people would mean by "older" in this context, so I don't think your case really fits here. My personal view of that is that society mostly doesn't care about men's appearance. While women are bombarded with the beauty industry from a young age, men's products are still niche. This means many guys go through teenage years without having a sense of fashion or how to take care of their skins. Things change when men get older and join the workforce. In many areas, looking good an…
/r/ExRedPill19/03/23 12:51 PM
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Many men believe so deeply in the hypergamy idea that she'll leave him for someone who earns more that they end up shooting themselves in the foot because of it (for example, by acting more "manly" -- which in reality was just arguing more and giving more orders -- which in turn makes her more likely to leave). I also saw many men (of course, all of them pillers) who openly admit they wouldn't date a woman that makes more than him.
/r/ExRedPill15/03/23 12:00 PM
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What got me in: I was 14, I made myself a fool for a woman, got properly punished for that and looked for a place where I could call her names without being censored. Stayed because not only they gave me a place to vent, they also gave me tips on how to become the man I wanted to (at that time, TRP role models were like Don Corleone, men that are loving, caring and strong enough to help people around them). What got me out: Met feminists, made friends with them, learned empathy. For some time I …
/r/ExRedPill07/03/23 12:21 AM
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Isn’t this literally a RP talking point? This is contradictory with the RP idea that personality doesn't matter and that women are attracted to misogyny. Openly displaying misogyny around potential partners will reduce significantly the amount of people willing to date you. What happens often is that it reduce it to a number greater than zero.
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 04:20 PM
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You really need to talk to people who had a toxic relationship and managed to get out. There are many factors in play, from abusers knowing how to make their toxicity not look toxic to them targetting vulnerable people that are willing to accept toxic behavior because they don't think they can get anything better. And once in a relation, abusers know how to prevent the victim from escaping the abuse. Although it's not identical, abusive jobs work in quite a similar way. But you don't see people …
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 03:56 PM
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would prefer to be in a toxic relationship Honest question, do you believe people in toxic relationships (not just women and any kind of relationship) are there because they prefer it? Do you think they look and think "I know there are many better options that would work better for me but this is still what I want"? Because this isn't how it works IRL.
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 03:32 PM
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And no it's not always personality that attracts since my flatmate is a textbook misogynist and he somehow finds women almost every week(not exaggerating). The wisest advice I have ever received from a woman about dating is "guys often think they got a girl because of some actions but in reality they got despite those actions". There are many misogynysts with girls. This doesn't mean misogyny attracts women. It means that many women found the guy so attractive that even misogyny wasn't enough to…
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 02:52 PM
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But if people can switch jobs for better perks and higher pay then what makes you think that women won’t leave for a guy they deem better than their current bf? This is an interesting part. People want the best in life, for every aspect. When talking about jobs, the good parts of the job are known beforehand. The problems you'll only know when you are at the company working with the people. Relationships don't function in the same way. The good parts are often found in the partnership that takes…
/r/ExRedPill16/02/23 11:18 AM
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you have never actually watched any red pill stuff yourself have you? I did. A lot. And even among blackpilled commenters, often people mentioned "I'd rather be alone than with a single mother". "I'm not willing to date anyone who isn't a virgin". "Dating a promiscuous woman is asking for trouble". Many redpillers repeat "most women are not worth the trouble, focus on yourself and aim at the best". B) The base claim is not common sense. Verifying paternity is only relevant in our society because…
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 12:13 PM
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Rosenfeld, a lead author on the research and a professor of sociology in the School of Humanities and Sciences, drew on a nationally representative 2017 survey of American adults and found that about 39 percent of heterosexual couples reported meeting their partner online, compared to 22 percent in 2009. He's talking about meeting people to date online versus meeting people to date outside the internet. There are many couples who met on Discord, through online gaming, through Facebook, among man…
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 11:16 AM
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A) I don't accept this kind of affirmation without proof. B) Your affirmation changes nothing about mine. You can't assume the 90% of the rejected guys would lead to more pleasurable moments. C) Once again, proof. The proof must also test the hypothesis that the majority of men not chosen are so because many women are rejecting them, not because of the algorithm.
/r/ExRedPill13/02/23 09:09 PM
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A) It's not hard to be promiscous as a man and redpillers themselves admit to that when they demonize single mothers. They only frame their selectivity as a right and women's as a problem. B) These kind of claims have zero evidence to back them up and many that refute them. Monogamy is not biological and in a wild environment, it's actually detrimental to survival in many ways (like reducing genetical variability). Poligyny is even less natural, as it leads inevitably to most of the men being se…
/r/ExRedPill13/02/23 07:53 PM
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Their conclusion comes from some basic premisses that are by themselves extremely questionable: - The women in dating apps are a valid representation of society as a whole. - Women lack the ability to properly identify the best men in a given group. - Women agree (among themselves) on who are the best men in a given group. The first one is the most relevant. Not everyone is drawn to dating apps. They are not representative of how people outside them think. If you don't assume the second, you can…
/r/ExRedPill13/02/23 07:29 PM
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I don't even agree with this definition of league. On my personal experience (and also according to the scientific blackpill), mental health is one of the biggest predictors of success in love. And things like face are a lot more subjective (in the sense that it changes from country to country).
/r/ExRedPill13/02/23 01:45 AM
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I believe in objective standards of what's deemed attractive or not (not talking just about physical beauty here) that are shared by most (but, and this is important, not all) people in a certain culture. What I don't believe is: There's a trait shared by 100% of a certain population. Wanting a combination of traits imply in not dating anyone without that combination. 90% of women wanting trait A instead of B and C instead of D imply anything relevant about how many women want guys who are B and…
/r/ExRedPill12/02/23 04:21 PM
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Something I've seen happening often is guys asking girls "what do you find attractive?". They answer with "I like guys with a good sense of humor" and the guy proceeds to make a thousand unfunny jokes in the date, which leads to failure. What he really wanted (and should've asked) is "how can I behave in a way that will be perceived as attractive?". It's more likely that you'll get nuanced answers this way and this makes a big difference for unexperienced guys.
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 02:16 PM
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This point isn't skipped when you directly ask about it, though. As long as you know exactly what you want.
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 01:56 PM
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It's an ideology that takes some scientific studies saying "people with X traits are less succesful in love", add in some unproven assumptions (like independence of the previous studies) and exaggerate a lot to get to the conclusion that "failure in love is deterministic".
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 01:37 PM
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Red pill sold me the idea that all women were bad. Then I joined a leftist party with many wonderful women and started thinking most women were bad (but those were the exception). Then I made even more women friends, to the point that the women TRP describe felt like the exception. Another important point, there was a Facebook page called "Testes da Massa" from my country (Brazil) that gave me a different way to think about masculinity. Their posts were simple quizzes with 5 options, from A to E…
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 02:08 AM
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I'm not sure if this is a scientific fact, but let's suppose that it's real. Saying that ugly guys are usually more misogynystic than pretty guys doesn't mean that every ugly guy is misogynystic or that no pretty guy is. If you have never been bitter, you shouldn't care about these comments. They aren't talking about you. If the person assume you are a misogynist just because you aren't conventionally attractive, this isn't a person you should want to be with in the first place.
/r/ExRedPill09/02/23 04:27 PM
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"Group A has it easier than group B" doesn't imply "group B can never and will never get it". Specially when one of the topics is "getting out of bad mindsets".
/r/ExRedPill09/02/23 04:09 PM
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So there are some important things you are missing. You must consider that not using photos and using the profile just for dating might be filtering out the worst creeps of the bunch. Also most creepy behavior won't show up right away. Understand where each discourse is coming from and what do they have in common before attempting to validate your theories. Not saying they are invalid, it's just too simplified and dating isn't that simple.
/r/ExRedPill09/02/23 10:35 AM
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How much did you talk with the men who answered the profile? Did you go up till the end (trying to set up a meeting) with any of them? The experience you related is just about the first approach. Not using pictures on ForeverAloneDating also brings biases to the experience (like you admitted, there aren't guys approaching you just because you looked like X). It's not enough to draw meaningful conclusions about anything.
/r/ExRedPill09/02/23 10:08 AM
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If the only reason to help a woman would be if she'd give sex in return, this is a way of dehumanization that end up being misogynystic by fitting the "contempt" part. The asymetry do exist on the male / female part. Most girl friends I have complain that they have to do a lot of emotional labor in their relationships with men. You can question how often this happen, but I am also not convinced that most women expect their partners to protect them in a dangerous scenario. The comparation with we…
/r/ExRedPill10/10/22 11:09 PM
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If men would step in to protect weaker male friends aswell, then you should understand why saying that you're not getting your reward (sex) from women in this situation sounds misogynystic. Do you also think that you are losing if your weaker male friends won't have sex with you if you happen to protect them ?
/r/ExRedPill10/10/22 08:43 PM
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Personally, if I am attacked, I'll try to defend my friend no matter their gender. It's more about protecting those who are dear to me than doing something for sex. And I get the benefits, friendship is by itself a benefit.
/r/ExRedPill10/10/22 08:09 PM
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Any person can get as many sexual partners as they want provided the bar is low enough. Low numbers speak more of either the person's interest in sex or their ability to put a reasonable bar on what they want. And believe it, there IS a bar that women must meet in terms of traits if they want a satisfatory sexual life (here defined as sexual encounters where she orgasms at least once).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 08:18 PM
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I think this apply only to the casual sex scene. Outside, I see the bar as low. On Tinder, when you are defining whether you like or not a person with only a picture, most men aren't good at showing how good they can be with only one picture. But when the match occurs and the conversation starts, the amount of men who managed to be interesting AND beautiful is infimous, to the point where the bar on "interesting" must be way lower than usual. However, outside of Tinder, I feel that the bar for b…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 07:53 PM
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I prefer taking advice from people of the opposite sex whom you really trust. The closest we have to a good general strategy is "be yourself", but it should be labeled as "be yourself in an atractive way". When you ask someone from the same gender and status, you have the help of someone who has the same problems as you, but the way they deal with them might not work for you because you are different enough so that when you try it, you sound fake. Friends of the opposite sex who know you can giv…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 07:35 PM
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