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Use that rage and envision your life as an rpg and max out your stats, fuck it. I play boss music in my head when i think of my failures and tribulations, do what you gotta do to succeed, who gives a fuck about everything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 09:45 PM
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Im shocked by how many women are supporting Jonah Hill's ex, I think Jonah Hill did a pretty fair and reasonable proposal to set a boundary, albeit I think his boundaries are a little extra and can convey a sense of insecurity and scarcity, but the man is atleast respectful and offers the woman an out if she cant abide by them. This to me is a very good example of a healthy boundary-setting example, the problem is with the boundary itself, also very shady for the woman to release private dm's on…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 04:30 AM
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Dating is akin to a court jester trying to appease a queen/king. The man (jester) does his best to earn the royal's (woman) nod.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 02:36 AM
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Honestly at least they still accept the indian clients, i know some escorts won't see certain races.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 10:51 AM
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lay it on me bud i could do with more self harm
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 10:32 AM
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whos not on my side?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 07:19 AM
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The tiktok algorithm mentally destroyed me again, saw multiple "what race would you not date" 80% of the answers are Indian, it's all so tiresome.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:36 AM
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Can you provide me a recommendation of material to get better at it? Or what lessons you could provide someone starting out given your experience
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:40 AM
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what was your success rate like?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 10:39 PM
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The more I read about men's (including me) struggles to attract women, the more I believe in the variable with the most predictive power to attain a woman being; shooting your shot, shamelessely even. The men here (again including me) need to approach more, and just deal with the fact that a non-zero amount of women you approach will have an unpleasant experience, you will come of creepy, aggressive, any variation of negative trait, but you will improve for sure, and will eventually obtain a rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 06:31 AM
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If you go outside you see so many ugly to average guys with very attractive women, what I have noticed is these guys tend to be very stereotypically masculine guys and probably confidently approached these women
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 06:18 AM
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I appreciate your willingness to help, but I just seem so far from it, how do I even begin to develop a social circle let alone having one to meet women
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 05:20 AM
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Where could i go to get women to court me?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 03:20 AM
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That's good to hear, especially from a woman, however my dating experience has been only the above excerpt. Maybe that says something about me, im not sure. No women approach or court me ever, so it is up to me or I remain solo forever. So IMO there is ostensibly a power imbalance in the initial stages of dating, slanted in favour of the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 02:31 AM
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Found a youtube comment i resonate with a lot, thoughts? "For me, the thing that put me off from dating, at least for now, is the this pervasive attitude that a woman’s time and energy is more valuable than mine. You hear a lot of these girls say things like “men need to get their shit together and treat a woman right” and it’s like yeah I don’t disagree, but when do I get to be treated right? It seems like as soon as you meet a girl, you immediately have to start proving to her that your even w…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 01:53 AM
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I don't understand why the men here vent and try and seek empathy from women. You will never receive genuine empathy from a woman that doesn't already love you. Women will never understand or internalise how it is for a man, and men will never understand how it is or internalise it is for women. You lot are wasting your time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 11:14 AM
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low iq comment. over 90% of men wouldn't subscribe to onlyfans either
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 11:06 AM
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What made you think using Yao Ming is an adept example to compare to what I am saying? How could reaching an individual who is 0.000001% of the population compared to ostensibly ~50% of able-bodied reasonably attractive women be analogous?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 08:47 PM
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im not debating you, im telling you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 08:08 PM
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low iq comment, the market for one is obviously different. One has higher barriers of entry, lower demand and makeup
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 08:08 PM
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With my work ethic if i was an attractive woman, I would be very successful with this if I chose to do so
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 08:01 PM
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I honestly feel quite jealous and angry when I think of how hard I work to make money and then I read of sugar babies, only fans' creators and findom mistresses. I already know all the rebuttals, "not all girls make alot of money" "its actually hard work" "men can do it too". The fact that women have this privilege to them, makes me irrationally lose empathy for them
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 07:51 PM
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No you are wrong, comparison measures interest over time relative to its own data. "Numbers on the graph don't represent absolute search volume numbers"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 04:16 PM
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Anecdotally, I have heard of quite a few women confiding that they will overlook toxicity in men so long they are tall. Being tall is a huge halo, well done if you won the genetic lottery
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 12:26 PM
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Who agrees/disagrees with this logic? Men who are successful with women are more emotionally intelligent than women who are successful with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 09:02 AM
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Facts
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 08:43 AM
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I dont think you are interpreting the stats correctly the interest meter is measured as a score on its own search history popularity, it does not measure or compare absolute numbers. If an interest score of 2 on how to get a girl compared to how to get a guy with lets say an interest score of 10, it could still be true that there is still more searches in absolute numbers for "how to get a girl"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 08:37 AM
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So what should the undesirables do then? I assume you also include people that have physical and mental disabilities in this list too
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 04:57 AM
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There is no incentive to be empathetic to men, like it does for men to be empathetic to women, if you keep holding out for women to see your pov, you'll be spinning your plates for eternity. You're fighting a losing battle.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 04:54 AM
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Serious question for women, when thinking of meeting someone from a dating app how do you filter a guy amongst 100s of other guys? What does he have to be for you to pick him?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 08:14 PM
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I agree but my guess is that is present in less than 5% of young heterosexual relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 02:37 PM
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What would the looks gap have to do with it? Also homosexual couples also have lots of drama and toxicity too I don’t know if it’s right to say that a significant amount of heterosexual toxicity is because one is secretly gay
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 02:30 PM
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I wonder what percentage of women are comphet
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 02:10 PM
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In person dating is harder for these people that is a fact
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 01:57 PM
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I am not a fan of Crowder or the manosphere, but judging a 3 minute argument is not the best heuristic to judge a person or situation with. If I had a gun to my head, I would guess Crowder is a shitty husband. But there has been so many instances in my life where I have heard more context or the full story completely change my perspective on seemingly unchangeable things. So I tend to reserve judgement until the full story comes. The movie 12 angry men comes to mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 01:56 PM
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alot of disabled, autistic, traumatised and social anxious people struggle, have a little more empathy
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 01:46 PM
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Do women even like men, or do they do so begrudgingly? Women if you could take a pill to change your sexual orientation to lesbian would you take it?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 01:40 PM
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women believe they are just as if not hornier than man but are able to control it better, thus eluding to the fact they have better self control than men. I believe this is false, and they simple just dont have the sexual urges us men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 01:09 AM
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pretty stupid arguments made by the women in there
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 12:43 AM
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men are hornier than women and gay men prove this, do you agree with this? I made a post and got many lesbians vehemently disagreeing. https://www.reddit.com/r/AskRedditAfterDark/comments/12y09sn/women\_are\_just\_as\_if\_not\_hornier\_than\_men\_how\_can/
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 12:36 AM
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I really don't think so, I think men just want their women to smell clean and nice too, personally, I have had a few women excitedly show me all the different perfumes she has, while I feign interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 10:46 PM
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People always say people have to smell good, and people prefer different scents, it is in my experience that women prefer the musky cologne scent of men rather than florals, vanilla or sweet. To your question of the ones you have listed I like vanilla the most.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 10:39 PM
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How many negative experiences am I permitted to have with an outgroup that it then becomes okay to have a prejudice/negative bias against them? 5? 10?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 10:23 PM
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"If you lived the exact same life and had the same experiences as a person 1 for 1, you would not be significantly different to them." Who agrees/disagrees with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 10:21 PM
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Its quite interesting that uncircumcised is such a turn of for Americans, most places around the world its a non-issue, some even prefer uncircumcised.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 10:12 PM
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Bring on the ai robots like from the movie Her, modern dating can be really unforgiving for unconventional people especially men, autistic and neurodivergent, disabled and socially stunted people have a hard time sifting and adjusting to all the barriers they face to find a date. I hope ai robots become so advanced that they can provide them solace from loneliness
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 10:06 PM
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I would, unfortunately, let a lot pass, because i have no other options and it is very hard to get a woman to like me in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:38 PM
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I've always found it very hard to empathise with the issues of celebrities, even if they suffer tremendously I don't emphasise with them as much as a random civilian experiencing the same thing, because of the "but you're rich and famous, you can do whatever you want", that privilege they have over every civilian. I wonder if that's how women feel about men and men's issues in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:37 PM
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Nobody cares about men issues, certainly not women, not even men so much either. I believe women's issues in contemporary society get amplified and rectified because women support women very well, and men support women because they want to fuck them. These things don't hold true for men's issues
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:34 PM
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If i could take a pill that would kill my sex drive to 0, with 0 side effects, I would take it in a heartbeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:30 PM
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Fair perspective, but not pertinent for less seedy encounters, such as a man flirting and courting a woman he likes at work/school/etc. I wish I could experience that for once, maybe this speaks poorly of how low value I am, but it feels like I am a nuance when I try speaking to women. Feel like dobby from harry potter just trying to get a woman to like me. makes me sad
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:29 PM
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this isnt a debate im correct
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:23 PM
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did a fake tinder women experiment, gained a little sympathy and insight on why women are so picky, when you have so many messages and matches that you can't even keep up, it makes sense to only pick the top 5% to allocate ur time too
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:22 PM
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prove your prowess by steelmanning me
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:20 PM
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only idiots strawmen
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:17 PM
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only idiots strawmen
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:16 PM
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not the same experience at all
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:13 PM
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I am talking the initial dating stages before any relationship, after then women will be a little less harsh. But it is a fact that women have a different supply/demand graph as it pertains to their dating prospects and that absolutely changes ones behaviour
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:11 PM
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I am talking of initial dating stages, pre boyfriend/husband
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:09 PM
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I am a man and have no desire to be anything feminine, but I really wish I could experience some women exclusive events, such as being approached and courted.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:08 PM
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Feel like you have to be perfect at all times to be with a woman, they're so unforgiving, one small slip up and she could easily drop you, as women have an abundance of men desiring them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 07:58 PM
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Flaked on last minute again, i hate dating and not being a chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:04 AM
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Almost did something very stupid, didn't think i could fall this low
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 09:02 PM
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The entirety of left tube and left twitter is essentially this, they aren't as pointed and cutthroat compared to Andrew Tate but they are much more numerous and have been around for many years. I will say on a basic glance it seems currently that there is a much more push into the manoshphere lately, but theres always pushes and pulls. When one side gets too heavy the other side gains notoriety
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 12:32 PM
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:( What is outlier What is "the exception doesn't prove the rule" You realise that even if Andrew Tate by absolute numbers could be the largest by views, this could still not prove your thesis to be true, if you don't understand why that could be, then I am afraid you are just not equipped to handle these leves of discussions, sorry. You could be right, you could also be wrong, but these heuristics hold nothing in weight
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 12:08 PM
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Because most non christian men dont want a virgin christian trad wife. TBH i am being a bit semantic your point still stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 12:04 PM
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Given a large enough population size I can construct a narrative on anything. Even if there is 1 false rape accusation for every 1000 real rape accusations, men here still falsely believe that they are at risk of it, they have a poor heuristic, you have a poor heuristic. You want to vent and rage bait. The vast majority of men do not demand pity from women, no one wants pity sex, you have fallen for the chinese robber fallacy. If you want to prove me wrong, get some stats behind it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 12:03 PM
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you have to look at the other side, then seek out the population of each and then compare each other. Otherwise, it's just a baseless claim. Me saying "it's far more lucrative and profitable to be a misandrist on YouTube, podcasts and Instagram than it is to be misogynistic" is just as valid if using the same method as you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:57 AM
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Ehh you know most non-white non Christian men have conservative values also right?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:54 AM
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Conservatives have kinda lost the plot, they unironically made me more pro LGBT with all the bitching they do about trans people
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:53 AM
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are u an idiot? When did i say it was the women's fault? And enlighten us on an effective courting method then.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:49 AM
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you are lost, you are just talking to yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:47 AM
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no
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:46 AM
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Lillith comes to mind
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:40 AM
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Social proof, we use it when buying stuff, seeking out services and dating also. If other people arent buying/desiring/using this service am I doing something wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:38 AM
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It's tautological what you are saying. You think the people here are under the false perception that they HAVE to be assholes and NOT emotionally intelligent to attract women, everyone already knows this. It's like telling a depressed person "hey buddy just cheer up" and then complaining about why all these people are so depressed. If you aren't equipped to have those discussions then just don't participate in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:35 AM
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Full transparency I only post on this sub when I want to vent about my dogshit dating life,
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:29 AM
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survivorship bias
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:23 AM
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Everytime i have asked women for dating advice they always give very cookie cutter advice, its nothing profound and not novel, not to say it's bad advice it's just something that everyone already knows. I even asked lillith and she gave very generic answers like "be a high quality man" "dont be an asshole" "get hobbies" while saying that since she had to be general because its individual based (which i don't disagree with)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:22 AM
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why is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:17 AM
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ehh i get your point but i dont think this is really a point you can have a say in (men approaching women and rejection) unless you are a man and have experienced it yourself. There is likewise issues where I think men will never understand unless they were women and experienced it themselves. Even if men approached only women that they surmise they had the best shot with, they would still get rejected alot, and realistically unless you have incredible resilience and mental fortitude, rejection …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:16 AM
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yeh i agree, but i would point to alot of other things where i would hold this same standard that women and men would be pissed of at
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:07 AM
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This logic can be applied to almost every single first-world problem, I wonder if this heuristic is even a valid way to judge things. Why are some ppl seemingly happy no matter occurs to them, while others are always dissatisfied? I think moreso it is the comparison we make to our environment, the poor kids in Somalia aren't sad that they aren't getting regular women to have sex with, because relative to their environment this issue isn't even considered, but a millionaire living on a street ful…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:40 AM
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Nothing will ever change, in the initial stages of a relationship women have alot of power, why would women need to change
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:31 AM
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I made a vow after my last relationship, that I would not actively pursue women and hopefully meet one organically while going about my life. 1.5yrs later, haven't had any contact with women apart from friends girlfriends and customer service workers. Fellas don't do what i did if your life is not filled with socialising with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:27 AM
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Just seems way to general like what is a quality man? How do i manifest a social circle that contains women, and don't women hate it when a "friend" ask them out
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 10:25 AM
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So women always say they dont understand why men negate womens advice on getting women and listen to men's instead. I want to know what advice women have for men who want to get a quality woman, from approaching and courting to maintaining a healthy amicable relationship, genuinely interested in hearing what women have to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 08:57 AM
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It’s pretty subjective if you like New Zealand more I can understand it through ur reasoning
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:47 PM
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Australia is better than New Zealand in almost every way
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:37 PM
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It’s full of French ppl
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:30 PM
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It’s exciting im keen for self driving cars, I hate driving
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:30 PM
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France is the worst developed country
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:20 PM
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What do you think of my opinions? I might dm a pic depending what u say about me
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 06:52 PM
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Dating for ostensibly the man you will spend the rest of your life with isn't meant to be easy. Look at all the source material there is for men picking up women compared to women picking up men, look at how men and women are raised pertaining to dating, men are raised to do everything in their power to get a yes from a woman, while women are raised to look for anything to say no to a man. You don't think women have a huge blindspot in attracting a partner, that men are forced to learn? No doubt…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 06:42 PM
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Women have never needed to work on attracting people outside of their appearance (no fault of their own), imagine an average woman with amazing charisma and confidence as it pertains to securing the opposite sex
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 06:31 PM
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I would stake my whole existence I could do it with an average woman
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 06:28 PM
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Yes when it comes to tinder that is true, but they still are way to passive and rely on the guy to do all the courting. If i was transplanted into a womans body, I think I could lock down an above average rich man who would treat me right within a month
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 06:27 PM
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I am right, women will always get higher quality partners if they are in control of their dating
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 06:25 PM
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yes but probability is much less, always some guys and girls will slip through but you just get better at filtering through
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 06:06 PM
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I disagree, I think you are much more in control of your dating life if you approach rather than passively waiting
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 06:06 PM
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But getting into relationships with men that approach you/make the move leads to better men?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 05:42 PM
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Approach them and make your intentions clear that you’re not looking for sex and don’t have sex till you know he’s not gonna play u
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 05:32 PM
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Then go approach within a month you’ll find a boyfriend
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 05:11 PM
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This is what I mean, approach them and make your intentions clear don’t fuck them until you know their worth it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 05:11 PM
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Yes women are honestly overpowered
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 02:45 PM
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Women if you approached men your rejection rate would not be high, you MAY face a couple rejections if you're asking out above average men, but undoubtedly you will land one, within 5 warm approaches. For men this number could be 10x, knowing this why don't you approach? Is it fear of rejection? Because I am pretty sure approaching men, is more empowering, allows you to choose the guys you want, and will probably leave you with higher caliber men in your dating pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 02:43 PM
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If women were not so passive and put effort into dating even 1/10th the amount of a guy, an average women could easily get an above average man
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 02:40 PM
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It blows my mind that women even get into relationships with average and below average men, there is a huge imbalance in favour of women in terms of dating dynamics, most women who are atleast average should be able to lock down above average guys with just a little bit of effort, the inverse of men securing above average men is extremely difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 02:27 PM
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yeh they're made fun off because they believe in illogical things such as prejudice+power that justify punching up
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 02:23 PM
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what is your explanation for why guys do it then? I think guys think other guys can handle it but girls need assistance
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 01:49 PM
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They do know it matters, it's just that they get frustrated with the double standards, because you don't have to be mindful of your language when shitting on men or a perceived higher class aka punching up
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 01:48 PM
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Im a guy
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 01:44 PM
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Yes but thats because they see women as delicate and weak with less agency and emotional strnegth than men, also there help or empathy may just be a way to show sexual interest
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 01:27 PM
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By chance looked at one of my ex's Instagram page, see she has a tall chad for a boyfriend now sigh
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 10:23 AM
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Maybe man thanks for taking the time to respond to me
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 02:39 PM
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Time travel and freezing or happiness for me and my family
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 02:27 PM
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Sadly yes, I want to get pursued by woman for once I feel like that would feel amazing
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 02:26 PM
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I’m not sure, probably feeling like a failure or inadequate something along those lines
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 02:19 PM
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I had a dating app for a bout 2 days and I asked out a few women then that’s when I met those women also since then I haven’t spoken to a woman outside of cashiers
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 02:14 PM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 02:07 PM
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Don’t even feel like eating healthy just want to eat junk food all day everyday
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 02:04 PM
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Really bad the past few weeks
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 02:04 PM
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I’ve only been on 2 dates in the past yr both women were a mismatch but I still asked for 2nd date but they weren’t interested
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 02:03 PM
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Just might have had a revelation, I think I may have symptoms of or undiagnosed depression. I literally have 0 desire to get up from my bed and do anything other than shitpost on Reddit. I can't even bother fake being happy anymore and I am super easily irritable these days too fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 12:33 PM
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For what goal to get into a relationship? I don't want that, my goal would be something like, when I start dating again how can women approach me and how can I get with woman that meet my "high" standards
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 12:28 PM
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what should i do to then? I'll do it if it makes sense srs lets see what u got
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 12:24 PM
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Most ppl in these spaces are heavy into self improvement. Some incel are gone cases, some are venting/shitposting and some are trying to improve their situation. There is definitely some serotonin or dopamine release that comes with venting on the interent, you do it, I do it and incels do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 12:23 PM
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any women that likes me I will probably like back srs, women are overpowered
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 12:19 PM
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I value myself highly yes, but in a time when I desire female companionship, I desire that more than looking for a perfect partner. I value myself highly, however, I know due to my physical characteristics I am a low-value man in woman's eyes. I am aware if I upkeep my standards to this, I will be single for a considerate amount of time, and I think for my overall happiness I would be happier with a less than ideal partner than potentially never having one.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 12:15 PM
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False dichotomy, I value myself highly and objectively. There is no necessary condition that if I have 0 standards that this fact is elucidated via my interactions with women such that they are able to ascertain this. Women aren't mindreaders and it is entirely possible that my outward appearance or behaviour does not convey this fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 12:08 PM
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Yes because in comparison, women are able to be pursued and courted by men just going about their day to day life, and even someone like me who has ostensibly 0 standards still has had 0 female interest
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 12:00 PM
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Because as a man a relationship is unlikely to happen unless you pursue and court, I haven’t done any of that in a year plus
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 11:55 AM
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I don’t want a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 11:49 AM
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I have no standards and will take whichever woman want me, despite this I have been single for more than a year
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 11:45 AM
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That podcast is an incel creator, makes me hate women
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 10:30 AM
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it's all so tiresome
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 09:41 AM
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I hate men and women equally
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 07:29 AM
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It is INSANE to me that some women actually date men that arent tall and rich and handsome, I actually can't believe that there are women that date normal guys, it makes me laughably respect women that they have the option to but they dont
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 06:46 AM
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Fuuuck it’s over
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 05:51 AM
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No you read my comment wrong, I am so ugly it’s insane how I even get women, and if men had my looks they would be perma virgins
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 04:10 AM
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You would if you knew what I looked like
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 04:07 AM
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I am better at getting women then 95% of men here given my Looks, Money and Status
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 03:56 AM
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In another life I would be 6'2 white and handsome enjoying life and wouldn't be wasting time shitposting online
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 03:55 AM
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If you are a woman posting on here, I unironically think there is something wrong with you
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 03:24 AM
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Blindly supporting johnny depp also is a sign of ignorance
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 03:23 AM
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women don't like sex
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 03:07 AM
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it depends on location, which country are u in?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 12:30 PM
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Not the most objective way, photo quality will change the rating alot, I have pics where I am rated 6 and others were I am rated 9.7
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 12:26 PM
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Your comment insinuates that women care on the same level that men care about women's loneliness, this implies that the issue is equally represented.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 12:13 PM
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100%
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 12:02 PM
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Because the issue is overrepresented in a specific gender, men care about women's rape more than they care about men's rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 12:00 PM
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What is the point of this comparison? This is a lopsided issue, just like sexual assault and rape is a lopsided issue towards women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 11:53 AM
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Probably true
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 06:21 PM
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There are men that take it to the extreme, but I am speaking from experience in that sometimes I have to do it to get the results I seek. Ideally men should be able to juggle all those things at once, like for example not turning down a party invite to do a workout. However there have been times in my life in when I am so passionate about my projects or goals that even when going to said party all I am thinking about is going back home and working on my projects, I am not even enjoying the party…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 06:16 PM
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Yes for attracting women social skills is probably most important followed by looks, I don't know why most men here only focus on the looks bit. But holistically working on all parts of your being is great, if you are capable to, glad i could get clarification of that. If you don't mind me being devils advocate, what is women's version of self improvement that they should do?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:53 PM
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Yep there are grifters, scammers, beginners and then there are profitable traders and whales.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:49 PM
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Yeh I agree with that, you should seek to improve in all ways. But I think you are heavily honed into one specific type of archetype of man. I think alot of men neglect working on their interpersonal skills, but my impression from your comments were as if going to the gym or reading meditations or working in tech were "bad" things.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:46 PM
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I don't disagree with that, but why is being social mutually exclusive to reading meditations? Or fasting? I think that is a false dichotomy Everytime I go to the gym I go with my friends, and we laugh shoot the shit, its extremely fun. I definitely agree working on your social skills and emotional intelligence is as important as anything else, but I think that is just much harder to work on because there is not really a direct pathway that exists to improve, such as the gym or dieting provides.…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:42 PM
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I've asked a few women here, what they would recommend to self improve for men, after they stated that men were improving in the wrong ways, but neither of them have responded, I am genuinely curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:38 PM
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Most crypto investors just got lucky, however, there are a significant amount of people who become consistently profitable crypto traders earning well over 7 figures
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:36 PM
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Can you please provide me self improvement that you would recommend for a man then? I am actually asking in good faith and would be open to learning.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:30 PM
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I don't know I will take your word for it, as I don't have any experience with dominant men
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:29 PM
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What would you suggest is a good way to self-improve for men? Because honestly I don't understand what is so wrong about some of the stuff you listed. I am assuming you are stereotyping men who do those things to an outgroup, you hold disdain to.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:27 PM
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hence coinflip, true submissive women are amazing partners, but the word submissive is obfuscated by women who will just lay there
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:25 PM
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you think reverse cowgirl is an unrealistic position?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:19 PM
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Again Im not sure about that, the most common trope of self-development is the gym and it is taught early on that results take years. I could bite the bullet on things such as asking out women and such or personal development pertaining to emotional intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:19 PM
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nope, i want them to bounce up and down on my dick
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:16 PM
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what is spinning plates?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:15 PM
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Confirmation bias IMO, There are young ppl killing it in every industry
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:15 PM
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I am not actually so sure, pill subreddits usually have a big correlation with self-development, I sometimes rant here, but around 50% of my time is spent cultivating a better future for me and my loved ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:13 PM
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I want them to bounce up and down like they do in the adult movies hehe
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:11 PM
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Ok buddy transition into a girl then, all ur problems will go away
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:07 PM
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its idiotic to say that men have it harder in every aspect, if we want women to be empathetic to us, we have to be empathetic to them also
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:00 PM
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When women say they like being submissive in the bedroom, there's a coin-flip chance that actually just means she will starfish while you do all the work.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 04:58 PM
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am i right lads? https://twitter.com/asimbawe/status/1641515835561857024
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 11:39 AM
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And what is that reason?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 02:10 PM
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Srs question, why don't women like you just date other women?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 02:05 PM
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That is not my disagreement and Im sorry you've had violent experiences, in the past, thanks for the discussion and appreciate keeping it civil.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 02:04 PM
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To the women on here, I would love to hear how you met your current or previous partners
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:56 PM
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I think its fake, and likely the only reason women even entertain men. If women didnt need mens sperm would they still choose to be in relationships with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:53 PM
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Have you read the article? In short my point is not that women are not at risk of these events you laid out in your comment, some of which that are exclusive to women. My point is that as humans are biases influence the rate at which we perceive an issues/danger and therefore draw incorrect prescriptions, I believe alot of political culture war is propagated by these flawed beliefs. Let me pose a question to you, Is it rational for men to be fearful of women who falsely accuse men of rape, think…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:52 PM
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Missing the point completely
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:39 PM
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Hehe
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:30 PM
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My argument is that you are incorrectly administering/overweighting a rate of risk, and thereby using a poor heuristic to view the outgroup. Men are more violent compared to women yes, you should always keep your safety in mind at all times yes. At what rate of men murdering women would you uphold your preconceptions of men and their perceived danger? 0.01%? 0.001%. At what rate will your physical and mental actions be upheld with respect to the way you view men and at what rate are they irratio…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:24 PM
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I unironically don't believe you, i think you'd be happier with a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:04 PM
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Why should I also not follow that heuristic every time I walk past or interact with men, given that my chances of getting murdered are similar to yours? If your rebuttal is something along the lines of "women are more vulnerable in a dating context ..." then you've missed the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:04 PM
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Literally half of them are manchilds that do no work around the house, and will rely on a woman to replace his mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:51 PM
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Are you aware of the chinese robber fallacy? I believe you are suffering from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:48 PM
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Why would a woman choose to be with a guy? Knowing the problems associated with men? Srs
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:47 PM
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When women get horny what do they think of? As a man when I'm horny im imagining all the different ways I fuck girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:44 PM
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Maybe society? I dont believe in women's exclusive biological attraction to men
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:37 PM
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what percentage of women are actually into men? and not just compulsory heterosexual? I don't buy that most women are willingly getting into relationships with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:24 PM
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This is why satisfying women in the bedroom is much harder than men, you won't ever get this much variability in men's orgasm preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:22 PM
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I realised something that reduces my attraction/interest in someone, is if they indulge in celebrity worship. Anyone else similar or opposite?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 12:21 PM
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Lmao bro you don't believe me? The hottest one was blonde hair blue eyes model, turned heads every where she went was legit very uncomfortable walking anywhere with her because ppl would stare non stop. Longest relationship the girl was about 7/10 but she had an awesome personality so I liked her more.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 09:44 AM
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I think some of the mainland indian men ruin it for the westernised indian men
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 08:33 AM
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I'd assume not because some of those studies are sourced from okcupid's internal data.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 08:29 AM
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hhahha absolute delusional, every single study ever done has noted height being an attractive trait with many women preferring taller women. You can choose to deny this but just remember your denying years of peer-reviewed studies, and that my friend is some insane hubris to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 08:27 AM
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That wasn't the question haha do you prefer being 5'6 with your average plain face?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 08:19 AM
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now imagine being 5'6 would you prefer that over being 6'2? the reality is that you have a huge advantage, just because you havent capitalised on it doesn't negate the advantage
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 08:13 AM
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I've been digesting the past few hours looking at statistics from dating studies, concluding (with high significance) that Indian men are literally desired about 10x less than white men, they are the least likely to be responded to and harbour extreme negative prejudice from women, so much so that an overweight white man is almost 2x preferred to a healthy weight indian man. But then I think to myself, given that is true (which I don't doubt) how the fuck have I even been successful in dating? G…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 08:08 AM
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The fact that a non-overweight woman will respond almost 2x more to an overweight white man compared to a non-overweight asian man kills my self-esteem, I really got to stop surfing these subreddits.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 08:00 AM
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I don't believe women's sexuality is as rigid as mens
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 07:50 AM
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He is not good looking but he is a tinder god? I don'y buy it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 07:49 AM
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Why don't women just date other women, if there is so many issues with men? Srs
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 06:37 AM
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They did the same on AITA for a post that was stating how bad indian men are it was upvoted in the thousands with many comments berating indian men, the same post was copied and pasted with the only thing changed was in place of "indian" was "black", the post was heavily downvoted, all the comments claimed it racist and the post was taken down.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 05:12 PM
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How are you red pilled
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 02:43 PM
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You're absolutely right, if only this is my instinctual thinking
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 12:09 PM
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I've done both so I've been a woman on the apps and a chad on the apps, I think the whole experience of swiping and matching and receiving matches, is more insightful, in that you will experience swiping and constantly getting matched, you can tailor the profile to your liking, for the chad tinder I used the exact same bio as my personal account and got 4x as many matches. I matched with a woman on my personal account and she ended up messaging the chad account first while ghosting me. For the f…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 11:31 AM
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Fair enough I don't completely agree but I understand your position. Thanks for providing your perspective, and keeping it civil, appreciate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:57 AM
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Fair enough, thanks for your perspective appreciate it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:55 AM
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That is ideal, but its still hits much more if you can do it yourself. I wouldn't suggest messaging anyone, just matching
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:55 AM
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I don't think makeup and clothes should be factored in as that is not something women do exclusively for men that they meet on dates, that would be like saying men also pay through their gym memberships, cologne etc. Agree on low cost dates, I will never do dinners or even lunch, always low cost like ice cream or just chilling somewhere scenic
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:45 AM
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Well, i have to say I respect you greatly if this is something you wish to do. The only problem could be because how emotionally starved most men are, the general ways that you show emotional validation to your female friends would come off as a indicator of interest to men and they may end up thinking you like them. It's also hard because men are dogshit with showing their emotions, you could have a guy ready to kill himself that day and when you ask him how are things he'll respond "yeh im goo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:39 AM
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Could that also mean that since both genders experience this naivety in dating, but since men generally are less picky and have a smaller pool, it's less likely or at least less efficient compared to women that they will "mature" with respect to their dating preferences? Agree that women will have to vet more, but men also waste a lot of time and money in meets, women generally won't expend as much cash as men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:30 AM
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No pilled I wish women understood how emotionally starved most men are, a simple compliment or some understanding, validation or empathy could literally flip a man's view of women into a positive direction. it is not a women's responsibility to play fiddle to men's emotions, but I think of the great men I know, my brother, my friends and because the onus of approaching and courting women is on men, these men choose not to because it's daunting and risky. What happens then is women receive approa…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:25 AM
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Appreciate the advice thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:01 AM
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I dont really understand your prescription are you saying that women dont get into genuine relationships more than men? I was basing my intuition that even if I grant to you the probability that women's partner poor is filled with men less likely to be genuine, compared to men's dating pool. The sheer size of the pool for each tilts it in the womens favour. Something Like this The sheer size of the pool for each tilts it in the women's favour.5% = Pontential eligible partners = 5 Mens Dating Poo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 09:58 AM
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Fair enough, appreciate your perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 09:42 AM
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In general, comparison is pretty futile but I am going to bite the bullet and say its also harder for young men to find relationships, this was my view before the latest data stating ~30 of young women are single compared to ~60%. Women face their own unique issues in dating which I am empathetic too but this is my opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 09:40 AM
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Its not so easy for young men in the west as it pertains to dating
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 09:34 AM
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When I see an attractive woman, I immediately think that she is being pursued by chads and that I stand no chance. I think I am an above-average man, but it fucks with my mind a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 09:32 AM
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I think they hate men more than theredpill hates women
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 09:29 AM
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May I ask after 20 years could you summarise your thoughts on it? Has your dating life and understanding of men improved since injecting yourself into this area?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 09:26 AM
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obviously the sample size isnt the same, but it seems most women here are partnered whereas most men are single
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 09:22 AM
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My definition is similar but I would not say that looksmaxing is meant to be a way to supersede personality or "emotional challenges", most people that are rational will realise personality is a huge part and emotional intelligence will take one far in life. I also have never even considered what utility women could actually find in this sub, I see women providing pushback and pertinent advice for men. I believe these pill subreddits are made for men, obtaining women. I mean no disrespect but I …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 08:40 AM
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I completely agree, that's why I suggest women create a men's profile. I will pushback and say that women could find it hard to find genuine guys who aren't just seeking sex. But i agree with your point holistically
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 08:19 AM
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Can you summarise the mindset in 1 or 2 sentences?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 08:13 AM
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I experienced that also, but i gained empathy for them when I first hand received all the very creepy sexual messages
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 08:09 AM
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This was not my point moreso how are women willingly coming back here when IMO it seems a little unwelcoming for women?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 08:08 AM
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is there not better subreddits that arent as male centered? such as twoxchromosomes? Either way, kudos for the women here actively participating in a male-dominated subreddit. I personally would get frustrated if i tried to go to a female centered subreddit to present my perspectives
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 08:02 AM
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? not necessarily this subreddit is highly curated to a subset of men and is not a good heuristic of judging the average man. If i went to the conservative subreddit, can I now conclude the average man is conservative?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 07:57 AM
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90% of these posts are men venting, im not sure on the caliber of discussions being had.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 07:56 AM
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Have any women thought about creating a tinder profile as a man? Would highly recommend it. I suggest the opposite too, for men to create a profile as a woman. I feel this would increase (even if temporary) the empathy between genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 07:44 AM
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most men are on here to vent. There's women-specific subreddits to vent about men that will garner you much more support than on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 07:40 AM
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yeh same I swear every woman has a busy life filled with social outings and work/school, makes me question the caliber of women on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 07:39 AM
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why would you care what the men on here have to say, do you really want to date the archetype average guy from these red pill subs
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 07:37 AM
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why are women even in this sub? genuinely curious
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 07:14 AM
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explain this
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 07:13 AM
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Bisexual women, is it harder to get women off or men?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 04:19 AM
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Check dm
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 06:13 AM
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You have seen indian men with non indian women tho right? I see one almost every time I leave the house tbh. I myself have dated hot white women myself, being an indian. I know we've talked before brother and you know I mean well, but it has to be something more than your race.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 05:33 AM
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Do you think the 7/10 guy in your example will have more success? I think not
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 10:11 AM
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I agree that looks are getting you're foot in the door, but can I propose a hypothetical? Who do you think will be more successful with women? A) An unconfident shy man with poor emotional intelligence aka "aspie" with Male Model looks. B) A neurotypical man with average looks. I think a Male model with a personality of an "autist" will have less success maintaining a woman, unless that woman is a carer type person or autist herself. This example is on the extreme end, the more attractive your l…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 09:24 AM
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To be fair he has also got with women who were unaware of who he was or his wealth, is what he claims. I think his body count would be 10x less if it weren't for his status, but IMO he could definitely pull women without all the status and money.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 09:18 AM
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From most important to least IMO at this moment in time. (for men trying to attract women) Social skills/Charisma/Personality Status Looks Money The reason I put social skills first, is that a poor conversationalist or the typical unconfident/insecure man, will hinder his success greatly and be unable to maintain a woman. Would love to see everyone's ranking especially womens input and their subsequent reasoning also :)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 09:12 AM
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haven't read that book ahah
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 06:15 AM
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Looking for book recommendations regarding becoming more charismatic and developing emotional intelligence. Have already read how to win friends. Much appreciated.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 06:13 AM
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I have not seen your face and the answer is that it is not worthless and neither are you. The fact that you are cognizant of the way someone may feel with you approaching them, says incredible things about your emotional intelligence, just do it, it may work out and the experience will help you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 10:15 PM
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I think that's true that women are more emotionally supportive towards their friends but also there is a lot of stuff that I can't relate with I think the original account is still heavily skewed from a female perspective but nonetheless I still agree with alot of it. For example, Male camaraderie has always been a very strong part of my life, and I don't really feel any desire in showing physcial affection towards my male friends like hugs as the original account desires for.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 10:13 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 09:51 PM
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I unironically still disagree with some of what is said in the original account, but i know women are more open to hearing stuff from a trans man compared to a cis man
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 09:49 PM
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I would love to get the women off PPD thoughts on this video, its a trans man's account of what it's like being a man, after transitioning from female to male. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nNME0cloyyM&ab\_channel=AnnaAkana
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 09:37 PM
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There is a great account of a trans man on his feelings becoming a man, alot of women showed sympathy towards it because they perceive a trans man as being a friendly. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nNME0cloyyM&ab\_channel=AnnaAkana
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 09:33 PM
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I will carry your thoughts forward to lesbian women and convince them that they need to have sex with men, and to gay men and convince them that they need to have sex with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 09:28 PM
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You and another lady tried convincing me, that I as a heterosexual man would find having sex with men pleasurable. That me saying i wouldn't was me in denial
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 08:57 PM
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90% of these daily threads are Men not understanding women Women not understanding men
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 10:26 AM
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The thing I am wondering is that even if men are orders of magnitude behind women, would anything even be done systematically or culturally to correct it (not at the expense of women). For example lets say there came a point that due to the lack of male graduates there was now a substantial gender pay gap, but in the other direction against men, would anyone even care to try and fix this? Really feels like there is a massive wall and backlash when anyone speaks about uplifting men systematically…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 09:50 AM
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Immigrant parents are like this also, my dad or mum has never spoken to me about sex, women or dating, not once.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 09:46 AM
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I have never seen so many irrational people as I did when the BLM riots occurred absolute brain rot on all sides. Otherwise intelligent and logical people, losing 50 iq points when this came up.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 06:41 AM
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Im not, but my parents are immigrants from a different time. I'm not bothered to change their opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 11:45 PM
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I feel you making friends as we get older and older is very hard. It may be better to find a new friend group, which is unfortuantely going to come with a lot of initiating and rejection. Im sure there is an interest or hobby that you have that you could find a common group or a sport, where you can try and make friends from? Even expats or recent immigrants are very open for making more friends
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 10:02 PM
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Something funny is that I can't show so many modern films and tv shows to my parents because of the gay sex scenes. I wanted to show the Whale to my parents, but literally, the first scene is of the guy watching gay porn, same with the Last of Us a whole episode for a gay relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 09:44 PM
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Funnily enough I've seen alot of ostensibly educated people fall into very unacademic positions, even will tactfully support an incoherent position. I have seen scientists fall 50 iq points when speaking about certain issues, we all have our blindspots. But there is definitely a correlation in the profession you describe and the logic of a postion.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 04:43 AM
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Haven't seen Kendra G will check her out thank you. Courtney Ryan has that weird pick me vibe I was talking about, like a naive woman saying she wants a man to earn 500k a year LOL. But it makes for rage bait as you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 03:14 AM
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Can you share them with me? Every female youtube videos I have seen have been some trio of useless advice, weird pickme/grift energy or men bad. If it's good I will actually share it with my brother, off course me being the judge of whats good could be a poor heuristic but nonetheless im curious
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 03:05 AM
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I think you're absolutely correct
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 02:58 AM
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Yes i understand, but my point is that why men acclimate to the garbage ppl like Tate because it really does seem like there is no space for young men issues, like it honestly doesnt, and I've really tried to look. I have a younger brother and when he asked me about Andrew Tate I explained thoroughly why he isn't someone to aspire to be, but my younger brother is going to scroll social media and he's going to look for role models and communities and I couldn't find him a single recommendation fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 02:57 AM
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This is part of the problem, in your response your dismissing their issues as "circle jerk together about evil and mean women are for having free will". No this is only what these red pill grifters eventually groom their audience to, in reality alot of normal men are put off by that extreme rhetoric and require a hook and then subsequent indoctrination to end up justifying the belief you have. I have literally never met a man in my life espouse how they hate women that have free will. Just provi…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 02:40 AM
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if lets say all men stopped approaching, would women start approaching or be happy to be single. Feels like women are much happier single compared to men. I wish we could simulate this experiment somehow
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 02:32 AM
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go on the asexual subreddit and you will find multiple people who claim to love sex and have it regularly, and still identify as asexual. The answer to your question is that you can desire intimacy and companionship but not desire the physical act of sex. My personal opinion is that asexuality is misdiagnosed by most people who identify as it, and just want to feel special and taking advantage of the social climate nowadays
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 02:30 AM
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For any women reading that is ever questioning why andrew tate type figures are very popular amongst men, it's because they validate the feelings of men. That is all. If you want men to acclimate to the role models or ideologies you prefer, you have to make space for men's issues to feel heard and validated. I have never seen this outside of red pill types.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 02:24 AM
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Gay men seem like the happiest ppl on earth, honestly never seen an unhappy gay man
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 02:19 AM
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disagree, even my chad friends get approached rarely obviously 5x more than an average guy, but even the approached they do get are very unclear
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 02:19 AM
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Do you think women will start making the first move to the same degree that men do, in our lifetime?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 02:03 AM
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its all charisma and confidence. seriously as a man that is the most effective tool in courting women
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 02:01 AM
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I think even an average girl might beat chris hemsworth tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 01:39 AM
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You can't blame the women tho, if I was able to get sex from hot women who didn't want anything more from me I'd do it 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 06:15 PM
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Thanks for taking the time to respond to me, really appreciate it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 02:26 AM
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Like what other options if you dont mind me asking? I don't want to leave my country it's more so out of necessity.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 01:13 AM
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I dont care if I don't get citizenship, or even a permanent residency. As long as I can stay in the country legally for most of the year I am happy, but I don't know if I could do that year over year without a pr, as I am self employed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 12:58 AM
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Thanks for clearing that up, it does seem like a boring process. But something I'm probably going to do
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 12:57 AM
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Easy way of letting someone down and not as hurtful. I'm not saying that it's this way for your case, but some women will reject but offer to remain friends, hoping that man will reject the friendship or the woman can more easily remove commitments to meeting him. Some women also love the attention and want orbiters.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 12:28 AM
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Thanks for that, from what I understand you can still live in the the country of your spouse even before you marry? and then once you get married your provided the citizenship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 12:24 AM
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Alot of women are into older men, but most prefer around their own age.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 12:11 AM
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Anyone have any experience in the immigration process moving to North America? I'm thinking of marrying an American or Canadian women, i'll be moving from another western country so should be easier right?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 12:01 AM
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My ex had this, the way she described it was brutal. I hope you find relief
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 06:29 PM
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Same for a lesbian woman saying that sex with a man wouldn't satisfy her? Same for a gay man that having sex with a woman wouldn't satisfy him? Answer this and I'll take you seriously
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 07:57 PM
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I am telling you as a man, that having sex with a man wouldnt sexually satisfy me, am I in denial?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 07:53 PM
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its akin to eating but never getting satiated rather than eating being satiated and then feeling hunger again later
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 07:49 PM
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it doesn't fulfill it is my whole point. Does a gay man who is a bottom get sexually fulfilled when he fucks a woman. Does a lesbian get sexually fulfilled when getting fucked by a man? Stop ignoring all my questions
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 07:46 PM
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I was expecting way worse, she looks good imo
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 07:40 PM
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I have known lesbian women who have done the same, and felt sexually unfulfilled and worse off. I am sure those men you reference would feel the same also. The concept of men resorting to fuck a man to get off is not a foreign concept, I have heard it for years, but it is not akin to fulfilling a need that a heterosexual man longs for intimacy/sex from a woman. Stop gaslighting men into trying to fuck men, or if you do, gaslight sexually unfulfilled lesbians into fucking men also.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 07:36 PM
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Go ask men then when they say that are they refrencing fucking men also? or is that an unspoken understanding? Men need women, women need men too not as much as men need women but nonetheless they do. Just put your proposition to a gay subreddit, lesbian subreddit, a feminist subreddit a men's subreddit. just see for yourself with uncorrelated multi-perspective answers and see for yourself if your right. You seem confident that you've uncovered a loophole so test out your hypothesis and ask arou…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 07:29 PM
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I am absolutely shocked by one of the threads I am participating in. A couple women are saying that men should fuck other men, since sex is a need, and their argument for it, is that some men fuck women they aren't attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 07:18 PM
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no man whats wrong with are you purposefully being silly? The logic doesn't make sense at all. Straight men are exclusively attracted to the idea and act of fucking women not men, that is it. Pointing to some depraved men who fuck animals is a poor heuristic to make prescriptive claims about all men. It is true that men can bust a nut to a women they are not attracted to yes, and it may even sexually satisfy them. But the key difference is that they are fucking a woman not a man, you can't jump …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 07:16 PM
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to exit inceldom you require to have a woman sexually desire you, i know what it stands for, but the same way paying for a prostitute doesnt satisfy an incel, so does having sex with a man. There are some delusional men that ask for some insane demands from women, but most men just want to be sexually desired and intimate with an attractive woman that is fun to be around, the same as most women's demand for men. I can point to women who have insane demands too, 6ft+ making 500k per year, but tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 07:10 PM
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provide examples to back up ur case
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 06:53 PM
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Incels need to be sexually desired by women for them the exit inceldom. Use that formula if you want to understand the perspective of incels, and not make such clown propositions. Off course if you just want to vent and hate men then what your doing is very good however.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 06:52 PM
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Women have vaginas and men don't, heterosexual men are into vaginas not penises. Your construction of this argument is dogshit. You went from "men don't even need to be attracted to the woman to bust a nut" to "well then just fuck men"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 06:47 PM
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Please quote me when I said any of this, you are the one manifesting the comparison and the subsequent arguments you make.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 06:41 PM
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I referenced it because your definition of arousal and ostensibly sexual stimulation includes it. A heterosexual man may reach climax while fucking a dude, but they will not reach sexual satisfaction or the release that men seek. And again if you think sexuality is that simple, please tell gay men "hey why don't you just fuck a woman, problem solved". It's disrespectful to the LGBT community to state that sexuality can be turned on and off. Incels want to be sexually desired by women, that is it…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 06:39 PM
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There are no flaws in the theory you are the one incorrectly extrapolating it to unacademic definitions. I am not comparing gay sex to raping women, you are the one manifesting that, you are not in the business of helping men or women you are in the business of venting/hating on men, which is fine you can do that. But that is your role here
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 06:35 PM
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Do women feel sexually satisfied after being raped even if they reach arousal?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 06:31 PM
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Either live with it or lose it. Don't insult yourself by being too pussy to pursue women. You will get rejected, you will get hurt, you will get anxious and nervous. You will fuck up, you will trip over your words. But you have to do it, every man goes through it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 06:28 PM
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Do women reach arousal when getting raped?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 06:26 PM
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This has got to be a joke right? I don't think its unfair to make the comparisons that when maslow says food is a need, he also means rotted food filled with maggots, when he speaks of shelter he also means prisons where you have a roof over your head. You are not only showing a poor understanding of men and Maslow's model you are also insinuating that sexuality is a choice that can be turned on and off which is incredibly dismissive to LGBT people
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 06:22 PM
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you think they have no correlation at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 05:33 PM
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Curious to hear women's perspective on this. On the topic of men being pushy and not reading signals of disinterest. "I've had many women friends talk about how scary and stupid persistent guys can be when trying to date, so I sympathize with the fact that women are much smaller, and in one on one circumstances it can be very scary to have to reject a guy. But as a guy, a TON of my romantic or sexual relationships with women, that were successful and consensual consisted of me having to proactiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 05:30 PM
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I hope everything works out for you bro, you really have to have extreme resilience and mental fortitude. The book the obstacle is the way helped me alot. As for me I personally don't like pursuing women in general but I realise its a necessary evil, I have had long-term relationships and now have taken a break from any dating until i reach some personal milestones. Dating is great, but it is a significant time eater, time which I prefer to keep to myself atm.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 11:32 PM
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I am still successful with women, I just can't be bothered pursuing women, I have 2 fuckbuddies that I see here and there to kill my urges. I used to lurk incel sites in my teens and was a very late boomer, I know more than anyone how hard it can be for someone in your position, I promise you I do. There is no one single trick or tweak but a culmination of things that you should work on to overcome the negative bias of being Indian in the west. If you wanna chat, dm me bro im happy to help as mu…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 11:11 PM
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Off course yes i can find indan women but they are very rare like 1% of the population, is there anything I can do to broaden myself from such a small niche so Im not so limited?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 12:52 AM
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I live in the west 80% of women are white,
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 12:03 AM
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i live in the west
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 11:31 PM
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I feel you dude i'm 5'9 indian I literally just made a post in this very thread asking the same thing. I was in your position a few years back, and i ended up dating some women and it was mainly just me shooting my shot and getting through rejections
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 11:25 PM
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I don't know how i can be objective tbh i would say i see myself as like a 5 but idk it could just be my low self esteem in my looks. I can send you my pic in private if you want
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 11:21 PM
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then who with? apart from obvious answer of other indians
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 11:14 PM
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its over for me
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 11:13 PM
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ive been told im goodlooking
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 11:13 PM
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How is this incel
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 11:13 PM
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Yes thats obviously true, but how do you know I am into casual sex? and thereby would prefer someone also into casual sex. The person I dated hadnt had sex in 2 years before our date and me around 2 months
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 04:40 PM
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how can you make that inference?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 04:18 PM
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this must be a satire response to replicate apathetic victim blaming men or you are extremely misandrist
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 02:33 PM
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no its not as simple as that I dont want to be raped the idea of not being in control is a massive turn off. Someone doing something to my body while im asleep or not present is a turn off. But a woman wanting me so much that she wants to eagerly have sex with me (only piv) or blowjob is massive turn on.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 02:30 PM
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There is no set rules, my longest relationship we had sex on the first date
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 02:19 PM
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I would bet most men and women don't see male rape anywhere near as bad as female rape, that isn't misandrist that is just recognising that the two are different
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 01:59 PM
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Male rape will never be seen as bad as female rape, men and women both contribute to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 01:57 PM
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Not really the feeling of not being in control is a turn off to me. But a woman wanting me so bad that she would "rape" me is a massive turn on, and makes me feel very desired. Maybe that's weird or a bad sentiment to have, but nonetheless thats how I feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 01:37 PM
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Never happened in my life, every women i've been with I have put effort into finding and courting. I agree with you organically meeting is better, but it just never happens for me
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 01:29 PM
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Im the same as you, I have aboslutely no idea if I am attractive holistically or not, or what my rating/league is. Completely lost
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 01:26 PM
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I understand why women hold out to have sex, but as a man with high libido who places importance on sexual compatibility, I would just think the woman and I wouldn't be sexually compatible and lose interest if she held out till the 9th meeting.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 01:21 PM
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Whenever I hear or read a story of a man getting raped by a woman (no pegging), I don't feel empathetic or sympathetic, i feel jealous. Would that change depending on the attractiveness level of the woman? Yes But im pretty sure others feel this way too
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 01:19 PM
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interesting perspective while I don't fully agree to the pertinence of the premise I appreciate it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:06 PM
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Definitely true
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:14 AM
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Who do you think is more empathetic? Men to women's issues? Women to men's issues? List your reasons why
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:07 AM
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yeh just left a bad taste in my mouth I guess haha,
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 07:30 PM
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that's definitely true and what makes me feel bad about my reaction
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 07:29 PM
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fair enough, it was just us 3 tho, I felt like I was a burden to her and unwanted by her in the night however. But that is true she doesn't need to placate to me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 07:26 PM
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only been in the country for around 5 years, and the customs in her country are different, she also said that sometimes she struggled to understand me. However he body language was also quite rude IMO, but this may be where I am overreacting
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 07:24 PM
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I didn't argue with her, I was very nice and inviting to her. I told my friend the next day that her actions came off as rude just to let them both know that is how she comes off, but I am having doubts now that maybe I jumped the gun a little
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 07:22 PM
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Am i overreacting here? Friend's gf generally ignored me and avoided being seated or seen around me the entire night while we went out to eat. I asked her plenty of questions and included her in the convos to be cognisant that she was not left out. She didn't ask me a single question, and didn't even say my name once, didn't speak to me at all unless I spoke to her first. I asked my friend if she disliked me and its all good if she did, but he said that she didn't and enjoyed the night out, I th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 07:01 PM
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I thought it was a good bio lol I didnt know it conveyed self depreciating humour
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 09:13 AM
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fuck that bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 09:10 AM
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Bros I need help for my online dating profiles This is my bio currently - I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason, so be the reason I delete this app :) I think my pics aren't the best either, but I wanna remain private if someone can critique them without sharing them publicly in dm, i'll send them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 09:05 AM
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I was like 17 bro everyone has a phase where they do shit for women if you haven't your lying. Plus now i can speak some french
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 05:18 PM
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B1/B2 If i kept going with it I would have become fluent, but the motivation was always to impress women, once that was gone so was my motivation for learning
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 12:57 PM
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Thanks to the anonymity of Reddit it's embarrassing confession time ppl. When I was younger I learned french just so I would have a better case, for when I would lie about my race to girls :(
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 11:53 AM
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Neither of us are in college, i am in my 20's she was 30
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 11:24 AM
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I'm not sure, the only mistake I think I made was not being more touchy with her and I showed a little negativity into a kink she was into, but then I backtracked it a little bit also. But if it was my vibe or something I said, she shouldn't have agreed to a second date. But maybe she feels bad ghosting and in her mind this is a better way, maybe she changed her mind, maybe some texts b/w us before the date turned her off. I really don't know
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 11:20 AM
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I thought it was ok, she texted me after the date and was responsive when we were making 2nd date plans. I can't be objective though, maybe she disliked me but I just couldn't pick up on cues, it's really hard to say, on my end I vibed with her, but I also vibe with 95% of people I meet.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 11:09 AM
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The reality is if you went on a date with a person you really liked you would want to see them again, and you wouldn't forget, you can't convince me otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 11:07 AM
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No man the date has nothing to do with it, It's summer where we are and neither of us have kids. I met her online, but it doesnt matter because this was our second date. The reality is that if she wanted me, she would have had me in her mind and not have "forgotten" our date, maybe she didnt forget maybe this is her way of showing disinterest. Either way its over for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 10:48 AM
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Was just a meetup for ice cream, the date is meaningless its the fact that I wasn't important enough for her to remember
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 10:39 AM
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2nd date with a girl got cancelled because she "forgot haha" when i reconfirmed, its over for me. I hate dating
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 10:27 AM
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Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 06:16 PM
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Maybe im not against seeking out for help. Also thank you for taking the time to read and respond to me, I really appreciate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 04:11 PM
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No its harmless for her, its of course taking a toll on me
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 04:04 PM
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There is objectively more benefits in having a mask when dating if we're holding dating success as the objective. But I dont like having one and it makes me feel sad that I have to do it. I don't want to do it long term, and its probably unfeasible to do, but I'm struggling to change something i've done my whole life.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 04:01 PM
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No, i tell them because it increases my chances of her liking me and thinking we're a match. Low cost/effort on my part for a potentially large reward up until now. But I am definitely feeling the effects of it now. Im not stupid, if a woman has studied nursing, Im not going to pretend to be an expert in nursing or have experience with it, I'll just say my friend who doesn't exist date a nurse who also doesnt exist, that x happened is that true? Something like this "ok let me plead ignorance her…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 03:58 PM
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I believe there is some definite truth that is pertinent to me in your comment. I've just never had success being myself (what I categorise as myself is going about my day to day life not pursuing women, and thereby putting on an act). I would still be a virgin if I waited to meet a woman naturally. Realistically when I'm pretending it is still "me" but only maybe 60-70% of my true self. I think my natural self could get a woman but at a considerably lower success rate. I can't recall ever heari…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 03:49 PM
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I've never tried therapy so my response has that caveat. But i always feel like therapy would be just trying to trick my brain poorly, i think i'd be too cognisant of what was happening for it to be effective.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 03:36 PM
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A little vent, but it makes it considerably harder to date but not impossible. I wonder to the people who didn't have the misfortune of starting out as disadvantaged as us, how useful their advice would really be.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 03:33 PM
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I believe that some women can get horny to the same level as a man. I believe what a woman would classify as extremely horny is average horny for a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 03:32 PM
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Because people are irrational especially women in a dating context due to the excess of options they possess, they can afford to be picky and optimise for their ideal man in their head. Men are irrational too in similar circumstances im not trying to pick on women. If i had 100 women in front of me and I could only pick one, I would start becoming irrational too. I am the best example of this, I have gotten with so many women that if you looked on paper you would never guess us to be a match, wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 03:12 PM
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Maybe, it's an interesting perspective I can't tell you if your right or wrong about me, but I will research more about this, thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 03:02 PM
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I am attractive, there are some things that hold me back but I am above average. I do feel like I am sometimes compensating because I am non white in a white country, im not trying to claim racism or anything but I really feel the negative effects of my different skin colour when it comes to dating, no where else tho really.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 03:01 PM
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I feel slightly bad but more so angry and annoyed at myself for not being true to myself. Most of the lies I do are white lies, I don't lie about serious stuff that would be serious relationship deterrents eg. children, employment and politics etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 02:58 PM
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I couldn't tell you really, heres an example I say X you show displeasure for X I backpedal and rationalise or even admit that there perspective has changed my opinion (almost never has) I talk in their interests, I make up fake experiences affirming their experiences. I know what i'm doing is bad but it just happens unconsciously. "I had a boyfriend that did x", then I would say "Yeh that's interesting you said that, I used to have a mate "john" that I distanced myself from because of X, and I …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 02:44 PM
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No im not on a spectrum, I have been described as very confident and charismatic. I am myself with my male friends and family, but with women, I want to sleep with I start "masking"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 02:40 PM
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Ive done it my whole life since I started speaking to women, it probably is more effort than being myself. But im so used to it, that I only realise in retrospect that im being a people pleaser it just happens naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 02:37 PM
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I have never once been my true self with a girl, always felt like im doing a presentation or putting on a curated character so she will like me. My longest relationship is one year, and i feel like even with her I was just pretending. I know i have to be myself, and stop pretending to like what they like, but I can't im too much of a yes man. Any help guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 02:23 PM
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If im not depressed can i still take them, or is it a toss up if i get negative side effects
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 07:13 AM
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Have heard of women getting birth control and it decreasing their sex drive, is there an equivalent for men of this? I'm taking finasteride but my libido is still high
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 07:10 AM
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There are things in life more important than sex, certainly for me at this point in time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:56 PM
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No i dont want that its too time consuming
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:37 PM
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I am scared of the long term effects of this tho, but ill research further IIRC when i last looked into it, the risk/reward on catching a potential negative side effect was bad for me but i'll look into it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:04 PM
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prozac is it safe to use if not prescribed and not for depression? Have heard of long term side effects that stay after stopping medication
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:51 PM
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Appreciate the response, getting fat is out of the question, anti depressants I am a little hesitant but i'll look into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:50 PM
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This is a serious question and perhaps the wrong sub to ask to but whatever. Is there a way to temporarily kill sexual drive? My libido is too high and it interferes in my productivity, I also hate wasting so much time chasing women and seducing them literally despise it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:46 PM
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I really feel like, outside of rich and famous people, attractive white women are the most privileged class and have the best starting point for “success” in the west
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 10:37 AM
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I’ve seen recent tinder expirements with way most catfish profiles that drown in matches
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 11:22 AM
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Why isn’t he getting matches? https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/zvxcth/im_absolutely_bombing_do_i_need_an_ego_check_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 10:50 AM
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I’m trying to make peace with the fact that to get a girl I will probably have to face 10-15 rejections first with varying amounts of pain and embarrassment is there any resources or material I can use to Increase my indifference to being humbled via rejection or my view towards it Decrease the amount of rejections I face before I succeed Thanks in advance guys
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 06:53 AM
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Thanks for sharing glad you found it to be useful, seems like there is benefit i could get from it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 07:00 PM
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Thanks for your insight man
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 06:46 PM
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How did it change ur life if you don't mind me asking?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 06:42 PM
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Thanks for sharing man, maybe i am wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 06:39 PM
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How do i know if i need to look for a new one? if my problem still persists after a specific time?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 06:38 PM
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I can definitely see it being useful if you need someone to honestly talk to that will listen, most people including me don't have that
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 06:23 PM
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Whats the difference b/w a good one and a bad one? The only things that fill me with peace are the insignificance and briefness of our existence
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 06:18 PM
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On the surface, i could be desribed as a HVM or a LVM depending on what traits of mine you want to key in on. IMO i would never call myself one, stay humble stay happy could never imagine myself thinking im better than others due to some ostensible arbitrary indicators.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 06:16 PM
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Has anyone been to therapy here what is it like? Feel like it will infantilisation sessions of "you're so brave", feel like I'm too aware of what is happening to derive any utility from it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 06:09 PM
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Thats my point, because onlyfans girls are not employees of Onlyfans they can't be held accountable through onlyfans outside of payment issues. Hookers have restrictions placed on them bro, bad example.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 05:58 PM
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Maybe, I don't think it's a fair comparison. Does playboy provide personalized service? Also playboy is a corporation that can be sued and must abide by regulations pertinent to them, no accountability for singular only fans girls and their actions. Smoking and alcohol was also free of restrictions for many years doesn't mean that it shouldn't be now.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 05:52 PM
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games the game brother it is what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 05:47 PM
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Tbh i used to agree with you until I seriously thought of the types of men purchasing onlyfans. If there is a product being sold where a majority of the consumers are using it in an unhealthy manner, or the product itself appeals to disproportionately vulnerable consumers, there are restrictions placed on it, this standard is upheld in almost every product/service that i can think of off the top of my head that has this phenomenon. I would argue that Onlyfans is in this camp too. Thus there's IM…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 05:47 PM
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She was Maltese, also while it is a nice sentiment to think western women's actions disagree with you
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 05:35 PM
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After she said that she asked me what I was and I told her Morrocan I think she bought it because i can speak ok french and spoke it, and because im pretty good looking for an Indian.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 05:17 PM
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Brief Story time Acquaintance invited me to chill with her friend, we ended up fucking. After when we were chilling she casually mentions that Indians disgust her and she would never fuck an Indian. Didn't have the heart to tell her.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 05:14 PM
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lmao takes me back to frantically searching on google about astrology on my phone while she was preparing drinks
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 05:04 PM
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no ones saying you dont but the margin or error is larger and the opportunities are greater. Picture it like this, you're stepping up for a free kick, the short person has a standard sized goal to score in (lets say 10m) whereas a tall person has a larger goal to score in (lets say 15m)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 04:59 PM
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probs a mix of younger generation being taller, taller guys having more success and confirmation bias
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 04:33 PM
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How can the shortest guy you met be 6ft if the average is 6ft, there has to be people more and less than 6ft for it to be average. Also ngl Netherlands seems like hell for short people, im sure height means a lot less there where everyone is tall than in a country where the average is much lower. My point being I think drawing a conclusion that height isn't important from a country where the avg man is tall is wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 04:25 PM
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Maybe, but male friendships are hard to cultivate nowadays let alone female ones. I have 0 female friends and dont even know about how to get genuine women friendships. It all just feels so tiresome, feel like ranting on reddit is more more +EV at this point then anything in that realm.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 10:34 AM
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I think if anything its the opposite
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 10:27 AM
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hate having to take risk for an ostensible reward, hate how that the effort is so mismatched and the onus is on me to do everything right and "right" changes from girl to girl and is unknowable to me and if i slip up even once its over. Just makes me very cynical and im not good at either
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 10:25 AM
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I think i need a radical change in my brain chemistry or something. As it pertains to dating, I hate being single and alone, but I strongly despise seducing women even more. How can I change? How can i trick myself into being an opportunist and just start shooting my shot indiscriminately I need help bros.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 09:33 AM
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ok sure why not the more the merrier I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 02:20 PM
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ok i have messaged u
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:53 PM
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i got a surprise cant say it was a good one haha
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:48 PM
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5 is still 5x more than me congrats on being 5x more handsome than me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:38 PM
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I'm not in that camp but i could see it for models
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:29 PM
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its over for me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:24 PM
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pain
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:23 PM
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Guys, if I've never been approached by a woman, am I delusional to think of myself as above-average looking? edit. - i dont wanna dox myself and wanna stay private, is there anyone that i could send my pics to that would not leak or save them? To verify if im average looking or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:22 PM
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