leitmotive Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	I hate him, but am I wrong for wanting some of the kind of attention that Clavicular is getting? There's nothing wrong with wanting to be desired, but there is something wrong seeing Clavicular dancing with two club girls and feeling bad about yourself for it. Look, he's famous and that makes him hot to certain women and he's got the potential to help them meet other famous guys and that also makes him hot. It's that simple. This shit is also on camera, and all of these people are trying to grow their social media presences. It doesn't mean that they'd give him the time of day if they didn'…	/r/seduction	15/03/26 12:13 AM
4	She gave me fake number, but followed me on ig You really wanna waste your time on this champ? Nothing better to do? No other, more interesting women?	/r/seduction	15/02/26 06:59 PM
1	What are guys supposed to do if girls are simply not interested in them? There's a video on the internet from some time ago of a guy offering people on the street a bar of chocolate or a silver bar. The clip is edited to only show the people who chose the chocolate bar, but he didn't have trouble finding them: Lots of people chose the chocolate bar because it was familiar and comfortable, not because it was the best or smartest choice. It didn't even matter to these people that this was being done outside of a jewelry store where they could've taken the silver bar, g…	/r/seduction	13/02/26 11:41 PM
1	Pulled last night but keep thinking about the rejections This is a psychological and biological issue. Being able to obsess over the positives the way most of us obsess over the negatives is a super-power that most people aren't born with and have to teach themselves. Understand that your brain is designed by evolution to keep you safe from physical and social danger and for most of human existence we have lived in small communities. You obsess over rejections because it represents social exclusion in your mind. If all these women don't like me, I mus…	/r/seduction	01/02/26 07:19 PM
3	is it just me or is malevolence way more rewarding for a guy My therapist and I were talking recently about how intelligence and self-awareness are a blessing and a curse when it comes to dating because it really narrows the number of potential matches. I asked her, "How can I be more appealing to more women?" She jokingly said, "Well, you could start being an asshole." The truth is that while many of us were raised to think of women as sweetness and light and told they were more emotionally intelligent and aware than men, the opposite is true. Lots of wo…	/r/seduction	31/01/26 03:16 PM
4	Do women instictively know when you have options? People definitely give off vibes but also most women's attraction to men is predicated on the fantasy they have constructed of that man in their mind. They start building it from the second they lay eyes on you. From one look or photo they will imagine an entire life for you and start fantasizing about ways they would fit into it if they like you; if they don't like what they see, they'll do the opposite and start imagining how you probably can't offer them a life they're interested in. So, it d…	/r/seduction	19/01/26 01:36 AM
2	Help guys to stop thinking of girls! Your obsession is coming from having ignorant fantasies. Get a persistent woman you're not interested in and you will realize you don't just want validation from women, because you sure won't want it from her. Get a gf who treats you poorly and you will no longer pine for a relationship, you will pine for a relationship where you are treated well. Get a relationship where you are treated well but you're bored and you'll pine for a relationship where you're treated well and interested. Life is li…	/r/seduction	01/01/26 10:03 PM
6	How do you actually attract the calm, grounded guys instead of the high-energy party types? You don't attract these men, you approach them. Start by looking for them.	/r/seduction	03/12/25 03:10 AM
55	Anyone else lose complete interest in girls who play hard to get? Women who do this stuff are telling you from the outset that they're going to be be a burden on you. Hard pass. It's either a hell yes or a hell no, you're interested or you're not. I've got too many other things I'd rather do in life than play emotional games with women who can't communicate or just want attention.	/r/seduction	13/10/25 10:04 PM
4	Men, how do you want to get seduced by a woman? Green lights I look for: Shows genuine interest in me as a person -- hobbies, plans, values, etc. Breaks touch barrier, or reciprocates when it is broken. Men are touched so infrequently by women outside of hugs that repeated touch is a big, flashing green light. If a woman is repeatedly touching my arms or back or hands she is sending a very clear signal Initiates or is receptive to the idea of seeing more of each other There's nuance of course but generally two out of three is not enough. It c…	/r/seduction	14/09/25 05:56 AM
5	Thought I had a date locked in- girl flaked without a word after showing major interest This is a great example of how and why it is almost always about her and not about you — whether she's flaking on a date, cheating on you, changed her mind about the relationship, whatever. You can do everything "right" and still "lose." She could've been looking for an out by asking you if the date was too soon, but even then — that's her not being able to communicate directly and expecting you to read her mind. This is not "just how modern dating is now," this is all communication with everyon…	/r/seduction	08/06/25 09:35 PM
5	What techniques one can use to help a girl be more interested in the conversation at the beginning of it? Figure out what their expectations of you are and then subvert them. This goes for all people and nonromantic situations too. They are ignoring you because they have an idea of you in their head that labels you as someone not worth being interested in or paying attention to. If you show them that their idea of you is wrong, they will be more interested in you -- and you will actually get a boost from this. Think about underdogs in sports -- when they subvert expectations, does the crowd cheer fo…	/r/seduction	29/08/24 09:51 PM
37	What are some ways to have high status and be attractive within a school/work environment without having to be the high energy jester type of guy? Be competent and confident in your competence without being an asshole about it. Own your mistakes when they happen and be real about learning from them. Don't catastrophize when things go wrong, don't beat yourself up. Be supportive and look out for others in a brotherly way but hold them accountable and offer help or guidance if they falter for the wrong reasons. Acknowledge others' accomplishments and make sure they feel appreciated for their effort. Lead and contribute no matter your positio…	/r/seduction	01/08/24 12:12 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Does this not also potentially apply to convincing him to shave it? Either way the message is the same	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/23 06:34 PM
1	How can I have an abundance mindset if no girl wants me? Any time spent on yourself or developing yourself is going to be better spent than time spent on a woman who doesn't desire or appreciate you. If you value your time, you will recognize there is an abundance of ways to spend it enjoyably and productively that are not on some girl.	/r/seduction	29/10/22 08:22 AM