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MOOD FOR LIFElemur00/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 03:50 PM
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IKR, It is so much less work when you do it immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 12:11 PM
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When you're a kid you don't get a choice, but I knew that was definitely NOT a fair arrangement even then 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 12:09 PM
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Omg my mother loved to cook but would use EVERYTHING, pile the dishes up to the cabinets, leave spills and even all the prep food out and then expect you to clean it all because "well I did the cooking so you should do the dishes, that's only fair". And to her, "the dishes" included a full kitchen clean up including mopping the floor. This is why I have never agreed to such an arrangement in my entire adult life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 04:38 AM
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Funny because it's true 😂😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 01:50 PM
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Welcome to Gen x territory 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 11:24 AM
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She makes what should be a common sense argument. But also femininity IS fetishization. That's the point of it. You can't reverse what something fundamentally is by nature. Real independance comes from refusing to be commodified. Women who won't play their part are scary so we are just given new motivations to play the same role and we can pretend it's different somehow. As to the terminology, I was recently called a prude for pointing out that sexualized images of women encourage people to see …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 04:23 PM
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It really shouldn't be surprising though as internet pornography usage corollates with narcissitic traits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 11:27 AM
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Its worse, it was her EX boyfriend that was the wanted criminal. She totally did leave him and still got killed over it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 10:42 AM
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Yep and they stare at you dumbstruck when you let them know that women dress primarily to Impress and send specific social messages to other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 06:49 AM
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These types of men are delusional and think you wear what you do solely for their benefit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:56 PM
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The joke is he is a man. The subversion where the joke lies is that you suspend disbelief to accept the premise that the character he is playing is a woman, then it turns out he's exactly what he appears to be, ie a man playing a woman for his own benefit. Like haha it was so obvious how did you not see--he negged like a man, showed no concern for the real dangers casual sex poses for women (pregnancy, stis) like a man, and clearly is a man. As the old saying goes if it talks like a duck and wal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 09:21 PM
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I'm about the same size but I'm 5'7". I have the ideal waifish look of the 80s and 90s with very long hips. Bodies are all different.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 05:41 PM
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I was scrolling for this answer. "Passionate" means you'll be cool with living in their van with them and also suck their dick while they drive. You'll be "adventurous" about some wierd shit they saw on porn and also not care about all that usual woman stuff like expressing emotions or having basic amenities. You'll simply be a great supporting character. Because unlike a "dramatic" woman, the passionate woman never makes anything about herself, but understands she exists to add colour and inter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 06:27 AM
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Yes this is someone making fun of the fact that women are allowed to have standards now (you can tell because there is a height requirement, something men are obsessed about). Because "must remain silent" is on par with "must wash his butt regularly" to people like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 05:19 PM
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I don't know how it works for certain but wouldn't this asshole have to have an Onlyfans account of his own in order to follow her Onlyfans account? If so he clearly doesn't care much of the company's reputation when he is the one with the Onlyfans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 06:59 AM
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I used to say "I like to be free". I wasn't being flippant when I said it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 02:04 AM
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I agree, never fall for faux commitments. They exist specifically to avoid the real thing and no other reason. They aren't steps on the way of increasing commitment or intimacy, they're a fake out designed to keep you in someone's sphere of influence without commitment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 01:45 AM
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This is huge I think. People do a lot of things that just make no sense when they are traumatized, but it actually has its own internal logic. In trauma you experience an unstoppable flow of suffering that drowns both your sense of security and your sense of agency. It changes the way you see the world and yourself. The existential pain of feeling that powerless is often simply too much to bear and people will do anything to run from it and convince themselves that they didn't just lose their in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 09:18 AM
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It's because they inherently understand that what they are doing is perverted and are trying to hide their shame and at he same time project it on to the object of desire. Nothing new there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 04:09 PM
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For me it would be based on ot pay. There's always ot for us (nurses) and I could have picked it up instead of wasting time with him. So he can eat the 30 dollar loss or remunerate me for the 12 hours at 100 dollars an hour plus premiums that I turned down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 09:50 PM
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Yes absolutely. He is abrogating his personal responsibility by pushing it on to her. She is "making him" be angry and threating. How could poor poor him not be ensnared by her feminine wiles? It isn't that he doesn't know either, but that he sees the interaction only the way he wants it to be. It's wilful ignorance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 04:26 PM
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"acting cute" means to be smug and cunning. It's a similar idiom to "playing games". He is accusing you of being manipulative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 01:20 PM
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Also if being drunk makes you do things you regret, then sober you should stop drinking to keep drunk you from doing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 08:06 AM
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I have seen a number of ex wives care for dying men and settle their affairs for them. It's very kind but I don't understand why they put themselves through it for someone they ended things with. I have never seen an ex husband do it. And why would they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 03:15 PM
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Right, Ike Turner is one of the most famous abusers of all time. Like you say "wifebeater" and someone will ask "like the shirt or like Ike Turner".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 09:13 AM
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And fun that this was posted right before guy fawkes day where we all get to burn him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 10:45 AM
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I think it's more that they don't want to respect women they wish to objectify, because those things are mutually exclusive. Same thing when men get angry at friends hounding their sisters. HEY my sister is a person not a hoe (ie a sexual object that doesn't need to be considered). It wasn't that you weren't attractive either, it's that when someone sees your humanity it's just really hard to objectify and use you. Suddenly they feel the grossness of daring to say those things to another human b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 06:46 AM
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“Bitter” is a name bad men call women who can see them clearly. " And also vicious and angry. Truer words never spoken. Wear it like a badge of honour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 01:50 AM
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I'm 5 7 and 125. I'm usually a 4. However when I sewed a lot I was indeed a 12 in sewing patterns, as they use the old methods of sizing. I wonder if he's looking at his mom's old sewing patterns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:34 PM
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Every time a woman wins the nobel prize, some asshole is in the article comments complaining that she didn't send a glamour shot for her photo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 03:40 PM
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They're the astrological symbols for mars and venus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 04:17 AM
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Yeah it sounds like he wants her to move out and not have her be his problem anymore. I think op would be wise to start planning to do that on her own terms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 10:43 AM
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Differences in religion is just a deal breaker. You're very unlikely to make it work with someone if you have opposing morals and values. Someone not wanting to be monogamous is a deal breaker for the same reason. Like there's nothing to say to that person except goodbye. I believe in working on a relationship but don't get with someone you're fundamentally incompatible with and expect it to work. The early stages of a relationship are about figuring this out and not wasting each others' time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 08:41 PM
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This is so insidious that women now apologize because they want emotional intimacy before physical intimacy and protest they are sex positive, not slut shamers et c whenever they assert a boundary. As if you are a traitor to womenkind for doing what you want with your own life and not giving men what they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 04:03 PM
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I knew someone would catch that 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 02:41 AM
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I love how they're all so upset a prostitute didn't fawn all over them or seem to give a shit about their fee fees. Like surprise, someone you're paying to have sex with isn't interested in you as a person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 11:00 PM
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Back in the 70s, my dad had to tell his MIL (my grandma) that he was capable of getting his own coffee when she was trying to hover around and serve him. He said it nicely and all but it annoyed him to be infantalized. Then there are humans like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 02:41 AM
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Wait he wasn't working AND he wasn't looking after the kids??? ?!?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 07:45 AM
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Yes I felt this juxtaposition was particularly inspired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 08:16 AM
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I too think the out of line comments are an integral part of building that safe space. Women spend their whole lives never being allowed to voice their real opinions and beliefs, whatever they are. We always have to push them down and pretend they don't exist, and if we start speaking negatively, unfairly or angrily we are so swiftly punished. Sure some of the comments here can be problematic, but the fact that they are here proves this is a place where women can be free to say what they want wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:03 AM
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Girls are like unicorns in my family, so everyone who got one felt very blessed. My dad lamented many times he never had a sister to look out for and protect. Also being babysat by my brother meant regular beatings, being thrown in a dryer and having the cat thrown in my face. Girls don't need to be slaving away to be more caring than this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:32 AM
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Tiny dancer 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:45 PM
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These same people will also say women need to communicate more because they're not mind readers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 06:45 AM
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This is exactly how I would take it as well. Asking me to go for a walk is something my mom does for company while getting some exercise. Who would ever think this was a date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:53 AM
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And given as a reward for obedience. Once the training is internalized, the "freedom" is of course utilized to continue obeying, but because you "want to".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:07 AM
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It's a technique where you react in exactly the way a grey rock would to a manipulators baiting. Which is to say, you don't. It's like you are an inanimate object which their insults and jibes just bounce off of. It is extremely effective once they realize they can't get a rise out of you, but usually it first makes the manipulator very angry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 09:53 PM
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That's exactly the reason every tall (like 5'10" and over) woman I've ever talked to about it gives on why they won't date short men: "I want to be able to wear high heels". Essentially it's about refusing to limit and monitor yourself to protect someone's insecurity. I mean today it's heels and tomorrow it's that you laugh too loud, or you have different political or religious beliefs, or have a job that makes more money than his, et c et c.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 05:26 PM
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I would say the last one was a AND b
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 02:11 PM
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Post-menopausal women are generally the most competent leaders, all other things being equal. While it's true that men also overestimate their abilities at the younger ages, I think the gap is mostly due to young women being culturally handicapped so men can succeed. As I've noted on other discussions, girls develop faster than boys and have such a huge natural advantage until adulthood that the only reason we aren't dominating almost everything at that age is because society pushes us down so m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 11:18 AM
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I love the glamour of 30s high fashion, especially that designed by women. If Vionnet isn't the epitome of the female gaze i don't know what is. As she said "when a woman smiles, her dress should smile with her".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 08:37 PM
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This is also why, when presented with actionable solutions to protect themselves from "false allegations" such as not having sex with people you don't know well, learning to read non-verbal cues, not mixing sex and alcohol et c, such men become angry and insist they shouldn't have to change their lives. In this they admit they aren't really looking for help, and aren't that scared or confused. They don't want actual help or solutions, they just want to continue as they always have without women …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:56 AM
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These are the responses I came here for 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 02:35 AM
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Yes exactly. They don't "take hints" from people who are not on their radar to begin with. Research has shown men are perfectly capable of reading non verbal cues when something they value is on the line, like their job. It's only in situations where they have no reason (be it hope of reward or fear of punishment) to bother making the effort where suddenly this ability just "disappears" .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 02:32 AM
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Well it's not that it would be delivered any differently for the sexes, and of course anyone can succumb to any of the cognitive distortions. But socialization does sometimes push men and women toward certain ways of thinking. The male incel "type" and the female codependant "type" exhibit the distortions I mentioned. The male constant-victim who blames others for his failures, sees rejection as a challenge to change the woman's mind and then angrily 180s into hating her and all women is making …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 12:28 AM
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Yeah that's a very good point that would have to be considered. I think his thinking was influenced by the fact that he himself was held back in early elementary school which allowed him to really do much better. But from his perspective it was just unfair to everyone to have to teach kids with such disparate abilities. Girls couldn't be challenged without slowing down for boys (this is one of the reasons girls do better in all girl classes, they can be challenged at their own level). That said,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 12:03 AM
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Personally I have long thought cbt should be a mandatory course in high school. Eta my dad, a teacher, also argued boys should not start school until 7 (instead of 5 like girls) because they're just not on par with us developmentally and don't catch up until adulthood. Imagine if they were getting out of school and going to university 2 years later than they currently are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 05:48 PM
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This is key. This type of man see women as something akin to pets that need training. They are fine with us as long as we serve their purposes and are obedient, and as the master do not have to concern themselves with our desires. They can't understand we would ever want anything other than to serve and obey them because those other things are what fully formed humans do, which we are not. Even men who treat their wives decently will reveal that they think this way when she dares to disagree wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:12 PM
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Yes. Having your data used is like ladies night at the bar. If you're getting in for free it's because you are the product. But at least you leave the bar and are still you. The same can't be said for the levels of behavioural conditioning happening through data usage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 07:04 AM
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I tend to think "simp" comes from "simpering", which refers to a person who affects a very fakely obsequious tone and look to try to ingratiate themselves with someone they know is superior. The Uriah Heep types. As the fake and sycophantic niceness is a key element, any nice thing can be done in a simpering manner if you're simply trying to manipulate or flatter someone to gain favour. Men being overly nice to get sex come to mind. Of course doing nice things for women because you love them and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 02:41 PM
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There is actually quite a lot of research to back this up. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5756135/ This is one study but it refers to some of the others as well. Men often overestimate women's sexual interest and will refuse to label assaults as such (even when committed by other men) if they find the woman attractive. And contrary to popular belief, in some of them nothing the woman did made much of a difference if she was attractive enough. What's especially interesting about it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 07:08 AM
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I have a friend that drives mustangs. She can tell numerous stories about men talking down to her over it. A woman in a muscle car in particular seems to really trigger a certain type of man, the ones that think women don't "appreciate" what they really mean or deserve the things they represent because of it. They know that a women exulting over a car is really a woman exulting over everything a car symbolizes in the American psyche: freedom, independence, power and the ability to make your own …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:40 AM
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I wanted to see this posted here just to read the inevitable evisceration 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:03 PM
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And in both of these situations the victim would be blamed for their "stupidity" in not taking these precautions if they were in fact victimized. They are seen as reasonable and even expected by almost anyone. Like how narcissistic do you have to be to get upset about something so obviously not about you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 09:09 PM
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I know someone who had this happen with a husband who was from Europe. She thought he'd be "safe" coming from a western country. She found out otherwise when he dumped her within months of gaining citizenship and then tried to take her to the cleaners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 07:15 PM
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I'd argue those types want "equal rights" only because that means a society driven by male normativity where women must struggle to act like men and in the process give men everything they want to show they are worthy of the male seal of approval.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 01:38 PM
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Maybe not life, but likely time. In Canada you would be convicted of assault just by using dog spray because having the spray in the first place means you intended to use it as a weapon, which then can not be self defence. You can only use a defense argument for items you would have had for other purposes. So baseball bats only if you're on your way to the diamond, screwdrivers if you're a carpenter, et c. You essentially have to prove you weren't carrying the item as a weapon or you will be con…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 02:49 PM
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I've seen such lists, all celebrities until they hit like 2 or 3. But female celebrities are all well above average. Like you rarely get famous as a woman without being attractive, and they have all the money and access to top line beauty treatments to look amazing. But these guys actually have the gall to claim that these above average women are 5s and 4s, because they're a minute fraction less attractive than the ones they deem 8 or 9. Such rating systems are most useful for showing how unreal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:58 PM
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Hah I noticed sex was conspicuously absent in the description. That was the real power move 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 12:31 AM
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Ain't Nothing Going on But the Rent. You gotta have a J O B if you wanna be with me 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 11:52 PM
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I think the reason for this trope is that many men assume women's comedy will all be at the expense of men and how could making fun of me be remotely funny? This both taps in to their deep fear that women will mock them, and is a manifestation of their assumption that everything women do revolves around them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 07:10 AM
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I dunno, there's definitely a real critique there too though. Koreans in particular don't seem to like men that look like men. I knew a Korean guy who was stylish but looked quite masculine compared to most stylish Koreans I've known (which I found more attractive). But he'd send me pics with the filters that gave him the typical androgynous look, like he was embarrassed that he looked like a man and not a boy. One of the few people I ever met who was more attractive irl than with filters 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 08:48 PM
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I think the "men are more visual" myth comes down to the fact that women are socialized to give men they don't find attractive a chance because of personality, stability, et c. Looks are also not the sole factor in mate selection for women. This myth is why men don't put effort in. They think they shouldn't need to because "women aren't as visual". That's also one reason gay men often do look good--they're trying to get the attention of men, who we've all been conditioned to accept are "visual".…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 07:32 PM
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Yes from what I've read 25 is the average number for men, not people. For women it's supposedly 21.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 01:20 PM
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Maybe genes plus a more settled life. This is also true of David Beckham and of course Paul Newman, who even as an old man looked better than some 30 somethings 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 04:36 AM
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This is what I find most disturbing about a lot of "body positivity" rhetoric. The "I can be fat/disabled/old/different and still SEXY" crowd are just playing into the hands of consumerist forces. The error they make is equating beauty and sexually with value, which is encouraged to keep churning out new fodder for sexual consumption. Finding a new subgroup of women to fetishize means the supply remains fresh. And we're expected to offer ourselves up, in bikinis and all, as the newest sacrifice …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 01:00 AM
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This is old people humour. I did get a chuckle out of the irony that mauve was the first synthetic dye, discovered and patented by William Perkin (a man).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 01:09 PM
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Yes. I know someone who became a much better man when the love of his life walked out and never gave him another chance. He realized exactly what you said, he was the problem and he ruined the relationship. It was both the worst and best thing that ever happened to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 08:21 PM
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This is exactly what I thought. When he said marriage benefits men, yeah we already know this and it isn't an incentive. Like why should we care how good a relationship is for you and how much better it makes you when we're better off without one? Society has changed sufficiently that women no longer derive the same benefits from relationships. Ergo you need to make it worth it for us. I really think women putting themselves first is such a paradigm shift for some people that they can't even wra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 08:20 PM
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Me too. If i ever needed a reminder that the early 2000s really were 20 years ago this is it 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:11 PM
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I love to debate issues and I'm decent at it. When it's a debate and not a discussion, I'm also pretty aggressive and argue to win. Some men take it well and are fair debaters, but many of the same men that say they enjoy it get extremely butthurt when it becomes obvious they are in way over their heads and are losing. They don't like to argue, they like to "beat" women who they view as easy targets, failing to recognize they only "win" because women have been socialized to defer to them and let…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 01:30 AM
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My (male) friend says men are scum who need to be restrained, especially sexually. The quality men are honest about that without any whataboutism. Why do it for them? A women who does this isn't even on men's side because she is contributing to a culture that makes it difficult for them to learn self control and circumspection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:36 AM
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It's not that no one is able to love you until you love yourself, the meaning of the phrase is that you (general) won't accept love from others if you see yourself as not worth loving. You'll always discount the positive and everything others say they love about you until you see you are loveable. It's not about becoming worthy either, it's about accepting that by nature you inherently already are. Another way of saying it is that if you don't love yourself you'll always feel unloved and abandon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 06:48 AM
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At my stylist they got rid of gendered cuts and now charge based on complexity (most men's cuts are still the same price but they've been rebranded as simple cuts for either gender). When I mentioned this to a man I know, he complained "oh so they're trying to rip off men now". So you may be right 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 10:45 PM
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I don't think the poster actually finds it funny like haha but funny like wtf. The emojis are all crying after all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 03:35 PM
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Yeah some of them get downright threatening but in my experience they can tell its a bad move to publically sulk. That's why I usually always have a few friends around. And of course never give them too much information.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 03:50 PM
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I admit i just dish it back out or openly make fun of them for negging like an asshole. It's surprising (not really) how "cold and no fun" some of them get when everyone at the table is laughing at them. And I love it when they say I'm mean 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 03:24 PM
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One thing in I've really noticed about reddit is that it seems to be overpopulated with people who have utterly dismal social skills. Like even (maybe especially) the advice forums are usually chock full with people that seem incapable of reading and understanding the most basic social cues and norms or how people in the real world actually should or do act. I often wonder how some of these people manage to make it through life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 09:57 PM
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I love dressing up and going to formal places. What I hate is the double standard of being derided for liking to look nice but also derided if you don't do it. Like women are supposed to do this but complain about it because otherwise you're maybe not doing it just to make a man happy, which is the only reason you exist. I also hate the "down to earth" ideal that perpetuates the idea that a woman needs to look like a model, but a casual one who looks like she doesn't try and doesn't care about l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 08:36 PM
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I always just said "I like to be free".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 04:54 AM
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Only if you assume no one has empathy or decency and never does anything for altruistic reasons, but only to get something out of it. Or that only mere social niceties are being discussed. Trying to control others with giving is actually boundary breaking and manipulative. It also breeds resentment when you find you can't make people reciprocate and it ultimately cheapens the giving since it has strings attached. It is the "nice guy" syndrome, the one that hopes that doing nice things for a woma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 04:00 PM
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Yeah that is a lesson that is harder to accept than learn (for me it was anyway). You can't control other people's behaviour by giving and forcing them to feel beholden to you. And by giving with expectation that's what we are essentially trying to do. Really you're just setting yourself up for resentment and they'll still do whatever they want. And sometimes it's even harder to realize you have the same freedom. You don't owe anyone either just because they did something for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 06:59 AM
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It's worth noting that menarche was generally considered the event that meant a girl was fertile and therefore of marriageable age. But in Europe at least this age has been decreasing since the 20th century. It used to be much older, with an average of 15 and some girls as old as 17. So even by that logic, early teens would not have commonly been married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:11 PM
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This just sucks. I was told this partly in the context of my job because we all kind of "uglify" as much as possible at work (pervs with nurse fetishes are The Worst). To see women have to go that far in ways that effect their health and daily life though, ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 10:01 AM
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One of the things that I've heard from different people working in mental health is that they see a lot of young women who are overweight as a form of self protection from male advances, often subconciously. When they work through sexual trauma, they often lose weight. That's anecdotal of course but really sad if women feel their only way to avoid predators is to make themselves "less attractive" to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 02:50 AM
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And "I don't want to" is totally a proper reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 07:44 AM
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The rule of seven is generally used today to gauge whether an age gap is creepy, but used to be touted as an ideal for men to look for wives (this was promoted in the nation of islam for sure and likely goes back at least to Victorian times). Some research does show that men tend not to go for women who fall below this line, and women tend not to go for men who are above it. That doesn't mean in the modern context that it's acceptable as long as you're within it, but being outside of it is defin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 11:04 PM
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I've heard men liken their hypocrisy to a key and a lock. A key that opens many locks is a "master" key, but a lock capable of being opened by many keys is useless. You forget that a key that can't open any lock gets thrown away, asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 02:05 PM
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In some cases this is definitely true but I think just as often it's that pedophilia just a really low bar to virtue signal to, like the anger people express about animal abuse. It's easy to rage about that when it doesn't cost you anything and everyone already knows it is bad. No moral ambiguity and no social repercussions for hating it. Fighting more insidious evil (take for example porn and how it leads to increasing perversions) that may have negative consequences and backlash is much harder…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 03:39 AM
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Oh they totally are. Like the person who asks "what are YOU looking at", the command to stop is implied in the question itself. I am happy a decent amount of time but my neutral face is a smile. The corners of my mouth are naturally upturned and I have rounded "happy" cheeks. It's just how I look. Eta: I'll add that it seems like most women who do this seem to think I'm laughing or smirking at them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 10:59 AM
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Women will totally do the opposite though. I've had many women ask WHY ARE YOU SMILING. I have resting happy face 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 11:43 PM
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Nursing has been shown in tonnes of research to be the WORST profession for blatant favoritism of men. Then they whine about how hard it is to be a "minority" and how they face such terrible discrimination because they're asked to lift heavy shit all the time. Or even worse, claim their favoritism is due to their better communication skills or other superiority. UGH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 03:35 PM
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Yeah it totally could be fake (most of them are anyway), especially with the comment that she is the main breadwinner. On the other hand, the grammar does suggest it's coming from a culture in which this would be a perfectly acceptable argument for a man to make.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:43 PM
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Well i would say everyone knew they didn't like us, especially at that age (grade 3) when kids strongly sex segregate and neither sex really "likes" the other yet. My teacher totally got that no one is mean and aggressive to someone they actually like and no one wants to be "liked" in that way anyway so he used it to curb that behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 01:01 AM
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I totally communicate "like a man" when i am with men and there is a type who blame women for not being assertive enough when they can't get a word in edgewise. But they also get SO BUTTHURT when a woman talks to them in the same manner and doesn't defer to them. Like sulking babies whining because you dared to keep talking when they interupted or, even worse, dared to contradict them. They say they want directness but will punish a woman who is direct and communicates in the way they claim is w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 12:47 AM
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I hate how articles like this always have to add an apology to advocates of casual sex (ie "casual sex is great for some people and I really used to love it, please don't crucify me for daring to betray womankind like this") just because they don't want to participate in it anymore. It goes to show how indoctrinated and burdened women really are about their own sexual choices. I will say this is the least apologetic one I've ever read, so that's something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 10:04 PM
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It's weird to me how this was used in other people's experience. I remember my teacher saying this to the boy that was teasing me; "I guess you must like her since boys tease girls they like". That kid shut up and left me alone SO fast 😂 He always used it that way so I'd long believed the purpose of the saying was to shame boys for being little turds. Perception is everything i guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 01:44 AM
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I've always thought this as well. Women stop imbibing the lies of the culture around 30 and start to realize that most of the things they've been doing to "prove" they're empowered were really just giving men control. Once they start being who they really want for themselves, women become less easy to manipulate, terrorize and control--which is frankly unattractive to losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:34 PM
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What's interesting about this is that there is research showing that generally men are just as competent in understanding and communicating with nonverbal cues, soft refusals and the like as women. What is actually happening is that when they want something they just ignore them and then plead ignorance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 09:43 PM
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I don't agree with all the things on this sub (though i respect the request not to debate) but one of the reasons i joined was that fds has a lot of similarities with my own dating philosophy developed decades ago, when i had no real interest in dating anyway. 😂 My best friend summed my philosophy up behaviorally as "date a lot of people without strings or premature faux commitments" (there's more to it but I'm terrible at that kind of brevity so he's my magisterium, hah). Anyway it's interestin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 08:16 PM
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