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The more attractive a woman is the less she has to do (or feels she has to do) in the bedroom. I had this mentality too, no dude made me do any work since I went for guys in my lane, and my friends who were fat or punched above their lane all had stories of having to get good at giving head or whatever. It’s a real thing 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 01:46 PM
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Whoever asks the person should pay. I always offered to pay for myself (am a woman) but never was told to pay, in my dating history.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 06:41 PM
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Like others have said there’s still plenty of options, I don’t see that happening at all except with the divide of states lately maybe it would happen in places like Texas had done, and places like NY and OR is the opposite where there are virtually no limits on abortions where people would be having more casual sex. People who want to engage in that will relocate (people have already been relocating to places that align with their values- hell, I moved my family from OR to AZ). Sex has already …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 02:54 PM
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Lol I agree with you, in my 30s, married, and my husband even said he would rather have sex than watch porn. There are plenty of men like that, why are the dudes so triggered here 😂 sad when guys either can’t get laid because of their shit personalities or choose to jerk their “thangs” rather than have sex with their girls (who will eventually leave them) and then they come on here and project
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 03:18 PM
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I don’t think it’s considered “normal” to watch hours and hours of porn lol but it’s sad that it’s normal/common to do that in lieu of finding real sex or having sex with a partner. Also don’t find a lot of these kinks “normal” either. Also, I’ve noticed the same types of dudes who jerk off to the chicks in porn claim they would never IRL because they’re too lazy to go get them- but they’ll say “eww chicks who do porn are sluts/gross” etc as an excuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 11:19 PM
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Right before he did someone at Newsweek wrote a hit piece on him https://www.newsweek.com/pick-artist-sold-sex-audios-targeted-teen-girls-using-major-tech-firms-1648461 I’m guessing he probably had a harder time getting women after that and got a lot of shit from family and friends. But yeah, offing yourself because you can’t get teens anymore is a bit much
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 05:00 PM
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Tom Torero
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 04:24 PM
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Every man I’ve dated has exaggerated their n count up lol. In the days of onlyfans and thirst instagrams it’s gonna not go so well for a lot of these women in 5-10 years when they wanna get serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 06:34 PM
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Yeah it’s ridiculous and pretty much all the former TRP guru dudes eventually realized/admitted they fucked up once they got older and couldn’t get women anymore. The hypocrisy bites them later (see Strauss, Roosh for examples. Or the guy who just killed himself can’t remember his name)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 06:30 PM
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Nah, men who have high n counts are also more likely to have STDs, or look down on monogamous relationships until they’re graying or hairline starts receding and they literally can’t get the women they used to, so they are inherently low value as well. And before you @ me I have a single digit n count and am married 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 06:10 PM
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I agree with everything here. Also am tired of this “I need a Virgin although I’ve fucked 100 chicks” mentality. It’s fucking rarted. There’s nothing wrong with a man wanting a low n count IF theirs is low too, otherwise it’s more likely they are gonna cheat/get bored and divorce just like women with high n counts before marriage are more likely to cheat/divorce too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 06:07 PM
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Nothing wrong with asking for a date early on (as just texting with no results is a waste of time) but if a dude stopped communicating prior to the date I’d assume he was looking for a ONS and I’d probably find a reason to not go on the date, and if I did go on the date I wouldn’t be comfortable enough for sex so he’d have to take me out multiple times. Texting and getting to know someone would make me more likely to put out earlier since I wouldn’t feel like the person is a stranger. I also pla…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 06:03 PM
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I’m married, but I was at 7 when I met my husband at 23. I would have been at 4, most were LTRs, but then I was raped and gave up :/ thankfully that was only 8 months or so before I met him so I didn’t get too bad. My husband doesn’t even know his n count id guess 30-40? He is 10 years older than I, so that makes more sense. He had two long LTRs and a couple other relationships before me and that mattered to me more than his count, he actually told me right before he got married that he embellis…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 12:51 AM
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Men that are famous/wealthy? No. They don’t need to find women that way, women will find them. (See:Tinder Swindler. Obvious bullshit that anyone like the made up guy would be on there haha) Men that are “high value” because they’re attractive? Sure, if they are fboys they will definitely be using OLD to get a lot more action. If they aren’t f boys and attractive/well off they probably aren’t using it though as they would have lots of organic options too. With Covid though I think it became more…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:48 PM
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There are some people that would be shit parents and they know it so I’m glad they don’t have kids, but yeah I do think a large amount want to travel/party/cosmopolitan life etc (all which you can still do with kids but it’s way different) and those are the ones who will have the biggest regrets. In fact I’m in my 30s and have seen a few hardcore hedonists turn around and have a kid and change 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:39 PM
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The whole “trade up” is laughable because what some might think is trading up ends up not going as well for them. For the sake of argument I’m not including billionaires, Leo di Caprio, Bezos, etc kind of guys. I’m going to refer to the moderately successful men who are likely to do this. If you look at many pickup artists/TRP gurus once they got around 40 (Strauss, Roosh, etc) they stop being able to pull the women they used to, get bored/find God etc and while an older man might love the atten…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 03:14 PM
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This is a good point, I know someone whose marriage imploded (it was on the rocks anyway) because she got a paternity test and it was negative, turns out it was wrong and right after the birth her ex husband was kissing her ass to try and make up for it. It had a happy co-parenting ending but yeah that company who did that test fucked it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 07:39 PM
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I’m a married mom and I’m fine with that. It would also make things less awkward so the man doesn’t have to ask and offend the pregnant mom. There have been dudes that deny they’re the father when they clearly are because they want to get out of it so that would make it easier for everyone I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 07:35 PM
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The closer we get to our natural “survival state” the closer we get to natural gender roles. If we had a catastrophic event we’d definitely see more women back at home, taking on the cooking instead of eating out, the ones in the military probably trying to figure out a way out of combat, etc. We’ve already seen record numbers of women dropping out of the workforce due to Covid issues, if it was something much worse we’d probably see more of that too. If there was another depression maybe there …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 05:14 AM
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I think it does matter but not in the way some in here think- like it’s ridiculous for a man to have a high count to pursue someone with a low one on purpose or shit on other women with a high one too. I’m a woman and do somewhat care about an n count but I’m more interested in the persons dating history- people sometimes goes through a phase where they sleep around but if the number makes sense where they’ve still had at least a couple long term relationships that’s fine. If their number is hig…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 03:02 PM
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I think there’s a weird myth that marriage tethers people together for life- children do not marriage. So when I see people who act like they bucked the system by having a kid together and being permanent boyfriend/girlfriends it’s a bit silly. Now if you’ve already been married and have blended families it’s definitely important to have some kind of pre-nup or legal affairs settled though, especially since so many states enforce common law marriages. Also, if the couple is planning on having so…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 05:37 PM
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I have a son, we did not circumcise and my husband is intact (uncirc) and I’m completely against it, if we want equality then we must be against female and male circumcision. Even for cultural/religious reasons it takes away bodily autonomy. I also am against piercing baby’s ears for that reason too although it’s less bad than circumcision. I can understand if it’s for medical reasons like a bad infection happens but that’s usually on the parents for not having good hygiene practices. That also …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 08:02 PM
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There’s worse things in life than being a 30 year old virgin…I’d much rather my kids grow up to be well adjusted, happy, good people.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 04:54 AM
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This persons post history is a dumpster fire, it’s literally “I have BPD, want marriage and kids, am obsessed with my ex (the only guy she’s ever dated), guys constantly ghost me after sex, overweight, wants guys to be exclusive at the beginning of dating, 33” yet has these ridiculously high standards. Another post of hers was complaining because a guy still lived with his parents although he told her it was a cultural thing….both these guys would probably be able to do better so would be a catc…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/10/21 10:39 PM
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When I was single I did this as a woman. If men can do it so can I :)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 04:35 PM
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Gen Z is younger, of course they don’t want kids at their age lol. It’s annoying when there are under 25s (ive known people to change their minds at around 30 too) in childfree.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 01:59 AM
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Of course he’s a fucking cop. And a large age gap to boot. What a piece of shit, I hope he gets the treatment he deserves in prison. RIP Megan :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 10:10 PM
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You attract what you are dude. Sounds like either your picker is off or you secretly enjoy the drama and you’re blaming women when you’re a huge pussy 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 02:33 PM
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That’s a good point. Most obese women I know that gets in relationships have them end and they complain about being used for money, cheated on etc. I’m guessing because their self esteem is low and the dude doesn’t respect them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 04:39 PM
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Some factors 1. Single mom- obviously this varies as there are single moms with one kid they support, widowers, healthy coparents to four kids different dads, on government handouts, dads not involved 2. Mental illness- cluster B personalities, bipolar, depression/anxiety especially if not under control. Also adding incurable STDs here 3. Appearance- weight, hygiene, taking care of teeth etc. 4. Substance abuse- alcoholic, smoker, meth user etc. 5. Age- Someone in their 20s even with the above i…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 04:32 PM
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I mean this ain’t gonna happen because I’m 5’7 and my husband is 6’3 my son is in the 98% for height and weight BUT If it did, I would have him go for someone who has a good personality, works hard and is honest & loving. I’d help him be realistic about his prospects and also work on things that he can control like fitness and personality himself since women tend to overlook appearance more. I’d also help advise him with finances so he doesn’t go into debt since he might not make tons of money b…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 05:18 PM
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When I was a single or dating younger woman my intention was always to have fun and not hooking up. I didn’t hook up with people I just met anyway, so if I met someone and we exchanged numbers it would just be a bonus and not a necessity. It was more likely to happen from someone in the group that went to the party/club/bar with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 07:48 PM
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Try getting a nasal swab during labor 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 04:53 AM
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I used to have the spider crawling Up there worry but then I moved to Arizona and now replaced that with scorpions crawling up my poussoir
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 01:18 AM
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Lol what? That is the ultimate pickmeisha move to not just up and leave and continue to date that person (anime filter dude)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 09:49 PM
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Congrats for taking the step of breaking up with him! “Supporting a friend” just means he’s simping hoping he has a chance (but she’s making him pay so unlikely). The key is he’s HOPING so you were just his right now and he was happy that you paid for your own self so he could save up to try and get some from elsewhere. If you stayed with him you’d be a total clown, so at least you learned!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 09:23 PM
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OF wouldn’t exist if it wasn’t for a bunch of thirsty dudes (or their pick me partners) paying for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 09:31 PM
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Lol hey at least they’re identifying themselves as pornsick. The fact that they would wear that knowing it makes people uncomfortable blatantly telling everyone they love porn means you’d be embarrassed by them in public and they’re probably also cheap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 09:26 PM
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I have second hand embarrassment @ this person. Hopefully she’s making it up for attention although that’s still sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 09:19 PM
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Wow what a fucking loser. So glad you got out of that. Hope you got some child support at least out of his worthless ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:33 AM
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Thank you for keeping a FEMALE only space. Every other space even XXchromosome (which shouldn’t confuse anyone on who belongs there) either got shut down or infiltrated by males. Reddit likes to shut down pro woman subs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:23 AM
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At an after party of a concert!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 01:43 AM
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No, I started dating my husband when he was 32 and I was 23. At that age I had some life experience, a degree, lived on my own and was old enough to drink. If she was under 21 it would be weird but I don’t think the age gap is that bad. I’m biased though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/20 09:24 PM
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Yeah pretty sure there was no other woman, he just was hoping you would feel rejected since you rejected him. He would have ghosted after you slept together if you did anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 10:07 PM
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Low self esteem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 10:39 PM
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I just saw all these comments! Long story short I actually did go to the police, 4 witnesses and the detective made me call him and he confessed, still wasn’t enough evidence to arrest (they told me some “not enough evidence to convict only to arrest” bullshit or vice versa) so nope not in jail. I suspect his status of being in the Army may have contributed to that but I was young and couldn’t afford or figure out how to get a lawyer and it was in a different state than where I lived so that was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 05:38 PM
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Fuck this is true...I remember getting red flags when a date told me out of nowhere that his sister was raped, and I thought it was fucking weird that someone would tell someone else’s personal secret to a stranger...guess who raped me the next date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 01:51 AM
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I totally agree- the times FWB worked for me was on my terms and I was seeing multiple guys at the sane time (but not sleeping with all of them) and they knew about each other. I was focused on working on myself while having some fun, not looking for a relationship. So even though my husband was originally a FWB that’s the exception not the rule...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 07:53 PM
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I call that a resurrecting dude from the dead. Ignoring, texting “who is this?” And letting them explain themselves and then ignoring, or bailing last minute on plans (if you can actually follow through) are the best responses
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 06:14 PM
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Lmao this is so true A few months ago I saw the most disturbing thing that was like “my husband is amazing and I love him so much but he makes me spend my own money on bills, spends his on himself and I do all the cleaning and take care of the kids...I’m getting burnt out how should I talk to him”???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 05:42 PM
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Yet he’s still going there and paying for their services...because he can’t get any not paying for it lol The guys who talk the most shit about them are also the ones that go there all the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 10:48 PM
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I feel like it’s pickmeishas with sex addicted/cheating bfs that shame more than other dudes though...clearly projecting 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 10:47 PM
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You should be able to avoid this by helping your mom get a good lawyer though, as she’s entitled to alimony and since they’ve been together 20 years or so (I’m guessing) she gets part of his retirement and half the house which she could sell and downsize. It’s less likely he’d be able to scam her out of anything with his children and a good lawyer. This will help you guys with the burden since depending on how wealthy dad is she could live decently and go back to school or get a job while having…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:41 PM
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While I can agree these types are annoying, there are men that absolutely are the same. I mean, look at the famous PUAs like Tucker Max, Roosh etc who literally wrote books on pumping and dumping and then hit their own wall of 35 or so and decided they want to be married and have families BUT they only wanted to do that with a under 25 virgin and not another “reformed party slut.” Men can absolutely be “reformed party sluts” too, in fact I knew a couple dudes (never slept with them) who were sin…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 05:53 PM
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For sure! Or when she realizes he’s coming to her with more baggage, less money, and a high probability of cheating again as the only side she got before was his good behavior, sex, and small doses of him and then all the issues the former relationship have would be tenfold when it’s full time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 09:27 PM
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Right? Even in the 2% chance they do leave their wife their wife is going to likely get a good portion of his assets, alimony, child support etc...so she’ll be supporting him while the wife gets a better man lol. How embarrassing. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 06:11 PM
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Omg I can’t believe that’s a sub! I just browsed it and I have second hand cringe/embarrassment for them. Like “I love him so much buttttt he keeps pushing back the “exit plan” and I want to have a family with him!” And can’t introduce him to anyone! Like...you are the sloppy seconds of a loser husband and you’re all shocked he doesn’t wanna be with you? If he really did he would have been already. No self respect there lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 06:09 PM
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I mean you don’t have to get married in life BUT if you’re planning on joining assets and/or having kids with that person you’re a fool if you don’t. If you just want a friends with benefits or want no kids or something that’s fine. But I don’t get the point of just “dating”/dealing with someone’s shit for 10 years to NOT have that level of commitment. It is true the man doesn’t magically change due to that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 02:34 AM
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Lol if you think marriage is to “fix your issues” then...you should just throw the man away and start over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:06 PM
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Yeah I definitely wasn’t trying to count extenuating circumstances, in my opinion I just believe engagement is the period where you know you’re ready for marriage and are planning. Sometimes it takes people a couple years to plan and that’s fine if you have that time and are actually working towards the wedding. I’d just be wary of the “shut up ring” and moving goalposts like I’ve seen so many dudes do to women I know...I get that sometimes you have to save up $$, maybe you’re moving and have hu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 04:48 PM
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That’s really nasty lol...I’m guessing deep into depression :/ On the other hand I don’t really wanna knock them for at least trying and improving their life. Hopefully no permanent damage was done and they continue to give up their porn sickness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 07:48 AM
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So true! I told mine I had to get married in a year or less (he proposed end of September got married the beginning of September) since he was “engaged” to his ex gf for four years. They never picked out a date or venue or anything he knew he was full of shit lol 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 07:43 AM
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Dating before engagement shouldn’t last longer than 3 years if you’re in your 20s and 2 years (at the most) in your 30s. Also engagement should be 1 year or less if you’ve already lived together (2 years if you haven’t) unless there’s extenuating circumstances and venue/date should be picked out within the first couple months. Otherwise he does NOT respect you. It’s so sad seeing what clearly seems to be the sunken cost fallacy being applied...there’s no way her friends/family didn’t give their …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 07:38 AM
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I am not sure exactly how they’re doing, but both of them got married and immediately divorced after dating me :D One is on marriage two, living the family life in the country which is funny because he hated the country and was obsessed with living in the city, so I’m guessing it’s all he could afford as where I live the housing has gone up exponentially. My second who was much worse than the first to my knowledge is still single, saw a family Christmas pic from a year or two ago and his brother…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 07:02 AM
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This is so true. I’m married so not currently in the dating pool but when I was I referred to it as “not playing all my cards/putting all my cards on the table” as I didn’t want a guy to think he’d figured me out as then they get bored, find ways to start drama/manipulate/push your buttons etc so there were certain things and stories I didn’t put out there until way later. That way I feel more empowered about not being too vulnerable and dependent on anyone and it honestly felt great. I love you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 12:22 AM
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Hmm I wonder if the problem is that the men in their late 30s-40s that DO want kids but don’t have them are pursuing younger women (not like 20 something’s, but 30 somethings that also want kids soon) or are not interested in the childfree people. Or at least the decent ones. Then you have a plethora that DO have kids/baggage and the bachelors that don’t want kids have the personality problems you’re dealing with. I know a lot more normal women who are childfree in their 40s then men so I am not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 12:15 AM
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Yep so true. I just saw a pick me bitching about a guy that stood her up on a date. She texted him the day before asking if he was still up for the date the next day, no response. Then next morning, texted him again, no response. She still went and texted him while there!!! Then got a text from him the next morning claiming he fell asleep...she thankfully told him to fuck off but after getting no response the first or at least second time I’m cringing that she really thought he would show up. No…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 06:02 AM
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Every fucking time one of my friends has a kid and works full time along with the husband/partner they’re always telling me how the men get home from work, kick their feet up on the coffee table and turn on the TV. So of course the women get home after probably picking the kid up from childcare herself and then has to take care of them, cook dinner and clean up after everyone. If she says anything he’ll be like “I need to decompress” or some whiny bullshit like that like it’s expected that they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 04:48 AM
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Do not pay him back, your gut isn’t wrong. Even if he was trying to flex by doing that to look good asking for Venmo payment was super disrespectful. Did he have the idea to go to that place? I would be definitely concerned if he knew that person before, also the fact that he didn’t care about impressing you for paying is bad. If he raises a stink about wanting money back or brings up that you “owe him” later or whatever discard him like the cheap knockoff brand he is. If he drops it because he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 06:55 PM
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Dating for 8 years!! How sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 06:48 PM
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Yep! “The gift of fear” is one of my favorites, older but true book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 06:40 PM
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What a fucking loser. His post history has him posting about wanting to date his VP because he’s “in love with her”....I feel so sorry for his female coworkers! 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 06:51 AM
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Every weekend and he’s 28??? Since you’re 21 it only makes sense that you’d be invited since you’re the normal age to be clubbing all the time. If you say you want to go and he doesn’t let you, Dump him and go with your girlfriends. It’s kinda sad a bunch of dudes almost 30 lurking, whenever I used to go it would be with girls or coed, a bunch of dudes look like creepers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 09:27 PM
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I always offer to split (or pay own way if it’s pretty unequal, I’d never offer to pay for both lmao) on every date but never had to. I have paid when I’m actually in a relationship, and the shittiest of my exes would take advantage of that but all the other times it was like 70/30 (they made more than I too and I still paid my own bills) I always believed in only ordering what you can pay for...so I’m not going to order the most expensive stuff and expect him to pay. Maybe if I found out during…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 08:24 PM
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Whyyyyy did you suck his dick after the shitty sex??? W/e at least you’ve seemed to learn from it and are leveling up 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 08:19 PM
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I would offer for the price of a dog sitter lol IF you want/need the money. Just for his audacity to think that you’re his friend enough to do that when he gives no effort...he still would probably decline since he’s a broke ho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 05:56 PM
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Please tell me you ghosted after the interaction lol I don’t think that warrants a response. Maybe a cringe face for the second hand embarrassment I’m feeling for this sad dude. Unfortunately there might be a pick me out there that is cool with that couch potato
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 05:48 PM
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My husband- lol I don’t every time but he’s more than happy to get some lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 05:45 PM
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When it doubt- don’t do it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 05:17 PM
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I find a rule of thumb for guys whether they’re pornified, players, cheaters etc is to just not put out for as long as possible until you get a real assurance of exclusivity (relationship). The guys who are shitty in those ways tend to out themselves, and get bored of having to actually try and usually get mad at you for not sleeping with them sooner. It’s a great way to weed them out as they’ll usually drop and pursue a pick me or go back to their porn. I will say not to let them know that (you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 04:52 PM
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Go to their social media and look at their history/likes/comments and if there’s a bunch of porn stars or bikini girls and especially if he’s active engaging with them he’s porn sick You should also be able to tell once you get to the bedroom lol if he tries to do anal, BDSM right away or tries to thrust/jab in a way and has a hard time coming (like instead of trying to hold back he’s like trying different things to speed it up) he probably has the death grip problem. I know you want to tell bef…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 04:33 PM
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“He has his own reasons” and “he’s a private person” are great phrases for emotionally unavailable dudes. She should have been out due to not meeting his family by 6 months, there’s probably going to be someone else there at Christmas with him...maybe he has an arranged marriage?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 03:38 PM
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Congratulations! “Boyfriend of 10 years” is reason enough. Good for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 03:14 PM
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Lol...don’t worry bruh I don’t think anyone is trying to seduce you. Why are mediocre men so overconfident 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 03:58 AM
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Congrats!! Now that you’re majorly leveling up don’t be surprised if he hits you up again in the future once he gets bored of the lower level coworker...you’ll have the last laugh for sure! So glad you’re about to do much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 03:40 AM
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May I suggest a “why are you being crazy??” Or “my exes are all crazy” to add to a slot 🤣🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 03:28 AM
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If you don’t already start exercising too. You could just start walking outside every day, there’s free workouts you can do in your home (like Kayla itsines etc) too while you’re job searching. It will help boost endorphins and increase your confidence. Also helps to take your mind off of low value dudes, and at least you’re doing something constructive while you’re unemployed to get good habits started while you have extra time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 03:23 AM
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Ok right now you need to not focus on any guys. No one night stands, no anything. Like others have said- Therapy for yourself. Men will treat you like you let them so learn to increase your self worth. Stop pursuing dudes, you’re artificially inflating their egos and attaching to the brief attention that you’re getting when to them you are a useless plate. You’re NOT, but that’s what you’re doing right now. What do you have to offer? You need to work on bettering your situation now. Besides ther…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 12:26 AM
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I’ve noticed this too. A couple were ones that I went on some dates with around 19-20 and they came out and said they weren’t ever going to get married until 30, which let me know they were a waste of my time. I wasn’t hell bent on getting married young or anything but what’s the point of being in a relationship with someone who wants all the comforts of a wife yet will not commit? I started going for guys 4-5 years older and same shit. Especially what they said about “men” still living with the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 12:17 AM
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This article is so true. It didn’t touch on this (only briefly about the singles scene no longer being fun but didn’t go into it) but I also wonder if part of the reason most don’t take it serious until 30+ is that they stop attracting the type that they’ve been plating and realize that there’s actually a “wall” for them too. Notice how all the huge PUA got married around 35 and changed their ways- they realize that they couldn’t get their 18-22 year old favorite women to want to hook up with th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 12:13 AM
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I hope too, but I also agree even if they did actually get married his insistence on going cheap on what she wants is a horrible precedent. Watch “our money” become controlled by him and he gets to splurge on what he wants and she has to fight to get anything. Ugh. Men are definitely working their way up the gold digging aisle currently, if I could bet I’d honestly say they’re probably doing it more than women these days, being that most if not all of us are working at this point lol. Also if he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 06:40 PM
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Maybe the “desperation” (in lack of better words) or losing your virginity is leading you to gravitate LVM or making your self confidence low to attract them. I’d suggest just not caring? Many women don’t get orgasm from PIV sex and most men won’t bother to get you off either so do that yourself lol. Don’t tell dudes you’re a virgin either, it honestly doesn’t matter and isn’t their business. You also don’t want to attract LVM incel/PUAs who want to pursue you in order to hit it and quit it and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 06:31 AM
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I hate these sexist tropes. I’m pregnant with a boy now and have a daughter and from what I’ve witnessed everyone’s daughters have been easier. Girls don’t shoot up schools, rape or abuse (as often), bomb buildings etc. no females are going on shooting sprees for being rejected. I’m much more worried about my son than daughter although I’m glad he’s younger to get guidance from his sister. My nephew threatened his dad with a knife at 17 and is living at home smoking pot and working dead end jobs…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 06:23 AM
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Idk if this was a while ago but I’d show these texts to all your mutual friends and consider culling your friend list based on their reactions/actions. It sucks, but you’ll know who your real friends are when they choose to either cut off your abusive ex or if they make excuses to hang out with him anyway. He’ll constantly ask about you through them so you’ll have to watch what you say to them and it’s just not worth it. I’ve been there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 06:18 AM
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12- wowwww, so she’s “keeping her man” by being a cuck pretty much. Of course she’s not allowed to invite another dude into a threesome amirite?? I especially love some of these stories are “girlfriends” of 3+ years...yeah I’m sure they changed their ways. Instead of being players they’re playing house and enjoying their personal maids/sex dolls/mommies until they gain 5 pounds, get sick, or heaven forbid...turn 30!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:58 AM
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Omg I’m wondering if this is one of my family members the story is so similar to her loser boyfriend and the timeline fits. I guarantee that he’s going to take another 9 months to actually “propose” with the cheapest thing possible, use her money to pay down the debt but plan a wedding for 3 years out, coincidentally after his debt will be paid (with her money). Then, after she puts down the payments for the venue etc he’s gonna have “a change of heart” and peace out. I hope this poster gets som…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:38 AM
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My favorite thing about this is it’s always a double standard. I always had a rule that I’d take just as long to text back as the dude did or longer if I’m legit at work or something. I was seeing this LVM that would take a couple days to text me back on occasion and then literally after two hours or so of me not responding to his delayed text he’d send me multiple other texts being mad at me not responding (haha)...unfortunately I was 22 and made the mistake of not just ghosting him completely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 02:41 AM
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I think you’re going to get different answers from people in LTR and people married with kids... Sometimes it’s harder to leave in a situation when there are kids involved. I think it would be better to end an unhappy marriage then to stay for the kids but there are people who make it work with a second person to fulfill needs. The only reasons I would find leaving okay -abuse -addiction of any kind -letting ones self go (without a medical reason) -infidelity -partner decides they want to be pol…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 06:05 PM
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Honestly I think the scale is tipped by there being more morbidly obese people than before as I’ve seen tons of “body positivity” kind of things glorifying being super big. There’s even some fetish of eating yourself to death (caused by depression/depravity etc) that’s a thing now so...I think when there’s more 400/500 lb people it’s going to skew up even when there’s tons of women who are thin. I really doubt the median is 5’4 and 170 even in the US...150 maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 04:16 AM
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And that’s fine. Every relationship is different, I’m just saying it’s going to be pretty much impossible to find a “traditional woman” from a “good family” and have a traditional family whilst also getting a prenup.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 04:16 PM
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Prenups are designed in situations where one person is a multi millionaire with a trophy wife, or it’s a 2nd/3rd etc marriage where there’s already kids and in case of death/divorce you want to outline what would belong to whom. If you’re Joe Paycheck making 60K a year and you expect that a traditional (what the OP stated) conservative woman would be willing to sign that, especially like OP says with a traditional family, the parents will tell her to tell him to go fuck himself. If you want a gl…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 04:10 AM
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If you’re pumping and dumping women good luck getting a virgin to marry you...for what, herpes and potential future child support??
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 12:39 AM
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Lol if you marry a traditional woman with a good family good luck getting them to sign a prenup...you seriously think they’d be willing to stay at home and risk losing out on wages for a dude who clearly doesn’t trust them and treats them like a 3rd trophy wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 12:36 AM
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OP, get back to us if you ever happen to find someone who is willing to have kids with you. Otherwise you can have your unlived, wrong opinions all day but being that you have no idea what you’re talking about it’s pretty hard to have a reasonable debate. -a stay at home mom
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/19 06:59 PM
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My god, Written by someone clearly single and childless, maybe 18 yrs old... Taking care of children has no vacation, sick days and you don’t get to “clock in” at 9 AM and clock out at 5 It’s also extremely expensive to hire a nanny, maid, chef, and assistant to run errands to do everything a SAHM does. It’s also not “his money” even when he’s the sole provider...a marriage is a partnership so it’s all money. Think of how ridiculous it would be if the SAHM was asking to be paid hourly for watchi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/19 04:56 AM
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I mean maybe, I do think porn is leading to sketchier and more perverted fetishes happening. Although one reason that it might cause them to pursue relationships less is the male may be less attractive than the females he now wants to date and instead of working on himself and improving his physique/personality/interests etc he’s jacking off constantly so there’s that. Most guys I know that are successful think that’s a waste of time lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 09:22 PM
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I mean it depends on the age though, most guys don’t settle down until their late 20s/early 30s, if they’re 35+ it’s a red flag but it’s quite common that they just weren’t in that mindset and wanted to focus on themselves or had a couple LTRs that didn’t work out.
/r/RedPillWives19/09/19 03:49 PM
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Idk if this falls under looks and it’s not that I’ve been looking for it but I’ve noticed since I’ve had a kid I get a lot less attention. Which doesn’t bother me, I’m married but guys STILL hit on me when I was married and childless even with my husband close by...awkward! I guess it’s more respectable to be a mom to the majority of men OR they find me less attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 06:35 PM
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I wouldn’t stay at home full time without getting married that’s setting you up for lost wages, and potentially single motherhood as well. I am a married SAHM and my husband works from home. To put your new role into perspective show your boyfriend how expensive raising a child is when working (daycare, housecleaning, errands, etc) and let him know since you’re planning on working then he’s going to have to help equally around the house. This might make him take marriage seriously as otherwise y…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/19 02:54 AM
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Also for a sneak peek of the wonderful world of being a divorcee in your late 20s/early 30s check out the datingover30 sub...it’s not pretty. While your husband is in his prime right now and could probably make out okay in a divorce you are leaving yours.
/r/RedPillWives03/09/19 08:18 PM
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Do you and/or him want children? He sounds like a good guy, you’re at the ages now that you should probably figure this out before you move forward. Honestly this is huge. If one of you does and one of you doesn’t then I would do him a favor and cut him loose because he deserves someone that will love him for who he is and give him a family if he wants one or vice versa if you want a family and he doesn’t maybe your inner voice is trying to tell you something. Love is a verb though not a feeling…
/r/RedPillWives03/09/19 08:09 PM
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In that case I think it should be okay. Do consult with a lawyer anyways before doing that as long as you are safe. I don’t blame you for going to family!
/r/RedPillWives01/09/19 03:20 AM
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First of all, you do NOT need to feel ashamed about this, or being a single mom. You have done everything you could and HE is the one breaking his vows and being a POS. Please collect evidence of his unfaithfulness and look for the best lawyers and consult with them right now. Also talk with your family if you can trust them to keep this secret. Keeping evidence of his wrongdoing will also help if anyone has doubts of your story. I don’t know what your background is catholic, orthodox, Muslim et…
/r/RedPillWives31/08/19 10:44 PM
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Whatever you say, dude with a broken dick 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/19 07:14 PM
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Why are you assuming that a guy saying something about a woman’s appearance is “honesty”? It’s not like the female that the guy came up to in the story asked “why are you talking to me?” Or “do you think I’m attractive.” There’s zero reason that it needs to be brought up when first introducing yourself and meeting someone. It would show a lack of social skills. Is it normal to bluntly tell people what you’re thinking at all times? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 10:15 PM
1

PUAs that were successful were guys that were good looking, dressed well and charismatic and they were always seen chatting and hanging out with different girl(s) when I saw them at parties. Typically they’re easy to figure out if you hang out with them a few times and don’t sleep with them they’ll eventually get distant and go for other people since they have more easy lay options. There’s also the obvious/not as successful PUAs that are lacking in something (height, looks, etc) that try to mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 07:30 PM
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Lol, I’ve worked in the service industry before too and had about equal amounts of entitled/asshole men and women. Only difference was as a female, the men were creepier to me and the women were just rude. Also not sure where they got the idea of men’s bathroom being cleaner than woman’s...there are some nasty women leaving stuff on toilet seats but I’ve heard way more horror stories about dudes bathrooms having piss everywhere. And went to a festival in Europe where men literally shit on the ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 07:08 PM
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Lol, okay. Not rationalizing it but now happily married with kids so, clearly it’s a great example of how neither pills explain how love and relationships work sometimes 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 06:56 PM
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I never knew anything about the red/blue pill when I met my husband 8 years ago...but I always could figure out guys who bought the “PUA/TRP” and their over the top attempts like negging/push/pull etc. I would always wait to sleep with someone until I felt like there was an established relationship, and typically the guy would either get bored and hit me up on occasion for a booty call that never happened or become more interested. I became pretty good at “playing the game” the first time I hung…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/19 07:31 PM
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I do believe being accepted by your partners parents is important for your relationship as the west tries to diminish family values and underrate the importance of extended family. You’d be surprised, if you put effort into traditional Russian orthodox values (dress nicely, presentable, they prefer dresses/skirts to jeans or pants) be very polite and courteous but not overly smiley/friendly they might not mind you. If you try and they still don’t like you know your partner will see you attemptin…
/r/RedPillWives29/08/19 05:25 PM
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