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1	To the guys who exclusively wait for choosing signals, is your success rate higher compared to strictly cold approaching? Common but flawed Reddit mindsets: You need permission to speak to a woman, watch for hints You present yourself and if you're properly ripped and loaded she may select you and grant you sex boons Correct mindset: Women are fellow humans and you can start conversations with humans whenever and wherever you want, which they can continue or not No man gets laid by standing in front of a woman, but if while speaking to her you demonstrate that you have an awesome personality and create an exciting …	/r/seduction	31/07/26 01:54 PM
1	could I have recovered this? This is the right answer, I mean you probably don't want to go around talking down on yourself all the time, but but as always what matters is the feelings you're creating in her, not in you. You can get away with murder if you're funny, you make her feel relaxed and good about herself, and it seems like there's a special world centered on you that she can join. If you get there by making a joke about your height it's fine. If you're a boring man who never gets there period that's when you're "c…	/r/seduction	31/07/26 01:49 PM
1	I next her, or not? It's not even a shit test, most of the time they're just socially busy. Women can line up a date by standing in the right place and breathing. She can like him, have enjoyed the first date, and also just not be fixated on it and be busy enough that she cannot yet confirm a time for the second date. Hell I'm a man and I rarely commit to a date more than 2-3 days in advance. It's mainly men with low social value who obsess over a date. OP is telegraphing that he is way too invested in the outcome …	/r/seduction	31/07/26 04:04 AM
1	I don't know how to pull myself from the misery that I feel Even though this is the "seduction" community, game really starts with going out and having the time of your life regardless of whether any hot women are around. A lot of guys forget that. Obviously I can't know everything about you from one post but my takeaway from this post was that you probably need to reconnect with whatever passions exist in your soul beyond work and women, ideally which can be performed outside of your home in a place where women are present lol. This is a real common thi…	/r/seduction	29/07/26 02:50 AM
12	I don't know how to pull myself from the misery that I feel You're taking it all too seriously. Women, work and life. There are basically two good things to do with women: ignore them, or bang them when they're young and fun. None of this nonsense about a woman who's 9 years older than you. You need to loosen up, both to succeed with women and to be happy. Again. The young and fun ones will help you do it if you can get over yourself. The ego's a bitch, it needs to be smacked down. I'm in the prime of my career too. I own a business. It's all very seriou…	/r/seduction	28/07/26 05:49 PM
3	How to deal with friends during night game? You have to be careful with this because if the friend is a war pig who's never known the touch of a man, the original girl may think this is a once in a lifetime opportunity for oinker and she won't want to stand in the way. It's good to give the land beast a brief non-physical compliment of some kind in the hopes of disarming her early on but it should be out of earshot of your main target and you don't want to get invested in an actual conversation with Girtha McThunderthighs	/r/seduction	27/07/26 04:31 PM
13	Men who've never struggled with dating and hooking up, what do you do differently than the rest of us? I wouldn't say I've never struggled, but if there's a single factor that rises above all others, it's simple access and exposure. A guy who sits in his room all day and uses dating apps and Reddit will probably fail with women. A guy who for whatever reason is surrounded by them in the real world all day - maybe working a service job, maybe a club promoter, maybe in college doing some activities that are filled with women etc. - usually has a healthy dating life.	/r/seduction	26/07/26 02:23 AM
-1	Thoughts on Uber money? Using a dating app is your problem. I've seen a Tinder profile where the girl's requirement for going on a date was that you had to pre-book a helicopter. It's a game for them, they just roll around and get showered with free nonsense. Get off the apps and go meet women in the real world. These apps have 4 men to every 1 woman. It is literally the most unequal dating market in human history. If you depend on them you need to accept that your fate is to be cucked and end up with a worse woman tha…	/r/seduction	25/07/26 12:40 PM
25	Do people here still cold approach? All the time, Reddit is just too cucked to be able to have any real discussion about it. If you post real experiences there's always some neckbeard who will tell you it's impossible and fake. How big are the gooner subs on here again? That's the default Reddit demog. These guys are not speaking to flesh and blood women but they do show up to subs like this to be angry about not speaking to flesh and blood women. There's also a healthy dose of women who pop over from TwoXChromosomes or something …	/r/seduction	24/07/26 12:14 PM
3	People here ..what do you think about women who tease and low key roast you? If she roasts you and you can't think of anything funny and clever to say, give her a shit-eating grin, pat her on the head, and then change the subject like it didn't happen. If you were to say anything, "Shit-eating grin, pat on the head and move on" is exactly the vibe your words should be communicating, don't do other stuff like getting upset about it or playing along with being devalued. She is testing your frame because if you can't handle a little ribbing from her, how can you handle a se…	/r/seduction	24/07/26 03:58 AM
2	Please explain to me what is actually game and how should I study it? I like the way Tyler answered this long ago, he said that some of the guys who would come to his programs would argue this, and it would usually come from a place of just being an antisocial person in general. Like they would have this fantasy that they would develop the skills, then go out, and execute the one ultimate pickup and steal the girl back to their lair and go back to playing World of Warcraft all day just only with a girlfriend now lol. The reality is that to be good involves a minds…	/r/seduction	20/07/26 12:07 PM
3	Always lean in to who you actually are as a man. Lots of great comments here so far, and totally agree. The way I think of it is that genuine connection is the best aphrodisiac, and if you're not genuinely being yourself, genuine connection is impossible. So in the end it trumps most of the other stuff we think of as game. Best to be who you really are, wear it on your sleeve, understand that it won't be what many or even most women are looking for, but when you hit the right one it'll be absolute fire.	/r/seduction	20/07/26 02:32 AM
1	Please explain to me what is actually game and how should I study it? Try a guy named Owen Cook on Instagram.	/r/seduction	20/07/26 02:19 AM
1	Please explain to me what is actually game and how should I study it? Whatever you do OP, don't read this book and think it's "game." Mark has great takes on other topics, but he doesn't know shit about picking up women, nor does he have much actionable advice. This book is weirdly sterilized and devoid of any actual insights into relating with women, sure there's some decent stuff about being a generally social and cool guy in there, but it's not game. Finally I hate to go there but it has to be said, Mark's woman is uggs, she is not high value. You don't need ga…	/r/seduction	20/07/26 02:14 AM
1	How to keep a long conversation with a women? Any tips? That's a great hook. The goal of the conversation isn't to make it long or short. It's to stimulate her emotions the entire time. To be memorable, not forgettable. To be weird, not normal. To make her emotions run wild, not engage her intellectual brain. Do all this and it will be easy to get her contact info, and she'll respond to you immediately whenever you re-engage. She's sick of the hundred dudes she's interacted with who think their job is to be fit, rich, and then stand there like a fenc…	/r/seduction	19/07/26 11:31 AM
2	Women only want me when I treat them like sh*t See Rule 6 in the sidebar. I'm a pretty average looking guy.	/r/seduction	19/07/26 10:41 AM
18	Women only want me when I treat them like sh*t I feel like you didn't read the room. You met a woman on your vacation and made out with her and then she met you again? Odds are good she wanted to bang. Did you push for it? If not, that's probably why she lost interest. Some women like courtship and talking about their lovely Victorian future with you, others want you for a roll in the hay. These are people with agency and I mean while it does happen, you can't generally turn one into the other. Girls gone wild on their vacation where no one …	/r/seduction	19/07/26 03:26 AM
15	Women only want me when I treat them like sh*t From what I’ve gathered over the months, this subreddit seems to be solely for having sex with as many women as possible, not for actually finding a girlfriend. The two aren't mutually exclusive, and nothing is wrong with either of them. But having sex with more women is more important for a man, because women tend to get more invested once they've slept with you. They tend to string you along before that. Also we're hornier lol It's on the man to lead the physical escalation and on the woman to…	/r/seduction	19/07/26 03:19 AM
0	Is game just the most “optimized” way to get girls? Show me a guy who has truly had zero success with women, and I'll show you a guy who for whatever reason never actually interacts with women in the real world (online nonsense doesn't count). It's just not that hard. The average American male has something like 6-10 sex partners over the course of his life. He also has very little game. If you want to do better than average in terms of quality or quantity, you probably need more game. If you're below that average, you probably need something els…	/r/seduction	17/07/26 05:18 PM
3	Working on your self esteem will take you a LOOOOOOOONG way compared to any tips and tricks here. I'm an old guy, mid 40s, and from my perspective the new generation of men are just cucked and cooked beyond belief. I'm not blaming them, I think the biggest difference is that in the 80s we weren't being told that we're all pieces of subhuman garbage simply because we have a Y chromosome. By the 90s a little of that vibe was starting to show up in the media but it wasn't too bad. But it just kept getting worse. This past decade, it's been over the top and the sexism against men is blatant and …	/r/seduction	16/07/26 03:38 AM
1	How to get good casual hookups as a woman This is the only answer that really matters, become more attractive. Better men will express interest in you and men (as well as women) will treat you better. Aside from that... Being in a relationship, "ENM" or otherwise, is going to make a lot of good men not be interested in you. Dating apps are even more ruthlessly focused on looks than the real world, so you could try to meet people offline. But yeah your value is mostly about your looks. Women hate hearing this but that's how it is.	/r/seduction	15/07/26 05:16 PM
0	What Methods Do You Follow? They advised this, but footage got onto YouTube of a couple of those guys being uncomfortably aggressive, regardless of what their public material preached. What happened next was a mass cancelling that would probably be coined "PUAGate" these days. The dirty secret is, aggression works better than anyone wants to admit, especially mainstream society. I'll just point out that 20% of women have regular, uh, ...grape fantasies... and around half have had one at least once in their lifetime. Unfort…	/r/seduction	15/07/26 02:42 PM
1	Do Women Really Have That Many Options? This is the key point that will probably get lost in a sea of incel bitterness, but if you understand it it opens a lot of doors. The ladies aren't looking for the same thing the average guy is. The average guy will stick his dick in just about anything if he gets the chance. The average woman wants to take a dick from a guy who can do better than her, yet paradoxically remains committed. It doesn't matter whether she has 10 or 1000 options. She will always discard the bottom 90% because for a w…	/r/seduction	15/07/26 10:42 AM
7	What about men appeals to women the way a woman’s body appeals to a man? Yeah if I was stretching to make the question work, I'd say biceps and a sixpack. But the truth is there is no physical "switch" like there is with a guy. Most men who see a girl who's got a hot enough body and face, BOOM they are excited and practically ready to go, right then and there. Most women don't have any equivalent to this, it's more like, they need to be introduced to multiple positive qualities (which vary a bit from woman to woman, so if you don't know her, you can only guess what t…	/r/seduction	03/07/26 12:01 PM
3	Why is persistence and chasing such a bad thing? Do you want an honest answer? Because of people like you. I put an opinion out there, people don't really need to know who I am to evaluate the ideas, and the ideas are what are important. BUT there is always that one guy, like you, who doesn't engage with the ideas, and just responds with "you're a chickenshit" and wants to turn it into throwing ad hominems back and forth, which makes everyone miserable, and makes Reddit worse. From my experience guys like you will absolutely scan someone's com…	/r/seduction	15/06/26 08:41 AM
3	Why is persistence and chasing such a bad thing? Looks like I hit a nerve with you	/r/seduction	15/06/26 04:53 AM
20	Why is persistence and chasing such a bad thing? Disagree. The premise of OP's question is false. Persistence isn't bad, and it works. It's tempting to say that you shouldn't chase. Rejection hurts. No one wants to be rejected. Especially multiple times. People are terrified of it. One person in this thread is so terrified they're claiming the police will come after you. Utter nonsense. But this is how the mythology has developed that you shouldn't do it. A lot of people buy into that mythology because it's comforting. It gives them an excuse …	/r/seduction	14/06/26 01:52 PM
13	What made Dennis Rodman so attractive to high status women? > unapologetically himself and outrageous Everyone knows that money, status etc. help but especially with really attractive women, this is some kind of X factor. Like a girl who is unremarkable, looks boring, acts boring etc. would probably not date Dennis Rodman. She'd be scared of the attention. But 10's like a guy who stands out, is outrageously himself, and pulls it off. My theory is the 10 gets so much attention that this kind of guy is like the male version of them, and they can relate to …	/r/seduction	01/06/26 06:36 AM
12	Guys 5'4 and below who get laid without a social circle, how do you do it? The thing about having a physical disadvantage like being short, is you're not gonna get a lot of freebies. Women will randomly open a guy who clears 6' and looks like a male model. They won't open you. To get what some other mf'er gets for free, you have to do the work. That's the tyranny of genetics. That's your cross to bear. Now, with that said: a short or ugly guy who's socially calibrated and unfazed by rejection, is rarer and way more intriguing than a good looking guy who is the same. It…	/r/seduction	30/05/26 11:45 AM
1	Is the majority of good girls in a relationship? What with this being the seduction community, we differentiate between women who are desirable, and the rest who don't matter. Yes, undesirable women do spend time single. But a desirable woman is a different story. There will be times when she's in a relationship. And there will be times where she refers to herself as single, but at least one man is treating her like they're in a relationship. She'll almost never be truly alone. All this doesn't matter much from a seduction standpoint. From a s…	/r/seduction	29/05/26 01:08 PM
2	I hear dating is hard now? Why is that? Online dating was always kind of dumb, but the signal for me that it was time to do things differently was coming across a profile of a very average girl whose stated expectation was that she'd only go on a first date if it was on a helicopter. That was it, that turned out to be my line in the sand and it was crossed. The stupidity level was too high, I can't stay in that room anymore. Unsubbed and uninstalled Tinder a couple days later. This app is not a place where good things come into your l…	/r/seduction	29/05/26 03:21 AM
2	Is cold approach worth it as an average looking guy? Game matters more than looks in cold approach. The guy with looks will get better initial responses, but the guy with game will take more women home. Do you have game? If you say you're not very confident, I'm guessing the answer is probably no. So now you know what you need to work on. Btw these two things intersect at the subject of style. If your style is "normal," that means it sucks. Improve it and both your game and your looks will get better.	/r/seduction	24/05/26 01:44 PM
1	What is the best response to rejection? This is the perfect time to send that dick pic you've been saving! The one where you've dressed him up with a cute little hat and tie OK I've never actually done that, but if I bother to respond at all it'll be with the most ridiculous emoji/GIPHY/whatever I can think of. Because who gives a fuck? The purpose of interacting with this lady is and always was self amusement. She's just saved you some time you can now apply to someone who's more interesting	/r/seduction	20/05/26 06:23 PM
1	Is there an ethical way to really find FWB without apps? Read the book Get Laid or Die Trying, it's the story of an expert muff diver who did not do this, and had a lot of FWBs	/r/seduction	09/05/26 04:19 PM
1	I have a Date, how do I escalate? tbh this is the most fun part other than the sex, and women appreciate a little bit of artfulness at this stage Do some small talk about relationship type stuff on the date. Not necessarily about the two of you. Comments about some other couple you see. Questions about hypotheticals like "I know this guy and girl who are dating, she did bla bla, what do you think about this..." stuff that gets her brain stimulated and thinking about the topic of relationships. Raise the level of kino during the …	/r/seduction	09/05/26 01:22 PM
1	How true is this? I think this belongs in the same category as negging: stuff the community came up with specifically to deal with really hot women who are used to being approached constantly and are acting like divas in nightlife environments. Outside of that narrow slice of life basically don't bother with it. If you're ignoring your target, you're not moving her through the stages of emotional progression. That doesn't mean your attention should be on her 100% of the time, I always like to work her friends, th…	/r/seduction	09/05/26 12:59 PM
1	How long does it take a woman to decide that she wants to have sex with you? Mystery was specifically discussing cold approach from nighttime venues. It's good to read books.	/r/seduction	07/05/26 03:06 PM
10	How long does it take a woman to decide that she wants to have sex with you? Mystery actually had an answer for this. I think he said 8-10 hours of time spent together, all in one night if your game's tight enough. I would call this a vast generalization and there are certainly ONS that happen faster especially when everyone's drunk and horny, but overall not a wildly inaccurate one.	/r/seduction	06/05/26 04:50 PM
1	Do splurgy Instagram stories make you less confident about inviting a woman to a coffee date? You're in a frame where women are qualifying you (can he afford to provide the lifestyle I want?). This frame only ends in pain. You need to flip the frame. A girl needs to be more than just beautiful to date you. Establish what your values and your needs are and qualify these women, communicate your expectations, get them to tell you whether they're worth your time or not. If she qualifies herself to you maybe she's worth the fancy dinner. That said you may also need to generate more attraction…	/r/seduction	29/04/26 10:39 AM
1	How do I get over my fear of approaching women and false SA? I live overseas and have traveled extensively and can confirm. Women in the Anglo-American countries (US, Canada, UK etc.) are by far the most unhinged in terms of throwing around baseless accusations of SA, sexism, racism, homophobia etc. basically all the isms that people have a kneejerk response to. The difference is very noticeable, women in other countries will think a bit before they speak, maybe ask followup questions to clarify whether you're a bad person or not. Whereas there are an unu…	/r/seduction	24/04/26 05:47 AM
1	How to politely ask a flakey girl to respect my time? Imo pretty much all the answers here are wrong. True that you can't dictate her behavior. Technically, yes, you can go all rational mode and ask her to behave better, maybe she'll comply if she likes you enough, but lecturing her on punctuality like you're her Dad never made any girl wet. Flakiness is a sign of insufficient attraction. So what you can do is increase attraction. With enough attraction, flakiness often goes away. I mean why's she flaky? If she is obsessed with a guy and thirsty af…	/r/seduction	23/04/26 04:52 PM
9	For those who are very experienced with women, has dating made you trust them less? "Happy wife, happy life" they say Maybe true, but then you also get "homeless life" once she burns down your house And then she leaves you because you're homeless	/r/seduction	23/04/26 03:15 PM
7	For those who are very experienced with women, has dating made you trust them less? Pay attention to how you make them FEEL, and change. For sex specifically, women want to sleep with a man who They feel is high status (influenced by your behavior, but more so by her observations that other people, especially other women, like you) Who makes them feel great about themselves Who makes them aware of their sexual feelings It's all about her feelings.	/r/seduction	23/04/26 03:11 PM
21	For those who are very experienced with women, has dating made you trust them less? Sort of. Dating many, many women made me realize how different they are from men. Getting into serious relationships with several over the years made me realize that for most women, loyalty to a man is conditional, and thus not at all what men think of as loyalty. They are loyal when they're getting a good deal. Honor is similarly alien to most women. Abstract or absolute laws aren't important to them. They have a lot more empathy than we do. Till death do us part died a long time ago, especiall…	/r/seduction	23/04/26 01:41 PM
1	Online dating PUA lies? 100% the best comment here. The reason you don't want to lie is because it will screw up your own head, every success that occurs under false pretense will reinforce the idea that the real you isn't worthy of sex and attention. But what women put in their dating profiles, and even what you say when being flirty to get their attention, is all kind of nonsense anyway. Where honesty becomes important is when you're deepening the connection.	/r/seduction	21/04/26 01:18 PM
1	What does it really take to level up your game drastically? It doesn't sound like you have strong inner game at all. For whatever reason, I think you're interacting with these "super hot" girls, and you don't feel like you're the prize and they're lucky to spend time with you. This will throw off your game with the women who you truly want, even as you do well with the women you don't care about. I've been there, it's hell So you need to figure that out. Beyond that, consider whether you should niche down a bit. Aside from just "hot," what is the type of…	/r/seduction	21/04/26 01:11 PM
4	how to have interesting convos with women Go take some improv classes, you'll never have a boring conversation again. There's nothing that works better with women than "Yes, and..." where you just take whatever the other person is saying and go off in a spontaneous and ridiculous direction with it. This alone won't get you to sex and relationships but it will allow you to take any moment and turn it into an emotional high. Women are used to most men being somewhat robotic, rational and reserved compared to them, so when you do this libe…	/r/seduction	21/04/26 12:56 PM
1	Best way to recover/ avoid hangover? Most of the symptoms associated with a hangover are due to dehydration and sleep disruption. So beer is the best thing to drink because you're getting more fluids with your booze. To mitigate the sleep issues, take a mild sedative before bed. Any electrolyte drink is also good for replenishing those, the sooner the better.	/r/seduction	15/04/26 05:29 PM
2	How to approach girls without feeling like everyone is watching You WANT to be seen. You're creating social connections. That's cool. It means you're cool and confident. In a social environment like a party people actually take notice and become more receptive if you talk to them later. Personal opinion: if you're even thinking of it as a "pickup" during those first few seconds of approach, you're doing it wrong. That's mis-sequencing. The order is Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction. You are not seducing anyone yet and there is no need for any sexual escalat…	/r/seduction	15/04/26 05:00 PM
32	Dating much younger The lion does not concern himself with the opinions of the sheep	/r/seduction	15/04/26 04:34 PM
1	My thoughts on attraction and why it’s rarely just about looks It's the reticular activation system - if you're just way more interesting than the other guy, even if he's a male model, you have a pretty good shot at blowing him out in the end. So it's all of the techniques you mentioned above, in the end the techniques fall away and it becomes a matter of having an interesting personality/life and being experienced at projecting those things. You said stuff that fascinated her and even if she spends time talking to that guy, she comes back to you. Unless he…	/r/seduction	15/04/26 09:00 AM
-2	My thoughts on attraction and why it’s rarely just about looks This is such nonsense. Walk up to someone and say hi and nothing else. Do they blow you out or walk away in under three seconds? No they don't, almost never. They'll stand there, and wait for a while, possibly confused. If you start talking, they'll quite often respond even if they're disinterested. It's basic social dynamics, go outside and talk to people. Most people will give you a minute or so to say whatever you want, it's your job to be interesting.	/r/seduction	14/04/26 01:55 PM
1	My thoughts on attraction and why it’s rarely just about looks If the "something else" is game, then yes it will absolutely compensate for a lack of initial attraction. The interaction isn't decided in the first three seconds. Plow away until you make her laugh. Now she likes talking to you because you're fun and you can start to deepen the attraction.	/r/seduction	14/04/26 01:46 PM
1	What is the “hair done, makeup and gorgeous outfit” equivalent for a short king (as opposed to the ladies)? The whole idea is built on a false premise. Women are simply way less concerned with a man's looks than he is with hers. In fact when guys fixate on their looks it's a signal that maybe that guy doesn't really understand women. Maybe he's projecting and assuming they think like men - and thus is likely to fail with them no matter how on point his fashion is. The sidebar has a post about this, read it. Focus on bringing social value into the interaction. Focus on how you make her feel. Or maybe y…	/r/seduction	14/04/26 01:08 PM
1	How do highly successful people date other (mildly) successful people? You don't have to date multiple women, but women are going to test your frame. They want to know whether you have options or you're just settling. They want to suss out whether you're emotionally needy and putting them on a pedestal even a little bit will usually make them less attracted. It helps massively with attraction if you've been pre-selected by other women. So if you're going to insist that you only date one at a time you will have to make it clear in other ways that you're a sex worthy…	/r/seduction	14/04/26 07:09 AM
2	How do highly successful people date other (mildly) successful people? That's all fair, but it's like moving to Africa and then complaining that you only want to date white women. You're in the Bay Area. It's full of liberal women. They don't want to settle down. Maybe you are politically liberal but it seems that what you want in your personal life is too conservative for them. Women respond positively to attraction game, not conversations about a serious future. Unless you meet them in a church or they're part of a conservative arranged marriage culture or someth…	/r/seduction	12/04/26 04:34 PM
0	How do highly successful people date other (mildly) successful people? Given that you're in the Bay Area I think it needs to be pointed out that there's been a huge shift in the attitudes of liberal women in the last 10-15 years - marriage and childbirth have declined tremendously in this group (while childbirth has actually increased somewhat among conservatives, who are probably meeting partners through church or something). They just don't cite men, marriage or children as a priority anymore. I think the idealized dating culture of 20, 30 or more years ago has b…	/r/seduction	12/04/26 03:16 PM
5	Why do women reject you but look sad with their head down everytime they see you? Why is everyone assuming that he's actually been rejected? The post reads like he's just walking around in public and women aren't returning his gaze. There could be a hundred different reasons for that and less than half of the reasons have anything to do with him. If this post is about actual approaches being rejected that's a different story but it doesn't look like it is, there's no details about what he's saying or doing other than "walking with his head held up and they're walking too" Any…	/r/seduction	08/04/26 11:22 AM
4	How important is having your own place? I guess I'm old school, I disagree with the majority of the opinions here. I think where you live is a major liability. Get an apartment near a busy nightlife area. Get roommates if you have to. Go out multiple times per week at night and talk to women. Within a couple months you'll have more pussy than you can shake a stick at, you will have a rotation. When I was set up like this I was banging 5-10 different girls a month. Stay at home in the burbs, especially with mom and dad, you won't get l…	/r/seduction	08/04/26 10:50 AM
1	Dating before and after going bald I didn't realize this was the "wear your depression on your sleeve and whine like a bitch as you ignore the good advice people give you" subreddit. I think we're finding the real reason you're not getting girls though. I mean maybe you can continue this conversation with your mom, because no one else is going to have much patience for it Do the work and improve yourself or die alone. I don't make the rules.	/r/seduction	04/04/26 09:42 AM
1	Are guys men supposed to have common sense or instinctively naturally know how to never be weird or creepy around women? Or is that part of the learning improvement process? Correction: Young and hot women can, until their looks fade. Fortunately as a man, your looks are not the biggest part of what makes you attractive, so if you spend your time learning the skills instead of complaining about women, you can still be pulling tail 20 years from now	/r/seduction	04/04/26 09:25 AM
1	Are guys men supposed to have common sense or instinctively naturally know how to never be weird or creepy around women? Or is that part of the learning improvement process? If the problem is that you're coming across as creepy, the solution is actually pretty simple. It's not specific to seduction. Go and get a highly social job. Waiting tables, or customer service, or something. Sales jobs are good as long as you don't let them make you too pushy. Anything that will require you to have social interactions for hours on end, and provide a basic structure for them, will work. You can volunteer at a food bank or something but the benefit you get from this will be prop…	/r/seduction	04/04/26 07:04 AM
2	Dating before and after going bald Another one of the RSD guys, Jeffy, actually gained weight, dressed like shit and even grew out a mullet for a while. His success rate didn't change either. The best thing about those guys was how hard they worked to dispel the "looks are #1" myth. No one's saying that looks don't matter at all. But they matter a lot more for a guy who has no game. In a room full of chodes it's indeed true that women will gravitate toward the best looking chode. But when a player enters the room all the chodes a…	/r/seduction	04/04/26 06:09 AM
2	Dating before and after going bald Whenever someone says this about game it automatically tells you one thing about them: they don't have any. They're not speaking from a position of experience. When you have it or you know someone who has it, when you see it at work, it's immensely obvious that it's the most important thing.	/r/seduction	04/04/26 06:00 AM
2	Did I end things too early with a girl because of lack of physical attraction? Think about what you're saying. What's wrong with picking an intimate partner based on their attractiveness? Like you probably shouldn't pick an accountant based on that, but for the person you're going to have sex with, or look at for the rest of your life, it's pretty fair game. I have tried dating women who were great people but not hot and it didn't work lol. One way or another it leads to resentment and unhappiness for one or both partners. Maybe there is a conflict between the values that …	/r/seduction	04/04/26 05:49 AM
6	If you had to pick a career to meet women, what would you choose? It's horrible, for real. I had an early life crisis after reaching the top of the tech industry in my 20s and realizing all the men who were 10 years older than me were either in a sexless marriage with a harpy or a land whale or they had lost half of everything they'd earned after being divorced by said harpy	/r/seduction	14/03/26 11:49 AM
6	If you had to pick a career to meet women, what would you choose? It's always club promoters and photographers who seem to be getting laid with hot girls they met through work.	/r/seduction	14/03/26 11:45 AM
-2	When a girl goes to bed with you but says no to sex You shouldn't let it get to that point. Escalation isn't about lawyering what the two of you will and won't do. It's about making her feel horny, desired and safe, more and more of all three, until sex is a foregone conclusion. Why would you take a woman into your bedroom if she hasn't sent clear green lights for what's next? Do the foreplay on the couch instead, that way it's easier to call it a night if she's not ready. Women will frequently offer up explicit consent this way - I've had them s…	/r/seduction	14/03/26 11:32 AM
3	So I just say hey to women? You can be a completely average guy, walk up to a woman and say "hey," and get a great response. Or it can prompt her to go looking for security. Yeah "Vibe" is a pretty good term for this tbh. But where I'd say it all starts is your internal, emotional state. Whatever that is it will project outward in a thousand little ways and people will pick up on it when you approach them, women included. That's why this stuff is hard to coach... Two identical twins could run around delivering the same lin…	/r/seduction	04/03/26 04:00 AM
1	Manufactured pre-selection is the ultimate cheat code. Here is exactly how I fake it. I mean it's not wrong, if a woman is into you these little preselection signals will send the hamster part of her brain into overdrive Should you do this? In my experience making her crazy jealous and suspicious is a bad way to start off a relationship and it tends to work a lot better with broken or immature women than with healthy ones, who are more likely to just walk away. What I think is you shouldn't shy away from actual preselection. It doesn't take much. If you have a woman over and she …	/r/seduction	04/03/26 02:36 AM
0	Women don’t approach because they are more sensitive to rejection Hmm, I am not the one taking everything personally here, who might that be? 👀	/r/seduction	03/03/26 05:25 AM
1	Women don’t approach because they are more sensitive to rejection Oh calm down. On a population level women feel emotions more acutely than men. It arises from hormones and genetics. The sexes are different. This is heavily studied. Direct your ire toward the scientific method if you must. You getting worked up, getting defensive and insinuating this dude is sexist appears to be a case study on the matter.	/r/seduction	03/03/26 04:44 AM
2	Am I a bitch? There is a credo which you should try to live up to if you're going to date a lot of women: Leave her better than you found her. If you don't, then congratulations you're a jackass.	/r/seduction	24/02/26 06:56 PM
3	Is getting my ex back "masculine" It's both easier and more productive to focus on improving yourself and finding other women. What you have is called one-itis. It's always a recipe for failure. She's doing what she's doing right now as a reaction to you and the moment you try to get her back it'll vindicate her strategy of manipulation and she'll lose whatever remaining respect she has for you. It is a non-starter. It never works. You guys don't have a kid together, you were never married, you owe her nothing. Go sleep with fiv…	/r/seduction	22/02/26 03:38 AM
3	2 Questions: Do you think the girl I'm (not) dating is a hoe and how do I progress this relationship to where she wants to have sex with me? The #1 rule is to not get too hung up on any one girl, especially one you haven't slept with yet. So your job right now is to go approach other women. You should continue to meet this woman only if you genuinely enjoy her company and enjoy whatever you're doing when you spend time together. If you do continue to see her you should try to escalate, and whether she rejects you or not, doesn't matter. There are plenty of fish in the sea.	/r/seduction	21/02/26 03:44 PM
113	The “Bad Boy” Wins… But Why? I think it has more to do with the fact that "nice guys" tend to be low agency, like who does that term describe? Someone who's agreeable and doesn't pursue what he wants if it's going to cause other people discomfort? That's not attractive and it's certainly not a good dating strategy because the man usually has to take the initiative in seduction. A guy who's creating his own reality, even a toxic one, is simply more visible, let alone more attractive than a guy who doesn't make waves.	/r/seduction	20/02/26 01:38 PM
14	Guys who focused on career/ambition in college - when did women actually start caring about that? This is just parroting terminally online BS, women love ambition at any age. As always it's about how you make them feel not any logical or rational plan. You guys are either communicating it wrong or you're not ambitious enough. Through most of high school and college I wanted to be the President and I was utterly convinced I could do it. Women fucking loved it. I was probably the only guy they'd ever met who made who had looked them in the eye and told them calmly and with total conviction why…	/r/seduction	16/02/26 05:46 PM
1	I really appreciate this community but there’s always been an elephant in the room… > constantly posting how all the information in a good post is essentially irrelevant if you’re not at least some what good looking. Ignore these people, they think this because they have no game or they don't go outside. It's not something that someone who actually has game will ever say because their personal life is filled with proof that it's nonsense. Reddit has two types of guys in spades. The first type are borderline depressed/have anxiety disorders etc. and just post the most negative d…	/r/seduction	11/02/26 06:12 PM
4	No girlfriend title until after sex. What are your thoughts? Forget Reddit. In the real world with real women I've never hesitated to state this during dating if it was relevant or seemed like an obstacle. If I'm going to commit to sleeping with only one woman she better be a demon in the sack, otherwise she's not the right woman for me. If we've never had sex how do I know which one she is? The women who were going to be a shit/nonexistent lay vanish swiftly. The ones with libido and desire respond positively, I've had enthusiastic agreements ("you have …	/r/seduction	11/02/26 02:10 PM
2	How to get a girlfriend? By having sex with a woman. You probably have the sequencing backwards in your mind. You make them attracted to you, flirt with them, sexualize the vibe, and then bone them. Once you've done that they tend to be far more receptive to whatever kind of relationship you propose. If at that point you signal that you want commitment despite the fact that you were able to get her without offering it, that usually puts them on cloud nine.	/r/seduction	07/02/26 08:23 PM
4	My issue is knowing when and how to escalate. You shouldn't wait for indicators of interest. They're not important. Escalation starts on the first date with light kino and then you just keep ramping it up bit by bit until you're balls deep. Your verbal game should match your physical game, introducing flirtiness and sexual innuendo at roughly the same pace. If she signals her disapproval you simply pause the physical stuff for a while, change the subject and then start again later. What she ISN'T looking for is a guy who follows her lead an…	/r/seduction	07/02/26 08:04 PM
1	Slept with 65 girls last year.. here’s what I learned No. Like most social media, online dating apps are basically post reality at this point. These are women we're talking about. They spend hours on makeup, then hours taking photos, then hours adding filters. You are not going to stumble accidentally into looking too fake for them.	/r/seduction	06/02/26 07:18 PM
2	Slept with 65 girls last year.. here’s what I learned If there's one trick to online dating which has more bang for the buck than any other, it's simply to get a tripod, a decent camera (or even just a phone with a good camera), and some photo editing software. Then you just do as OP says, find the right IG profiles and copy elements from them. Modern cities are amazing and you can photograph yourself in almost any environment. 30 minutes with a HDR filter did more for me than 300 hours in the gym (mind you the gym helped a lot too, just took a whi…	/r/seduction	06/02/26 06:21 PM
8	How Do Guys Actually End Up With “10/10” Influencer Level Women? It's similar to Hollywood celebs. Influencers tend to date other influencers, or maybe other people they meet through their work.	/r/seduction	31/01/26 07:04 PM
2	Does this stuff really work? Yeah, my dating life did a complete 180 after I read this stuff and actually went out and started cold approaching. Specifically Magic Bullets/Mystery Method and RSD's Blueprint Decoded were the main influences, the first set me on the path of figuring out what women actually respond to and what they don't, the second was like BANG started to see the Matrix and what really matters. The skills carry over to everything else social and a lot of it tbh is a numbers game in the end, but it's a game 9…	/r/seduction	12/01/26 04:55 PM
9	The unofficial value ranking of different attraction attributes Fame and status are in the correct place on that list, at the top, and you can basically end the list right there. Everything else is a distant third... Except game, because game is applied status. The key is to understand that fame and status on some abstract ladder are not important. If there was a standardized status test and you took it and aced it and showed your score to women it would make exactly zero of them sleep with you, they'd just think you're a fucking nerd. What matters is what s…	/r/seduction	27/12/25 06:50 PM
1	Anyone experience women coming up to you just to be mean/rude and then randomly being nice? If I understand the sequence of events correctly the issue was social proof. This is how a woman's mind works: all men are trash. However if she learns that a specific man checks specific boxes, suddenly that man becomes God's gift to earth. Social proof is one of those boxes. Random man she knows little about, is trash. But later if she internalizes that you have friends, you have the same friends as her, you're popular and receive a lot of attention, any of these signals, your value can jump v…	/r/seduction	19/12/25 06:15 PM
26	you think when girls go on a trip they're getting smashed This. OP has a classic case of "one-itis." The answer is let her do her thing, go play the field, realize there are other women out there, they're attractive to you, and you're attractive to them. When this woman's done riding the Pound Train she'll come back to you or she won't, but you acting clingy when the two of you haven't even boned yet ain't gonna make you more attractive.	/r/seduction	13/12/25 02:10 PM
9	If after a few dates she says she's dating other people, should you stop spending money on dates with her? I'm looking for a relationship I was recently told by a girl that she's not currently looking for a relationship I would ask why is this even a question? Except for one thing, which is that it sounds like you haven't slept with her yet. Women make commitment decisions with their hearts, not a calculator. You need to assess the non verbal signals she's giving off and whether she's really aligned with the "sleep with multiple dudes for fun" lifestyle. If she is, you walk away because that's not wh…	/r/seduction	22/11/25 08:03 AM
2	Who else is using Instagram for dating? How many women have you slept with this way?	/r/seduction	08/11/25 04:18 AM
157	I easily get 8s and above in nightclubs/partys but tinder/bumble is a desert The first thing to understand about these apps in 2025 is that their user base is about 80% male. That makes them the most unequal dating environment in human history. As a result, whatever you can pull through the apps is likely going to be worse than what you can pull by leaving your house and approaching. They can work, maybe they're most useful if you have an extremely specific type and are willing to put up with a thousand hours of swiping through trash, bots, heffers, hookers, trans, more …	/r/seduction	01/11/25 03:55 AM
8	Agreeableness is Icky - We’ve all heard the adage, ‘Nice Guys Finish Last.’ Here's why... Your article sucks. This "don't be a nice guy" stuff is toxic and stupid. It has been around since the beginning and it has always come from losers who spend more time at their keyboard than actually interacting with women. I hate these guys because they give the rest of us a bad rep. Here is the real principle which bitter chodes have such a hard time understanding because they're too busy reacting to their own past trauma. You are more attractive when you lead and you bring energy into your in…	/r/seduction	29/10/25 06:25 AM
4	What’s The Point of Seduction? You can improve yourself and a result of that will be that you will become able to choose which woman you spend your life with. You will get some say in that choice instead of it being entirely up to them. Contrary to popular belief, improving yourself isn't just about improving your looks and your bank account, Your identity and how you behave around women matter more. This is "seduction"	/r/seduction	26/10/25 02:55 AM
7	Fundamentals: The simple, crucial basics of being attractive Attraction is generated mostly by #1 and #3. If no woman is attracted to you and you're actually getting off the Internet and talking to new ones regularly, it means there's something off about your vibe. You aren't bringing an interesting package into the interactions, it's a personality thing, you might have them but you aren't projecting the positive qualities for somebody to latch onto. Guys frequently overrate looks. They will get you some freebies when you're young but it'll never be consi…	/r/seduction	26/10/25 02:48 AM
3	Fundamentals: The simple, crucial basics of being attractive My interpretation was that it meant establishing a masculine/feminine polarity in the interaction. This is fundamentally where sexual chemistry comes from, if you're not acting like a man she can't act like a woman and you end up friends.	/r/seduction	25/10/25 05:57 PM
84	Fundamentals: The simple, crucial basics of being attractive Have high self esteem and strong personal identity outside of women. Be in shape and well-groomed. Be the source of positive energy and leadership in your interactions with women. Always escalate and be polarizing. Don’t embrace the friend frame You can delete all the other bullets, it only takes these four. Even #2 and #4 are optional, but they're huge force multipliers.	/r/seduction	25/10/25 12:40 PM