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| 1 | Petitioning to lower child supportI’ve seen it done in states with more progressive laws. In WA state for example, the child support is calculated on income but also the amount of parenting time to both parties. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/09/22 10:25 PM |
| 1 | Serving papersThere’s so many variables to answer those questions. As Gattsama said, you can’t and shouldn’t serve your own spouse. Most lawyers will hire a process server. Afterwards if there’s children involved you go home. If she wants to know why and you want to tell her go for it. If your name is on the mortgage/lease she can’t kick you out. Make sure you audiorecord or video record every personal interaction. Abusers like this love to get restraining orders, make false allegations, and use highly abusiv… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/08/22 02:45 AM |
| 2 | Going to drop the bomb soon...It’s hard. I’m in that boat too. You just gotta pick a date and rip the cord. There’s no good time really. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/22 03:04 PM |
| 2 | Going to drop the bomb soon...What family is there to tear apart? I see a child and their father and someone who doesn’t participate in family, life, or love. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/08/22 11:29 PM |
| 1 | To divorce or not to divorce…Thanks, you too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/08/22 05:40 PM |
| 2 | To divorce or not to divorce…Did your therapist give her a diagnosis? I’m in a similar situation. I’m getting out. I’d rather give my daughter 1 home that’s stable and peaceful rather than stay and we both endure the crazy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/08/22 03:35 PM |
| 8 | Wife had me leave house, tips?There’s what is legal and what is practical. One day or two out of the home is fine. Anything beyond that looks like abdicating the property and custody to your wife. People may be traumatized in the process, but only you can weigh the choices between what’s legal and what’s right. Just know though, that taking the high ride in divorce is almost always an obstacle for the things you ultimately want. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/22 12:39 AM |
| 12 | Wife had me leave house, tips?If you have an ID and a bill statement, call the police. If you are on the mortgage you have a legal right to be in your own home. If the cop tells you to leave anyways, ask for a copy of the report to submit as evidence you tried. This not legal advice. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/22 12:35 AM |
| 8 | My biggest pieces of advice (to those of you that it pertains to)Thanks bro. I needed to hear that. It’s also nice not hearing Droopy Dog posts! | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/22 06:02 PM |
| 7 | I divorced a PsychopathThanks dude! I’m excited for a less chaotic life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/22 05:51 AM |
| 9 | I divorced a PsychopathI was thinking she sounds exactly like a borderline. I’m in the process of divorcing one. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/22 05:22 AM |
| 1 | Don't know if I should divorce my wifeShe ain’t getting the kid with fall down drunk alcoholism. Start gathering evidence (videos, pictures of her stash, duis, etc.). I would also talk to a lawyer. Do you know for a fact that she’s get half forever? | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/22 02:55 AM |
| 4 | Don't know if I should divorce my wifeDo any of her friends and family know about this behavior? I’d look at signs of alcoholism. Then decide if you want to do an intervention | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/22 11:11 PM |
| 9 | Don't know if I should divorce my wife1/2 is better than you get nothing. The real question is do you want to stay married to a drunk? Do you want to raise children around a drunk? If she got help would you stay? | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/22 10:59 PM |
| 11 | When to give up?Bro I’m married to a BPD and about to divorce her. The best thing to do is take care of yourself. Then be rested enough to fight for your kids. You and I both know that she doesn’t want the kids because she’s a mom or cares. She wants to fuck yiu over as hard as possible. You’re kids will be around a literal crackhead and an emotionally and verbally abusive harpy. It sucks ass, what you’re going through but I would tow the line, save evidence of her unhinged communications, and make sure your la… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/08/22 01:10 AM |
| 1 | Simple help for men in Texas, with this get help if you have a gut feelingI'm tagging on this comment to see examples too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/22 07:54 PM |
| 5 | Weekend custody, dating, and guiltI do know that my lawyer had advised one weekend a month for my daughter to be with her mother so that I’d have at least one weekend a month off. That might be something you could arrange unless you feel like your ex will use it to get more custody. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/22 03:41 AM |
| 3 | Kids at stbxHow did you get custody? I’ve got one foot out the door and don’t wanna get rekt. I live in a 50/50 state. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/22 12:33 AM |
| 1 | Kids at stbxHow are the kids holding up with the swaps? I assume she probably has primary custody? | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/22 12:22 AM |
| 7 | Back from vacation with son and change over went as expected...bit of a rantThanks. I needed to hear this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/22 01:30 AM |
| 1 | Pulled The TriggerYou did the right thing. Divorce is a long game. She’s playing short checkers, you need to play chess. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/22 06:16 PM |
| 4 | STBXW framed me to take my kids. Please help me find sanityPeople like your ex think short term. Lawyers play a long game. Keep your stuff together and find a place to stay. Play the long game. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/22 04:11 PM |
| 3 | Unique question about retirementI would consult a lawyer. That’s way above anyone on this subreddit’s pay grade. I know my lawyer here in WA told me that spouses are only able to obtain half of what your put in while you were married. That can also be balanced out with other financial concessions. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/22 04:29 PM |
| 2 | Retirement account drained over timeBro I legit cringed and shouted Oh No! In the room when I read this. Im married and soon to be divorcing a BPD. There’s nothing you can do in terms of getting it restored from the bank per se, but if you talk to your lawyer (please God tell me you have a lawyer) you can show the pattern of it being drained to satisfy her debts. Otherwise, stop financially enabling her, and when you get free, contribute the max to your 401k and get a Roth IRA if you want a shot at retiring before 65. Also if you … | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/22 05:35 PM |
| 12 | Filed on FridayYou believe your ex? I don’t believe a thing our exes tell us. I believe the courts and law papers. If you haven’t been served yet, she may be bluffing or behind. File first with everything you want. The courts only care about who files first and how reasonable and accommodating you can be as a husband and father. Also, if the bank account is in your name only she can kick rocks. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/07/22 03:54 PM |
| 42 | Cheaper to keep her?I would sit down and calculate everything. That includes the future. The longer you stay with her, the bigger her share of “joint property” gets. So estimate the cost of divorce now vs 10 years from now. That includes child support, alimony, house,retirement, etc. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/22 04:10 PM |
| 11 | Sometimes, the stories they tell backfire....Ayyyyyyyyyyy fellow BPD survivor. Good luck. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/22 03:47 PM |
| 5 | I am confused about family law in this country!This is exactly it. People want to get cute in court. Cute costs money for everyone. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/06/22 05:41 AM |
| 3 | Restraining order / order of protectionDoes she go anywhere regular on a schedule like Starbucks every morning or the gym after work? | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/22 02:00 AM |
| 2 | Discussing divorce with daughterThanks dude. I plan on setting an example of compassion and not putting up with the impossible anymore. We are in reconciliation from me trying to leave the mom, but she begged me to stay saying she would get help. It’s been 8 weeks and no therapist and/or medical help. I’m giving her 4 more weeks and then I’m out. I’ll just have to explain to my daughter why we are splitting. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/06/22 03:28 AM |
| 4 | PensionIf IN is an equitable property state then she is entitled to half of your pension that you paid into while married to her. My lawyer told me that you are able to negotiate with other incentives to have her leave the pension alone such as more money back from sale of the house, etc. It’s worth it for me if I want to retire before 70. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/06/22 03:10 AM |
| 2 | Discussing divorce with daughterHow do I answer question about my ex that are very hard? I’m probably divorcing my wife over refusing to treat her mental illness. What do I say when my 5 year old asks why mommy is so sad and lays in bed all day? | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/06/22 02:36 AM |
| 7 | Lost my friends.If you’re in your thirties, those two guys are actually your friends. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/22 06:24 PM |
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